You are the best pro counsellor of life. You have enjoyed your life to the fullest in sense of making it meaningful. You advices are top notch. Best wishes for all the hard work you do. You should have the option of donation in sense of guru dakshina if it makes sense for you. Trust me your topic are worth watching and it boosts once confidence in life.
Consider the example of OX and cow. Today OX is a liability while in earlier times it is more valuable than a cow all thanks to tractor. What you are telling is actually very true.
It's true ... Now days women only need true emotional attachment from husbands... Nothing else... But that becomes very difficult because of in-laws mostly...
@@sayanchanda2866So? Whats the problem. Sons Don't do household work or do sewa of own parents. Its better they shift to wife's house. Parent's can be taken care of by daughters. No unnecessary struggles btween saas bahu only because son/ husband is incapable of household responsibilities.
Left mother's place long back in 2008. Living a bachelor life since then. Can easily take care of my stuffs living in my rented bachelor pad. And these days it is a 1 BHK appt, all by myself. Never ever felt sad or lonely. In fact , life is stress-free and enjoyable.
Totally agreed. I always beleive that if a man can earn money and cook his food on daily basis, he will have great peace and love in life. I also support your suggestion of marrying a earning lady. But, I don't find any reason to produce children. Today we live in a job centric society. And children will not be able to look after or do anything for parents which parents can't do it themselves, given so much social services are available on payment. I strongly feel that our population must reduce 10 times by our own choice to not reproduce. And, then we as humans will start valuing other humans. Also the insane competitive mentality will be under control and people will be more cooperative.
I guess you are an anti natalist. You can look up videos of anti natalists in India and join child free india subreddit to connect with like minded Indians.
While i agree with reducing the population, i also believe it will happen naturally with high aspirations and inflation. But an organism's main purpose in life is to procreate. So atleast one is required to keep your bloodline alive. We live through our offsprings long after we are dead
Love your thoughts sir. very well said. There is no Man without a Woman and there is no Woman without a Man . Both are Natures creation like Yin and YANG. Both have to Co Exist peacefully . There should be no place for Male Chavunisim and Feminist. Just like ArdhNareshwar., both Shiva and Shakti are whole and are required to maintain and run this Nature and Cosmos .
If conditions were favouable, women also would've participated more (in whole world) and we would say ki close to equal participation tha dono genders ka...kyonki abhi Developed nations me waisa hai...there's a reason ki aadmi ka participation Jada tha...isme garw ki kya baat hai? The same way mahila ko garw nahi rakhna chahiye ki wo bacche paida kar sakti hai...bacche to har jati ki madi paida kar sakti hai...
@@ruchainamdar748 The thing is men don't keep saying, 'if conditions were favorable..' and all that. Men have no choice. Rather men start their work the time conditions start seeming unfavorable.
@@ruchainamdar748दुनिया की हर मादा बच्चा पैदा कर सकती है। और हर बच्चा अपनी baa ke बच्चे के रूप में जाना जाता है। सृष्टि ही मातृसत्तात्मक है। बस सिर्फ स्त्री का बच्चा उसका नही होता, जायज या नाजायज होता है, सिर्फ पुरुष के वंश को बढ़ाने के लिए होता है। और एक generation के बाद उस मां का नाम भी भुला दिया जाता है।
Sir keep making these good videos .. and am a woman and i agree with you... Don't worry about trollers keep going.. I think the things that you put in open forum is much needed in India and let people talk about it openly, Keep doing good work and going ..don't stop ..!!
I have two sons.. Dono independent hn housework me.... Han thora cleanliness issues hn but still i feel i hv raised them well to be a good companion for themselves and others
In India women never marry a man who earns less than them. No women marry a man just for his nature. He has to be in a career. Women dump their lovers to run and marry an NRI, I seen myself how men who got projects abroad (US/Europe) didnt need any other trait. Smart men need not worry. They will always rule and get what they want,:)
You constantly mention find a working girl, but the reality of Indian society is the entire family expects house work, raising kids primarily as women's responsibility in addition to spending ten hrs outside for a job. Even saas who is tired of doing housework her entire life, looks at bahu as reliever. The husband keeps doing all other things same as before marriage. In such an uncooperative family, doing a job is like being paying slave for the family and possibly deteriorating ones health. Most Indian donot like to rent when parents already own house. People turn down all promises, without guilt, which they make only to trap a great girl.
