Stephan is there a way you can do a video in regards of dating courtship rules women can follow if a man wasting a woman's time or not? I had a man literally ask for my phone number for us to get to know each other better outside the dating app. I gave it and haven't heard from him since. Why would he ask me to then do that? Smh why is dating this complicated now? I never had this happen to me before.
Speaking for myself, I do like "nice" guys my ex was a nice decent person. But before I met him for some reason that toxic guy was the one that caught my eye. They don't even have to say anything to me, I don't know why or even how I get caught up with the toxic guy's vibe???? Back in the day I was drawn to them I don't know why??
You explained a dynamic that many women deal with. The “nice” guys may feel safe but many women desire or need more masculine traits. Thank you for this discussion
@@cousinronnie6813 There's a difference between nice and good. Anybody can be nice...cause being nice is an act. But being a good man...good person...thats about your character, morals, etc.
@@cousinronnie6813 yeah, especially the nice guys who were mistreated by women and became those crazy red pill dudes. Their DNA is nice and nerdy, so it’s easy to misread them as nice. But they are using all these mind games and manipulation tactics they study to not get mistreated anymore. Total losers. It’s like… even the geeks are trying to be trashy hoes. Stay safe out there, ladies! Everybody’s playing games these days. You gotta be hella smart to dodge the BS.
It's not easy to reject the "nice" person who is really into you, but resentment will build towards yourself AND the person if you start/continue a relationship with who your really not passionate about! Don't waste your valuable time and their time!
I'm crying so bad at this moment..... This is my situation right now... I'm scared to let go of him because of guilt and fear. I need God to help me...
It's incredibly frustrating that the bad guys exude so much masculine energy because it's intoxicating as a woman. It's not that we want bad guys, we want masculine energy. Likewise I'm sure all these men don't want bad bxtches but they can't help being drawn to their mass feminine energy. It's in our nature. I guess we have to filter through people until we find the balance of a good man/woman with enough masculine/feminine energy. But you can really get sidetracked along the way with the toxic types
What? Since when do bad bitches have feminine energy. Niggas just tryna fuck that’s it. Bad bitches don’t have feminine energy. Women with feminine energy are gonna be at the library or drinking coffee at Starbucks.
This happened to me twice, two nice guys with no masculine energy. I ended it at the talking stage because I didn’t want to become their mommy/caregiver. Thank you for validating my feelings!
So someone being nice to you makes you think you're going to be their mommy. That's retarded You're retarded for even thinking that if someone's being nice to you and being good to you, that's what you should actually want. Because in reality these guys that you have this super strong attraction for that aren't good guys because let's be honest, women are more attracted to bad guys. You're going to end up breaking early relationships with a good guy. That's actually who you're supposed to be with for a bad guy. They're going to cheat on you. They're going to do you wrong and you're going to be screaming where are all the good men at in your 30s and 40s and be single for the rest of your life
I LITERALLY JUST LEFT A RELATIONSHIP BC OF THIS! I met this guy who was the sweetest guy ever! Gave me anything I wanted, tried to make sure I had everything I needed and more! IT WAS ABSOLUTELY GREAT AT FIRST! Then I started to feel like I just wasn’t that into him… and thought to myself “Girl what is wrong with you”?!?!? I just felt that he wasn’t masculine enough & I am into guys with VERY MASCULINE ENERGY, & he just DID NOT HAVE IT!!! Towards the end of the “relationship” I noticed that he did start to get on my nerves and he could sense it, which DID make him become even more sensitive. To make a long story short- I ended it. I had to bc our energies did not match. But in the end, I felt that it was best for US BOTH.
@@MeetStephanSpeaks no problem! This was the most “spot on video” for me. My mouth was literally open the whole time like- he’s talking like he had a front row seat! This video also helped me confirm I made the right decision. Thank you.
So giving you everything you needed wasn’t masculine? A man that does exactly what he says and puts a woman before himself is the most masculine thing ever, that’s what a man is supposed to do, and if you can’t see that then that’s your loss.
This is so on point. I've noticed that many women ''settle'' for the nice/good guy who has a good resume maybe to have kids or because they haven't found the right man yet, men do the same. And then they are in loveless relationships for years and years and scared to leave or think its normal. I think this happened a lot more with the older generation because people just stayed together, but these days divorce is acceptable.
