A Discussion on Why We Can't Find Friends & Strangers Touching Our Daughter 

Picking up someone else’s child that you don’t know is absolutely crazy!

my baby is a mixed baby as well and i couldn’t tell you the amount of times that people have walked up and have tried to touch her curls.. sometimes i felt like i was rude and dramatic for telling them to not touch her but hearing you guys deal with the same thing and react the same way i did is comforting! love y’all ❤

I also want to say that I'm single and in my late 20s and most of my friends are married and several have kids too! It does NOT negatively impact our friendship. We were friends before they got married and had kids and we're just as close, if not closer now! I've also met new friends who are already married and younger and it doesn't disqualify me from relationship with them. These friendships can be harder so I think people shy away from them BUT there's so much beauty in intergenerational friendships as well as friendships with people who aren't in the same stage of life as you. I have a plethora of different friendships and I love them all because everyone has a different perspective. We have mutual respect for each other and they see my value even though I'm single and they aren't! Don't limit who God wants to put in your life!! LOVING the podcast btw!!!

This talk about adult friendships is soooooo real and I can soooo relate. I am kind of new to NC (I've been here for about 4 years, 2 of those years were during covid) and I thought I started developing meaningful friendships and found some lifelong friends. It wasn't until I was going through one of the hardest seasons of my life that I found out the people I thought were my friends that I did not meet in church really weren't. It was the people that I had met at church that stuck by me and help me through the difficult season. I grew up in a family church so I swear there were no kids my age (pictures say otherwise but I felt like there were none lol) so I have never really had people going through the same spiritual journey as me as well as the same life journey. It truly is a beautiful thing! My church friends are now my family. We share so many similar interests outside of church and that's what makes it great. People think that if you are a Christian, you can't have fun or you have to stay in the house all the time reading the bible and that just isn't true. So, I pray you guys find a tribe like I did, or you could always move to NC and I'll introduce you to mine lol they are pretty dope!

As a black woman, the hair touching thing happens to us all the time! In the work place at social events. It’s like we’re on display. I’ve had a woman at work pinch my butt because she said it’s so round! I also had an older lady KISS my baby on the cheek in a grocery store!! I was so upset. I was alone and afraid to confront her because she was older. People need to learn boundaries!

THIS!!!! Such an important topic. I relate to Josh 1,000% community is so important. I moved to Tulsa for Transformation Church from Los Angeles. It was a huge cultural and lifestyle shock. Instantly I knew moving to a new state I’d need community and it took me 1 solid year to build what I now can say is one of the best communities I’ve ever established and I’m 30! 🙏🏾♥️ praying you guys find the community that meets both of your needs and desires. Oh and randoms touching anyone’s hair or simply touching you at all is a…NO!!!!!!😑 I don’t think it’s a generational or cultural thing. I think people lack the curiosity of appropriate boundaries

Being from Georgia I am cryingggg at Josh lol. When Josh said Bojangles, "what is thaaaat" 🤣 On another note, I feel Josh 100%. My husband and I are the same wayyy! We've been longing for community for a very long time. My 2 best friends are married as well but they live in different states & It's hard to navigate life with people in different time zones. That's a fact. I also feel for Sav when she mentioned friendship heartbreak, I definitely have walls up and understand that if they don't come down, genuine people can't come in. My husband and I, are constantly praying for all the things, trusting in Him to bring our tribe!

My husband and I are in such a similar situation except we are military and moving a lot. We currently go to a church but it just seems hard to find a Christian, godly married/parent friends that we can vibe with and have such a good relationship! It’s definitely not y’all, I have been praying this for years especially now that we have a baby! I definitely understand 🥲

Josh won this draft with Popeyes McDonald’s and Wendy’s. I feel like Ri won’t be embarrassed at all by you guys she will be so proud of you guys!! Oh nooooo I’d freak out if someone I didn’t know pick up my son I understand she wasn’t doing anything malice but in today’s world you can’t trust anyone!! I’m white and I would never touch anyones child!! My mom was a social worker and she was very protective. We always had people comment on my eyes and blonde hair and they would touch my cheeks and my mom would step up and say Please do not touch my child!! People use to stop us to tell us I looked like a porcelain doll and I remember this vividly and I always felt very uncomfortable. Parents are definitely their child’s advocate but I agree I’m never forcing my child to do any interaction with anyone family or not. My son is actually my nephew my brother passed away 4mths before he was born but my son looks identical to his dad and people use to stop us in Walmart and they would try to pick him up because they knew my brother. I was definitely labeled a b!tch because I would rudely say DO NOT TOUCH HIM I DON’T KNOW YOU! You’ll learn that as parents you tend to make friendship like this through your child. Like my son plays sports with the same kids, same parents, and you start to spend a lot of time with them and it becomes a community

