A PhD in men: how to get what you want from a man 

This is an episode for the ladies. Women: if you're single, and you don't want to be, you may want to consider going back to school. I don't mean graduate school. I mean investing time, energy, and money into learning what makes men tick. Time to earn a PhD in men. In the absence of real understanding, women's only recourse is to the cliches and banalities that will just get them more of the same. Knowledge is power. Buy my book, "The Value of Others" Ebook: amzn.to/460uGrA Audiobook: amzn.to/3YfFwbx Paperback: amzn.to/3xQuIFK Book a paid consultation: oriontarabanpsyd.com/consultations Subscribe to my newsletter: oriontarabanpsyd.com Social Media TikTok: www.tiktok.com/@oriontaraban Facebook: facebook.com/profile.php?id=100090053889622 LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/orion-taraban-070b45168/ Instagram: instagram.com/psyc.hacks Twitter: twitter.com/oriontaraban Website: oriontarabanpsyd.com Orion's Theme: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-WrXBzQ2HDEQ.html Thinking of going to grad school? Check out STELLAR, my top-rated GRE self-study program based on the world's only empirically-validated test prep system. Use the code "PSYCH" for 10% off all membership plans: stellargre.com. Become a Stellar affiliate and earn a 10% commission for every membership purchased by a new student you conduct into the program: stellargre.tapfiliate.com. GRE Bites: www.youtube.com/@grebites4993 Become a Psychonaut and join PsycHack's member community: ru-vid.com/show-UCSduXBjCHkLoo_y9ss2xzXwjoin Sound mixing/editing by: valntinomusic.com Presented by Orion Taraban, Psy.D. PsycHacks provides viewers with a brief, thought-provoking video several days a week on a variety of psychological topics, inspired by his clinical practice. The intention is for the core idea contained within each video to inspire viewers to see something about themselves or their world in a slightly different light. The ultimate mission of the channel is to reduce the amount of unnecessary suffering in the world. #psychology #women #relationship

A perfect marriage or relationship is an illusion; there's no universal playbook for making them work. What's effective for one couple may not apply to another. Nevertheless, I've come to understand that there's always a solution to be found. Half a decade ago, my wife and I faced such trials in our marriage that divorce seemed inevitable. Yet, through perseverance and determination, we navigated through the rough waters and emerged stronger, reunited, and more resilient.

Saying what needs saying. Bravo.

Talking about those kind of platitudes reminded me of a sign i saw that said, "Everything happens for a reason: Sometimes the reason is you're stupid and make bad decisions." Ha, ha

As a woman, I've often reflected on how many of us focus on the idea that men don’t understand us. We put so much energy into wanting to be understood, but how often do we invest that same energy into truly understanding them? This realization struck me a few years ago, and since then, I've immersed myself in studying male sexuality and male psychology through various books. Thank you for sharing this video, Orion-I truly appreciate it!

I sometimes forget that he also helps women.

Guy just explained hoeflation.

I'm divorced. I've never stopped loving my ex at some level, but I've thought many times that she should have read the "owner's manual" for a man before getting married.

You’re advice is great!! I think it helps being a middle aged divorced woman (who takes care of herself) to be able to admit you carry much wisdom in this arena. I encourage women not to let your advice frustrate but rather, educate! Btw your audio book was magnificent! Thank you!

Modern Western Women: "We're *TIRED* of the games!" Also Modern Western Women: won't respond to a guy who doesn't have "game"

This is a shockingly true video and I hope more women will watch this. Michael Sartain talks about this very thing all the time. He states that women in general have no idea about self improvement. They suddenly have loads of unearned marketplace value the moment they finish puberty whereas men need to go out and self improve and accomplish things to have value in the sexual marketplace. So the concept of self improvement to them is completely foreign. They might think “I should probably lose weight so I look better”, but they usually don’t and justify it with the platitude you mentioned - “well, he should just love me for me” or some other similar bs.

Women know how to get men. Look attractive, be nice, and give out physical intimacy. The problem women have is to trying to lockdown the perfect man. A Chad who is monogamous, a bad boy who will be a good dad, a rich guy who has lots of free time, a confident guy who is not cocky, a masculine guy who is emotionally vulnerable.

