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My favorite is when you are super proud of how “well” you’ve been doing at a job and how much you care about it genuinely and you try your absolute hardest and be nice to everyone at work and then for some reason your mind can’t remember to do one or two things and now everyone hates you and you thought you were a great employee.
I had this experience last week and it was absolutely the worst. And even when at USAFA, I experienced it a little. Not fun. I give my all and pride myself in doing my work well and treating others with love and respect and striving for excellence. But, there are SMALL details that I missed, here and there, and after a few months those small details here and there sometimes build up and in any other field it would not be that big of a deal and then you could just learn from them. But in accounting, it's quite annoying because that can be hundreds of thousands of dollars that you have to sift through to try to get the customer to pay a check on because you missed the detail or something and it's over something that is so simple and not necessarily (ultimately) my fault because something slipped my attention. And it's annoying because, as you said, it seems those immediately over you are annoyed and feel you're doing something morally wrong just because you made a *simple* mistake. Annoying af
@@Andromedon777 interesting. Sorry to hear. I was at the top of the board at work and thought I was doing great then I got fired the next week for something I still don’t quite understand I thought I was doing everything right.
You're not alone. I found out that eliminating coffee and implementing more fresh foods in diet can help our brain... I tried it, felt better but struggling to stay on track. Anyway doesn't hurt to keep trying. Coffee in my case worsen my anxiety and my mind is more foggy. 💕🙏✨
This is me now. I spent the last seven weeks training to be a certified manager. Three weeks later and I’m ready to quit. I don’t lose jobs I just quit them I’ve had eleven jobs in the past three years alone. I usually keep a job four month or less and then quit 🤦🏾♂️🤦🏾♂️
Oh my god, I felt like crying when people told me something for the second time and it's like I was hearing it for the first time... It's very disconcerting indeed because you feel very lost - and possibly a tiny bit like someone who has alzheimer's...
I've recently lost a job because of my ADHD/ADD, and to be frank it's made me realize that I need to do something that I'm actually passionate about in order to stay focussed and interested in my job. With that in mind I went out to find a new job where I can blur the lines with my love for plants, and now I'm not only thoroughly enjoying the new job that I've got.. I'm also not getting bored along the way. I take a bit longer to learn new things in comparison to my co-workers, but because I'm passionate about plants I already know a shit ton of things that most of my co-workers don't know. My passion for plants is compensating for the ADHD/ADD. Heck, my impulsiveness and enthusiasm is actually HELPING me to approach customers and get work done. My advice won't come as a surprise... Find something you're passionate about, and try your best to turn that into your job.
Apply the love you have for plants to your own garden, speak to neighbours or friends about your ideas. I wanted to create wildlife habitats and food abundant areas, my employer wanted me to just obediently cut grass for 6 months. Since parting ways and doing my own thing, I have built orchards, a mini nursery to grow and sell plants, wetland development and I am now creating a forest on wasteland. Get your day job done as best you can but find some work for evenings/weekends that will allow your wonderful ADHD brain to get the nourishment it needs - creativity and variety. Best of luck, my green fingered friend 👍
1. YES, find work that is rewarding to you, it is critical for anyone with ADHD to find something about their work that motivates them. 2. Even if you find work you're passionate about, it is very important that you plan in advance how to talk to your employers on days when ADHD gets in the way, know your rights, always actively work on discovering your needs, your triggers, and your rights. I've got a long story, but figured that people with ADHD coming to this page should see it. TL;DR version is that I was fired from my dream job that I was extremely interested in and passionate about, and had a great work environment that I was able to excel in, where my ADHD really made me an excellent, above and beyond employee. I was fired because I sought advice from HR to make up for time I had to take off for doctor's appointments, which spiralled into a toxic workplace of micromanagement and where I was unable to do any of the things that had helped me get through the work day. .. .. .. .. .. My story: My last job was my dream job. I was at a world renowned organization working with extremely accomplished and brilliant individuals, I was being recognized for my efforts, was trusted with responsibilities, got to explore my own curiosities, made enough money to pay my bills and go out or travel every now and then, my work was meaningful to my personal values, the tasks were hands on, I was respected, I could see myself doing it for the rest of my life and was trying to find out how I could make that happen. After about a year and a half of working there, my issues with sleep and lethargy at home were impacting my ability to be a good housemate, a good girlfriend, a good daughter, and eventually I came into work clearly exhausted. My boss who had just been diagnosed with his own sleep disorder was empathetic and encouraged me to get medical advice for my sleep. After consulting with my doctor and setting up a series of appointments and tests, I needed to talk with HR about taking time off work for doctor's appointments. My workplace had previously been flexible enough that, so long as I was meeting overall deadlines and completing my work, that it didn't matter if I needed to go on a few walks or take extra time at lunch or come in late/leave late. Once HR got involved and found out I had ADHD, I was suddenly being micromanaged, which spiralled into being fired (illegally according