🙏 U are amazing at every topic. U have given nice ideas on this topic also. I will definately implement these ideas in my life and I am sure that it will have a good effect.
I have seen one thing in society that if you have break up with your bf/gf or divorce society still accepts But if you have issues with parents and you decide to be seperated for your well being you are a criminal than How many agree with me?
Yes I broke up with my parents for my mental sanity 😢 but I can not tell that to anyone. And now I have to visit my hometown then I HAVE to visit them which is giving me sleepless nights and 😢
This was so much needed with toxic parents spoiling their kids life . Please make some sessions on mothers spoiling their daughters life by being intrusive.
Middle class ki sabse badi problem parents ki ghatiya aur wahiyaat Ego hai. These days none of the son wants to see his father face due to his abusive & agressieve personality
I am a retired govt servant. I do not remember even a single incident in my whole life when my father spoke to me kindly and with love. He was always abusive and expected me that I should have known everything under the Sun and should successfully achieve everything which he could not achieve. OMG.
I am literally crying while listening 🎧 to this 👂. The amount of mental trauma parents inflict on their wards these days is just torturing. At times you just want to cease to exist. On the outside everybody thinks you are having a great life but deep down you know how screwed you are. Life becomes such that even your successes become insufferable for you.
Same . I'm also crying. I wasted 13 years of my life in severe depression thinking they will change but of no use. They r expert in victim play in front of their relatives n my siblings. No motivation n inspiration to do anything.
@@PS-oy1el same here. Then I realized, oh well, so be it. Enjoy your time, I will leave eventually. I am 25. I had been following Mr. Amit Sangwan for almost an year. I decided to muster all my courage to speak about the issue [ vivaad nahi karna hai, samvaad karna hai], guess what - they played the victim card so well that they must get the Oscars!!! I said to myself - "okayz, I gave you 1 chance, I showed where you were wrong, and you still want to push your luck, huh...." Alright then, no issues, I wont come after your property or wealth and niether I will come to talk to you, keep it to yourself and keep on blowing your horn. Who know, some sense might kick in🤣
Thank you sir for understanding the children's perspective, most parents drown us with a guilt trip. It's like having a karj of being born to them which we have to repay by sacrificing our whole life by living on their terms.
Parents at their will happily work hard for the family but not supposed to express their contributions again & again. While during upbringing the family when children's are young, they repeatedly do mistakes that is ok but repeatedly parents shd not tell their hard work - again & again. What logic is this?
My sister is in this guilt trip n ruining her life which she's not aware of right now. She thinks she will make everyone happy. Don't know if she herself not happy n gives negative vibes how will she make everyone happy. At end she will b exhausted n then will realize that that was not the purpose of her life God had given her to live fully. I'm also exhausted by her blaming me for my irresponsible parents.
Bahut sahi kaha uncle ji. Dimaag kharab kar rakha parents ne. Bhagwaan se badi ego inki hai. Aise videos aur banao ki 60+ parents samjhe. Kuch extra nahin kar sakte parents to kam se kam shaadi shuda life ko peacefully jeene de.
My mother is horrific, When I seat in front of her, she starts advise and compare with others friends and cousins, even I have to finish my lunch or dinner with in five minutes for escape from her advise, they found problem is all, my look, my dressing, my earnings, my habits, my daughter is junior National level swimmer but never said motivation words to her also but demotivate her by saying focus on study, sports is wastage of time , my wife took her for swimming practice than also says that my wife also wasting time and not focus on home and home work
आप जो सकारात्मक सोच सबको दे रहे हैं सुनकर बहुत कुछ सीखने को मिल रहा है।आपका बहुत बहुत धन्यवाद। समाज में सकारात्मक सोच से ही बदलाव लाया जा सकता है। नमस्कार
This is quite important topic and needs to be understood and followed. Points covered are good. Few more points to share from my experience: 1. Never impose your views/ decisions on children. 2. Do not give advice unless asked for. 3 Do not intervene in their married life unless children ask for it. 4. On financial matters try to be helpful but have clear understanding. 5. Do not raise your expectations . Be reasonable and request for needed help if really reqd. 6. Find areas in lives of children where you can extend help and offer help. 7. Be receptive to the feedback from children and accept to change or improve yourself.
