Awesome. My child came out to me about a year and a half ago. Sometimes I thinks young adults are surprised when we aren't surprised. I believe in God and I believe that he doesn't make mistakes. So to me being gay or straight are both normal. The most beautiful thing in this world is love. The more of it there is the better we all will be.
That's exactly what my Mom says. If God wouldn't want me to be gay, I wouldn't be. If God wouldn't want me to be with a woman, he wouldn't have given me my wonderful fiancée.
Alastair is more of an introvert than Zach, and this is the most I have ever heard him say before! He looks so relaxed and comfortable here, and I think he's found the perfect partner in Zach. They fill in the blanks for one another, and that is great. Hello, too, to B - the world's cutest dog.
I actually wished that Zach was in the video asking the questions since we all knew it was him asking the questions anyway. They have done q & a together before. Perhaps they wanted to create a different look with this video.
So impressive. The more I see of Alastair the more I can see why Zach loves him (and vice versa). Zach, you do take such good videos. Low-key and professional. I was transfixed.
Congratulations for being yourself. Me, I'm a retired army officer and I hid my true identity for years and lied on the application when asked about homosexuality otherwise back then I would've never been allowed in the military. I suppressed everything and now I'm an old guy and getting into a relationship at this point in my life isn't going to happen. I grew up Christian too and tried to pray the gay away but it never happened and I never woke up in the early morning as a lusting heterosexual. It's a very lonely life. I need to clarify something here, I'm not a man wanting to be a woman, I don't know why ignorant heterosexuals think that about us. I love being a man because that's what I am first. Being gay is just a minute part of who I am. BTW I love women but I don't feel sexual towards them. Close friends of mine know and my sister, however those that don't know don't need to know
Thank You Alastair for your well said and openness to share your coming out story with us all, and I am proud and honored to say having you being apart of our military team, with your views and thought process, people, our country/ world and how you let us see the world thru your eyes deeply thank you.
Zach's voice off screen sounds like, some celebrity guy, Sylvester Stallion.... it's deep and southern like it! Moving relatable story.. love the three of you (Zach, Ali and B) 😻😻
What a supportive, balanced and grounded video; well done guys! I had a really tough time during my coming-out process, many years ago. I think you're absolutely right when you say that coming-out means first coming-out to yourself. I also had a strong Christian religious upbringing and initially immersed myself in my faith to try and 'cure' my feelings. In the end I suffered depression and began to hate myself. I learnt a very sobering lesson from this - You can't love God and hate yourself at the same time, it doesn't work that way. I'm still a Christian, I love my faith very much, it's pretty central to my life, but now I can also say that I love the man I've been with for 18 years and feel very blessed about it too. It's sometimes, but unfortunately all too often the case, that gay Christians feel rejected by their spiritual community. This has the effect of pushing us away from God, and away from a nurturing spiritual community, which we may also need access to; personally I think this is tragic. There is most definitely a place for God in gay relationships, and I always encourage those who may be feeling a little disheartened and who are searching, not to give up on God's infinite unconditional love for all of us.
I literally NEVER have commented on a RU-vid video before, but I just want to say a quick comment. Your videos are simply wonderful. They're thoughtful, genuine, and helpful. From what I can see, you two are amazing people. I wish you nothing but the best. :)
I’m a new (ish, about 3 weeks) subscriber and i appreciate ya’lls vlog. Thank you for sharing your life with all of us. I have been with my husband for 16 years ( we were 26) and we moved pretty quick too. I will tell you, the 1st year of sharing of lives together was the hardest for me bc of it moving so darn fast. All I can tell you is that communication is key. And just like a any relationship there will be ups and downs but trust and communication is key. Thanks again for sharing your lives with all of us.
Alastair, thank you for that heartfelt and well-thought-out response. I'm struggling with the whole coming out process and I'm way older than you. I have so many questions and comments, but mostly I'd like to say of all the videos like this that I've watched recently, yours is by far the best and most hopeful. Thanks
Todd it is a difficult thing, I am 55 and still coming out. It is to late for my mum she has dementia but I came out to my dad only 4-5 weeks ago (doh) as he asked my sister if I had a family in Thailand which broke my heart as I had found out a month earlier that my Thai partner of 8 yrs (engaged 4 yrs) had a Thai bf for the last year and a half which hurt me enough and then the feeling of guilt I felt with not telling dad of not only my sexuality but my relationship I had for so long, but he was cool as and said he had never had a problem with homosexuality and he loved me and was proud of me. I am now out to all my family bar 1 brother who outed me 2 Christmases ago to family friends of which I have yet to talk with him about outing me when I wasn't out to him. In regards to coming out to the community as a whole don''t care to its nobodies business though if Im asked Í will see where i am at with that. As for my family they have been excepting and loving as always and have told me that I have grown and come out of my shell so to speak since telling them. The big regret is I have missed out on so much over a long time basically living a lie but thats life and we do what we do, so just do whats best for yourself....
