These tips are good but not always enough. My mom went on a 90-minute rampage today about wanting to go home (she was home) and why did her husband buy this extra house without even asking her, why, why, why (they bought it together 40 years ago). We spoke calmly, tried to distract, apologized, offered a snack, but nothing helped until she wore herself out yelling, crying, slamming doors. It’s extra hard because she has lost most of her vision so some tips about eye contact don’t apply. It’s unsafe but her husband can’t bring himself to move her to a memory care facility. It is truly heart-breaking.
I scare. I scare one day I become like my mother. Delusional, bitter, abusive mouth, hissing and spewing hurtful insults to own family members that caring her 24/7. You will know and you'll know no other sickness can compare to mental decay. Even if I have cancer one day, at least I know I've been loved.
Really good info, I can vouch for it based on my own experiences with my father. It’s extremely hard for me to walk away from the situation and not become defensive, that’s a work in progress with myself. I find music or happy movies or a snack help for a distraction and I agree that just allowing time for the mood to pass is important.
I found that cannabis gummies keep my mom calmer. Her neurologist prescribed Seroquel and it did the opposite of what it was supposed to do. She had a violent outburst. Picked up a rock and tried to smash my 37 year old sons head with it. She has had horrible episodes. One time she remembered my dad died in a plane accident. She said he did it on purpose and hoped he rotted in hell. I used to be sad that one day I wouldn’t have her either. Now, it can’t come soon enough. It’s torture dealing with this 24/7.
It is not easy to look after a dementia patients. One tips doesn’t work with all.. and be safe ... they will hit you and bite you and kick you. And your patience will be tested beyond redeeming grace. By the end if you are still alive and normal then clap clap.... or be ready to get your mind roasted.
thank you doctor this is so helpful. iam blanche in indonesia with a 87 year old lovely mother with dementia and alzheimer's. we want to use your tips as they are all so helpful. and we need to always pray together with our loved ones.
Worried my father-in-law may leave my mother-in-law due to her new diagnosis. Is this considered abandonment? How to get her to not take out anger on him as he is with her 24/7? What do I suggest
I’m at a loss right now. Just had to have my Dad sent to the hospital via ambulance cause he has been up since 2am In very aggressive mode. Yelling screaming bir@&ing every one out. Idk what to do at this point. He already put bruises on my sister and almost kicked me. Idk
Ok, my client thinks she is way back in the 50s or 60s and she wants s maid. She gets agitated cause the caregiver or not cleaning... What can we as caregiver do or say?
The hospice nurse has vids about that. Somebody does anyway the one I watch says to say they are coming later. They are busy right now. Just go along. Change subject, distract them with snack time or activities. Instead of them going through grief new every day.
I am wandering what is wrong with my husband. A while ago he was forgetting things. Not sure why that was. He usually on the ball with everything. Over years he is now speaking harsh to me and being angry over hardly anything.. his voice is like he is attacking me. He is blaming me for everything.. for no reason. Even he got a nail in his tyre and cos I drove it with him one day he blamed me for driving over a nail when he had driven it a few days after and probably got the nail in it. He blames me for everything. Why is this. I tell him to take responsibility for his own self. And how he is. Is he ill. Is he mentally getting ill.
How old is he? How rapid was the change in behavior? Have you seen a doctor about this? If he's unwilling to admit there's a problem, you can speak with a doctor without him about your concerns and see if they can help you. They may know of a way to recommend brain scans or something else without raising his defensive behaviors.
Could be low testosterone. I hope it gets better. My son's father was that way whole relationship until he was bedridden and then he became less aggressive and compromising as long as myself or our son was there to care for him. Mainly keep him. Company and bring him pancakes and coffee around the clock
@@constancegreiner906 it is hard isn't it. Why do they behave this way tho to another human being. It is tiring too cos u don't know when they will next attack . Other times though he is ok. He has over time been forgetting things. So it has been small things over time. I noticed sometimes when he in the bedroom walking round the bed he seems to lose his balance a little he did that twice . I watched him and thought what is going on. What do U think it is. He carries on doing what he doing and I not sure if he is taking heed of the signs of what ever it is. I know his job is tiring. I don't think it is that though which is having the affect .
I care for 80 year old lady who lives with dementia the mayor issue that she has is to constantly blow her nose and afeter she eats she obsessioning clean an flush her teeth. I asked her to wash her mouth and I let her know that nothing remains in her mouth afeter but it is very hard I wish I can help her
I just want to run and not make eye contact to be honest.My continued existence is important.I have to deal with an agressive intense woman at my assisted living job.I will try your suggestions.thanks.She can turn on you in a second and poke or slap no matter how you approach her.She really needs to move to a different facility before someone gets hurt.