Sir, I have two girl child. My parents keep on taunting me to do another child in hope to get a boy child. Please make video on - what is life of parents who do not have a male child. Please sir !!!
That's old mentality. They think having a boy solves problems. Most of times,it never happens, daughters even if given lesser opportunities still make most of it. Plus oldies don't understand financial toll it takes raising children. So no. It's totally you and your husband's choice. Cut them off if they torture you more . Your daughters deserve better life and good parents
You can use sperm sorting technology and try for a boy child with ivf if you have money if you and your wife is willing to go for a third child but ask your parents to babysit the child
It's for you to decide, nobody can give you in writing or guarantee that third child would be male child, it's totally a couples choice don't fall for pressure and regret later, I have one girl child and it's my choice not to have another duniya daari bhaad me jaye, baccha maine palna hai kharcha mera hai responsibility meri hai, I am happy on my decision, inlaws pressure create karte the I have cut them off
Hats off to you Sir .. parents sab acche nahi hote ... controlling bhi hote hai Aaise time pe better hai ki unki suno nahi 😐 Thank God mere parents itne controlling nahi hai Bachpan se hi I was rebellious child 😬 But I feel proud itne kam age me bhi I took right decisions for my education 😊 no child wants to hurt parents.. Now I am happy in my career And parents to bohot proud hai Moral of the story- if u are confident in ur decision just do it.. be it education career or marriage choices
I was good in studies so my father was forcing me to do IAS prep.. because it was his dream which he could not complete But mera IAS me koi interest nahi tha Mene clear cut nahi bola.. I am not interested and I will not be happy .. bar bar bolte the and every time I refused Abhi my career is good so now my father is happy because I am happy Emotional hoke unka sunti to aaj sad hoti and eventually father bhi sad hi hote..
I'm rebel but now I feel my heart is failing n sometimes after fight n crying I had to pain killers for severe headache since last one n half year. U can feel bodily changes in myself because of toxicity my parents has put in my life. Anyways God that u didn't listen to him , I on other hand went in depression.
You are absolutely correct 💯 because my mother tells her success story all the time , pedestal is too high , my mother is judgemental not friendly , tortures her son n daughter in law and daughter n son in law too , pair nahi chuhe to ladai , importance nahi do to ladai , poocha nahi to ladai ...my mother's vibes are negative and my father has dementia so father don't understand what's going on in house...now my mother has broke the family completely ...if v don't cater to her n work according to her she will ruin our respect in society , curse us n torture us.
She is a Narssisist. These people cannot improve however much you try. Listen to videos about narcissistic personalities.....there are certain ways to deal with them. Memorize the rules well before you visit her for your own mental sanity. Best to distance yourself because they're incurably toxic.
this is the real wisdom we need, thanks for been the modern guru. Even i need some rea lstuff not the regular gyan like - Subah Utho, Cold Shower karo and Motivation KAro. You provide the real knowledge.
Such a mature and clear thought process. My Late Father thought exactly on these lines, for which he was labelled non sanskaari. He had a big heart Still hurts me deeply when I remember how he was misunderstood
Thank you for giving me confidence that i am right and i was right all along. Your advise is so useful that i have started forgiving myself and it feels good. Feels light. Better relationship with my wife.
नमस्ते सर, मैं हमेशा अपने बच्चों को यही बताती हूँ कि मैं ने कहाँ गलती की और उसके बजाय मुझे क्या करना चाहिए था! और मैं ये भी कहतीं हुं की मैं ये बच्चों को डराने के लिए नहीं बल्कि एक सबक़ के तौर पर समझने के लिए कहतीं हुं ।
All my thoughts are perfectly quoted into words. You are a perfect orator Sir. I agree to each & every point of yours. Getting understanding & friendly parents is the biggest gift to children these days else we keep on trying to find happiness in other elderly people who make us feel peaceful. If parents do not fulfill these 7 criteria, then there is no point of wasting time behind them. Afterall, nobody has time to listen to bitter & boring things these days. There should be mental, physical, emotional, career support from parents else they its difficult to love parents. They have brought us into this world because they wanted to! We did not tell them to bring us into this world. So, its their responsibility to keep us happy & support us emotionally, mentally & for career till they are alive. Then only we will feel happy & pleased after talking to them.
