An Honest Convo About Shame 

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In a sea of terrible content on social media, that makes you feel ashamed about yourself, your body, your lack of accomplishemnts, here comes Grace being open and sharing about her feelings while also educating all of us who watch her! You are a breath of fresh air and you should be so proud of yourself!

Grace is my OG parasocial friend and im so grateful for her 13 years later ❤️

Oh no Grace, so sorry to hear about Goose - thanks for sharing her with us and what a great life you gave her.

Grace... I'm a 67 yo woman. IT IS SO EXCITING to see a young woman be not only open about shame, but sex toys too!!? I'm the youngest of 7 kids, yet sex was never discussed...weird huh? Your new bravado is A WONDERFUL by-product of such a horrible health crisis. You seem to be experiencing something most women dont do until around the age 50+. It's the I DONT GIVE A RATS ASS WHAT ANYONE FUCKING THINKS stage of life. REJOICE!! It takes most women too long to get past the "having to be nice" we've been taught. Look at the great strength you have now! ...and in the loss of your precious pup...I'm so sorry for the sudden emptiness in your heart. They give us so much love and we are lucky for the time they give us. You deserve that love like we all do.

the spiral of shame when you put yourself out there while also having shame for not succeeding is so brutal

I am SO sad to hear of Goose’s passing. She was a special soul. You are so loved.

I once had a professor explain shame as "when you feel that you don't live up to the person OUGHT to be" and that kinda stuck with me. For me shame has always been some sort of feeling of disappointing my ideal self.

Grace feels like she’s terrible at articulating how she feels (relatable) then proceeds to make the most articulate description of complex and overlapping feelings

I am a therapist, apparently ‘qualified’ to talk about the Feelings Things, and believe me, you did a great job. Shame stuff is the hardest, and vulnerability is the one hundred percent the tonic. Shame thrives in the shadows, and vulnerability.. turns the lights on? (Sure). Keep doing what you’re doing, you’re acing it. Also, I’m so sorry about Goose. What a gal. ❤️

The number of times I nodded in this video: ♾️ Also the concept of the internalized other literally blew my mind wide open

You’re fucking crushing it and I’m so impressed with the growth you’ve made in these past few years. It’s so refreshing seeing you just talk and be you and see you not hold back. I love it!

As someone who has spent 30+ years feeling immense shame for what feels like purely existing, this is very relatable content. I've been on my own journey of trying to learn to like myself, because well, I haven't ever, really. Learning to be vulnerable and talk about things and not just running and hiding is totally against my nature, but I'm trying. I'm here for more of this content on feelings, they're scary and uncomfortable, thank you for sharing yours with us. Hearing someone else talk about about it helps those of us that also struggle with it feel less alone

Crushing, repetitive self doubt at three in the morning? I know that club.

“you know, like belly-button piercings” 😂♥️😂

I really related to the part where you shared about how being vulnerable helps you. Something that helped me with this was the incredible book by Amanda Palmer called the art of asking. The audiobook read by her in particular. While it's billed as talking about how she as a musician and artist connected with her fans to ask for them to fund her music, it's really her talking about her life, her work, and her incredible desire to live connected to others in a truly honest and vulnerable way. Something that before reading never clicked for me as something that not only could be done, but that was hugely necessary as like, a person on the planet. Maybe not on the huge scale that she does- but in a day to day to the people I deal with kind of way. Connection is a huge shame buster. It helps us see that beauty isn't the thin shiny facades we are taught to cultivate- it's in the deeply rooted everything else that we all have in common.

So sorry about Goose, may her memory be a blessing.

grace, i have been following you for over 10 years now. girl have we been thruuuu it. your content has always felt so genuine and sincere and comforting. thank you so much for sharing your honesty and being so vulnerable. you have always inspired me in many ways, and today it has happened again. ive had anxiety my whole life and only in the last few years have i finally been able to tackle so many mental illness struggles. this is so relatable. you are such a rockstar. also sending you so much love about goose, she was the most beautiful pup and you were lucky to have each other

Grace as dumb as it sounds I out loud started fighting that shame/ guilt if the voices in my head are going to be loud my self love will be louder. It starts off very quiet and doubtful and eventually I just started speaking them louder. Maybe it helps that I disassociated with those voices a long time ago but if I was taught guilt and shame so deeply I internalized it then I will have to hear self love work louder to relearn it. I even do things for future me and thank past me it’s been weirdly helpful to think of myself as setting myself up for success even if that means just filling my bottle of water for the morning. I’m very here for this journey, Grace.

