The Surprising Evolution Of Modern Women's Preferences In Men - Eric Weinstein 

What mic stand is that?

You are right chris as you said Short answer: no. Modern women don't know what they want. It depends on their feelings. But their reptilian brain and reprpductive hormones tell them to follow hypergamy

Death ray incoming ... will post on the blockchain once live.

Would love to get my hands on LMNT, but no shipping to Australia. When will this be available?

The reason the current social trends contain so many seemingly self-defeating features is that they were designed by your society's geopolitical adversaries for the purpose of defeating you.

That's incredibly well put.

Facts 💯

This is very true.

Lovely to say, doesn't really work like that though does it

@@zzzzzz69 I think it would- and perhaps did for centuries- except that we live in an era when the personal has become political. Therefore, rather than becoming naturally smitten with someone many people worry about how mate selection might affect their perceived popularity among their so-called peers.

He's a fictional character

@@TogsintheWopWops-qb1ffNo, he is real. Middle-Earth is right next to Scotland. Did you not take geography bro? This is elementary school stuff.

@@TogsintheWopWops-qb1ff Being a fictionnal character doesn't make him less a masculine model for young men.

There is a massive difference between characters and reality. This is why women aren't satisfied with finding a man cause they can't tell the different between men and a character. Aragon is just a character, don't try to be him be yourself and if people don't like you it's their problem, let them deal with it.

@@kenmiles7409 I think the point is not trying to be someone else you are not, but finding inspiration in someone's virtues and good examples and trying to apply them in your own life.

100% i was coming here to say the same. Stay the course, improve yourself. The guy in the gym has a better selection of women than the guy sitting at home doing nothing to improve himself physically, additionally the guy with the European luxury car has a better selection of women than guy riding the public bus.

Absolute facts

Women are divorcing males left and right, so pay attention to that. Observe what their reasons are.

Great comment

@@OmegaSupremeWCheese If you live in central London the bus/tube/public transport makes much more sense than a car - driving a car would make you look like an idiot.

Much nuance and caveats are needed. It's the delicate balance to let our kiddos crush it where they're naturally excelling at WHILE keeping our own desires and egos as parents aside. The extremes of both poles are equally damaging....just in different ways. It ain't about us. Easy to say, hard to live by in a daily basis. Congrats for your kiddo and wish you both all the best :)

Totally agree. Mediocrity becomes the norm. I was surprised at the reaction of people to our daughter receiving tuition and passing the UK 11+ test. Genuinely think seeing ambition in others reminds people of the person they once were or want to be. Essentially jealousy and insecurity packaged up and passed off as concern!

True, to be less is unfair to yourself.

That’s…not how it works 😀

Exactly

@@JuniperGal-ek2pu He's absolutely right. Stop contributing to the problem.

@@JR-qw5yi What he’s saying is stupid. “Feminine” men and “masculine” women have existed since forever. And that wouldn’t make people depressed lol. If anything, gender roles would contribute more to depression. Also, people who go out of the traditional norm aren’t a problem.

Not how that works buddy 😂😂😂

Cupcakes?

Been there, survived the experience - barely. I did learn a lot about women, in my mid 20s, however. Look at it this way: not only does your presence give women someone to blame, but more work gets done by your being there and working diligently.

@@drivethruabortion280 yes please, with icing!

@@tetedur377more work gets done with them at the home, not at work 🤣🤣. Ask Iceland when all their women went on strike how “detrimental” it was to the work force.

Psychologist Are you ?😅

Maybe? Hell no! There are a great many young men who need strong dads.

But the moon is closer then the stars so how would you miss the stars first ?

@willcasler4809 i find that the current problem can only demand a great of a solution as a nuclear world war because that's the only way the world as a whole can start from scratch with fresh men. i say that because the watering down comes from men who were watered down by other men who were watered down by.... you see my point. current young men cannot just 'buy' strong dads and become better, a strong dad needs to raise them to BE strong men hence - my nuclear war suggestion. the war will also be beneficial because it will restore men back to necessity to push for utmost greatness in themselves which are pillars of what makes a great man, and most importantly great fathers, so, again, young men can't just buy strong dads and they can't just replace the fathers they have. my naive solution is: its 100% up to young men to realize this and change for the better, to which i would say: have you heard what Andrew Tate and young men mentors perpetuate!!! While these men are "becoming better" they're loosing a lot of time to raise and be strong dads to their sons, hence, they're still enduring the problem and not solving it. I am a strong advocate for peace which is odd considering in the same paragraph I'm promoting war but, I simply can't see any other way. the snowball has grown so large currently, stopping it would require more than it's worth...and I know that implies sacrificing men and their lives but... I JUST simply can't see any other way. I've just re-read my comment and it's probably something a military would post as an ad asking for funding in their war efforts during WW1 or something, but...again, I see no other way. I would incredibly love to hear a better solution from you.

