5:16 “I was not being accommodated for the type of brain that I had, and I was trying to survive as best I could in a world that wasn’t designed for me.” 😭 Thank you so much for saying this!!! I am 59, newly diagnosed, and I am in tears. All these years, I thought I was broken and, try as I could (and I have - in abundance!) and with all my abilities, I haven’t been able to get my stuff together. Thank you for your wisdom and guidance 🙏🏼 You give me hope, Caren…and that is HUGE for me 💜
Aw, Carole I know what you're going through. Trust me, now that you know you can not only heal from the past, but also start creating a life that IS designed just for you ☺
Just got diagnosed at "over 50." As a child and teen years, I had been diagnosed, but my parents blew it off, thinking they could fix me through strict discipline. Then I forgot about it when I moved out. Never thought about getting diagnosed. However recently, wading through all the overthinking, and struggling with "why can't I..." I took myself in for testing. It's made a big difference!
😭 I never knew someone else felt like this. I’m 35 and never in my life listened to someone explain this. I’m a Registered Nurse and still never had is laid out so clearly exactly how I have felt my entire life. Broken, stupid, ughh I have struggled forever BUT I also know how awesome I am and I’m so excited to learn about everything you have to say. God bless you, thank you for your knowledge and love for us!
i’m not formally diagnosed but my son is and i’ve learned so much by just researching for him, and realizing my daughter has it and from that i’m learning I dealt with this my whole life
I'm 50 and I was diagnosed just a few months ago. The things I'm learning about our struggles and difficulties have been so enlightening. So many things from my past, my failures specifically, I have been looking back with a new light. I wish I would have been diagnosed in my childhood. Anyways, thank you for all your content, I am going through it and enjoying it.
I’m 66 and I know, without a doubt that I have ADHD. This video has been a great help. Here in England, the waiting list to see a specialist is 2 to 3 years. So I’ll have to go private for a diagnosis. And that costs about £600. What struck me in this video was when you said about not knowing what an adjective is. I have written and blogged, and even did two years at university studying English literature. And I’m the same as you in that respect. I couldn’t even finish my university course because I couldn’t keep up with the work load or organise myself. Thank you for this.
Hey @Borley Boo! I'm in the UK too and got a private diagnosis for the same reason... it's a 3-4 year wait where I live. I'm happy to share my experience of the place I used if that's helpful? Reply here and hopefully I'll see it.
I didnt finish university either, tried three times but couldnt adult whatsoever. Not lack of intelligence but the whole executive system is shot. It took me ages to even remember where my classes were held and stuff like that. Id study for an exam and find out it was held the day before, leaving no time to study for the one I had that day. ADHD and my other learning disabilities suck but I could have thrived if Id known back then.
The worst problem is not being able to use the language properly. I struggle so much with writing and couldn’t finish my Masters degree because of that and also struggled to learn how to drive it even ride a bike, swim … the list is long. I am stuck because I need to be on top of this to be able to work and earn a living. I struggle with relationships and No one understands.
Was not diagnosed until I was 58 years old. Because of how dumb insurance is and the health care system, I still have not connected with a counselor and/or ADHD coach who will help me. Now I'm 61. I have been mourning all the times that jobs turned to crap, relationship issues, struggles with job/life/mental health, etc. The only way I have gotten this far is by brute force and sheer determination and depression and anxiety and some other things. And honestly....I'm tired. I'm tired of not getting my needs met while pouring out endless amounts of work on things for others, etc. all while getting criticized and fired etc. I think anyone here knows what I am talking about. I need a spouse, some friends and a coach who understand me and my ADHD.
