Anger Management - How to Control Your ANGER 

Exactly Koffeekage!!

The poison is assuming that people who express anger are hating. It's you being just ignorant and judgemental. It's also you projecting your own ideas and emotions on others . Funny enough it's you who damages other by judging others based on your own assumptions.

unless your name is 'Kendrick Lamar'

except u use a gun.

Thank you for sharing your experience Abbex. It's completely normal to feel frustrated, and it's admirable that you're seeking ways to manage your anger. Remember, you're not alone in this journey, and it's okay to ask for help when needed. I'm glad the video could offer you some reassurance and support. Keep going strong! Best, Luca

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@@dog_owner if you don’t care then why did u comment ?💀

Dear Dag, It sounds like you've been carrying a lot of self-anger. You've internalized this anger, often directing it towards yourself. It's like your internal "bad parent" has been mistreating your inner child, criticizing them and neglecting their needs. Reparenting is key here. Validate that inner child, ask them what they want and need, and prioritize their needs over others. It's important to start saying no and stop people-pleasing if that's something you tend to do. Try keeping pictures of yourself as a baby nearby; it can help you subconsciously reconnect with that inner child. This process won't be easy, and it may take time-perhaps a year or more-but it's worth it. Take care, Dag. You're on the right path! ✌☘

Oh yes, I am sure that feeling resonates with many! 😊😺✌

Hello Purrpourri, I appreciate your comment and I am very glad you find this video inspiring!! 💖

I appreciate the kind words, @naymeequillo! It means a lot to me. I'm really glad to hear that my work is making a positive impact. It’s heartwarming to know that it brings hope and joy to others. Thank you for your support! ☘💖

I am glad you find this helpful Le!! :D I am not sure it's your case, but sometimes is someone is too often complaint and agreeable even when he does not agree, sudden episodes of uncontrollable rage can occur.

Hello Ida, I am glad you like it!! Yes, being ignored in childhood can become a lifetime trigger, as well as attachment trauma and being wrongly accused. It feels like couples should go to psychology class before having children! 😊

Hello Scy, that's a very good strategy, thank you so much for sharing!

I'll try that C:

It's my pleasure Joceline, I truly appreciate your comment! 😺

Hello Tarragon/Flowers, I am glad this was helpful! :D

I am glad this video helps!! :D

Glad yuo like it Helio!! :D

Thank you so much for the appreciation Beinting!! :D

Thanks a lot Nijat, I hope you are well!

Hello Dema, thanks for letting me know!!! Molto gentile! 😊✨

Glad it was helpful! :D

I am glad you like it Karin!! :D

Thank you so much Miau!! :D

I'm glad this video resonates with you, Ggalaxy! Remember, it's not about suppressing anger, but rather recognizing when you're projecting frustrations onto others and trying to address the root cause of it. 💖✨

Glad you like them Jack! :D

Hey Oscar, yes... if you are in control it is! :D

Hello Jyogurrz!

Thanks so much Coba, I truly appreciate it!! 💖

Hello Jmblue!

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Hey Michael, thanks!! :D

@@PixiGags No problem. :3

Hello Morten I hope you are well, thanks so much!

Yes, @LuxTheFolf, I totally understand you! What you're describing is often referred to as 'reactive abuse.' It's an unconscious, and sometimes conscious, tactic where people who don't want to acknowledge their negative emotions project them onto others. They figure out your triggers and provoke you over time. When you finally react, you're labeled as the "crazy" one, and their role in the situation disappears, leaving you to blame. Recognize this dynamic and try not to fall for it again, as it can be used against you in various aspects of life-school, work, relationships. To counter this, create a buffer between external triggers and your response. When you feel triggered, pause and ask yourself what caused it. Often, it's tied to past trauma from being treated unfairly or feeling abandoned. Accept and integrate that part of yourself. Practice mindfulness and breathing exercises to stay centered. Remember, bullies often project their insecurities onto others. If they call you 'stupid,' it's likely a reflection of how they feel about themselves, something they don't want to consciously acknowledge. I hope this helps. All the best! 💖

@PixiGags Thanks for responding it means a lot to me ❤️ And I have tried breathing techniques too but it has never helped, and it really only happened when I was younger but not I only lash out due to bottling up emotions and I'm currently working on talking more about my feelings instead of holding them back ❤️

Glad you like the graphics Someuser!!