The new words just keep coming. I gotta remember these. 😄

I'm not sure if it's that specifically, I think it's more of a general status thing. No one wants to be low status, and being a stay at home mom is seen as low status. Being a mom is a lot of work done in the dark and only they and their families see the fruit of the labor. No one is going onto a podcast showing off the results of their great parenting skills. The other thing is, they don't want to have to rely on a man, but they want a man they can rely on. There's a difference of being dependent and choosing to depend on someone.

🤣🤣🤣🤣

@@cokebottles6919 Women want their cake and eat it too. What's new.

I don’t know any women around me that are afraid to say that.

40s here too. Ignored all of that. Especially from my mum. Life is too short.

Guys aways seem 2 get better with age. 40 is like the beginning and then 50 is refinement and it just gets better. Graham Hancock, Clint Eastwood. Hot. Lol. Jordan Peterson, Eminem... hot. They weren't before. 🤷‍♂️ idk

Don't ask for people to get out of your way. Move them outta your way. You aren't asking for anything. You are acting.

​@@kevinstroupyup, so now we just need a fuckin Time machine to go back in time to raise ourselves better, so we don't end up programmed to "stay in our lane"

That’s the ticket

I've noticed time and time again that the biggest thing that women want is to have what _OTHER_ women want.

@@johng3029I see, it's the hive mind. Good luck on not being stung by any of those "bees."

@tomsmith6513 I fortunately found a great girl but I agree women think in a very collectivist sort of way, men tend to value competition and independence more

Really? Since the beginning of time? References?

Or more importantly, tell men that they want nice, kind gentlemen to see who will comply and who are the ones who are the natural alphas who won't.

I used to both bowl and play darts - like, league and tournament play. I was better at both for having played against some of the top names in those sports, and when I played in tournaments, I played at unbelievable levels, both in partnership and against major league players. I never was, and never will be at their level. That's not even a fantasy. But having those role models upped my game overall to where I could hold my own and often beat other non-elite bowlers and darters.

​@@tetedur377 Well said

@@tetedur377and that, my friend, is worth more than gold

I don’t agree because a lot of the things we consider elite are arbitrary. Like most sports, like acting, like music. It’s arbitrary and random luck that society decided to have a popular game of football instead of hockey. That’s why I don’t respect “elites”, their “skill” just happens to be valued in society arbitrarily. But being good at kicking a ball isn’t innately elite

The only problem I've ever seen with elitism is when an elite perceives their existence as common because their perception of reality becomes distorted. Other than that it's usually fine.

What makes you think other women are jealous?

@@wyleecoyotee4252they probably have to do the „so called“ man’s job in their relationship which causes hardship and long-Term undesirability towards their men and that’s why they could be feelings a little bit of jealousy seeing different dynamics that actual functioned throughout all human history !😂

@@KidRipable You think a woman looking after her own home would resent a tradwife? I don't see that happening.

@@wyleecoyotee4252 ask the majority of women in the world they might as well tell you that they not necessarily want to resent their own home for the rest of their lifetime instead of moving into men made home including „feminist biasism“.

@@wyleecoyotee4252 look at the kind of things women say to each other on content that promotes that lifestyle for women. some of them consider it a betrayal of the sisterhood to have a healthy relationship with a man. they'll say things like you're "setting us back 50 years" by cooking dinner and cleaning the house

I find it interesting that there can be so many different types of successful couplings. I guess we need to learn what we want for ourselves and from our partners and not just be impressionable in the age of extreme egalitarian views.

Or real women have different preferences.

​@@JuniperGal-ek2puno, real woman are feminine

​@@MrSwagMan-l1h"real women are feminine" no, being feminine isn't something you have to be to be a woman. Do you ascribe to modern gender narratives too?

@@cosmo588 "Feminine" is relative; a much better way to put it perhaps, is that real women are not _afraid_ of expressing their femininity and/or being feminine, in spite of the constant browbeating of societal norms and/or the projections levied by their miserable academic peers described by Eric in this clip.

I agree a 100% but also his opinion is true for a lot of people.

These pseudo Alpha motivational channels cause widespread humiliation and the erosion of dignity in most males. Most work hard but never get on. If we all got on society would collapse because no one would be valued by doing the drudgery jobs. Career and professional status are fed by the illusions of gaining happiness through consumption. Individualism above a functioning communal society, community. When our ‘advanced’ Western societies have provided the basics, at affordable prices, for their entire populations, we will deserve the term successful. For now that ideal is ridiculed by the bankrupt free market ideology which states that the trickle down of relative success will solve everything. All that’s accomplished is a middle where avarice thrives but virtual signalling altruism for its own images benefit evades that. That ethos places value on all these motivational channels encourages, success for the individual, with philanthropic capitalist altruism creating avaricious profits. Happiness isn’t by success as the only metric where it’s relative attainment is measured by materialistic consumption, buying things, or emotional consumption, buying experiences. You can’t buy happiness in either form. The sooner the silent majority revolt against the vociferous minority pushing that idiocy, the better.

