An ER doctor on triaging your "crazy busy" life | Darria Long 

These kinds of talks should be done in schools, workplaces and communities. For when we know better, can do better. A lot of people feel "crazy busy" because we lack the knowledge on how to deal with overwhelming tasks.

“Be the reason someone smiles. Be the reason someone feels loved and believes in the goodness in people.” ― Roy T. Bennett

0:19 ... or even your year but I'll be there for you.

I really needed this! I’m not an ER doctor or even a doctor, but I struggle with anxiety and it’s been seriously affecting my physical health. I’m really grateful for this video, there is a lot of advice here that I’ve never heard before!

This doctor knows what to do. I was just going through that crazy life. her advice is helpful to me.

*Sressing about being stressed*

Very apt time for this video, I've been saying crazy busy more often during this pandemic. Triage is a concept I've used in the past, and I'll have to implement it into my work consistently. Thanks.

I always use it was a good day.

Loved the video, very clear and well spoken

Excellent; a useful way to view whats important and/or urgent. Enthusiastic and fluent. I also find that writing things down gets most of it out of my head, to be able to evaluate things, and focus just on priorities.

Thank you so much for talking argument. Doctors are very admirable persons. Lovely watching and listening to you here at the top of Italian mountain.

There are so many important messages here. Thank you very much Dr. Darria!!

WOW, a worthwhile TED Talk. Hope this is an indication they took public hints. Never panic is the best lesion I've learned, and try to share with others.

Amazing talk! As a working mom I was stressed out abt coming home and making dinner and clean up after. A friend suggested freezer meals. I am going to prepare and freeze big batches of the following: 1) tomato based sauces 2) cooked naan 3) Bolognese Sauce 4) burger Patty Also stocking up the boring grocery in bulk: 1) pasta sauce 2) cream 3) pasta 4) toilet paper 5) oil 6) tinned food Also clean up: clean up together as a family on Sunday. Involved everyone in laundry duty. Invest in a robotic vacuum cleaner It’s ok if there is no time to make the bed or if the dining table is a mess before you rush off in the mornings. Involved EVERYONE in cleaning these common areas.

Thanks Dr. Darria

What a brilliant ER analogy! Inspired by Dr Long's talk, I've started incorporating the triage system to better manage my sources of stress.

Needed this. Thanks

Really inspiring

I agree its a great idea to do things like make a schedule of meals for the week to reduce your decision making during the week. The challenge is coming up with that plan in the first place. It's less stressful to plan in advance, but not necessarily any easier.

Thank you, glad to watch this before my first day on call

I hope my parents have your mindset. They always pour their anger on me when they're on crazy mode.

"A culture is made -- or destroyed -- by its articulate voices."

What an amazing talk!!! thank you

This was EXCELLENT! Thank you!

I appreciate this and felt everything said-You spoke to me….

Great talk! Thank you!

great talk, very helpful for thinking about stress

The power of the words indeed.

An Amazing Piece - Very Insightful and Workable! Many Thanks for Sharing!

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While working to teach a nutrition biomedicine protocol at live events, covid19 stepped into the gap and forced me to cancel all marketing, including my geofence provider. As we had our closing meeting discussing 'what next', my associate, a former military soldier remarked, "always stay ready, to not get ready". Another mentor, Abraham-Hicks refers to this as "ready to be ready". The world is always changing and for whatever the reason may be that we are where we are, be happy, since you are already ready, for what comes next. May you and yours..Be In Good Health.

what a talk

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Excellent talk with a very practical approach

Fabulous talk!

