If this happened to me, I would IMMEDIATELY unsubscribe, stop supporting the streamer, and say a big F YOU. That is disgusting behavior. This guy needs to be banned!
@@solomonstello Unfortunately the more ignorant people are, the more they think they know. This smoothbrain thinks he can teach his chat basic etiquette, when he has as much empathy as Patrick Bateman after a prison knitting-needle lobotomy. What a selfish, apoplectic, muppet.
"Damn, sorry to hear that! So sorry for your loss! Well, I'm glad you can join us and maybe take your mind off things for a little while." So easy to keep it moving after that bad news.
Nah is better than he is honest of how he actually feels about his viewers so they can stop donating to him. being fake here would be shitty in the long rung.
i bet it’s less of this and more of the fact that he’s so programmed to telling everyone he’s ok that it makes him angry when other people open up.. he wants to open up but somehow in his life he’s been made to feel it’s socially unacceptable ? idk how people end up that way unless they are just entirely antisocial
Ok boomer. Society is not "swirling" some drain. Kids/teens are not worse today. Social media, media are not the "devil" Just like you didn't actually walk up hill to school both ways. Just stop 🛑 RIP boomers and the way they think
I absolutely hate it when people in America greet me with "how are you?" It's improper, and clearly no one cares about my answer, so I usually just respond with "hello." How are you is not a greeting it's a question, which I could have a happy or bad response to. If you're trying to say Hi then just say Hi.
Your comment and Needsmoreflash's comment reminded me of a friend of mine I knew back in college. Her name was Claudia. We saw each other one day heading in different directions and she said “Hi. How are you?” and I responded, “Hello. I’m okay. How are you?”. But she stopped me and pulled me aside and firmly asked, “No. How are you REALLY?”. I never, ever forgot that because I was sincerely doing horribly and it meant everything in the world to me that she didn’t mean that as a typical greeting, rhetorical question combo and was concerned. I was quite touched that that day Claudia really wanted to know about my well being. She took the time to listen to me because I was feeling pretty glum that day. I genuinely want to know how a person is doing when I ask them. If I ask it means I truly want to know and that I care.😊
Narcissism.. played a victim while villainising the other person while only concerned about their own image. Also can't comprehend or accept the idea of actually being wrong about something they do that upsets someone.
A normal person would feel reflex unconcious empathy towards even stranger that tells them their mom just died. Because no matter how selfish it would seem your initial reaction in your head is omg if it were my mom I'd be devastated. So it's easy to understand what that person is going through. This isn't a case of mental diagnosis being required. This a person who is terminally online to point where it's stunted their ability to interact normally with people
“Hey how are you” (Gives honest answer) “And I took that personally”. I really hope this guy doesn’t have a wife or has daughters…someone should check on them.
I get the feeling that this narcissist is more pissed about the fact that she had the audacity to break one of his stupid little rules than what was actually said.
The streamer... all he had to say was "oh, no. Im sorry for your loss. I understand why youve been gone then, must be hard! Stay strong Kirby! Chat, tell Kirby xyz! Moving on now"
I really hate this societal expectation, when someone asks you "how are you?" You are required to respond "I'm fine." Don't ask, if you don't want to know.
I suffer with chronic pain and depression and i HATE when people ask because they just want me to say 'yeah good' when the honest answer is 'terrible' - i feel like i have to lie on a daily basis to make other people feel better. Dont ask if you dont want an honest answer!
Dude seriously SPOT ON. I remember when I said shitty one time the reply I got was "can't you just lie?" I couldn't fucking believe the audacity... Damn.
Same. My mother told me when I first got sick that I could talk to her about anything. So if she asked, I would tell her how awful I felt. That is, until one day she asked me, I told her what I was going through and she proceeded to tell me that I was such a downer, no wonder I feel so bad. Why couldn't I say more positive things so I wouldn't drag her down. I was crushed. Because I trusted her when she said that I could talk to her about it and then she threw it back in my face. That was 14 years ago and I still tell no one how bad I feel on regular days, just the "I'm okay, how are you?" response. I only tell my husband on days that I'm struggling to function. So fnck this guy and his stupid @ss stream! He sounds like a douche.
