Let's be fair. Dr Malik is surely one of the best and most informative physicians openly discussing a great many topics that most would never touch upon, and in such a genuine and non-judgmental way. This is just a wonderful channel! Thank You, Dr Malik, for putting your clear voice out there!
I think she misrepresents many of these topics by conflating Ejaculation, Sex and Relationships. For example, during her Prostate cancer vids, she mixes up sex with ejaculation. Sex is with a partner. Very very few sex partners can maintain 21x per month outside the honeymoon period. Masturbation - you might make that in a week easy when you are younger. And the research shows this, married men have a higher incidence of prostate cancer, but the research is very taboo and hard to find online. This is another topic where sex vs masturbation is conflated. Edging is largely a self controlled, masturbatory tactic, and not for half hour with a partner - but >2 hrs solo when you get good at it.
For me, the best method of controlling ejaculation is frequent intercourse. I had a girlfriend several years ago and we would have intercourse several times a week, sometimes two or three times a day. After getting used to "getting it" this often I was able to hold my ejaculate for 30 to 40 minutes, enough time so that she would have 2 or 3 orgasms before I had one. It took a lot of practice!! I sure do miss that woman!!😊
@@user-jo5fz8iw3b umm.. No. It doesn't seem to work that way. The real thing is so much more exciting than the hand it seems masterbating does not have the same effect. At least, in my experience anyway.
Absolutely LOVE edging! Orgasms are so much more pleasurable and explosive. I highly recommend this technique to anyone who is suffering from premature ejaculation. Awesome video!
Doc, you haven't mentioned the BEST edging technique. In oral edging, for instance, this is when the receiver instructs the giver to "Stop!" just before orgasm. The giver ceases the stimulus, momentarily, and then resumes. As this is done repeatedly, the receiver enters a state of semi-orgasmic ecstasy, usually quite vocal, which should be to the delight of the giver who should also be greatly enjoying the teasing element of the technique. But here's the real fun part. On one of those cycles when the receiver says, "Stop," the giver defies the instruction and plays on through, so to speak, bringing the receiver to an enormously powerful climax. The cumulative pre-orgasmic tensioning, abruptly released via the element of surprise, produces such a rush of pleasure that the receiver will vocalize with reckless abandon and/or experience the sensation of nearly losing consciousness. (I recommend vocalizing into a pillow, for privacy.) Yes, it's THAT powerful.
Ive tried that and u get asked " whats wrong" i say nothing then starts again i say stop she says whats wrong then i try and explain what im trying to achieve she then looses interest
In my very late teens(18-19) I recall listening to Dr. Ruth discuss this very subject on her Radio program way back in the 1980's. She mentioned it's roots in the Kama Sutra. Those ancient texts cover advice on how to control or extend the male orgasm. Picked up a copy for myself at a Book store and started practicing and using the diet advice it gave in there. Now in my late 50's it still amazes me how often this same information keeps getting re-presented in new formats.
Dr. Malik thank you, I've been edging for decades and absolutely love it!!! Bringing more pleasure for both of us is definitely beneficial. Happy New Year to you and keep the videos coming 👍🏾
Been edging 20+years. I edged twice last night before she got hers at around 15 minutes. Stop/start method is what I do. 10-15 seconds and mask it by adjusting/changing position, kissing, or something similar. I might edge 1-3 times depending on how long it takes for her to finish. It builds the intensity of the bedroom fun for both of us.
Dr, Malik deserves the Nobel Prize in Medicine. Her videos are replete with useful, practical information, and she is incredibly articulate in disseminating her encyclopedic knowledge of all things urologic. What a gift she is to humankind!
I’ve been edging for over 20 years. I can allow myself to almost come but then stop, contract my PC muscles (perineum) while pushing a finger on the perineum. This allows me to carry on indefinitely. 😊
Thats called retrograde ejaculation simply by not allowing seminal fluid to come out of your body and instead of that it comes back to the bladder and released with the urine when you urinate
As a guy I can honestly say Dr. Malik has lots of information that you cannot learn on your own. This is medically based sexual education. Thank You for these Amazing videos!
I'm 60 and have a slow urine flow and difficulty emptying my bladder. If I edge for an hour I have an orgasm like an 18 yo and then piss like a race horse and can empty my bladder. I first learned about it when I was 18 in a Penthouse Magzine story called Time Lag Orgasm. It involved 2 girls that teased a man for an hour until he had the ultimate orgasm. I feel blessed I read it and have been practicing it 42 years with only positive results.
