Then listen up...If all kids/youths/girls together make a stand at home , then it will soon become known to parents that times have changed like it has say in UK and THAT is what they don't want. You are by now old enough to be respected as mature enough and that's why all those on here are stating the same problem.. Sorry but its control. I know of this. I ended up running away and I am Not saying do the same. None of us want to loose our families do we .. It now starts with you to change things and be recognised as an individual and I'm afraid you have to take hold of yourselves, be upright and state your points. If nothing changes, nothing changes, I realise it's a way of life and how things are the done thing and all the villages are allowed to have a say in everybody's movements like a chutney plate but Why? You may want to aspire in this life,. yes always respect your parents but when do you get some of that.. Blessings are enclosed
@@lalitchauhan9421 I can't understand your situation since I'm still in 12th and not contributing financially .but since upsc is the toughest exam in india I can surely understand the pressure on you .I'm sure you will crack it one day.
@@joykumarchoudhury1758 your exams or whatever your problem is not worth your life. If you don’t like something, quit it and do something else. It’s that simple. Don’t overcomplicate by listening to others. It’s your damn life, not others.
And now I'm crying while hiding my face so that my parents don't see me crying. Just because you talk to them doesn't necessarily mean they understand your heart.
@@josephstalin4385lol honestly this idea is fucked up but it's true. I don't think I'm gonna feel a lot of pain when they die. And trust me, I genuinely am trying to care about it but atp... I don't think I do. I just want it all to stop. I'm mentally drained.
Talking to your parents sometimes doesn't do shit, instead things take the worse turns!!! Some parents don't want to believe in mental wellbeing, they think of it as a taboo. In such a situation, things will only get worse. Better see a therapist instead!
The fact that we would be doing that shit to our children 😂 Do you know how hard it was to survive during quarantine?! * binge watches Netflix not even sure of the days that passed *
If I become a parent, I'll make sure my child isn't alone crying in their room at 3am, and if they ever vent to me I'll make sure I dont taunt them for being weak and vulnerable for the rest of their life....
@@archanadubey9878they're absolutely right archana!! because how could you??? ofc oil in my nose is way more important than me all ugly crying alone in the dark.
@@ddaeng._.8473 lol most of my life I was the "weird kid" so was just left out alot if the time. I used to come home and cry cuz of that but my 'rents just told me to say stuff back to them and told me that it would pass. Kinda gave me that feeling of "nobody understands " so now I barely share with them anything lol.
Agreed... I'll make sure I'll never be narcissistic to them cause they don't deserve it. After all, I was the one who brought them to the world so this is the bare minimum I would do.
shut up they dont know you they just say it like that GO TALK TO YOUR PARENTS AND DONT EVER EVER EVER EVER DARE TO THINK ABOUT SUICIDE COZ LIFE IS AMAZING!!!sorry for the harshness but love to you always...and be happy and life a full life!
@@ishagarg8651 talking to parents is not easy for everyone. i guess for most children..saying it like this and making a video that parents are understanding is very bold of them. well..everyone has a different story, so normalising "talk to your parents" is not the correct thing..
"Will it even matter if you give up" You know we are collectively doing something very wrong if an entire generation tears up at these words. P. S: I did. I know you did too.
I have been thinking a lot and always come to the conclusion that nothing will change if I give up on life but it’s not true. Things will change permanently all because I couldn’t fight back. But ending my life would definitely send a message for the other people who are struggling to cope, they might get help
I cried a lot watching this. Many of us can't to talk to anybody, but those who are reading this and feel the same, make a vow with yourself today that you would try to become better parents than we have.
They don’t know to express @Niharika Kumari just like anybody else... they are also learning..this is the first time they have become your parents...give them a chance:)
But our mind is real so everything in it (thoughts, anxiety, depression) are also real. Wounds that don't visibly bleed or show doesn't mean that they don't cause pain
@@rituparnagupta5923 i wish i could explain it to them. When they have a problem , depression becomes real , but when i say i have a problem , they think its fake. Dude my mother beat me just because i requested her to go to psychologist .
