Thank you so much for this video, it reminded me of some of my harmful habits I had to correct. I had a really difficult time growing up. My father was an alcoholic and abusive, we were poor and I was bullied a lot. I’ve learned to always make negative assumptions whenever I would experience trigger events, as a form of self defense, out of fear of looking like a fool and being disappointed and hurt if I give someone/something the benefit of the doubt. It has become so engrained in me that I wasn’t even aware I was doing it until my therapist pointed it out. Before that, people would tell me I’m too sensitive or that I have an abrasive personality. It has made me feel like a victim/villain most of my life and I internally vilified people as soon as I would spot a “red flag” in their behavior or would use their behavior I deemed as bad as a justification for my negative reaction. It has slowly caused me to develop a severe anxiety-depression that I had to put in a lot of effort to unpack and heal from.
I would love to have some ideas as to how to use this with a teen on the spectrum with some limitations in describing internal events. Please 😊 thank you!
I appreciate how simply and concisely you explain this model. As a new therapist I stumble over my words, often trying to explain things in a more technical manner, or over explain. It's good to have your example as a more seasoned clinician. Thank you for the work you do to create your content.
Since both possibilities are true I think giving more credence to the more neutral or positive belief can happen when the person sees humanity as somewhat self absorbed in the sense that - most people are just focused on figuring out their day. Most people aren't out to get you; you aren't actually on that level of radar.
Anything or anyone can trigger us, though we carry the ammunition. Unfortunately, when the ammunition goes off, it's rarely aimed at ourselves. Thank you for helping us defuse our unnecessary ammunition and replace our arsenal with a garden.
This is one of the most underrated videos on RU-vid. This method can basically save the world. It's that helpful. Do you know any books from Albert Elis about this method? Which books can I read written by Albert Elis teaching it? Thank you for this video.
Thank you for your kind comment Mohammad. The ABCDE method certainly is very powerful. I would suggest Getting Started with REBT by Windy Dryden amzn.to/3KpHten Best wishes, Teresa.
This is so helpful. The famous quote goes... "Don't believe everything you think" this is powerful. In that, whatever irrational thoughts we do have, they are simply an effect of the moment we are in that's causing those thoughts which in turn cause a different feeling, a feeling of unease or joy. It's important to separate irrational thoughts out and to watch them from an outside perspective, ask do those thoughts make sense, are they based on facts, do they sound like reality, or is it just a thought from the unconscious part of our minds.
I love this model, i will share with my friends in chronic pain group. Im learning to heal myself from childhood traumas and will try this model for sure do u have any other models that may help me as well. Thanks 😊💞🙏
Hi Victoria. I pleased to hear you love this model and that you’ll be sharing with friends from your chronic pain group. I’m going to be releasing many more models over the coming weeks so watch this space. Wishing you all the best my friend.
I have a lot of time for REBT. I had an engineer on the spectrum who had no time for what seemed like slow, therapy-speak so the almost procedural nature of REBT was a great fit. Whereas that point at 3:07 about the challenges of noticing easily cued thoughts was addressed best, for me, by doing the present-moment awareness/ mindfulness practices I learned in ACT. It was quite an eye-opener to begin to gain awareness of the endless stream of thoughts and moods. Thanks for the videos!
These videos have great short snap reminders of information that is important for each model and the examples and diagrams are great. Thank you for making these available.
Useful tool that aligns itself with the 5 Factor Approach. Presented in an educational setting - younger persons who are particularly vulnerable during their teenage struggle could benefit greatly using this approach. It would also help with teacher - student relationships from an empathic perspective. Especially, if it is carefully facilitated in a classroom environment that enables peer support and sharing. Could be integrated with awareness and importance of establishing positive relationships and how these impact on sense of self.
Thanks for your comment Rod. Yes, we usually teach the 5 factor model first and then move to the ABCDE model. I agree it would be most helpful for young people to be taught this in a supportive educational setting. Wishing you well.
Hi Teresa, I am currently studying Coaching and find many of your videos excellent resources. Thank you so much for taking the time to make them! I am also learning more about myself and how and why I react in certain ways, which is insightful and extremely helpful. Keep up the good work!
Hello Lewis. Hope you are having a great day. In the Dispute part you said 4 questions that we can ask to dispute our negative judgment. Is there more questions that we can ask to question these beliefs? I'd appreciate it if you know the answer. Thanks a lot
Thank you for your question Mohammad. Please watch my video on socratic questioning: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-8jNUAuDkeRI.html I hope this helps. Best wishes, Teresa.
Good question! I would personally use this with other tools and techniques I've mentioned on the channel. I wouln't use it as a stand alone model. Best wishes, Teresa.
There are not rules about frequency, everyone is different. I would suggest experimenting and seeing what works for you. Let me know how you get on. Best wishes, Teresa.
Thank you, Teresa. I think we all have a responsibility to ourselves and those we love to challenge unhelpful belief systems. Best wishes from Mallorca!
TA has a very different core philosophy and is a different method of working. One of the aims of TA is to strengthen the Adult ego state. If you have a strong Adult ego state you would certainly be able to think more rationally and logically (as per the aim of the ABCDE exercise). Another aim of TA is to be free of Script and respond with more spontaneity and autonomy. Again, it really comes down to 'what do you want to get from therapy?' Best wishes, Teresa.
@@LewisPsychology Aah thank you.I have read the books games people play and staying ok.It realy helped me to understand boundries ,I am also more assertive now .I wished I knew about TA 20 years ago.Thank you
@@jacogrobler6391 two classic and timeless books. I’m currently working on a video on TA script theory which will be out in a couple of weeks. A video on games would be great too. I’m really pleased to hear TA helped. Best wishes. Teresa.