Nope, he’s got a wife and kids.

​@@user-up3dj3dh5edo you have a family if you're working 60-80 hours a week and you spend no time with them? At the start of the postcast he called those men insane and then worships them in the same 15 mins. This makes no sense.

@@seemlesslies Eric is not interesting in the family aspect. He is talking about how American society is losing edge and is lacking the kind of people with insane ambition and unusual values/skills that propel us forward especially technologically. Although I personally think his perspective is flawed, as the improvement of technology is not always something that we need.

I hear you brother.

This is so much better than every other comment here. I fear that these kinds of podcasts are pressuring men into thinking that money equals happiness and women won’t love them without it. There is (thankfully) so much more to life.

@@maxhobbs5512 money does not equal happiness but you will never make it to happiness without it if you are growing up in the USA. Life is all about competition. Take any depressed man, give him a Ferrari, a hot girlfriend who adores him and a purpose - the “depression” will disappear instantly. Being a man is about keeping all parts of your life under check. Fitness, family, friends, wealth and intelligence. If you miss any one of those things you are a lesser man for it. You could take the most successful man in the world, but if he’s not fit, with a great friend group and happy family around him - he’s just another rich dork.

I live in Washington state and see this first hand with all the tech dorks here. Sure they are rich but they are still borderline women with how they act and hold themselves. I’m moving up the ranks and things are changing very quickly for me. I am fit, 6’5, friendly, smart, intelligent and also dangerous. 4 years ago I was nothing like this and just another dork. I’ve slowly leveled up in every part of life and the way people act towards me is noticeable. Just driving around a 6 figure car and getting out of it arouses mystery and interest. If you are a high tier man in this society you can make it very far and achieve things you couldn’t even imagine. It’s all about drive and putting in so much work people think you are crazy.

@@mayeramschelrothschild3126you forgot to add how humble you’ve become as well. 😂

This is actually a great comment. 100% true.

Bingo.

Only one addition: and all three of those things change constantly…throughout the month.

Don't watch the mouth, watch the hands -Peter B Parker (Spider verse)

@@kc6810 oh no, they definitely want the top 10%, if you arent one of those dudes you arent even human to them, just a thing to be exploited, and they wont think twice about doing it.

I'm curious, what did you write in your profile exactly? Just that you're a good mechanic, enjoy camping, know your way around a toolbox, etc?

lol! I also facepalmed

@@gardenstatewny Not so direct as that - I had pictures of my jeep (it has a built on hot outdoor shower for the beach and a bbq attached to the back, since replaced with a pizza oven) and just commented that I did all the work myself (my jeep is pretty awesome lol), pictures of what I like to do... pictures of me at the beach, surfing, on a farm, sculpting (which is one of my hobbies) and playing banjo. In the text I was very, very direct, one of the paragraphs reads "Let me lead with confidence, I enjoy positive masculinity in all things. I love organising events, picnics, cooking, being a strong and validating listener. I like to take charge both in life and when we're alone and intimate together. Let me be the secure embrace that empowers and recharges you." Edit: these things are all true by the way, I wasn't trying to scam anyone...I do like being the person my partner can lean on and all the other stuff :)

@@gardenstatewny I would also point out, I thin one of Chris's past videos talked about that a huge percentage of women seek a masculine and dominant guy but a far smaller percentage of men are comfortable in that role meaning those that are get very sought after.

​@aPeaceOfAdam you wrote you love ORGANISING picnics, COOKING, you're a good listener..... and you matched that with muscly looking pics when doing farm work, surfing and car work (your jeep). I don't think you realise this is VERY FAR from being the "average bloke" :D most guys, especially city ones, Don't have any idda how to fix a car, do not do farm work and..... mostly 99% of red pill will say "never in my life i'd touch the kitchen cause that's a woman's job" and "and she should shut up and give me peace, i don't need to hear about how hard her day was". So basically, you're a unicorn!

It is a gift. Most men don't have it. For most men beer and watching sports after shift is all they need. You are a prize from social stand pooint. It is a prize for a woman to have a man who is wired in such a way that he must provide no matter what. It is rare. Uncommon. It attracts leeches and parasites who are exactly opposite and are willing to go for a free ride along your side but only as far as getting the benefits go. They don't want to support in the times of hardship. Make sure that your wife always supports you in these pursuits. If she doesn't then keep in mind she isn't worth the rare prize that you are to her. So she better start supporting you too -- emotionally, psychologically, intellectually. Is she can't, she isn't worth you.

