For one he needs to release his records and it is a sign paperwork. He had no problem making 5 five kids but has a problem supporting them the way it should be and actually his support is not that bad.
That’s a good parent, this mom understands the kids need their father. Rather than the alienation that selfish parents often take part in. Dad though, he’s trying to stop paying child support because he’s mixed up and thinks he’s paying her and not for his kids care.
YESSSSS as an admin for a SUD outpatient clinic, an ROI can make or break a case because without it no info gets sent from the clinic directly and the courts often require documentation and collateral letters be sent directly from the clinic If he didn't sign the proper ROI for Collateral (people contacted to provide a character statement) or for his eval or attorney or for the opposing party (the mom) it can directly prevent the eval being completed
It’s so frustrating when these “parents” whine they need lower child support so THEY can eat..blah blah…dude $150 per month does not support a single child, that’s not even enough for groceries let alone clothing, water, heat, vehicle gas for school… so selfish!
Whether dude has an alcohol problem or not. With that said, if a court told me I couldn’t see my babies until I did certain things, I would JUMP to do every single thing they ask. I don’t get it.
This!! 👏🏿👏🏿If I truly didn’t have a drinking problem, I’d do every & anything I could to put that issue to bed, and not allow that to be used as a talking point to keep me from my kids. There is so much passive aggressiveness going on which makes me think he really isn’t interested in visitations.
He's a liar. He shouldn't be drinking around the kids at all for one. Also he sounds like a drunk. He does the same lying and justifying why he drinks and when. That's why he's divorced.
Maybe it’s just me, but I think a loving, responsible father would be more concerned with providing for his children than with his own living circumstances.
I wish there was only one judge for each case. For the simple reason they started and they have a feel for the parents and could tell when they're lying
He only wants the kids so that it will lower his child support! But even that didn't encourage him enough. Mum on the other hand gets a gold star and is an example of putting the kids first. Hope Dad starts moving in the same direction
I really appreciate the attitude of the mom. She knows the importance of having the children spend time with dad! So often in these custody cases the parents fight or make claims to DCFS just to hurt one another. It's refreshing to see two parents agree with what is ordered. The dad on the other hand says he wants to see his children but then drags his feet for 6 months following orders from the court. It seems like he's enjoying his freedom without the them.
It’s really rare to have a parent in custody court be so fair to the other parent. I’ve got to give kudos to this mom. She’s trying her hardest to give this guy a chance and he shits all over her and their kids every time. My kid’s dad is an equal opportunity addict so I adopted my own children away from him in a single parent adoption. His rights are totally terminated. I pray this lady doesn’t have to go the same route, but if he keeps his crap up she may have no choice.
He doesn't want to see his kids, so I don't understand why they are screwing around with him. This is the 8th hearing and he just keeps messing around. He obviously needs treatment if his alcoholism was bad enough to cause a separation,then ultimately a divorce.
Seems like Mr Lawrence pretty much thinks every single person in the court has a Substance abuse disorder. I haven’t seen one case where he doesn’t recommend it. Not saying it wasn’t needed here… but it shouldn’t be his default either.
Clearly Kaiser didn’t think the problem was bad. I’m not saying the dad is an angel but I wonder if the problem was situational associated with the mom and was she drinking when he was for years. The dad will never have a chance for 50/50 because of the original judge he had.
Lawrence is the worst... He knows these people can't afford these evaluations so he knows it will take months... Months that he will continue to collect a paycheck.
I cringe every time I find out Laurence is the GAL on a case... he seems too have an issue with fathers, no matter the situation. Most of these cases seem fair (there's been a few that I didn't agree with, but that's to be expected) but everything with Laurence feels biased against the fathers
@@texasproud8822 he's not going to get 50/50 because mom and kids live 3 hours away. Yes, Commissioner Nelson granted that, but honestly most judges would. She had a good reason to move and dad didn't give any reason she shouldn't be allowed
That is the only reason I don't completely dislike him. He's not a good GAL but he does have the patience to out wait the stubbornness of non-compliant parents
At about one hour poster comments about the loss of visitation was supposed to force dad to do something. I thought the kids were not to be used as pawns? Only by the state? The mother is talking about supervised visits and to you the point is that doing so would remove the pawns being used to force him into something. Okay. I would never involve the court in my business like these people do.
