If his father wanted his new wive's to get any of his possessions he would have put it in his will. If Op's dad left him a nice inheritance it is his,period! He don't need to sign anything to that greedy witch.
Step brother would be smart to go no contact with his mother. I hope the stepbrothers continue to see each other and develop their own relationship as the older one did care enough to warn the younger not to agree with the mother and try to find the grandparents. Older one not a bed person and probably had it hard with the mom also. Since his father kept wanting him to return to school, he might consider that the mother didn’t tell him about how serious dad was at dads request. I doubt it, but maybe.
I’m sorry his father passed away and thanks for his stepbrother warning him about his stepbrother and telling him to find’ his grand parents and I agree for his step brother to go no contact with his mother!
Tyler was the MVP of this post!! He did the right thing when he owed OP nothing. I’m glad they have each other. And hopefully Tyler goes NC with just no mom.
Tyler and OP’s grandparents are heroes! OP should definitely spend more time with Tyler, since they have a real shot at a good relationship as brothers. How well can Tyler go no contact with his mother if they live in the same town? What if she needs someone to help her continue with her recovery after she gets out of rehab? Without support, she is likely to fail. However, if she took Tyler’s inheritance, there would need to be some strict guidelines for their relationship.
Step-brother should definitely go no contact with his mother! Kudos to Tyler for stepping in to help OP and thank goodness OP found his loving grandparents ❤
Maybe Tyler n Rowan should get a place together or maybe even see if Rowan's grandparents would let him stay with them until he gets a job n money saved up. Just an idea.
Op should advise his step brown to go no contact with his mom. OP owes a debt of gratuitous to his step brother that can never be repaid. They should continue to look out for each other, they share the affection for their lost father, it's something they can build they're relationship on. Imo, that would be best for them both. Two good young men, helping each other through a very confusing, and hard time in they're lives. And who knows, perhaps Op's grandparents will grow to love them both. I wish them the best, send heartfelt condolences on there loss.
It's horrific that she kept OP in the dark about his father's illness. People like that aren't helping, they're trying to maintain control. My husband's family did the same thing to him - even though he was a grown man! Didn't tell him how sick his mother was until the night she was in a nursing home dying. He didn't even know they had taken her to a nursing home the day before. They simply called him in the middle of the night and told him they couldn't wake her up. The home was in another town 20 min. away and so I didn't go with him. WE HAD NO IDEA THEY KNEW SHE WAS ABOUT TO DIE! He was so mad at them for hiding her condition. I'm still mad that I wasn't there with him, for him. We thought it was just something going on with her medication or something. They claimed they didn't want him to hurt knowing his mom was dying. So hitting him with her sudden death was BETTER??? Those evil control freaks did a lot of plotting behind his back. After his father died we found out the house had been transferred into his sister and niece's names. We didn't care because his sister lived there and we didn't want her thrown from her home. But they cheated him out of ANY inheritance. By that I mean, they were poor and it was a small house, but his sister REFUSED to give him ANY photos because she "needed to find them" and you can bet she never bothered. His dad's wallet, knife - anything personal of his dad's went to his nephew. He never got any trinkets or personal items of his parents. They wanted to control everything and they did.
In regards to the stepbrother, he should cut his mom out of his life- she's too toxic, untrustworthy and is the kind of person who will more than likely always slip right back into bad habits.
The step-brother is a good guy. My advice to the OP would be to support Tyler regardless of the decision he makes. No-contact is a tough choice being that this is his mother. But knowing the OP has his back no matter what, could mean the world to Tyler.
Tyler should go no contract. He understood who she is, and was a good enough person to give OP a head's up about her dastardly plan. OP should be a good enough guy to return the favor and support Tyler in his n/c decisión. And maybe you two can become pals.
Op should help his stepbrother as much as he can. Not only blood makes family, and Tyler has demonstrated that he is deserving of being called brother. Hopefully he will cut ties with his mother and find his true family in his brother. Who knows, maybe there’s room in op’s grandparents hearts to accept Tyler as family too, I wouldn’t be surprised.
I was hoping that the grandparents would have gotten OP half of everything that was his father's, including the house. So OP could have forced the stepmom (who probably poisoned OP's dad into having those health issues that killed him) out on the streets where she belongs. Sell the house and repay the good stepbrother by helping pay some of his college loans. Then the only loser would be the corrupt stepmom.
I’m tired of bullies getting away with stuff because of rich parents or parents in general sometimes people have a breaking point they both should’ve been in trouble not just one of them.
