A Day in School as an Introvert (the struggle) 

Or just show them this video and walk away.

Nate Marx --- yes.

I just say my brain is full and I need to decompress. Sometimes I'll go for a walk, then return to the gathering.

I'll just go home early rather stay with toxic friends and their offensive jokes.

michael murillo -- felt this one.

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Dont be a vuss and confront people if they constantly interupt.

@@Villex93 I'm at a polite social event, not a political rally.

@@NielMalan yeah its relatable. I even felt my personality was not imposing enough and therefore getting cut in the middle. Then i realised that its my mistake. At the same time my closest people are good listeners of me. I noticed that extroverts know how to speak very formally and casually at the same time. So when they get interupted, they some how carry off the consersation by cracking a joke or diverting the topic without showing the pain of insult in their face. Introverts on the other hand are most honest and want to engage in a meaningful and deep conversation.When they get interupted they clearly show the pain and take it personally. Being interupted is an insult for intro and extroverts.But extroverts accept the spirit of casual conversations and move on. Even extroverts dont like some conversations and somehow wanting to avoid it.So my suggestion is 1)Talk your mind to the nearest ones. 2)Talk formally to unknown people. Sorry for the lenghty speech. I m just sharing my thoughts. 3) Staying quiet at times is good as it is the charm of an introvert.

@@feministslayer3308 Good advice. Also, know and accept your style. I am trained in public speaking , so if I have something to say I am learning to say "here's a lecture", and then give a condensed, uninterrupted version of my knowledge of the subject. Then I let the conversation carry on without me, but nobody thinks I'm quiet.

Very true!

U right. U right.

uckBay Nguyen i like to think introverts are overpowered because they can adapt to different situations i espescially like to surprise people who think they have me figured out but they really don't. We're like hybrids, people think that because i'm introvereted that i'm shy but i love to see the look on people's faces when we're in a group setting and all of a sudden i'm the dominant speaker, yet most times i prefer to keep to myslef

@@stevetheiii477 I can see where you are coming from. Literally the first day at my job, I was quiet like usual. I did not engage in a conversation and stuff with my co-workers. One day, we had a meeting, and let me tell you it was boring as hell. So I poked the guy right next to me asked him "Why are bullets so special?".He was taken aback by it but still managed to ask "Why?". I said, " Well, they do their jobs even after they are fired.". When he heard that, his face went like "all my soul, sucked down the stream". It was a pretty XD moment for me.

@@stevetheiii477 we're not shy my friend. Shyness is not knowing what to say, intuition is knowing if it's worth the conversation. Seize the moment and shine then leave them in awe and wonder

Maelyn Monett To me, this is the most common but yet the hardest question to answer😅😢

Honestly!! I used to get asked this all the time 🥴

But what on earth do they expect us to answer?!

I always say to them: "Idk. What should I say?" Then they leave me alone lol.

Reply with exactly that. "Cause you never talked to me"

Nice logic

YøItzMatthew :3 I’m so glad someone else gets me lmao, but actually that’s pretty accurate

Same

I know :(

Wow you described perfectly how I feel

Everyone hates eye contact.

that's actually not something introverts experience, that's social anxiety. introverts need their alone time to recharge their mental energy after a social event, for example, while people with social anxiety are scared of socialising (obviously).

Yeah

I hate saying bye and I don’t know how to do it, so I just flee the scene like a rat down a drain

Gabriel I know I have the trait to despise making eye contact, but that’s caused by other reasons

No to be that person but I was your 1K like

I even forgot to say bye to my friends lmao

@@seobiespaghetti you are that person

@@delectablemimi Yes but we don't mean to be at least I don't

@@delectablemimi Yes, I know and I get it so I make sure that I wave or smile or something to acknowledge them

@•skyberries_ • why???

*nods

Exactly. It's a different world now, acceptance is much wider, even in the corporate world a lot of that 90s extrovert management BS is dying off

@멈츨 수 없어빠져 비겼어 Me too, I'm actively trying to be a quieter person cause they looks so calm and grounded.