I feel that community piece 💯 I’ve had friendships that really just drifted apart due to life changes and evolution. It’s never on purpose, the company you prefer to keep just changes. Once you’re in a committed relationship or married, you don’t wanna go to the club with the guys any more lol or once you start seeking God, you prefer to hang around like minded people that pull you closer to God, only thing about that though is as you evolve, it gets harder and harder to find that community and your circle gets smaller and smaller, but all you need is a solid group of people 💪🏾💯 FYI, the MEETUP APP is a great way to find community

I’m white and grew up with extremely curly hair and people touched it without my permission all the time. It used to make me so mad that I would cry and I never knew how to make it stop because people were always complimenting it but I hated being touched without consent. I can only imagine how it is for black people/biracial people. My husband is black so I already know our kids are going to go through the same thing

I’m a single woman age 47, and I have 4 friends right now, that I met within the last 5-6 years that have become my close circle of besties, also in the same stage of life and from my church. My advice is keep your heart open, keep going to church and get involved, and God will surprise and bless you along your life in ways you can’t imagine. But also, yes staying in one place, and sowing some roots will help all that happen🙏🏽 Thanks for sharing, because as a single girl, I honestly didn’t realize married couples with children would have this issue at all, because so much of church life revolves around that. But I just really believe as soon as y’all settle somewhere, your community will grow 🌱🌿🌳

The best type of people to have in your close circles are those you're in a discipleship group with! Small groups are so so important in our walks with the Lord because we're made for community! Yes it looks different with kiddos, but the people in those groups become family quick as you spur each other on as well as pray for + praise with fellow brothers/sisters in Christ! Connecting with people in a Sunday school class is great too!

I am for sure not black nor do I have a mixed baby but I do have a 6 month old and the angerrrr that builds up inside of me when some random person touches my child/ opens the stroller cover to see my child when out in public is next level!! I can 100% attest to this. Do not touch people’s children!!

I heavily relate with Josh on the topic of having guy friends who you can do life with. It’s so different when you’re married but there’s something special about having friends who are going through the same stage of life as you.

This is a great topic. And I strongly & respectfully agree that everyone should not feel free to touch other people’s kids. 💜

Yay back when y’all didn’t have kids and sav was dancing. Y’all came far and matured so much ❤

Wow! I had to pause the video and comment. Strangers feeling free to touch your daughter is beyond acceptable for me. That's as bad and even worse cause your daughter is a baby, as people feeling free to touch my hair thing to figure out or comment on the uniqueness of my braids and or my 2 strand twists. Don't people now how to be kind while respecting personal space. I feel you Josh and Savannah. Josh it's not being racist to think or feel some kinda way its protecting your family and having a standard for yours and their personal space. Whew!🙄 I felt some kinda way when yall told what happened. The audacity!!!! OK. Back to the video. Oh and yes I just love you guys🙏🏽💕💕

this podcast is sooo relevant. especially with young adult christians; there is such a huge umbrella of phases in the 20s and protecting our space so that we feel equally yoked and aligned with the ppl around us can be overwhelmingly isolating! this is sooooo good

I’m so sorry that happened to Ri 😢 I had to deflect a lot as the only Black girl in lots of my classes going up. Praying for y’all to find community and good friends to grow with❤

I can totally agree with the hair touching. My toddler and I were in Walmart with my mixed grandma in law, so as this lady came up to us in our chart my grandma said don’t you dare touch my grand babies hair interrupting the lady saying aww she’s so cute as her hand is coming towards us. I swear everything was happening so fast but my grandma knew what that lady was about to do and shut it down fast 🤣🤣🥰. 💚

This made me feel so much better to know there are other people struggling with this as well. I just finished my first year of college and it was hard for me and I couldn’t find my community so I know exactly what place you guys are in! I’ve been watching you for a long time since you were dating and I always say you have been my favorite inspirational couple to watch. You have such a beautiful foundation in God and within each other and I appreciate you for being so transparent with us all!