to 2 lawyers, my doctor, and therapist, though I made the personal choice not to sue my former employer, mostly because I was too broke at that point to focus on anything other than getting back on my feet). I was being given additional tasks that my coworkers didn't need to do to prove that I was getting work done (suddenly my boss was watching me like a hawk, suddenly I was being scolded for being on my phone even if I was checking work emails or researching something work related, suddenly I couldn't stay late to make up for lost time, suddenly I was asked to write daily progress emails that MUST be sent before 5pm, and I was in trouble if I sent emails after 5 pm, even if I was doing a work related time-sensitive task that couldn't be held off to send the email). I was being held to a standard that none of my coworkers were being held to, and because I was so stressed about checking all these new boxes, and because I couldn't go on walks, and because my productivity was being measured by the hour or by the minute instead of by the week, all the systems I had in place to be the brilliant, above and beyond, multi-tasking employee I always was, fell apart. My boss grew so resentful of me that he started compiling a list of all the "safety standards" I was violating (and these were "safety" standards that were previously described to me as "a waste of time" by the same boss, who frequently violated them too. But I'm talking small, inconsequential. Imagine if, starting tomorrow, you found out that you would be pulled over by the police if you drove so much as under 49 mph or over 51 mph in a 50mph zone, while everyone around you drove 55-60mph. Even if you're fine with being slow, it's a hazard to be more concerned with the speedometer than the road). I begged for a different system, begged for flexibility, even asked HR to call my therapist so that my therapist could explain why the micromanagement was hindering my ability to do my job. I had been receiving so much praise from my coworkers and supervisors, was being trained for a new position, and I had a doctor's note from my primary care provider explaining that my performance was being impacted by changes in my antidepressant medication, my sleep, as well as my ADHD. My boss even knew that I was not a citizen of the country I was working in, that I only had a year left on my visa, that I had no family, that I didn't have much for savings (this was an entry level position) that we lived in a small town composed of mostly only employees at my workplace, that I was in the deep pits of depression of anxiety and grieving the loss of a family friend at home and also going through a breakup, that I LIVED with my coworkers. Knew that I was recovering from a bad case of the flu and bronchitis, and had just (the day before I was fired) needed an ambulance called at my workplace (about 8 witnesses) while suffering a severe, 8 hour panic attack (my first ever). They even told me that the next step would be going from full time to part time, but instead they blindsided me. Fired me 3 weeks before christmas. Nearly a year later, I am getting back on my feet, but I had a strong support system through my family and friends. The lesson that I learned was that when you start to feel like disclosing ADHD is causing you employers to treat you differently from your coworkers, DO NOT BE A PEOPLE PLEASER, DO NOT APOLOGIZE, ADVOCATE FOR YOURSELF. I was told that what happened was illegal by lawyers I spoke with through a free resource for low income unemployed women, but I think that the descent into the retaliatory behaviour happened because I was new to my ADHD diagnosis, didn't know how to explain it, didn't know what would work for me or make things better, and I allowed myself to be bullied and set up for failure. Anyone who is in this position, I STRONGLY advise you to find a local resource knowledgeable about employment and disability rights to help walk you through this process, and do it the SECOND things don't feel right, don't wait. Get everything in writing. To anyone who read all the way through, I imagine you only did because you relate. Please do reach out to me.
Me trying to find out how to parlay my writing (which I’ve gained a 3.7k following for) into a paid passion. Because I’m tired of pretending to care about leasing
Until I got diagnosed this year, I'd lost 5 jobs because of ADHD since leaving uni, including arguably the job I'd dedicated my teenage and uni years towards getting. I think the thing about telling emlpoyers is that a lot of them still don't understand what ADHD really is.
Sorry to hear about your loss of jobs, ADHD is a hard life, it can affect your lifestyle, relationships, performance at work etc, keep your head up, they're ways to cope with ADHD, don't think subconscious about yourself that you can't do anything right, don't listen to people who discourage you, you can do it! Just believe in yourself
@@gilly_axolotl The only way they would understand is if they had it themselves. Or have close relatives with it. I myself am undiagnosed, but have had most symptoms all of my life. Yet, until a few days ago I truly did not know exactly what it is. It is comforting to know that there are a lot of people who are like me. I struggle with focusing in the moment, instead my mind is in the past or future. Often negative things that have happened or possibly will happen etc..
I noticed that I've been the target of bullying in the workplace because of my inability to learn things as quickly as others. It has been horrible. I just left a job I only had for a little over a month because the bullying started early and began to escalate. My mind and spirit could not handle the abuse. I started this job in February but it was after a very long and abusive 7 months of constant bullying at a previous job. I'm just exhausted and I'm scared. Need to find a new job in some place where people are actually kind and patient when I'm learning.
oh and of course I have ADHD that is untreated. I cannot take meds for the kind that I have. So....doing the best that I can but it's been very difficult.
You definitely should’ve reported the bullying and harassment you were receiving . That’s some pretty serious stuff . I have moderate adhd myself but I’ve never been picked on at work .