Zach, that is one brave, amazing dude you married there. I’m sure this was more than a little outside of Alastair’s comfort zone, but him doing it anyway to share with us and help others is not only moving, but really an example to all of us. Thanks for the video guys! I actually have someone important to share this with.
Alastair - I am a 68 year old gay man. I joined the US Air Force in 1967. Didn’t go to Viet Nam that is one of my few regrets in my lifetime. During those years in the AF one had to volunteer. I came out while I was in the military in 1969. I didn’t hide the fact that I was gay and have always done what I could in the fight for gay rights. I got out of the Air Force in 1971 and went on to use my GI Bill to get a Masters of Social Work. I give you this background because I feel I have contributed something to you being an out soldier. You give me a great sense of pride. We both know there are and have been many closeted men and women in the military who felt they could not be out. You will hopefully give them the courage to come out. I know you will still experience prejudice and I admire you for being willing to stand up to this prejudice. You honor yourself and your family. You are a roll model for men and women who will come behind you. Our LGBT communities desperately need roll models. I am happy that I have lived long enough to know of a young out gay man who was graduated from West Point. I am really proud of you and I know Zack is too. I hope he realizes how important his job is to support you. It is not an easy thing for a man to put his ego aside for the greater good. You may one day lead men into life and death situations. Thank you Zack for your sacrifice. Respectively yours, Kenneth Brock brockkenneth@gmail.com
Alastair, you are one brave man to bare your soul on video for all to see. I, for one, appreciate how heartfelt and somewhat uncomfortable this was for you. You have my gratitude for being so uniquely brave. Also, thank you for your service to our country and may you enjoy those butter bars on your collar!
This was a great video and I am so glad to hear about Alastair's coming out. Please continue to share his experiences, stories and advice. You guys are inspirational!
Wow! I have watched videos with Alistair from the beginning and from the first one I watched to this one, it is amazing how comfortable and well spoken he's become in front of the camera. That's one of the best coming out stories I've heard and I've watched too many to count. I'm a gay dad and have a transgendered son and I just want you guys to know that I'm very proud of you both and the messages you two put out to the world. Keep your videos coming.
Alastair, thanks so much for sharing your story with us! It's very inspiring to everyone, with a message of being yourself, being proud of and loving yourself! 👍🏻💕😍😁
You did a great job, AJ. Thanks for sharing. I have mad love for you both and wish you two nothing but the very best. And, I want to thank you for your service.
Well said Alastair. Thank you for sharing your story and reactions. As always, congratulations on finding each other! It sure is grand when you find the right one!!
Alastair, first of all I love that name...now, I’ve commented on so many of Zach’s videos and I truely care about you two and your relationship. You two have been such an inspiration for me to come out and be myself. Thank you so much for that. I had forgotten what Happy felt like, but now I’m just me. Seriously thank you
Absolutely one of the best, intelligently reliving of a coming out story. I've never been more impressed with you, more than I am today! Thank you for this, for being confident and for not bashing Christ in the process (pray the gay away). Awesome job.. honestly!
Very nicely done. I love your advice at the end. Zach has definitely been a big influence in getting that "shyness of the camera" out of you. You only have one life, live it to your fullest. much love to you two!!
Nicely done. Glad to know more brothers in arms who are not only able to come to terms with who they are, but also share their stories and make an impact on others lives.
Really inspired video! You are a wonderful man and I loved getting to know you better! Everything you guys put on here is interesting or fun and at times educational. I wish many years of happiness!
Great video Allister and Zack. I have been watching Zack since he started and watching your relationship grow here. now, seeing your coming out story, we can see more of you both as you grow. Always looking forward to Zack 's big smile and your shy smile on each video that comes out. Keep them coming guys and hey to B also.
Alastair, thank you so much for sharing your story ❤️ And what a story! I didn't know you hadn't yet come out to your family when you met Zach; and now you guys are married! Much love and respect to you. Would you consider doing a Q&A? The part where you differentiate between "jealousy" and "attraction"; I'd never heard it phrased like that before, and I'd love to hear more of your thoughts and feelings on the coming out process
thanks for being real. i have just started the process and sometimes have no clue what i am doing. i do know it's what i need to do live completely and i am beyond grateful y'all have given me the courage to be real
Thanks for sharing, Alastair, and love your calm demeanor and easy laughter! Hope you do a Q&A soon. Your perspective as a gay West Point grad could really help a lot of young gays considering service. Take care, sir!
