Analysis of Evan Rachel Wood's Sexual Abuse Allegations Against Marilyn Manson 

"It's not just courageous the first time, it's courageous every time" That was very touching Dr Grande, thank you!

"The time to give support is immediately, a month later, ten years later, all the time." 😢 Yes. Wise and kind words.

Since Manson's lawsuit has came about, I would love to see an update on this situation

I was molested from the time I was four to 10. It was my dad’s sister’s husband. I don’t call her my aunt because she said I “seduced him” and I don’t call him my uncle. I call him “it.” They aren’t “my” anything. He didn’t directly tell me not to say anything, but my dad was an abusive, angry man so I think: I was a prime target and I wouldn’t say anything because of how my dad was. I don’t trust people right away and actually have a long list of characteristics that I need in order to trust someone. Right now the only person I trust is my husband. Before it died, I wrote him a four page letter, front and back, telling him how what he did affected my life. My dad and brother continued to see this man, and after it came out in the open my dad asked/said “He didn’t really do that to you, did he?” How he was caught: he used to like to take me to the beach (grew up in So Cal). He would use this opportunity to rub sunscreen on me (this is hard to write) and a man saw him doing it and said he was going to call the police, which he did. It was arrested, I was taken to the Orange County courthouse or some building and they made me reenact the abuse with dolls. It was humiliating. When my parents arrived they made me tell them, also humiliating. It told my dad “I didn’t hurt her!” Meaning physically, but the abuse was intertwined in every romantic relationship I’ve had, how I saw myself, how I thought everyone else saw me, the works. My parents never talked to me about it at all after that. It was swept under the rug and life went on

I wish my mother could understand all this. Just because my abuser died doesn’t mean my emotional problems are over. He got away with it. It never goes away.🤠❤️

Wife (telling me about a argument with a coworker): so what do you think? Was I wrong? Me: I’m not diagnosing anybody here just speculating on what might be going on in a situation like this

Marilyn Manson is now suing Evan Rachel Wood for defamation

Hope you will consider doing an updated video with Marilyn Manson defamation against ERW and all other things that have been brought to light (forging an FBI letter, huge issues with one of his accusers etc ) Probably a lot to dig into

The thing about SA is it doesn’t just negatively effect the survivor, it effects every single relationship that survivor has for the rest of his or her life. There are still moments 30 years and lots of therapy later, my husband has to deal with the consequences of one man’s actions towards an innocent child. My children don’t know it, but it effects them as well, they don’t go on sleep overs, their relationships with adults get constantly scrutinized and are kept at a distance. Some men I’ve come into contact with get immediately distrusted, through no fault of their own, because of that abuser. It is truly a crime that keeps on “giving”. It gets better, and it gets easier, but it never goes away.

As a survivor, I cried like a baby when you were saying how to support victims. Thank you for making this video and explaining the signs and how to help, people often have the best intentions but don’t realize how long the pain stays with you.

My heart breaks because there are so many comments here by people surviving abuse. I was never sexually abused. I can't even imagine the hurt and betrayal by someone that is supposed to love you. I'm 55 years old and it can still bring me to tears and I will literally quake with fear when I think of my first grade teacher. She terrorized me for the entire year I had her. She was cruel and sadistic. Worst of all she convinced me not to tell my mother because my mother would be so disappointed with me if she knew what a bad girl I was. My mother was a widow who of course work full-time supporting me and my five other sisters. This woman convinced me that I was just a bad and worthless child. I was paddled with the board on numerous occasions. This was the first time in my life I have ever been struck by anyone. I would sit in my chair and worry what I would do next that would make her paddle me. I can think of two occasions that were absolutely ridiculous reasons to paddle me. I took too long getting tissues out of the nurse's office. The most ridiculous one was that I pretended I had Amnesia while I was playing at recess. I had seen it the night before on Gilligan's Island. I can remember often being stood up before my fellow classmates and ridiculed as they were encouraged to join in. I started not wanting to go to school. My mother couldn't understand why so she took me to a psychiatrist to talk to me to see if there was an issue. Of course after I spoke to the psychiatrist I watched my teacher then come into the office and speak with the psychiatrist. I remember that I lied to the psychiatrist about everything. I was so certain I was going to be locked up in an institution and taken away from my mother. It was many years later that I told my mother about what I went through. In the year 2000 they had a special ceremony at the elementary school. She no longer taught first grade but she remained a teacher in the school district until her retirement. I went to that ceremony with the plan to confront her. She didn't recognize me at first but when I started to remind her of all the different reasons she paddled me she knew my name right away. Shortly after I started speaking I began to cry but I was able to ask her if she thought that the above-mentioned reasons she paddled me we're justified. I reminded her how we both went and saw that psychiatrist because my mother couldn't understand why I didn't want to go to school. She had a shocked look on her face and look very uncomfortable because there were people around listening to the conversation. Because I was crying as I spoke I am pretty sure she is the only person that knew what I was talking about. I again asked her if she felt that striking a six-year-old with a piece of wood was OK. She said no and said " well all I can say is I am sorry and aren't we lucky that times have changed and we've learned so much from all those years ago." She use the old well that's how things were back then. Her excuse for what she did to me were it was just how they taught in the 70s. I apologize for the long and rambling story that has nothing to do with sexual abuse. I shared it for two reason. The first reason I shared it was because I wanted people to understand that abuse of any kind has a long-term impact on people. The abuser just gets to move on to their next victim. The victim gets to live with the abuse and it's Impact for the rest of their lives. The second reason I shared my story is because I want to say that Susan Schneider my first grade teacher at Willow Street Elementary, in the Lampeter-Strasburg school district, in West Lampeter Township, Lancaster PA was my abuser.