When I was in grade 6, maybe 5 or 7, I went to a Private boarding school. This school was at a level that real life royalty attended at some point. One day after the mid day or evening meal, I was given a letter from my mother. In it was the usual comments and such, but there was also a one line statement which was very similar to this - "your grandfather died". No more explanation with it. Although we were not close, I had good memories with him. My bio mother, his daughter, was cold. I wrote home about being bullied, and on her next visit, she ignores what I said and gets into correcting my spelling and grammar. It was that day that I lost my respect and love for her. BTW, the education was great, but the environment of other students and more sucked. I had so much going for me when young, but the bullying got to me and totally destroyed my confidence, plus I developed depression. Parents, if your child says they are being bullied, stand up for them. Do not downplay it. Suck it up buttercup does not work. At 71 yo, I am single with few friends. Mostly alone even though I desire to have people around me, I remain alone. Thank you PB, RC, KC, and the others that couldn't stand up to you. I have existed and wasted my life due to the effect you had on me. I hope you guys are proud of yourselves.
Never a need to co-mingal money with family without a clear legal path to exit. My BIL has towards me but, I will destroy myself to be fair and he seems to know that. I have made sure that his interest is back in his name, to the value of about $2m. Having done this actually put him in a worse tax position but, that was his choice.
I would tell the stepbrother to go no contact too. They obviously didn’t have much of a relationship even though she was his mother. Let him know how much you appreciate what he did for you and he is completely unlike her. He saved him while his mother tried to destroy him for money. His mother can only bring him down if he stays in contact with her.
Boy can I relate to this story. I have since over come my "disability" as that's what it is, but I have discovered I am intelligent but I do learn at my own pace. Please, don't give up. After college, things will improve for you. I know what you are going through because I have been in your shoes. Hang in there please.
Sounds like the stepmother is poisoning his Father. She's not acting like a concerned wife!! He's almost 18. Call the grandparents!! Do not sign away your inheritance!!
OP I hope and suggest you ask your grandparents to help your step brother. As others says here, it will probably mean the world to him. I wish you both a blessed future ☺️❤️🤗
Never be ashamed for defending YOURSELF!! And if his father wants to get you kicked out..... Then make it worth while & keep kicking the crap out of that dude until he tells the truth!!!!
Stepbrother, go no contact, cut here out of your life. She isnot good for you. Sharing genetics is not a good enough reason to stick with someone who is toxic to you.
Great story and glad op sought out his bio family 💯‼️❗ not only did he get his inheritance transferred but half of insurance money 🤭 that was only thing he left her😭😂😅🤣 i do wonder about the house 🤷🏾🤷🏽♀️
I really hope Tyler comes through in this. OP should lookout for him as Tyler had looked out for him. All the best to both boys becoming men at their differcult transition in life.
9:25)The step-mother would need a COURT ORDER to become his LEGAL guardian. If she did manage to get him to sign, it would not have been enforced because he was a minor. Was a copy of her email, to the lawyer, sent to the State Bar?
The step mother states that she does not want to raise another woman's child yet OP's father raised another man's child. And these females of today will try to shame men into being stepfathers. How self-centered can you be? And the step-brother did the right thing by letting OP know what his mom's plan was. I hope that they can stay on speaking terms.
I think a parent who remarries ought not to leave their children's inheritance in the hands of the step parent. put it into a trust, there are too many conflicting interests at play.. Also step parents who have access to their kids college funds also are a caution. Protect your children, they can become targets after you are gone if you aren't around to protect them. Things change, your spouse might hook up with a creep and he or she is pushing them to to spend all you left to your kids. It happens more than you think. If you make an ironclad will, with an ironclad prenup, it shouldn't be a problem if they really loved you to begin with. Step parents have NO business having control over your child's inheritance, NONE!
My grandmother told me my grandfather was on his deathbed, told me not to tell my mother (their daughter) who was estranged, and then turned their half of the family against me when I did. Keep in mind that some of these people were only on speaking terms with my grandparents because _they_ had been told against my grandmother's wishes when my grandfather had his first heart attack. And the only reason my mother _wasn't_ on speaking terms with them was because my grandmother was being her typical, annoyingly nosy self on a road trip with my mom and her new husband (he's a private man, and grandma _loves_ to prod), when he finally had enough and let her know. I wasn't even allowed to mention her to my grandfather as a condition of being able to see him before he died, so I was never even able to confirm that not seeing my mother was _his_ decision, and not hers. And everyone on that side of the family gaslights me as if I'm crazy for even thinking it, as if they haven't all been on the receiving end of this kind of behavior from her in the past.
Ok first of all just because your parents married someone DOESN'T MAKE THEM YOUR STEP PARENT they have to go through the courts and legally adopt you!!!!
Never hide a parent's illness. My mother hid her cancer from me I didn't find out till her body was shutting down. Almost 10 years Larter and it still makes me mad to think about it.
My young grandson can do research on google on his own. He finds out lots of things. OP you can too Find the rest of your family. You didn't fell from the sky. Find your mum/dads family to help you out.
Thanks for this story. It made me happy and sad and brought a tear to my eye. Grandparents are always the best! I really miss mine. Thank u for bringing my memories back up. They are happy!
so he was 18 but she was his guardian until he is 18? and if she had power of attorney over him then she wouldn't have needed his help taking his money. Nice story but horrible research and understanding...c-