I recently dated a woman who had done a module in men in her Women's Studies degree. Yeah, she was really clued up and therefore totally shocked when I left. :)

Book recommendations to learn what men want/like?

Do women ever have conversations about solutions to problems?

The most helpful advice I have ever received in regard to having a successful relationship with a man was from: My dad, my older brother, and my mother. - My dad taught me how a man should treat me. - My brother taught me how I should treat a man. - My mother taught me how to keep a man.

My husband and I REALLY enjoy watching your videos. I think we spent the first at least year of our marriage talking about relationship dynamics EVERY day. We still like to geek out a bit on such topics almost 4 years later, and your channel is a favorite of ours. You made a statement that you don't know of any women who have gone to the trouble of studying men, which leads me to believe you've never heard of Alison Armstrong. Her material tends to focus on partnership, but her first courses were, I believe, about understanding men. She does not deal with relationships from a "marketplace" standpoint, but she does an excellent job revealing to women their flawed views when it comes to men. As a woman who grew up in the 80's/90's, Alison was the first woman I had heard say with respect how AMAZING men were. Her materials have been life changing for me.....because you know that sometimes we women have to hear certain things from another woman for them to get through. Seriously, love your content and balanced approach to everything you put out!

What women need to do is simple: 1) Find a man worthy of submitting to. (he should have the qualities: strength and competence) 2) Submit to him. (let him be the leader) How to keep your man happy: 1) Feed him 2) Have s3x 3) Show respect by appreciating his contributions and by not being argumentative 4) Leave him alone if he wants to be left alone

Men have always been interested in figuring women out even though sometimes it doesn’t seem like it. But regardless if they do or don’t, it only serves you a benefit to learn about the gender you’re interested in.

This episode is a scream in the void. Women don't seek improvement, they shift the blame.

FWIW, women in foreign countries have plenty of game. From my experience, Latinas (e.g. Colombian women) have some of the best game in the world. It's quite astonishing how they're able to get what they want by giving men what men want. So obvious, but women in the Anglosphere wont do it. It's like they view that behavior as the female version of simping.

I've always said young women (teenagers) should be busy with "Men's Studies" - in the sense of knowing how, what and why to pick early on, and to maximize their own value for most favorable picking. Unlike men, we don't have the luxury to wait, to "sleep on it," to hedge our bets, develop "optionality," and such. If there is a true natural female disadvantage/underprivilege, this is it. What men don't get is that not all women in their prime (teen and early twenties) can achieve the potential of that prime without conscious intervention. They may be young and fertile, but that doesn't necessarily mean at the peak of their attractiveness. Men often conflate attractiveness with fertility, which doesn't mean they are attracted to homely young&fertile chicks. Many women are late bloomers, look awkward at the theoretically "prime" age, still clueless about how to set off their best traits. Some are still battling baby fat, others just the modern fat, which they still don't know how to keep at bay, etc. Later some lose the weight and the "pretty" finally comes through, but then they're also late 20's, if not 30's. So the Situation must be tackled methodically, with science, dedicated studies and lots and lots of timely self awareness. Otherwise, settling or indefinite singlehood are guaranteed, along with eventual marital dissatisfaction. This is because for women, the quality of the relationship and how actually satisfied they are with it is "make or break": the most important part of life. But nobody tells them that, on the contrary, there's a lot of denial. Both schools of thought lie to women. The Progressive's holy grail is the Career, the Traditionals urge them on Family at any cost (regardless of optionality for partner selection). It's neither. For women, marital/relationship satisfaction makes or breaks life. Everything else is secondary, and yes, that includes children and family.

"Why won't men put in effort to learn to give commitment and be loyal"...Because you don't have to "learn" anything to be loyal, and being loyal doesn't make women attracted to you. So if you're clearly loyal up front, you'll NEVER get far enough for commitment to even be on the radar.