My fiancé and I actually joined a life group in our church. Before that though, during a thanksgiving outreach, a person that was a leader of life group that’s for people in there 20 and 30’s came up to us and asked us to join when it would start. So we went to a pre launch of the life group and from then on we found our brothers and sisters for life. We actually started going to the life group in December. My fiancé and I got engaged in Feb and our friends from the life group are going to be in our wedding this year. I know it happened all so fast but when you click with people so well, you just know that God placed then in your life for a reason. My Fiancé and I had been longing for friends that were involved in church and had similar beliefs as us. We’re just so thankful to God that we found these people.

Totally understand the protective feeling though!! My husband and I are always on high alert at play places and parks because almost every time we go someone touches our daughter, pushes her, or is doing something that is stopping her from playing. Like climbing up the slides and parents can never watch their kid. It never fails.

Y’all always posting videos when I need something to get me through a feeding session with my baby ❤😂

What?! In & Out is SO GOOD! I live in California & I could never get sick of it 😋❤

🙌🙌 this episode resonated so much. Being a parent in this day and age and standing up for our babies is a constant battle of judgment.

No one should every think that they have the right to touch someone else child, no matter if she is of mixed race or not.

The way my jaw DROPPED when you said the lady picked Ri up and sat her on her lap!!!!!! Like you said I do feel like that could definitely be a race thing, but also I’ve noticed people feel way more inclined to pick up baby girls as opposed to boys. My baby boy is 9 months old and sometimes people go to touch him (which is still not ok) but my friend has a baby girl same age and there have been so many occasions strangers ask to hold her. Wild. I think this use to be acceptable and why little girls were always told to “be polite” and forced to give out hugs and affection to people they might not want to.

JOSHHHH! You won at the beginning but the MOMENT the word Bojangles left your mouth, you won for the rest of the year. lol

Im white with long hair and when i was in Greece and Italy, I had multiple older women touch my hair and try brushing their fingers through it.. It was a little uncomfortable but I tried to understand that I was a visitor in their culture. Also my sister has super curly hair (also white). She got the scottish curls from my dads side. And people are always obsessing over her hair. Also my asian friends are a lot more touchy than my white friends. I honestly think its just how you grew up. Though it is still your right to ask them to not touch your kid, obviously. People should at least ask first. My cousin is from ethiopia and whenever people try touching her hair, she just starts touching theirs back and it usually makes them get the hint lol

I always ask first. “Can I touch your hair?” And it’s usually so appreciated that the person says thank you for asking. And that would take me back bc I’m like who wouldn’t? That’s crazy.

My son is Ri’s age & also mixed and we deal with the same thing 😭 adults and kids are always touching his hair. Yesterday at church he walked past a group of kids and every single one touched his hair. He shook his head and I could tell he didn’t like it 🥺

My husband and I have an amazing community of couples and parents. We live in the DFW and joined a life group at our church. We hang out weekly! 😊 It’s so refreshing to have people to do life with.

Josh you explain that so well about why women would touch you child. Luckily I was grown up with all that in my life so as an adult I would NEVER touch someone else with out permission period!

I honestly feel like some people are just raised with no home training, no filter. You’re right. If someone said good luck to me and referring to my child, they’re going to need some luck themselves. I will say some people are sweet, my son was not listening in Trader Joe’s and this sweet lady told me that I was a good mom and that I’m doing good. I broke down crying.

I'm 28 and I too struggle with that community as well. Finding deeper fellowship with people. As an adult it is very hard for sure. I think for me I have grown to shrink my tight knit community but that's okay. However, I can relate to y'all!!! Love y'all tons and so excited for you and your sweet family ❤

