“Mean girls aren’t actually mean, they’re just insecure.” No they are still mean. They still make other people feel bad about themselves. But most are insecure and that’s why they do it.
I like to call it, weaponized insecurities. Just because you're dealing with shit in your own life doesn't give you the right to harass or abuse other folks, nor does it excuse it.
@@IgnisPhantasma Yeah I agree. If you think of it on a more extreme scale, you can’t just murder someone and say “Idid it because I have depression” it’s an excuse but it isn’t an acceptable one.
I actually have a tip: if someone’s being an ass just start complimenting them and being super nice. It will embarrass the hell out of them and make them feel bad
Whenever weird “popular” people come up to me i just engage in conversation with them (but not like youd talk to a friend or anything, like a relative that saw you when you were this big lmao) and they get weirded out and leave. Basically all i have to do to scare them off is be myself :,)
omg yeah theres like a huge group of those girls in my grade and literally they all hate each other. Theres always some drama going on between them, its like one big group but theres like 2 or 3 smaller groups in the big group.
Yes!! YK being a part of a big grp of frnds is not real like it's just not possible for each one of them to like everyone from that grp and that dislike, leads to back bitching which is not good, so from the start it's good to have one real person, one true frnd by your side instead of a bunch of fakes!! Being part of a big grp of frnds doesn't mean they're always happy wd eachother and have fun, NO they don't!! It's just show offf!!
I’m a part of this group and yes it’s true there’s so much drama ad everyone hates each other and it just overall sucks. I wish I could get out of this friend group, but I don’t have any other friends so I’m kinda stuck and it’s better to have bad friends than no friends, at least for me.
That statement was so brutally accurate, im in one of those big groups, and inside it someone hates eachother, and its split into smaller groups within the big group cause of how much they argue
The big group thing is so real.. I just wished I found that out earlier bfr joining it. Regret it so much now everyone literally talks shit about each other and it was rlly toxic. That group made me rlly insecure abt my appearance, family background and weight. I do NOT recommend joining such groups lol
name. surname. She’s saying that playing dumb is dumb , but that’s actually what the people playing dumb want, they want to look dumb so it’s a win for them
real talk man idk if youre in hs or not but this shit goes the best with this comment and i want people to see this advice: dont wait until the end of hs to get your gpa up. i fucked around for the first two years and had a 2.3 gpa i ended up needing an average of 3.7 over the next two years just to get a 3.0 for merit scholarships and if i didnt grind my ass off those last two years i probably wouldnt have gone college.
As someone who is an ex member of that big group, yes, they all hate each other. Everyone talked bad about each other-even to their faces. I was bullied by the mean girl which forced me to leave but it was a blessing in disguise because although it was fun it was so toxic. My advice…keep to a friend group of 4 or 5. Not 20
I love how you mentioned how Not peaking thru high school is a good sign bc it really is! I constantly had to remind myself that all thru out hs and it got me thru it more than anything
Yeah I was best friends with all the girls in the popular group throughout elementary school but I still had a friend group of three that I would hang out with when they were busy. Once we got to middle school, they dropped me and acted like it was nothing. I see most of them on a daily basis and they just act like they don’t see me.
Yup i was like pretty young and I was friends with the "popular kids" and they obviously hated me they weren't good at hiding it. When we were all together they would literally go to another room and wouldn't let me go in the room i was like 8 like wtf now I'm not friends with them anymore
Here’s a tip from me: Bullies aren’t always insecure about themselves. Some like the attention, to be in the spotlights, others are just dicks. Try not to give them satisfaction (how depends on the situation). Also you can be picked on for no freaking reason at all. So don’t blame yourself (I know it’s hard. I still struggle with it myself). I once got to ask two of my past bullies why they did it. They couldn’t even come up with a reason at first. Eventually they said random stuff like “because you have a Belgium accent”. I’m Dutch and I don’t have an accent as far as I know. Even so it would’ve been a stupid reason.
Yeah, i have a heavy irish accent and ginger hair, AND am a big fan of camogie, so obviously at my school im always made fun of for it, like, people. Like they are literally irish aswell???