I don't know if it's social anxiety or shame, but I find it very hard to exist in public or even in my own home when there are other people around. The self-consciousness about my looks, my actions, my words, the way I speak, the way I smell, my microexpressions and unconscious movements just dial up to 100 in the vicinity of other people - even people I love and trust. I am very much an "I do not wish to be perceived" person irl. I can't even help a stranger in public or speak up for someone because shame (or overwhelming self-consciouness and desire not to be seen or heard) holds me back. But then I feel extra shame for not being helpful when I could have been. Anyway great video! 😂

In the spirit of vulnerability, I want to share some things that I admire about you, Grace. I know there is a separation in my saying this as I do not truly know you, but I know enough about you having watched you since your days in Brooklyn to appreciate and admire your intellect. I admire how adept and inclined you are to research what you do not know, and more so what you fear. I admire that you take your knowledge and apply it to your own experience, and that you share your discoveries with the community you have built by being your authentic self. I admire that you don’t stop at learning; you put your knowledge into practice; you DO the thing. You put in the work and I know that takes bravery. Speaking of bravery, articulating your feelings (big feelings!) so beautifully onto the internet is no small feat, especially for someone who is confronting her own patterns of internalized shame. And as if all that wasn’t impressive enough, you tackle these dense subjects with levity and satire, allowing those of us lucky enough to learn from you to relate with your message and carry on with feelings of optimism and community. I hope this next statement is taken the right way: You are a gifted comedian and a true artist, but I will always consider you an intellectual first, not because your comedy or art is less-than, but because I believe your brilliance stems from the way in which you navigate, experience, challenge, learn from, and share the world through your own lens. I am not alone in thinking the world is a better place because of you. I know that was a lot… but it’s been on my mind for a while now and I am working to share my feelings as well. ✨ SEX TOYS! 😮‍💨😂

The amount of respect and sheer appreciation I have for this woman, I could get emotional just thinking about it. Every video from Grace feels like a warm hug, not the icky ‘ew don’t touch me’ kind, but the kind where it’s just a shoulder to shoulder, arm around the other shoulder, just letting you feel acknowledged, and understood, whilst giving you the opportunity to understand them more too. To which you want to get to know, and empathize, and want to reassure that, as much as I appreciate you, I also see and appreciate who you are as a person. Essentially, listening to Grace’s two cents on things she’s figured out or in the process of figuring out, is such a meaningful transaction of thoughts and emotions, and when I introduce my friends to her content and they tell me they see a lot of her in my own personality, it is SUCH a huge compliment! I don’t even wanna get into Goose’s passing, cause I knew the day that amazing little creature died, I’d legitimately get so upset, so was sort of mentally prepared, but can’t even fathom having the strength I already know that you have Grace. I just hope you feel everything it is you need to feel, and that with time you find your peace with it, and the perseverance to continue to move forward as the remarkable person you are. That’s all for this long ass comment.

I would love more content like this. Right now I'm doing shadow work (Jung, Stutz, etc) and trying to process some of these deep emotions and feelings that are hard to grapple with. Shame is just one of many things I feel and am struggling with, so hearing somebody else explain how they are processing it helps me in my journey.

I also really struggle to identify my own feelings. Its weird and I'm embarrassed by it, because as a grown woman I feel like I should be able to put a name to what I'm feeling but its still hard sometimes. My therapist gave me an "emotion wheel" and it actually helps. Also thank you for talking about shame. I don't think I ever really thought about what shame was but thanks to you I'm now realizing that I deal with a lot of shame too. Please do more videos like this, this was really helpful and relatable.

