I wasted 12 years of my married life living in a joint family in hope that children we grow up in a social environment, but today I regret and find myself guilty of not providing my wife with her rights and allow her to live life her upto her liking and moreover not having apni duniya. काश आप पहले मिले होते सर।
Sir apko mehsus thoda late ho gaya ...... Jadatar mard y choti si bat nahi smjh rahe h ki maa baap ki seva alag bat h par ap kya unhe aj kal ki duniya rehen sehen bahu ki ajadi k liye smjha sakte h nahi to ap log biwi ko adjust karne k liye kehte h vahi vo compromise adjust kar kar k irritate hoti rehti h share nahi karti kyunki sunne vala koi nahi h ...... Ap jese log bura mat maniega apni life m khud aag laga rahe h ....
It's great that at least you accepted your mistake. You accept this to your wife and say sorry , even though sorry is not enough but it will heal her wound. She will love you a lot from now on ward.
I lived 20 years in joint family I don't have 20 memories to smile Last 2 years I am living in my home🏠with my sukun i am fully agree with what you say sir 🙏🙏
I always felt this that if a girl's parents can manage living alone after her marriage, so can a boy's parents. There's nothing wrong in the newly married couple living in a new place after marriage.
I live in sperate house but near by my parents. We visit there place twice in a week just for fun. Living seprately was my decision and it was most accurate step i took. We all are happy and everyone there own space and comfort.
This thing I realised within a month of marriage...for the sake of family you start doing things which they like..it's some other kind of suffocation you can't express... except on comment section
Sir aapko yeh channel bohoth pehle shuru karna chahiye tha..amazingly factful honest and ekdham straight talks👏👏👏most importantly very entertaining and educative too to the coming generations to understand just by listening to how their older generations would have been living. Thanks sir for opening so many peoples eyes.🙏godbless
I have just started listening to your talks, Sir and I am enthralled to say the least... How do you come up with these amazing topics?? You seem to be the only man to have understood the mind of a woman inside out... It's uncanny how perfectly you have touched upon every little thought that crosses our minds. .. You have hit the nail on the proverbial head.... Your wife is one lucky woman !
Apka life analysis gazab ka hai sir.aapke ek ek word k saath mujhe meri life ka flashback nazar aa raha tha.shadi k baad se hi pure ghar k saare kam ki jimmedari meri thi lekin kaam kaise hoga ye mere in laws decide karte the (generally males ka in baaton mein interest nahi hota, lekin mere fil k case me ye ulta tha).saara kaam karne k baad bhi hamesha negative baatein hi sunaate the. Kai saal se main backache se suffer kar rahi thi aur subah uthkar mujhe niche k floor par jana padta tha, kyonki kitchen niche thi,.subah uthte hi niche jana mere liye ek painful task hota tha,magar mujhe pehle sari pehanni hoti, phir niche ja sakti thi☹️. kai saal hum husband wife koshish karte rahe ki dusari jegah ghar le len(in laws to saath hi rehte)lekin ghar lene ki baat par hi mere fil dadagiri type tewar dikhaane lagte the, demotivate karne ki koi kasar nahi chhodte the.ab mujhe samajh aata hai (,jab hamara khud ka ghar hai,)ki unke dimaag me hamesha apne hisaab se ghar ko aur humein control karne ki ichcha thi.yahi ki jab tak jiyenge hum par apna dabaav banakar rehenge.aur ye sab pressure aur misbehave mere bachchon ke saamne bhi karte the.aaj result ye hai ki mere dil me to bitterness hai hi,mere bachche bhi unse limited baat karna hi pasand karte hain☹️.I wish aap pehle milte aur ye video main apne husband ko pehle dikha pati, humein us life se bahar aane me 22 saal lag gaye.aur mere husband ko ye samajhne me ki unki duniya mata pita nahi, wife aur bachche hain.
All the clashes in the family can be resolved if people really follow and understand these tips and morals. Thank you so much for your support and Guidance sir 🙏 😊 ❤️
I wonder itni jaroori baton wale video ko itne kam (890)like mil te hai or vahiyat halke bematlab video ko million likes milte hai. Ye hai batata hai ki 90 % insaan kyo dukhi hai. Thank you sir keep doing the good work.
