True. I wish I could send it to my mum but she'll say kya jatana chahti ho ki hum tumhari parvarish acche se nahi karte? Why do they take everything so personally???
Indian parents: Stop playing sports, stop learning musical instruments, stop singing and dancing, stop drawing and writing, and asking questions. Focus on your studies and career. Also Indian parents: Why couldn't you be like that kid who got international recognition in sports, art, or scientific research?
u know it is harsh to say but our parents are hypocrates my parents crushed my dream of dancing they believe dance is bad thing to do and now i am just studying alone in the room without interest u know i can't be successfull in life because i have no interest in studying mujhe to maths samjh hi nahi aati kya karu bas failures hi mil raha hai sab jagah se what to do
Indian Parents : We love you so much that we don't allow you to go outside all alone, as we are afraid that anything might happen or even lose you. Also Indian Parents : (Honor kills their child for intercaste Marriage)
My mom also care ne but she can't understand my problem . She always compare to her childhood or my cousin...If I show her this vide then also my mom will doesn't understand pain of mine.... She scold so much I mean for the whole day non stop ...life of an indian kids is very tough
@@viraaj5546 my mom does the same, and you know my main problem is with studies, I am very poor at math, I don't have any teacher to teach me, my mom says when I was like you everyone was jealous of me because I was always first in maths ,and you!!
wont happen.. Parents still want to see cringe on TV serials. btw sometimes I wonder with so many OTT Subscription channels like Amazon Prime Zee 5, etc etc would regular Setup Box, Cable TV get outdated?
@@shubhamnarole3447 true. And movies like Udaan, Karwaan are like Guiding light.. they portray Exactly how fked things are. And we kinda learn that "Friends are Family" 😀
we can't show this to our parents nor will they understand... But lets just all work hard so that we could give our coming generation all that we could not get
I learned how to burry my wishes when i was 10... i still crave everything people do to be happy, to enjoy their life..people say i grew stronger.. but let me remind you.. i was a kid.. i didn't needed to be stronger.. all i needed was to be loved.. ~traumatized teenager
hey your comment stuck with me so i am writing this .. i also learned to bury my wishes when i was a child from then till now, as a kid i wanted to go to school picnics with my friends they never let me , now even if i am older and more mature they wont let me go anywhere with friends , i asked for permission every time they denied and being the obedient person i am i never went anywhere without their permission , this has happened so many times that the 2-3 friends i had , they have also stopped asking me to go anywhere ,they just go themselves while i watch their status; i crave for the ability to be happy unapologetically ,to love someone truly and to experience things people normally do , will i be ever able to do that i don't know but i hope people like me and you get the courage to make ourselves happy and content even if we have buried our wishes long long ago. plus: you write really well :)
How many of the people watching this almost cried or cried somewhat or went into a puddle of thoughts? This tells it all in itself... Edit after 2 years: my god, i wish i could hug each person in the replies... all i wanna say is that stay strong and find ways to deal with it cuz parents have a lot of pressure and expectations! They love you but they don't know parenting, most don't. That ruins many things for some children but hey... rely on endurance for the time being. Learn more about what you want to do in life. Adjust, plan and focus. Eventually you'll respectfully earn your way out as you grow up. Forgive your parents for those big and little things. Tough love 💕
Am literally crying rn watching this video... came here after my dad told me these mobile phones and laptops will spoil my future after seeing my eyes red and not knowing they were red cuz I have common cold rn
Ur times are different meaning u have ur own right and privacy in your own time no one is there to stop u,or nothing is there to stop you ur aim is to be a best competitor in education in your times,but in our time is different Games and social chat are virtual so we need technology and own right to grow our nation,I know older generation are experienced people but not a puzzel solver,u believe what people and society will say nor think ones it is good or not. ~Don't believe anything blindly first get your answer then react.
No one apart from kids will watch this even after 3 years. We are taught to be brave but never been taught how to handle dejection, and failure. Dear parents, I really wish this pops up in your FB or yt feed someday, so that you know we really are not okay.
I am 14 and in this age also 🥺 no happiness every time my parents compare with other one they study better than me they look better and they say I am useless I am a big zero I am putting this comment while 😭crying no one talks with me but the only relief is my school have many friends play a lot talk a lot love school but when I came to house depression again I feel very alone every time i always taking phone and sitting in a room I wish I wouldn't born in the world how good it be but I started too study and hardworking for better future without depending anyone I won't give up they are also getting old don't forget mom and dad....