The thing about “why are you bringing it up now when it’s always been there?” too is you get USED to hearing that voice to the point where it’s just in the background and it’s accepted that it’s there. The moment you bring it up is you trying to remove or repair that portion of your inner being. Especially when it’s not serving you (if it ever did) and absolutely when it’s contributing to making your life harder. Life is hard enough as it is, trying to make it livable shouldn’t be seen as bad or negative. Great video, great concept, and I look forward to the next chapter of your space here on the Internet!

Oh wow, The distinction between guilt and shame really helped me understand something that has happened recently. Thank you for this video!!

I’ve also recently stumbled upon the word shame. I’ve always been too ‘nervous’ to put myself out there. Hobbies don’t feel ‘worth it’, taking pictures of myself feel icky, and even trying therapy feels like I’m using up someone else’s time. I’m in the very first steps of working on self compassion and seeing your video pop up only days after I considered it is so relieving. I’ve been watching Alton, Marie, and Hannah for years and find comfort in the three of you. It feels like a friend it cheering me on. Thanks Grace!

Jesus Grace. I had to really think about what you meant when you said ‘emotionally dyslexic.’ But then I got it!! And every single thing after that. It was like listening to myself finally find the words. Pleeeease be nice to yourself!!! What a gift you are. And thanks for opening doors like these sometimes. 💜💜💜

This almost seemed like a ContraPoints video, hehe. Imagine, a crossover between Daily Grace and ContraPoints, Grace Helbig and Natalie Wynn. I would totally watch that.

I work with my therapist on shame every week. It's a fickle binch

I'm not going to lie, vulnerable but still darkly humorous Helbig might be my favorite version of Grace I've had over the last decade or so.

This was honestly a glass shattering moment for me and felt like a new puzzle piece fitting perfectly into my understanding of myself. It is always hard for me to remember that, for the most part, people aren’t looking for or thinking about my flaws. I hope that I’m on my journey to enjoying myself too. Thank you so so much for sharing 💖

I used to struggle with unwanted thoughts and / or memories.. but for the most part, I don't anymore. I used the hold every thought captive technique. Don't just let your mind wonder.. unless it's a positive thing for you. If it's often more negative, train yourself to truly hear and know what your mind is saying. Think of it like how when we talk out loud, there can be pauses to say exactly what you are trying to express to someone else. My thoughts sound exactly how I sound when I speak with my mouth. There is no other voice in my head. There is no bully in there. If a thought or memory tries to pop in, and say, hey! Remember when blah blah blah, I imagine those words being flushed down the toilet. I don't really do that anymore. Sometimes, I'll just say no outloud when negative thoughts try to poke through. I don't know if any of this is helpful, but I wanted to try and describe what has helped me. Love your videos always

Seriously Helbig? Awkward Much? Eeeeeeghhhh. That KILLED ME

So relatable, wow. Would never have thought Grace struggles with this level of shame. If anyone's looking for good books for working with shame, "The Drama of the Gifted (or sensitive) Child" and "Healing the Shame that Binds You" are life-changing.

I think it's worth mentioning that self-compassion and caring for and about yourself-treating yourself with kindness- takes a lot of energy and time! It's JUST like taking care of another person. We have to feed ourselves, wash ourselves, clean up after ourselves, give ourselves treats and presents, encourage ourselves, and so on. When I think about it that way, it makes me more motivated and I feel like it's worth the energy and time to be compassionate towards myself.

I appreciated the definition of guilt vs. shame. As a gen x, shame was used to control my behavior. Keep going! You're killing this new era!!

Grace, you just helped me identify why I’m not allowing myself to pursue what I love. I thought I was being “stupid” or making my feelings up, but now I know what to call it. I am in a shame spiral that has been going on for years…actually, more like a decade and some change. I’ve been watching your videos for a long time - like, New York long time, and you have always made me laugh, cry and think with your content. Keep sharing because it’s going to help so many more of us millennials into putting a name to what we’re feeling. I also lost my dog recently and I know how hard it is. Goose will always be part of the Grace Helbig internet space. ❤

I’ve been following you a looong time and it’s kinda great that I’m still getting to know you and you’re still a positive influence to me as an adult. Genuinely, thank you. Very much appreciated.