My good guy is masculine. Took him 3 yrs to get me but it happened naturally and even though he’s not perfect, he’s the love of my life. So I’m glad we became friends first .. but he’s FAR FROM FEMININE. .. he’s just a gentlemen. 6yrs later and he still does the small things that means so much like opening doors and giving me massages after work😍🥰
I can definitely relate! I met a “nice guy” and attempted to date him and I knew the energy wasn’t there for me. I didn’t want to waste his time so I let him go…it was for the best
Losing a nice guy and being alone is not a sollution either. Waiting for the right one can make you older and older. So this video cannot help anyone.... ok, breaking up with a nicr gut and? What s next? Is there guarantee that someone better will come?.... not funny at all..
This is exactly spot on what I have been going through. I have been waiting for this message for the longest. When you know that person is nice and checks off, but is not loving you the way you want to be loved you have to let it go because your not just hurting yourself but you are also hurting the person you are trying to make it work with…and so I let that person go. I feel extremely bad but regardless of what he could do for me I still wasn’t happy and your happiness is worth a lot.
I really appreciate that you speak on women needing to be ATTRACTED to the men we date energetically and physically and not just settle because he has a nice personality. It's really important otherwise the relationship will not last long term. Honestly, everyone SHOULD be nice regardless it's sad that women feel like we have to settle just because bad men are so much more common.
Stephan, you are always right on time! Whenever I'm dealing with a certain situation involving dating you always seem to upload a video that speaks to that exact issue. I thank you!❤️
Valid points from beginning to end 💯❗️Nice guy , bad guys , F boys everything has its pros & cons 🤦♀️❗️it's just you have to evaluate & your pros have to outweigh your cons ! Bc if ur in a relationship where your unfulfilled its better to just be alone..
In my experience, the "nice guys" aren't always genuinely nice but can also act that way in a manipulative way. Just the example that Stephan made about the public proposal, which usually in itself is a manipulative move to get the woman to say yes even though that man probably already know she wouldn't have accepted in private. The "nice guys" are also passive and make the woman go into a more masculine role. As Stephan says it'll make you lose respect for that man when he relies on you doing everything and taking all the decisions in the relationship. It's not a healthy dynamic to be in and it will cause resentment and unhappiness in the long run.
With a nice guys that are not genuine or good guys in the beginning that turned bad or turning to manipulators because they did not get attention from women for so long that they started to resent them
And besides all of this, watch how "nice" they are when you don't allow *their* opinions to dictate *your* actions, even though they haven't done anything to prove that their view is even worth considering, let alone following. I've become so annoyed with this term, as there really is no such thing as "nice guys".
Stephan gets straight to it and does not BS! He gets to the meat of it and does not hold back! ❤️🔥❤️🔥❤️🔥 My past biggest challenge as a single woman was this: PRESSURE. Pressure to marry within a certain timeline and to hurry and be in a relationship. If that meant settling for someone who I may not completely desire and be into 100%, then friends and family did not mind it. Friends and family gave me so much pressure to settle!!! Just so I can be in a relationship and marry. They all thought I was picky. For a long time I thought I was at fault, I was wrong, I was the odd one to not want to be with just anybody. But as I leaned into God, He healed me and showed me who I was. God allowed me to put my desires first and be real with myself and what I wanted. I fought, fought, fought to find who I was and to marry the person God has for me. So ask God first and let Him help you be everything you are and be with the man that He has for you! 💖 Don't ever settle, ladies. God's Best is waiting!
I feel attacked!! You spoke to me directly. I am in such an uncomfortably awkward place In my life that I was dead ass really thinking of saying yes to a man that I know is not matched energy for me. Her has been relentlessly trying to grab my attention for 4 years and I feel pathetic because I'm falling for the absolute opposite kind of guy.. " I will not feel desperate enough for companionship to hurt someone that doesn't deserve the scar I will inflict".
My experience with the “Nice Guy” has always been a red flag with manipulation written on it. I personally don’t engage in manipulation or trying to change a person but a lot of nice guys lack that leadership energy. I already struggle with standing in my feminine energy so whenever a nice guy I always feel like they’re attracted to the masculine energy I give off. I’m working towards living in my feminine energy more and more but this video explained this perfectly ♥️
Ladies.....Stephan is 100% on point. I made almost every mistake on the list, and it manifested in exactly the situations that Stephan related. I knew it wasn't right but talked myself into it "logically". In the long run it never works. The pain it caused was heartbreaking. If you truly love someone, ( and that includes yourself! ) don't stay out of fear....it just prolongs the inevitable. I wish I'd heard this straight talk before we married. Stephan, thanks for sharing your wisdom to help others avoid this unnecessary pain.
