AITAH - For not telling my Ex that I am married? #aita #reddit #askreddit #entitledparents #redditcommunity #redditaita #subwaysurfers #redditrelationshipadvice
Jen literally asked him what was going on in his life. Would have been a good time to say 'I'm married and she's right over there"( then point over towards his table)
@@Garoslol Even if they weren't exactly strangers, OP had practically forgotten she existed till she decided to bother him when he was going to the bathroom.
Thoughts; 1. You aren't an AH, youre socially awkward and were caught flat-footed. 2. It should have been common courtesy to your wife to introduce her to your ex. 3. If you're married, you should be wearing a ring. Jen should have spotted this immediately and connected the dots. 4. Your wife is insecure. She saw you with your first love and is terrified that you still have feelings for her. In her mind she wanted you to: A. Name her as your wife, so she could subliminally flaunt to Jen that she (wife) got the one that got away B. Rebuff all of Jen's advances quick and hard, to put no doubt in anyone's mind as to who your pick was. C. Further inflate Wife's ego by trash talking Jen with wife and mom. OP needs to learn better social manners. OP's wife needs counseling.
NTA, OP's wife must have such thin skin if she is so upset about her husband not going out of his way to introduce herself to Jen considering he was caught off guard. Maybe when she is in a similar situation, she'll understand where he was coming from. Or not, and they can end up having a divorce because OP won't stand for double standards.
I mean, technically if u meet anyone after a long time, and your wife is standing RIGHT NEXT TO YOU, it's common courtesy to introduce them. OP says he and wife have been together for 6yrs. I get not updating it on social media or whatever, but Jen took the initiative to tap OP, so should have cut that shit right off the bat. OP never got over Jen and the wife knows that. That's why they are both into Jen's business
@kennethsjvold9212 Not everyone can think and react well under pressure. It reminds me of a book character named Belgarion who had been reduced to respond with hilarious physical reactions and using single words when his wife C'nedra was in labor with their first child. It is similar because he was unable to react like a sane human during this type of situation. OP may react well in many other situations under pressure but could not string two words together in this particular situation.
Not an asshole, but I agree he should've introduced his wife. Women frequently use that if they think someone is interested in them, they will find some way to bring up 'their boyfriend' or husband in conversation to make it clear. I think he was just oblivious and not being deliberately rude.
100% this. He's not an AH for not doing it, but he definitely _should_ have introduced his wife to Jen, or if his wife hadn't been standing there he should have mentioned being married in passing as soon as possible out of respect for his wife and to not give Jen any ideas.
Bro, I went on the actual Reddit and people are actually bashing him, but he did nothing wrong. This is why sometimes Reddit can be good but for the most part, it could be horrible because now you’re apologizing for something you shouldn’t be and actually she should be apologizing.
Do yall knot know that apologizing can also be for hurting someone’s feelings? Like okay he “didn’t do anything wrong” but him not doing anything hurt his wife’s feelings. The wife isn’t overreacting for having normal feelings. The least he could have done is apologize and talked about. Yall need to grow up.
@@yaoilover0 and SHE is responsible for her own feelings. She is entitled to her own feelings but she is also responsible for dealing with them without attacking someone who did nothing wrong. You really need to grow up.
@@yaoilover0 His wife's feelings are hurt, sure. But he did nothing wrong. People get upset over all sorts of things. That doesn't by default mean the other person is at fault. Honestly, you women love gaslighting so much. I guarantee you, you and all those Reddit comments would have been bashing OP's spouse if the gender's were reversed and the husband kicked up a fuss like that. Suddenly the comments would all be about the spouse being "insecure" and "are you sure you want to married to someone so controlling" lol!
@@VRDejaVu growing up also means accepting accountability. I know you don’t know what that means cuz you people think responsibility and accountability are the same thing. He may not be responsible for her feelings, but he played a role in why she felt like that and he is accountable for that. I know a lot of you grew up in single parent households so you would have no idea how to navigate a healthy marriage.
Not an AH, but definitely didn't handle it well. It comes across less as someone trying to get out of a conversation because of social awkwardness, and more because you have something to hide. And while I do think your wife needs to trust you a little more, I can't fully blame her for getting suspicious. How many stories do we hear of an ex coming into someone's life after they found a new partner, only for them to leave the new partner for the ex?
BEHIND. She was BEHIND him. OP didn't realize she was there. Jesus, you people are so dense, listen to what's actually being said. This guy isn't the asshole, he's just in an awkward situation with an insecure wife.
@@FirstLast-ks6vm i agree that he was in an awkward situation and didn't see her, but he should've introduced his wife to his ex. He didn't, but he apologized for it, because even he knows he should've done so in hindsight. He missed an opportunity to assure his wife, but he ended up fixing it in the updates. Also bro, take a chill pill 😂
@@filosahoge947 He shouldn't have apologized. He did absolutely nothing wrong and apologizing despite not doing anything wrong is setting a bad precedent. He was trying to walk away and when he did he noticed his wife. No need to waste time by introducing her at that point.
Dude didnt do anything wrong and he current wife is insecure and gas lighting him to make him feel bad for her insecurities. Why create drama where there is none? If it was a friend that they would be hanging out with, sure, but not an ex that he doesn't want anything to do with.
''I messed up royaly'' No OP didn't? Like thats so hilarious? Why is everyone making unneccessary Drama for like NO reason? Jen is a stranger, there is no reason or right why she would need to know anything about OP's live. Maybe a cultural diffrence but I would never tell smth so personal (and yes your relationship status counts as personal) to anyone that isn't friends or family. Like who do you think you are? Get in line its not your place to know.
He literally said that he didn't notice her until he decided to start going away. I assume the bar was busy and she just came up quietly and didn't say anything.