“The insecurities are more pronounced because of the abuse itself… so it’s this vicious cycle that rewards the abuser for gaslighting. Their ability to gaslight becomes enhanced due to their own abusive behavior- the more the perpetrator commits abuse, the more they can blame the survivor for what is happening to the survivor.” - This is profound, Dr. Grande.

Your respect for abuse survivors is part of the reason I follow you. You are a person of dignity and grace, and I appreciate you so much.

For me, one sentence summarises our society's attitude towards abuse: "I saw it but thought it would not get any worse". As long as we think such behaviour is OK in small doses, nothing will change where abuse is concerned. When is abuse - any kind of abuse - ever OK? Even in small doses, it is not OK!

I am a survivor of years of prolonged sexual abuse so I am no stranger to it, however I think that before we jump the gun and start accusing this man before he has been charged we need to take a look at what happened to Johnny Depp. There is much more to the situation than what most people know and once you start looking into the facts the story falls apart. Miss woods is very sophisticated in her attempt to prosecute him and is very well read, she's much more slide than Amber heard. Obviously I stand behind and support anybody who's actually been abused, but we as the society cannot be jumping to conclusions all the time even if there seems to be a bunch of people on board. Just make sure you do some deep investigating before you jump to any conclusions on this fan. And I'm not a fan by any means of him but I am a fan of the truth

Anyone can repeat an abuse story with seemingly heartfelt emotion. Her body language is another thing. I was an Evan Rachel Wood fan and because of this I watched " Pheonix Rising". I knew nothing about Marilyn Manson. Evan Rachel Wood's account just does not ring true to me for many reasons. Neither do any of her interviews about this. I am an abuse survivor. I will be doing further research. The truth will be revealed. Seems strange that she is friends with Amber Heard and Johnny Depp is very good friends with Manson. And look what is coming out about Amber Heard by her own admission (recordings made by her to defame Depp but is doing the opposite) and by the credible testimony of others. What really happened with Wood and Manson? We shall see.

I noticed there aren’t as many jokes or humorous quips in this one, thank you for discussing this serious topic in a serious way.

Thank you very much for this kindness. The reality of sexual abuse needs to be understood. Thank You Thank You Thank You 🙏🏽

Whenever I hear somebody say they are brainwashed I can’t take it serious

To be fair Doc just taking this girls word for it is dangerous, everything she is saying you yourself know so does that mean the same things have happened to you, she could be gaslighting you right now.

This story is heartbreaking, and I'm just grateful that you handled this so carefully, and so respectfully. Thank you, dear sir. 💝

Wow this is like “Dr Grande talks about my ex husband” Really though this actually made me feel extremely validated and sane. Thanks for this.

