My husband and I have also been married seven years, and my best marriage advice is this mantra: "I, too, am annoying, and if he weren't here, I'd still have to do this annoying chore, PLUS I'd have no one to cuddle with after." Works every time!
I like this. I’ve been married for 2. Mine is …always say thank you. Thank each other for every little thing you do. Yeah you’ll get on each others nerves once in a while…that’s just fact of being two humans cohabitating. But don’t ever lose sight of what each of you contribute! I think we say thank you more than any couple I’ve hung around…that’s our secret. Say thank you, at the end of the day, list out everything the other person does for you and for your relationship and family… and mean it!!
Best relationship advice I got from my pampered chef bridal shower consultant 🤣 Never talk bad about your spouse to your family or friends. They will remember the bad things long after you have forgiven and/or forgotten.
My husband and I have a saying. If it won't matter in 5 years, it shouldn't matter in 5 minutes. It's worked for us for over 22 years. Those soaps are cute
The best piece of marriage advice I’ve ever been given was from my mom and is super universal: Always be nice to each other. Even if you’re in a moment where you don’t like each other very much, be kind. Some couples are really rude to each other (even when they’re not mad at each other) but there’s nothing to be gained from meanness and nastiness at any time.
Exactly!! I personally couldn’t even imagine saying something mean or rude to my partner - they don’t deserve that no matter what they’ve done (I guess unless it’s something truly atrocious or vile… but even then, retain your dignity and leave before getting nasty)
We do say rude things for eachother, but those arent usually serious. We say these things in a joking tones and if we ever go overboard. We both emediatly apologize to eachother and try our best to remenber what isnt fine to say. Basically, if you wanna be mean, dont do it to actually hurt your partner. If your just joking around please be sure your partner know its a joke and well.. yeah communication is key your highness !
Yeah, this! Because every time I've seen couples begin to feel and show contempt for each other, I know the relationship is either doomed or close to it.
true! I call it pettiness or revenge instead of mean or nasty. giving your partner the cold shoulder is a huuuuge no no and leads to dysfunction, nothing more
Or maybe a side view of a pore. ㅎㅎㅎ 😂 What about a science soap? Just take away the grass and add a hair instead. 😂 Very anatomical and educational for science teachers.
Celebrating 39 yrs marriage this Friday and I really appreciate you pointing out the complementarity of partners. Amen to that! You're not in competition with each other.
@@lady_sonderAlways treating each other with respect. A habit of forgiveness. And recognising your partner is not your enemy. We all have wounds from the past and the pain we experience is embedded in those wounds. Find healing for your own wounds to be free to love unconditionally.
Miss Katie are you going to have a little one ?😍 My husband and I this year will be married for 40 years. wow geez. I think couples need to respect each other and just listen to each other, lots of hugs and kisses doesn't hurt either lol
I've been married 10 years, and honestly the advice to have something fun to do together after conflict is something I've never heard before but may be the best advice ever! Thanks, Katie
Katie! My husband's advice to my winter blues/anxiety problems was to get a hobby and so we finally pulled the trigger on my soap making desires! I ordered the items from the royal upgrade list from your soap academy videos and will be following along to make soap soon and am so excited. 😊
@amara560 i made two solid batches of really pretty soap! I made the orage batch like she did in the tutorial then I strayed and bought one of the micas she used for her glitterati soap she made in another video and made a solid soap with that! And both came out amazing 🥰 then i got too busy to make soap for a minute because of my kids sports but i will after the holidays
Your observations about the necessity of not making the other person an enemy during conflict is very much true in our marriage as well. The best marriage advice we were given 17 years ago was "whenever you face a problem/conflict, don't let it stand between you so that you are fighting against each other - instead, stand side by side and link arms as you face it together." Hugely helpful (and admittedly sometimes hard to stick to) but very wise advice. We're still very much in love and enjoy living life together ❤️
Love these longer videos!!! Thank you so much! Similar to what you say at the end I will say to you ‘I don’t care what you do, just as long as it’s a video from you’ is what makes my world go round. Thank you for this gold content.