I hate how he basically talks about in his "apology" video that it's inconvenient for him to hear the news about their mom passing away. Be a human being and show some empathy!! Narcissism is so rampant in social media
If my mom passed away, and I told someone about it and they reacted, this way, they better hope they’re on the other end of the screen where I can’t get to them
If I were the streamer, here’s what I would do. One, give my condolences l, then say ‘after the stream ends, we’ll talk. If you want to be private about it.’ He’s personifies incel
Like she legit answered his question??? Try, maybe, chilling the absolute fuck out my dude. I would NEVER respond to someone like that, even if I was caught off guard by the news.
He got bent out of shape because her response took the focus off of HIM. Extending condolences makes the conversation about HER and he can’t abide that. If he wasn’t a needy jerk, his brief expression of condolence would have made him look like a good guy and then he could have moved on. But, in the end, he certainly is getting lots of attention!
I would unsubscribe but I would never encourage others to do the same, like if they weren’t going to already based on how they felt about it then they shouldn’t do it because of how I feel about it
What a jerk. A normal person would spend 5 secs acknowledging the loss and giving empathy, but his true personality gets in the way and he spends ages ranting about it and then makes a crappy ‘im actually right but I’m being pressured into an apology video’.
Idk this person, but thank you, Xenoshot, for exposing this POS. The lack of empathy, respect, and self-awareness of this boy is absolutely disgusting. The guy just keeps going on about it, and being nasty at on top of that!! Even though he made an "apology" video... he just made his own "drama" Its always the ppl that say they don't like drama or allow it in their lives, lol
WTF is wrong with this guy? Why did he berate her like he’s her father trying to “teach her a lesson” on how to talk to people online? “Etiquette”? Dude was literally screaming at her. I hope nobody looks up to this guy.
Literally all he had to say was, “I’m so sorry for your loss. Just know we all are thinking of you today. Chat, please send them love and be respectful. Instead of dragging it out and trying to educate or groom his audience on proper etiquette. When he loses someone near to him, hopefully he won’t experience what he put her through. Actually atrocious.
I am the youngest of 4 kids, I am the only 1 to have 1 child. My son doesn't want kids. I am glad he doesn't, that arsehole streamer is just the kind of person that society is becoming. After my family croaks, our side of the bloodline is done. I don't have to know that any grandkids down the line are inheriting this mess.
As if "I'm sorry to hear that" couldn't have just been said. Wow. I lost my mom when i was 15 and am now 43 and it still to this day hurts like It did when it first happened. This douche bag needs to learn a lesson and I'm not against him learning it by receiving an ass-whooping. I hope and pray for healing for the person that has lost their mother.
instead of apologising like a decent human being and admitting what he said was wrong and disrespectful, he decides to justify why he was a POS to that viewer. what a sad life he must be living
Bro wtf, while i understand its awkward af to hear something that sad while streaming, it takes literally 1% human decency to just be cool and empathetic about it.
Worse, he brought down the mood far more himself. Then they did. He could have just said well you're here right now and we are going to take your mind off it and make you smile.
All he had to do was say the basic line, “I’m so sorry to hear that, I hope things get better,” and move on. It’s wild to me how people have this mentality that real life “kills the vibe”. So we just all pretend everything is sunshine and rainbows all the time?
He could've taken a 10 second pause to acknowledge the loss respectfully. A small 10 second pause would have gone a looong way - to your loyal listener, as well as others in the room.
There are NOT only "2 acceptable answers" when someone asks how you are. Do not ask someone how they are if you're not prepared to hear "bad day, my mom died" or "bad day, my dog died" or something like that. It's really that easy. Fuck that, society is actually at 0 IQ if people really think that way
Not just that, he asked where they’d been NOT how they were. It wasn’t like they could have just said “fine” to that. Asking where someone is requires a proper response.
