A Narcissist Doesn't Care About Your... 

OMG the having to comfort them for the situations they created... 😮

I couldn't believe that people like this actually exist...until I was IN IT! The past four years of this treatment made me, now, NOT TRUST ANYONE. He's gone and NO MAS!

I’ve been there .. walked away on time ❤ thank God , I saw thru things soon , I respect and love myself enough to see thru 💕

I really needed to hear this right now. I have to toughen my resolve, walk away and never turn back.

There are maybe two times as many borderlines as narcissists. Talk about them too please. And NO you should not feel sympathetic for their trauma. Its actually mostly genetic and if dating in this world people need to be informed of the trap they spin.

I wish I'd known these things 28 yrs ago.

Thank you Jimmy .. so helpful

This is DEF ONE OF YOUR TOP 10! Brutally honest with compassion, hard words said with kindness, difficult things to hear said by someone who truely cares....ty...left my abuser 4 years ago and have NEVER looked back! Being single is waaayyy better than being "stuck" in abusive relationships...and not just physical, mentally, verbal, emotionally , neglect and financial.....ty God for freedom and courage

"You never have to abandon yourself in order to feel loved and accepted and valued in relationship" 🕊

I'm watching and listening and my eyes are wide and I'm saying yes over and over. I walked away in June 2020. Being in the relationship left me with long term illnesses. I believe it triggered fibromyalgia. I'm stuck with it for the rest of my life now. My life, despite illnesses, is good and I've remained single since I walked away.

They're SO not interested... cause "that's a YOU problem" 😂

I feel and deeply understand what you are saying, yet i keep on fighting my truth somehow. 😢 Thank you for guiding us. ❤

I really needed this today. My mother stopped talking to me last year when my grandmother died on my birthday and she reached out to me this morning trying to act like nothing has happened between us.

I am 59 and just can’t find someone that wants a relationship anymore. Men my age all want friends with benefits or just sex. They can’t hear you or should I say just don’t care. So I’m coming to terms that I’m ok being alone.

That's part of the thing... boundaries don't work when they're just threats and you don't change your behavior to demonstrate your belief and conviction in your own worth... when you just feel bad after a breach, but stick around and just complain that 'they don't care' ... I finally figured out - why would they when they see you still there 😮 If you don't value you and advocate for you, why would they 😮

❤ I needed this reminder

Dang. Truth just slapped me in the face.

It's my mother

Thank you, a very powerfull message. Who ARE you? You're like a hidden inner voice, or an angel of peace❤

Am I a narcissist if I seek videos like these out? I am also seeing a therapist currently. My partner and I have hurt eachother in the past but are doing much better now. I'm worried that I have some narcissistic tendencies. I feel like I don't care enough about my partner

Does this apply to friendships? If i have a friend who exhibits all these traits, but i dont want to stop hanging out with... is it all the same?

The thing that really ended it for me was that he told me, just before I broke up with him, “your emotions grate on me.” Not my actions. Not anything I could have said or done. Simply having emotions was too much for him. And, being a highly sensitive person my emotions are not only integral to who I am as a person, but one of my favorite things about myself. Im so grateful I don’t have to deal with his cold, calculating, manipulative heart anymore and can finally be myself again.

What if both have narcissistic tendencies?

Thank you for reminding me why I'm out!!!

The timing on this one

How should we view someone who apologizes, even in writing, but repeatedly engages in the same harmful behavior? Does that apology hold any real value if it's not followed by meaningful change?

Thank you so much for this video.

Gaslighting...walking double standard...projecting their own self-hate....I don't understand why you suddenly made this political video about Donald Trump 🤔

I started to send this to my very narcissistic ex, the I realized, she'll just flip it to where I'm the narcissist, and he is talking about me!! Classic manipulation.

Every time my husband asks me how I’m feeling and me opening up and telling why I’m feeling what I’m feeling, in a kind way, the response that almost always follows is “yeah but what about me? You are not the only one feeling this way?! “ and then he starts speaking about himself, my eyes get wet because I want to cry and then he gets even more emotional towards me. I don’t get why he has this reaction? Why would you ask someone about their feelings if you don’t care ? Can anyone explain me this?