This is single handedly what turns me off instantly with dating women of today. No recipocation, no attentiveness in attempting to find out I want, or just what men want in general in any aspect. Whether it be hobbies, sex, likes/dislikes...and I know they dont do with thier exs because I implicitly hear it when they're talking about their past relationships. The entitlement/egoism/narcisissm is so off-putting that Im looking to cut them off after ~ 2 weeks. And most of the time, I will stick my neck out and "rizz" her up if she has a decent persona, or if it gets that far - meaningful dates, tangible interest. They dont care, they dont know. I would say majority of guys can count on two fingers how many women they've encountered that showed a reasonable level of attentiveness/recipocation without prompt.

This is by far the most misogynistic video Orion has ever made. The nerve to ask something, anything from women is just so unfair. The level of effort suggested in this episode could kill many women who try, even in the slightest. You go queen!

Marriage Material Short List from Random Guy Go to the gym 3+ days a week and be a healthy weight. Trust and respect my ability to figure things out and guide our life in the world. Be open to my sexual fantasies. Understand the importance of your responsibilities in the relationship no task is beneath you. Honesty Fix your mental health if needed. Best of luck ladies! I hope everyone can earn what they want.

Warning: This video has a clickbait title. He never discusses specific ways he thinks how women can get what they want from a man. Why don’t you post another video where you do discuss specific ways women can get what they want from a man?

You’re right, it takes sex, sandwiches, *and silence* 😂 5:48

Amidst all of this .. I would love to see a video about how to make the process Enjoyable again because I’m one of those that no longer enjoy the so-called “Game” even if it what it needs to be done, to me it always feels childish and like pointless acting and not an investment

Why don't people study how to be a better human for the sake of themselves and in order to have a deeper connection with others? Why is this such a shallow and manipulative game? This paradigm is a spiritually vapid and an existential dead end. Super bleak.

Well Orion, I think you're right as far as you go on this, yes, men go to a lot of effort to understand women, but I don't hear much about women making a similar effort to understand men. But women do go to a lot of time, effort and money to look good, let's not forget that and we love it when they do. But what you don't say is what things a women can do to understand and attract men. In my own experience, a women should be happy and playful. A warm understanding smile really helps. Of course he must find her attractive, but if he does, that smile can work magic. And of course not being difficult helps a lot too. If she can put a smile on your face . . .

I agree with the content, but at the beginning he says it's a video for the ladies, but most of the first half he's talking to men.

Most men learn about women too late, it's unfortunate.

I wish this video had actually taught me something practical / applicable. My problem has been that there's a lot of material out there - but most of it sucks or just isn't accurate.

Hey Orion! I love your content, but I think you are making a basic mistake. You are talking to a woman as you would talk to a man. Most of my female friends that I have shared your videos get triggered in a bad way, then when I take time to explain what you said in a very very very subtle and soft way they agree anyways. You are barking to a cat. Love you and fantastic book, definitely on my top 5 ever.

I’m about to get my doctorate after watching this video! You can call me Dr. Stacey😏 I appreciate these videos. It’s sad because most of us women think men should automatically know what we want, but have no real knowledge of what men want. But both men and woman can benefit from these types of videos. We aren’t born knowing what the other really wants and needs. We think we do because of society. Lord only knows it should def be taught! No one should have to be a mind reader or even worse just assume.

Idk man…. I’m pretty sure a lot of men want commitment and loyalty and want to be it too.

Most of social media has both sexes just complaining about the opposite sex. Here men have an advantage. There are more places for men talking about solutions.

Orion just recommended that women go get coaching to learn more about men. Problem is that women will get coaching sometimes, but it will likely be from another woman match-maker type. How can a woman learn more about how men operate when they are only willing to listen to other women who also have never learned how men think? This video is a truth bomb for women, which is why they won't take the message to heart. It's really sad. I have a female coworker who might benefit from watching this video, but I'll never send it to her because she may get offended.

Women don't necessarily want commitment! I learned it the hard way! And women don't want loyalty! I learned that the hard way too! I don't know if they don't want commitment form me! Or I don't know if they want loyalty from me! And don't know how to test that 😥.

This is what women want dig dig dig more digging. If you understand any of that you are far ahead.

Can you elaborate more on how to do this?

I think there are plenty of women out there that know how to get a man but wont "lower" themselves to accomplish it. When you are god's gift to men, there will never be a reason to learn. For women who actually want a man, they are getting bad advice around every corner...and here we are, prefering to die alone than ever having to please another person in any way.