I get why people don't wanna hear that someone died plus some people react oddly or badly to death. There was no need to rage at someone for that though, they already feel horrible and are grieving. If he didn't want a genuine answer then he shouldn't have asked. The streamer could've easily said his condolences and made some positive commentary to them. like it's funny he's all about positivity but couldn't have tried to make her situation better by uplifting her.
Dude I hope you never experience this. You will one day then you’ll see how heartbreaking it is to lose a family member. This guy is a shameful human being
As a streamer, this is the perfect example of WHAT NOT TO EVER DO. We aren't popular because of what we do or how we act. We are popular because of the community that we build and the sense of community that we build, this dude is just horrible to do that to any of the viewers (loyal or first-time)
Nah even then that's not normal at all... To go mask off and embarrass someone for answering and then clarifying that when she said lol she wasn't trying to make light of it. That's it. He literally suggested alternative answers to his question to avoid the attention going to someone else.
My exbest friend was like this! would purposely ignore me for a week if she knew that I was in mental distress. Some people when they mean positive vibes only that is what they exactly mean positive vibes, only or gtfo!!!!! What you’re going through is not worth wrecking their vibe😠
It could also mean that they're not equipped to deal with such a similar situation - I'd understand if it's the first time around, but if it happens on the regular, some research on their part is needed (provided that they're a good friend)
I had a friend that said I didn’t want to be around him because he was depressed and he was right but it wasn’t just because he was depressed, it was because for literal years he was so negative about everything and constantly talked about problems over and over. I wouldn’t expect my friends to hang out with me again and again if they knew every single time was going be a huge downer. Some people are emotionally taxing to be around
I just HAD to mention how THRILLED I am to see someone who actually knows the past tense of SHIT!! I have to keep telling people! 😅 BUTT (deliberate misspelling): I want to tell that girl that what she's gotta do to THAT GUY is... Just - disappear. 100% ghost him. Don't even say anything first, not even "goodbye". I've been around for a while and over the years I've managed to figure out when no more words even need be said. You just cut the line and move on. Even if you've known the person for years. It just happened to me, so trust me here, it's for the best. People don't change, or if they do, it's almost always for the worse. You don't owe this noodnik an explanation or any words at all. Somebody acting THIS inappropriately to a STRANGER would merit this, but to do *this* to someone we *have* to assume he calls (or more like *called*) - a FRIEND?! This behavior is NOT a thing that anybody should just shrug off. Trust me, it's only gonna get worse from here.
Even if they change for the better not everyone is meant to be there in your life forever. (Unless you are the streamer here then yeah you're just a sociopath)
This is old news but still deserves it's attention. This is from December 2022. Canadian streamer WeFoundTheBody, whose real name is John Byskal, got into a slightly heated interaction with a viewer who said during one of his streams that her mother had recently died, saying he didn't ask her to share the biggest "bummer news in the world." - Narcity
People like that streamer berating his own viewer....whats sad is they dont get punished, instead they get a slap on the wrist and still keep going. I know who this streamer is, i cant say his name on here out of respect for Xenoshot. Thank you for sharing, it is definitely a lesson on how NOT to treat supporters. You know the saying "you treat others how you want to be treated"
The only person that is bummed is him. I am so sorry for the viewers loss. When you ask someone how they are Its a deep question, it shows you want to learn about your Chat, you want to engage with your community. But he obviously just wants be a disgusting Person and just have a community and expect everything to cater to his comfort and convenience. Absolutely Disgusting person and i hope he realizes soon.
This is a pretty old one, thanks for bringing this back up, the person who told the streamer has had a terrible thing happening to them, and I hope they're fine up until today.. I'm glad that this obscure and forgotten part of the internet has been brought up again, all it missed was the streamer saying "it's only 5 dollars"