Stumbled onto your youtubes. OMG! Haven't been diagnosed by doctor. 64 yrs old. Overwhelm, stuck, struggle to keep things organized, accomplish anything. Waiting for camera crew to show up with "...on the next addition of Hoarders...". Sometimes feeling defeated and depressed. It's been 2 years like this. Prior to this shift- meticulously and effortless organized, multi task queen, energizer bunny energy. What changed? Neighbors from hell and long term sleep deprivation.... and severe stress. So, it's calmed down. I'm sleeping. Stress of the aftermath (house / yard destroyed from constant flooding- grade change). Point- the damage of long term sleep deprivation is beyond "catch up on sleep". Your tips will help. Also looking into nutrition. Gut is horrible from 100% caffeine to attempt to hold on to "normalcy" throughout the nightmare. Love your video's.
Hi did you get emotional and have melt downs anger issues when yiu want to go out it always turns in to a roller coaster and struggle to get ready as well ev time wash that dry pile up on couch get higher and higher days where you are bored that it adjetates you you zone out through thing in wardrobe when you tydy up ex clothes what ever
Hey, Melissa. I don't get as emotional now. Mindfulness and medications have helped a lot. I also find that keeping my home clean helps me feel more in control of my whole life. So that's my motivation to clean!
I agree Caren, if you get organised in the home it really helps. You explain your life and I just nod my head saying, yes yes, that’s me. And we are good people, generous and kind. I love that about us adders. Yes Melissa, I’m pretty hopeless at getting ready to go out, or packing to go away is still a nightmare for me. 🤷♀️ Thanks Caren, I love your videos.
49 and diagnosed last week ..... how did I feel???... I wasn't surprised but now I'm trying to figure out where I go from here. To find forgiveness to the child/ young adult me and to help myself to move forward in a more authentic way.... on top of dealing with elderly sick parents and a teenage son who I'm sure is also ADHD and highly emotional 😳😳😳😳 I've signed up to your email and I am hopefully going to start utilising some of the worksheets etc. Thanks x
Yes. I was diagnosed with ADD at 50 years old. I had to ask my GP for a referral to a Psychiatrist, because I knew this merry-go-round of anti depressants was not the solution. I felt like my head was going to implode.
3 weeks ago I was talking with a psychologist because I am not able to achieve financial independence, eventhough I have survived a huge burnout & wake up call to childhood trauma (a narcissistic mother is just the start) ... However, I never realised I had a neuro-divergency for my entire 52 years!!! This psychologist picked it up after a one hour conversation. Since then, my whole life has flashed before my eyes and all the dots have been united 🤗 ... As well as my 26 yr old son coming to the realisation that he also has ADHD. We will both go for the official diagnosis but we already have the knowing in our hearts. It's been a very intense 3 weeks 😅 So, spiritual awakening, peri-menopause & CPTSD have many overlapping symptoms/traits to ADHD. That's why it's all reached an ugly head for me ... Only to SET ME FREEEEEE finally 🙏💖🕊️
I was diagnosed at 29 (late 40s now), but only after years of issues, not just a depressive episode. I had those too. It always affected nearly every job and facet of my life. It's really debilitating. I think people get diagnosed when they don't really have it. In fact, because our society is so busy, people tend to appear to have symptoms time to time but they don't truly have it. Believe me, this ain't something you want or it suddenly became an issue at 50. Other people would point it out to me and I wouldn't listen until those people were in health care and sure enough that was my issue all along.
Hi Channel NoMore. Thanks for your comment. I believe that many people are getting diagnosed in their 50's because it wasn't recognized when we were younger as a potential issue (especially in women). So we create compensatory methods to cope with our brain. However, those methods tend to stop working when hormonal changes come into play.
After diagnosis at @ 50, taking medication for my ADD was the first time in my life that I actually felt AWAKE. Life changing (but then the reflection of 50 years of screw ups).