@@jamesroboyle I actually did report the abuse to the woman above my manager. She told me HR would contact me. Then she accidentally called me thinking it was HR and was telling them NOT to worry about me basically disregarding and invalidating my experience. When she realized it was ME on the phone and NOT HR she apoligized and said that HR would contact me. They never did. HR isn't FOR the people. They work for the company to cover their backs. I'm glad I left when I did. This is why toxic work places stay toxic.
Yes i to have become outcast because co workers can tell something is wrong but they can’t understand what it is. I haven’t told anyone that i have adhd. I try to tell myself that i don’t have adhd that i am like everyone else but i now can tell there is a difference between how I’m doing at work than others. To other peoples eyes they think I might just not care about the job or just that i am stupid
I hear you. For me it's the working memory. Can't hold onto new info while learning other stuff at the same time. And you have to do that when you're training and learning a new job. You are NOT stupid. Try to be kind to yourself. I think it IS smart that you don't tell people you have ADHD. I've told people and they think it's just an excuse or they just laugh it off thinking its a joke. So telling people ends up backfiring, unfortunately. @@12Kurdt
I've lost many jobs in my life, including very recently. Only in the last few weeks my therapist told me it's likely I have ADHD (on top of OCD, which is crippling enough). It's very difficult to live like this, you always see the worst of life (people telling you you're lazy, always being fired, isolation, depression, suicidal thoughts). Hopefully I'll start some sort of medication soon that can help me live
I’m about to cry right now. I’m having such a hard day at work externally and internally. I feel exactly this way all my life and didn’t know anyone else felt exactly like this even in the details. I feel like I should quit before I get fired. But that could also just be my really negative self talk. I
You’re not alone. I’m feeling the same. Quit my last job, lost the one before, struggling in my new one. Trying to get a psych asap hoping that medication will help. Let’s keep trying our best
hi! not to scare you but this happened to me on a new job and I got fired. Honestly, if the job and the people make you feel so bad, make steps to find something else and instead of focusing on "is it me, is it negative self talk?" focus on get yourself somewhere better. I had other jobs where I felt un-productive but I had enough feedback system to verify if my negative thoughts were just being hiper critical. If you find yourself in a place with no friends or ppl who you can count on and maybe other people are being laid off easily, make a move before they make a move on you.
I have been sacked so many times. I just worry about telling employers because most people don’t get it and don’t realise how serious and impactful it is. I feel I’m wasting my breath most times.
I hate it when I first start a job I look very enthusiasm. But then when I’m in training as I start to learn my work ethics decline. 📉 And everybody looking at me weird like 😮
I struggle with people thinking I'm being bossy or rude. I have a very high toned voice and I speak using big words. It's natural to me. I try so hard not to speak at all. Because I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings when I'm trying to be helpful. If I'm too nice I get bullied if I'm assertive I'm mean I can't win.
You need to own that intensity, it's time to be unapologetic about who you are because the world needs you. The world needs us with ADHD and it's sickening that we usually don't fit, but it's time we create one that fits us.
I was diagnosed last year, I had started studying a life coaching course with a full time job. Being diagnosed made me do a great deal of research and I finally understood that the demands and nature of my job were unhealthy for my ADHD. I qualified recently as a life coach and am now working towards my own coaching practice - i know this is my passion.
Unfortunately for me there's no union to protect me as ADHD isnt a recognized disability here and is often is placed in a skeptical area. I'm working in a large banking MNC and I am overwhelmed with information I deal with everyday. You've hit home with every point you made, especially with my problems in processing information, and my colleagues are noticing my quirks 3 months into the job. It's devastating knowing that they have to pull double because of who and what I am. But like you said, it's really nobodys business on how your type works, and for now the best advice I was offered is to do my best day by day, and be good at 1 thing first.
I have noticed, on days when I have a to do work list ready from last night (not having to think in the morning how to prioritise) and when I stay away (literally) from my mobile phone in the AM from 8 am to 1 pm, such days are my best and most productive days!
I’m going to give that a go tomorrow. I have on occasion written a work to do list the night before and that has helped, but I’m going to put my phone away from 8am to 1pm and see how I go.
I always think about entrepreneurship simply because i can work at my own pace and dont have to take orders from someone else so it removes the worry of not remembering instruction. Only trouble is not having the reliable income. Ive only discovered i probably have ADHD in the past 2 months but this really hits home. Ive lost my last 2 jobs because of my lack of focus or lack of filter and i think i need to find something im really passionate about or just start my own business doing something i love. Its the only thing that i think makes sense in order to stop my reliance on other people understanding the mindset.
I am unemployed now and have seriously considered self employment. Problem is, you often need a lot of money and/or a marketable skillset, product/s or service to run your own business. I don't have anything that I can realistically market to generate income for immidiate expenses. So....