You ae so awesome. Your positive attitude and nonjudgemental tempermant towards these subjects is literally heartwarming. Rational people do exist. Humanity might have a chance after all. 😁😁😂😂
One thing I learned is how much the prostate swells when you're very close. On the perineum area you can feel something there and rubbing it can eventually trigger one. I practiced this by rubbing my legs together slowly one time when I was on the edge and words can't describe the build up that I felt. Basically my legs started shaking uncontrollably and the "point of no return" feeling lasted like 20 seconds as it went higher and higher in pleasure until I had to let go because it was too much. I never tried prostate toys but I had no idea I could have a prostate O by rubbing externally, it was much more intense and full body than the usual way
1- Edging is the practice of orgasm control to delay climax during sexual activity. 2- Edging can be done by oneself or with a partner and can be incorporated into many different kinds of sex. 3- The pros of edging include potentially increased pleasure, enhancing connection with one's partner, being a learning process, allowing for greater control, and helping with premature ejaculation. 4- The data on how well edging works is limited, but the stop-start method has been found to help with premature ejaculation. 5- Preventing climax can be achieved by increasing the length of the sexual excitation phase through abdominal breathing, focusing on moderate intensity, and enjoying the journey rather than just the end result. 6- Trying to distract oneself from sexual stimuli during edging is not recommended. 7- A study of 36 couples found that the stop-start method helped extend the intra-ejaculatory latency time up to seven minutes.
Edging is the act of leaning to the left or right edge while in a kayak or canoe and holding it for a pierod of time. You might have stollen our word, but where getting it back.
Great topic. Edging is fun. It's been around certain communities for a looong time. Keep it fun, keep stimulating in the start-stop, change it up. Enjoy it in a safe, secure place with the person you are absolutely crazy in love with.
Agree, I thought the ejaculation/orgasm is the best. But if you know how to edge, you keep pleasuring yourself not 5seconds only during the orgasm. They best one is if your GF is part of it. She also gets fun while making you pleased.
This is kind of a hoot. I'm part of a large community of guys who edge all the time and love it. Just about 100% live alone. I've been edging for decades. Now I have graduated into gooning, a whole different ball.
As a Male physician specialized in dermatology & venereal diseases I can surely appreciate Dr Malik´s contribution with these useful & interesting videos
What I found worked really well for my partner and myself was the 'Rule of 10' Basically to gently thrust for nine times, then on the tenth to firmly push right in, and back to nine gentle thrusts, and so on. Could keep going for a long time using that method, highly recommend it 👍
"There once was a man named McAmiter, who had a tool of Prodigious Diameter . But it wasn't his size that made his woman sigh, 'twas his rhythm, Iambic Pentameter "
Great topic. This is a big practice in the BDSM community. We use it as a component of power exchange, where top edges the bottom. It was nice to hear you chime in on the medical aspects of it. Keep posting great videos like this!
The problem with edging is that it often aggravate the female because she was "on her way" but when we stop she loses it. And when she loses it she often gives up and just wants to get it over with.
Yoga exercises like leg stretching, deep squat, glute bridge, planks etc., are the only things which helped me with pre ejaculation. After doing these for a while, now I can keep thrusting for half an hour without ejaculating by simply pushing my abs down towards the anus & squeezing my glutes at the same time. So the bottom line is to build power in your abs & glutes, and you will become master in the bedroom.
Don't take this edging too far. It sometimes ends up with very late ejaculation duration s and that is very hard to reverse or let's say lessen, if somehow it becomes a standard or habit.
Dear Dr. Rena, In the thumbnail picture of you at the beginning of this presentation, I can’t tell if you are reaching the edge, at the edge or well into the festivities. I’m guessing the latter. Anyhow, thanks for sharing this little window into your personal pleasures. This picture is worth a thousand words, as they say.
Yes fourplay one gets close to the eruption and return to fourplay then got back to smash manytimes back and fourth back and forth and back and forth back and forth and then finally viola both partners are exhausted with smiles on their faces oh joy
My wife says she learned to surf the wave. She is very MO and learned to hook all those together and what we call Surfing the Wave. Took several years but we got the rhythm.