Do what's right for you. Stand on your own two legs.

Society is so celebrity driven. Even being a teacher or professor puts a person on display where others develop crushes on them. It appears where ever a person is put on display at a non threatening distance, enables another to access their attributes, possibly making them desirable. Women watching construction workers do their thing or a surgeon, etc will impress them. Many musicians have been asked, "why did you become a musician, or join a band?". Many answer the same, "to get the girls.". Many straight women like masculine men and many are looking for other types. As there are many different types of females and so on in today's society. Some aggressive and not so aggressive. If you want to meet someone with high standards then you must be aware of where you would find them. But very little is normal today. With the introduction of tvs with mega channels, home computers and other devices, people are more isolated and lonelier than ever. My heart goes out to anyone still searching for that someone special. As they say, 'many a mistake has been made in he wake of loneliness.''. And as the Chinese say, 'Life without love is a slow death'. The best to you all!

You shouldn’t need to prove all that to get a date. All you need to get the date is some balls. See a woman you like, start up a conversation with her then ask her out. Not hard if you don’t care about getting shot down. How do you do that? To answer a question with a question, why is it that you don’t experience “approach anxiety” when you start up a conversation with a man? Get it? Don’t start a conversation with a woman with the intention of getting a date. Start a conversation with a person that happens to be a woman just like if you start a conversation with a person that happens to be a man. The sex of the person should be unimportant otherwise it will come off as creepy, needy, validation seeking, etc. If you do this, instead of looking like you are seeking their approval and your self esteeem is based on you getting it or not (ie. weird and creepy) you can treat the interaction as a test of whether or not she is worthy of your time and continued persuit of a sexual encounter. But again, that is not the goal of starting the conversation just as it isn’t when you start a conversation with a guy you don’t know. If she engages you genuinely and facilitates the conversation in a jovial manner then she’s receptive. Any other reaction and she’s not. And if not then politely end the interaction. Now you can move on without feeling rejected because you weren’t seeking her approval. But you did find out something about her attitude and that disqualifies her to you. Win win. Now, if she did respond positively then keep it up. Continue the interaction the same way you would with a man. As long and the conversation is flowing in a positive direction then don’t derail it. But as soon and the conversation slows down, as it naturally should, or if there’s an awkward moment of silence, or if you just need to end it because you got your coffee and need to get back to band practice or whatever you are doing that’s more important, that’s when you need to pull the trigger. This is the point where it all changes and you no longer treat this like you would if it was a man you were taking with. You got to switch from a friendly conversation with another person to a masculine man in pursuit of, ultimately, further interaction with her of a sexual nature. Should be easy to get the first date now and she didn’t need to see you performing for her attention. And the fact that you have an artistic ambition will be something that naturally comes up next time you see her. Plus it will increase her attraction to you so you are practically guaranteed a second date. You don’t know how well set up you are my friend. Now all you got to do is find your balls. 😂 Good luck mate

Women are not interested in men’s personal hobbies or preferences. They are more focused on stability and character because it is much more impactful to their existence than a man’s love of music or arts.

I'm proud of you and your courage.

The social proof can only come from someone in her social circle, unless your an "super cool or important" person like a rocker/ celebrity/government official. Therefore the average guy needs to try to talk and make friends with other men or women who have friends that are single. Essentially a social network needs to be created for social proof.

Mike? Their names are Chris and Eric. You are so arrogant! Lol. 😉

Outward brash ambition is not a good trait and people respond poorly to it. What people like is competent ambition but the line between them can be very fine and open to perception. To one group an ambitious person can be seen as a leader and to another group that person can be seen as a controller.

I was one of those until I realized I was just being jealous of someone's motivation that I didn't have at that moment... I started to seriously self reflect, read about stoicism which changed my entire outlook & now I am becoming the best version of myself while encouraging everyone I meet to read Marcus Aurelius "Meditations" the Gregory Hayes edition & "Outtwitting the Devil" by Napoleon Hill.... Your entire mind will shift...❤🙏 Life is beautiful now everywhere I go & road blocks are amazing lessons that I no longer dread... I feel everyone just needs to eat better, work out daily & read books that resonate, taking notes & journaling along with waking up daily & going to sleep, being grateful for everything in your life... Everything will start to change....🤗

Ambitious or ass kissers to the boss and snitch on everyone to earn brownie points?

Don't be beta why would you let weak people destroy your confidence? Be a man get in the gym, read your Bible, stop wasting you time on things that are stupid like video games, and when you go out in public walk with authority. Your life will change.