I am turning 28 this year...talk to some boys in arranged marraige..they all have common expecatations..job krni hi h ladki ko..ghar ka kaam bi..uske ma baap bi saath rhenge..jaise ladki to insaan hi ni h aur uske apne ma baap ni h..they really want paying slave..and i am talking about 30 plus men..unke abi dimag high h ..ab to mera man uth chuka h shaadi se..all men want female slave..paisa, kaam ,sex, maintained figure .still ye biwi ke ni hote h .no love to her...just a mother to his childern..thats harsh reality..
@@roshni6902 If you can earn for yourself and can work for yourself why risk your life to give unnecessary comfort to others? स्त्रियां ही अपना घर अपने मां बाप अपना comfort zone छोड़ कर, अपना नाम identity और lifestyle छोड़ कर बेघर क्यों हों? अपना घर मत छोड़ो, अपना बच्चा नियोग या ivf से पैदा करो, अपना खुद का वंश बढ़ाओ। मां बाप दिक्कत देते हों तो मेहनत करके अपना छोटा सा घर खुद बनाओ।
Sirji...you will be protected at any cost...all this when I realised and told my friends they soooed me..but sirji things are changing... please keep uploading
ABSOLUTELY CORRECT BOTH GENDER SHOULD GET MARRIED.... MONEY IS NOT EVERYTHING..... BOTH GENDER DESIRE FOR LOVE, SHARING, FRIENNDSHIP , CARING WHN YOU REACH NEAR 40 AGE THN WILL REALISE..... AFTER FIGHTS WHI STILL STAY TOGETHER ARE BESTIES IN THEIR WORST TIME... MOST IMPORTANT SHOULD NOT INVOLVE YOUR PARENTS IN YOUR ARGUMENTS0. TEACH YOUR SON HOW TO KEEP THE GIRL HAPPY
🙏🙏Sir very well explained about reality & understanding given about changing society and spreading awareness about truth of which society is not aware and not able to understand..
Sir, you made really touching video considering today’s practical situation. Sir really situation to bahot buri ho chuki hai males ki specially jinke wife working women hai & earning good. Working wife don’t give value to her husband & it’s really hurting situation. Sir I have to leave my job just to support my wife & kids bcz my wife is in government job, she is teacher & every time I have to leave my job & there is no value of my sacrifices, my wife don’t even give value. Kindly suggest what should I do now ?? 🙏
Mem too do the same to their wives... Both ways its sad... Aap kuch dino k lie khin bahar chle jaen.... Without expecting ki wo apko search kregi... Bs nikl jao
Pehle aadmiyo ko power thi na toh unhone uska galat use Kiya toh ab bhugte ka kaun hum ya aap. Aadmiyo ne mahilao ki respect ki hoti toh ye din dekhna hi nhi padta.
Not just in Northern India anywhere in India bharat, it's same same in Southern Eastern and Western Bharath the birth of a girl is not much celebrated.
101 % agree. Need kam hai aur ye tactful baat hai ab option nahi bacha , nahi toh coming zamana toh majboor kr dega emotional quotient develope krne k liye
Hamare society Mai kachara uthana, aur society saaf karna. Yae kaam bhi aab female kar Rahi hai . Wapi kaam gaya haat sae admai logo ka.. Females are replacing males jobs everywhere
Nice video, here is some positive feedback Actually there is something called individual purpose as well ( try researching about spirituality) to complete your 360 degrees view , it’s not like all the time you think and justify your relevance in family or society.
Sir with due respect..women are emotionally independent as well... It's nice to have a man who understands.. But if he doesn't that's fine too...as long as the man has a good heart and is a kind human being. Men should be kind and compassionate...that will build a more peaceful society and that's where men should work upon.
There are various problems the Indian men and Indian women do not understand, mostly. Marriage is an institution where children grow and flower. A family. It needs respect and sharing of responsibilities between man and the woman. Earning is important, cooking food daily for family members is equally important. Nothing can be entitlement. Once that is understood, there is no issue actually. But the most household works in urban indian middle class families are outsourced to lower middleclass women. All essentially, dysfunctional families - lack of respect for such works has destroyed the moral fabric of Indian middle class urban families.
I loved what you said.....men go out of the house.....how many men want us to go out. Pls don't generalise pls. I think like you but men still like to control us
17:10 apni maa ko dekha hai maine & I'm not sorry to say that ki mai unke jaisi married life nhi jeeni wali, my father is a very good, humble & disciplined man but still I am not gonna sacrifice the things in life which my mother did.
