A Narcissist's Greatest Con Job 

They exploit you and then blame you for not doing enough for them. Playing the victim all the time is one of their biggest and most malicious lies.

Quote I read: Once you catch a narcissist cheating they never trust you again...

All we victims were: duped, conned, fooled, taken advantage of, used, played, devalued, gas-lit, trivialized, raged at, shut-down, soul-stolen, value robbed, lied to, gamed, love bombed, manipulated, dominated, blamed, shamed, silenced, given silent treatment, discarded, and dispended with, sold false goods and devalued. Yep, we all entered onto the field of fools in a game we never-ever wanted to play. Now, we know what we endured. We are people of peace! D-R-C is the only direction to go.

a narcissist is as shallow as a dried up pond but they portray themselves as mysterious and all knowing.

Who else has decided when they meet new People nowadays they are gonna sit back and observe for Signs of Narcissist? Life’s 2 Short 4 wasted time on Narcissistic.

If you don’t play the narcissists game, they threaten to take away the things you care about…your children, family, friends, food, shelter, transportation, job, etc.

Being conned is the fastest way to make a person feel foolish and ashamed. You never see it coming because you wouldn't con a person that way. Lessons learned Dr.C.

My ex-husband conned me into believing that he had a personality!

Greatest trick the devil ever played was to convince the world he didn't exist

The code of the con is to know just enough about everything so you can lie about anything. (attrib: E. Tancarville)

Worst part is they take advantage of well-intentioned people. I studied mother narc my whole life until her death. Please don't say "I am sorry for your loss". I am not sorry. Narcissists are progressively eviler as time goes by until the end. It is like real life "invasion of the Body Snatchers". If not for Dr. C. and Gus, I don't know where my head would be. Thank you Dr. C. Still very angry, but healing.

Everybody loves to help; Nobody wants to be taken advantage of.

"And in the end you are expendable" so painful to hear that but so true.

I became the Boo Boo to his Yogi Bear, and I was so, so lonely I thought his way was normal. After a few years, I knew it was his way or the highway: his control was extreme. Many years later, I got woke up from my stupor of just accepting his narrative, pretty harshly. It was the best thing bc I had to realize I could NOT FIX our marriage. He never thought, or worked on making our marriage better. He always put the kids first, before our marriage. When I woke up, I realized his " nice" facade, hid such a deep, black, empty soul. It's so damn sad. I thought we'd grow old together, but he was an illusion, and his narcissism screwed our kids up, so badly. He was my family, but I don't go with his program anymore, and when he realized that, he walked away without a backward look. He was committed to HIS way, and changing or addressing all of his trauma issues, was NOT on the menu!! We . Did. Not. Matter. Enough. For that to happen. Narcissism is just a tragedy getting played over and over in way too many families. God Help us all.

My ex narc conned me. He acted so amiable and pleasant at first, but he isn't. He's high strung, inconsiderate, prone to outbursts, etc. Little by little insults began, demands made, criticism unleashed, etc. I never knew what hit me, just that I had no peace and life was no longer fun.

Narcissist have the desperate need to be needed. They don't want your love, they want to convince you that you cannot function without them and they call that love. Love says I want you. I cannot function/survive without you is obsession. They want you to be obsessed with them. They cannot stand people who do not need them who can function just fine without them, the idea that people who can function without them even exist is insulting to them.

I specifically asked my narcissist friend not to record me when i was singing. I play the guitar and sing sometimes. Not that great but fun, creative, and healing for me. But, she recorded me anyway. And that was a big red flag for me. This was my college friend that i told you about. Now since I've let her go, or tried to, she wants to talk. But i told her no.

Con artist and gaslighting sums it up!

Content is on point. Being ”spiritually empty", allows them to be dismissive and contemptuous with ease.

They need someone to fight with because they have dark broken souls. If they couldn't harm anyone they'd eventually shrivel up and die. They crave that narcissistic supply. It's like a drug to them.

They’ll use your ideas and pass them on as they’re own. If confronted with that, they immediately blame you for needing the attention. Don’t fall for it. You won’t win the argument because they’re experienced at their games, so going forward, share your good ideas with anyone but the Narc! It’s unnatural to those of us who are natural helpers with no hook, but shift your help to others who won’t cause you problems later.

For a few months, I spent $250 a session with a therapist who confirmed my suspicions about my parents narcissism. The validation and confidence she instilled in me helped me to move forward. Watching your channel, Dr. C, is my continuing education. Thank you, from the bottom of my heart, for your good work.