I am conflicted about putting a sentence on someone based only on allegiations. I feel strong support for abuse victims, I wish there was a law that would castrate notorious sex offender, especialy those who abuse children. When I spoke to a friend about MM and ERW situation he gave me a bit of perspective that I cannot shake from my head. He showed a story from Australia where a man lost everything and was put to jail for abusing his wife. Everything checked out, everybody saw him as this horrible abuser. Then a female detective got assigned and she started uncovering that the woman was a pathological liar who in the past falsley accussed her friend's father. She started debunking lie after lie and finaly after years of legal battles in court, the woman admitted she wanted to take over the house the guy has built for them and his family big savings. He was released but his life is in ruins, his family spent all they had for his defense and are now broke. It really shook me to my core how such thing is totaly possible yet in my mind I never allowed myself to think that cause I never heard of such cases before. I really hope some evidence will come up to back up ERW claims cause I feel disturbed right now as I voiced strong support for her against Manson and if evidence will come forward that they were lies then I dont even know what to think of myself...

I feel so many people love using the terms “narcissist” and “gas lighting”. Many of them just ‘average’ day to day people who have seen a few RU-vid videos then think they’ve suddenly got a PhD. I don’t mean the Dr in this case, I’m just pointing out a general point of notice. Also, a person can study things and know how tell a story. Not in the way of a book but like in the case of AH, she started telling her dr stories about Johnny over many years. How he beat her, raped her, verbally abused her etc All gently laying the foundations to eventually lead up to the crescendo of the TRO etc Always assume that both are innocent until full details are out and laid bare.

“Recovering alone is quite difficult.” Truer words were never spoken. I went it solo for too long. I’m grateful to have a small support system now. Thank you for a sensitive take on this issue.

I remember telling someone (a friend) I was abused sexually, and they responded with "and you couldn't just stop them? why didn't you leave immediately?" with a shrug. I realized that not many can understand what being mentally and sexually abused meant, and that I had to work out my issues on my own.

You seem to have no doubt about the truth of her assertions, simply because what she describes can be found in the clinical literature. If that were true, it would seem... strange.

I know I'm way late to the party and a lot more has come out since this video was uploaded but I'm just now catching it. I'm wondering if Doc Grande has changed his stance at all in light of some really shady evidence of Woods' credibility and some of her tactics. I don't know enough to come down on a side with this and think it's possible this is another hoax.

I read MM's autobiography a couple of years ago (not a fan, just have an interest in the evolving new music scenes in Britain and the U.S.). He was very forthright about his exploits, the humiliation and manipulation he heaped on young people drawn to his outrageous persona, and his belief that victims of his abuse and degradation should feel grateful he spent any time with them at all. I was hoping there would come a point in his tale where he had an epiphany about his behavior, but when he did (sort of -- not really) it was only a realization that he had to watch out more for his own business interests and not drain his resources so much. Rachel's story is believable for many reasons, not the least of which is that MM himself brags for a couple hundred pages about doing vile and disrespectful things to other humans. She's well quit of him, and I hope she can heal and surround herself with loving, caring people.

Dr. Grande is playing with my mind, he moved the plants again.

I feel in some ways this video goes off target and starts discussing abuse in general rather than her specific allegations (which are increasingly looking potentially false due to her many issues with determining fantasy and reality) I like what you said about supporting survivors...but that aside I felt this video kind of implied you believe her and accept Manson as guilty, without any evidence. Seemed more biased than usual

There has been one woman who said her identity was used and that she did not say or write that she was a victim.. Also there has been a letter who was used a fake letter. I am now going to reserve my judgement untill the trial which I hope will be televised. But She also said that he jailed her for days. I dont know. I have been in domestic abuse.

I only just recently told my mom about the thing that happened in 8th grade. I’m 50. I was in therapy for decades.

As a school psychologist, this resonates so deeply with my professional experience. I got chills listening to the summary. My thoughts are with every survivor.

Thank you. I have experienced everything you said here. I have had PTSD for close to 15 years. I experienced a traumatic event and then an abusive relationship directly after where what I had experienced was used against me in an attempt to demean and control me. It was very similar to Evan Rachel Woods experience with her perpetrator. I won’t even dignify him by using his fake name. So grateful she came forward. This makes it easier for other women to talk about their abuse and trauma. I am doing a lot better but it completely ruined my life for 10 years and I could not cope. I started trusting others and ultimately myself again which was the biggest blow to my psyche. I was always stuck between two thoughts and I never knew how I felt. I lost so much but I am slowly getting it back. I no longer have any contact with my abuser and unfortunately when I came forward the police wouldn’t help me. Times are slowly changing now and it is a beautiful thing. Sending love to any women that is going through this now. It will get better but it takes time so be patient with yourself. It’s not your fault and you can let go of any shame you feel. Find someone to talk to. I had to get on Psych meds. That is when my life got better. Therapy helps too. Thank you Dr. Grande.