I REALLY HAD THAT FACE LIKE 😯 WHEN SHE SAID SHE DIDNG HEAR ABOUT POPEYES UNTILL THE CHICKEN SANDWICH LMAO

As a parent: In efforts of believing the best of another (1 Cor 13) - I do think it’s important to consider how old the person was from. There was a time when picking up someone else’s kid wasn’t socially unacceptable. Something that is also worth considering is what your little one has been given to minister to this World. I personally don’t believe in coincidences. In separate situations people who were completely unrelated were drawn to your little one. Where the Word teaches us to train up our children in the way they should go the amplified classic version states “…[and in keeping with his individual gift or bent]….” Proverbs‬ ‭22‬:‭6‬ ‭AMPC‬‬ - I understand from a biblical prospective ONLY (not how I feel but with the Bible says) as parents we have an opportunity to observe the situations that develop around our children and use those to identify their gifts or bents and teach them how to operate in this world considerately. For her Knowing that she draws people in such an effortless way is important that you teach boundaries appropriately without influencing her ability to love and be whatever God has called her to be for someone else. (I say this from personal experience) As a mixed girl: as a child I had many of the same experiences. My parents (who are not saved and so aim to follow the word of God) were lead and guided by their emotions solely in thinking they were protecting me by expressing their disapproval of strangers doing such things. I can say that there were times that my parents taught me boundaries more by their side bar conversations of disapproval for someone touching me or interacting with me in a certain way rather than actually teaching me how to remain cordial but politely and directly. Because of the way my parents responded to people being drawn to me I learned fear. And that only changed with Salvation of the Lord Jesus Christ in my life. I still have these experiences as an adult. I’ve had someone walk up and touch my face as an adult - yes it was startling but had I responded out of my feelings rather than considering what the young woman was drawn to that young lady may not have come to Jesus Christ. She cites that moment as a door opening for her salvation. I’m not saying let anybody touch your kid. Our your self for that matter. I am saying the Gospel teaches us there is a bigger picture and it’s our job as parents and as people to be the light however we’re called to. For my own kids who also have a favor that I’m unable to explain and wisps of locks that fell down in to their faces with porcelain skin (almost doll like) I can identify with the emotion of “what are you thinking right now” when someone has picked up my little one or touched them… but I was convicted in prayer and learned to take those opportunities to teach and minister to the other person. I never stopped expressing that I did not like it and felt it was In appropriate BUT I continued to look for the opportunity that was presented in it.

I think Ri will be way more impressed with her amazing parents than embarrassed

35:50 Exactly where I was getting ready to go. For adults, it is so hard to find and create a community. As adults, we have our own issues and time commitments. Having a place like a Church or the time to do volunteer activities provides a built-in community to find friends. Personally, I lost all my community when I left my toxic religious community, and trying to fit into a new social circle is not always easy. Sav is saying so many things that I have tried to say to so many people and they don't see that perspective.

My husband and I are in the same season! 24, been married since 2020, dated since high school, and now expecting our first baby. At church we were part of young adults then we left the church for other reasons and found a new church. However, finding friends and community around our age and in a similar season has been so hard!! We have people we love and can count on but also wanting that good friendship with others

My husband and I feel the friendships thing so hard. 1… we became Christian’s in our early college years and all our friends that we had aren’t. So we either lost those friendships or they are on going but hard relationally. Christians are hard to come by in our area at our age also 2… we are one of the only married couples in our friends. 3… we have a baby on the way and we are also the only ones there. We’ve recently made new friends at church but they are slightly older with older kids. So we are in this weird lonely middle ground now. I agree with the best friends thing going out the window when you’re married though. My husband filled that slot.

cfa is for SURE number one!!

As a long time server and restaurant owner having a child walk around the restaurant is so dangerous. All it takes is a server with hot food or coffee to come around a corner and either hurt your child or hurt themselves or another patron. I know how hard it is to keep a child entertained in a restaurant but please don’t let them run around. It happens so fast if you’re standing 2 ft away they can get hurt badly. I have a biracial granddaughter and I will never understand why people think it’s ok to touch her hair but I will say I will not hesitate to touch them if they touch her. She is 3 and our world God help the person who touches her if her Marine grandfather is there. Hand to yourself people! As far as friends get involved in a class with Ri, normally you would meet people at work which would be great if you seek out some other influencers. I know there’s conferences and things but your bet right now is to join things with Ri and find a church with lots of kids. We found our best church family when I had a 2 yr old and we went to vacation Bible school. Go to parks find the kids you will find friends and family. We raised our kids with our church family because we didn’t have any family close. It’s summer go find activities.

I feel josh on the friendship part !!! I have friends but we just drafted apart & life happens , grow apart!! I want to have the type community friends.