U r really a light of God in this difficult time where relationship issues are destroying families. You r the real guru and the need of today. I have no words to thank you for clarifying these family issues and giving me the peace of mind my 'Relationship Doctor'. God bless you and keep you happy and healthy.
Very well pointed out. I so agree with all that you have said. It’s nice to see your broad minded perspective. Thank you for all your videos and insights. 🙏🙏
🙏 You are a true Guru. I love the way you explain the most difficult things in such an easy to understand manner with such relatable examples. You come up with solutions to problems that touch almost everyone. Your insights are super helpful 😊
Sir really you have high level of maturity and coolness... your words are very true and practical But practice makes man permanent so our most of old generation became permanent in their old chauvinism....... nothing is going to be change regarding it. As I thought nobody can change anyone at the age of 60+ ....
You are amazing!!Your real life knowledge is unbeatable.I have seen your videos related to job ,family etc. All are true and relevant.Never met a person with so clear thought.
This video is sooo soooo soooo sooooo epic. I truly love your content. I'm 25, female, unmarried, belongs to typical jaat family. Mind mein bahut negative image ban rakhi hai jaato ke liye, ki bahut orthodox n rigid hote hai. I'm tgt mathematics in Delhi government school. But mere parents ab bhi aise treat kar rahe hai jaise mai 15 saal ki bachi hun. Abhi mere khud ke hatho mein freedom aayi nahi hai ache se aur yeh chahte hai ki mai kisi dusre typical jaat se shadi kar lun, yaani meri life ka control parents ke hath se shift ho kar ab kisi aur ke hath mein chala jaye. I want to do so many things in my life. I want to spend it meaningfully. Aur agar parents ke hisab se chali toh toh bahut hi jyada piche reh jaungi jamane ke hisab se bhi n suffering hogi woh alag. Sometimes I feel, ki mai ghar chd kar hi chali jaati hun, to live independently, but fir fikar aati hai parents ki ki woh kitna pressure lenge socially. Aisa lagta hai ab bhi parents se jyada mai hi soch rhi hun unke baare mein. Aur woh itna itna drama karte hai, jaise dosto ke sath bahar chali gayi on my own birthday aur aane mein 4 ki jagha 5 baja diye, toh drama start. itne gande gande taunts. Ek bar bhi yeh toh nhi puchte ki din kaisa tha, kya khaya, kya kiya, tumhe kaisa feel hua. Pichle ek saal mein tum mein kya growth aayi, next year ke kya plans hai.... Yaani value add karna toh durr ki baat yahan toh energy drain kar lete hai bilkul. Aur aisa aj se nahi hai... Aisa hmesha se chalta aa rha hai... But aapke wali baat hai, mere hath mein nhi tha control. Toh i accepted everything as it was. Aur saari energy bs padhai mein channelise krti gayi ki jis din financially independent ho jaungi uske badh I will have full control on my life. Preparation ke time par toh mere mind mein itna torture feel hota tha mere ko ki mai kisi ke Ghar ja kr jhadu pocha hi laga lun, ya Ghar chd kr kisi dhabe pr bartan hi na wash kr lun, bs yahan se nikal jaun kaise bhi... Aur har chize mein 2 hi baaton ko aage adda denge... 1. Parents ki intention galat nhi hoti, har maa baap apne bacho ka bhala hi chahte hai 2. Tere ko koi kami hai toh bta.... Kabhi mana Kara ho, khane ke liye, ya paise ke liye.... Khane aur paise se upar bhi kuch hota haiii Maine toh literally yeh list bhi bana rakhi hai ki unhone mere pr kitna paisa spend Kiya hua hai, with interest mere se le lo woh Paisa aur mere ko jaane do bs ... Aur shadi ke naam se toh mere ko bilkul nafrat ho chuki hai. Aise ajeeb ajeeb riste le kr aaege, aur hadh yeh ki sab jaat riste hi ache lag jaate hai inhe... Kisi mein toh koi kami nikalo na.... Aur aise riste, jin ladko ko mai bf bhi na banau unse shadi karwana chahte hai... I just hate them. Specially my father. I try my best to be grateful n kind n loving. But fir kuch incident repeat hota hai, mai tym leti hun 2 din, 4 din, uss baat ko let go karti hun, fir se grateful n loving attitude mein aati hun ... Fir 15 din badh fir kuch aur ho jata hai.... Aur yeh haal toh jab hai jab mai kuch bolti ki nahi... Matlab stimulus kam se kam deti hun.... Toh maine abhi socha hai ki, ache se notes presentation bana kar parents ko bataun ki unhone Kiya kiya past mein n how do I feel about it. Present mein kya options hai humare pass n inks future consequences kya kya ho sakte hai. Let's see. Warna toh mere ko lagta hai yeh jis marji se shadi karwa de, usko maine divorce Dena hai aur akele rehna hai...