Thank you for sharing your experience! Hopefully, it will help others learn from it. I appreciate that ❤️ and I pray that you heal from all that you have been through 🙏
Even if you had heard it before you married,i am not sure u would have believed it.Mayb u would have thot about how nice he is and convinced yourself you would grow to love him but until u are in it and experience the struggle,you wont be able to relate to this video.Some things can only be explained with experience
I married this type of man. I take full responsibility entering into the relationship in my masculine energy. 18 years later, I started embracing my femininity and the relationship literally fell apart. I am much happier now, but not happy how I may have hurt him by staying with him so long without being honest with myself.
This video validated so much of what I’m going through. It was just the energy and we’re both great people, just not right for each other, or at least he’s not right for me
I don't see anything wrong with a woman being with a nice guy who she's into but if a nice guy approaches me and I'm not attracted to him I will not accept him. I've never cheated and I never will. Thank you so much for this message.
I can be considered as that type of nice guy, and I've gone through a breakup. At first stage I always tried to figure out what's wrong with her mind and why she's so stubborn wanting a break up (multiple times in the past). Now I've realised she's already giving out hint that she's not feeling this relationship and that I should do something to boost my masculine (which I thought she was pushing me). I'm feeling so relief after this and now I'm working on myself to be a better guy and whatever the true end is, I can accept it and move on happily. Thanks sir for your wise words
Makes a lot of since honestly something similar happened to me once I was engaged to him was never physically attracted to him but I never felt it would go anywhere i was forcing it cause i felt so bad from being with someone who treated my son bad in past marriage so i got with a man who was good to my son and sacrificed my happiness to make my son happy but eventually i realized i hurt another person along with walking around with guilt for hurting a good person I was never ready for a relationship but I let it go called the engagement off
But here's my question why even let it get that far to the point of almost marriage I like when women tell me what it really is from the jump it saves u and the other person from alot of bull
@@malcolmgreen3056 well listen I'm not perfect I've made mistakes and so i have to live with them so he knew i wasn't ready for a relationship honestly i told him i wasnt he said he would help me get over him but he knew to an extent what was going on but that's my past it doesnt define me . It's just a life lesson learned
@@thehitmaster102 well now that you broke it down it makes more sense , yeah he did that too himself than trying to force yourself on someone is not hot , I was just talking to a girl and how she felt and I how I felt didn't match so I started to pull back from her and she didn't understand why I was like u told me what it is so it's no point of going any further
Your message is good but it's going to leave a lot of women single marriage and dating isn't about the ultimate attraction because the guy that you're most attracted to is not going to be the best option for you. A guy that you have a little less desire for, but is actually good for you is the best option. You might not be as happy, but in reality that's the best option for you because women want these super masculine guys which masculinity has been forgotten throughout the ages. These new age masculine guys that will cheat on their woman and are in the top 10% which is not the true definition of masculinity by the way and then wants to comes down to it. They get with these guys. These guys do them wrong every single time because they cheat on them. They have multiple women. A true masculine man will only be with one woman but has the options to choose. Others just doesn't exercise those options
I've dated a couple of nice guys. It was always the same thing..passive. boring. No diversity. But last yr. I found this sweetheart with sooo much swag! Masculine with a capital "M".I felt so safe with him.
It's the Swag for me. When I was 40ish I met a man with the look, the Swag, the passion and he chose me at a party. He was just not what one would consider a nice guy. But, that swag is now a must i never knew existed. People around me always joked I was too quick to stop dating someone after 2 weeks, 2 months...but a wise woman told me I had discernment. I don't want to be tied to someone who is wrong for me on a long term basis to just be in a relationship.