"Often at 3 AM , a strange thought keeps me awake" ...this line almost brought me tears! Insomnia due to depression and overthinking has become an unconditional, unspoken epidemic that our generation is left to deal with..
....nd somebody else is better than your cousin sister, this might be said by her parents too... So what does it means that your cousin is better or worst... The answer lies is in eyes of parents, remember that quote a man on cycle desires to have motorbike while man on motorbike want to have car , but the best person is the one who says "o thanks god atleast i have legs so i can move"
I got into a govt med collge, but my cousin is in AIIMS, she is preparing well for PG entrance, I can't keep up, and everybody be like look at her and study like her...
I still remember when in a heated argument I told my parents that I had depression, and then they said that I have clothes, money etc etc. Then why will I have depression? Since then never talked with them about my mental health. I have a lot of mental health issues, with depression, deja vu and suicidal thoughts being the main. Thankfully I have got super supportive friends and BTS with me who never let me suffer alone :(
You are so true... When I told my mother about my mental health she said “what depression you have.. You get what you want you have money, phone, cloth and still you have depression ” Since then I started to talk limited to them... They have been abusing me with their words that feel like a deep cut on my heart.. My mother.. She has no time to talk to me but still loves to talk to her husband who had been cheating on her since 8 years and she knows that... They always compare me to other children despite the fact that I'm a good student.. My every teacher praises me but still my mother never had a good word for me I'm 19 but now I crave for a happily married life and my children I have decided that I'll study hard and get a nice job and I'll run from here forever
I feel bad when my parents say that we have given you everything you want but still you are not showing any good results. What results! What you have given me? The things I didn't required were given to me. The only thing I want is freedom to do what I love and not pressure of studying I know studies are important but I am trying hard to excel in it. I am trying my best in it and even if I do good in it they don't care but if I get bad marks they will be the first one to speak up.But have you genuinely asked me what I want to do ? I am sorry if I have written something wrong in this but this is how my life is going on these days. I am just a teenager. After writing this maybe I feel better.
9th Standard mein hai, padh le, youtube na use kar, nahi hogi dikkat, kahi problem ho samjhane mein, toh sidhi Tarah se reply kariyo, I'll try my best to explain you parents point of view, and career browsing :)
I showed this video to my father and in the middle of watching it, he pushed away the phone and said "Will these kids teach me parenting?" 🙂 I'm shocked to see so many people like me in the comments are facing the same thing. I've been going through emotional abuse by my parents since childhood and it has only increased since my teenage. Most brown parents are toxic, no doubt we've all grew up from childhood trauma. May we heal and not pass it on the next generation.
The reality is, there's hardly differences between parents of different nations. It's just shown that India bad, Indian parents know nothing, this and that. It's not like that. Also, why are you buying what are this influencers saying, if your aim ain't being influencer.
You sound mature. So please don't generalize all brown parents. And, perhaps, by showing this video to your dad, you could've hurt his ego. Let's understand that parenting skills is a trigger topic for most, if not all parents of teenagers. Because teenagers are not the only ones who are struggling with their responsibilities, feelings and countess decisions to be made that could drastically change the course of their future. The parents too are struggling with the transition from parenting a kid to parenting a young adult. Anyways, I hope you will not give up on trying to communicate with your dad because of this incident.
My parents don’t mentally abuse me or anything but sometimes my grandma or my dad or mom and sister say something that hurts me so much i start thinking bout suside
More than the video, the comment section shows the mental health issues this generation is facing. And not only mental health issues but the effects of generation gap rooting day by day in our society.
Sad part is this video will only be watched by people who desperately want their parents to understand this. And it will just make them cry for a bit and that's all maybe. But yeah someone staring in the screen might think thank god I am not alone ❤️and that's awesome. But I seriously hope we try to send this to our parents.
Isn't it amazing that we're the generation jo apne bachchon k saath woh kabhi nhi kregi jo hamare parents ne hamare saath kia ?! Ps - I'm glad we don't hold that thinking !!