Simply getting others to believe them about anything ever.

"Con Artist"...EXCELLENT choice of words💯

Any living being they can diminish and devalue will do. Spouse, friends, children, pets, you name it! And while doing so, the con artist robs some good energy and leaves you shattered and empty. Thanks Dr C for reminding us that a good soul elevates itself by lifting others ❤

This talk is especially good, had to listen twice. They won't listen to your heart, check. They don't seek out your feelings. They don't want to have to hear anything that might reflect in any way on them, or that mean take responsibility.

And it can make me feel so stupid! When I get home and realize, that was me being played! And I didn't get it until afterwards! 😤😤😤 I think I need to not be angry with myself. Thank you🎀 Peace Siri

I’m relatively new to learning how to deal & heal from dealing with the pain from being constantly taken advantage of by a narc. I’ve foolishly believed showing love, forgiveness, respect,compassion,empathy……..all the things that are right at the core of who I am would change him……well it won’t change him ……but i won’t let it change me either! I just need to learn to move on where people are genuine & who appreciate being real not fake . Deep down I know what I know I have to take my blinders off & stop blaming myself about everything . Sad & struggling….sure I am but I’ll get there .

“Honesty is optional” is so true. And they just want control. Great video. Love Gus💕❤💜💕

The con job is the very essence of their pathology. Adding this video to my list of foremost materials.

The confidence game is the source of the future fake trickery! See it as soon as possible! Dr. C., There are so many of us who genuinely appreciate you and your team's time and effort in putting together all of these videos and source materials! And of course the company of the therapy dog...Gus. Thank you again.

Thank you!!!! I know many people who attend churches who do not have the fruit of the Spirit, instead they lack empathy and kindness, adhering to their own rules and expecting everyone else to follow their rules that God never gave. Galatians 5:22-23 "22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23 gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law."

Well, there are narcs who are helping others… its the motivation that counts: they want the glory and praise as if they are God , helping you 🤢

The narcissists to Team Healthy: I DON'T CARE! Team Healthy to the narcissts in response: Yep! We, know!

Once again, Dr. Les Carter you nailed it, and I can relate. It’s so helpful to know that I’m not alone. It just feels so scary at times to know that they can use any means necessary, including legal means, to intimidate and enforce their supremacy.

Foolishly met one online. As soon as I was real he hurt me. Empty indeed. All I wanted was a friend to talk with. Definitely no spiritual philosophy. A data collector. A dominator.

I have a Narco Brother and everything you mentioned has happened in our Relationship and sadly when I reflected back over our relationship, the transactional nature of interacting with him was definitely there and once I realized that he had this personality type, I was able to let go of my attachment and loyalty to a person that acts nothing like a brother to me and stop being a narcisstic fill to his games. Every time I invited my Brother out to dinner, he would always invite someone else without my permission and expect me to pay for him and his guest, which was usually a Girlfriend or some admirer who was just there to cheer him on, while I pay for it. Whenever I drive, he always rides in the Rear Seat like I'm his Chauffeur and talks on his phone to his friends like I'm not even in the car. Well, never again! I've caught on to his games and reclaimed my power and I hope that me overcoming my experiences will help others in their journey to healing, wholeness, and happiness again!

Doubt is a liar (and at times a rather convincing one) that would have us believe something less of ourselves so that we are kept from being the best of ourselves. (Craig D. Lounsbrough)

My wife left me a note saying she left state with my childre...i would never see them again...had the kids write goodbye notes....to teach me a lesson.....one example of cruelty on a daily bases

Sadly of late I have realised that all of my partners were passengers not partners. Took 63 years but I got there.

Con!!! Isn't a big enough word to describe a Narcissists. Using "CON" They are professional, because you really never know who they aren't at any minute.

This is what’s happening with an old college friend I have been making efforts to reconnect with, only to see that they are selfish, rude and uncaring. Not really getting any effort dignity respect or civility from them, so not wasting my time or energy anymore. Thank you ❤

"Narcissists desperately want to be somebody, wanna explain how life outta be." so true. "They don't trust people." yes. "Promoting themselves as the standard bearer." "They are ultimately empty on the inside.' "Portray you as a nobody." all this so much. ............But, first they believe their own lie. "Spiritually empty" -- yes, empty with respect to God and with others I would say.... Deep down, I have noticed, she hates herself though. It was so frustrating not to be able to help her. "Looking for dominance." It is rebellion and usurpation: the spirit of Jezebel (look her up).

can a narcissist still be a con artist at the age of 86? In many ways this narcissist has become nicer, and you get pulled in to think they have changed for the better.