What are we arriving at: That anyone can say anything about anyone. This is the result of our social media victim entitlement age. I was a victim of SA and I have PTSD....but I also know that "free speech" does not mean I can just accuse anyone of a serious crime w/o anything to back it up. I hope ERW gets emotional support and help, and I hope that if these allegations are true that she can get some relief. But I also believe we are entering into a "Stalinistic" type of environment....with people guilty w/o the benefit of our constitutional right to due process and a fair trial if required. TV and internet coverage is not helping this...it is fueling the fire. We all better be careful.

Dr Grande asks how other people are, but we never ask how Dr Grande is. 🫂

To any sexual abuse survivors, you've got this! Everyday is a chance to bring happiness and each time will make the next easier to enjoy. Know you are worthy of love and joy just as much as anyone on this planet so take it with both hands!!

Will you create a video about pathological liars and attention seekers if it is determined she was deceptive?

I could read a book…even a pamphlet…that discusses and discloses all the salient features of what victims of abuse feel, say, and do. And then formulate a narrative inserting myself into those well established features, hence seeming rock-solid and credible. Evan Rachel Wood thus far has not been able to document her 2 allegations of suicidal ideation or attempted suicide. All of her claims remain subjective. Many times prosecutors, various attorneys, including subpoenas, have requested evidencry records but to no avail. All I’m saying is: believe but verify. Espousing an account that rings true should never be enough to convict. She’s likely discussing real events, now prove it. Otherwise, an actor, especially a good one, can convince us of anything.

I am already a fan of your videos, but I have to say - videos like this truly help make the world a better place because the global public is waking up to predator patterns, narcissistic behaviors, and sexual abuse. I think it’s great when you highlight those courageously coming forward. God bless!.

When I first saw the title, I was worried that this would be an analysis of the veracity of her claims. Instead, This was an amazingly insightful look at sexual abuse and the mental health ramifications. You treated her claims with the seriousness and dignity that aIl people who make these allegations deserve. It seems clear that you have a lot of experience dealing with survivors. And even though your tone was very professional and calm, I could feel the compassion that you have for her and anyone else who has gone through this.

Thank you for this. I am married to a narcissist and it’s been 6 years of hell in earth. Rape in marriage is different but the psychological and emotionally consequences are still terrifying. Everyone around me blamed me and he seemed to keep a great mask on while I reacted to the abuse in ways that landed me in jail for the night. I even thought I was the one with a personality disorder turns out it was C-PTSD! My therapist is the one person who I know hears me. I am quietly building the strength to have boundaries and I know there will come an opportunity for me to escape…but for now I escape in my mind and get stronger and smarter.

This video made me realize I need to address my own account with sexual abuse. I endured it for years and once it stopped I still couldn't process it which lead me to doing a lot of self destructive things in response to the abuse. People around me just shrug it off and tell me I will get over it eventually, because the present allows us to move past those things. But I don't believe I'll be able to move past it until I address it correctly and seek the help I need

I still think about my sexual assault everyday. I have a horrible fear of men and bad substance abuse problems even after 5 years. No one I know understands this, but thank you for talking about it! Love you dr grande

When you stated sexual abuse starts mentally that really hit home. I remember in high school I was trying to articulate to my parents why I didn’t want to be around my ex boyfriend who would constantly show up at my house, job and events I went to... and my mother said to me it’s not like he raped you. I was 17 I’m almost 36 now and I have yet to seek real help for this. My experiences with him really have affected me through the rest of my life especially since not even my own parents acknowledged the manipulative behavior I was subjected to and the future stalking I would endure.

Whether it was abuse or not, I think you have to hold the victims accountable for their inactions. Wood was legally an adult, and continued to go out to dinners, go to parties, etc with Manson. I realize relationships can be complex, but at some point we need to tell people that it is their responsibility to leave their abusers. This is simply because what is "abuse" for one person is an appropriate power-dynamic for another. Are we going to tell people BDSM is illegal because it involves violence? Is all sex rape? I don't support domestic abuse, but the truth is that people get up to some weird shit in the bedroom. If we can look back in hindsight and decide what happened wasn't consensual, but abuse instead, it raises a tremendous amount of implications. Afterall, relationships can be complex; it's rarely good/evil, or even legal/illegal. This is why I intend to video-record all of my encounters with women. Recording people is illegal, but it's not as illegal as rape and violence.