Holy shit Helbig. What a relief and revelation it is to hear someone I've watched for over a decade verbalise something I've struggled with my entire life. THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU. I'm still very much on my journey of self love and kindness, but one thing that has always helped, even in the darkest of days, is knowing that you're not alone in the way you're feeling. Thank you for using your platform to speak on these things.

“They are not that scary some of them are just fucking annoying” 100%

Embrace Change. Embrace Strange. Much love to you Grace. I'll miss seeing Goose around 🧡

What helped me a lot with that was thinking about how other people are so wrapped up in their own heads that they are not worried about you. That made me feel less alone - that lots of people are also freaking out and also worried about how they are perceived I also thought about how many times I actually remembered someone else doing something weird. There’s not a ton. Now, I think it’s not only that other people are stuck in their own heads, but that other people have patience and assume good intentions. I like thinking about how, for example, when you do a presentation, people want you to do a good job. They want you to succeed. Someone taught you to be self-conscious (maybe a lot of things), but most of the world aren’t that person or people. That’s also a good reminder but that’s a tougher one to remember lol

I just admitted my shame to my partner yesterday. This was so validating, thank you!

I'm so sorry to hear about Goose. I have a cat who's very naughty and bitey and hates everyone except for me (and even me some days) but I love her very much and I dread the day I have to let her go. Because of my experiences with her, I can truly understand your complex feelings about Goose, and I can well imagine your pain, too. My thoughts are very much with you.

Goose 🪿 old lady! Thank you for taking care of Grace all these years ❤ So many people will miss you.

Yes! Dude, as someone with childhood trauma and shame- based thinking patterns, compassion focused therapy (CFT) has been transformative for me. 10/10 would recommend -- even if just the CFT meditations paired with journal writing.

Oh, sweet goose. Be proud of the life you gave her. I hope she visits you in your dreams. Sending love.

This video was so incredible. I love hearing your thoughts on this and it made me think about my own relationship with shame

Yes, more videos! Shame has been present in my life since day one. Probably because of attachment issues but also struggling with the symptoms of undiagnosed Adhd (got diagnosed when I was 17). Adhd is great at creating situations to feel shameful about and rejection sensitive dysphoria is fantastic fuel for shame-spiralling so.. good things allround. Body dysmorphia is a fun one too, it's like a theme park for shame.

It feels so good to hear you say back exactly what I have dealt with my entire life. It's crazy that so many share the same patterns of shame and anxiety, it's so isolating.

I think you are doing awesome Grace. Keep on being you.... You're really helping others as you help yourself. You are worth the world... you are a blessing and worthy of the world.

All I have to say to this entire video is SAME! SAME SAME SAME for SO LONG my god. Love this.

Thank you for sharing this, Grace! It makes me feel less alone in my own journey with shame. RIP GOOSE ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

I'm so sorry for your loss, Grace. Once again, you hit me and all my anxieties right on the head. We left a door open last year and our cat went through it and never came back. I never thought anything like that could ever happen to me. That was shame. I failed as a human and a pet owner. A month later, I adopted one of the most unadoptable cats, who is scared of her own shadow (like me). I feel that kinship with her that you felt with Goose. I fear she'll run away too, someday. That will always be in the back of my mind. Anyway ... I love these episodes of Grace Has Feelings! It helps me feel less alone in my own journey. Keep 'em coming!! ❤

I'm so sorry about Goose! She was a lovely part of your videos and you took great care of her. Shame is such a complex emotion, because it can sometimes lead us to making more moral, ethical (or even just legal) decisions, but too often, it's just a way to ruminate and spiral over things that we blow up into larger issues than we need to. Be kind to yourself, because Goose would say you were very kind to her.

Your whole video made perfect sense and you did an amazing job of communicating what shame is. And honestly, I needed to hear this right now. I’m just like you. Shame is a constant in my life. I just went through a move and it reeeallyyyy brought out the shame and loneliness (the loneliness because I also retreat from others due to the shame). I’m really proud of myself for being able to do the whole move with very little help, but it shouldn’t have been that way, and my shame is the reason for it. ANYWAY, thank you so much for this video. I love this new era of Grace 😍❤️🫶🏻

Very relatable!!! This year I’ve started realizing how much shame I have and how much it impacts me all the time. Started counseling because what the heck!!!! It’s heavy

On a real note, I am so sorry to hear about Goose, losing a pet is as as painful as losing a close family member. Thank you for sharing, I have also been tackling replacing shame with selflove and recognizing guilt to make a difference in things. I’ll be checking out your podcast I didn’t know it existed. I don’t always watch your videos but with the way I was so obsessed with you as a young tween and teen, I’ll always be sending love and light your way. also, my teachers used to look at me so weird when I would wear my dressed to repress sweater LMAO

You are an academic tho… you did the thing! I mean you don’t have to be one to share what you learned about yourself and humans in general, but you are one!