I was at one point bullied for being tall. I was a “gentle giant” but one day, I wasn’t in the best mood and I set them straight and I let them have it. Not only weren’t expecting it, they left me alone for good. If it’s attention they want, give it to them. They say that violence doesn’t solve anything but I found that as long as you’re not the one who looks for trouble and you defend yourself from people like that, more people would respect you even some of the teachers. Just fight back (just don’t resort to using weapons) if that’s the only way they’ll leave you alone. The worst they can do to you is suspend you for a few days (depending upon how strict your school is) especially if you’re not the type of person who gets in trouble often.Then again, things were different in the late 90s to mid 2000s when I was in elementary school and High School.
my whole life i have been a bully and i have been bullied , and coming from experience most bully dont feel insecure about themselves , but they want people to look at them higher then they look at the other , yea bullies play kings which is fucked up and i am not proud of it
I have been a class clown for a huge portion of my life. I realize that there is a difference between people loving you for your humor and people loving you as a friend. 😂
but how do u know that big group actually hate each other tho?? 😭😭 they just seem like a solid and GORGEOUS circle of friends, and honestly having to see them hangout and just laugh together makes me feel lonelier and lonelier each day. That's life ig 😢
I have always been in that group and we don’t hate each other . I’m probably the least popular in the group and so people Always tell me what they think of other people . Besides these 2 girls that HATE each other it’s pretty good (we’re a group of 12)
it‘s because they get really mad at each other for things that aren‘t that worth getting mad over because they‘re teenagers and instead of working it out, they just go hang out with someone else in the friend group. i was part of a bigger friend group in my final three years of school and the main reason we all hung out was to party. i was the most introverted person in the group and i didn‘t want beef and i never got into any but there were two instances of two people dating the ex of someone else shortly after breaking up and then there was just so much nonsense beef. i didn‘t really like half of the people but i was greatful to have people to hang out with but i also had my own, actually close friends who had nothing to do with that group and i felt way more comfortable there because we were all queer and the big friend group was theee other queer people and then 9 straight people
The big circle of "popular" kids *honestly do* hate each other. I'm pretty quiet which means I overhear a sh*ton of things that I'm not supposed to in class, such as all the "popular" girls insulting each other based on their tans, hair, mascara, bags, wealth, relationship history etc... It's crazy. Edit: This is based off of my experiences, I'm not talking for or about everyone :)
I was in what people call the “popular kids” circle with all the athletes and attractive girls. I didn’t play sports and I was decent looking, but I had no idea ended up there. In my experience most of the drama was between the girls. Us guys just stood by and watched hell break loose. Another thing I noticed is most girl are actually terrible at insulting each other lmao.
Same here! My class gets a long pretty well but there’s still those girls that aren’t really more popular than others in our class but are more active on social media. I heard one of them talk bad stuff about her new boyfriend to the group which in my opinion is messed up. But it’s her relationship, not mine
I’m in that “popular kid” friend group- we don’t *all* hate eachother, but there’s kids that we hate like- want to f*cking leave us alone- Theres so much drama in the group and it sounds fun and cool but I wish that I could go back in time and stay with my small friend group instead- I just have to stay in the big one because I’ll be completely forgotten about if it leave my friend group.
In my class there’s a small group of ‘popular kids’ but as someone who’s friends with most of them , it’s definitely true. Most of them dislike at least one person in the group.
As someone who was never one to say much while in school, it’s important that you try to keep it that way. You learn soooo much just by shutting up, not talking too much about yourself or others and listening while also not belonging to any one “group” in particular. I for example, was somewhat of a “nerd” that did pretty well in Science, English and Math, but was also part of the Baseball team for my Freshman and Sophomore years. While also cool with the class clowns/bad kids.