This too shall pass😢, have been going through depression and anxiety more than a year,when i confessed this to my father he said "you are shedding crocodile tears" & he said jaa mrna hai toh mar nah😢😢
My parents think I am mad I have a disturbed mind cause I don't behave in the way they do. I start crying out of nowhere and howl and laugh without any reason. I am all alone in this world and I do talk to people that I created by my mind. I helps in releaseing all my traped emotions all in a burst
Brooooo!! Don't worry AT ALL!! We should pull ourselves together and just be happy!! Ik it's hard, but still worth a try! Just get away from your parents or leave the room whenever they talk shit to you..... Cuz I have the same situation for 2 years and I'm still fighting.... Good luck! ❤️
My parents and family made me think I'm mad and I ended up having a nervous breakdown. I'm an autistic transwoman and they don't understand. It makes sense that our mental health suffers as a result of receiving all these false messages about ourselves. It might make us feel less alone if we connect and talk to each other more. Anyone who wants to talk to me is welcome to message me on facebook. Take care everyone.
You're not alone. I;m depressed as hell. They have trapped me for an year in my own house. Its been 1.5 year and they wont allow me to meet my friends or invite any friends to my house. They just want me to get married to any random guy. And constantly rant about how good other kids are and how lucky other parents are. They dont even let me study and crack the exam. All I hope is to die. All I imagine is killing myself. I dont know how I am controlling myself right now.
Honestly seeing this bring me in tears. People say that daughters are loved by their father the most and a father can never bring tears in her eyes. Whereas in my case my father is only one who always brings tears in my eyes. Ps : I really want to share this with someone but i can't. Writing this make me a little less burdened.
Same here.. I even stopped talking to them.. I don't even feel like to see their face.. It's impossible to change them... I hope everything will be fine one fine day
@@sheena221 I can understand you.. Our happiness is in our hand.. You are doing great in your life that's important.. Who are facing these kind of problems only they can understand that.. Not every parent is good.. Because of ego, society, etc etc they will ruin their own children's life.. I want to marry the person I love but my family is so into all stupid society that they are not even caring about my happiness.. I have decided to do what I want to.. You are already an independent women .. ✌🏻
Try to journal your emotions. But don't write a script. Write in points.....once written....burn the paper and affirm "I let go all of this from my life now". Try doing it every Monday, Tuesday or whichever is your favourite or used to be a favourite day and repeat every week. Once, you've burnt the paper, start writing afresh till you reach the next burning day. Read all the points (your emotions may react to the reading) but then burn them while you affirm and imagine them going away. May seem like a task.....but do it for your own self. The best thing of being selfish is taking care of oneself amidst people who are hell bent and adamant to hurt you intentionally or unintentionally. All the best!!!
I am feeling very blessed that i have parents who understand my problems... I was recently depressed due to some issues... My family was there for me... Thank you bhagwan🙏 Hare krishna🌸
This video makes me soo sad.. I came here after searching how to legally separate from your parents... I just can't with my mom... She always physically, mentally and verbally abuses me.. She always calls me a slut and say that she wishes that I would get rapped by 10 men and they will tear me apart.. I mean that's her what she wants for me.. She has always slut shamed me, that's why I never talked to any boys in my school cuz I thought what if this guy calls me for some work and my mother caught me talking to him, she would literally beat hell out of me.. My father does nothing.. . I have no friends who I can share what I go through everyday.. She also say that I am a burden for her and everything happens because of me.. I am preparing for jee 2021 and my exam is in 2 weeks and I have to go through this everday of my life.. I wish to get a good college so I can be away from home as much as possible... Also I wish no one ever gets a mother like mine..
@@kargo1843 Hey human I'll pray a very safe and secured environment for you... I can feel this coz I've this same situation and my dad says nothing and IT IS SO FRUSTRATING anyways I hope you leave your shitty family soon. More power to you🌻💛🌟
The fact that we are fighting battles silently My parents think that I don't have any ability to move forward in my life They don't know how they are affecting me
My parents always play victim, in the reality they'll be the one hurting and demoralising me. As a result I started sleeping more due to stress for which also they started adding insult to the wound. It affected my study plans, future plans everything which added more stress to me.And they still keep doing the same demoralising talks
But remember your parents intentions are never bad The case maybe that your parents have a wrong way of showing their intentions All they want is a good life for you Try to come in an agreement with them Things will sort out 👍
Society reputation is more important for them than child's hard work. I remember I studied hard for my maths exam in half yearly but got only 7 marks more than passing marks. The way they compared me to my cousin without understanding my problems in studying maths as if my life is dependent on those marks. I literally cried a lot.