I told her to write me a letter, because she always claimed that she was better at expressing herself in written form. But, she keeps insisting that i talk to her. I'm not going to. I know the circular word salad of these individuals, and I'm holding my ground. Thank you for your help.

Just subscribed, and after almost 40 years with this person. It's been a very hard and sad road. But having channels ,such as yours helps. It's my therapy.

I fell for a woman head over heels, then I found out the truth. My heart is broken, but I learned a lesson I will look out for, for the rest of my life

Freedom can be taken away! Knowledge will set you free! In fact knowledge is the foundation of freedom! Team healthy is testimony to the above!

Yes, they appear to be nice or rather sell themselves as such. I stopped giving away vulnerable information. I truly do not know how to be anything other than DRC now. Not sure why I said now lol, I’ve always been a person who is respectful of others and treat others with civility because I believe in integrity and accountability. I’m by no means perfect, can say that and work on doing better when I’m aware of others make me aware, not the narcissistic personalities, others who live by the honour code or moral compass.

I’d consider my (narcissistic ex) wife’s greatest con to be the counselor she met with for a few weeks, before bringing me into family therapy. I was read the riot act, and then was given a long list of goals to pursue, if I ever wanted this marriage to work. So, I started working on those goals successfully, and we never went back.

Zero sense of closeness ❤️‍🩹 narcissists don’t want intimacy just control

True about the *rage* 😮

Your video always come through with the right message at the right time. I am so grateful I found you. You have helped me get through the hardest times after 28 years

One can try to draw boundaries, but the deception and manipulation can still get better than that. You are up against professionals whose life is about destroying other people. That's what it seems like to me.

OMG. Narcissists are so similar to drug addicts too!

For the record- wishing both you, Gus and your family a pleasant afternoon and as well an amazing 🤩 evening ahead!

Dr. Carter I read your book When Pleasing You is Killing Me. It has helped me tremendously in dealing with a narcissist on a daily basis. Thank you so much for your videos and books!

I love the way you continue to bring out the different facets of narcissism to enable us to make sense of what is so often senseless. I've gone from 'expendable' to 'disposed of' but by reviewing the past, your videos bring out forgotten aspects of the situation...and that brings peace....all part of healing. Thank you Dr C 💜🐶⚘

Pure evil makes you love them first. Thanks for the vid and attention to this. God Bless all fellow victims out there...we are all better off and will enjoy independent success without the narc (the best counter punch)

My narc husband is super religious. Even after separation, he has been spending thousands of $$ in Christian therapy to prove that he is a wonderful, spiritual person!!! He sent me long texts to state his effort, instead of apologizing for his infidelity with 10+ women, gas-lighting, and lies. So ridiculous!

Wow, Dr. C., your summarization of the 'con job' done to someone had me thinking of the multiple scenarios that happened over the past 30 years of being with a covert, malignant, sociopathic narcissist. As you so eloquently described what a narcissist is all about, or 'not all about' when it comes to being a decent person, my mind was blown as I thought of everything that happened just as you say, but I never saw it like that then. This was another fantastic video of education that I will watch again. Now I see it. And once you see it, you can't 'unsee' it. When you remove yourself from all the emotion of it all, you are left to see a very empty person indeed...a con man plain and simple. Thank you again, Dr. C. ...and Gus! 💝

Ok.. I think I am going crazy… My daughters Mother in law talked and manipulated finances to enable her son, my daughter, and grandbaby to move 2 doors from her. She puts a wedge between my daughter and myself.. She is a Con! No one would think it.. but she disregarded my parent role when kids were dating in high school.. she has called me a narcissist, has raging anger- but is so sweet to everyone outside the home .. this makes my stomach ache and heart hurt… trying to stay in peace and dignity..

You have described the person I have been married to for 40 years to a 'T'. Through videos like yours, I finally have a name for it and know exactly what he is and I have a word (gaslighting) for what he has done to me for years. And the lying! Your videos are really affirming to me. I may not have a way out due to financial reasons, but now I feel no guilt in disliking him as much as I do. After a particularly hurtful and malicious incident in July, I have cut the emotional cord. He is still trying to manipulate and 'love bomb' me, but it no longer works and I see him as the horrible person that he really is.