I am the second oldest of 12 kids, and my hubby is the youngest of two. To say meeting my family was overwhelming is an understatement! 😂 We worked together while we were dating (that's where we met) and for the first several years of our marriage. I miss it. We loved working together! I'm a SAHM homeschooling mom of our 3 kids now. We've been married for 12 years and we still have crushes on each other. ❤
Cannot wait for this soap design to arrive! My husband and I have been married for over twenty five years and you gave the best advice ever possibly because we also follow this advice. My husband and I come also from very different backgrounds and both fairly stubborn so being respectful and listening in an argument is key to our solving them. Take care!
This was the sweetest advice! I'm a little stressed out because I'm moving in a few weeks into an apartment with more roommates than I've ever had before and I feel like a lot of this advice is also applicable to that!
I'm having an issue with my sister because of a certain situation and her advice about it's usually the situation and not the other person that's the issue really hit home for me. I'm definitely going to try hard to keep that in mind.
Good luck!! My personal advice (as someone who hates living with people but has to thanks to the current state of the economy) is to meditate for stress and communicate, communicate, communicate. Resentment is silent yet deadly and builds quickly if you don’t say anything about what bothers you. The meditation will help with this as well, for self reflection. And then anytime you can, get out of the house! Go into nature and decompress alone, maybe with a beloved pet. But go outside and breath and you will feel better, trust me
Up in Iowa, we all swear by Happy Lights. They’re little square lights you can plug in anywhere that mimic sunlight. I gotta say, between that, daily walks, and getting vitamins in, it does help with surviving winter! ❤
I love your soaps and watching you make them telling us stories. Makes it fun and interesting. I always tell people that communication is key. If you can't talk about anything with your significant other, then maybe you shouldn't be in a relationship. We've been married almost 30 years now. And most people don't believe me, but we hardly argue. We have disagreements, but we never fight. LOL I guess we got it out of our systems when we were dating. As for flowers I like roses. But my fav flower of all is Lilly of the Valley. It's near impossible to find anything scented with it. We used to have some growing by our front door growing up. It's also the flower of May my birth month.
We also got married May 21, 2016 and we’re from Wills Point, TX (just up the road basically). I love watching your videos! The best piece of marriage advice we ever received was to never go to bed angry or without discussing an issue. That has worked for us.
My husband and I have been together for over 38 years and we love spending time together, but we also enjoy the time we have doing our own things from time to time. Our kids came after 15 years together and are now not in the home. We love being able to go out and do new things now together. Remember working towards a great end will always make you a better couple.
Mine and my husband’s love language is quality time and physical touch, so spending in-person time with each other is an ideal situation for us 😂 I will never get how people like to do extended or regular trips away from their spouse because my brain is so much a fan of spending all my time with him lol
SOAPMAKING QUESTIONish: Do you have a conditioner bar soap recipe or do you use a premade conditioner base? I would love to purchase the recipe if available. I have also been trying to convert everything to soap bars. Do you use one of your products as a body wash? Ive had to resort to liquid body wash because of its hydrating properties. I would love to know if you make something that can replace that. I love watching the cold process but have no desire to make my own at this time. Your safety process is impeccable and isn’t something i have time for with 4 littles running around at home. Your soaps are incredible! I am always amazed by your designs! I absolutely love watching your videos. You are so real and enjoyable to watch! Everyone should have a best friend like you! This homestead collection makes me excited for the rural property we have bought and are working to develop to live on! I plan on having an incredible garden and lots of fun things like that!
I have been 30 years my husband every month wish each other happy Anniversary. We communicate to each other all best we can. Give each other grace we both grow at different rates with patience and forgiveness. Pray for each other. That is my advice.
My husband and I had a rocky beginning as well, but with a lot of work and patience it has bloomed. We are inseparable and have become each others best friend and never want to be apart or do something with anyone else.