I'm 68 and had more jobs than I can count. Quit half and the other half I was fired. It has only been the past few years I realized how very different I am. I am sure my ADHD was the issue. However, I am in my 14th year at the same job. I am a transcriptionist. Eventually (thanks to ADHD) I ended up in my own office. That was great but there were interpersonal issues with coworkers but I work independently. Now we are working from home and have been over a year. I live in fear and dread of going back to an office, not sure I can. If we go back I may have to retire. Doing fine at work from home.
You are the most relatable ADHD youtuber! I cracked up when I watched the bit about our brain being like walking into a room full of garbage piled up 😂😂
Hearing you talk about your work experience suffering with ADHD is as if you are describing my situation. I am just glad I am not alone, this ADHD always gets in the way and I get so frustrated. Do people with ADHD tend to get as stressed out as me? the fact that I don't pick up things as fast as the others or how long it takes me to complete a task gets me so stressed out and overwhelmed that even my body hurts. I just found out I have this disorder and honestly I don't even know how I got to place I am right now when I look back at my struggles. It makes me so insecure and afraid about failing or being judged by others. I don't have peace of mind, always thinking I am uncapable of achieving anything.
Yes this is how most of us with it feel. But you’ll learn over time how to get to 80-90% of a neurotypical persons default :) just make sure to actually acknowledge that your different and do EVERYTHING differently.
@@northcanuck7387 That’s exactly me. I get got terminated today because I forgot a lot and on top of that I can’t comprehend every word they tell me. They just expect me to know what they mean
@@HebrewJerusalemPrince777 oh bro I am so sorry to hear that. Try to relax it's not your fault. But I know you you feel. Just know that it is not the end of the world..peace out 🙏
Discovered I have ADHD after doing a workplace assessment for Dyslexia. Only a few months later and I was build out of my job now taking them to court for disability discrimination. Be very very careful about "coming out" to your employer as having ADHD (or dyslexia) because even if their slogan is "everyone welcome" it doesn't necessarily mean everyone like you 😟 I now work for myself, 100% remotely. Works much better for me 😊
I’m blessed that when I went to HR he also had ADHD and could completely relate and help support. Sorry that happened but glad you found something better for yourself
Wow this explains my struggles exactly. I have been fired because of ADHD and being “ slow” to learn. But I think with adhd it’s important you find the right job with the right environment.
I’ve been thinking for a while now that I have ADHD, inattentive type but my doctor said I would have to go private and I don’t have the money right now. I definitely need to get assessed as soon as I can though as i feel my quality of life is definitely affected and the older I get the harder everything becomes. In the workplace I’m awful! It takes me a long time to grasp new concepts. Lots of repetition as you mentioned! I have been fired from a temp job before after 5 days because I couldn’t complete tasks quickly enough! Aahhh the struggle! 🙈😫😂😂
June Stay hi, I feel for you I’ve had the exact same issues! I can’t get assessed on NHS in the south where I live and definitely can’t afford to go private. How would a company even help you if you explained your difficulties with learning new concepts or remembering things? (You May have explained but haven’t finished video yet) I feel like my only option is to become self employed as I’m too anxious about my abilities which is upsetting as I’m actually bright but just struggle with things other people find super easy 😕.
@@charlieb9144 I'd recommend not worrying too much about getting diagnosed/ treated etc. It won't really change anything unless you were after medication, which only helps so much. Just try to learn as much as you can about it, manage it, and adapt. You'll be ok. And yes something you're interested in will help
If you can swing it,I recommend getting the diagnosis. It allows you to have that official answer, ok longer hanging over your head. From there you can figure out your own path (therapy, medication, CBT, etc.) Most adults have already internalized their coping mechanisms, but it's always nice to know your Comorbidities (anxiety, depression,etc) dont need to be treated in a potentially harmful way. It also gives you the medical papers, and from THERE you have a choice. Its just... a pain in the arse to find someone who does the testing.
Thank you for this video. I don't ever want to use my ADHD as an excuse, and I really strive to keep up with everyone else. I just started a new job in a different career, and previously I had been able to go off of my medication because I had mastered the job. However, I have been struggling so hard since I started this job, so I am going back on it this week. But I got in trouble for a careless mistake I made yesterday and not being able to multitask like the job demands and it just really makes me feel like I am stupid and not good enough. I wasn't diagnosed until I was an adult, and so most of my life I just felt like I just couldn't get it. I always felt stupid, and it is hard to remember that although it is not an excuse, that I need to have compassion for myself while I try to find the right way to overcome the obstacle. I just end up being very angry at myself.
We have the exact the same situation. I dont want to use it as an excuse. I want to be at the same playing field although its really difficult getting through it day by day. I make careless mistakes and it takes longer for me to get use to things especially its fast pace and requires multitasking but im gonna fight on regardless.
