ADHDadultUK Podcast Episode 3: RSD 

Wow this has blown my mind. I can relate to this so much. I never realised that this was a thing. I’m 35 and just starting the process of getting a formal diagnosis for ADHD. The constant going over of conversation in my head about things that haven’t even happened or are unlikely to happen is almost a daily occurrence and I’m so exhausted by it all. This video has given me a lot to think about and try and work on. I’ll be watching more. Thank you

YES This, as it’s a thing that affects you daily it should have been on the diagnosis criteria long ago! Love your humour it helps a lot!

Thank you both + James lovely wife for this channel. Awaiting My Assessment (3.5 yrs waiting now as NHS) . I Stopped alcohol Thanks to IAS group ( app) & support is great. Ur alcohol one was great too. Fears of rejection & impulsivity are aweful. Breathing techniques help me. I've had EMDR for trauma . Really recommend it. I was diagnosed with Dyspraxia & she said to get tested as did my Dr. Diagnosed neurodiverse at 53!! Got thru nursing with LISTS 😂😂😂

I’m a nurse. There’s absolutely nothing my employer can accommodate. My job is entirely noise, interruptions, multitasking.

I disengage AND people please (and get anxiety until I get a positive response for my every action). So I keep my acquaintance group as small as possible because every additional person stretches me thinner. If you asked me before I watched this if I had RSD, I'd've denied it. I was absolutely not ready to be called out so hard.

Oh wow, so glad I watched this episode today! I had a meltdown *and* a panic attack because I’m having my adhd assessment next week and I’ve been essentially doing what Sam does, going over conversations in my head, because I’m worried the psychiatrist will say there’s nothing wrong with me. I’ll try to compartmentalise tomorrow. It’s frankly a bit bloody ridiculous because I know they triaged me and I was put on the cancellation waiting list, so was offered an appointment 4months after referral 🤷🏻‍♀️ thank you thank you thank you.

Endearment are insults from friends

This episode changed my life

Thank you so much for doing these videos and podcasts. This one in particular just resonated and if it is any consolation I think the whole 'sausage fingers' thing would have collapsed my world too.

Just found this group/organisation and appreciate what you guys are doing. I believe there is RSD in my marriage. Only problem is I found out about it maybe 12 years too late. I'm the non ADHD partner. Now I know a whole lot more about ADHD I see the symptoms everywhere. Love my wife to bits but she doesn't want to seek a diagnosis and resents me suggesting it....even though she agrees she may have it! On the brink of splitting up now.

You guys - I discovered your amazing podcast through the ADHD AF episode, and I am so so happy that I found you. The episode with Sam regarding ADHD and (peri)menopause really blew my mind. As I am from Germany, the whole diagnostic process is of course different from the UK, but still kinda complicated and time consuming, especially in rural areas like the one I live in. Nonetheless, I'm planning on getting an official diagnosis for my suspected ADHD as well as perimenopausal symptoms. And that's because of people like you and your podcasts. So thank you so much for all the information and the encouragement. And thanks for explaining things in a way that my squirrel confetti brain can process. Greetings from Germany!

Bang on, love you guys lol

finding you guys has helped me so much. Thank you

you are amazing people reading my mind like an open book.🤣🤣

Rsd never herd of but fuck that’s a big thing. Thanks for bringing it up

Really great analogy rsd=emotional sunburn 👍

I anticipated rejection so much and felt the rejection that had not occurred I manifested it.

8:55 - I have ADHD but not RSD. I'm completely apathetic to whether or not someone accepts me. 10:23 - I love constructive criticism. Ill get more offended if I feel someone is lying to me by telling me what I want to hear.

I’ve just discovered this podcast is available on RU-vid! 😲 There’s one major problem though… I can’t listen at 0.8 speed as on Spotify, so I basically can’t take in what you’re saying 🙈 😆

13:00 I would not laugh to someone telling he has ADHD - in order not to hurt him (his feelings) or mock someone's experience and struggles in life. The reason for not laughing is not because I did not find the joke funny. However if we were in person I would watch your facial expression and the tone of voice how the joke was spoken - and I would empathize with the reaction you have to match my reaction. If I see you laughing, I would laugh also (not hysterically). I would not be stone cold if you yourself are not angry or showing signs of hurt or pain when telling it.

How is RSD different from BPD- attachment issues, fear of abandonment and rejection? Asking as a person who was diagnosed with Bpd then, changed to ADHD + PTSD …

Guys could you please put time stamps into the videos? My mind wonders away 200x coz the videos are so long

ADADHD is actually hilarious.

I don’t know if this is just me but I have an iPad phones my longest phone in the last 20 years has not lasted three months I can’t do apps pen and paper just can’t find the pen lol but not

Great stuff! Lots of questions, but one stands out - if my main issue with the podcast is that James' colour balance is too yellow and Alex is a bit overexposed/too contrasty, and also your heads aren't equal sizes, is it ADHD or do I need to dig deeper? :/

"iiiggghhttt" pmsl xx

Are there any links on RSD and Anxious attachment style?