Very good video ! Male ego and Indian society pe bhi ek video bana dijiye. Aur Indian mothers kafi insecure hoti hain. Woh bete ko kabhi bhi daughter in law ko empower karne nahin dengi.
जो स्त्रियां इस बात को समझ गई हैं, वो खुद से इस vicious circle को ब्रेक करना शुरू करें। वो पितृसत्तात्मक सरकार को पालने पोसने वाली police बनना बंद कर दें तो कभी न कभी तो सब सही होगा। पितृसत्ता के घमंड में चूर लंपट, चरित्रहीन, हिंसक, नकारा पुरुषों की जगह समझदार, चरित्रवान, वीर पुरुषों की दुनिया होगी, जिसमे स्त्री और पुरुष दोनों एक दूसरे का सम्मान और न्याय करेंगे।
Kya clarity dete ho sir aap. Life changing. Please wo ma ke hath ka khana wala long video banaye 😭. Mene just realised kiya aab extra help karung mummy ki.
Due to lack of education all this things are being happen, now if u see the current data then India sex ratio is 1020 female for per 1000 male . Situation are being improving so both female and male are important to balance out.
Sir, basically pseudo feminist are problems not feminism. My home has good ladies and raised stong men along with men in my family (self home + relatives)
Sir video toh bahot accha but ab toh ladkon ki maa bigad chuki ladkon ko bachpan se ye sikha k ki sab kaam ghar ka aurtein hi karengi Ab kaun sa ladke sudhar jaayenge ye video dekh kar.
My mother did not. I grew up learning all my chores and also bring stability. One thing she said, eventually you as a man will always be blamed if finance is hit. It's unfortunate reality.
@@jkuhederead her comments carefully. Men who have a housewife at home create trouble for the women working with them . Those men act like women don’t belong in workplace and create unnecessary hurdles for working women
If woman understands and uses her feminity to build masculine in her man the house will be heaven . It’s very tough going out and earning even 500 rupees . The heat dust crowd population . I’m thankful to my husband every day .
Only if you have a husband who values that feminine aspect of you can you say this with your entire being proudly.. but not all women get that treatment from their men.. who instead of valuing her femininity .. see it as her weakness and even take out their entire days frustration on her. New trend is.. " I was in SUN and you work from home .. so, you're my enemy " Lol
@@vivek8580 no thanks I’m not interested in giving my time to some random person who will be my boss . My identity is being a home maker like many Indian women in old times use to be . Ur no one to debate my identity nor do I compare my life with ambanis they have their own set of problems managing their level of wealth . Ur opinions don’t count on social media lecturing me what I should do . My husband does not u .
I randomly clicked on his video few months back and I must say I was amazed by his take on small things in life. I got hooked to his videos. I saw his rising. BUT now I feel that his content is repetitive and less engrossing, in fact repelling. He has his world view specially on Indian marriages, which I feel is digressing, not real, in fact misleading. As an influencer he has power to sow his seeds of thoughts into d minds of his viewers, which r incorrect, one sided and unreasonable. I hope he take a break and reevaluate. Just for d sake of posting a video by d hour, he is doing gud to no one. I wish him well!!!
Males are still desired by all parents, because he continues the family name and daughter becomes a part of another family, her parents are secondary family after her marriage. In today's world women are being molested, raped, harassed and what not. Men are still physically stronger. I am female. Men can remarry at any age. A woman's marriage goes down based on her age. Looks still matter for females, whereas a male is desirable despite his looks as long as he learns good money, he can get the most beautiful woman he wants. Once again I am a female writing this comment
I promised to be "adjusting" in all ways required... For a guy who had schooling from same school as I (so, I thought he'd be progressive). My only requirement for marriage was that I wanted it to be close to my parents home... Bcz I wanted to be available for them as well and didn't want to depend on anyone to drop me and bring me home and all those things... But him and his family silently made up this mindset that what if she fights and goes to her home as soon as the fight breaks out etc etc. And many guys (even in this comment section) say that girls want to only marry certain type of men or only marry a guy who earns more than them bla bla bla... The truth is they can't handle a women earning more than them and would even never encourage you or compliment you (starve you of basic validation) in fear of you surpassing them. Women want maturity from men and harmony to raise kids in peace... While she raises your child she expects you to take part in parenting but... So far I have only found men making excuses for their "future absence" ..when it comes to child rearing. These are 21st cent. Men. They themselves are boys. Most of them. *Women get reservations* in some cases.. so life has turn really hard for some manchilds in India. Poor India.
