An Unorthodox Approach To Conflict Resolution 

I had a problem with a coworker once that was soo bad that one of the owners told the both of us "you two have to figure this out, or your both fired." A week later my coworker said that he was going to dig my grave for me. So knowing that I'm walking a thin line in this conflict, I did what any self respecting person would do. I found a shovel gave it to him and said get to work. I was unaware that the owner of the company saw the whole display of us "figuring it out." So when he called me later that day to his office I was nervous that my coworker went to him to rat me out, and sure enough he did. The owner then asked me my side of events, after explaining my side I was fully ready for the bad news, and that I'd have to look for a new job. I was surprised when the owner smirked at me and said forget about it, get back to work your problem will be fired by the end of the week. Moral of the story, not everybody can work together, out perform your problem, be a strong asset to the company, be invaluable and your conflict will get worked out.

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THAT OLD LADIES MESSAGE STUCK INTO HIS HEAD. SHE GAVE HIM SOME WISDOM AND HE SAW VALUE IN IT. THAT'S THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN LEADERS AND FOLLOWERS. OUR PROBLEM IN SOCIETY IS WE DON'T ONLY WANT ANSWERS FOR OUR QUESTION. WE WANT IT RESOLVED FOR US WITHOUT LIFTING A FINGER. GOOD LUCK TO YOU PATRICK.

Honesty is a great virtue to teach your children, aswell as accurate thinking without emotion involved. Brilliant lesson learned.

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If you want to teach them conflict resolution make them share a room and sleep on bunk beds. I shared a room with my 2 brothers my whole life, they were annoying but we had no choice but to figure out how to get along.

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This one hit right between the eyes!!

I did the same thing with my boys. Works great!!!!!!! Good lesson.

Great story

LOVE IT!!!! Reminds me of my dad when me and my brother used to fight a lot.

You made my day thanks.

I laughed my ass off 😂…. A good lesson on conflict management 👍🏻

🤣 just send him I’ll stay home, awe man these kids are soooo funny.I’m definitely going to try this method with my 4 1/2 and my 9 year old there constantly going back and forth.

Creative!!

This is so smooth

Great advice, Patrick!!! I make it a habit that whenever I present to my boss a problem (job-related), I have at least three solutions/paths forward for him to choose from. This shows that I researched the issue thoroughly for the best possible outcome and that I respect his time because he hired me to be a thinker/problem-solver/figurative firefighter, not an office drone. It also prevents friction if the boss provides a solution I don’t like because I didn’t think it through or provide input.

Yo what if there was a CEO who just smacked employees (HE WOULD BE IN RUSSIA FOR SURE)

Why is it so funny imagining a kid saying his kid brother is driving him crazy? Lol just wait kid. Juuuuust wait. Lol

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Oh man this shit does not work, especially in hostile environments like the Bronx, people don’t like people..people don’t like their jobs that much either..this ain’t Disney world we live in ..this advice may sound good in a movie, nine times out of ten this shit does not work in reality ..

I wish I got sent to boarding school

This is classic PBD - damn this man is good!! His staff are lucky to have such competent and wise leadership helping them become better workers and people

As the youngest and the runt I fended for myself by not complaining. I would just set booby traps😃. This one goes to my brother who crashed and burned due to a trip wire set up at night. You’re welcome 😂. I did indirectly snitch when I was 5 and told my dad out of nowhere I don’t smoke. What do you mean you don’t smoke? I am not saying who, but I know I don’t smoke😂😂.

Id enjoy having yhis guy as an employer

LOL I spent 13 years in prison, with people I hated. And o was a very violet guy in the street. A gangster. But I taught myself to rein in the monster so I could survive. We can all adapt and adjust. Takes character or moxie. If you can’t adapt, you are too weak to survive. Many can’t. But those who do are the ones who become champions. Kids have to adapt.

You’re a great dad

Came for buisness advise. Left with wise father knowledge. Thank you.

What if they had called your bluff?

It's never too late to be what you might've been, if you can dream it, you can do it so trust yourself that you can do it and get it. I hope my message save some souls! Thanks for reading 💕💕💕

Yep, great story though not so unorthodox, effective response by any manager to expect an 'adult-adult' relationship rather than treat leaders like the 'parent' who's gonna fix things for them.

I usually get authorities involved right away to resolve conflicts.I learned from America's mayor Rudy Smollett ❄️

So, if u saved the $100,000/yr then give it to me and I'll go to boarding school.