You keep hitting the nail on the head, you must know my ex! He plays like a friend but then the ugly narcissist pops up and tries to control my way of thinking with his disappointment in me...only to try and get his way...grrrrr. he's so phony and uses his helping hand and fake encouragement just so he won't be lonely

They only help people who sings them praises and don’t know who they really are.

They wet the bed and blame the blanket.

It's so heartening to here the truth spoken with ease from an expert on the matter. Thank you Dr C. You're a blessing sir.❤❤❤

This is so sad to me because what you said explains my estranged son perfectly. He has finally decided he’s done with me because I can’t do enough for him💔

The few times they're *nice* to you is merely an investment--something they expect a BIG return on to benefit them.

I put him in court, he says he's done no wrongdoing. A year later I found out about his accomplice, I put him in court.

My MIL uses my adult sons to communicate w/ me when I don’t respond to her texts or calls as fast as she wants me to. They end up getting mad at me - I tell them to tell her not to get them involved. I feel bad for the boys because they have lived w/ their Oma’s narc BS all their lives, first with her mother in law (boys Nana) and now me. They see some of the BS (b/c MIL is so good at manipulating them) but NO ONE in this family wants to have a sit down and talk about the Pink Narc Elephant in the room. Even my FIL won’t call his wife out on her nasty shenanigans. So I just keep my distance from MIL and FIL to protect myself. But my Question is: why won’t they all just open up and talk about the Pink Narc in the room who causes the crazy disfunction? Open up? It’s so confusing to me. No one wants to deal or face it with it but everyone “feels” the chaos and manipulation.

Pirate Hook is coming to captize your boat. 🙄 Please climb to your mast and watch out for predators. 🧐 And do not hesitate to fly the red flaggs. ♨️

Thank you so much Dr. Carter, this video was so helpful and describes the person I know for almost six decades! I have learned a lot and wish I would have found out about this narcissism problem a very long time ago! I look forward to watching your videos every day! God Bless You and Keep Safe❤️👍

I just got a text “ fumbling away a good woman “ now this woman told me after I told her my mother just got rushed to the hospital “ she said “ my mother has cooked dinner for us and that’s where we are going “ we went to the hospital!!! Then when my mother passed ! She said “ if I’m not sitting on the front row I’m not coming “ and I fumbled away a good woman???

I am so glad I came across videos like this. I dealt with what I now know is a narcissistic family member going through a divorce for several years. They demanded blind loyalty or my character would be destroyed by direct or indirect comparison to themselves or someone else who they say is ideal in some way. When that didn’t work it became threats of dissolution of our relationship. When that failed it turned to threats of future violence. It was always a one sided relationship and they weee always in a position to demand and take. Never gave anything back but praise when I gave what was demanded.

They want what they want when they want it they dont care about anyone or how they hurt im an 80yr old mother going through this with a 60yr son all he cares about is himself hes turned his back on all his family 😢

"If You Made a List of People You Trusted, Would You Put Your Name Down?" ♡♡NF♡♡

Such wonderful wisdom said in such a gentle yet extremely clarifying way. I live for this, to keep me in the stable mentality in the midst of my departure from 43 years of covert shenanigans. Haven't lived there for 3 months now, I use to call that home "the dead zone". I still feel that way when I ever think of that past address. Thank you Gus and Dr. C. !!!!!!!

Thank you Dr. C I love what you and Gus are doing for humanity. Im learning how ive allowed narcissists to take advantage of me through my own lack of self worth, im feeling armed in my own right to my dignity to be more emotionally calm when dealing with them.

Excellent Episode 👍

Happy Weekend Team Healthy and Dr. C! 🤸🤸‍♂🤸‍♀🤸🤸‍♂🤸‍♀🤸🤸‍♂🤸‍♀🤸🤸‍♂🤸‍♀🤸‍♀🤸🤸‍♂🤸‍♀🤸🤸‍♂🤸‍♀

Thank you Dr. C....this video rings home for me....I have put up for 3 yrs. with the Narc.

Spot on Dr. C!! You are the best! Thank you so much for giving me the grounding and balance I need.

Thank you, Dr. C. for your words. I have given all I could Everything is Scrambled from her understanding From her opinion my " No" is Not allowed., so I hang Up the Phone. ... I am now practising health Care...