I agree, great comment.

learned helplessness is bad for both men and women

theres actually something to this..

A lot of men do nothing of the sort. Most may look back at the mistakes but they will absolutely view the success with rosy tinted glasses. Only a small fraction who went too far such as those with compulsive behaviours may have regret or men who had a catastrophic event or decision turn against them have regret. The men that have no family are the most likely to have regret.

As a man you don't need a family. You just need kids ​@@Art-is-craft

​@@Art-is-craftmost do when their death bed is by themselves because they don't have any relationships lol. Older men are always trying to buy back their youth what are you talking about.

No one lays on their deathbed and says "I wished I had spent more time at work"

@@seemlesslies those men who sacrificed everything for a successful career, will always have a leech or two trying to snatch that last pearl

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Bingo.

Less about women's wants and more about women's don'ts.

Woman are happier in their place and society thrives.

@@holysquire8989 Women are never happy. At best, they are less unhappy.

Facts.

yeah just don't be a loser

Not only every man, every woman too. If a woman wants to be a homemaker (raising kids) and a supportive wife, she should strive to constantly improve and do better at that. I don't think this is a gendered thing. As a man I'm also looking for women who put in their all in whatever they do and aren't sitting around not doing much.

@@adelb7897 You made a strong point there sir, couldn’t have worded it any better!

Don't give everything you have to any corporation. They will work you to death and just replace you. Hard work really just gets you a sore back, that's my experience. The promotion will go to somebody's niece or nephew. 😊

Just as well else you may have started smoking in school.

Good looking bloke

Always found him a handsome man!!!❤

How many 🚬🚬🚬 did he smoke a day

Im pretty sure the guy on a poster is Darrell Winfield

You have got to choose on the basis of character. Seeking men with achievements and who state their character traits and are open about them.

If you can't find one you're very likely not what a masculine man is looking for

"Women become the men they want"

​@jayc342009 And its gross

Yeah now u know what men are always expected to do, being the 'man' in a relationship does generally suck and leave you with the shorter end of the stick nowadays... As a man, I think I've only ever felt okay playing the 'mens' role a couple times within one of my relationships because I truly loved the girl and I was her first. Problems happened when I felt that she didn't show me enough care, love or desire so resentment built on my end which ruined the relationship. Honestly I'd wish I didn't have to play the 'men' role but in relationships where the woman deserves it, I'll do it for her to make her happy.

It's not your problem. Just walk away. Walk away from the situation. Let it be someone else's problem.

Equality isn’t here yet. Double standards still exist.

@@JuniperGal-ek2puWomen are not sexually attracted to men who are their equal. Women are hypergamous & want to adore & look up to their man. Not across or down at him. Those guys get friendzoned.

@@CommanderTexas Another random man telling women what they want 😂

@@JuniperGal-ek2pu. Yep. Like when a guy gets pulled over by a cop, he gets a ticket. When an attractive girl gets pulled over by a cop, they let her off ticket free. Oh, the irony

Men are reluctant to become providers today because they know that a woman can lie in their bed for 5 years after signing some documents and then walk away with the house, the car, and half of everything else that the man worked for to provide her. Then the court assigns to the woman, half of his net income in child support. They become providers without access to women or the children they made with them. So why do it?

In Moscow in 1950 there were twice as many women in their 30s than men in their 30s. This was in result of WW2, Great Hunger, Great Terror that all happened in late 1930s and early 1940s in the USSR. The tragic historical events affected men much more than women with net result being twice as many women than men in society. From genome analysis of over 300,000 samples we know that in the span of the last 5 million years twice as many women had children than men. From our species genome analysis about 40% of men who ever lived had children and as many as 80% women did. This is equilibrum for our species -- about 2 women per 1 men. If we are not in this equilibrum, like we haven't been since the end off ww2 -- all kinds of weird social phenomena happen. Like the one described by you. Interestingly for our species the balance is to have many more women than men in the dating pool. When these is 1 man per 1 woman we are in inbalance. Resulting in social awkwardness possibly followed by unrest, resulting in war, that will put things back into balance. In Poland there lived 36 milion people before Russia attacked Ukraine. Now we also have 2.5 million refugees, mostly women with their kids. At least 1 milion additional women in the "dating pool". With the same number of men. Trust me it is much harder to find a feminist here nowadays. And yes these moms have their men in Ukraine. Mostly dead or injured soldiers who can't escape the country. Or with PTSD or alcoholics. They haven't seen them in 2 years too. So many of these Ukrainian women are actually looking for new partners. I understand this is anectodal, but yes, somehow feminism ins't the thing in Poland anymore -- since all these ukrainian women settled here. If there ever is war with China in the US -- mostly men will die in the war. It is hard to be a feminist with all these women competing for small number of men who survived the war. I hope this never happens. Just wanted to throw another perspective into this.