Her documentary was absolutely horrific. I felt ill for days afterwards. I cant even begin to imagine how she must feel having lived it. Thank you for handeling it with such thoughtful care and compassion.

As a childhood sexual abuse survivor, 58 years old and still struggling with depression, I can attest to the long term, life-time damage of sexual abuse. Yes, we can survive and choose not to be victims but it's a scar that forever changes us and never leaves us. Love and power to all other survivors.❤❤❤

We all as fans, tend to put our beloved musicians and/or actors on pedestals. But they need to be seen as humans capable of not only great things, but of demented and evil behaviors. And they need to be called out immediately for harm intended or completed, not hidden or whisked away just to save their careers. Nothing trumps being sexually abused.

'Gaslighting' isn't a technical term. To hear a Dr say this is a powerful tool is alarming. No offense. I was violently Abused for almost 6 years. Yes, I knew. Yes, everyone around me knew. You don't at all acknowledge that most of Evan's & Manson's relationship occurred when he was on tour. Her parents attended many concerts, attended many after parties. He took her & her family on vacations including Disneyland. They had family holidays together. To say she was isolated while on tour, while spending time with her family, while working as a professional actress & in the eyes of the paparazzi 24/7. You haven't looked into any history.. you didn't care to look at any of her past interviews where she clearly states they had a normal loving relationship, where she spoke so highly of him. You don't seem to care about any of the crimes she & her scam artist GF have committed to falsely accuse Manson. I would assume someone with such a huge following would learn about the cases they are covering.

Thank you Dr Grande. I also wish the general public would have knowledge of blatant narcissistic abuse. It's insidious and below the radar. Thank you so much for exposing this horrible abuse 🙏

As a disabled surviver, I try to talk about these types of things online. It’s never easy, it’s essentially reliving it over and over again- but abuse and assault cannot ever be forgotten no matter how much people try to. I don’t speak on others behalf, and honestly in a way not my own because there is no gratification in being called a liar or told that “it’s not that bad” or that “I should have known better” so many times over. I speak because no matter how painful it is to do so, we cannot pretend it doesn’t happen. Thank you for speaking about the subject, and I appreciate your respectfulness very much.

Thank you for discussing this topic. It’s so important to remind the world that domestic abuse in any form should no ever be brushed off.

people are generally not very empathetic or even the least bit sympathetic to survivors of SA... it's troubling. SA-related PTSD is also overlooked. thank you for providing some sort of resource for this topic. it is for sure a lonely journey especially if you have been blamed, scapegoated, and isolated by everyone in your life following your confiding in them about your experience with abuse.

This was the single best explanation of the abuser/victim dynamic I have ever heard. Thank you Dr Grande.

I agree totally with the psychological part of sexual assaults. They start slowly and the perpetrators do make you feel safe for awhile. Unfortunately there are still people who believe the sexual abuse can just be forgotten but you never forget or put it somewhere in tucked away to comeany years later. This was one of your best presentations Thank-you so much💞🇨🇦

When hearing a woman describe sexual abuse, often what they say just "rings true". Having you explain specifically WHY you believe Evan Rachel Wood based on your experience makes the examples you gave very concrete in my mind. Thank you Dr. Grande

When Manson is proven not guilty can you do a video on how demented this chick is?

I look forward to the video on Amber Heard, somewhere down the line. E.R.W had more credibility initially. But when she and her girlfriend co-opted all the other people who have made claims together with the same lawyer using very tenuous evidence like 'the room was dark', or 'the house was kept cold', as well as including false evidence such as traceable off the internet photos claiming to be their personal imagery. This is not a good sign. She also tried to co-opt other women who in turn have said they like Manson. So there seems to be something more to this. And in times when Amber Heard (a friend of ERW) has made such damming claims against Johnny Depp, only to have each thing be exposed as lies time and again. I think its time to really tread very carefully. Things like this need to be investigated, there needs to be police involved. ERW is no saint either, no meek lamb in the woods, as she now presents herself. So without some evidence we only get her curated presentation.

