@@treco2583Either way, they're absolutely wrong. And even if OP was petty, after all her so called parents had put her through, she definitely deserves to be a little petty.
I told my stepmother she did what she did neither good or bad it I'd what it is. She learned from the best example. Her aunt who half a$$Ed raised her. She is mad at my sister and has no contact with me and I am just fine. She is a narcissist and never really was a parent to me only when she wanted my help or used me. She never was a MIL to my husband. She was even jealous of my MIL. years later I got divorced but I told my MIL I LOVED HER MORE THAN MY EX. SHE TREATED ME LIKE HER DAUGHTER.
Story 1. OP was not petty. She didn't show up at the party with intentions of making a scene. Her parent were the ones that were being disrespectful to her, and lied to the party goers. OP simply set everyone straight with the truth, and she left. She was a hell of a lot nicer and more composed than I would have been. Her parents deserved to be called out for their lies and shameful behavior.
I think OP did the right thing by calling them out in front of their friends. Kudos to OP 😊!! Story 2 if your dad had a lawyer immediately contact him. Glad you found the will.
I don't understand why his step monster didn't burn his dad's will cuz something that is hidden can be found. Burned is completely gone. I, also, can't believe he waited 2mo to go to the lawyer. I'd have been super scared one of the steps would find/destroy it. Glad it all worked out for him.
I can’t believe the comment at the end that you shared. It was absolutely insane. This girl was told that she needed to leave the house the day before she was expected to leave. I don’t think there’s anyone here right now, that would be OK if they were told they had to leave their house the next day, especially if you’re 18 and have nothing. Furthermore, she was homeless at that point and it seems like her parents had a death wish for her to be a young girl who could’ve been out on the streets. Furthermore, it was not petty for her to show up to see what was going on ( by the way do you know what it’s like to be estranged from your family for years after you’ve tried to get a hold of them?) she only made a scene when her father tried to make her look like she abandoned, and them.
Two Story: I am impressed with your patience to take what is rightfully yours and if you're toxic step-family comes anywhere near you, to harm you call your lawyer for a restraining order.
1st story- How TF is she petty? The parents got exactly what they deserved! If it was me, I would not have gone to the crummy party. She knew something was up and handled it!
Her parents got exactly what she wanted them to have for what they did to her inner beginning over adult life so if anybody wants to chime in its say that she was petty they have to be friends of the parents
Op in the first story wasn't petty she, was put those 2 lying and emotionally neglectful parents in there place after they lied to, everyone all she did was tell everyone the truth because if they were really trying to reconnect they, would make sure to op first and not draw any attention to them and op, and not to mention they could spin a tale and tell everybody b.s make op, the bad guy since they have no problems lying in the first place.
OP's definitely NTA here, nor is she being petty. And even if she was being petty, after all her so called parents had put her through, she definitely deserves to be a little petty. In any case, OP's morally in the clear here and her parents deserve to be exposed as the awful people they are. If you're going to abuse your own child and/or throw them away like garbage when they "outlived" their usefulness or ability to boost your image, then do us all a favor and don't have ANY children!
how many parients kick their kids out at eighteen? I mean it seems inhumane what if she was still in high school? which from which the beginning it sounds like she was goddamn that sucks
My dad kicked me out at 17, I had ADHD/ADD and nobody understood what that was back then; to be fair I’m sure I deserved part of it but not all, my father didn’t know how to communicate being the way he was raised..
I agree. OP's morally in the clear here and her parents deserve to be exposed as the awful people they are. If you're going to abuse your own child and/or throw them away like garbage when they "outlived" their usefulness or ability to boost your image, then do us all a favor and don't have ANY children!
I'm sorry for your loss and I hope that justice is served soon. I lost my dad in 2021, so I know and understand what you are going through. I was already out of their house by the time my dad had passed away because after he said they were moving to Hawaii, I told my dad that I wanted to live with my mother and step-father again. My step-mother and I get along better than we did when we were living under the same roof, but only because we shared the same man. We got to see each other at the memorial service in 2022 along with my other family members. I would like you to know that you can grieve all you want regardless of what others tell you. Going out with family and friends can really help make you feel better! You could find some support groups and counseling to help you through your ordeals, including the letter you are writing to your mother, your loss, and your step-family. Good luck and I hope that you will get the help that you need.