We are going through the same thing in our 30s. It sucks because we literally have no one. Not even close family but are definitely praying for a great church

I feel the hair thing in a spiritual level! I have 3 mixed daughters (4 year old and 18 month old twins). Their curls are always a topic of discussion. I had someone in the store begin to reach for their hair& I actually popped her hand.😂 Not only is it an invasion of space but also GERMS! Like who would go up to an adult and run their hands through their hair? It has always been so odd to me! You never know people’s intentions either. As Ri gets older,I pray she uses her voice as well!

And to answer and respond, I know people like this, and we don’t associate with them. I have been a strict mother in terms of boundaries. So my kids KNOW and will speak up LOUDLY if anyone touches them. This is not a show and tell moment. PEOPLE PLEASE STOP TOUCHING KIDS, PERIOD!!!!

I so get it, it's hard to make friends as adults and as you continue to move through different seasons and grow it becomes even harder. I kinda have given up on finding friends and hang out more with my family members lol

I agree making friends as an adult is difficult. First podcast I listened to of y’all’s and i enjoyed it.

Just came here to say this- my son is mentally 5 but is physically 16 and when he sees a child in public he says oh “she’s” so pretty even it it’s a boy, but he always wants to touch them. I have been working with him for years to always ask for permission. He is starting to understand that but still on that rear occasion he will still try to touch. I believe it is perfectly fine to set boundaries and tell someone else not to touch your child, I just wanted you guys to be aware that some kids have special needs and don’t understand boundaries. That’s something I never understood until I started teaching! Then it slapped me in the face when I had my son! BUT I DO NOT THINK ITS OK TO TOUCH SOMEONE ELSE’S CHILD AS AN ADULT EVER! My grandma still does that even though I tell her not to. She’s 90 and it was a whole different time back then!

SAVVV the chicken strip basket W THE GRAVYYYYY😍😍😍😭

My husband and I are in similar situation- like y’all picky about who we let in but longing for that community ❤

Dairy queen in Michigan absolutely always had fries, hotdogs, chili dogs etc. I’m 47, and my favorite place to get a hotdog when I lived in Michigan growing up was dairy queen and A&W root beer stand. We would go there after track practice, and get a hotdog, fries and a malt or sundae. Chick-fil-A wasn’t a thing in Michigan until the 2000’s. I moved to Georgia in 2006, and there was no Chick-fil-A in Michigan until I moved here. Also growing up in Michigan going to Popeyes before leaving Grand Rapids, and heading back to Kalamazoo after church was definitely a thing. Awesome vid! I’m not biracial, but I had a lot of people of all races(even black) always trying to touch my curly hair when I was younger and even as an adult. It’s a no! It’s an absolutely NO! Also I didn’t allow family/friends to have my kids sit on their lap, I’m definitely not gonna let some random put my kid on their lap. I feel like I would’ve gone off!🤷🏽‍♀️

I’m glad to know I’m not the only one who feels this way but yearning for community

i did not know josh lived in SC!!!!! that’s so cool it’s bo time!

the thing josh said about being mixed is really true, I'm mixed and went to a very white school. I'm pretty much white passing but I have curly hair and always had people just come up and touch my hair

I feel friends come and go depending on the stage of your life. I do believe the best place to find quality friends is your church home. However for me I believe the older I get the less friends I need. I am happy and content with my husband and close family.

Me & my boyfriend can completely relate on the adult friendship thing. I do agree with Savannah though, that men can find friends way faster than ladies. My man also plays basketball and that’s how he knows majority of his friends but me like the older I get the more introverted I get but also the more picky I get with who I want to surround myself with lol Just btw I love watching y’all and listening to your podcasts on my way to work. The similarities me and my man have with y’all is hilarious because there’s a lot & it just brings me joy so thank you! 🥰

I also agree on don’t not touch kids that aren’t ours. When I was younger a lot people would come touch my hair I would hated it , had very long when I was growing up long curly wavy hair. & when I was growing up , even now still , when iam out an about people would just stare at me because Iam wheelchair, & see that can talk for myself & do a lot other things like they be surprised like trying to figure out why in wheelchair.

As a mixed girl I cannot tell you how many people have randomly touched my hair, not only with the comments first but like standing in a line at a restaurant or store and I feel the person behind me just feeling my hair. It still and always will make me so uncomfortable. I love how Sav put it, we are not an exhibit on display for you to feel on. Let me also add YOU DONT TOUCH DRY CURLS!! That causes frizz and will mess up the curl clumps and make me so upset instantly. No patience for it.