True, and when your quiet you find out that most of the popular people are fake, like I’ll be in one class were two people are acting like best friends and in another they will be like I hate her she is so annoying blah blah blah, it’s really entertaining actually because for some reason the talk so loud so you know all there business without even wanting to
this literally described me people think I don't speak alot and think I'm not capable of doing much so now I'm workin on my grades and basketball also very close to getting my dream body and no one in school knows lol people do be underestimating "quite" kids
I was part of that big friend group for years and I finally got brave enough to leave. From someone who was part of it I will tell you what Spencer is saying is the truth 💯%
"that big, popular group, they hate each other" true. I guess this happened everywhere 🤣🤣 bcs i'm from Indonesia and that also happened to the popular group in my school, even seniors too. They might looks close now but then the next day, they would talk behind each other back, spreading rumours and gossip, treat each other like they never exist, and the worst ofc fighting 😏😏 good thing i'm introverted soo i never involved in their drama 😂😂 its so funny for me bcs usually they end their friendship for petty things, i mean ofc friends could get into argument and fight each other, but good friend would resolve things together and forgive each other (unless its big things like crimes ofc dont)
I totally agree with the take pics of everything. im in HS and still look back and cry over photos of past memories years ago. TAKING PICS even if you dont look your best its oh-k. (hint hint you dont have to post everything on social media)
"Raise your hand in class" honestly yeah. Once someone told me I was the a teachers pet cus I answered a lot of questions, but I just told them, "at least I'm smart enough to answer the question". Left them real quiet
It’s not even about being smart. It’s about trying. The ppl who try really hard in school are going to go far in life. It’s a good habit to develop during HS.
"That one group you want to be a part of, they all hate each other" SO TRUE there's this group of kids in my grade and they always hang out together but you always hear them talking shit behind each other's back
That's what I've always said lol. The kids who were the "attractive ones in high school" are now the "unattractive ones". And the kids who were "unattractive" are now the "attractive ones"
No that's not how it works lmao yeah a lot of people have glow ups after high school but that doesn't mean that the attractive ones get uglier it's mostly genes babe
Also as someone who was from a big “fun” group of friends, we had small groups inside it and never spoke to anyone outside of the mini-group, when the big group did talk we started drama and could never hang out cause there were too many of us Edit: Also the big group ended up splitting into smaller ones “officially” and haven’t talked to anyone from the previous group since
As someone who was a part of big group, we just made memories and it's been 10 years and we still love each other ... Remember nothing applies to everyone, keep in mind that there are always exceptions to everything...
Tbh if you were from a big popular high school group and you cool guys are all hanging out making “memories” still, 1. You were never the popular group, 2. You and your group didn’t go very far in life, 3. Your “love each other” comment is very optimistic and you have not spoken to said friend group in YEARS and truly have no idea what any of them are up to but implying your still as close as the good ol days.
@@user-rb4lw4ef5hwell we were not popular,lol when I go my school these years as well every teacher recognise us and whenever we meet anyone from our school they gets happy and and introduce us to the ones they are with , and I am very much in contact with my all friends till now , we just celebrated our friend's birthday 3 days ago and where we are not successful, darling I and my 3 friends are chemistry professors, 3 of them are working as entrepreneur or the partners, 2 are government employees and the others are also doing well,so don't comment as if you know us, I just commented as to tell everyone that there are exceptions and if you chose better you will get relationships of life...and making memories doesn't mean you are wasting time you can enjoy and work hard simultaneously, we helped each other in each other's weak points and we got passed it that's friendship, just enjoying and just studying together are not good companies I guess , even to this day if someone needs help they know we are there to help ... materialistic or emotional I think I have said enough, maybe I was lucky or not many are lucky in this case...
@@blackcat33509 The person commented popular friend group (since that was what the video was talking about) and I’d still say the person was right. Those big POPULAR friend groups don’t really amount to anything and one’s always talking about another
@@blackcat33509 yeah hes talking about the popular friend group lmao. congrats on your disney fairy tale life but hes talking about something else entirely and you made it sound like you were on the same page, so dont slam others for your miscommunication
Take photos of everything and then spend 5 hours everyday for 3 weeks just looking at them when the nostalgia hits you. Let your eyes capture everything and let your mind keep them secure.