Story 2: OP, it's a good thing you found that will. Keep those people far away, for if they re-enter your life, it will be nothing but pure grief. Before contacting your mother, hire a PI to check her character. There is no need for her to blindside you, pretending to be what is not true. There has to be a damn good reason your father kept her away. Good luck. Watch your back for those who only want to use you. If your instinct tells you to watch out, heed that feeling, no matter who it is.
If she hadn't stood up for herself and set the record straight, she'd have been drug through the mud, shamed for not financially supporting her parents in their time of need. She gave them a chance and they used it to elevate themselves and use society to force her into compliance. She did nothing wrong.
Exactly. I did. My stepmother told me and my brother our mother did not want us. Which was a lie. She gave custody to my dad cause he said I want all of my kids or none. Don't separate them. She was going to keep my sister and younger brother. Well years later my stepmother got divorced from my dad. My biological mother moved away but came back.she moved to a school bus and was staying at some property. My older brother wanted to live with her. Then me and my sister stayed with stepmother cause I was living in my house. My stepmother kept us away from biological mother. But after the divorce when I went to visit with my dad. I got to know my biological mother. Learn that she made mistakes. Could not afford to raise us. But she made her choices cause she had more kids. She messed up her kids lives cause she chose men sometimes over her kids. I have a half sister go live with her father and her grandmother. She is successful but she had relationships issue. She has been married twice. She has 2 daughters. I got married and got divorced and currently engaged. The kids my biological raised has issues even one is strung out on dope and homeless.
Who the hell would say that OP was petty? Hmmm, sounds like parents who've done the same thing. How disgusting for anyone to side with the "parents". I'm completely outraged!!! The cops should have been called because they should never have kids.
Sorry to hear about the loss of your father but glad to hear you got rid of your stepmom her animals if get in touch with your mom hope it goes well.❤❤
I don't agree with those commenters. How was OP petty? How?! Had her dad not made the stupid comment of HER coming back after no contact I thoroughly believe OP would have continued being civil, but no her parents made it out that SHE, not them were at fault for the years of no contact. How is it petty of OP to simply correct the BS and air the truth? That said if the dad or mom had not lied or twisted the truth and OP ousted them then that would have been petty. She would have been using the birthday party to vent her anger, but instead, the parents tried to paint her as the bad guy and make themselves look like the innocent party that did nothing wrong. Thus OP just set the record straight, wished the friend a happy birthday, and left. Does that sound petty to anyone? The commenters need to learn the difference between being petty and being honest about the situation because until they learn the difference they should not insist that OP is petty for refusing to be a doormat for her parents to walk on.
If she had previous knowledge that she’d be out on her b-day so she could plan and save, she shouldnt have done that much. However, doing what they did and the fact they never contacted her in years, bring it on girl! 😊
Got kicked out of my dads into my moms house 3 months before 18. 2 months after i turned 18, with a job i already was working since a week after moving into my moms, i bought my first car and first apartment within 48 hrs and moved out with my GF into our own apartment. Never looked back, now im 28, married to the same woman 10 years later with 2 beautiful girls. Life has been rough along the way, of course, but we are happy, and the smiles on our girls faces, along with my wifes, is the only thing i need to know im exactly where i need to be in life. Coming from 3 generations on BOTH sides of my family having broken homes and families, all i ever wanted is a loving family that stayed together. I hope with all my heart that I can keep my family together better than my parents, and their parents before them. I dont want my girls to grow up having to choose who they want to be with, hear one parent talk badly about the other when youre jus an innocent kid who loves both parents, yet never in your life, had you seen them in a loving relationship.
Don't think she was petty but if those parents that paid her no mind n kicked her out was going to lie in front of everyone I would sure straighten them out in the same public way they lied to them.