YES MORE TALKING ABOUT YOUUR FEELINGS PLEASSSE

Also I feel for you and goose. My childhood dog is at the end of his journey and we're having such a hard time letting him go, it's truly painful and I can only share my empathy with you grace and anyone else going through stuff like this. There's no words to make anyone feel better, just... We're going through it, and understanding is more than enough to ask and to give.

I used to believe completely that my inner critic was actually my own voice. It knew everything about me and had to be correct in its assessment of me and how horrible I was because it was coming from me (and I would know). It made me hate myself. I realized (through therapy and Alex Howard on RU-vid) that #1 nobody wants to hate themselves and #2 the inner critic is borne out of a voice from our past that criticized us before we could think for ourselves. That’s when I learned how to identify and kill my inner critic in one easy step - I told it to eff off. Inside my own mind, I felt it like Beowulf destroying Grendel as it shrunk down to nothingness and lost its power to keep me mired down in despair and for the first time in 50 years, I felt absolutely free. Shame is useless and is a byproduct of the inner critic. It doesn’t deserve to be heard or understood because it developed from abuse, so kick its ass and don’t look back! ❤️

Very familiar. The self criticism and shame even into my 40’s was an unexpected gift that just keeps giving. 💜

I’ve been in therapy for nearly two years now talking about the same things. This really hit home for me ❤ it’s nice to know I’m not the only one learning to love myself in my thirties

Well, this couldn't be more timely. You mention a lot of the things I'm dealing with right now as well. When you talk about making all these subconscious processes conscious, I think that's a major step. At least for me recognising the problem as a problem and not as a given, innate mode (as thoughts tend to feel) changed a lot already. Thanks for talking about this!

Even though a lot of this video didn't directly apply to me, being emotionally literate is our generations jam! I love these videos and I hope you'll continue them.

You felt compelled to make this, and you spoke to me directly. I recently started therapy over my anxiety and shame. You aren't alone. Idiot over here, too. Thank you for this video (and all your videos!)

I, myself fell like a waste of space and have been and still treat myself so badly. I think I can pinpoint the moment when I started down this road. I was in middle school and I got humiliated by my peers that to this day it makes me want to not exist. I’m 42 and I struggle bad, and I tear up being vulnerable on the internet but I’m doing so I want to let you know that you at least make me smile. Ty grace for your time :)

I related to this video so much! I started watching you when I was a teenager and I’ll be 30 this year. Your content has seen me through my whole adult life and this video really hit home. I have so much shame which held me back from so many things in life and I’m learning to let go of it. You’ve helped me grow into an adult who younger me would love! Thanks Grace 🫶🏼

Rest in peace, Goose 💝 may you be wearing shirts just for fun now, wherever you are

Grace I’ve been watching your videos since your early RU-vid days and I’m 26 now, you have helped me in unmeasurable ways by simply being yourself and putting yourself out there to the world. As a fellow introvert with high anxiety, ADHD, and other mental health issues, as well as having struggled with an ed for many years (talk about shame being able to rule over your life lol) you have always been a person who eased the stress of these things for me, through your humor, kindness, and transparency you helped me feel less shame about being open about my own experiences. Your video response to ‘dear fat people’ is something I’ve watched repeatedly because it truly helped heal my shame and have more self empathy as well as more understanding of why others try to inflict shame as a weapon, you are so raw and open in that video and it made me feel so seen and understood, I’ll always be grateful for that. You humor and honesty, and embrace of the stupidity of life has truly made me a better person, one who I’m proud (ish) to be. I’m more confident in being myself because of you! So, not that it’s easy, I hope you feel no shame in talking openly and honestly about this stuff because it’s the stuff that has made me such a huge fan of you for so long and that has made the most difference in my life. Thank you for sharing, please continue 💚

I’m picturing Mulan singing to her reflection in a puddle of bile…. Yes I do see something that resonates

Thank you for making this video Grace! The vulnerability and research you put into it is so appreciated.