Perfectly described 💯‼️Thank you for your empathetic mission and your dedication to this community 🙏🏼😌🙋🏻‍♂️

Thank you, Jimmy... You have been a blessing, and a safe place to reassure myself, get some strenght back to get up and keep going, and learn. God bless you... 🙏🏽

I appreciate this man cares for me

When they get angry with you because you reacted towards something hurtfult they said. The bible tells us what true love is in 1 Corinthians 13: 4-8 .. thats how I knew they didn't love me.

I've been navigating this for 18+ months. What happens when they call you out on gray rocking and disengaging, projecting onto yoh that you're the reason the relationship is dying?

This is the best expressive example of what I have ever been able to hear, and know for sure that I was not the abuser. Finally! Thank you so very, very much for speaking for me. I don't feel as imprisoned and guilty now.

"I'm not a good girlfriend" 🙄 I got so sick of hearing that every time I brought my feelings up. But now that it's over and I've had time to self reflect and study the situation - No, no you weren't a good girlfriend.

I want to thank jimmy for his videos that have really helped in my self-help journey, and I can't thank him enough

It has been 30 years. I have been destroyed. There is no way I can leave and be able to take care of myself now. You are right. But too late for me.

I struggle alot when people say i deserve better , cause my mind always goes immediately to " oh thats what they say to everybody, hes a mental health expert hes forced to say those things" But i guess that if we are the ones looking at this videos and not seeing them with our partner or our relationship brought us to this video is sufficient empirical evidence that something is clearly wrong with our partner

Single now for 2 months after a 4.5 year relationship that you summarized in a 17 minute video. Thank you Jimmy. Your videos have helped me sort out my feelings and thoughts over the last few months because gaslighting, manipulation and emotional violence can make you lose perspective. Your videos are always to the point. I was so deeply unhappy for so many years and was firmly convinced that I was the problem. Yet I wanted to fix, heal, find solutions and did everything imaginable to save it. I finally understood everything and put it behind me. It felt like I had suddenly woken up. When I was ready to end the relationship, he ended it at that moment too, so it was a mutual separation. I left that to his ego too. But he didn't get the hug he wanted from me the day I moved out of the apartment we shared. It's not a separation on good terms, it's a peaceful separation. But there is no longer any friendship or trust. I feel so good now and my stomach pain is nearly gone since that day. I will recommend your videos to others. Best regards from Berlin 😊

I went "Grey rock" on him almost two years ago....why do I feel bad all the time now like I'm neglecting him.😕

My ex said, if you don’t like it, leave, so after hearing that over and over I finally did.

I just listened and cried and i know what i have to do but i am frozen and I'm not sure when i will choose me

i fell for a person because he seemed to be the opposite of adults and patters that i grew up with and had contact with growing up. but as soon as he started to change and his actions and behaviour started reminding me more and more of my father and sometimes mother, or other uncomfortable patters of behaviour i saw or experienced from adults growing up, i started to not want to be around him or interact with him more and more. he was becoming unsafe and my body was catching onto that before my mind. i made it clear to myself that if i ever will get attracted to a person it's gonna be the opposite of the people/adults i was growing up with

Even after you leave they won’t stop. When I have to interact with my ex after years together she cannot help herself but to find ways to add insult to injury with the things she says. Such as saying “remember it was your choice to leave” after being subjected to years of abuse and toxic environment making. In her eyes it’s still/all my fault that the relationship failed. Yet the very fact she refuses to stop to think about the words coming out of her mouth continues to reinforce that it is indeed intentional to some extent. It’s amazing how she can find a way of sidetracking the topic of discussion bringing it back to money in some means… it’s legitimately all she ever cared about 😢

I really appreciate you making this video.

My ex-narc actually did tell me how much he didn't care.

I definitely feel abandoned when i reach out and they hurt and shame me

"I guess I just can't do anything right"

Thank you for your videos.

You are such a gem

I don’t deserve this

I love you 💟❤

Thank you!

So true

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Does adhd look like narcissism?

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I found the true problem is not the narcissistic person around you. The true problem is why you are still holding on to those relationships?

I literally just finished meditating and journaling this morning where I wrote that I keep seeing the numbers <a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="671">11:11</a> and read that it could be the universe trying to nudge you. I also wrote that I was open to anything that came my way and would consider all possibilities. Then your video came up when I started my workout. 🤔