Generally boys parents are more judgemental as they have lot of expectations .so even the boy will be free with wives parents as they help without any expectation
Maximum comments guilt trip wale bacchon k hain.. 🥲 Thanks to you for talking sense on this topic. Change to dheere dheere hi ayega but this change is gonna happen comparatively fast in this generation as the above things are happening now more than ever.
Very practical suggestions to increase the awareness and be large hearted towards your kids and express it according to the needs of the kids. It is better to newsstand then to be understood.
Sir thank you for this video. I always used to think I am among few people who do not find topics to talk to my parents. Most of the time I have been thinking guilt and it is impacting my personality. They lived in village with govt job but I live in urban City with pvt job freuqney doesn't match and again live marriage..for me Every year Diwali and Ganesh festival is like torture. Always calls kab a Rahe ho. Wife a Rahi hai ya nahi. It's been 4 years I lost interest in festivals. It's become like my wife celebrates festivals with their parents but sala Mai rehegaya hu bich me Ghar ja nahi sakta kyonki muje khud ko waha maja nahi aata ek to parents aise hai or yaha rehene se Aisa lagta sab ke sath apne parents hai mai hi aisa hi fir se wahi guilt.
Understanding of children's circumstances is the need of this HOUR for parents 'to make their life easier.,.....& adjust according to that ..... ....... precious suggestion Sir ji🙏
Nice to hear each word , love the garden also ,now i avoid taking a lot ,just see and talk what is important to them wen its really necessary, specially wen they get adults,its hard . I learn also that we must talk calmly wen giving advise , look direct in eyes , cos somewere they will get it ,they will know its rigth
Very smartly explained sir...But the parents are not accepting the reality...Well said.. moderne gyan yhi hai ki unko sympathy card play nahi karna chahiye..Superb message for the parents....Secondly, give and take wala point is mind blowing...Kbhi iss taike se kisi ne socha hi nahi ki vo balance jo bachpan ka tha ..Vo badey hone ke baad kyu nahi banta...Bhot gehri baat boli sir...Plz keep it continue...,,,,,👍
My in laws literally ruined our life, now after 15 years of torture and negativity finally they are goan to their own house and we can breathe! It was only ego and false pride!
Great 👍. Every generation faces struggle. But from previous time to present time, life mey struggle ka time earlier stages per shift ho raha hai. Pehley young age mey struggle hota tha aur bachpan moj mey hota tha. But aab bachpan mey hi bacho ko bahut struggle kerna padta hai. Aaj kal ke bachhe bbahut hard life jee rahe hai ,in india.
Love the topics you've covered, within 2 days I've seen few of your posts on family series and marital series. Hair coloring also, I loved ,it's very practical and great help. I'm in late 40s, and I stopped coloring my hair 3 yrs back, as I realized there's severe hair falling and itchy scalp and all the things you've mentioned. I used light brown as hair color. But I limited it to major functions like marriages in family but now after using henna and taking care of my hair, it's looking normal and beautiful. Since 2 yrs now I and daughter is telling husband to do the same about his hair.
Sir aapke video bahut accha, aap sir sibling par bhi video banao, taaki Jo bahen Saadi k baad sasural jaati h uske baad, bhai yeh soch kar nafrat karne lagta h, ki bahen Ghar se koi hissa na mang le,❤❤❤