Kyuu tmhre parents kyu daatenge tmko.......tm jaao na apni mummy ke paas galee lgaa lo unko orr roo loo jee bhaar ke......bata doo unkoo jo bhi maann mei ho......kah do ki bhouutt dukhi ho tm......tmhre parents pathhar dil ke hain kya jo tmhri aisi halat dekh kr bhi tmko datengee☹️
@@priyanshisingh162 may be yes because wo too khte h tum mere ko daily tourcher kr rhi ho just because mai ko wo bilkul nii psnd jo wo bolte h krne ko and ite years se unhe follow kr rhi Ab nii hota to unke nzr mai badtameez ho gye aur jb khti hun duniya ko dekhye aisi nii h kuch to smjhye mere friends k parents bilkul v aise ni h mummy to wo khti h k tumne saare khrb dost bna rkhe h cousin ko dekho uske jaise unke friends v kitne ache h aur ek tum ho too maine kha exchange kr le too khti h kr leti krne ki chiz hoti too kya kru literally I don't know bs dil krta kash kisi trh is duniya se skip hoke ache duniya milti jha koi judge nhi krta kaash but anyways chodo aap...
Today I I abuse by my father and my mother also support him.... I just left the room as soon as possible.....that time I control myself to cry but when I see this vdo I cry very hard....good luck me
As a parent to a 22 year old handsome young man, my message to all parents is that as a parent pls love your kids for what they are, not mould them into your expectations. They are a individual with their own feelings, own opinions, own unique strengths , and different challenges than yours. Embrace them for what they are and see the difference it makes in your relationship. They are not your “property” for you to show off to relatives or to be compared with any other individual. They are God’s unique gift to you and god doesn’t duplicate any of his creation so why compare??
I wish I had much confidence to tell this all to my parents. My mom doesn't understand me and my dad isn't interested in me. I only have a friends whom I talk with regarding all of my problems. My parents read my chats and then tell me that I am humiliating them. What shld I do then. I cannot afford to bottle up my feelings. Due to petty misunderstandings, I get beaten, get bleed and get get humiliated by my own parents. I hear them telling how ungrateful I am just cuz Im living on their money. I really wanna end my life. I don't want to live in this pain.
And the fact is 90% viewers are not parents instead us and even if we want we will end up not sharing this video with them. Just felt the goosebumps and thought abt the parallel world and yep we are hit by the reality again.
I m a parent whose son is suffering from mental illness. Trying to understand him and his illness. We both are supporting him. It's difficult to digest yet but trying my level best to understand.
Today but not Today infact everyday I felt very weak without u (parents). Feel alone having parents instead of it feels alone. Today i search specially for videos like this " how to live life without parents support" and I got this video full of my feelings. Very golden words from heart ❤😢.i don't know why parents always aspect to us why they never think what we want😔
I wish our parents could really understand this, we all don't even have courage to show them to our own parents who brought us to this world, we don't have courage to share our emotions with them. 🙂
Trust me I am graduated, failed an exam even though passed all of my semesters in great way. But it’s just not parents , it’s the relatives the known people who are telling my parents that your daughter is nothing … their friend daughter have done something… AND THE conversation begins ,comparison , naak katwa di etc etc.. Although those relative child faced failure at same point but just being a girl and especially single girl .. Failure always means that I am weak..