Not one single female on this planet will take this advice. Not a one.

"Leave your pride aside" ?????? I think most women will refuse the offer they rather be single

As a woman I highly recommend to start with your book “The Value of Others”. It personally helps me a lot. I’m still learning though.

Most women just rock up. Lets face it asking them to have game not going to happen especially younger women. Now women over 40 really need to learn game but cant see that happening either as they believe they should still get the same benefits they got 20-30. So many think sex is enough and what I call the Royal Flush hand in dating and mating. So they say well I gave you sex I dont give sex to just any man. Your like well technically you enjoy sex too otherwise you wouldn't do it. So what else are you offering? Hence the study men phenomenon you are trying to explain. Some might study men majority wont it is the game we play. In the deregulated dating game of going for the top 20% they are like a moth to the flame.

Women are master at this more than you bro. They'd teach a thing or two more if you ask them.

That "I know you can do it" looked so snarky 😂

Dr. Taraban, this is an episode for the ladies? Really? If so, I think you missed the mark here. Maybe re-watching the episode on how never to fight with a woman is in order. While your points may be valid, your tone is likely to alienate most women. As this episode is presented, it seems more for the angry men out there than it really seems to be for the ladies.

Can we get a phd in women video please

Great content! You're right about women investing in knowledge that will help them succeed in their relationships with men.

Orion is spitting into the wind. Women call it ‘mansplaining.’

i think we all feel a little spontaneous sexual attraction for Henry Cavill

The big issue here is that women are being given a reality check, being brought back down to earth and most awkwardly they are being held accountable. Hats off to every single lady out there with substance of character who can and will soak this up so she can increase her value and make herself less of a liability to the opposite sex. Welcome to a man's world...

Dr. T,you are wrong. There is one part of your video that is wrong. The reason a sizable percentage of women despise pick up artists is because women say they (a sizable percentage) want one thing and they go after another. If women were only straightforward about their predilections, we wouldn’t be having this conversation. Personally, I find the whole concept ofpick up artistry really sad… That’s because I’m still choking on the red pill. But, because I’m a man I can seed to the reality of the situation. Women are horrifically uneasy with this sad truth.

There is nothing funnier than female self help. Self Gaslighting is a better description. When I upped my game I watched all the Mens and Women's dating advice and 'going to the gym, maintain beautiful female friends and learn to be comfortable talking to pretty girls' beats all 'guys like confidence, get your PHD and set boundaries' BS from the other side.

Thanks to me putting in all the effort, I'll educate my own woman fine enough. 😉 That's the only way both of us can be really happy.

So what to do exactly? There will be a part 2 ?

I say the *secret* for the modern, Western woman is to be more demanding, more aware of her “value” (sic).

Do what works…

Exxxvellent and as always stone cold true

Man you were doing so great until the very end where you say “put your pride to the side” … we all know women can’t do that. And that is the reason they will not put in the effort.

So obvious yet it needs to be clearly stated in today's society.

Summary - he talks around the subject and doesn't give any specifics. Next video algo.

"Ladies: Put your pride aside" - that is the summary of whole video, and the part that is not likely to happen in our culture in its present climate.

Its not that women don't know about men, it's that they don't care what men want or what we think. They feel like they shouldn't have to do anything and they should just get what they want.

You know what's some of the things my x was putting blame on me? She often said she "give up her life" for me...😂😂😂 - I've changed to be with you? she was saying - Why? Did I asked you to do that? 🤷 (I just kept it short) It will never ever never ever never ever never ever work out if any puts on an act, learned from books and "advisers" 😂😂😂😂 if you want a commited healthy relationship. Learning tricks is just for pick ups and one stands. For healthy relationship you can't learn it form books and advisers. You either got it or not.🤷 Putting on an act on last for long... I mean don't you check the statistics? 🤦🤷 Same kind of advises but things don't improve... People are so dumb 😂😂😂😂

This man is spitting

As a man who wants what women say they want, commitment and loyalty, I call bullshit on that one.