People do not tell men to be unambitious. Why do people make shit up like this?

@@paulb7207 So if there’s a war going on, why are the Ukrainians still letting Russia ship gas through the pipeline all the way across the country. Russia has controlled the Crimean region for hundreds of years.

I know this is an older post, but the reason for this is that Feminism in the 60s thought they could level the playing field by simply getting rid of "oppressive" ideas. But by the early 90s it was understood that that simply didnt work. Equality was dropped and equity was picked up. And in order for men and women to have equity a finger had to be put on the scale. Women could not compete with men, certainly not with the top tier men, so they had to make adjustments. Thats when you saw the start of the idea of blanket privilege, systemic issues and the like. It wasnt womens fault. It wasnt the fact that the average woman who wanted to have kids had to drop from the work force for around 4 years which would put her behind any male peer, even the worst. So that had to be corrected for. But you cant correct for individual choice. All you end up doing is creating a new oppressive system that prevents men from exceling and then women state with lament, "Where have all the good men gone?" And they simply do not understand, you murdered them.

Raw ambition doesn’t have to be

ambition in comunistic west bhahah

Nope. It shouldn't be suppressed though but that is a different thing.

I have never thought about it but yeah if they're off the pill over time they would go back to a normal chemical balance

Correlation doesn't equate causation, but it's a hell of a correlation.

I think you and Peterson missed the point of communism. Communism isn’t about blaming plight on others. Ironically it’s about hard work in a communal setting where the government owns the means of production. In late stage capitalism the elites blame their plight on the working class and convince you that immigrants are the source of your problems and not neo-feudalist practices and neoliberal policies.

Sadly, virtue and values are not required in a world where it is easier than ever to sleepwalk through life.

Shooting guns are for people that can't fight

It's not short term because the woman leaves the bad boy, it's because he leaves her. Women sure love writing about obsessed, possessive, aggressive bad boys that fall in love with them forever in their romance novels.

You typed a ton and said very little.

@@alexieyevcasanova7898 And you said absolutely nothing.

@@unapologeticanti-feminist3205 I think there's some nuance to your first point. Yes, it's typically the bad boy that leaves rather than the woman doing it. But I think the women who typically fall for the bad boys in the first place and actually try to be with them are broken. They are the ones who try to fix the bad boys. The healthy and stable women don't even go for the bad boys. Or when they do, they don't stay. Not to say the stable ones aren't attracted or tempted but they know better to not to stray into temptation. Much like how some men know better than to try for the crazy broken women. Some still do, but a lot don't.

⁠Sure, the guy can leave too. Doesn’t really matter who leaves. The romance novels are also short term ‘bad boy’ attraction. They then become the ‘good guys’ the girls wanted to begin with. It’s a fantasy I guess. Not really my thing. Kinda like the fantasy of porn 🤷🏼‍♀️ Both a romanticized version.

You can still do a trade if you are you enough. What field do you work in. It sounds like engineering.

@@Art-is-craft His post sounds like bs tbh.

@@sup1e no regular racism. the real racism that allways is against white people. wha t sounds bs to you is the concept of people working hard

Yes.

There are very few women in actual power. Any that do make it in government tend to have either competence or are put into power by a cohort of men.

Women who lived before the late 20th century didn't need to rely on themselves. Somehow the human race survived for thousands of years despite women not relying on themselves and men getting into trouble, screwing up, dying, going to jail, going bankrupt or not being around, etc. Things were worse then and yet, we got through it.

Women do not seek weak men that sit around talking about their inner feelings. Nor do they want psychopaths. Women seek men that have character and are stable.

Different strokes for different folks.

I agree to some degree. You'll never be happy if you aren't content with who you are as an individual, period. However, to say friendships are overrated is misguided. Building a true community, not just a network of people, is one of the best things you can have to enhance your life. I didn't know the difference between those two things until I reached my 30's. People are depressed these days because there's less and less genuine community out there.

Strong relationships are the strongest indicator for mental health. You are very mistaken in you view. People are social creatures and need trusted peers in hard times. Not every issue can be handled on your own.

That's kind of what more and more of us have to do regardless.

You are 100% correct?

emotions and intelligence are two separate things.. Feminist lingo

@@spiff1 No it means being aware and intelligent enough to actually be able to read a another human beings emotions and know how to respond and temper your own behaviors to be considerate of them, as well as being self aware enough to know how your actions and emotions effect others... Intelligent person lingo...

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@@kc6810 Yep, imagine never having heard of "emotional intelligence''... A psych phrase, not exclusive to feminism.

@@kc6810 I know.