It's going to save you a lot of wasted time and energy if you just wait for the right one. Never settle for a relationship because you don't want to be alone or because you don't believe that you can find better. What is meant for you, will find its way to you. 💙RU-vidr That Helps People Overcome Toxic Relationships
I’m literally going through this right now and in my dating journey… The “nice guy” that has zero masculine energy 😩 I have to break the news to a guy right now and before watching this video I felt super guilty but now I know what I’m feeling . Learning so much from your videos
Listen nice guy doesn't equal a partner to be with. When folks do that, we end up settling with someone we really didn't want. People just got to have patience in finding their person. I get it myself, it's hard to be single at times. I've just got out of a divorce and frankly there are days I wonder if I'm gonna be single forever due to the dating pool is 🤦🏾♀️😒😳👀🤨. But I refuse to just settle or just tolerate any more toxicity in my life. I pray God leads me to the right person.
I needed to hear this. I met this wonderful guy! Love all of his qualities but I’m just not into him. And I’ve been beating myself up about because I have finally met a guy who wants me and treats me amazing but I’m just not connecting with him.
I was in this situation too. I met a nice guy, he was great overall but too nice. He had no backbone and had more feminine traits. I attempted to find angles to like him but could not. Fortunately it did not last a long time
As an Alpha female, I can tell you Beta energy is a turn off. Too nice is viewed as weak, unfortunately. My now husband is an Alpha. It was the only way for me to feel safe. IJS...
I'm in this situation right now. I'm engaged to a man that I'm not emotionally or sexually connected to I said, Yes because he's the safe choice. I can see in the future that I would never respect him or love him the way he needs to be and he can't love me the way I need to be. I'm calling off the engagement for the 2nd time. I can't marry him I don't love him so it'll be unfair to both of us. Thank you for this video. I needed to see this today.
Good for you, sis!! 👏🏾👏🏾 Listen to your spirit/intuition and it will NOT steer you wrong. I was in your situation nearly 10 years ago, shoo, still am with how I feel towards the man. I married him despite my intuition telling me not to; thinking, hoping, and praying that the attraction, draw, and even friendship would come as a bare minimum. To date, it never has. Everything you said about the lack of respect and being loved the way either of you need and deserve to be is 1000% true. You’re looking into your future. It has been 10 years of utter misery in this relationship. I cried 3 days before the wedding b/c I was marrying him and knew within myself that it didn’t feel right and not what I desired. The only thing I held onto was that “he’s a nice guy” and that I prayed for a husband and he came. As a Stephan says, don’t look for signs b/c the enemy can throw up billboards. Test the spirit to see if it’s aligning with your intuition. That’s a woman’s God given gift to knows if something is truly from TMH. A broken engagement is better than a broken marriage. I know it’s difficult, but you’re making the right choice. Blessings to you.
Insecure men think women are obligated to date them just because they're " good" men " on paper ". They act like chemistry shouldn't matter. A smart and confident person understands that you can meet someone's standards " on paper" and still not feel attracted to them romantically. I always explain it as this, Underwater welding may be a great job, with security and salary, but just because you don't want to be an underwater welder doesn't mean that you don't want a good job, you simply want a good job that satisfies you. It's that simple People that are insecure run around screeching that on one wants a "good" man/woman, and that's a lie. I'm a GREAT woman but I don't have a sense of entitlement that men owe me their attraction. No one is obligated to find any of us attractive and appealing for ANY reason.
This!!! I always said that I cannot stay with someone who I’m not attracted to, I can stay with someone without chemistry between us because it’s like I’m forcing myself.
This is so on point I started talking to the tv. 😂 (Sorry this is going to be a long winded response. Lol) I went through this with my ex from a few years ago. I wasn't really into him and I told myself, "But he's a good man with a good heart and you know how hard it is as a gay dude to find a decent man." All the time trying to convince myself that being with him was best for me. In a very short time I started being annoyed by him being affectionate toward me. I got even more annoyed when it seemed like he was falling for me and I was nowhere near having the same feelings for him. It got so bad at one point to where one day I was driving and he placed his hand on my thigh and I removed it. I felt bad but I couldn't help how angry and annoyed I was. I turned into this person completely opposite of who I am. I'm very affectionate towards a guy that I'm with or even just dating for that matter. I even started having urges to cheat on him which is something I've never done or even wanted to ever before. I never imagined feeling that way towards a guy I was with. It was so outside of my character and what I believe in. That's when I KNEW that this was a mistake. Luckily I ended things very early on. Moral of the story: Just don't do it!