Her: "What are you doing all day???????????" Me: "I'm cleaning house" "What are you doing all day???????????" Me: "Also unloading, cleaning, and putting things away after our day trip" Her: "What are you doing all day???????????" Me: Getting exasperated: I don't have to tell you everything. Cartoon bubble: Does she really want to hear about me check my maps associated with Trust Deed, asking questions to the Building permit department, researching the corn, soybean, copper, and US treasury markets, and listening to financial pod casts, laundry, clean kitchen, leaf blow my driveway? Me: Exasperated: Told her I am setting boundaries, and I don't have to tell you every last thing I do. You need to watch your tone of voice. Cancel Lunch date. Me: After Action Report: I think she thinks I am seeing other women on the side. We had just finished a day trip, and I was indeed cleaning up and reorganizing. I actually like her. But this was a turn off. Abort mission.

A woman reading a book about men's behaviour is as impossible as a woman giving a flower to a man. They are not made for that. They are the prize and the prize won´t do anything for the winner. (BTW, the first flower 97% of men receive is at their funeral)

Doctor: I'm 1:02 into your talk.... You lost Women already. You lost them implying that there are a preponderance of Men who understand Women AND that they have to make more effort than just being sexually desirable. Women know none of that horse hockey is the Truth. I'mma watch the rest to see if you can rescue this. good luck, Chuck!!!

Is Orion Taraban your real name? Artist name? Adopted name?

I imagine it’ll be women 1-2 generations from now applying this logic. Once they see the damaging effects its had on this current generation they will avoid the outcomes of the older women

It's crazy how many comments are from people saying there should have been more advice for women on how to understand men. My dudes and dudettes, the advice "learn what men want" is about putting in some actual effort. That's it! A little while back a girl was beaming interest and positive vibes at me, I almost melted. That slightest touch of effort was super effective!

If women only knew, the hours ive spent learning sexual psychology and approaching women. Who knows the amount of hours, hundreds. Ii didn’t do it for sex, i want to marry and have a family. It was time well spent and i do very well with women thank god. I was always lucky, but growing some balls and learning pick up has not been a waste of time in the least, no comparison. My recurrent experience is that i understand how to make women feel very attracted but they keep doing shlt that turns me off and making me disinterested

Wish i could like this video 3 times. Never have i heard such a strong truth about this and in such a clear way. Thank You so much Orion!

Helping women…means he’s helping men 🙏. We got this. Team humanity.

This is great advice for our Western women - they'll start listening in the year 2572! 😂

Alison Armstrong has a PhD in men. I've been listening to her for a while and she has really helped me understand them. But I like to understand a man, through a mans eyes as well. Grateful for your page.

They don't need a PhD in this area, just elementary school level, and womem can't even do that.

How do you address the fact that large sections of the 'relationship' aisle at bookstores is aimed at women?

Bruh.... "Freaky milk" lol

I educated myself (with my brothers help) on how not to get used by a man. Education done.

This reminds me of that "You gotta learn your man to earn your man" woman from YT early days!

But Orion - until technology and feminism changed everything, women were always getting a PhD in men. The community of great grandmothers taught our grandmothers the collective women’s wisdom about how to get and keep a man invested in commitment and fidelity. This mother-to-daughter wisdom was passed down around the world for millennia. Contemporary women have lost the thread. They would be wise to remember the wisdom Jerry Hall’s mother taught her on how to catch and keep a high value man, wisdom she applied to catch Mick Jagger AND Rupert Murdoch: “You must be a maid in the living room, a cook in the kitchen and a whore in the bedroom.” The proof is in Jerry Hall’s trophy case.

can you make an episode on what those things are that women need to do to be attractive?

Do you recommend Mr Leo’s book of exercises for your book?

“Their second fucking job” 😂 😂 😂 💪

Waiting for a Meetcute!!! Love it....💔

Yeah, yeah they fucking do :-)))))

Where are the books by womam for woman on how to please a man?

Most women will find your channel too disturbing.

Having game ain't running game.

this was good advice to me. and im a man

But I do have to point out one thing, the average man can still get sex on the street corner, if he goes to the right street corner and has money. Women cannot do the same thing to get a commitment.

now we want a phd in women😂😂

I feel like a toothless man staring at a steak.....at 70, you offer a boarding pass for a ship that has sailed. My sons must hear this...

I would love to see what Orion Taraban's wife looks like 😉