This video was a crazy awakening for me… I have always thought guilt and shame to be the same thing, not necessarily two sides of the same coin. & I feel like this really helped me differentiate fault in past situations. Im so happy you made this

In a similar era of trying to feel the feelings and hearing this really does help to make the journey less lonely and feel a little more achievable. Thanks for this❤

I would love more videos like this, Grace! I've been a fan of yours for years mostly because I really related to you, especially due to the self deprecating humor and silliness you approached life with. But I'm really happy to see this new era where you've become more in touch with your feelings and trying to improve on yourself and guide others to do the same. I always thought I had a pretty good sense of self, but from listening to you talk about shame, it made me realize that I have long been struggling with it without realizing the name for it. I spend a lot of time thinking about how people think poorly of me. The line you said about feeling like you're an idiot in hiding really struck a chord. I often worry about not being perceived as smart and just constantly beating myself up about it and being afraid to speak in fear of coming across dumb and being judged. The reason I poke fun at myself a lot of the time is so that someone else doesn't take the first swing. I try so hard NOT to look insecure but without actually facing those insecurities myself and learning to love myself. I feel like I've been slowly making strides to accept myself in recent years, but there's definitely more I can do to practice self-compassion. So thank you for sharing and being vulnerable❤ Also sending my condolences for your loss, Goose was a special girl and you were clearly the best dog-mom for her! 🐾

If you still doubt about the utility of these convos, pls don't because I learn so much and I love when people simply try. Shame is a such a hard feeling to identify and let go, I feel you. I am so sorry for your loss, truly I have been through the same last month with my 13 years old dog. Same feeling for me : shame and guilt of not being enough for him lately and thinking I was the reason he left... we need time and indulgence ❤

I have always felt like I am not good enough and overthink everything. I still think about things that happened in high school, I am 49 yrs old. Trauma causes shame to become part of the normal thinking for some. I have finally taken a stand for myself and it has been a journey both good and super difficult. But I totally understand how the new you needs to live differently. I am now living for me and trying my best to keep my boundaries and be authentic. Love how you approach things. Thanks for the chat.♥️

I'm only a few seconds in and I just screamed, "NOOOO... Goooooose!" I am so so sorry to hear this, Grace.

So sorry for your heartbreaking loss. It is never easy esp if you feel any sort of guilt about it. All I can say is let yourself feel your grief. It is real. You loved Goose and you gave her a loving home. I feel her loss too. Thanks for sharing her with us 💔💔💔😢😢😢💕💕💕

I just identified shame in a therapy session a few weeks ago, I’ve felt it so much through my life but I never knew what it was called, I’d refer to it as “the gross feeling.” The feeling I’d get when I sacrificed who I am and my authentic self to fit in, to exceed the expectations of those around me. To fit into the norms of my environment and intern, to be safe.

I had my dog for 16 years and she was put to sleep in January. I truly feel your connection and relationship you had with Goose. I’ve been watching you for 12 years and I know you how much you loved her. The emptiness has really hurt me and caused me emotional turmoil but it’s a part of life that we can’t deny. The shame I feel for her death feels misplaced and strange, but it’s nice to know that I am not alone in this feeling. I’m sorry to hear about Goose and I’m sending well wishes your way. ❤

Confession time....I work in mental health and have struggled with anxiety my whole life. BUT, I've never separated out guilt and shame for myself! I feel like this will help me and my clients. Thanks for doing videos like this!

I admire SO MUCH the way you’ve shared your journey and struggles and growth over the last year. I semi accidentally acquired a fear/reactive pup around the same time you got goose and I’ve always felt a kinship to you in JUST HOW difficult (and confusing and sometimes guilt inducing) it can be to manage a dog you love with those needs. One more than one occasion I’ve literally thought to myself “Grace Helbig has her shit together and she deals with this just fine so DO IT!”. Lol! My heart goes out to you, she’s such a lucky girl to have had you 🩷 when I was little my mom would tell me she believed our spirits had met before we were born and decided to be family, perhaps that is the case for you and goose as well 🥲 this video is informative and moving and you’re still funny as hell!