A guy being nice and being masculine are not mutually exclusive. Both characteristics can exist in the same man. I also wanted to add that everyone’s perspective on this topic may be different depending on all kinds of factors. Two that come to mind are… 1. age - if you’re younger, I think this video is more applicable…once you reach a certain age, swag becomes much less important and “niceness” becomes much more desirable. 2. How much relationship experience you have under your belt - if you have less experience, this video may be more applicable because you’re still trying to figure out what you like and what you need while actually in a relationship (what you think you need and what you actually need can be different once you gain more long term relationship experience). Not advocating for sticking with the “nice” guy out of pity…but just broadening the thought process on this topic because it’s not always such a cut n dry decision. Through the healing process and maturity, we eventually have to ask ourselves what about “niceness” turns me off? Why am I consistently attracted to “bad boys” or the emotionally unavailable ones?
Never had a relationship, yet I know *exactly* what I want (won't use "need" because I'm still alive and well). Problem is, at least in my country, even the males that are barely a 1/10 on the attractiveness scale hold their $ with their teeth, while the ones that look *even remotely acceptable* have other-worldly high standards for women's looks and finances (yes, you've read the last part correctly). If they won't come to their senses and adjust their outrageous demands, I'll happily stay single forever.
Also Nice Guy isn't necessarily a Good Guy either. Nice is an act. Good guy has good morals and character. But either way, Nice...Good...That don't mean he's the 1 for you. It is what it is.
If he's not rooted in Christ prepare to get cheated on! Trust me the nice guys cheat too, you think your getting someone loyal, he has a little bit of bad boy in him, and some sneakyness also!
It makes me think of this story with this couple on Divorce Court Years ago. Basically it was this attractive big woman...well attractive to me cause I like and attracted to big women...but I digress. She was a big woman that dated a lot of bad guys, and they always did her wrong. So she thought and assumed that the grass is greener on the other side. So she got with a skinny not too attractive nerdy ass dude. Maybe he seemed nice in the beginning. Thats why I say nice is an act. But he was really a bad guy based on his character and morals. He just was masking it with his cover and appearance. The crazy thing is...she wasn't really attracted to him. And he wasn't attracted to her At All. They used to always fight and stuff. He constantly cheated on her, constantly insulted her and belittled her...called her fat 🐖 and all that nasty stuff. Thats not the worst part. The worst part is when Judge Lynn Tyler encouraged them to still be together after All Of This. I'm like What?? WTH are you talking about ma? But I guess cause she looked at them as not that attractive in her eyes...her because she's big...not knowing theirs ppl like me and others thats out here that likes and is attracted to bigger women. And the guy isn't that attractive...but im sure there's some thats attracted to his type. He Clearly don't even want her. And she settled for him but she don't want him either. On top of how they treated each other...thats a red flag right there. No trying to save that. But she did unfortunately. SMH! 🤦♂️
Maybe Women should be single until they pass away, these men coaches do not women to marry. So did why God create men and women for? We suppose to follow God and we humans are losing the essence of God.
This was so helpful for me and is exactly what I needed to hear. I’ve always known I’m very attracted to the nice guy and very turned off by the macho man. It never occurred to me one man could be both, very nice with a lot of masculine energy. Now I know how to describe exactly who is a good fit for me. I’m very nice with mostly feminine energy. I have only enough masculine energy when needed to take care of things I need to take care of as a single woman without being taken advantage of in business situations, etc. Thanks so much 🙏🏼❤️
We need a video on the self proclaimed “nice guy” who eventually shows his true colors 2 years later when he discards you and starts playing the “nice guy” with someone new 🙃 can you tell it’s personal?😂
i myself really likes this guy i am talking to but honestly he looks wayy below average and hence i dont feel attracted to him. at first i saw his pictures and he looked different and i felt attracted to him. he's a nice guy and i do genuinely like nice guys only but when i saw some of his recent pictures, they were absolutely starkly different from the previous ones. as if I've been catfished or something. he looks a total different person from his previous pictures. i dont wanna be someone who chooses a partner based on looks but i feel helpless when i dont feel attracted to him just because of his looks. he smokes too so thats a major turn off tbh. idk if i should continue. i really feel like a heartless bitch for not being attracted to him anymore. can someone give their opinion on this? i need help :') 🌸
Yep, this happened to me. This subject is very relatable. I started lacking in areas because I wasn’t romantically attracted to him. He was so nice I tried to ignore it.
Mr nice guy starts gaslighting and becoming abusive with my hint of wanting to get out. I fell again for mummy boy who hasn't got his shit together. 49 yo male,no job, prefers to live with his mom, no savings, no future aspirations apart from living of my money. Stephan, you opened my eyes, thank you!