There are more than 80% men who are not earning good money.. but they are earning atleast that much in which they can easily fulfill there basic needs but they can't afford luxurious life but there is a chance they can earn good money in future.. These 80% men getting rejected by the so called women whose desire are higher and want to live luxurious life.. Most of these Men will earn good money and can marry young girls but what will happen to these women who will get older in future.. Right now they are rejecting Men because these women are so called young & beautiful but in future they will be rejected.. Waqt sabka ata hai or ghamand sabka tut ta hai..
Women were harassed, raped less in today's world, Media portrays as such it happening in large scale. Physically strong doesn't give any benefits to men in today's world. In your community, males would be more desired but in all it doesn't matter for parents since education for children is too expensive. And earning good money has become too difficult, you don't understand Men's mental health in this age. Still happy that at least good things going on women's way in this age.
@@MerakiTheTribe you are an ideal women, if you are ok with men earning less than you. But you are so wrong men making excuses with "future absence" in parenting. when men themselves do not have any options in choosing women, we don't nit pick on things OR you demands are more than you are disclosing here.
Nurse male bhi hote hai, pehle to sirf male hi nurse hote the. Abhi women reservation dalkar nurse me kewal female ko hi zyada lene lage hai. Open merit both gender 99% male hi hoge. Jo bhi saaf suthre kaam hai, unme reservation dalkar women ko liya ja raha hai. Ye govt schemes ka natiza hai.
I also don't like when every so called heavy work is assigned to boys in schools. Like moving furniture, stage setting or to carry notebooks to the staff room. Girls can also do these
True. Like what is the heavy, dirty work that people are talking about ? I see all these women working in agriculture fields.. laying bricks and everything, even in mining... If men are only doing these heavy work it's bcz women were at home and have just entered the scene. If need be we can do that too like everything else.
Please do make this video on maa k haath ka khana. My mil insults me that I cannot cook like her and neither I am interested in making home made ladoo. Infact make her son to cook gajar ka halwa when I am in office...
Is desh may bahut sari caste asi hain jis may ghar ka Sara control ladies ke hath rehta hai aur ghar swarg hai , food , education, finance , banking, house keeping ,savings , celebration, every thing activity planned by ladies. And more growth in such houses can see .
That's matriarchy in practical sense। Patriarchy is a failed system actually. It has made men characterless, irresponsible, violent. World is in chaos, war genocides, dangerous because of Patriarchy only.
Amd if all women stop marrying or getting into relationships for just TWO years all Men wud learn to behave. Children they can have feom already existing sowrm banks, fiving them thsir names. Start of a peaceful matriarchal era.
Mahila ko purush jarurat thi kyuki pregnent hone k bad 9 mahine bahar ja kar Kam karna ashan nhi tha. Dushra period time ke doran bahar movement karna asan nahi tha kyu ki pad nhi tha. Apne bache ko 2 saal dudh pilana padta tha to bahar Jake Kam nhi kar sakti thi
दुनिया में ईश्वर ने कोई मादा नही बनाई जो अपने बच्चे खुद पाल सके। पुरुष खुद बच्चे नही पैदा कर सकता तो उसने स्त्री को बहाने से कैद करके पितृसत्तात्मक व्यवस्था बनाई. ताकि औरत को कोख काबू करके वह अपना वंश बढ़ाए और स्त्री को अपनी सेविका बना कर बाहर मुंह मारता रहे। ईश्वरीय व्यवस्था तो मातृसत्तात्मक है।
Sir aap bhul rahe hai ladies doctor hai nurses hai jinka kaam dead bodies, deliveries pain forensic postmatum ye sub bahut accha nahi hai Ladies police constable bhi hai jo murder case dead bodies se deal karti hai. Aur jail me jyada men isliye hai kyuki testeterone hormone ki vajah se wo jyada violence crime karte hai. Ladies civil construction worker bhi hoti hai jo again bahut kharab kaam hota hai Ladies ward aaya safayi wali bhi hoti hai jo kachra uthati hai
Kabhi step mother in law pe bhi video banayein jo apne bacche k liye dusre bacchon mein bhed bhaav karti hai aur step son ko bahu ko grand daughter aur grandson ko dur kar deti hai uske father se sirf apne laalach k liye
लडको को बचपन से ही खाना बनाना, सेवा करना, साफसफाई सिखाइए। जो लड़का घर के काम जिम्मेदारी से जान जायेगा, वह कभी रेपिस्ट नही बन सकता। एक ध्रुव से दूसरे ध्रुव की बात है, पर सोच कर देखिए।
