ADHD Relationships: Hurtful Conversations

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www.digcoaching.com. Jeff Copper is an ADHD coach and host of Attention Talk Video which is part of the Attention Talk Network, www.attentiontalknetwork.com.
Attention deficit hyperactivity disorder relationships can spiral out of control and end up in hurtful conversations. Is that an outcome you will really want? In this video ADHD coach Jeff Copper interviews ADHD marriage consultant Melissa Orlov (adhdmarriage.com), who shares tips and strategies to put an end to them.
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@jsma5503 3 года назад

My husband of 18 years has add. It has been a nightmare. You are basically married to a person you have to parent. You love them, but you resent all their crap. They don't listen, they procrastinate everything, they have so many excuses, you usually carry all the weight of everyday life on your shoulders. I have researched this so much over the years, but basically you have to disconnect yourself or they will suck the life out of you

@spacehog4188 4 года назад

I enjoy the content but as a person with ASD, I'm so uncomfortable with the layout of this. Standing really close to a person you're professionally interviewing and putting a microphone in her face, moving it away before she's done talking, the outdoor setup with background noise, your "yup" responses interrupting her, the constant back and forth between looking at the camera and her, the weird formality as if you are a journalist or something... I can't really pay attention to your videos at all.

@erlinavicente7411

What sucks is that the people who usually watch these vids are those that don’t have the ADHD in the relationship. What hurts even more is that as usual I’m the only one putting in the effort.

@ramir332 6 лет назад

I been in a ADHD relationship I don't have it but I had to put up with my 29 year old gf. It is so hard and stressing. I gave her thousands of chances and to be hurt cheated and lied to to the point where I finally gave up this love or insanity I was living in. My face is like that insanity picture I just gave up. The hurts and fighting was too much. I love her still but her condition is too much. I put myself through hell. I stopped trusting her too. I gave up. Pray that I find myself someone that will appreciate me more and I still hope she does fine herself. She still calls me but I don't answer her calls. When I get money I'm changing my number.

@luqmanrashid1651 3 года назад

Yeah, I am the inattentive type and its so easy for me to zone out. My wife keeps telling me she feels unwanted or secluded or unappreciated. I have no idea what I did to make her feel that way. I'm tired. Its like I'm the only one accepting her flaws. But when it comes to my symptoms kicking in, she denies it and make me the selfish one. Or at least I become a complete idiot because I'm not very good in reading social qeue

@firewalkwithme7660 5 лет назад

This is great but when a person doesn't want to change anything, completely useless. 9 years with my ADHD husband, he does not listen, abandons me after surgeries/each time I have a health crisis, has physically and emotionally abused me hundreds of times and still does it to this day. I'm disabled and can't do anything about it. He is on medication now, and thinks that the problem is solved. He is sweet for a few days and then goes into a rage, saying terrible things to me, including threats to cause my death (which is easy to do considering I have to take lifesaving medication). There is no way to talk to him, every word is twisted, every good deed I do perverted, most days I honestly don't want to wake up to see him anywhere near me. We read your book, but he cherrypicks "issues with a problem wife". And disregards his symptoms. So yes, it's great when both people are healthy and independent, but it's a life sentence when one person is physically disabled, and being controlled by the one with this illness.

@ocanain1731 4 года назад

Thanks. My wife has adhd and the emotional dysfunction is so hard to approach. I was curious about the role of accountability in regards to conflict.

@gracep2910

not everything is about you

@goofball2228 Год назад

I have combined type. I have all of the problems. I have anger issues, I say things without thinking and accidentally offend people, and I zone out in convos. I hate myself for ruining friendships.

@LisaChenier-qr8cl 21 день назад

I’m absolutely exhausted. Wife of 20 years with a husband with adhd….and every day is a struggle. I try sooooo hard to make life easier and all he does is work against me. I’m literally so tired.

@nicowithguitar 2 года назад

I love how this video has so much information in just 5 minutes. I almost sat through the whole videos without pausing and doing something else randomly. good stuff

@adhdmarriage2190 7 лет назад

Thank you Jeff Copper for working with couples to begin healing after difficult - and often - hurtful conversations. ADHD impacted dialog can be hurtful until we learn how to manage our behaviors and symptoms.

@sabastiankilgore781

This is and has been extremely helpful. Im grateful for your content, thank you for putting it and yourself out there

@mickeybubzx33 4 года назад

Really appreciate these videos, ya you said yup a lot but it’s because you were interested and agreeing/relating with what she was saying you did great!

@winkyc 3 года назад

Good topic.thank you!!! It helps👍👍👍

@Jorg-ug3ie Год назад

Very, very good & useful information given by this great lady!Thanks a million times; just wish I'd known this sooner ....🙏🏽

@DrCharlesParker 7 лет назад

Well said, Jeff and Melissa - Interesting from my experience with these painful moments is the interface between affect and reason, self and non-self, and the theme of respect - disrespect. Respect, affect management and non-self-awareness all play a role depending on the moment. Executive function accepts non-self perceptions and negotiates from a respectful position of affect management. Thanks guys, well said!

@tmejia2888 3 года назад

How do you stop conversation when you ( the wife with add ) has a husband who calls removing myself, running away or avoiding the conversation? I know my limits and I am now 53 and have learned many strategies to positively function. I’m always told my add is an excuse. I am a very open minded person who can understand why we don’t see eye to eye. I’m willing to learn how we can avoid these hurtful conversations. I guess I’m the one who is hurt by these conversations so maybe he doesn’t see the need to get help so that we can have the tools to allow for a strong loving friendship and marriage. 💔

@CmdDel 3 года назад

Thanks for the video, though ADHD me lost track of the dialogue once the spider behind Jeff started crawling around ;P

@AbacusAxolotyl Год назад

YES some of us DO need “hurtful” conversations explained. We’re here to learn not to have people reiterate something we already know, why make this video if you think the audience already knows everything? 🤦🏼‍♀️