This is really helping me out in setting boundaries for a new relationship I'm just starting. I met him as a friend and spoke openly with him about how I am, and he is super respectful of my space. I know I don't have to be in a formal relationship with him to enjoy our time together :) as long as we are honest and open about our needs, this video is a reminder of the things I know I need and that he cant provide to me, but also, of the wonderful human being he is and the potential we have of becoming great lovers and maybe close/good friends in the long run
My nice guy is Masculine...He just completely different from me. I'm a city chick..He is full blown Cowboy. Use to ride bulls, duck hunts, wear cowboy boots etc.. however he is the sweetest most genuine guy that I've known. The difference is what scares me. But he's my Cowboy! 🤠
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Great video, thank you Stephan. I especially love the part where you say make sure and pray about it. That is something I never did in both of my marriages and I now know for certain, that's why they didn't work. They were not true Christians nor were they good men they were grown boys that liked to play with all the shiny new toys. And what does the Bible say; Don't be unequally yoked... I'm out of my Narcissistic relationships and I Thank God for peace I now have and I also thank Him for all of you great Relationship coaches. I am loving being single for 3 years now and I don't date anyone cuz I'm working on myself learning everything I can about relationships. The End 😊🙏🏾⚘
Healing is definitely key and I pray that you heal from all that you have been through and receive the man who is truly best for you, the man God has for you 🙏
OMG! Where were you years ago. I stayed for 15 years, 2 kids and the guilt ate me up. I didn’t cheat but was close. Now we are the best of friends but I kick myself for waiting. I was miserable and so was he but dating at a later age is not that easy……even for an attractive woman. 🙏🙏
I'm only part way through the video. And I know that you already mentioned that not every woman likes the same thing or something like that. But I'm just not quite sure how useful this information necessarily is for everybody. And maybe I'm not the right person to be watching your Channel. But I just don't quite feel aligned with some of this information. I'm the kind of girl that honestly kind of would prefer to select a guy who has a balance the masculine energy and The Feminine energy. Because there just seems to be a certain something missing from a more masculine individual. Part of what I would be missing is that sensitivity and that willingness to cry in front of me. That willingness to be raw and vulnerable with me. And you mentioned about a masculine feminine balance within the guy which I agree with. But I have to admit us women are a little imbalance with our masculine and feminine qualities also if for no other reason than the patriarchal societal expectations that we have been programmed by. Both males and females have been programmed by this. And so the masculine and feminine have been out of balance in this world for quite some time. Therefore both men and women should be looking for a balance within themselves
This video meant a lot to me and I want to thank you so much for making it. I have recently met a very nice good looking man, but he is a bit awkward, and a bit too happy and too helpful and says too many compliments at odd times… There’s nothing mean about him, and he seems to be a man with a very kind heart… He doesn’t take things personally and he seems like a very happy person… He is successful and would love to make my life a little easier… But I can’t seem to feel any amorous feelings towards him because he’s always approaching me… I now know that he is exhibiting too much feminine energy, and I need a man such as what you described in this video… Strong, kind yet not kiddy and silly … how I wish I could open my heart to him and feel sensual feelings towards him but I just can’t and now I know why… Btw- He is not lovebombing me as I know the difference .. Thank you for this video -you have helped me make my decision.
Thanks for sharing your insight on this topic! I agree that it is important to know the difference between a nice guy and the right guy. Me personally, I have not had the best track record in the past with dating. I was always attracted to the “bad boys”, now that I’ve matured, I definitely want to be with a nice guy, who is also the right one for me. I believe that if there is a healthy combination of both characteristics, then the relationship will be successful!
Be with good men. Remember, Nice is an act. Anyone can be nice. I know a ton of nice guy asses or nice guy narcissist, cheaters, abusers, etc. Good Men have morals and character. And you won't know that until you truly get to know them. So please don't get confused with what's on the surface with the whole nice guy act. IJS
I CANT BELIEVE HOW BADLY I NEEDED THIS VIDEO EVERY POINT HITS HOME LITERALLY GOT OUT OF A SIMILAR RELATIONSHIP OF 4 YEARS WITH A NICE GUY AROUND 6 months ago and omygod the guilt the pressure from everyone as to why did u leave him omg
Women are drawn to masculine energy. But what does masculine energy look like? Most of the Granddads and uncles of wisdom have passed on. Even in the Army, we have become more gentle in how we handle Soldiers. I wonder do the nice guy know what masculine energy consist of. For me, it is a business man with a thug attitude. We can fine dine but if things go south, he can defend my honor while standing his ground respectfully. He can put you in your place without raising his voice, or cursing you out. He has swag without being ostentatious. Boardroom to backyard barbecue. God willing, amen. 😀🙏🏽
When chemistry is present in a sexual activity, both people will be satisfied. This type of connection, is a spiritual experience. ( nothing to do with religion) Anyone can have emotional sex.