Flower QOTD - I love lilacs and peonies- but I’m pretty sure I would love them even if they didn’t smell amazingly!!! I like their multiple petals and how soft they feel. And Dogwoods. YES! Dogwoods don’t have much scent either!
When you called your Mom The Chicken Lady...She probably never watched Kids in the Hall, but I just about died. I hear that & immediately go to KITH. Lol. Love the soap, it's so pretty & that is a fragrance that I've been wanting :) Yes, I prefer flowers that smell good. But I appreciate all flowers :) Have a great day!
Love the design, and the wise advice. Yes, I love scented flowers. But my favorite flower is gladiolus. All that keeps it from being perfect is the lack of scent.
Dahlia was (and still ist) one of my most-loved flowers, but due to its awesome smell and cute blossoms I come to love hyacinths the most! Thank you for the chilling video
Katie your choice of colors for this soap are spot on. I just love pastel colors and the yellow, pink, and white are so beautiful together. This soap reminds me of Spring!!!
I love watching you make florals! For me… I love edible flowers! Flower flavored baked goods make me feel like a fairy 🤣 So yes, I guess the smell does make the flower lovelier! ❤
Very cute soap! My partner and I aren't married but we have been living together for about 10 years now. We have had some ups and downs but overall, yeah, just like with any advice you really gotta just go with what resonates with you and chuck the rest of it. We are also the type of couple that just really enjoys spending time together and if one of us wants alone time, we just go to the other room for a bit or take advantage of when one of us goes to bed before the other and we get our alone time that way. He's very much a introvert and I'm somewhere between an ambivert and an omnivert so, we both have different social needs and that sometimes gets a bit icky but we've always been able to make it work out in the end.
Listen, peeps say you shouldn't date long distance but there are some wonderful positives that come from it! You said some things that are the same for me and my husband who dated long distance for a few years before we were married. 6 years married and we always want to be together. People think we're so weird.
I have been with my boyfriend for almost five years. My boyfriend has been the best guy I've ever been with and you are so correct on how relationships are different for each person, because there really isn't a fix all for everyone because we're all different and individualized.
As a chicken/duck/goose breeder I can't wait to see the chicken inspired soap! Tell your mother to be careful, chicken math is real! I've got around 200~ birds and I'm hatching chicks.
I've worked with my spouse since before we even got together. We met in October 2016 at Kmart and started dating at the start of 2017: we worked together through 3 jobs until I finally started working at a different job in 2021. We have lived together since 2018. People asked us all the time how we managed to be around one another 24/7 without wanting to strangle one another and honestly, for us, the answer was to have separate hobbies at home and different roles in our workplaces so that although we ate lunch together, we weren't actually working together most of the time. We dedicate time to our own separate pastimes, but make time to do specific things together so that we can still have those bonding moments. If we are feeling grumpy we usually just seek out space to be alone until we feel calm enough to talk to the other person about whatever we are feeling.
I used to have over 50 chickens! I'm down to 9 now but I'll get more soon. I'm so so so looking forward to the chicken soap! Tomorrow is my 10 year wedding anniversary 😁 my favorite flower doesn't smell so I think it's the color and shape of the flowers for me
I like the color and shape of flowers more than anything. I love big blooms and I love star shaped things, and seeing gorgeous color combos makes me want to have a giant garden.
You are such an amazing person!You always crack me up but in a very sweet kind of way because you are so young, but yet you are so wise beyond even my years ! I'm probably 15 years older than you. Maybe more, and your wisdom just never ceases to amaze me! The habits you and Caleb have is the best unintended marriage advice I've ever received.I'll probably never get married again. , but if I ever do get into a relationship, this is perfect advice! The funny thing is, you weren't giving advice. You were just saying what works for you!