"That big popular group that you're dying to be a part of" "They all hate EACHOTHER" As someone from *that* group, yeah, it's so true bruh. Our friendship dynamic is messed up and I have 2 other friend group who I'm much closer with. We only eat lunch together and talk about boys, yeah, that's it.
in in that big friend group and we're rlly not fake to the people who are actually in the friend group 😭 but I do know a friend group like that in a grade above me and I'm pretty sure they all pretty much hate each other and the funny thing is they told us that they think everyone in our friend group hates each other like no they just don't like the rest of my friends except me and another friend 😃
I wouldn't really consider myself to be in that "big popular group" but I'm in a friend group that's somewhat big, I don't really know a few of them since they came from my other friend, but the friends I'm close with are really genuine and kind, it's only been 2 months of school so things will change, but yeah everyone seems chill
"The best revenge is being a good person" True that. I had a childhood friend with whom I was (still am) in love with. We were friends for almost a decade before he broke our friendship over a rumour started by my classmate cause she hated me for being liked by the one boy in our class whom every girl had crush on (I didn't have one on him and hence he felt comfy talking to me so). I was heart broken when my childhood friend broke our friendship over such a petty topic and wanted to ruin him. But then I did the opposite: showed him that he's not the only friend I have, getting top grades (cause he used to think I was an idiot), be confident and talkative, and most importantly, be happy. I never once dissed him on that and never harmed him anyway. Fast forward to 2019 in our reunion, and he was dying to talk to me but guess what? I didn't. Love is important, but so is self-love
My tip for a lot public highschools, is try your hardest to not stress out. It’s not worth it. The highschools I’m around don’t care if you are dumber than a brick, they just want you to get out of their school/graduate.
As someone who is about to graduate high school: It's never that complicated nor dramatic. You get in, learn a bit, make friends with everyone willing to talk to you (or some people who you think are nice if you're more of an introvert), get out. Go to college. Keep a bit of contact. Doesn't have to be much, just a few messages here and there. Life isn't a movie. You're not gonna get picked on by the entire cheerleading team (they have better things to do than be jerks, like lots of competitions and training and stuff). The geeks aren't automatically gonna like you. The nerds don't walk around in thick glasses holding even thicker books. You're not the main character in high school. This is coming from someone who's a bit of an attention seeker. The world does not revolve around you.
True high school is definitely not like a movie but I want to add one thing, that problems and drama that go down in school might seem so big at the time, but once you leave high school most of that stuff doesn’t matter, people go there different paths and get jobs there not going to be wrapped up in whatever drama or stuff happened in the past. So don’t stress over stuff to much
Gurl I am a teen and you are so beautiful and are my role model one day I can be just like you. Even though I’m younger then you, you are so brave and beautiful, pretty, and help so many girls around my age so THANK YOU 😊❤😊❤😊❤
As a college senior, I am much different than I was as a high school student. Soo many new experiences and events have built me to be this person. It's all about the experience and the knowledge you gain from it. The world outside high school is SOOOO SOOO different, and the experiences that you'll have outside are much different than you expect. So using the time wisely to figure out what you want and what you'll do with your life is always a good idea. Experience everything is what I would say
This is so true. I finished high school two years ago and I'm now in university. And i can attest to this. Everything that happened in high school doesnt matter now . The world is indeed much bigger than high school. The only thing that matters now is what you had intended to do after high school. ❤
As someone who did peak in hs, this is unfortunately so true. Turns out all my friends were fake and i feel lost nowadays when i think of it. Everyone was being so nice to me and well, they were being so fake. Found out after hs ended that all of them were just pretending to be nice to me. This has given me soo many trust issues and social anxiety. Tbh it is better to have one or two good friends rather than having a whole group which is well yk hating each other in it.
@@thegorgeousgamer9830 it means being your best version in hs like basically think of it like a downwards facing parabola graph. You are at the top at a point, and then it's downhill from there.
The first thing I noticed was how amazing and perfect your hair looks right now I’m actually in love with it!!! How do you get it so amazing!? But honestly you help me so much with so many things. Your advice is amazing
@@carmenuchennaokoye8593 oh I I completely forgot that in the USA the school system is completely different from my country 😅 And yes geometry is math but you have at least 2 types of geometry: Descriptive Geometry and Analytic Geometry. In school when you study math, you have analitic Geometry (for example: ellipse, hyperbole, apex... Basically stuff with circles, another polygons and graphics). In Descriptive Geometry is more for the people that want to pursue Engineering and Architecture. You learn about planes, three dimensionality, projections, dihedrals... It's one of those subjects when you need to pay attention to everything and do a lot of exercises. It's more practical but you also have a lot of theory. Sorry if my English is incorrect, it's not my mother language. And I hope you understood something 😂
I like the lest one. Being "nice" when someone pisses you off, is a great way to irritate them. Usually people want you to get upset if they intend to annoy you.