The same goes for men... But in current times men need the feminine more than the feminine needs the masculine. Men are looking for the feminine in the outside world, but women insist on being masculine or just not being there at all for them. So men have to integrate the feminine inside themselves. Only way. With men integrating the feminine I don't mean "be gay" or "be trans" or whatever, but look for the feminine aspects of your consciousness and tap into that, while simultaneously retaining your basic masculinity.

Actually that's not true

I'm not sure most people know what they want.

What is toxic masculinity?

@@Art-is-craft Lying, cheating, manipulating, taking advantage of, scaring, self-righteousness, bossing, etc with an air of having the right to do it all, because of traditional masculine roles of domineering unreflectingly. If a woman does these things with an air of that she is entitled to it because she is one of the so called weaker sex - that is toxic femininity. There is positive masculinity and positive femininity, too, in opposite to the negative traits above. These are more dependent on subjective taste - stick to your variety.

That's real confidence.

That's one more for me 😂

Get to work! 😂

Why???

Do you think you'll be more attractive? Fine if you're doing it for health, but I don't personally announce it.

​@@fay5479 Did you watch the video, lol? Ambition for the sake of ambition is manly. Ambition is watered down by feminism and critical race theorists. Feminism deems ambition to be toxic masculinity. Critical race theorists claim ambition and hard work are vestiges of white imperialism.

I appreciate your thought-out tangent, it legitimately pinpoints some things that I need to think about in a better way. Trying to balance my individual wants and needs with the collective wants and needs of others has caused a great source of confusion in my life. I think a lack of love and affection has led me to seek out many things that I don't truly want or need.

@@meme6335 You ‘re welcome, just expressed my thoughts on these prevalent discussions. Best of luck with your life.

​@@Beesoyou can tell the entire talk is just elitist ranting without any real fore thought into the complexity of how society works. He calls the men that work extreme hours insane and then tells you to worship them. He says we need to build better men for a women acting like a man? What? This dude makes zero sense.

cos u dont understand how averages and generalisations work - youre an absolutist

This is true. I think it is more important to understand who is attracted to us as we currently are and ask ourselves if we like the result or if we want to do something to change the outcome. That's the only control we have over our own situation. Getting mad at the other gender for not being how we'd like doesn't get us anywhere.

@@spiff1 you see, none of these buff masculine men that advocate that really what women want is basically themself, I.e. buff masculine men, actually present any data for their “women want…”, “men think…” or “people are…” statements. No data from studies, no link to studies, how big sample sizes were and how strong of a correlation that was detected. A weak correlation will not help the majority of men and women trying to find a partner. The good old saying correlation does not imply causation is good to keep in mind here. And thank you for proving my point about labelling and filling each other into compartments based on our own biases!

Biology and instincts are central to male and female existence. Women judge men on character and stability, men judge women on feminine traits and agency. In hunter gather human tribes women required males to be good at hunting and capable of defending them, males judged females on the ability to gather food and to raise the family. Without these traits humans would not exist today. And those traits are still emanating from biology.

@@apatheliac It depends on how far you go back. Hunter gatherers would have been purely based on physicality. Remember we are not taking about fake steroid men but men who proved through their actions.

Agreed

you are completely right about you're third point. you should read the book called women have better sex under socialism.

​@@anonanon7553I would just like to point out......that she used eastern and western germany as her study points......nothing else needs to be said. Imagine actually trusting a single publication coming from Eastern Germany about human well-being.

This is more important than it seems to most people, but here's a proof of how important good fathers are for children. You were raised with a good masculine model so you knew what to look for. On the flip side, I spend my 20s chasing women like my mother just to realize she was a selfish blackhole of victimhood. Now i flee those like the plague, but i lost a good chunk of my young adult life trying to build a castle on sand...

​@overtaker12 Possibly everything happened the way it needed to? You could now help teach younger men what not to chase, from what you went through with your experiences... There is always an upside to a downside... If you haven't found the one, just focus on you & she will appear.. There are still alot of good women out there... Someone told me stop fucking with peasants & wait for your king... Same as for anyone I believe vice versa... Just focus on becoming the best you with confidence & humbleness... Watch what happens...

​@@loveme77527 Ah yes, the "everything happens for a reason" mentality. Nice feeling, but very naive and main character syndrome kind of view of the world in my opinion. I would never DARE tell someone victim of abuse of ANY kind that it "happened for a reason". "the is always an upside to a downside".... what a empty series of words.... no, there isn't always in real life. Sometimes a rapist get away and the victim dies, sometimes millions of jews are gazed cause of some lunatic on Meth who wanna pin all the evils of the worlds on them. thinking the world is a place who always rewards those who deserve it is a nice feeling, but a lie... Unless you think it was worth it for them to die so we could learn a lesson? witch would be even more twisted... I won't keep going cause I think I made my point, but your fortune cookie phrases might make you feel better, but they aren't the reality nor are they helping anyone. I am doing better and building myself up, but i almost offed myself before that... You did say something true in all that though, there are still a lot of good women out there and I hope i can be so lucky as to find one.