Im sorry but if i say that that would be a fucking lie i get like - Why wouldnt you shut up?? Every FUCKING TIME even on internet i talk shit like lol everyone be like you damn frick charter box :^ yes today i fucked up some other people grades because i talked to much shit about myself

Same

@Misanthrop noice

i get such bad anxiety even when passing when people in the hall

@@ediedee909 same and others are still looking at me, I hate it!😥

Cat Pillow yah and i felt like people would judge me

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Omfg. One girl called me mute because she never heard me speak. 🙄 The struggle is really real when you're surrounded by extroverts, especially the ones that calls anyone not like their cohort "weird". I don't even want to get started on how people either assume I'm dumb or scared because I don't talk enough. 🙄🙄🙄

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@@blumen9724 lol I can relate, I never participated in anything much of my school life, and when I did took part in a debate, I could hear people saying "oh he has a tongue? didn't know that", as I walked towards the stage... I crushed the debate though, and it was satisfying to watch them shocked at the performance 😂😂

@@OnlineLifeGuide Gald to see someone taking wins. I've been miserable since starting work. People always see me as rude and just extra space on the payroll. I'm going to quit soon. I just hate that finding another income like that will be hard where I live.

I talk when I want to and when I feel safe enough to. It takes me a long time to get to know someone well enough to even begin to open up to them. Why do they want me to talk? Why are they so loud? I love comfortable silences. I am looking a bit into Selective Mutism. Sometimes I just choose not to talk. I learn more by listening than I do by talking. There are many ways to communicate, and language is only one of them.

just say to them "wiser people tend to talk less" and then watch their blood boil 😂

I don’t think you should get upset by it, maybe the person asking is an extrovert and simply can’t understand what it is to be an introvert or assume you are upset when simply us introverts just like to be within our thoughts. I get told that I look mean or I have a ‘resting bitch face’ which obviously upsets me but when people talk to me they say I’m so sweet and innocent lol

To be fair to people who ask this maybe it’s their way of starting a conversation

I can't stand those questions, either. Even if it's someone's way to start a conversation, it's really not a good way to do it IMO. All questions such as those do is make many quiet people feel more self-conscious.

instead you'd rather go home and do nothing important haha

Justin Caleb ikr!

no bigger truth has ever been spoken than this 😂🙏🙌

I've always the same feeling

Yeah true..

Yeah I’ve had that problem because I appear confident but quiet

G So true! I remember being told I was weird and creepy for not talking, but I’m super shy, I have really bad social anxiety and I’m half introverted.

ilike kitkatmint and that’s okay! We’re all doing our best!!🙌🏽🖤

True true

Yeah I’ve been called arrogant just because I don’t talk often

hope your page grows as fast as you'd like it to pal, glhf.

Hm i don’t know if I agree. I am an ambivert. I regain energy from introspection, but sometimes I gain a lot of energy from socialising if it’s good socialising and it feels fun and meaningful. If it’s only shallow I feel very tired. I’m both an introvert and an extrovert and I think many can relate. There seems to be different types of introversion and extroversion. I am an extrovert in the way that I take a lot of information from outside of myself but then I need a lot of time to introspect. People may see me as an extrovert sometimes because I do initiate conversation with many and search contact with others and I give out a lot of energy when I am with people. But if I then feel like the conversation isn’t going anywhere or that the people I’m talking to are talking about really boring things, I get really quiet (if we are a group of people talking), and sometimes it’s only that I’m just listening. I think it’s interesting haha and I think that it’s not always easy to say what it is to be an introvert or an extrovert.

Yes Man Me too. Fr tho i feel like a vampire by doing this

@@hobimin3091 dont shame it its better then around fake person sorry i dont use english well

True so true!

Sadly some people do get offended by that lol

So true

I love this. Thank you so much for putting this out there.

as if they'd be happy if we're doing the opposite lol

Yes! My roommate would start petty fights with me just to get attention.

This idea is awesome

Well if you can actually reply to them :^ but i think it wont work either

I find that I see more things that those who are talkative don't see. I can see if someone is uncomfortable when no one else can. I am pretty good at reading emotions.

Pygmy Puff thats really good bc extroverts have made me uncomfortable many times. And maybe I am wrong but I have the feeling that extroverts tend to only speak about themselves and don‘t let u say shit

Sorry but no they won't, they will just think you're rude and strange, and that's ok too

For real

Haha. Thanks for watching.