Same I get frustrated, angry, and depressed about my ADHD. I feel like I'm behind in life but, at the same time my girlfriends tell me I am smart for not having a kid. I am pretty good with money and have the inattentive type. Mostly I have trouble with time, keeping everything together mentally/physically, not losing things, and some things I learn faster than others like general math but, memorizing things is a challenge. I have to keep notepads take notes during training and when learning new machines, software, or new tasks otherwise, when I get overwhelmed or stressed at work I may forget a step when I haven't done it in awhile especially.
I have just recently changed locations in job same similar task but I deal with new customers and different set of coworkers, I asked for the supervisor to be a little more patient in me getting to the place. I still ended up feeling lost and overwhelmed as if it was my first on the job and I've done the job for along time.
Maybe that is something we all experience, when we find ourselves in new work environments. Even when in the same general field of work. I recently worked at a job for one month, but had to quit because it was beyond unbearable. There was a coworker going behind me pointing out simple mistake I was making. It made me overly cautious and self conscious in making mistakes, during the training process. Eventually I could not sleep at night or eat properly. I am undiagnosed, but have had symptoms all my life. Prior to quitting my last job I was at the same company for 15 years, so I guess I was able to mask the ADHD, so that nobody was aware of it. In a new job, the ADHD was exposed, as I was overwhelmed by learning the ropes. Hope better days have found you.
So cool of you to put this video together in the midst of the new job. It shows how much you care about contributing your experience to the collective growth and discovery of the ADHD community. Hope to hear more insights through the lens of your new employment!
Talking about emotional disregulation, this video totally made me cry because you made me feel like maybe I’m not a failure after all. I am in a corporate position that requires a lot of responsibility, organization, working memory, stress, and time. I’ve been struggling a lot recently and am now being faced with the possibility of being put on a performance plan (for the first time ever). You hit the nail on the head with all of these, it takes me longer to process information, I have to be told the same thing several times before I learn it, and I’m often the last to understand anything. I honestly just thought maybe I was too stupid to be doing this job (I also struggle with RSD). This video made me realize it’s not just me, it’s not because I’m too stupid. Maybe this role still won’t be the right fit, but that’s not because I’m stupid, slow, a failure or any of the other adjectives I’ve been calling myself lately. Thank you for posting this and doing these posts in general.
Mr P. I agree with that. The corporate world is not designed for our brains. It’s almost too rigid and structured for us to be able to thrive in that environment.
I feel the exact same way. I work in an office as an executive Assistant and I feel you. I have lost a few jobs due to the things described in the video.
Undiagnosed but literally crying after watching this, just over a month into my first retail job, and I feel so inadequate even though I’m trying my hardest 😢
I experience this exact thing in the workplace. But the problem is you can’t prove to anyone that the reason why you struggle or seem stupid is because your brain doesn’t programme things properly no matter how much you concentrate or try. I’ve tried taking notes, revising things at home ettc. But people will still get frustrated with you or think your incompetent even if they don’t say it to your face because they haven’t experienced it. It’s very hard to live with it. Once I know what I’m doing I am fine, but others won’t understand why it takes you so long. And you don’t want to say you have adhd because it sounds like a cop out. It’s hard not to get upset about it because your under double the amount of stress because your aware that others notice that you are struggling.
I always felt like I was trying so hard n doing my best at work. But I’ve never got all the recognition n praise my other coworkers got :/ I never understood what I did wrong. I don’t get how I can do more than I already am
You have a good conscience, and you know. It is other people who have problems, by not showing recognition. Keep up what you are doing, one day you time will come.
I laughed when you talked about being the person who knows things last. I always find out things after they have happened. I haven't told about my ADHD at work but I have said that "distractions" help me concentrate better. I listen to RU-vid/music/audiobooks while I work and it often helps me to concentrate on work. I have had some embarrassing situations with that. I was listening to some two hour video and I had to pause it. I left the window open and the CEO marched in and came near my desk where he could definitely see that I had watched half of a long video. He didn't say anything to me and I haven't had any consequences about it but I was so ashamed. I wish I had a better job because this is boring af.
I have to be in a noisy environment to work and really get driven nuts by quiet places. Often, I have used music to pace myself or get songs stuck in my head to get things memorized and done in order. I think that those combined with hyperfocus on one person at a time were why i enjoyed working in emergency medical services and why i really want to return to that same job after being off 2 years for a bunch of surgery, but work gaps are being a real hindrance in finding paid employment. This video has been incredibly useful.
I thought I was weird because I also have to have background music or videos to focus but I can’t focus with background office noise, only the direct sound into my earphones to keep my mind from wandering. I just explained that to a coworker who is very chatty because I didn’t want it to appear rude that I always drowned things out with AirPods. I only recently was diagnosed this year and it’s crazy how I didn’t realize it my whole life, but I guess because symptoms like that aren’t the “stereotype” for adhd
I find that my ADHD has helped me at work. I operate demolition robots and am often just given a structure to take down with no advise on the best way to do it. I find that my over analysing helps because I'm often thinking 2 steps ahead of my colleagues and I can hyper concentrate on it. Motivation to start and speed to complete isn't always my strong point, efficiency and completing the task successfully is, however
The room full of garbage cracked me up so much loooool but it’s so nice hearing how annoying and debilitating ADHD is instead of always being told I have some superpower that others don’t that only requires a specific key to unlock. No it straight up sucks day to day at work.