M 29yrs old women just married .mujhe apki koi v video aisa nai hua hai ki achhi na lagi ho .apki baatein bht deep hai bt bht logo ko smj nai aati.maine ek video bheja tha apne brother in law ko to unhone ek video return me bheja jiska topic tha -take care of your parents😃.mujhe bht hasi v aai n khud p gussa v ki maine video nai bhejna chaiye tha .broad mind hoke sochna is really bless.we can’t xpect ki sab batein smj paye.khair keep making videos .your content is not new bt you have just given words to the thoughts.big thumbs up to u sir❤
I totally agree with you. I stay close to my in laws in a separate house.Aise hum pass ke pass hai aur door ke door.Dukh sukh me sath rahete hai.Aur dono ki sukoon ki duniya hai
My husband is a single child. So his parents would never allow us to move out. Few days after the wedding his mother told me that she would die without him. She doesn't like us going out anywhere without her, not even on our honeymoon. If we go out without her then there's a huge drama in which she makes my husband feel guilty. She also does not like my husband being inconvenienced for my sake. She says if anyone harrasses you, deal with them yourself, don't drag my son into it. She breaks my heart every single day. She says don't love your husband too much otherwise he will die soon. Maybe that's why she always fights with my FIL and disrespects him! All this has caused me to change completely after marriage, I'm not the same happy cheerful person that my husband married.
That's too much, but to make your life better you have to take tough decisions. Like giving clear warning to your husband & family that either we move out or a divorce! can't say with your parents. (A different solution may be to move nearby within walking distance)
I am actually in this situation currently. Due to corona and my wife was pregnant i decided to move with parents. work from home hojayega and the new member ke saath sabhi enjoy karenge. But wife and mother ke beech me bohot ashanti badh gaya hei. So ultimately i am in big loss. Big loss as in cracks in relationship between wife and mom. your video is very helpful. All will be sad to stay separate but will bring happiness later and when time comes when togetherness is required all will be ready to mingle. Thank you Sango ji.
Sir ,Gratitude to you .Saw lots of videos together today.. Subscribed as well..In each and every video...I felt like you are touching my life aspects .
Sir ur too good ek ap he ho jo sach boltey ho sabki feelings samajtey ho u r really practical I really respect u kash sab husband's ki thinking ap jesey ho jaye jeney ka haq aur apni duniya bsaney ka haq toh sab ko hai joint families are the worst thing in this world bcoz I m suffering all same problems what u r sharing in this video I m just fed up
This concept is absolute gold! My 2 cents - to add to what Sangwanji mentioned, one must also cultivate hobbies (be it indoor or outdoor - say playing a musical instrument, engaging in sports). this gives you more control and 'sukoon' I am not sure if "travelling" is a useful hobby i.e. roaming places ; because you're not adding value to yourself (as compared to the hobbies mentioned above)
Travelling is an equally good hobby just depends on ones choices budget and time. Travelling gives you experiences of different culture ,food and people which vary so much , this helps one is opening up ones mind and perspective that world is not limited to the place that we live in. One can learn a lot from traveling if one has that mindset. Not to forget it refreshes ones mood just like music dance or any other hobby
What a point Guruji thats why I love my Hostel 4*5 room more than my own 4 floor home in the same city as My hostel room is like my little world jahan almost hamari chalti hai hamara control hai
6 months after marriage we have separate from family and taken rented house..... From covid i was planning to go back to my parents and stay.... Reason to save 25 k monthly and i have two kids and Mom and dad can spend happy time with them...
Your video is so amazing, everything you are saying is so practical and true Sir ji! But irony is nobody talks so sensible 🙄. Thank God atleast you are talking!!
Bohot hi badhiya tarah se aapne samjhaya hai. Choti choti baatein hi bade blast karvati hai... Nice observation and thank you very much for making this video !
Although easy to understand and know that all this is required to be done for children but requires to be strong by heart and head to tk such decisions for parents. Never heard but seems quite true ki "ek ghar mein ek couple ki hi duniya bas. sakti hai "
Beautifully explained...sab kuchh samajhte hue bhi is tarah kabhi socha nahi na kisi aur ne hamare liye socha...agli generation ke saath theek se deal karne me aapki ye videos bahut help karengi so thanku so much...