I’m happy to see an edging video, it’s pretty popular in modern culture almost as recognizable a trend as no nut November which I was also glad to see addressed.. I’m curious about a scientific explanation and or warnings if needed about another form of edging, or I guess a entirely different experience, which is called “semen retention” it begins with edging and orgasm control, then it becomes about training yourself to feel an orgasm in full but retain semen and prevent the ejaculation from happening, this is a full climax orgasm but using the muscles of the penis to clench or hold back the semen, at first this is right at the exit of the urethra but with practice this “pinch” happens deeper, under the testicles even, with the muscles contracting. I’m curious as to any possible dangers or prostate damage etc. I’ve had almost a year go by without ejaculating, orgasming but retaining my semen, I had a normal sex life both with partners and without but had no nocturnal emissions and when I didn’t “retain semen” I still produced a healthy amount of semen upon ejaculation, so the year I spent without “spilling a seed” as it were, was entirely due to the physical discipline and control. I’m very curious to see this from the perspectives of professionals.
When you use the clench technique the sperm ends up in your bladder (it's called a retrograde orgasm), which might cause issues if you do it for years. Look into orgasm techniques that don't trigger a retrograde orgasm. Urban Tantra is a good read for both men and women.
You body doesn't need to release amen to stay healthy, sex or not, master bastion or not. It will simply reabsorb out and make a new batch. You can have blue balls and if you can manage to endure the discomfort and pain, it goes away and you'll be fine.
@@aaronautry1981 You make a good point. I had always thought blue balls were some kind of urban myth until my uncle was stricken with a bad case. He ended up in the ER and had a male nurse take care of him. He was embarrassed as all get out but fortunately learned his lesson and now cleans out his pipes on a daily basis.
My wife and I have been edging for a number of years. But, not every time. I found that I can stay before the point of 'no return' for up to 40 minutes. Experts that teach this suggest that during the short 'cool-down'/slow-down period, that gently massaging the testicles will ileviate 'blue balls'. This does work.
I have been practicing edging for many years now and it has been working wonders for me. Thanks to mastering edging I can go over an hour doing different positions......
Love Dr. Rena. She's spot on with everything and explains things well with a flowing calm and cool demeanor. Not to mention her thourough knowledge of pleasure is VERY VERY atractive. Thinking her husband is an extremely lucky guy!
One thing you didn't mention, and you rarely hear from anyone is: ejaculation ≠ orgasm. Men can ejaculate with literally no feeling of orgasm. Edging can increase orgasm significantly and make it so the orgasm precedes ejaculation by a significant amount of time.
Hiya Rena, Thanks for the very informative videos 📹 . I love watching them 👍 I've been edging for years and have found that it's really helped with my ejaculation control. Therefore, am lasting much longer, which is great! The benefits definitely outweigh the cons 😉
Coming from a "culturally", almost naturally sex educational country, I can say that these video's are awesome. I love the fact that these RU-vid video's also reach a public having difficulty finding proper sexual education. Worldwide! Brilliant 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻🌷
Additionally, edging is useful for those times when you just want sex to last longer than 10 minutes. Occasionally, it is really nice to last over 30-40 minutes. Especially, when you haven't had a chance to be together for a long time. Downside for me, ejaculation is "the beginning of the end" for that night.
Edging is not new. I've practiced it most of my adult life. With a partner (PIV), 15 - 30 minutes is good. 20 - 25 is a bit better. Whatever time it takes so she reaches orgasm is the absolute best. So often, an additional vibratory toy helps her reach orgasm (We nicknamed one of these toys our 'Buddy'). 'Buddy' always helps finish things off. 'Buddy' is fun to keep around. 🎉✨🎊💓
A man went to the doctors with a problem of premature ejaculation. The doctor suggested that during sex when he thought he was about to ejaculate he should shock himself. So he went to a store and bought himself a starting pistol with the purpose of shocking himself. Two days later he was back at the doctors to explain his misfortune. The night before, during sex, he and his wife were in the 69 position when he felt he was going to ejaculate, so he fired the starting pistol. He said “The wife crapped up my nose, bit 3 inches off my penis, and our neighbour came out of the wardrobe and surrendered himself.” Apart from that little joke, thank you Rena. I wish you were my doctor.
Interesting to find it now has a name! I've been doing it for decades. For me it's simply about staying in the place of arousal. It's so enjoyable to be there why rush "finishing". I see it mostly seems to be discussed in power and control terms which makes me sad for young women today. Extending pleasure doesn't have to be about power or control. It can just be about joy and fun.
Finally a commenter points it out. The orgasm often is less intense after a very long time of edging, but the time spent is better than any orgasm.....some state of ecstasy can only be achieved by it.