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Exactly is the perfect description of social situations you're happy and act extrovert and the question is why so quiet, why so silence, why so serius why why why its so frustrating y don't understand that people want of us

Ye ikr

Happens to me ALL the time. My jaw drops... I'm thinking in my head, "But I just spent 20 minutes having a conversation with you. Wasn't that enough?" Apparently not. You must be frolicking around the room and kissing everyone on the cheek in order to pass as social. Otherwise you are a quiet person and a gosh darn mystery and somehow it's okay for everyone to point it out to you. We don't go around labeling YOU loud and asking YOU why you're such a loudmouth.

exactly :D I love silence becaue the world is so noisy, people want to talk non stop and I feel I can only relax my mind if the world is quiet around me. So many times I got the question "hey what's wrong why are you sad?" because even my face is so serious all the time - what I don't like so tiring to smile more but can not fake my personality. :) Not easy to love myself but I need to try, I didn't choose to be like this, quiet person, but I have to face the fact that I was I am and I always will be 😅😅

@@beatrixerd saaaaame but I found friends who are okay with it! Even if sometimes they do make fun of my quietness, they let me be in my own world and don't ask more than I can offer, which I really appreciate... I hope you'll find the people who fit you ^^

My only friend suddenly just don't talk to me but I know I'm never his friend that on the first place. Being an introvert boy, I hate school very much. Teachers know I don't talk but they still punish me when other boys are loud. Every year, I will be punish at least one. Sometimes it much more worst, e.g. writing reflection about why I talk in class. It makes me feel alone in my gender. Every time teacher punish me, I be more quiet than before because I want the teacher know I didn't talk. 😭😭😭

hc loong I’m so sorry to hear that. I just want you to know that you are not alone in this and you can always talk to someone about this! And also if your friend ignores you or doesn’t talk to you anymore let him go because it’s not worth fighting for someone who doesn’t deserve it in the end! I hope you feel better soon :)

Ninitchu Now I feel better. I always have this kind of short “friendship”. It always confuse me what a “friendship” is. How others think about “friendship”.

Crystal Fairy yeah I get it I mean I prefer to be alone a lot because I just have trouble with speaking to persons you know. I just don’t really know what I have to say or if they really care about me at all..

Right. I have a few friends, they're real friends to me. But whenever we have to make groups of 2 people, I'm always the one left alone. I have the habit of observing a lot and I realized that it happens because my other friends - extraverted- are around so they're always the first we choose because they talk more than me... I wish I had an introverted friend I' d spend my time with, sitting and being quiet.

Exactly

So I feel uncomfortable with almost everyone..

OMG! I do the exact same thing!!

IF THIS IS NOT ME THEN I REALLY DONT KNOW WHAT IS- All day everyday, I come up with scenarios in my head of how to talk and deal with stuff, but it never plays out how I want it too and then I just stand there and it’s weird.

For me I make up a bunch of scenarios but know they won't really happen. It's a good way to pass time.

Ain't that the truth

true because i daydream 24/7

This is why i hate group projects! I can be myself except school is my only discomfort zone... which is where i'll spend the most of my youth! -_-

Ashutosh Ghosh I’m sorry you felt that way. I’ve been there also with teams on gym class:( kinda sucks, but their opinion on you doesn’t define you at all. Hope you’re doing good:)

This always happens with me

@@lora7809 Its so much worse with gym

Being quiet does not mean you can't do anything.

Extroverts actually do think before talking, its just that they find it easier to day the things they think than introverts

Lmao we do think without talking, we just have more fun when talking to others about what we think about. Allows for an expansion of ideas.

Welp we extroverts arent idiots :^ we think before talking because if we didnt think before that we probably wouldnt have friends cuz we have a shitone of stuff to say to others :> and we think a lot but we can talk while thinking :> we are happy talking to others and making friends thats why we talk

@@finthehuman3649 no they don't

I actually I talk to myself about my thoughts surprisingly...just in the toilet

Emily Aspen that was my favorite part❤️

So many people need to hear this ; that the way you are is perfectly fine till the time you are not doing something wrong.

Love this too 💕

Yes! you deserve peace and love. whoever you are, wherever you are, I accept you as you are and send love and positive energy to you 🙏 Stay blessed

Lol it’s everywhere this society itself is a cult

May I ask what you work with? As an introvert myself I don't really know what I want to do with my life.

Sanfran technology come stop by my channel the opportunities are endless cause unlike most majors you can make your own opportunities

Proving something before is society is just like performing before Simon Cowell in AGT\BGT. You are asking yourself to be judged.

Same.

Work on your anxiety. It'll help a great deal, won't be easy but nothing worthwhile is easy.

Yeah same

ilike kitkatmint everybody makes mistakes

Exactly! I'm slowly trying to socialize cause they talk a lot ..but They misunderstand me Everytime...😣and i feel ...past me was better

Same

and your a Jedi

Ok? Good for you?