There is always that person/ group of popular kids in school who aren’t particularly smart and their whole world is in school bc of their reputation for being ‘cool’…. When you grow up, and eventually graduate, and BECAUSE you put ur hand up in class, BECAUSE you decided to put effort in,BECAUSE you were just an amazing person, you did so incredibly well…. Whereas as soon as they graduate and leave school, they won’t have that group of people that always admires them. Life changes, it won’t always be bad. Remember that xxx
i belong to a group of 8, and we totally love each other:( we love and support everyone of us:(( sometimes there’s problems but we usually talk about it and solve it edit: our group became less close as time went by lol, i mean we still love each other but we don’t talk as much. Anyway big groups can work 🫶🏻
Mine is a circle of elementary friends:>> (around 15 people) we are all still close!! Some are from 9 years ago, 7 years ago, and 5 years ago but OMG they left the school, our sections are all different, the programs and curriculums are different and we still all connect. 💐💜 that's why im always thankful for them, and YOU TOO!!! Be thankful to them.
"they hate each other" thissssssss isss soooo trueee damnn I've been a part of this group at school but after knowing it more I just felt like I don't belong there.. and the fact that they're all toxic to each other more than to others was "nah" thing to me lmaoo
The one about how being nice is the best revenge is true, one of my old teachers always told us “Be kind to unkind people, they’re usually the ones who need it most” so that’s what I did to someone who made fun of me I was extremely sweet and nice. She stopped pretty soon.
For the special Ed kids, you are just as worth of love and kindness as the other kids. Do not let anyone bully you or treat you any less. Try to learn as many life skills as you can and know you have unique gifts and qualities as any other kid and furthermore you are not dumb!!! You are smart in so many ways than you think!
Thank you for the last advice! My group of friends are actually having a hard time dealing with a big circle of friends in school who bully the people they dislike emotionally thinking they're being cool because of it. Like, I get it, their circle of friends are all smart and popular but why downgrade other people and be proud of it? It's like they are smart but dumb at the same time. I'm so proud for my past self because I ignored them all alongside with my friends till now.
Our school was considered the ghetto school. When me and my boys got there we decided to expand our group. By our junior year our group of 5 turned into like 30. Our whole thing was just being cool with everyone and we succeeded. We turned that ghetto school into a united community for the most part.
„Best revenge is being a good person” 100% true! My classmate had a birthday party, everyone was invited except me. So i bought a gift and gave it to her during the party. She immediately said :”O you can stay at the party come in” but I just walked away. The next day she was really sweet to me and did everything i wanted. She still is trying to be super nice to me to this day.
I feel her, as soon as she went to bed that night those moments and memories spiked her in the guts and she died tragically of cringe from what she did. 😭😭😭I relate 1000%
@@Name-tn1zg no, I was just a bit like her (not to that extent, just similar. I wasn’t even aware of it too. I was pretty young) but I regret every bit of it
As someone who has been part of big friend groups since the beginning, yeah she said right about that. They all hate each other, I've always been that friend whom everyone rants and bitches to about others because they trust me and I am not kidding when I say that legit everyone hates each other and the amout of toxicity gets insane at times. I left it now, and I'm doing way better with my other friends, just remember to be a good person. I'm still in high school, so thanks for the advices ! :)
I went to a new school in September, I got into the big group, the toxicity level was abusive they literally all hate each other and bullied each other, I ended up just hating the fact I left genuine friends for this new school with these idiots. I ended up leaving the friend group and now I’m kinda lost.. basically I wouldn’t say I don’t have friends, I’m just looking for a way to have a peaceful non toxic day and if that means I am forced to not have friends then sure
@@Inevitably_Gaming Yess, you have to be like that, just stay away from toxicity. Feeling lost is understandable, I've been through that phase myself after leaving that grp, even tho they were toxic and I have many other friends they were my main friends I isolated myself for some time but trust me there are lots of good, genuine and non-toxic people out there, maybe they're not famous but personality matters more than popularity or anything. You won't have to stay alone, look out for the right people !