My ex husband conned me into being he was kind 😂

An Extra Thought ; Narcissists suffer and their fate always ends up on the News. Empaths must guard themselves from feeling the narcissists pain , which is Justice in action.

Woof 🐶 to puppy 🐶 Gus a regular dog 🐶!!! ( as well peace to both you and your family as well) .

Thanks always for your 👍continuing education & support

"ALL of the above!"

Problem is you can go into a place of peace with a narcissist in your life .

Another best, amazingly helpful, thank you so much

Salesman ship,so true,that is how I feel alot with my husband. He is always trying to sell me something.

Thank you for your wonderful videos. Especially the lovely little therapy dog Gus doing his good work too!

I believe the reason narcissists will not elevate others is because they are so insecure they feel they will lose something, plus they the think it’s just not worth their time and energy. That is how my ex operates in the world. He dosent give a hoot about anyone but himself.

I just separated from my narcissistic wife.....I've given up...married 6 months😢....tried for 8 years....I'm angry but sonsad for her

Thank you 🙏✝️🛐

My Paternal Grandmother was actually a pretty good Con, she also prided herself as being the successor to Christian Science's Mary Baker Eddy.

Recognized a lot of the truth bearers on the net😁

My notes (edited transcript): 0:44 Most narcissists are con artists. When we talk about con artists, we're talking about people who are trying to gain confidence from other individuals and let them think, “Hey, I'm the one who really knows how things are supposed to be. If you'll just give your loyalty and give your mind and your thinking and your preferences and priorities over to me, I'm going to make sure that things go well for you.” 1:10 Narcissists desperately want to be a somebody. They want to be the one who says, “Look to me and I'll explain to you how life ought to go. When, in fact, down at the base of all of it, these are fear-based individuals. They don't trust people well. They're afraid of being a nobody. They're afraid of being taken advantage of. They're afraid of being rejected. Etc. But instead of dealing with all of that, they decided that they're going to disguise their insecurities by promoting themselves as being the standard bearer. 1:43 So ultimately the greatest con job that a narcissist is going to play with you is to pretend that they're the ultimate standard for healthy living, when, in fact, they're ultimately empty on the inside. It's so important for you to see what they're doing as they try to con you into that. Because what they're going to do is to try to portray you as being a nobody. They're going to portray you as being somebody that doesn't know anything and so you should be glad that they're there to tell you how to live life. 2:17 We need to be able to see through that so they're not able to pull their manipulation games with you. 2:25 As they try to con you into thinking that they're the standard bearer, they're going to elevate themselves at your expense. Instead of saying, “I've had some experiences that have created strain and chaos on the inside of me.” and dealing with it, it's like, “No, what I'm going to do is make you believe that I am free of chaos. That's enough.” So they want you to buy into their false narrative. 2:54 I'm going to run through multiple indicators that for you to watch for that tell you if you're dealing with that narcissist who's trying to pull you into their confidence game only upon based upon false pretenses. As you see these indicators, it's like, “I'm on to you.” 3:11 One of the first things is they have no appreciation for healthy interdependence. They can't trust and they forget that relationships are meant for mutual benefit. Mutual regard, mutual assistance. In the narcissist’s mind it's like, “Who cares about mutuality. It's all about me. I don't really care about shared humanity. I just want you to go along with me because that makes me feel like a somebody.” 3:47 Another indicator that they're pulling a con job on you is they won't listen to your heart. When somebody's trying to be a person of influence in a healthy way, there's a certain collaboration that's there. “I want to know you. I hope that you would like to know me. We can be vulnerable with one another.” And narcissist is like, “No, I don't really want to go into that. I just want you to conform to me.” 4:12 When you encounter somebody that's trying to pull something on you, another indicator is when you just pick up on the attitude that emanates from them where basically they imply, “I don't care. I don't care about you. I don't care about how you think. I don't care about how you feel. Because, you see, it's all about me and me foisting my preferences and priorities on you. I don't really want to take the time to get to know you. You're a tool to be used as opposed to someone to be known.” 