@@elanhenderson7358 ikr.... I dont like being late, but all my friends know me as being always late :)) Even when I try my best not to be late, i somehow manage to :))
5mins?? ;-; I'm almost often 30 minutes late for important meet-ups and I cry cause I'm so scared of disappointing people and I end up running away instead of facing the consequences T^T Then I worry about facing those people the next day and imagining scenarios where I make a fool of myself trying to explain why I'm late or didn't get to attend at all huhuhuhu.... maybe it's just me > ,
The thing is, when a deadline is close, I AM going overdrive and mostly manage to do what must be done, but that causes unnecessary strain and stress. However, exactly because I know rationally that I should do things in time and start well in advance, often struggling with time management ALSO causes a lot fo stress. I am at a point now where almost whatever I do, I cause unnecessary stress to myself. When I try to relax, I am stressing that I dont work on my otherwise important tasks. But then forcing myself to do those tasks is putting such a strain on me, that I have to relax soon, otherwise sensory overload and nervous ticks occur. I am unable to effectively focus after that. Whenever life gets a little more stressfull, it's overlap with my self-caused stress makes it nigh impossible to function properly. Dont make my mistake and wait until this is causing you serious problems into your thirties. Talk to a professional and get a diagnosis if you suspect you have ADHD. Even if you dont have it, thats valuable knowledge as well. Better safe now than sorry later.
only if you live in a world without other people. Because if you tell me you're gonna be somewhere then I expect you to be there when you say so. I am no servant to sit around and wait for your inner wizard. This whole thing makes me really mad. Acting like it's OK to have time blindness and that other people don't matter at all.
@@thunderousapplause Whoa, being this grumpy about it is gonna cause some people to be late because the expectations you put can instill a sense of pressure that isn't helpful to someone with ADHD. My silly statement isn't about not trying to be on time, its about not putting the pressure on others. And its actually me thinking about other people. Because I've seen so many people get dragged through mud because they try really hard to do something their brain isn't often capable of doing. I've noticed on myself and on others just how much of a burden the pressure of being on time is. This in turn causes people to skip out on things. Or feel worse about themselves when there's no need to. Heck, it can make people less excited for being places which in turn causes them to be late more often. Yes, there are some people that are better with people arriving exactly on time. One of my best friends is like this. It can cause her anxiety and cause her to be in a weird mental space as she 'waits' for another and she can't help it. I try my best for people who need that. But that doesn't mean I'm going to put extra pressure on myself for failing to meet someone else's expectations.
I do think the unfortunate thing with real life is the fact we do still need some amount of time managements in our lives, and for people with ADHD it can make things more complicated considering. Which is why a degree is discipline is good to help steer you in the right direction, weather threw physical reminders like posted notes, messages and stuff, or having someone else remind you. There is never anything wrong with getting any form of help.
I understand and appreciate the sentiment, but we live in a day and age where punctuality is critical. I understand we need to give ourselves grace but if there are tips to combat time-blindness, what are they?
so we must either live our lives in slow motion and forget about punctuality or double-body to send our neurotypical double to appointments out of respect for punctuality (lol!).
I am always late 1 minute. Luckily, I live near my job and hence why I cannot leave the job because I need to work near where I live. I always leave at the same time, 10 minutes before starting time.
I'm not sure if you'll see this but, since i'm early I kind of need Advice. I think I have ADHD but i'm not sure how i tell my school. What should I do?
You should talk to a student counselor. Even if you aren't diagnosed with adhd or anything like it, you should talk to a student counselor about your worries and the difficulties that has made you think about adhd. Hopefully he/she can help. Perhaps you might benefit from thinking about whether or not you want to be examined by a psychiatrist. This is another thing your student counselor should be able to help with. If not, talk to a different adult/authority figure that you trust to guide you in the right direction within your community.
Hi , after doing a lot of research i found that i had symptoms of adhd & fawn trauma response, i would like to know what were ur experiences with ADHD & how u have overcomed it