There won't be any peace between the two if a person chooses to settle and remain in an unfulfilling relationship. Men can also sense when a woman is not all in it, they feel it too. We have real about it, and make the proper adjustments. Blessings. ❣
Oh my God. I went in and married a nice guy but not into him that much. Yes I went out n flirted in office but stopped myself. Got out of the unhappy marriage after 3 years. His lack of masculine energy did get under my skin. I started to hate everything. Even his his interior need of validation from others by being all nice even if things annoy him or he disagrees.
This happened to me not so long ago... I dated this Nice guy two times...I was seeing other people too in the meanwhile, we never kissed. We never had any fisical... After two Dates I realized I was not really feeling that guy...So I called him and try to explain myself... why I wouldn't continue seeing him... what happened??? They Guy Insulted me so Hard!!! I am a single Mom and the guy said I am a stupid Single Mom bitvh... With no worth because I have Kids... as I said in the beginning...I was meeting other people.. and I thought this guy was the Nicest... Well... he was the Worst!!! I ended up alone because none of those persons...was really making me feel good. Call it intuition... but I was very shocked of this "Nice guy" reaction. So... u never Know.
OMG!! This is real I'm going thru this situation and I'm so scared to move alone but now is more clear for me why his presence bothers me Thank you!! 💖
I was here and it’s not a bad relationship but it’s def stagnant and numbing. It’s like you don’t desire marriage or children. You are just there. But you do feel safe.
My fear is to be unfaithful because it is so easy to get away with it w/ the "nice guy". I think it is because I know I can get away with it without consequences. I want a relationship where they can check me and I can check them; we both hold each other accountable.
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My mom will tell me to this day that I should have stayed with him. I know in my heart he was not the one for me I could have been friends with him but I cut all ties cause I knew he loved me and that we couldnt just be my friend God weighed on my heart everyday to let it go
@@sheriffmomma81 I understand that to it's hard putting yourself in your parents shoes being a mother I know I wouldnt want my son being with someone who would hurt him I would want to see him with someone who cherishes him. But my son had anger issues that I'm trying to address my son hit me 4 months ago just vandalized my dads 50000 dollar Corvette he has ADHD anxiety depression odd which I think is conduct disorder now I have so much on my plate right now. My job could be gone at any time cause I work in factory and they had a meeting last September saying there going to cut staff back this year and I owe on my singlewide trailer and my car a single mother my child has a job I take him back and forth but after being hit by him while driving in a moving car its walking on pins and needles all day everyday. I have him going to psychiatrist and therapy but I but the meds she has him on doesnt seem to be working. He graduates this may 21. His 18 yrs old now I need prayers that's for sure
@@sheriffmomma81 yes it is but I'm sure there are others going thur worse I write rap for jesus for my escape it's my only outlet. But I love my son my man tells me to tell him to get out but I cant just send him with no place to live his my son but if he hits me again or breaks any of my things I will have to do something his dad never had nothing to do with him. We both have a lot we need to heal from plus my current relationship I'm in it has its ups and downs also trying to trust someone after they've lied is hard my son lies hunny that's not even the half lol its crazy but I'll muster thur God has me.
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾On point!!!🔥🔥🔥When I met someone, my preference is a nice guy❣️Don’t always work out that way though, that thug or bad boy whatever 🙄irritates my soul sometimes and it seems like there are more men like that with the same characteristics that they are pretty much predictable. A nice man shows me being more of a gentleman and his speech to my ears sounds like a kind touch that might turn me on 🔥🔥🔥I feel it’s like being drama free and it goes with my personality. 🙂 I think nice guys have these type of mannerisms because to me they were raised right. I see them walking into a Godly way of life❣️Although, we have both feminine and masculine energies just because a man is a nice person that beast within him is just sleeping…There’s a time and place when it may come out!