I’m pretty sure he did private practice with Erin Winkles too. I swear if Cowlitz County JS was a new TV show I would be obsessed 😂 I know all the characters (and mostly love them). No other county’s judges and commissioners and lawyers compare (even when I disagree with them)
I also want to say, there are so many dead beat parents out there who don’t fight for their kids at all. I wish they made it a little easier for people to be successful.
@@LostAngel907honestly, I’m not sure. I don’t even necessarily mean this case. I see some cases though where I feel like the dad can work on himself while being allowed to be a dad too.
Maybe for example, guy FINALLY got his progress report and even though the court has it, because it wasn’t in a timely manner, it’s like isn’t not even taken into consideration. Sometimes they focus more on the procedures than they do the progress.
@@ShilasSpellboundCreations got it 😀 yeah... one part of that is the GAL. He always makes things difficult in every case, and pretty much all of the judges have a hard time trusting parents that have been difficult or blatantly defiant when they finally start to comply. There are some cases that have made me feel bad, but in general I struggle to fault them for that
@@LostAngel907 yeah good point. I’m sure they’ve seen everything from their position and can start to gain an idea of who is worth the patience and who isn’t.
There's usually a hold in some cases, but that's usually when the parent is not behind and asks the court in a timely manner, like when you no longer have a job, not months later. What's funny, is that they have 5 children, did he just start drinking?? Gotta be picky who you open to. $314 per child and they have 5??? wow, yah, no wonder no one is getting married anymore. I get dad is an alcoholic but child support is crazy in oregon and the cost of living, half a million dollar homes in just aloha, and let me tell you, a 2 bedroom 1 bath small house in aloha is not worth $500,000.
The father has a terrible attitude in these court appearances. So much anger and entitlements on the surface. Its hard to believe that a lot of what he is saying is true for anyone other rhan himself.
@ShilasSpellboundCreations Lawrence isn't a lawyer, he's the GAL assigned to the case. I'm sure she missed the 1 one in February because it got moved last min, as for the other 2 or 3 that she missed... I get the feeling that she is checking the court site and seeing that dad isn't turning in what he needs to so she knows it's going to just get pushed off again
That was such a treat to have a big full case following multiple hearings ❤ I am home sick this week and I needed that distraction from feeling like death so much. THANK YOU X 1,000,000! 🎉
No mention of a significant other was mentioned for the mom. She changed her name but no reason for that was given. She could have gone back to her maiden name, etc.
even if there is a new person (this wasnt mentioned in the case at all) that is not the judges responsibility, the dad would have to bring that up and provide documents.
His pay went down but his child support went up....that makes me think they based it off his average pay for the entire year, which includes the amount he was paid before he lost hours, rather than looking at what his current hours were. If that's the case, i can see why hes struggling so much. I do feel dor him. How can he be s consistent psrt of his children's lives if he cant provide a stable and consistent roof over their heads when they're with him? But if the child support actually was based on his current hours and didnt include the overtime he was working, then idk why hes struggling so much. Tjat doesnt seem to be the case though. Seems like they included his overtime. That's really crappy if so. Mr Lawrence drives me crazy. He takes no shortcuts at all when he speaks, but instead says everything in the longest way possible, and hes a slow speaker on top of it. Raises my blood pressure lol.
His take home was like $4500 a month, after tax, and child support are was to around $1500 a month. He doesn't any pay rent or utilities or have any major financial responsibilities.. so he has $3000 a month (or $750 a week) for his personal loan, food alcohol and gas, yet he can't afford supervised visits... smh.... he can afford it, he chooses to spend his money on other things
Why would a woman make 5 children with a drunk? She would have seen the signs of his addiction after a couple of births & at that point she should have been proactively on birth control! She's 1/2 responsible for the mess She's in & what she's putting her children through.
that does not alleviate him of his responsibility. he doesn't do what he needs to do for his kids(which includes taking care of himself), he's a shit person