@Sourav Singh but as long as we are aware of it, we can do a better job at it. Maybe not our generation at large. But you and I can be a little more conscious of our words and actions around our children.
I agree! We shouldn't repeat the same mistake. In my case I think it was a two way effort, they did encourage communication but were not necessarily open to everything. I started taking bit by bit, making them understand me slowly not all at once. So yeah closing that gap takes years
@@tastytiletactician271 X to doubt. Don't you think your parents had the same thoughts. History has taught us time and time again, new rule always adopts the old ideologies. When your children make the same mistakes you made and behave the way you did, then you will too act as your parents did. Times change the the memories and thoughts do not.
It actually exists in Indonesia. They don't give couples marriage license till they complete government's free course covering Various topics like financial management, parenting etc. It should be implemented in India also
I cried my eyes out when uncle said we ask you how you are and even though you aren't okay, you say "I'm fine." I can relate to that so hard. My parents ask me how I am every evening and there are days I break down multiple times in but all I can say to them is "I'm fine."
@@2K20-x7v i m not sure about which depression this person is suffering from bt i m pretty sure from ur comment that u r an absolute jerk!!! Someone is addressing the fact that he/she are having a break down every now n thn.. n this is the kind of reply u have!! Shame on ur mentality.
Don't worry bro still talk to them i did it really it's work even my parents not that educated still they help me for my career they tell do what you want and be best for relationship i talk with my friend because they doing great never rush for intamecy that's why i talk to them really they explained me why first your emotional relationship important your career is important then financial stable then commitment and marriage intamecy i really see it's good and doing it feels great and so pure no emotion bagage and nothing pressure just has little pressure for financial indipendent and that worth it
The prerequisite to being vulnerable to someone is feeling safe and being understood, saying that 'koi toh hoga jo apko Sunna Chahta hoga' is undermining the struggle of an entire section who can't find that person and has to fend for themselves. Lauding those who do that daily...👏
Yeah I agree to that but those kind of people exists who will listen you whole heartedly but just the thing is that to find that person first look around if you can't change your surrounding and you will find them . Just have hope 😁
@@gregheffley4709 that's not a big prblm tho, I have really gud understanding parents( not flexing ) I.... m very sensitive and emotional That might be the reason Btw thnks for advice🤗
No matter what really don't be blind just watched shweetab Gangwar or even your friends relationship even watch people in good relationship and marriage and even watch people has breakup and divorce you get clear data if you know person more it's great than intamecy , intamecy is part of relationship but last part not first at first find better person talk them know them they are true or just lieing or even they are real what they show you to being gentleman know them if you feel comfortable then spend lots of time after that you realise you doing great or not if yes then after financially independent go for marriage if not then it's really little bit hard to move on but not impossible and after marriage intamecy is there now you know that person for many years your relationship going to survive in critical condition also ❤️
@@KamaldeepSingh7 in this context it means any friend or close one around not a stranger please understand what I mean first you're just looking at it with in perspective
Fact is : I lost my father when I was in 9th Standard....now I'm in 11th. These two years have been really bad for me, and somehow I think that my father was my source of inspiration. I'm ok now...but I really feel low sometimes. Thank you, all you wonderful actors and actresses for this video. This one really touched me.
When legends get to talking about mental health, they know how to make a speech pierce through one's mental fog. It still might not be enough for someone struggling, of grieving, but the crux of this video holds the absolute truth - SPEAK OUT, SPEAK UP!
Parents - we understand you After sometime - going back to the same mindset "Parents ka tarika galat ho sakta h but niyat galat nahi hoti" - kota factory The problem is that tarika hurts more than niyat ever can😌😅😂
Comparing their childhood and ours, comparing two of their children, praising others’ children, reminding us of the benefits we got in life courtesy their hardships and sharing their “worries” with our uncles and aunts these are some of the things parents do!!
We need to share this as much as we can so that it somehow get in the recommendations side of someone who think they are alone or thinks there parents dont love them.