I met my best friend through my daughter.. our daughters cheered together. She is in the Navy so she has moved away however we are still close 2 years later we take turns visiting each other FL to TN. Now we have a moms trip planned . We move soon to NC and I’m so nervous bc I know I’ll be in the same boat of not having a community. I will say meeting ppl through your kid’s activities has been the easiest way for me bc Im a homebody.

I also say “the other day” when it’s any day other than today. I have that so bad 😂Thought it was just me

Josh deff won this draft. Sav, you did good.. I just strongly dislike Burger King 😩

The draft was about even this week but if I have to choose I would say Josh won. Also I agree with you about the community. I have one or two close friends but that’s it. I long to have community but most people are not in my phase of life. I am 28 year old single woman with no kids.

I’m a redhead and I always had older grandma aged women and others always touching my hair and telling me how beautiful it is and how lucky I am. I think most of it came from a sweet intention but it still felt weird, especially when I was little, that random strangers would touch my hair.

You guys are spot on. Keep your hands to yourself. No expectations. ❤

As you age, your circle of friends may become smaller, but stronger!

Love this episode! I’ve been in this same season, trying to navigate finding community. Just want to let you know your not ALONE ❤ Love y’all

This is what we are going through right now with our grandparents watching our little 3 year old. A stranger picked up my little boy on a hike with grandma and grandpa and of course they thought it to be no big deal but when my 3 year old comes home and starts telling me this person picked me up, then obvious reasons say they didn’t like being picked up. I would not allow anyone to touch our children!!

The touching hair - I don't think it has anything to do with race. When I was young I had super curly hair and I am white and people were always touching my hair to feel it. Some black and some white but always older people.

Before you guys move from Michigan I highly recommend going to visit the Solanus Casey Center in Detroit if you haven’t already!

Yes in general older people are more touchy. Also depends on where they grew up etc. Like my family is of English descent and we are not touchy at all. I don't like hugging or touching strangers or even family much. Where as my husband grew up in Haiti/Dominican republic and they are way more touchy than how I was raised.

Me and my husband have been married for 2 years this month and are literally in this exact same season!!! A little different story, he’s 5 years older than me.. I’m 24 and he’s 29, so kinda like two really different age groups if you should say… we both have our own bestfriends from life before we met, his bestfriend has a kid with his girlfriend and all my friends are single and like going out every weekend, and we’re all really good friends… but it’s just not the same as having bestfriends together who have kids and are married to do life with. i get it!! you guys aren’t alone!! it’s comforting be reassured that we’re not the only ones, thank y’all for talking about that🤍🤍🤍

We totally understand y’all ! Both my husband and I began the content creation life and moved from NY to Dallas to form our family … we now have two littles and in the church has been hard to build intentional friendships with purpose and in the same stage of life as us we are 27/26 and totally understand y’all 😊😊we would love to be friends with y’all

sav won bc of chick fli a as # 1!! RESPECT HER FOR THAT

I love you guys so much!!!!!

Y’all should move to Austin TX! My husband and I have a 2 year old and we’re apart of an AMAZING church community. A bunch of my girlfriends are also pregnant right now so we’ve formed a little mom group! And my husbands leading a college ministry. Have I convinced you yet? Haha🤪 All the best to y’all.

I live in the UK and there are some Spanish families at my sons school. Most days these two grandmas will touch my baby by pulling her hood up or touching her toes or just grabbing her hand while we are waiting on the kids to come out. The first time it happened it was because they thought she was cold and I only know because I understand a small amount of Spanish but now they fully talk to me about her and I have no clue what they are saying. It has gotten to the point that I have asked them to stop but they don't speak English so they don't know what I am saying. Tilly is the most social baby so it seems inviting but it makes me feel so awkward.

my baby is mixed Indian-Asian and Puerto Rican and people feel the need to touch her and say how cute she is ALL the time! In the airport, in restaurants, in costco, you name it. It is SO annoying and makes me so mad so I understand where you guys are coming from!

Soooo crazy, my husband and I are finally starting to make connections with people at the church we’ve been at for a few months. And my friend and I just had this EXACT conversation. God’s timing 🤍 I don’t find it sad, it’s kind of comforting to know there’s others in this season and it feels like God saying He knows where we’re at..