Now everytime i get a minor stressful situation i remind ''no one is gonna die''

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00:04 Raise your hand, and be honest, if you've used the phrase "crazy busy" to describe your day, your week, your month. I'm an emergency-room doctor, and "crazy busy" is a phrase you will never hear me use. And after today, I hope you'll stop using it, too. 00:32 Here's why you cannot afford to use "crazy" to describe your busy. Because when we are in what I refer to as Crazy Busy Mode, we are simply less capable of handling the busy. Here's what happens. Your stress hormones rise and stay there, your executive function in the prefrontal cortex declines. That means your memory, your judgment, your impulse control deteriorate, and the brain areas for anger and anxiety are activated. Do you feel that? 01:07 Here's the thing. You can be as busy as an emergency department without feeling like you're crazy busy. How? By using the same tactics that we use. Our brains all process stress in similar fundamental ways. But how we react to it has been shown by research to be modifiable, whether it's emergencies or just daily, day-in, day-out stress. Now contrast Crazy Busy Mode with how I think of us in the ER -- Ready Mode. Ready Mode means whatever comes in through those doors, whether it's a multiple-car pileup, or a patient having chest pain while stuck in an elevator, or another patient with an item stuck where it shouldn't be. When you're know you're dying to ask. 01:56 (Laughter) 01:58 Even on those days when you would swear you were being punked, we're not afraid of it. Because we know that whatever comes in through those ER double doors, that we can handle it. That we're ready. That's Ready Mode. We've trained for it, and you can, too. Here's how. 02:22 Step one to go from Crazy Mode to Ready Mode is to relentlessly triage. In Crazy Mode, you're always busy, always stressed, because you're reacting to every challenge with the same response. Contrast that with Ready Mode, where we triage, which means we prioritize by degree of urgency. This isn't just a nice way to get your to-do list done. Work by Dr. Robert Sapolsky shows that individuals who cannot differentiate threat from non-threat and react to everything with the same response have double the level of stress hormones. Which is why this is the first skill to learn. You can't take care of them all at once, but you don't have to. Because we triage. 03:04 Red -- immediately life-threatening. Yellow -- serious, but not immediately life-threatening. Green -- minor. And we focus our efforts first on the reds. Now hear this. Part of the problem in Crazy Mode is that you are reacting to everything as if it is red. So start by triaging correctly. Know your reds. They're what is most important and where you can most move the needle. 03:38 Now it's easy to be confused by noise, but what it noisiest is not always what is most red. In fact, my severe asthmatic patient is most at risk when he's quiet. But my patient over here, demanding that I bring her flavored coffee creamer, she's noisy, but she's not red. 04:00 I'll give you an example from my own life. Last spring, my house flooded, my one-year-old was in the ER, I was supposed to do a fundraiser for my four-year-old's school and the final chapter of my book was beyond late. Maybe not ironically, that was the chapter on stress. 04:18 (Laughter) 04:20 My red tasks were getting my one-year-old better and finishing my book. That was it. Remember, relentlessly triage. The house flood repair? Well, once we had stopped and stabilized the damage, it was no longer a red. It felt red, but it was in fact just noise. No, no really, it was quite noisy, this picture on the far right is me wearing earplugs to focus on my book, while the floor is being mechanically dried around me. Know your reds, and do not let your non-reds distract you from them. 04:58 By the way, it is liberating with a green task to, every once in a while, be able to remind yourself, "That's a green task. No one's going to die." 05:06 (Laughter) 05:08 It's OK if it's not perfect. 