I think you have a certain level of 'gravitas' that comes across well and clearly regardless of your reluctance to be ... so public. That carries a lot of weight for you as a person and for your message. You are simply a very likeable fellow with a lot going for you that is easy for many folks to identify with from their own perspectives and positions. That is CURRENCY--weight--impact--influence ... for you to use constructively, as you see fit, imho. I just encourage you to continue being 'brutally' honest with yourself and your viewers. Perhaps most importantly, I encourage you both to continue to emphasize the highest priorities of being loving, empathetic, patient, humble, routinely putting the other one more or less first; and fun with one another as extremely high values and ways of being in the world and in your relationship.
I'm so proud of u guys. You boys have come a long way! So happy you found each other. I'm a 64 year old gay man who came out BEFORE Stonewall. It was 1966! I was 13. Coming out can be just as stressful today. You've handled the whole thing beautifully. All the best to you my brothers! Love GG
Great video Alastair and Zach! Alastair you're so confident that your testimony will certainly be helpful for people still in the closet. Thanks for them.👍
Wow! Kudos, to you BOTH!! I stumbled upon your Videos about 6 months ago, and have been a Fan, ever since! Keep moving forward, and stay True!!! Totally Awesome!!
Thank you so much Alastair and Zach. Alastair this was such an honest, heartfelt (yet humorous at times) coming out story. Guys this is very helpful for anyone struggling with coming out, especially in Australia at present as we are in the middle of a very dangerous stupid vote on whether same sex couples should get married. This is making a lot of gay people struggle with thoughts self hatred, and worse. Your closing statements were right on the point. Thanks for taking the time and sharing this.
So glad y'all are ok i was worried about y'all and the hurricane....... I have been waiting to hear your coming out story glad you shared with us love y'all
Love it Alaistair, you did great. Thank you for sharing your coming out story and most importantly thank you for serving. How about a video with both your moms and you guys talking about the process.
Who you are is no other person's business, and no one is obliged to explain himself/herself. You both are exceptionally nice and decent persons. Love, in it's purest form, will affirm and see you through.❤️
Thanks guys for this video. This is the first coming out video I've watched that I can relate to. I'm a few years older and I'm still to come out. It's something I'm struggling with as it's really only in the last few months I'm starting to accept it myself. I'm not there yet even though I know I am (gay). I see my life as very dark grey and to be honest I am struggling with it all and cannot see any light at the end of it. I don't have anyone to talk to about what I'm going through and what I'm feeling so all I can do is stay following guys like you and hopefully one day I may get a grip on it and start to live as my real self.
Wonderfully expressed as I'd expect anything from either of you two to be. You're both providing important conversations and advice and I hope you continue to do so. Good luck with your posting Alastair and I wish you and Zach all the happiness in the world as you journey together.
Well done Alastair! So articulate and honest, the detailed Q & A to your Mom was such a caring & considerate approach to me. I'm so proud of both you and Zach and so happy that you found each other.. Blessings to you both (and B too!) ♥ Fan & friend for life...
My facebook BF lives in mexico city....I was so worried about him cuz he stopped texting me in the middle of a chat....EARTHQUAKE.... finally i heard back from his friend there that he is fine. everyone say a lil prayer, positive thoughts they really need it now
You have such an incredibly important message. We have come so far, but the way things are today - I fear we could creep backwards as a society. You men are exactly the example we need! Huge kudos to you both.
Great story Alastair!! I'm sure kids that are struggling with coming out would appreciate this story. It was very courageous of you not to just come out but share it with everyone. Thank you for the share.
I was in the USAF from the 70's to the 90's and it is really strange to hear you say "Westpoint gay community", in my day it was you are gay you are out with an other than honorable discharge. I am so glad you have this opportunity and things have changed for the better. You are amazing Alastair.
thank you for sharing your coming out story. when you are honest with yourself, you can be assured that nothing can hurt you (but you). continue to be yourself.
That was inspiring and awesome, Alastair. Really well done. Nice work on the filming and editing side, Zach.......making an assumption. You did that part. You are a great team . Thanks for sharing. Also, I will never forget the trouble you two went to, to get my B and Co brand item shipped to my hotel in Texas! Nick
This is an AWESOME vid. It's great to see a vid with just Alastair. He's such a shy person it seems and it's great to see him and see his personality. Especially that last statement. It was powerful. I have a feeling a lot of people can relate to Alastair who are not extroverts who will feel empowered after this vid.
Alastair: thank you for that candid sharing. I am happy for you, and happy that you and Zach have found one another. You two lead by example and the world will be better off!