You are right sir. Aajkal so much aspirations ke chalte ikathe rehna easy nahi hai. Qnki ladkiyon ki apni soch hai , parents ke age ke according alag hai
Hello sir From last 8 years I am living with my in-laws because I thought that why should I separate my husband from their parents and brother ,it's wrong but it's truth that there is no peace in our family, everybody is adjusting and Actually I think I am in depression. Mayke jati hu to saas bolti hai ki apne ghar ja rahi hai aur sasural se wapas aati hu to mummy bolti hai ki apne ghar ja rahi hai, isiliye aaj tak samaj nhi aaya mera ghar kon sa hai. Actually I discussed this with the family that we should not live together but they do not want to understand,they look at me like I am a culprit, I have no emotion,i want to break the family etc etc.and sometimes said ki brother in law ki shadi ho jane do phir alag alag reh Lena. But honestly now they all are looking for a 5 bhk apartment to buy. Now what to do?🙏 Please reply sir because my thoughts are just same as yours and also I get to know that there are many people in this world with the same thought process.👍
Hi speak to your husband in private regarding this. Then ask him to tell his parents. You don't directly tell them. Be patient.( don't have to convince each and everybody in the family). They might judge you. Give respect, but don't follow them blindly. This from my 9 years of marriage experience. I faced this problem despite staying in our own apartment. From 2 years I have this sukoon by gods grace. Have faith in God.
@It's T time with Swara why prices so high?? Seems more like a scam. Don't exploit people who are already suffering. 5000 per session just for an advice.. It's insane..
App sahi bol rahe hai sir ji hame appni duniya banalena chhaiye Alag thank you very woh Chae relative he kyun na ho app barabar bol rahe hai sir ji 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏👌👌👌
Excellent video! You r voicing my thoughts! We realised the value of freedom and separated from the joint family within 4 yrs of our married life and have lived a sukoon ki duniya eversince 😂
Sir now young generation knows their rights but don't know their responsibilities and duties The day they will understand most of the problems will be resolved
True sir I'm living with my in laws husband and 8 month baby... Yes mother in law says it's her house and don't let me move my own bed from this side to that side... I never feel it as my house... Kahi bahar se Ghar aaye to saas or pati bolte hai chalo ghar aake acha lga and I d feel ki mujhe to nahi lga kyuki mai "Ghar" kabhi aai hi nahi.... Mera ghar aaj bi meri maa ke Ghar me hi hai😢 miss you maa Kash mai bi husband ke sath alag ghar me khush rhti ... Apni duniya me...
It took my wife 4 years to make me understand and separate from my parent's, she was very respectful and caring to me even when she was stressful due to my mom. Hang in there!
Do agree with what you said in this video... But so called good beta's don't let this happen and the bahu and her kids have to be deprived of their sukoon throughout the life... Hats off to you sir as you at this age took this much pain to raise such topics...
There are people who come and live with their son- who is well placed- and make their choti si Duniya in his whole house . But do not allow their son and bahu to live their life. What should such couples do? Especially with the narrative that baron ki seva and unki bat manna will give achche karam.
Good thoughts .practical. I was wondering if you can make a video about two sons ..i find two sons is most conflicting aspect. Also on a lighter note, make a video of bakra in every family. How this person will have to do everything thanklessly!!!
Very good, excellent, I had lived with my in-laws & also my parents, I have experienced what you are saying. I can relate to each & every word of what you are saying. After 30 years of marriage, first time I have set up my own house which is of course on rent gives by the company where my husband works. I get a lot of sukoon here. Though my in- laws were not very dominating but I had to adjust in there set up. Similarly when I stayed with my parents I adjusted in their house, as I was looking after them in old age. They also never said anything, but I did not unnecessarily disturb their set up.
Absolutely agree👍सासु bhi khulkar lad nahi Pati....well said .But jo parents son ko apni property aur बहु ko lifetime family circle se outside hi रखें unkke sath kaise adjust kare.
Salute to u SIR for this topic discussion🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾 UR videos are Very informative 👍 Very minute in details👍🤣🤣 Very humorous narrative Very eye opening 👌👌 Keep posting such videos All d best👍👍
People lived in joint family probably because they were not so economically stable to live seperately. But times now have changed so theres no need now.