A more current issue I am experiencing with ADHD is returning to the office after having worked from home. My performance had definite improvement working from home since I can control my environment. My job decided it was time for everyone to return to the office on occasion, and those weeks are so hard. It's noisy, people constantly interrupting for chit-chat because they can complete their work faster so have more free time. I need every moment of the day to get the same amount of work done and I take a while to get into focus when I have to switch tasks suddenly. I even wear headphones so I can't hear others, which helps with general noise, but people will still come up and tap me on the shoulder to talk about something non-work related and I get stuck wasting even more time than ADHD makes me waste... my manager is cool about it cause he sees me working hard, but I know at the end of the day if I want raises/promotions I have to have the stats/metrics to back up my worth and being in office is killing those numbers for me.
I luckily don't need to return to the office because working remotely convinced them so much it's just allowed for everyone now. But when I'm there, even when I turn my sight away from the rest and use earplugs AND noise cancelling headphones with music on, people would still randomly talk to me and not even notice I don't even perceive their presence. Then at a later time I'd get asked about what they told me and I'd be confused... Yeah dude I'm here to do my job and do everything I need to stay focused and avoid distraction. If you talked to me without even gaining my attention first, that's not on me.
I'm in healthcare and I move so much slower than everyone else and I feel like I'm going fast but they work circles around me. I desperately want to fix it but I don't know how .
Ive never told my employer, supervisors, about adhd directly, indirectly yes and they've worked with me and have been very accommodating. I've actually been promoted and will be promoted again possibly within the next few weeks.
I really hope that your RU-vid channel takes off so that you no longer have to deal with ignorance at the workplace... I have lost so much due to ADHD... perhaps one day it can be taken as seriously as it is...
I just want to thank all the workers that put up with wearing a mask throughout the pandemic (especially medical workers, school teachers, delivery people, food store workers, etc.). I only had to wear one going to the store and I couldn't stand it, it was hard to breathe and it would fog up my glasses.
I really am having issues with my job that coincide with my ADHD. 2/3s of my job, I'm really good at. I'm proud of that. The clerical stuff with numbers and spreadsheets, no dice. It's really bad. And frustrating.
If there's one thing I've learned from my resignations, it's that I am never going to work at a factory again unless I'm behind a desk (White collar). I'm just a circle cramming into a square peg in these environments.
Work procedures - YES!! I'm a senior manager at a global corporate (God knows how I made it here, but I did) - yet I am soooo lost about the most basic processes and where to find things. Luckily as a manager people assume you're just too busy so they'll help you. But it has gotten me into many messes. And things like compulsory training and compliance courses - I'm always months late to get them done. And lists of instructions, especially when people scatter the instructions through an email jumping back and forth...inside my head it's just crickets chirping. lol. Thanks for the video - there's not enough content for ADHD adult problems.
I take notes for everything. My memory isn’t great so I take it in my hands to write everything down so I can go back and go over everything so it can get it engraved into my head and if I forget I go back to those notes endlessly. It’s my security blanket have a notebook and write down everything even messages. I’ve been able to be able to get my job done. I do struggle with losing focus and everything goes in my ear and out I don’t retain information easily. I know I have to advocate for myself and I have to make things work.
I relate so much to all the points you‘ve mentioned in this video. It has been hard keeping jobs and getting along with supervisors. They‘ll eventually just notice something is „wrong“ with you. The sad thing is you often just get labelled as lazy or incapable even when you’re trying everything to fullfill the tasks accordingly.
O have ADHD. I don't see it as a disability. I'm almost at 1 year with the same job. It's all about perception and not seeing it as a bad thing, because ADHD can be a super power
I completely feel you on every point. You’re hilarious. I do zone out at work. When I was in nursing school I was so resilient by pushing through... now it’s quite a challenge and well, finding your channel has been an enlightenment to my ADD.
I'm so tired of having to apologise or awkwardly laugh off my mistakes because of my ADHD. Even if I told my colleagues I had ADHD I doubt they would understand what that means
Thank you for this. I see myself in much of this. I was diagnosed at age 60 (!) with ADHD, inattentive. Before then, I lost many jobs, and I never knew what I was doing wrong. Now I just feel sad that I could have done so much more with my life had I known much earlier.
I know this is nearly a year after you made your comment, but I can relate. I'm 68, was diagnosed with Inattentive Disorder 28 years ago, but not the ADHD part of it at that point. While I lost only one job in my 52 years of working, I did change jobs frequently, just always hating what I was doing. Working Customer Service at Walmart was one of the absolutely worst nightmares because---well, it's customer service, and my very short temper fuse was constantly being lit. I could go into a lot more, but one of the things I have to overcome with this is my tendency to talk too much, so I'll leave it there, other than to say that having been forced into retirement at the age of 64 was the best thing that could have happened....I no longer have to endure toxic people in work environments I didn't belong in in the first place.