4:47 Another indicator that says they're conning you is you'll notice over time that criticism and contempt and tension are very natural ingredients that they create and perpetuate. Does that sound like the mark of somebody that you would want to buy in with? But that's how they operate. You can walk away from these individuals thinking, “Man, I just feel so stressed by having been in that person's presence.” Basically, it's because you're picking up on the fact that you're being used. 5:22 Another indicator that you're dealing with somebody who's playing you is these are individuals who are spiritually empty. I'm not referring to religion. There are a lot of people that go into religion, but I'm talking about having a sense of oneness with one another, with creation, with having an understanding and appreciation of the centrality of love and goodness and peace. That's what I'm referring to. These individuals might give the impression that they're going there. But you can tell that they're not really into that more metaphysical kind of approach toward life. It's like, “I just need you to line up with what I tell you need to be. That'll be enough as far as I'm concerned.” 6:07 Another thing that we can say is friends are not really friends. These are individuals who just use people. They have allies, but those allies are simply tools to be used. Many times, you can think, “This person may have been nice to me for a while but then I realized it’s because I had some utility to them.” But once that's gone, so are you. 6:33 There's another indicator right that trails right along with that and that is watch how they look at the topic of sexuality. These are individuals who are users sexually or at least they have a lot of confusion with respect to sexuality. When they try to develop heart connections with that special person, there can be a sense that says, “I don't really want to be vulnerable. I want you to make me feel happy. I want you to satisfy my need at the moment. But this is not about developing true intimacy down at the core of our being, this is about me just having a short-term utility with you and then once that's gone then I'm going somewhere else.” 7:15 In addition, one of the things that says that these are people who are conning you is, they don't have any real clue or care or concern about managing conflicts in a healthy way. If you have somebody that says, “I want to bring you into my confidence so that we can have a sense of going in the right direction with each other.” When conflicts show up, it's like, “This gives us a chance to learn about each other. This gives us a chance to educate one another or to guide one another with respect to what we need and feel and believe.” The narcissist is like, “No, you read me wrong if that's what you're expecting. I don't do that.” In conflict, all they want to do is shut you down. They have many means, whether it's through rage or non-cooperation or passive aggressiveness or something else. They let it be known, “Conflict is going to be a place where I'm just going to let you know I've got a game plan, I’ve got an agenda for you and you have to stay on it.” That's all they're concerned with. 8:17 Another thing you're going to find out the more you're with the narcissist is they're takers. Part of their game is to bring you in so that they can glean whatever they can from you but they're not givers. In fact, if they do give you something and if they do show kindness and do favors it has a hook on the backside. “Now you owe me. What are you going to do for me next?” 8:39 These are individuals who constantly play games with the truth. Sometimes they just openly lie. Sometimes they lie by omission. Sometimes they tell half-truths. But it's part of their con gain. Their honesty is optional. 8:54 Satisfaction is never something that they have attained. They're never satisfied. Enough from you is never enough. Instead, what they're looking for is dominance and that's a huge clue that tells you you're being played by this person. Power, to them, is the measure of being a successful person. 9:24 They're unwilling to receive insight from someone else, which, of course, explains why they keep repeating the same dysfunctions over and over. In the process, they use lots of blame and shame. Then they hold grudges when you don't buy into whatever it is they're selling to you. 9:48 The con game is they want to bring you into their confidences, they want you to think, “Oh, what a nice person.” When, in fact, they're playing you. They're using you for their own selfish elevation. Ultimately, you're going to be expendable. 10:16 The sad thing is there's something that narcissists totally miss. I don't know that many of them would be able to grasp this notion whatsoever, it's a paradox and that the best way to be a somebody is to help others feel like they are a somebody. Elevate them as opposed to denigrate. You can actually feel better about who you. That's something that they simply can't grasp whatsoever. But then again, it's all about them, it's not about mutuality. 10:51 So the next time you begin thinking, “Hey wait a minute, I think I'm being played here.”, there's a good chance that you need to listen to what your mind and your heart is telling you. That person is trying to use salesmanship upon you. “I'm not buying into your confidence games. Whatever it is that that you're trying to push, my confidence comes from being authentic and uplifting. That's not a game. That's not something that you play with.” “I'm not going to be pulled into your manipulations.” 13:02 When you're dealing with somebody that you understand is strongly narcissistic just prepare yourself. They're going to try to pull you into confidence. They're going to want you to think that they are the standard bearer when in fact, no, they're messing with you for their own personal gain. I'm hoping that as you see through it, it can position you to say, “I'm going to be a person of DRC, dignity, respect, and civility In doing so, it takes you to a place of peace that they're not able to know.

Narcs take the 'Ah' out of Empathy.