@@elin3284 whatever idiot

@@elin3284 don't disrespect a Jedi

I relate to this :-)

Once you get older is when it becomes more of the norm. You see more things through experience, meeting more people, and learning from mistakes. Makes you more observant

That is exactly what happened to me last year and omg now i feel so at peace with myself and i feel like now is when i actually started living and being my true self

True! Running from your self is race you can not win,you get tired,and die never knowing true happiness

Hey, I also am an introvert and I wrote two blogs about introverts. Please share your thoughts in the comment section. I'll definitely appreciate that. 1) inksaw.blogspot.com/2020/04/there-are-lot-of-misconceptions-about.html 2) inksaw.blogspot.com/2020/03/6-signs-youre-introvert.html

YES! we don't have to apologise for being ourselves 🙌👊

Great message!

Facts

Lmao 😂😂😂

I'm so stupid! I went to the time stamp just to realise that she wasn't wearing any watch, and I watched the whole video a while ago🤦😂

@@user-di4js6xw9n lol

@@angelinaarmy3761 😛

niharika jagdish you're not alone bro

Alvin chang ,

Same

Yep, i've had some conversations exactly like this one... is like they actually think we can't talk...

Yeah being pressured in an uncomfortable situation is the worst..like i hate being with this one classmate of mine because she makes me talk whenever i go silent. Shes like "talk something, u look like ur not interested" "why so quiet" and the worst worst moment is when all eyes are on u...just looking at u..waiting for what u say. So i just uncomfortably laugh then go to cr and cry. Even if its not a big deal and they just want me to talk and not look uncomfortable.. But its hard..its hard..but if I want to be understood so I'll just understand what they did. I feel u dude, hope ur okay now 😔

@@kez_4184 I got one friend like that out of school i.m old to be in school. Yeah we all experience it. Even my parents don't understand if I told them about introvert personalities. They just coheirse you to talk etc etc ugh. It's tough and unfair because extroverts impose themselves on and don't respect our way of being. While we just want them to be more understanding the way we are. I'm only recently discovering this for myself and Lana has just reinforced it. School wasn't for me it felt overwhelming hence I was leaving school half way into the day. At the time I didn't know why but.

Yea...I feel u.. had similar situation 😭😭

People who start conversations like that are assholes. Like why did you come up to tell someone they’re weird or broken. Mind your own business and stop trying to feel superior to people different from you .

Yah I’m so glad I found out people who think and act like me, I just wished I had a friend irl who was like me 😔

Are you also a night owl? We feel kind of similarly. In the entire world day is the time you work and night is the time that everyone sleeps. The truth is, that rhythm doesn't always work for some people.

SLAPP THEM omg

@@pilly3815 lmao I wish xD

Ikr i hate that

mood :--(

I see your a men of culture

Mum: Why don’t you have more friends? Me: I’m perfectly fine with the friends I have. Mum: *THAT’S NOT GOOD ENOUGH!*

so true 🥲

They will just call us as Rude person

@@artistryanu1279 That was a rhetorical statement, my dude. You just took him out just like that.

@@retrobit5973 hm

One isn't necessarily wise though. "I don't speak unless I have something to say" or "There is nothing I want to say" may be more accurate. I normally say "This/your conversation doesn't interest me"

Hey, I also am an introvert and I wrote two blogs about introverts. Please share your thoughts in the comment section. I'll definitely appreciate that. 1) inksaw.blogspot.com/2020/04/there-are-lot-of-misconceptions-about.html 2) inksaw.blogspot.com/2020/03/6-signs-youre-introvert.html

I do this too sometimes, sometimes it's exactly what we need

Kuncan Dastner I agree!

Me too

same

Me too

Talk to me I feel the same :c

Same

Same

Damn. We could change that though

I quit Facebook Instagram and Twitter to talk to people in real life now i only talk to myself.

Great response

Once some bully said to me in a loud voice " Why are you so quiet? Can you even talk?" I just said "Why are you so loud? Can you even shut up?" And i walked away like a boss. * Proud introvert noises* 😀😜

I usually say, “ There’s nothing to say”

I got a lot of hate by being quiet and they said I'm "fake" because of that. But after watching this video, I'm starting to embrace myself a little, being the "expert pretender".