A similar concept to when parents get used to being "parented" by the family law courts & lawyers.

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Iranian, I was fishing on the San Juan. I cleaned 3 nice ones on the bank. An hour later I returned to the spot to find my pocket knife, that I had left. A 6'4" Iranian approached and handed me back my knife... Can't seem to stop chewed on that...

Very well said

Thank you for this video! I never knew how to resolve such an issue between workers and always end up acting like a therapist...

Good advice but with one caveat. If there is a mental illness in the mix the rules won't work. Some personality disorders or depression you can forget it.

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This assumes that both sides are willing (or could be coerced) to work towards a common goal. Unfortunately, that is not usually the case and there isn't much you can realistically do about it in most organizations.

Great video. We'll laid out. Easy to understand. Highly, highly relatable. And definitely a skill I'm going to work on with myself going forward. Thank you Pat and the team.

NCOs, threaten to send your soldiers to A co.! 😂 Then setup surprise meetings for those that can't get along.

I didn’t agree with the boarding school part at all, but what you said at the end and the way you handled the situation at your firm, scheduling a meeting for both employees after following up on them, that’s gems 💎

But you used fear trauma, to ignite the resolution thinking. Slippery slope.

i fuck with him my parents flew from iran an had to struggle in germany alot we were never able to reflect and perfect things now im getting older i realy aprecciate patrick telling me things i know deep down inside but hadnt had the time to structure and evaluate all the years not just him this ind of content or books that reflects this things thanks

Wow pat that was a really good lesson. Thanks for sharing your leadership lessons it's really helping me with my leadership adventure.

I don't understand how people end up in conflicts, so it must take two to fight.

Wow Patrick.. that was mind blowing... thank you

I mean if it was me I would have just did twice what he did back and call it a day. Then say I love you five seconds later. lol.

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Loved how you’re older son purposes to only send Dylan in order to save money… this guy haha

Thank you for this conversation. Blessings

Great advice pat. Straight forward, love it

As a kid I ASKED my parents to send me to boarding school 😂 would’ve jumped at that!!

ahhhh...so you're doing what trump does !!!

Leaders not leaners, winners not wieners... got it

It's so funny my mom use to threaten me and my sister with boarding school all the time. The only thing is Pat, with a leader like you it is possible to confront your peers because you will have their back. The problem comes when your leader doesn't have your back.

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Hahaha brilliant. Tuff love

Woww, i really looooove this idea. Thanks so much for sharing this incredible story Pat... You are the best!! 👏👏👏❤️👍👍👍👍

that's good, thank you Patrick! BTW, in my nursing leadership book, they teach exactly this. You're supposed to approach the person you're in conflict with first then you move on to supervising staff.

This was awesome.

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Awesome pat, unfortunately some ‘leaders’ enjoy ‘helping’ 😉

Great minds think alike. Good job Pat. PS I'm already subscribed long time ago, but will definitely give a thumbs up like always.

Wowwww

Pat was doing his thing in the closet

Good advice. Thank you

Great video! I have 3 daughters who most of the time don’t need my help to settle issues.

This guy is Amazing. I love his content and how relatable it can be.

Hey Patrick when you said you were “doing your thing in the closet” what did that mean?

Great teaching. They need to learn to get along and resolve differences. Great way to force them to get along.

Cold blooded… one of the best story tellers and resourceful dudes in the game. Powerful vid

Great strategy PBD!! I hope I get to work with you one day.

Fu***in amazing Pat!!

Great lesson #Respect

Good leadership advice but can’t say the same as parenting advice. The reason his example worked for his kids is because the kids have a good life of no financial struggles. They have everything at home. The average Family anywhere in the world doesn’t have the quality of life his kids have. Most kids in poor communities would not care less where you send them. They would probably challenge you if you threatened them with sending them away. It would just mean that their father didn’t care to send them away. Kids that have nothing to lose will not care about threats like that.

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Great video Pat!

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Make sense!

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You crack me up. Great parenting.

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Wow loved it.. Great lesson

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I know the lesson is supposed to be about reducing conflicts in the workplace, but some threats such as boarding school in a dysfunctional home or dysfunctional workplace is never going to work. You have to be sure that your company culture or your family values are productive functional and that everybody is held accountable even the boss.

Love it! Great points.

this is so powerfull!

So simple, but deep !

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