05:13 Now there's one last triage level that we use in the worst scenarios. And that is black. Those patients for whom there is nothing we can do. Where we must move on. And although it is gut-wrenching, I mention it, because you each have your own equivalent black tasks in your life. These are items that you must take off your list. And I think many of you know what I'm talking about. For me, this was the fundraiser. I had to step down. Because as we in the ER know, if you try to do everything, you have no hope of saving your reds. 05:57 Step two to go from Crazy Mode into Ready Mode is to expect and design for crazy. Half of handling crazy is how you prepare for it. So if step one we triage, step two, we design to make those tasks easier to do. Science shows us that the more options we have, then the longer each decision takes. And the more decisions we have to make, the more exhausted our brain gets and the less it is capable of making good decisions. Which is why this step two is about finding ways to reduce your daily decisions. 06:32 Here are four easy examples you can use in your daily lifestyle. Plan. Plan your entire week's meals on the weekend, so that when it's Wednesday at 6pm and everyone's hangry and requesting pizza, you have no decisions to make to get a healthy meal on the table. Automate. Never leave anything to remember that you could automate, whether it's scheduling it as recurring or saved list, or recurrent purchases. Colocate. When it comes to exercise, store all the equipment that you need for a certain activity together, charged and ready, so you don't spend energy looking for it. And decrease temptations, for anyone driven by sugar cravings. Anyone? Say aye, go ahead. That itself is its own form of Crazy Mode and self-medication for Crazy Mode, but stop working your willpower. Design differently. If a food is out of immediate reach, such that you have to use a stool to reach it, even when it's chocolate, study participants ate 70 percent less without thinking about it. I know. Let that sit for a second. 07:47 (Laughter) 07:48 Design to make the choices you wish to make easier. 07:53 Which bring us to the third step to go from Crazy Mode to Ready Mode, and that is to get out of your head. Come with me. Different story. I'm working in a small, satellite ER, when a woman comes in in labor. I realize that the cord is wrapped not once but twice around the baby's neck. And I'm the only doctor. I was scared. But I couldn't let it derail me. Because, you see, we all get nervous. We all get scared, but it's what you do next that matters. That first feeling isn't the problem. It can be an important sign. The problem comes when we let it derail us. When that internal monologue starts and we catastrophize and we start to get that tunnel vision. That's how you think when you're in Crazy Mode, and you cannot solve anything that way. 08:56 Now I promise to come back to the story, but first, how do I get out of my own head? There are many tactics that you may hear, but for me, I find it best in the moment to actively put my focus on someone else. To deliberately make myself see the person in front of me, see myself in the arena with them -- what do they need, what do they fear and how can I help? This may sound like a whole lot of warm and fuzzy to you, but it's not. In fact, research shows that when you prime your brain with what is, essentially, compassion, we disrupt that tunnel vision and internal monologue. You widen your perception, so your brain can actually take in broader information, so you see more possibilities and can make better decisions. Try it. Know that your internal monologue can derail you. And realize that when you get out of your own head, you get out of your own way. 10:01 Now what happened to that baby? I focused not on my fear, but on the mother and the baby and what they needed me to do. And got the cord off of the baby's neck, and a healthy screaming, kicking baby arrived, just as the dad ran in from the parking lot, "Hi, you have a son, I'm Dr. Darria. Congratulations, you want to cut the cord?" 10:22 (Laughter) 10:23 And for a moment, the strong cries of a newborn drowned out the beeps and the sirens that are the normal sounds of the ER. But there was also something else. Because when I walked back out of that mother's room, I saw several of my other patients hovering nearby. I suddenly realized that despite their own problems that had brought them to the emergency room, they had all come together to root for this baby. And they now together shared in the joy. 10:59 Because that is what happens when you go from Crazy Mode to Ready Mode. Others notice. They want it too, they just don't know how, they just need one example. Which could be you. Own the busy. But stop calling it crazy. You've always had that ability. But now ... you're ready. 11:29 Thank you. 11:30 (Applause)