Nothing wrong with conservative values. Cuz I'm a conservative. If your child is being productive and being good and going to school or has a job you have no reason whatsoever to kick her out. If she's coming home every night shit-faced drunk and throwing up everywhere and breaking things and being entitled. Yeah kick her out. But being conservative isn't the blame here just blame these particular people warping the values to fit their narrative
“Conservative values” have harmed more people than helped, as the above commenter has stated. I think you should recognize that while it’s good in some cases, it’s overwhelmingly weaponized for abuse and neglect.
Story #1: OP was told, on her 18th birthday mind you, that the next day was moving day for her. With no prior notice, no funds, just kicked to the curb. IMO, her parents were relieving themselves of the responsibility that they never wanted. I don't know how OP maintained her cell phone service, but her egg and sperm donor never even attempted to at least make sure she was alive. A young female thrown onto the street is a very dangerous situation. But she was a very strong and resourceful young woman and managed to make a life for herself. The coworker would have been reported to HR or someone higher up. Giving up her personal information could have placed her in danger. The coworker is an insecure, jealous little man who will never become anything and he knows that. Anyone who thinks OP's behavior at the B-day party was petty is a doormat. Her parents tried to lie and shame her for something that they did to her. I'm glad she put them in their place and left. Don't look back OP because there's nothing there for you. Story#2: I'm glad OP found his father's Will. I found it strange that OP's Dad and stepmother did not live together. Dad just didn't want to admit he made a mistake marrying the stepmother. She claims to have known that the Will was in the attic. She probably put it there and I'm surprised she didn't destroyed it so she could inherit everything. But she didn't and OP patiently waited until he was 18 to present the Will to his Dad's attorney and kicked her and her lazy, nasty kids out of HIS house. Now that he knows his Mom had been trying to contact him, he should at least hear her side of the story and decide from there if he wants a relationship with her. It might not be what you were lead to believe.
OP here's a suggestion: Kick them out of your house, life, mind, etc. You don't need their drama coupled with the loss of your Father. You don't need those lerches
Story 1: She could get the co-worker fired for giving out her information! He can't do that!! Story 2: You let them move in, why?! I would have told them to leave before they could establish residency!
I don't think that the daughter did anything wrong. Her parents got her there as just coming to a birthday party. But the only reason they invited her was to hit her up for money. She was not ready for that, so she blew up. Pretty sure she didn't plan on saying and doing what she did, but I think that she had a right to. And she talked to the birthday boy before she left. I'm sure she apologized and none of this was her fault. I truly believe that most people would have blown up like that. I'm almost 100% sure that I would have!
Story 1 Petty ohh that isn't petty that is giving abusive AH's their just reward...people like that value image over everything so they deserve to have that perfect image destroyed so they can't use and manipulate others.
I think Reddit can be a valuable resource for people going through difficult situations, even with the trolls in the mix. I mean if two heads are better than one then maybe a thousand heads can be better over all to assess the situation.
I hate that statement man up. It only applies to very very rare occasions like someone who’s not getting a job and is leeching off someone then I don’t mind if someone says man up when you’re grieving someone you lost in love and they say man up 🤬
The parents fully deserved it. Her dad started lieing about the situation and no one in their right mind would let his comments stand. All opdid was tell the truth.
2)With an Evil Step-mother and her kids on the loose, plus a mother who is an unknown factor, a will was the first thing to make after the new deed. The messages should be sent to the local police. A few times I have posted that no one can claim to be the step-parent of an adult.
Story 1. This is a decent story BUT there are a few points. 1. She was worried about college money? NO parent is every responsible for a childs college money. Society provides so many other avenues (loans, grants, scholarships, different colleges, military college tuition, etc). College level people are adults and are responsible for their own costs. It is great if a parent does help...but it should never be expected. 2. The basic "family values" that the OP is critical about is what held the society together for many generations. Conservative or family standards form the basis of communities. If we all just do our own thing without any regard for tradition, family or history... then the society will cease to exist. Yes, make your own choices as an adult....but dont blame you or your families faults on the fabric that has held societies together for a very long time.