We all want strong, principled loyal partners.

@@reneelibby4885Be honest you want the most attractive man to be loyal to you but the truth is HE NEVER WILL cause what attracts you to him also attracts other girls & he has ALL the options 😂

This was said by a female that does not let the male lead. As usual. And even if you're right, it's you paying the price for the other 10 women he tried to lead and wouldn't let him lead before he met you. And women are not showing any signs of changing, but to maybe become more masc.

@@grantwithers I bet the moment the man starts to lead this little "lady" the battle starts.

you aren't worth protecting anymore.

Or women have different preferences.

I would advise reading and studying Machiavelli. It may help you to temper your self so that others do not react in a negative way.

Eh, you're implying that liberalism is all emotion and conservatism is all reason. No, both can be emotional in some areas and reason in some. Your wife's arguments are emotional most likely because she's a woman. My long term gf is pretty good at operating on reason but like any of us, can be emotional. Also, emotions aren't always a bad thing as long as you don't let them control you.

@@Gnomesmusher modern day liberalism is based on emotion. If you deny this I question your intelligence on the matter and much more. I’m not political but it’s plain as day to see that liberals modus operandi is arguing points based on emotion rather than logic. Just look at the trans, women’s, and racial movements. Nearly nothing is based in facts but rather emotions and how they feel.

​@Gnomesmusher this post was emotionally driven Bro....

@@mayeramschelrothschild3126 Like I said both sides have views that are based on emotions. But that fact that you're ignoring that conservatives do the same thing too makes me question YOUR intelligence and emotional security. I can already tell I triggered you. Just look at the conservative reaction to vaccines. Talk about viewpoints being based on emotions rather than scientific and medical facts. And then there's the whole "stolen elections" claims. Over 50 court cases and the right wing have not won a single court case claim on the elections. Tell me again that the right don't operation on emotions rather than fact?

@@mayeramschelrothschild3126 I literally said both sides can be emotional, so you pointing out libs being emotional doesn't make the case that conservatives aren't irrationally emotional as well. In fact, it's obvious that I triggered you. Take COVID vaccine for example. That's a case of conservatives reacting emotionally rather than based on scientific and medical facts. And then the whole "stolen elections claim". Over 50 court cases claims filed and EVERY SINGLE ONE of them lost. And yet the right still cling to their feelings that the elections were stolen but unable to provide any evidence. Tell me that isn't feelings over facts.

That is horrid advice. Sounds like something a sociopathic manager would tell his people. Why on earth would I take something as pointless as work more seriously then I take myself?

@@peteschaub7561 it’s clear you aren’t doing work that you genuinely enjoy or are interested in. “Work” isn’t the same thing as “employment”.

@@sf356 yes, like 99.9% of humanity for all of history, I work to provide for my family. This idea that you're supposed to get deep meaning out of what you do for money is an absurd modern conceit. I get a more profound sense of satisfaction out of simple chores like splitting and stacking firewood than I ever have at work.

@@peteschaub7561 good luck in creating excuses as to why you can’t enjoy your source of income. Avoiding purpose in your work is more of a modern conceit than getting paid for sincere interest in a subject. You sound miserable. Carry on.

@@sf356 I'm not miserable lol. I love my life. I never said that I hated my job, that I'm not good at it, or even that I don't think it's fun sometimes. But to think that I get some kind of profound purpose from a 8 to 5 corporate job is laughable. I'm a father of 3 with a great family. I'd quit my job in a second and never look back if it made their lives better.

Musk is a tech genius like Gates and people just cannot compute that. People use to say stupid stuff about Jobs saying he was not a computer guy or an engineer even though he was a team leader on many apple products developments.

Laughed at this one. For sure!

A society of utter success would be a total disaster. A society of mutual respect would be total heaven. It’s not everyone’s purpose to get on. For most it’s getting by. The biggest destroyers of masculinity are the successful. Enter the female success through equalling up and most males now have two humiliations to their core dignity, successful men and successful women. The best strategy is to pity those who must have it and do it all for they must be constantly filling an internal void that’s impossible for them to bear.

You haven’t been successful in putting yourself in other people’s shoes and or looking around at the world and wondering why it is so broken. Those two things would help you understand and are more important than 3 of the things you listed as being professional at:

@@shasmi93 and I’d humbly add the at I am a professional empath. That has brought me much pain and heartache over the years.