This was one of those "SYNCNICITY" moments for me. Thank you Dr Darria! I just finished final exams. Back to Uni at 33 with 3 kids, 2 of which are autistic, the other a toddler. My middle child also has a Liver transplant. My 2nd husband is lazy and my first is dead ( he committed suicide the day after I gave birth to my daughter who was fathered by my second husband) I work as a nurse in a busy hospital, my joints and muscles hurt from autoimmune issues and I live "CRAZY BUSY" but am capable of achieving despite that. But it's rough for me and my family. You spoke to my soul. Triage, it is.... Thanks again. P.S Love the Dress

This was surprisingly good

Interesting topic

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Great video. By the title I thought this would be about self medication with various pharmaceuticals.

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The triage system seems great when you need to recognize certain things are critical, other things are urgent, and the rest isn't. However, it doesn't seem helpful when the problem is the opposite: everything seems to be code green, but there is A LOT of it. And some of it is probably either actually yellow or at least needs to be elevated to yellow, but you're not sure what. I guess the hospital metaphor would be: imagine if 50 people all came into the ER at the same time with broken arms and the ER doesn't have any other patients. How do you decide in what order to treat them? And how do you stay focused on one patient at a time?

Engaging speaker!

Great talk, but I'm out of breath just listening to her!

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Awesome speech!

completely busy life

The speech style fits me quite well

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First to comment. Waiting for this episode. Love her speech ❤️

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An excellent presentation. Triaging my responsibilities.

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was I the only one laughing at the fundraiser joke ??

NAPERVILLE? REally?I got my M.A. at North Central College it was a small suburb with train service to Chicago,where my husband was assoc dean of the U of I Med Scool, then later Dental School, by then I was a PhD Stundent at Northeestern U. In Evanston. Sapolsky at Stanford is great. You can see lectures by him on RU-vid. If you are a psych student go there NOW to start his videos. LOok for Sapolsky Stanford...whole series of lectures on human behavior, animal based behavior, genetics, brain chemistry, neuroscience topics...its all there as SO GREAT! Sybil Francis PhD retired psychologist ych prof, academic admin.

At what point does this just become an infomercial for her book?

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A man sat in a hammock when he saw a man with sweat on his face. He asked him why. The man said he is on holiday and he has to organise sight seeing etc. Hammock man asked 'why'?. "because I have paid for this and now I have to enjoy it." "But why do you need a holiday?" "Because I am working very hard, every week and I am stressed." "But why do you work so hard?" "So that I can afford this holiday" With that the man in the hammock nodded and slept a little more.

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Crazy bussy life..sound like happy life..hahahha

From my experiences as ed nurse. The doctor less busy than nurse. We got their order. We do it. They just do something that we nurse cannot do(something that nurse not suppose to do). That's mean. We do more things than they are. Nurses are busier than they are in ed. We do soooo many things than they are. Based on my experiences. Maybe different in other hospital or other countries. Sorry for my english. Not my native language.

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I'm afraid my brain went into crazy mode trying to keep up with her frantic speaking pace and learn anything.

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This woman is manic and not to be believed. Success in any profession requires one to distinguish (1) what is urgent and important, from (2) what is not urgent but important, from (3) what is urgent but not important from (4) what is neither urgent nor important. But that's only part of the problem.. It is also very important to understand when things are spinning dangerously out of control and that control needs to be rapidly regained in order to avoid disaster. Establishing priorities is definitely part of doing that, but it is only part. It is equally important to know when you are dangerously outgunned and need to divert some of the important and urgent to others. "Crazy busy" is a real phenomenon. Denying that it exists doesn't make it go away. It is a problem that must be avoided if possible; managed when necessary; and acknowledged when intractable. And there are times when it is intractable and you must defer to others. A double (or triple) nuchal umbilical cord sounds scary, but it is actually usually pretty easy. The cord can usually be stretched and unwrapped without too much trouble. If all else fails, you can always cut it and deliver the baby. But that is not the same as having, for example, simultaneously an active massive obstetric hemorrhage, two q-wave MIs in cardiac and respiratory failure, a comatose patient in DKA, an MVA polytrauma patient in shock; an elderly patient in septic shock, a COPD patient who is exhausted from the work of breathing and about to respiratory arrest, plus who knows what other horrors lurking in the waiting room. That's crazy busy. It's real. It happens. Triage alone will not solve it. Only help from several other capable people possibly can.

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Western people, your capitalistic system do not let you other way of life then competing. Stop afraid the world around you, start cooperate with it and you will feel better

We can do it! Each country is under a severe attack, in Italy our freedom is at risk, our government has gone crazy. Fight for your freedom, we can fight altogether. I pray for all the world will win and become free from all this corruption. Red label in becoming free. Love and hugs from Italy ❤️

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Appreciate the Red Yellow Green. Appreciate the comparison of Crazy and Ready. But it might be bad timing to categorize the things that you have to remove off the list of things to do as Black. Get rid of the Black. Just bad timing.

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More upper class concerns Working class and poor people get a third job and shut up and serve leisure time isn't for you

Bailed on the fundraiser? What a slacker.