Had you known certain things or not you would have still had adhd so try to concentrate on the things you still are able to do and have impact on. I knew as an infant that I had adhd for sure but still my adulthood has been full of impairment because the adhd usually manifests itself differently when you grow older.
I found out several months ago at age 44 and I’m on my second med now and while I’m slightly more productive my entire life isn’t magically less of a mess now that I am being treated for it. I’m not sure how to drastically change my life at this point. Pills don’t build skills and I just feel like I’m so far behind at this point I’ll never catch up.
3:12, that is me literally when I m not on my meds, lol. I could relate to so many things in this video, especially the shut down part, when things way over my head I just isolate myself from everybody. ..Great video man!
*I want to add that I've been fortunate enough to work from home during this quarantine and have been enjoying it quite a bit though it can be harder to stay focus as the accountability of physically being in the office helps. I just take my adderall and make it a priority to get in the "zone" and rhythm of doing my work because if not I can hyper-focus on completely unrelated tasks. There's no way in hell that I would ever disclose to my employer or even coworkers that I have ADHD, though I'm sure some of them know that something is wrong with my because I'm slower at most things- it could either help or hurt me but I think it's ultimately best not to say anything.
When I was a photographer and a manager I loved my job. I could control my environment and be creative. 11 years. Since they went out of business I have felt lost.
Finally found someone with my same issues! I don’t have some of the other symptoms of ADHD but I have all of these here and I’m getting overly frustrated with it
To be honest I always hoped that medication will solve the workplace problem but apparently they do not. In germany I did an apprenticeship and worked year afterwards before I started studying. I was doing lathing and milling work so I had to be very careful. I always had to check everything a gazillion times. I always hated work and also I always hated myself because I suck at it. Constantly doing stupid mistakes, forget where I put tools, accidentally skipping a working step which then forces me to start all over etc. etc. 10 years later I get diagnosed with ADHD (inattentive) and suddenly things make more sense, but it is also more depressing. I always thought I could solve my problem through sheer willpower but this also burned me out. Haven't tried meds yet (not as easy in germany to come by) but I am working on it.
Point 2 Following instructions you're 100% right we have difficulty with working memory and transfering it to long term memory so we might have listened to every instruction perfectly but when our brain tries to process it all and recall it into a list of tasks etc we more often than not have pieces missing.
I can’t thank you enough for this video. I’ve just graduated and started my dream job and I feel like I’m drowning. I am a wreck bc of all the rules and documentation I can’t keep straight. I did tell them in my interview that I have adhd but I think we need to train our supervisors what that means and help them understand why we struggle to get tasks done. We aren’t lazy-far from it. I get to work an hour before I have to and stay later than everyone else and I’m still bringing my laptop home and working through my weekends. I need to ask for help. Thank you again.
Yes! Everything you said but also the last thing you said. It validates how I react to entrepreneurs and ya, kinda feeling bad for even wanting a 9-5 job. so, thank you!
That is me I was diagnosed late in adulthood, my whole life I have been what you described never knowing what or if anything was wrong, I always felt different from others, and now in my 50’s still do. Thanks for these videos so good to hear and read about others just like me.😊
Duuuuuuuude...I am totally the last one to know what's going on around me, especially in the workplace. And I definitely find myself not knowing commonly known things in the workplace like policies and such. But I do find myself far above my peers in other ways, such as technical knowledge due to my hyperfocus. I really struggled with this one a lot and wondered why in the world I am like this. How did I miss this stuff? Now I know. Yet another "a-ha" moment in my ADHD revelation. 💡
This reminds me of all the times in school and jobs where I zoned out during the briefing and after that held on to the person who was merciful enough to give me guidance without judging me. My heart was always racing back in school because I was ashamed but it got better with time. I even managed to lead a team for a little while and was complimented on that. I feel like for my case it is pretty helpful to try even if that means being vulnerable, because if it so happens that I get complimented it pushes me immensely.
Best of luck in your new job! I've always found it helpful to try and not be too hard on myself when I get things wrong, or when I know I've misunderstood or made a mistake. These things happen and if I'm open and honest with my boss or a colleague about the mistake to help fix it, I tend to remember the solution even if the steps elude me. Mistakes are going to happen - don't be hard on yourself when they inevitably do.
Hit the nail on the head, describes what I go through exactly! From across the pond I know what you go through brother. I'm seeking a re-diagnosis to get help for it and counsel.
I always submitted to my parents while growing up. I then submitted to my ex-husband. I then submitted to my pastor for 26 years. Now! I am 53 years old. I left the church an tryig to think for myself. I am trying to finish my bachelors. I am almost done. But, dang! This ADHD is crazy. Thanking for the video. I am glad I am not alone as well.