As a sexual abuse survivor myself, I really appreciate your thoughts on this topic. I feel seen and understood. Especially when you said it’s a lonely journey- because it really is.

I greatly admire people who speak up after having suffered sexual abuse. I am a survivor who never felt safe enough to open up about it. This happened in my youth. I am 66 and I am still affected by it. Thankyou Dr. Grande for addressing this painful topic.

Have you revisited this since the allegations of ERW approaching other women impersonating an FBI agent? And MM has filed charges? It’d be interested to hear your thoughts on this if she indeed was deceitful?

Would you please make a video regarding the new lawsuit Manson brought against Wood and her partner? The allegations are jaw dropping. Originally I believed Evan but Manson’s lawyers say they have all the receipts to back his claims.

I agree that the tactics of narcissists needs to become common knowledge. It just is allowed to continue because so few people even know what it is.

This analysis stands out as particularly compassionate.

Dr. Todd needs to do an update to this story. Evidence is pointing to them clearly recruiting women to come out against Manson. Woods and her partner (a social activist who has had many outed lies) literally had a script given to these women, so indeed what she says is a little too on point.

The newest, and most insidious form of gaslighting is actually accusing someone of gaslighting.

In my experience, the physical part of sexual assault was far easier to get over than all the rest. The physical is not what keeps me waking up screaming after all these years. Always checking my back in the store or anywhere in public. Checking my doors are locked again and again. The emotional-mental part was much worse for me.

Scars last a lifetime... Damage and recovery is long term... You nailed it DR Grande...

Whenever it happened or not. There's no concrete evidence either way. So I can't see how the courts could give a guilty verdict. That's the problem with some of these historical sex abuse claims. If there's no forensic evidence. Sadly the only winners are their legal team.

For those abused I feel for you. For those who think they were abused because it is hip, I feel for you. Manson is an artist. His success gave him power over many willing to give him power. He may well have pushed things further, like lots of abusive men and women do. As an artist one should not believe the character is the person. Look at Alice Cooper or Rob Zombie. Both intelligent, talented, men. Manson does carry it further but people have all kinds of beliefs. I know, though my art, a very close friend of Manson. Over the years my associate, when Manson is brought up, presented Manson as a much more normal person than one would assume, if they bit on the whole character. In other words if Manson was as he seemed he would be in prison or mental hospital but it Is an act. Did he abuse the woman? At some level he likely did, at least in her opinion. Is Manson a monster? Nah... He is a guy who used his character to gain fame and fortune and that attracts women. When it stops being fun and the character becomes a flawed person, as we all are, they now become targets due to the same factors that drew in the victim, at some level, in the first place

"The time to support a survivor coming forth is ... ALWAYS." Simple, and powerful.

A narcissist doesn't see things like non narcissists do. They don't acknowledge what they did was abuse because they don't see anything from anyone's viewpoint but their own. It is the most insidious and difficult type of abuse to escape and nearly impossible for people outside the relationship to grasp. The narcissist is charming, convincing, and lives to lie and deceive everyone who loves them. People are possessions, to be used and discarded at the narcissist's whim. Another example of how talent and basic human decency can often be wholly unrelated.

Thank you for this Dr. G. Abuse survivors are often treated as though they speak up for publicity, money, etc. To hear you explain how many times you've heard legit clients say the same things is very helpful. And it explains all the questioning of "Why didn't you come forward sooner?" Ty for covering this topic!

I do not know what happened and neither does anyone else.....it has long since pass that any proof of abuse can be obtained. What I do know is that women as well as men can lie.

I broke down crying listening to this compassionate talk and how it filled in details I had yet to come to terms with in my own series of abusive relationships. I was dismissed and devalued every time I came out with my own stories so I just stopped after time. Now i understand why, and why I cannot just get over what was done to me and other women in my family. Thank you for this.

Diggin the mobile plants.

Never forget that "Innocent until proven guilty" is how the courts work. " Guilty until proven innocent" is how social media works.

The problem exists in her (ERW) potential coaching by a known chronic liar and narcissist. This occured 10 years before she came forward and not until after she became friends with the chronic liar.

i still think it's sick that he literally wrote an entire book discussing how he abused groupies

Dr. Grande, this is a video that every woman and man, young and old, needs to watch. I wonder how many people have chosen to remain silent after they have been sexually/emotionally/physically abused? Any experience of being abused is serious, and I think there are many people who feel like their experience is not worthy of receiving help, or they are not worthy of receiving help. I hope all victims will find the courage to tell their story.