Hey, I also am an introvert and I wrote two blogs about introverts. Please share your thoughts in the comment section. I'll definitely appreciate that. 1) inksaw.blogspot.com/2020/04/there-are-lot-of-misconceptions-about.html 2) inksaw.blogspot.com/2020/03/6-signs-youre-introvert.html

You have your fellow introverts here with u. We support you you can do anything

Soiree Sara I feel your pain! I have the same issue right now as I study in a different country. Nobody comes to talk to me and the conversations that I initiate don’t lead to a friendship. BUT the difference between yours and mine approach is that I don’t expect people to come talk to me and I don’t expect to make friends with everybody I talk. It is just not realistic. That’s why I don’t feel sad or nothing because of this, that’s just normal. I don’t blame others and myself. It is nobody’s fault. At the same time, it is rational to think that the more conversations you start and the more friendly you are to people - the more friends you will end up finding. That’s just math. I wish you the best. You can contact me if you wanna chat, you seem like a cool person! I am not sure how messaging works on RU-vid. So figure it out!

Maybe try online classes? Do u have any brother or sis you can get closer to to and vent to. I have no friends sometimes it bothers me and sometimes I’m fine with it.

Claudia López thank you so much i appreciate your words very much 💗

Вячеслав Киселёв Thank you so much for your words since I haven’t really talked about it with anyone even with my sister I know staying in a place where you don’t recognize people is really hard and difficult it must be hard for you to get help from anyone when you need it because I know what you feel since I also just moved out of town couple weeks ago and my lonely feelings just getting worse. I feel sorry for you and I hope you’ll graduate soon so you can find a job you love and achieve things you always dreamed. The case is it’s not my only obstacles, I don’t really hope people will come talk to me and then make a friendship, I am very shy and quiet person in real around people and even my family, what hurts me is that I acknowledge that I have a very low skills to just build a small conversation especially a decent one to people and I am not able to be someone that I really want when I surround them so i made them think that I am just someone that I don’t actually want to be, I’m not saying that I don’t accept my self as an introvert person nor i care of what people thinks of me, but my personality just made it harder for me to grow and learn about lessons and projects in my class especially it seemed nobody really willing to help me and I know that ofc nobody cares, it’s not that I was trying to say i depend on anybody I just feel insecure especially seeing people seem to just to get along so easly help each other in studying, and the thing is i really don’t have any friends for that companionship. I never asked for many friends nor i feel comfortable to, i am not a person who likes get surrounded by bunch of people, i just wished that there’s at least one person who’d truly care, the loneliness gets me stronger than how i was trying to fight the environment And i don’t even actually know what my feelings supposed to mean, i don’t know how to describe it, is that i actually a person who don’t like surround by a lot of people, at the same time i cried everytime i burried this loneliness, and then i also feel like i don’t belong to these group of friends everytime i tried to make one, i know i’m weird but it’s like my own thoughts and myself is the first role that made me truly suffering

Thank you so much.

why r u so annoying? how do you know what they where thinking. Lots of depressed/anxious people are quiet because they are scare to talk to people. They where probably just checking if u where ok...

I hate people say I'm shy

Same here. Quiet? Sure. Fine. Its a descriptor. But shy? Thanks for deciding that because im quiet it must mean i’m intimidated by you.

Last time at school, I finally found a topic is very interesting then I talk. Then one of the student said to me Don't be shy! Other students agree with him. Okay! I will not talk anymore. You want me to talk but you just lose this rare chance. Angry and go away but no one think I'm angry just saying very quietly that “Why is he so shy?” 🙄🙄

Why extroverts tend to describe us “shy”. We will not use the word “annoying” to describe them. We use the word “talkative”.

Quiet, thoughtful people who listen and wait until they have something to say, (or just dislike smalltalk) confuse extroverts, who often find silence and one on one conversations intimidating. Lack of empathy really.

Agree!

Admir Barucija 😊🙏

@@LanaBlakely 😊🙏

Michaela Wells thanks Michaela!

i'm feeling litteraly the same all the time. when i have conversations with people, i'm really happy and i enjoy it. but most of the time, when i'm with people, i feel like i'm forced to talk and my head is just empty and it causes me anxious. so i still don't know if i'm an introvert or an extrovert.

I like talking to people one on one and building a relationship. It's the Group events I don't really like. Feels more like a forced performance. Unless I know each person there individually and feel comfortable being myself.

Hey, I also am an introvert and I wrote two blogs about introverts. Please share your thoughts in the comment section. I'll definitely appreciate that. 1) inksaw.blogspot.com/2020/04/there-are-lot-of-misconceptions-about.html 2) inksaw.blogspot.com/2020/03/6-signs-youre-introvert.html