Hi Caren! Absolutely love your videos, thank you! I was diagnosed almost 2 years ago, aged 57 and boy was that a relief! Not the screw up that I thought I was - well, not for the usual reasons 🤣 I had something really poignant, relevant and profound to write, but with each intervening thought, I’ve watched it floating away further into the distance on the boat named Memory 🤣🤣 I’ll remember at 3am when I wake up due to ADHD 😁 I do think part of my thought was the similarities between ADHD signs & symptoms and childhood trauma. After diagnosis, I had therapy and was also told I had trauma; I’d never thought of it that way, just accepted life as it was and fended for myself. It just made me think of trauma and its links to our childhood - being that ‘irritating kid’, including at home…such a lot to recover from. My dx was truly a major turning point for me; now, I just need to find out what goals actually are,if I have any 🤣🤣 Thanks again…
I'm so glad this resonates with you. Thanks for the kind words. Yes - trauma is very correlated to ADHD. I don't know if one causes the other, but they seem to appear together a lot.
Just diagnosed last month at 50! Felt all the things you said. Decided to give up work to be a stay at home mom for my daughter. She will be going to college in September. I have no idea how to make my way back into the world! Unknowingly because of adhd symptoms I made my world very small. I was barely managing the basics when I got my diagnosis. Can’t imagine how long it’s going to take me to pick up the pieces!
I found this so validating, as someone diagnosed with ADHD inattentive sub-type in March, and turning 50 next month. I had burnout, and a couple of bereavements, my Dad and best friend within months of each other. Lost my job just before Christmas, and decided I need a time out.
My diagnosis at 50 was so overwhelming that I had to take about a year to learn just to be kind to myself. I had a lifetime of cause and effect behind me all caused by the ADHD but I judged myself harshly for being unable to achieve any where near normal. My ADHD is so bad Im eternally blessed just to not be homeless. As soon as I found out, the relief was overwhelming but I had to unlearn all the negative self talk.
Woman I just want to say referring to other videos more. Stop calling me out (audhd diagnosed adhd 1 year ago and 2 years before asd. 38 now. ) !!! My neighbors might think I'm crazy shouting like ****** go away. (Meaning u r right. :p) but maybe a very stupid unimportant question. You are the first and also reminded me (I forgot) that it took me forever to tell time. However purely on the pointer things. We have some sense here and use this 24 hour system (don't worry we are creating outreach programs trying to bring sense to that side of the ocean. And bring some of your Canadian American sense here. Pff world. Ok going total adhd here. *stopping my brain*) but I wonder. Did u pick up the 24 hour quick? I still tripped over it. I think maybe due to the visual combining the explanation? Your eyes seeing it triggered other sense thar interfere with logic just enough to make u doubt. I feel the instant doubt was there very quickly . Due to constant doubt in my life due to being undiagnosed. But pff I'm going through it now. I thought I checked all the boxes. Grief. Identity crisis. Nope my people pleasing screwed with my head. Thanks for your videos!!!
i’m 56 years old my father won custody of me and my brothers in court in Princeton Indiana he told me at 5 years old i belonged to the land lords my whole family disowned me at 15 for having the 1 and second basturds in my family so no one talk to me about my Aunt Brenda and Uncle Paul spoiled me rotten taught me in my 30 how to drive a school bus ❤❤❤
Just diagnosed at 59! I always had the feeling of being out of place while it is just that the world is not designed for people like me. Thx for your videos. It helps a lot.
I got diagnosed three months ago, at 52 years young and I've been experiencing so much of what you spoke to in this video. I've been mainlining ADHD info ever since, after allowing a 2-week blanket fort period to do the initial processing. I've been endlessly fascinated by the human condition for my entire life and it's taken me down many winding paths! The diagnosis makes sense of my entire life - including my inability to Adult or People in a way that's considered the 'norm'. Thank you for everything you share, I really appreciate it. I am very resistant to the mood hoovers of the ADHD community and very quickly honoured my intuition around what narratives I want to listen to or not. I'm glad your life has changed in such a profound way and can't wait until the bigger pieces fall into place for mine too - right now it's a bit of a solo life shitshow tbh!
Congrats on your diagnosis. It takes time to process it all and accept where you are. I hope these videos help. I know exactly what you're going through!
@@CarenMagill your videos are helping more than I can say. I’m slowly working through them and I’m so inspired by your turnaround in your work and life. Thank you for responding and for everything you do 💗