After marrying my wife and being supported in emotional ways that I never had before, I found out I have a REAL dissociation issue. I would estimate I dissociated through 30-50% of my childhood. School and driving in the car w/ family especially. All times I was 'trapped' and unable to escape physically, so I escaped mentally. I was not diagnosed until about a year or two ago at 30. It made everything finally make sense. I still feel broken, but at least not MYSTERIOUSLY broken. I stopped dissociated as my mental health improved. I still HATED my job (Manager, for an introvert... not good) so I moved to a new dept in tech. My actual career goals. I was instantly reminded of everything this video calls out. I hadn't been challenged in the way I am now in a long time. Some of this, I don't feel is my fault, but it's hard to tell w/ ADHD. TLDR: We're behind schedule on the very first big project I'm on and was a key player. It's REALLY demoralizing. I felt I had 'fixed' my life after decades of emotional neglect as a kid and improving my emotional fluency as an adult in a relationship, and now it's these 'basics' of ADHD reality that are coming back to screw me. I find myself dissociating again. I'm wandering around the house unable to focus my eyes and having trouble even recognizing my wife's voice talking to me. (Also WFH even before pandemic and after, which is hard but also nice but also confusing due to that conflict...) I feel like my new boss is slowly becoming increasingly frustrated with me which makes me want to ask even fewer questions but, like you say, I find I am typically the "I WILL HAVE QUESTIONS" guy. I find that it seems like I need to understand things (procedures, operations) at a much higher fidelity to get started than others. Other ppl, I notice, can just learn their little task and get to work. If I try that, I find myself paralyzed. I do 2 out of 5 steps then stop, wondering how does those steps fit into the bigger picture? How can I make a decision on what the right priority or way to handle something is unless I fully understand every single thing that my own task integrates, relies on, and enables upon completion? To me, this is basic stuff. To others, the fact that they don't feel the need to explain all that proves it's "not mission critical" or whatever. So then my questions feel silly and irrelevant, even if they seem critical to me to continue. It's a very challenging dynamic. Wish me luck I guess, lol. I'm already on meds and having this issue. If I'm lucky I'll squeek through this initial challenge and hopefully gain some knowledge about my position on my own over time. Even when I DO ask questions, as usual in life, I find my boss answers them very shallowly. They might help unstick me for THIS particular issue, but do nothing to help me avoid the pitfall in the future. Damn, life is so hard. -__-
Hang in there please. I really like how articulate and perceptive you are. I am 'cloudy' about a lot of things and admire that you are able to express your observations and describe in a way I totally can get.
I am mid 30s and just kinda putting 2 and 2 together on more than likely having ADHD, especially after having my daughter diagnosed with having it. You my friend, are literally the first person I have ever heard/seen that has perfectly explained 100% the struggles, experiences, and feelings I have had. This is so super eye opening as I've always felt like I've never been able or had anyone able to relate to. I just wanted to say thank you for sharing your experiences and making these videos and I look forward to diving in to your other content on your channel 👍
You literally are the light that I needed to perform - Ive always seen myself as Incompetent even though I tend to work, lead and deliver on the work due to the difficulties to focus but this hits right Home - thank you for sharing - God bless you brother )
I love your content and find your videos to be very helpful. I was recently diagnosed with ADHD in my thirties after seeking testing due to a lifetime of attention and learning issues. I was also born 2.5 months early and while the adderall hasn't been as much of a life-changer as I was hoping that it would be the diagnosis gave me a some peace of mine and your experiences and coping strategies have been helpful.
Really great insight and very relatable. Best we can do is be self-aware and practice. May we all find something we really like to do, ways to make it work, and if working with others, may they see and appreciate the value we bring.
Currently on a performance improvement plan because of serious time blindness. If my metrics aren't right in a month, I will need to send out more resumes. Feels bad.
My biggest problem in my work life is that I get bored with all my jobs in almost no time. As soon as I get a job, I lose interest in it, start looking for a new one right away, and want to quit. I'm constantly looking for something better, even if I don't know what that 'better' is. Staying engaged and motivated is really hard, especially when working 100% remotely and the days don't really have any structure. I have constant brain fog that makes it hard to learn and concentrate. I have ADD. This really sucks. I hope the medication will soon get will help clear up this mess in my brain.
I think it was on How to ADHD they mentioned that in case you're not comfortable with disclosing your ADHD, you can simply tell them what you need (for example, a desk not facing the window, clear deadlines etc., you can excuse yourself for being blunt and ask them to tell you, stuff like that). Even if they're super understanding, the first thing an employer/supervisor will likely ask is "ok, what does it mean for you?" Because my ADHD isn't the same as yours. I don't think I disclosed my ADHD in my current workplace and I don't think I have to (right now). Everything is going pretty smoothly so far so that's nice (even though I've only been in for a few weeks). A nice part is that it's a new job in this workplace so I can fill in much of my work myself still. Good luck and may your beard soon return!