Yes ! Be a parent like this ! Be that kid who understands their parents love language It’s tough but try it ( it’s not impossible for sure) To all the kids and to all the parents out there 🙏🏻 This is a Short +Sweet+ simple message!🙏🏻
An extremely beautiful video with a beautiful message.The actors did an incredible job of spreading the message with beautiful emotion and feelings. But I honestly hate it whenever they abruptly ends the video. It kills the emotions and really gives you a shock.
Lovely message. And i totally agree talking to parents may become awkward or they may scold you. But they are the people who will give you the best advice ever.
I found people writing *i had tears* and all, I was one of the most emotional peoples... And here I dunno what to cry about. AH! WHAT HAS TIME TURNED ME INTO😑😬. AB TO RO HI NHI PAATE 😂...completely stone hearted 😆
Reading all the comments about how there is some barrier emotional or otherwise when talking to parents about certain stuff, I realised how lucky some of us are to have such solid support at every point of life , Alhamdulillah. And also realised we can atleast try to give back, try be that support for someone who needs
But sometimes it is really not easy to be able to talk to someone about your feelings.....the most difficult thing is to find that someone whom you can talk to
This content is so beautifully place and presented... Still not able to find correct words to define this perfection. Hat's off to the artists and writer. 👏
When offline college has not open yet and Maharashtra govt has declared to take offline board exam from 23 april.... Govt has become so much irresponsible 😭
Just burst out crying because it has been so long and everything's so tough but I don't show it to my parents because they too have problems in their life but today when I cried like a baby they said "itna natak Kyu kar rhi hai. Kya tu Kuch overreact nahi kar rahi hai " Given up on hopes from my parents. Maybe the day I give up on my life will be the day they understand ki natak nahi kar rahi thi.
Nope... I tried didn't work They think their problems are soo prominent that my problems are just pink/blue teenage crap.... I don't have friends to feel pink/blue teenage crap.... And when I breakdown and open up to them they think I'm pms-ing. Not everything has to do with my periods! sometimes it's real raw feelings
There was a situation recently when I had 2 mock tests at the same time with completely different syllabus and we really got less time to prepare and I am one of the top students in my class . I told my mom that I am very stressed , I am not sure what will happen this time , I told her we got less time to prepare . All I wanted to hear was that " koi baat nahi beta kabhi kabhi aisa hota hain , but tu teri preparation chalu rakh ." but she literally took it like I was lying and said " aisa thodi na hota hain , exams toh aata hi hain tune hi padhai nahi ki hogi , pata nahi kya karti rehti hain room main padhti bhi hain ya nahi, agar ho nahi raha toh chodte de padhai , tujhe jo school main bhej rahe hain waha se nikal kar koi normal school main hi bhej denge." I started crying and she was like " thodi thodi baat pe roti rehti hain aisa kya keh diya maine , ab maa ho tu bolu bhi nahi kya". She is just BAD .
Do not talk to your parents about EVERYTHING. Especially if they have a track record of behaving like the portrayal in the beginning of the video. Find a good therapist. Get help. For those who don't have the resources for finding a mental health professional, find support groups online. Find a place where people will give you advice from a fairly neutral and scientific point of view. Relying on parents for all the guidance in life, especially in a highly orthodox and constricted society like India, leads to carrying forward of generational toxicity and old dangerous patterns and thoughts.
I have been through hard time.....and will probably be through more......well i am not sure if i am fully recovered from it yet but still at least i feel stable. Till class 10 my mum was like a parent to me but over the course of last 3 years she developed in my bestest buddy, its not always possible to directly tell her what and how i fell but i give her clues enough.......i m really happy to have got such a great mum and too my fellow soldiers fighting their own battles of life DO NOT GIVE UP.....its hard but always remember....... no battle is ever easy and..... if it is hard for us it should be our duty to make it easier........and give our future generation a better way and teach them not just how to top in class (doesn't really matter) but also how to top in life :")
Gentle reminder : talk to someone, friend, parents, cousins, anyone who you trust. Keeping your emotions in your mind wont help you out, but venting them out will... ♥️