Sorry to hear about Goose, I remember she barked during one of your videos and you said "That's it princess, protect the palace" (Well, I thought it was funny)

Oh Grace, I'm so sorry to hear that you lost Goose. She was wonderful and such a presence over the years in your videos. I'm glad you had 11 years with her and you have so many videos of her. In regards to you conquering cancer, I'm so relieved and happy that you (and Hank) are okay. Love you girl! 💕

Okay so keep doing these monologues, I´m learning something and I also feel not so alone with my feelings and with my shame and anxiety and what not. Thanks Grace!

I’m so sorry for your loss regarding goose. I lost my little guy back in April last year. 14 and a half years we were together, pup to senior, and his passing was peaceful and in my arms. And I found a lot of comfort in that. 😌🕊️ But without him the house was so quiet. I wasn’t prepared for how empty I’d feel without him. I lost purpose there for a minute, I didn’t have this little guy to take care of anymore. Who even was I with Ollie? I still miss him, I always will. But a year later I have a new pup and he gets me up in the morning, to feed him, to go to the park. We don’t realise how much we need them as much as they need us. I still talk about Ollie any time I can, I never repress his memories and I always recount a tale with a smile. I felt guilty loving again. Though I know that’s what he’s want for me, a dog person without a dog is just a person. 😫 it doesn’t feel right.

You’re the best. We’re the same age. I’ve been watching since Daily Grace. I remember when you adopted your dog. You have been a constant in my life for over a decade. Thank you for everything.

I'm so sorry for your loss. I lost my soul dog about 3 years ago, and I miss her so much still. RIP Goose

This is so relatable and something I’ve been working on too. It always helps to share it and to hear others share it too. I’ve watched your videos for long enough to remember when you got Goose. I’m so sorry. What a good, wild girl she was. I have been loving how open and vulnerable you’ve been with your emotions over the past year. I feel like your content has grown and evolved alongside you as a person, which seems to be tricky on the internets. It’s super appealing to me as a person trying to grow and evolve as well. I’m def here for more of these talks if you want to share.

Wowowow thank you for making this video, so many things clicked for me! Saving this to my favorites because I know my shame ridden brain is gonna need to hear this again 😅

I feel like I’m speaking for everyone in this community that we are so proud of you for doing this and sharing such a vulnerable topic. It’s so incredibly relatable. I’m in a chapter of my life where I’m really prioritizing practicing self love and compassion and you’re right, it’s so fucking hard sometimes! But baby steps in progress is still progress. Thank you for posting this video. I appreciate it and you soo so much.

I started watching your videos in college and they carried my through grad school, where I was studying to be a mental health therapist. Now I am that mental health therapist. So, thank you for the laughs that carried me through school and the real vulnerability that truly connects and heals.

I feel so seen listening to you talk about your shame, anxiety, and desire for external validation. I feel seen hearing about you trying to figure out what’s next and how you can begin living in a different way than before

I went through my own cancer journey last year. It definitely made me want to examine my life and what I actually want and need from it. So much of what Grace said was enormously relatable. Particularly about needing to learn to be kind to yourself. That's a lesson I'm having to learn again and again. It's easy to know that you need to do it. Actually putting it in practice - not so much.

Also I started tearing up just thinking about writing myself a letter from someone else so thank you for that suggestion, I think I definitely needed it

You rock, couldn't have been easy, thanks Grace. Please do more, so glad I found you again as I go through my own self-knowledge journey. Feelings are buried and naming them is hard, so this helped massively as I feel the same way often. Lovely to hear from you, stay strong. Keep up the good work ❤

I clicked on this video without expecting much in terms of learning something new - I left dumbstruck!!! I've never heard all of this before nor have I ever tried making sense of these sort of feelings like this SO THIS IS SUCH HUGE HELP. Thank you Grace for bringing this perspective in my life.