My high school years were so much fun! I got to explore pretty much everything. I started to know how it felt to get along with problematic students - they brought drugs, cigarettes and alcohol to school. I also knew how it felt to be around rich, popular, smart, sporty and religious students. I'm a very introverted person, so i didn't really belong to any groups. But man, the popular, the smart and the athletic groups are the most toxic. They felt like everyone was beneath them, and they always felt the need to brag about all their "expensive" stuff. The popular students were usually parasites that took advantage of their rich friends. Surprisingly, the most solid, caring, attentive, accepting and understanding people were the problematic kids. They didn't even let me do what they did. They listened to my stories when nobody did. They took me to a lot of cool and amazing places that i'd never been to. Years later, they still remember me and consider me as their "bro".
For someone who was from a BIG group of friend, I loved each and everyone of my friends. We have kept in touch till today so I believe that young or not, if you met the right people... it fits.
Another one: nice girls are nice to you to boost their ego, they couldn’t give a shit about you or how your day has been lmao, also NEVER DATE OTHER YEARS! Maybe a year difference is ok but never go more than that, its not cool and theyre probably using you
I wouldn't say I peaked in high school, but I've always been subject to getting bored so I joined 8 clubs, went on every field trip, signed up for every volunteering program and was the universal best friend that seemed to never be home. High school was an amazing experience for me. 🤷♀️ Wouldn't go back though as I've joined the military with a side hustle of working at a club and started up a business in photography. Traveled to Prauge last year. It's been fun.
@@bearybeom Thank you! It can be over taxing as I tend to bite off more than I can chew at times and motivation can sometimes struggle, but I'm at my best when I'm engaging in many things
As a girl who peaked in high school i assure you this is true. Every single person wanted to be a part of our friend group. Everyone respected us alot even if disrespected them & wanted our attention so bad. But we all literally hated each other. We didn't used to show it but yep did hated each other.
“That big group that has all the beef” most of us hate each other 😂 we get passed it often but are still salty. Then there is sometimes that one person isn’t even group that you’ll never get salty with so it’s not all bad 💜
I'm in that friend group and tbh we are mean to alot of people and get in "aurguements" but in reality we are just trying to annoy each other and we rlly all love each other and we can be fake to the people who try or think they are in our friend group. and yeah there is the two people who don't necessarily get along the greatest but their fine 😭😭
This is actually really good advice and I am sending this to my son who is also in High School. I would also like to add that most of the people that you thought were friends in high school, you most likely won't see or speak to most of them ever again.
This is so true. From graduating high school to your 10 year reunion will show you who stayed in your life and who isn't in your life. Those 10 years prove to show you who your real friends are
Totally agree .. i was in the big group.. we were friends from day 1 .. but they all were just bully to other people... Bullying was their entertainment... So i left them for my own good.. and i don't regret that decision 🙂
and if you’re smart, don’t ever bring yourself down to their level! especially if you just want to fit in, being smart is amazing and you should be proud
I was talking to a guy in the big friend group for a little bit, like footballer player and popular guy. His friend group became so unstable and now, people are coming and going so quickly. I have another friend who got out of the friend group before it started to fall apart and she said everyone hated each other and made fun of each other secretly. The big friend group is not worth it stick to your small groups
i’m not really trying to get revenge, honestly. its more of trying to be happier after my ex-friends talked behind my back :) just try to avoid toxic people, and be kind to everyone because you never know how they feel! being mean to people doesn’t make you confident!
@@lila3498 sorry you were met with an ignorant response, im glad to see you're healing, I've gone through this along with my toxic ex lol, you seem cool so don't let anyone rain on you!!
“the best revenge is being a good person” YESSS, LOURDER!! at the end of the day, most of those classmates won’t stay in your life, you gotta find ease in yourself!
Facts: some group of friends just faked their bond because they want to be in something that will make them feel like they belong,but honestly some usually just use each other for personal advantages
Its true haha , bring back memories. I was in a big circle like really big inside highschool and also outside. There was lots of infighting but I wouldn’t say hate even if it were it was temporary. At the end of the day we were brothers
Second to last one is among the best advice. My principal gave a speech at the beginning of the year saying “being kind to those you like makes you just a person, it’s being kind to those you dislike that makes you a good person”