I am 56 years old. In the past I have been out with people who have not been very nice to me. I met someone 18 months ago and didn't fancy him. My friends said he is a nice guy and I thought I will give it ago and he might grow on me. I have ended it because I still did not fancy him and was not looking forward to seeing him. It was a chore to sleep with him. He was very quiet, boring and no interests. I feel guilty and people saying that I am fussy, so will be on my own forever. Is it better to be alone or carry on
If you're a genuinely nice guy reading the comments here from the various women, don't sweat it. There are lots of women who genuinely like a dude who is a partner and treats them well and you probably know them when you spend a moment to think about it. There are women that are intoxicated by a level of "masculinity" really just the 2022 term for being a bad guy and you have to leave them to what they're attracted to. If you're the nicest guy, very fit, chop wood outside your pickup truck - she's still not going to be more attracted to you because in the content of this particular discussion masculinity often means toxic/bad masculine energy.
Honestly, I only see this come up when the physical attraction isn't strong, dude is a complete wimp, or he has some other major flaws. If he's just an average nice guy with some backbone and she's strongly attracted to him, this is never a factor. A girl that has the hots for you ain't even going to put you in a situation where your masculinity is tested. The vibe won't even go in that direction.
A lot of women don't value the nicer guy because she feels he isn't dominating in strength and leadership. But in actuality, that's the conveyance of immaturity. Love is love and toxic is toxic . Value the man that is in position to vie for your heart appropriately. If your intentions are pure and you value his presence, love has no choice but to grow constantly.
I don't value that because his "niceness" will instantly disappear at my first refusal to change *my* actions based on *his* opinions, even though he hasn't done *anything* to prove himself worthy of such a position.
It is what it is ❤❤❤❤❤❤💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥aint it funny how sometimes 'nice guys. are not as nice as they initially seemed but are manipulative and eventually are a turn off. There's a difference between masculinity and toxicity. You explained that really well. Thankyou Mr. Labossiere once again.
Am with a nice guy right now ,He is really into me and he is so genuine and constant he is so Respectful to me...I was sick the other day and he took well care of me ...But am confused coz I don't know if I love him or I just like how he is treating me 🥺I always try to make conflict jxt to see how he handles it ,And he handles it very well and I feel like he doen't deserve me
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I think they stereotype all good men out there cuz I'mma good guy but I have edge and don't take shit from anyone when I walk in a room ppl take notice that I mean business 💯
Im going through this right now, I really appreciate your videos, they help shed a lot of light. Im dating someome who is so right for me in so many ways, I get along with him and same hopes/dreams/beliefs more than any man Ive ever dated but my feelings are luke warm. I dont know if Im being rediculous because Im being too picky. Hes cute, takes care if himself etc but for some reason my attraction is subtle and kinda meh at times. Im not type who instantly falls in love anyhow so giving a little time, but its been a few weeks now and I feel like I should be more excited than I am. Im at a loss of what to do. But your videos give me a little more clarity.
I met a Man that was “Nice” and also seemed too Sensitive. I could not bring myself to like him wholeheartedly, and knew that I could not love him at the capacity that he required, due to his traits.
Good points but I'm not sure most men want to hear "you're not displaying enough masculine energy".. whew. Ladies should observe a brother in advance and don't get romantically involved. They could flip out
Lol you wouldn't say it like that. You could just say things like "I find it attractive when you make sure I'm safe with you" or "I want you take charge" or something to that effect. You can finesse it
Everytime something this your spirit, I hear everything you say and I'm like woah. This my message I had asked for. I see everything you say and apply it to my current relationship and what's going on. Either I'm like yeah I do that too... to every piece of "to-do" advice , or I'm like yeah I don't do that to "don't-do" to advice. Props to you Stephan for saying the last part about talking to God about it. I did 2 days ago when this video posted and came back to this video today and heard everything different this time. 🥰☀️✨ That masculine energy speaks nothing but the truth.
Current situation. So timely bro thank you. Both of my exes are in the music industry...you can imagine what im used to. This new guy is kind and great. But I still don't FEEL it. Divine feminine here 😩
what Mr. Stephan is saying is 100% true, I am currently working on that now ..... I met a nice guy, I know he loves me but I don't feel anything for him but comes this year I fell in love with him and we are now happily together