I’ve been married 38 years and you gave so good advice ( really you did) I’m applying some next time an argument arises! And the soap is beautiful, can’t wait to smell it!💙💚💛💜💕
I personally don't like flowers with strong smells simply because my nose is messed up. I don't think that flowers smell the same to me as they do to everyone else. It's like, with some kind of alcohol like whiskey that has, for example, chocolate and caramel scent notes, I don't smell chocolate or caramel, I smell the ethanol. Same goes for perfumes, I don't smell what they're supposed to smell like. Which sucks because I love the look of flowers, they just all smell like chemicals, so I can't have them in my house. Beautiful soap today, Katie. I already love this collection so much
There's a tree that grew in my childhood backyard that flowered and had a very distinctive and pleasant smell. The flowers are unremarkable, but it's still my favorite flower because of the smell and the memories attached to it. So to me, yes the smell of flowers makes me like them more.
To the question of the day. My favorite flower is a stargazer lilly and its mostly because of the smell. Also I work at Scarborough as a member of the preforming cast. I really hope to see you whlie you are out there. There are a lot of new things happening at faire this year and I sincerely hope you enjoy it.
SAD or seasonal affect disorder is a very real thing. When the winter starts to hit my daughter has to spend time tanning a few times a week. She really needs to get a uv light instead, but it does help her greatly.
my relationship advice is: "figure out what you need and what you can give. same for your spouse. talk openly about it, find what works. it doesnt have to fit expectations, throw it out the window, throw out "winning". look for what works and update that regularly." relationships are essentially venn diagrams, you are hestablish where your circles are and you find the overlap
1) Beautiful soap! 2) If I was asked to give marriage advice I would give this: A) Loving someone is a choice you make. Falling in/out of love isn't love, just lust. If you are going to marry someone, you make the choice to love them. B) Marriage is never 50/50, as many people say. It is, rather, 100/100 from each of you. You each give your all to the relationship because you love each other. The 19th of this month will be our 29th anniversary, and we are still happy together.
My brother-in-law married my husband and me. When he married us he said something along the lines of "I only have one piece of marriage advice, don't listen to all the advice" because yes, everyone is unique and every situation is unique! So excited to see the rest of the collection.
My husband and I have been super close together since I was 18. I feel completely lost without em and he's the same way. Our only bit of advice is clear communication and it's you both together vs the issue . Let the other have their hobbies and down time. Don't get hung up on schedule policing, sometimes things need to be done later than you want them. Once again I stress Clear Communication. Don't expect someone to be psychic or to -know- something and do NOT assume anything that you didn't talk on. Just Talk. What is a priority to you may not even be on their minds at that time.
100% On the QOTD -- I still love flowers that don't have strong/distinct fragrances, but I ADORE any flower that smells good. Oh, except roses that don't smell like roses, that's just wrong.
You're so right in regards to relationships! For me, I'd say just listen to your partner. Even if you've had a bad day, don't huff or roll your eyes. They need you, just need an ear, maybe a hug, and vice versa.
Watching this a little late, but I had to comment on the colors for this soap! They are so pretty, and I think the pink and yellow are perfect colors for a pink lemonade which would be an amazing summer soap. Either a artian with little lemon slice inbed or as a frosted soap with a little straw looking inbed. And lots of glitter of course lol
Just placed my first order as an early birthday gift to myself...I am beyond excited for the gummy bear and glow- in-the-dark mushrooms soap!! I've been making soap for a little over a year now and I can only hope to be a fraction as talented/creative as you, Katie. Thank you for being you🤩
I love being married too. My husband and I are inseparable, we worked together in college and our coworkers were BAFFLED at how we could spend 11 hours at work together and then go home and still want to spend time with each other, but that's just how we are. Even being in the same room doing our own things feels better because we're with each other. My rule is unconditional love. It's how I was raised, I may not always like you, but that has no bearing on the fact that I love you. Being mad or frustrated is temporary. I've never gone to bed mad, mostly because I can't stand not to resolve conflict IMMEDIATELY like it drives me insane not to talk it out ASAP. I can't imagine telling him he couldn't sleep in our room.
I’m obsessed with bachelor buttons and I don’t think they smell. But also roses are so much more appealing because they do smell great! I don’t think a good smell is necessary to like a flower, but it definitely helps!