Literally my husband and I are in the same boat with the whole community / friendship as y’all. I kid you not literally THE SAME boat. I felt like I was watching our situation through y’all. The whole same age / being married / having kids / same faith / to do life with. It’s hard to find that. Especially when you keep moving. Like Sav said it does take time to build that type of friendship. I’ve literally cried before to my husband multiple times how I don’t have any friends to do anything with / talk / hang out / do silly stuff with / go to the store with…Etc. and it’s sad. Very sad to say I’ve never ever experienced that and I’m almost 30. In this new season that my little family is in I pray that God does send those friends that my husband and I are looking for / that have been wanting. This is actually something we’re going to talk about in our podcast soon as well. It’s good to hear that we’re not alone. Thank you guys for sharing this with us cause it for sure made me feel a little better that we’re not alone. 🤍

Omg! Something similar happened to my children and I on Easter this year. I was at the store getting last minute fillers for their baskets and I'm walking towards the checkout line and a older man is walking in, for context purposes only he was rough around the edges and not the cleanest.. He stopped us and asked if they sold these on the shelf, my cart wast full as my 6yr old son was sitting in the big part of the cart and my 2yr old daughter sitting in the front. Anyways, I was confused and looking around my cart trying to see what he was talking about, and he repeated himself but this time his hand was hovering over my sons head, and I laughed and said on no. 😊 He then put his dirty hand and started to rub my sons head and said oh hes so cute I love kids, I kid you not I asked him politely but also panicking inside. I said please don't touch. He looked at me as if I was wrong and said EXCUSE ME! Now I'm scared, but I have to stand up for kids, they don't understand what's happening, he goes on to say WHAT DID YOU SAY TO ME?! I say again this this more aggressive I said please don't touch my kids. And he's like wow I can't belive this I just love kids and what you're saying to me is just wrong. And now people are looking but they're looking at me like I did something wrong! I felt helpless. I'm still bothered by it, I will not go anywhere without my husband anymore

I agree with y'all. My husband and I are new to the Columbus Ohio area

Not me preparing for when I have kids and someone is slick. Them: "Good Luck" Me: "I'm sorry, what?"

I'm a white 59 year old woman and I really don't care about anyone's hair but my own. I think you're reading too much into things. The person that picked her up may have been just a grandma that liked kids. Gosh, it's not all white people want to touch black peoples hair. That's all just weird for you to think. Your daughter is beautiful.

I wish my husband and I could be friends with y’all! We look for the same thing. Love your channel and love yall 🫶🏼

Yes definitely! Where I work in a different country, people are just more touchy. It's normal and innocent here. Also in the states I live in the south and it's normal for that kind of thing to happen. It's more of like a family style and looking out for people. Not always acceptable but I have experienced times where it has been.

You guys forgot about Jack in the box

I already get pissed if random people touch my dog …so I won’t imagine how upset I would get if someone would touch my child

I think the hair touching thing is pretty common for anything that is in the slightest less common. My hair is straight but long and I have had lots of random strangers touch my hair. My mom also has long hair and people always want to or do touch her hair. My mom doesn’t usually like it. I personally don’t care as I know people are usually just admiring

Growing up I had long, thick, curly hair and people always tried to touch my hair and my mom would stop them dead in their tracks. It’s not right even if it comes from a good place.

Please start teaching Ri if you haven’t already about stranger danger!!!!!!! it’s never too early

As a single black man who attends a predominantly white church full of married folk, I can tell you that finding community for your walk of life is tough.

Plug into a married small group at church and lots of churches have mom groups to get the Littles together and that's where friends form with other families ❤

Well I am a black women and my husband is mix. So our daughter has blonde hair and blue/gray eyes. When she was a baby I got asked all the time if she was a foster baby or adopted. One time I was at a fast food place and one of the worker actually stopped what she was doing and asked me If her daddy was white.

people are always touching my babies hair too & i hate it. he’s almost 10 months & mixed & i just don’t get it . i completely get y’all’s frustration!

Omgsh my husband and I feel the same way about the friends topic. It's like every It's in competition, fake, not loyal . I feel like it's rare to find genuine ppl. We are here in Dallas (Frisco) Texas so the next time you guys come down we can all link up , idk if that's 😂but we are always down for good vibes. We have 2 boys 8 & 4, older but they love babies!

Totally relate. Community is hard as a young family!