My fellow generation, after watching all the negative comments that we can't talk to our parents about this, one thing to share. Be happy that, atleast you won't be like this; so this means your future kids will be happy that you were there. You'll be there and you'll understand them! right? Don't end up being the same parents then !! :')
This made me cry soooooo bad 😭😭! I pray that this video reaches to literally every. Indian. parent. I have realized by now that mental health is one of the biggest jokes in our country. Parents use things like 'Mann nhi lag rha? Jao beta, thode der bahar ghum kar aao" (as if 'bahar ke log' are going to listen to my problems....as if the trees, the streets, the shops and animals are going to listen to my problems", then they say this classic thing while looking at your lil old pics, "Tab kitni acchi dikhti thi. Chehre pe humesha hasi, padhai karne ka mann. Aur abhi dekho kaise dukhi aur bor rehti hai, humesha kaam krna jaan pe aata hai" and they don't care to know what makes you sad. 😔😔😔 Really an excellent video 👏🏽👏🏽
It's extremely sad that 2020, global pandemic and economic crisis was needed to shift our focus on one of the most sensitive topic like "Depression". And it hurts even more to realize that parents, especially Asian or might I say Indian parents (barring a few) consider depression to be a phase and compare it with being sad. Irony is...many suffer in silence, very few fight it out on their own and triump, while the rest....are forced to take a drastic step, instead of given a helping hand when needed. P.S: Once again, beautiful video shared by Brut India. ❤
thanks to Yotube, at least we are getting a channel to write/ share. That itself is reasuuring, and helps us become cheerful. Melodious music does the rest :)
not just depression , mental health in general. what makes me so sad is , if we really want to tackle mental health , the science is overshadowed by religious faiths like "stars , chakras " and all. don't know why parents have no problem believing faiths than actual science.
I told my father about mental health condition and he thought it of joke and mocks and laughs about it. He doesn't care about anything rather than himself. I wish my father had understood and cared for me
I think our parents are also suffering, but they have been taught to ignore the suffering and traumas and they have learnt to live with it and now they are expecting us to do the same.The thing that I have learned for my experience is that our parents don't consider our problems to be problematic because according to them we are living the life they ones dreamt of. There is a line in the book "think like a monk " -'you cannot be what you can't see'. Our parents don't understand our problems because they think that they have given us everything that ones they wanted but they couldn't have it so we must be very happy to have what they didn't have, because of this mentality they totally ignore or may be don't realize our level of suffering. I think parents are not the only ones who need to talk to us but we also need to talk to them about their struggles because the suffering and traumas they are carrying in their heart has become they reason of our suffering.
dude I asked my father about his childhood ..in conclusion I understood outsiders were only people from whom they got criticised not from parents....and most importantly I understood they don't think as we think .I mean we get it emotional but they didn't..its not like I am saying we are emotionally weak but I am saying our parent's generation nature was like that and so we are different from them that they can't understand us. But dont u think these tv shows and movies are making parents toxic.I mean in India don't know about countries.
@@studyhard7539 sach mein hamre parents kaa nature humse Boht alag hai ...hamri soch alag hai.... Tv shows nahi but yeh yt vlogs ne beh unko ghumraha kar rakha .....log Ghar kaa kaam , khet kaa Kam and gharelu kaam kaa vlog banate phir humse unka comparison hota roz 😢
if i send this to my mom, she be like "chappal kidhar hain meri. " ps, I am not trying to make fun of anyone's issues ..... but being a desi kid , I only make fun of my own mental health....that's the only way of skipping the pain for me
I psychiatry we call this as an ego defense mechanism called Humor,it's also an effective way of tackling Negative thoughts,other defense mechanism includes sublimation,ascertism,humor,altruism etc.
Most of you are talking about being 19/20 i am 28 and nothing has changed. Nothing will change. The best we can do is shift our focus and response. There is something called grey rock method please see how many of you can implement that. It has been helping me the last few weeks. Preserving energy is very important. We have lives too. If any of you have pets don't use them for comfort. Deal with the emotions and find something to do. I'm sure you'll pull through. Practice reiki, yoga. It took me a long time to realise all of this. I'm still struggling. My mother knows only how to scream. My father is afraid of everything. They think if i go out I'll come back drunk so they never let me go out during the day also. Nowadays i just go that's different. But all of these experiences have drained me out i don't care anymore. I don't wear make up. If i order food also they'll say i am selfish this that. Or they'll judge me for that. They judge me for spending money They judge me for the clothes I wear. If I'm in a good mood,oh we are scared of you it's hard to predict when you'll be happy and when you'll throw things . Could be true but it hurts to say and hear that. Depression is hard. Emotional abuse is hard. Whether you're a man or a woman, it's okay to cry but be strong. Please don't give up. There is light at the end of the tunnel. Girls, i know it's hard for us . We want to go out, maybe catch a movie, maybe meet boys, maybe even travel. I remember every single trip of mine my parents ruined. They called up the hotels they video called me 1000 times to know who I'm with where I am. They threatened me with colleague and manager names saying they'll call them. I wouldn't tell them about the trips. My fault .but still. My mom had literally told me she cares about my sister's safety more than mine so i don't think it's about safety its more about me not going out of control or having fun. My sisters are always quiet so that doesn't help. So i know it's hard girls. Fight ! Fight till you bleed! What doesn't kill you makes you stronger. Please also remember, Marriage is your choice. Hold on tightly. They will end up getting you married to someone like them. Listen to them only when it's necessary but be kind. I am sending all of you lots of love energy and strength. It brought me to tears to see how many people are going through the same thing. It's horrible..but we have each other and we have this space to open up. Instead of trying to change them we can hold hands and talk to each other. If you're feeling low just remember you're allowed to feel that way. Give yourself a hug and watch a funny movie. Listen to a podcast. Go for a walk. Enjoy your tiny moments that you have the freedom to do. Also remember many don't have food to eat! So give them some food! Let's Be grateful for whatever little we actually can do! All is well , darlings! Let's keep the comments section active. Thank you for reading. Christmas and New Year wishes to all of you. 2022 will be better, I promise☺️
Sad is that- I can’t even share with them.. After seeing this heart warming video their reaction still be like Ab ye sikhayenge ki hme kaise rhna hai Itne bde ho Gaye Jo smjhane chale aaye
We can't say this things to our parents because they are never going to understand this, at any cost... But I am glad and I can guarantee that our next generation would not need any video to communicate with us... We'll understand it as we have been through it :)
All we ever needed was someone who understood us. If we find that person in our partner, our parents have a problem but they themselves don't have the time to listen to us
Oh so we are not important? We don’t deserve to heal ourselves first? What about us? If we are not healed then most of them will repeat the toxic cycle. This is the truth and some of us never want to become parents because we are already too broken. You’re completely neglecting us. If we are depressed in teenage or early 20s then we should forget about ourselves and focus on next generation? What a crap! You can’t pour from an empty cup.
The things parents say hurts our feelings and they are even realising it ?? The one thing I always hear from my dad is" Are you studying ?;" " His ABC daughter got this much mark,he did this,he did that "; "What are you doing now "- My only answer to this question is I'm studying now ,even when I'm not,just to please him . And now I can't even share any of my problems openly because I have grown conserved keeping my problems to myself don't wanna share and saying it yay everything fine . I have regular headaches, cramping in legs, overthinking , Insomnia I don't even know I can say all these to my parents or not. What I fear most is their reaction after hearing, will they support me or keep blaming me that I'm not capable of ...! What I'm now thirsting to hear is that " Its okay " , " we believe in you, you can do it " they don't how impactful these words can be . But What is the use they only care what society says and not what we feel ...
@divyam verma if he/she feels like if they talk about there mental health with there parents and it won't sit well with them then I believe everyone should have an outlet where they can talk no?
@@aaham_asmi just talking is not sufficient in my opnion like old times people need to play small games like ludo , carrom enjoy the time spend be it in phone any form of social activity is a relief and solution in itself
I sometimes feel that few relationships like parents and child have been romanticized so much by society that even if you try to rationalize it, you're frowned upon. Do we not say that there were glaring gaps in our upbringing that messed us up big time?
I'd say, what she's saying is true. I used to think I'm depressed, but when I realized that depression ain't real problem for people like me, who can change a lot by quitting social media, it vanished in 2-3 days.
Parents have always this notion that we born and brought you so its your duty to respect and comply. Personally,my opinion is that Common Indian Parents are most hipocritical people on earth, they mostly watch all reality shows,movies,lovestories,political news, sports but they will never want their kid to love married, become actors,join politics or sports.Even they are hipocritical in religous beliefs too, for example they want their kid to be like Lord Krishna in childhood,Lord Ram in teenage and Lord Shiva in married life, they can't even follow life of one diety for whole life , because every diety had their life's pros and cons but Indian parents want their kid to be perfect. They don't know how much damage they do , when they force their kids and also don't support when needed.
When I was thinking, as if our parents are going to get it anyways, the comment section already has a lot of screaming souls like me. It's like a consolation prize though, WE ARE IN THIS TOGETHER.
Ok this video was just in my recommended and I watched it. Every single point hit me hard. Every single one of them. I was almost on the verge of tears listening to this and feeling how much it related to me. Thank you so-so much for this video. I think it is so important that this happens and we start an important conversation.