@@nilsfrederking62 Keep your edge going. You'll enter a realm of "gooning," a state of constant stimulus, which becomes trance-like and numbing. It offers the immediate of pleasure, with the pot of gold anytime you choose in the future.
I do edging either to fight sleep during study or to soothe numbness at refract period. I take Ibuprofen or use a cold/heat pack if swelling is painful. Happy New Year, Dr. Rena.
Why did I just found out that Dr. Malik ir around the Baltimore area? 😢 I could have gone to her for my vasectomy and stay with her as my Urologist. Her videos are very informative! Thank you so much for giving us all this info.
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Anyone that says you can’t hurt yourself edging either does not have a penis or has just never experienced it. I once foolishly tried to stop mid-ejaculation. I was successful, but it was one of the most painful things I’ve ever experienced. I swear my vas deferens freaking exploded. It hurt for a while after. Honestly, I think I’ve developed a form of PTSD from it. I’m so scared of it happening that I will never try edging again. Maybe I already had something going on down there that made it hurts so bad, who knows. I have had epididymitis, which was THE most painful thing I have ever experienced. I remember sitting down the wrong way in a movie theater once after I was diagnosed with it, and I swear it felt like my testicle just exploded. I started tearing up badly and had to leave the theater because I thought I was going to throw up. Who knows, maybe something like that was going on, but I’m still never going to edge again.
Most men will focus on ejaculation. The "point of no return" is when sperm has moved from the testicles and combines with seminal fluid. Once the cocktail is shaken, you can't put the ingredients back. You have to make that process last as long as possible by keeping your muscles relaxed which is counterintuitive, especially when you are thrusting away. You can also put some pressure on the underside of the scrotum preventing the sperm from moving north. It's best to set up a date night with your hand to try it. Pay attention to your body and what's going on with your prostrate before ejaculation. It is the epicenter of the male orgasm.
@@hoibsh21 Nope. To be honest with you, I don’t, because I’m not sexually attracted to Indian women. In fact, I actually consider myself asexual to everyone, but I’m only sexually attracted to white girls! I’ve felt that way almost my entire life and I’m 20 years old in case you were curious! :)
Thanks for your many great videos about sex, masturbation and orgasms. The pelvic floor muscles being tight worsens enlarged prostate symptoms. Once I have an orgasm, I pee very easily emptying my bladder. The older I get, the more I realize that it is easier doing solo sex as my wife has zero interest and the risks and consequences of pursuing “sex” are not worth it. No more performance anxiety, no pressure whatsoever. The religions world wide emphasize how sinful masturbation and “losing seed” is. My own experience is that it is a very healthy thing for bodily and mental stress. Thank you!
I haven't found it to increase orgasm intensity. If you edge more than about 4 times in a session, it can reduce orgasmic intensity. The purpose is to prolong the session, not increase intensity I think.
So, even if someone feels the need for edging in a relationship to prolong the intimacy that person should still keep his/her mind on the act of intimacy in the moment - not go off, to say, thinking about getting his/her taxes done to keep from finishing the moment too early. Right?
this is probably gonna make me sound like a weirdo but I have been edging for a while and it has the plus of no mess of cleaning up, pain is a factor after day 4 and after day four you may have an insane mess to clean up when you finally do let it out depending on frequency. At that point the pain of bending down for me has been indescribable, very similar to when you dry heave for a puke and it pulls on your nut somehow. What I mean by big mess after or on day 4 is that if you ejaculate but hold it and do it repeatedly for that long as in pulsate from climax (while holding it) you will build it up (if you do it all day every day) and it will all come out at the same time with a seemingly impossible amount. probably not healthy but I tend to have so much free time from health problems anyway so how bad could it be
I used the "stop technique" in the past then finally was able to not stop but just not move as vigorously which also worked but as time went on I found my body started delaying orgasm on its own, even when I wasn't trying, making anything quick very difficult. To remedy that I just started trying to reach orgasm as quickly as possible, which was probably about in the 10 - 15 minute time frame which is about normal time I think. I would say be careful using these techniques as the body tends to "learn" some behaviors and establishing new "normals". Of course this may not happen to everyone but it did to me.
At 7:20 she says edging lasting 30 minutes or more is okay as long as it doesn’t interfere with your daily life. I was edging ‘towards’ 1 hour and was released from my job as I was late for work. Back to the 2 minute quicky now.
Great vid! Edging has sure worked for me and my wife well. I agree with the comment below about increasing frequency of whoopi. Both of these has helped our relationship, which then can also lead to multiples for both the man and the woman. 👍🏻