I still can't admit to anyone in my real life what happened to me. Maybe if I type it out something will heal. 20 years ago. When I was 19, I was dated raped. He raped me for an hour in every way imaginable. When he let me leave I drove home and pretended it didn't happen. I felt so ashamed. I ended up pregnant and had an abortion as soon as I was able to. I sometimes wonder how my life would have been if I kept the baby. I would have a 20 year old. But I couldn't. It wasn't even an option in my mind for a minute. But now I wonder. Now I feel like an awful person for not wanting my baby. Even though it came from rape. My logical brain understands it was just cells. And those cells if they had survived and been born would have been half DNA of a rapist. I just couldn't. I don't even remember my rapists name. That's how much I've suppressed it. Idk why I'm saying it here.

As a person who was abused, I unequivocally disbelieve ERW and her fellow accusers. I feel it's a revenge and fame tactic. Before the hate-filled victim-blaming comments, I would suggest one look into the analysis of these accusations by the RU-vidr Colonel Kurtz, as she does some very in depth analysis, and is not affiliated with MM in any way. She helped me with my opinion...and the defamational counter lawsuit MM has brought forth is pretty damning, in its own right.

Thank you for stating that victims/survivors should be heard no matter how long it takes them to speak up. So often, people use the passage of time against those who have to gather up the strength to make things like this public.

You hit the nail on the head Dr. Grande, so much abuse could be avoided if people knew how to identify and then deal with a narcissistic abuser. Most cases of adult abuse would be stopped...unfortunately child abuse is more complicated.

Evidence would suggest that Marilyn was the only victim here.

Doctor, I would like to hear your opinion on the abuse that can occur when someone falsely makes accusations of SA and DV abuse. Unlike Depp, I have no opinion on this case bc not enough information for me. SA and false allegations are both wrong. Thank you for your professionalism with your statement on MM.

You're so right, it never gets easier to talk about past sexual abuse especially when you start a new romantic relationship. Trying to explain to a potential partner that there are certain things you can't or won't do during intercourse is always hard and can lead to further distrust if that partner isn't understanding. A lot of survivors don't know how to talk about sexual boundaries and we often have flashbacks during sexual encounters which can be traumatic on it's own. Thank you so much for talking about this subject it's really important to me and I know many others

Learning about narcissistic abuse and grooming is blowing my mind. When I was 16, I thought dating a 23 year old was awesome and mature of me. For 3+ years I knew it was an unhealthy relationship, but I had no idea it would fuck up the rest of my relationships for the rest of my life.

My only problem with this is that Women can say whatever they want and will be considered a fact.

As a survivor, ERW makes me fucking sick.

You should look at Aaron Carter, holy guacamole!

I’m trying not to cry. Thank you for such a compassionate breakdown of what it’s like for survivors.

I remember my mom coming home almost naked crying, screaming, and trembling. I was only 7. Then I remember her been taken to the emergency room. I didn't understand the first thing until a few months ago and the second until today after this video

ok - lets set some facts straight...first, Evan Rachael Wood used inflammatory language in describing her involvement with Manson. "grooming" as it is defined in the context of sex, is psychological manipulation of an adolescent or under age individual. She was not underage - according to public record, she was 19. She purposefully used language which she knew would create a hellstrom. This was not grooming. Did she get involved in a relationship which is mostly likely disturbed and overtly transactional - probably. But she did so as a legal aged adult. The rest of her narrative is pretty much moot after that. Ms Wood - you are an adult. Try acting like one and owning up to a relationship you couldn't control that you wanted out of and lets be done with the histrionics.

when I acknowledged the abuse I suffered as a child, I lost my family over it, 10 years ago now. I can really relate the consequences she described. it's crushing when your deepest fear of being rejected over it comes true. I think I always knew it would happen because my mother ignored taking responsibility for the obvious signs of trauma I exhibited. her whole life is based in toxic amnesia and I couldn't live that way anymore. it's been undescribably devastating but at least I'm no longer trapped in an invalidating prison of cognitive dissonance.

I thought the cactus was a bottle of soy sauce.

One of your most educative & powerful videos! Thank you! Much appreciated ❤️

Wood is not a victim, she was a willing participant who leveraged her relationship with Manson to her own advantage for year's.