Hey Jack, I can relate to that! In the past, I used to suppress my needs and let anger build up. But as I've become more open and true to myself, I've found healthier ways to express my emotions. It sounds like you might be experiencing something similar. Remember, there's an inner child within you whose needs deserve attention. Take the time to listen to what they need and advocate for yourself when necessary. Wishing you all the best. 💖

Hi Vdonut, Thank you so much for sharing your story. Having family around when you get angry can indeed present its own challenges. It's worth considering if they might inadvertently be pushing your buttons, perhaps without even realizing it. Some people, unconsciously, may project their negative emotions onto others as a way to relax. Pay attention to the dynamics when your family is around and see if you can spot this pattern. If that's the case, remember that their behavior is more about them than it is about you. Regardless, making decisions in a state of anger rarely leads to positive outcomes. It's okay to take a few minutes for yourself to calm down and approach the situation more peacefully. Wishing you all the best. 💖✌

Hello EmmeDean, thank you for reaching out! It's very hard what you are going through, I know because I can relate to some of it. The reasons can be various but if you have symptoms like a constant pain+sadness feeling inside (this can be in a specific area like the chest) it can be caused by an early attachment trauma. If you have a feeling of hyper stimulation and anxiety it could be because the right hemisphere of your brain is active very often (meaning that every little stimulus you receive puts you in danger mode). The best is to understand which are the outside stimulus that trigger you, keep a journal if you will, and try to make space between that stimulus and your reaction. Most of those feelings will always be there, but if you control your projections you won't be as reactive. Example: you have to meet a friend but he cancels, that makes you depressed... that feeling of depression is inside of you already, but then you associate the idea of your friend cancelling, causing you to feel worst and start ruminating about other people canceling other events in the past back and forth. So... try to dissociate all memory events form your feeling of sadness and anger; but when they occur, you shouldn't neglect them either, just accept, validate them and soon after they will fade. Next time, you do that again etc. etc.

How did you know what’s going on my life- and how I calm myself is snuggling with my cat. You are the best 💖 @@PixiGags

I know it's not easy, and something like that requires time, @hopepapernacky! Just realize that when you are angry at someone, it's all a projection. Try to individuate your initial feeling before you think that person made you mad. Also, if it's because that person triggered you, they are showing you a part of you that needs your attention. I wish you all the best! 💖

Hi @yogi1726, thank you for your thoughtful comment. Regarding DID, sudden anger, especially when linked to early trauma, can indeed be a dissociative state and resonate with DID experiences. I'm so sorry to hear what you’ve gone through since childhood. If you are still in the environment that caused you the trauma, chances are that people in your life will constantly push your buttons to make you snap, as some kind of subconscious need. Remember, even though your experience is valid, detachment and unidentification with those memories are key. I'm deeply moved to hear that the video made you feel seen. Wishing you all the best! Being neurospicy rocks! 😺💖✌

Hello Zeynep, I hope you are well! That's an interesting subject! Is there a specific type of manipulation you are interested in? For instance romantic, in friendship, family, toxic, how to recognize manipulation, how to respond to manipulation etc. Manipulation is quite broad, an infant manipulates to get what he wants as he doesn't have the vocabulary; pathological manipulators are stuck with the emotional intelligence of an 18 months old child and they become very good at it as they practice it for their all life. There are also every day small manipulations we all do as survival coping mechanism.

Thank you so much for the detailed information. I guess romantic. I'm not sure, cause that's what manipulation requires. 😊

Hello Payena, the best would be to say what we really feel right away, for instance if we don't want to do something we let the other person know, this way anger does not accumulate. Another way is to learn not to personalize, for instance if somebody says to us something we don't like we perceive it as a personal insult, but it's just an internal frustration that person is trying to work out.

@@PixiGags thank you so much for your reply!!

Thanks a lot Arttu, I appreciate it!!! 🐱🐈

Dear @Transformers2Fan1, please remember that none of our inner parts are ever a problem; they only seek to help you. Our inner parts constantly negotiate, but they can only do so based on the information from your belief system. Thus, the real issue might lie in your subconscious beliefs about yourself. While these beliefs can change, it requires time and introspection. ✌💖

Hello CuscionSapp, thanks a lot for sharing! May I ask if you select any particular type of people to project your anger to or it just happens to anyone who is around?

@@PixiGags I live by myself, so its no one around me at the time of baking. Usually its towards people who make my job more difficult, people I hear about from news related media, or when people do stupid things like give great review scores to games that don't deserve them

@@CushionSapp Thanks again for sharing that CuscionSapp! After you lash out, do you have a feeling of remorse or it's just constant anger towards those groups?

@@PixiGags Look, in all seriousness, I rarely lash out at someone in legitimate anger and yes, I do feel remorse. When I get angry at an inanimate object and "lash out" at it verbally, I never feel remorse.

Hello Uriel, thanks so much for sharing your story! I am glad therapy helped. Sometimes the ones that push your buttons call you crazy when you eventually react! :D

​​​@@PixiGagsthat is true, but after hearing that it did game me the message. After my last anger after hearing that word. 😅

Hello Marimba, thank you for sharing! 💖 Is it very often, do you project a lot on other people, like it really feels they are the cause of your discomfort?

oh hello@@PixiGags! in fact, yes, i am still working on that 😅😅

Hey JP, I agree with you. But there's a big difference between feeling angry and resorting to violence. It's okay to acknowledge and validate your anger, but it's important to understand its root cause. What matters most is not projecting our frustrations onto innocent people who happen to be around us.

Dear Over, I can relate to your experience. Unrecognized injustices in life can leave us with a deep reservoir of anger, ready to erupt at any provocation. Certain individuals may unwittingly trigger us, touching upon our unresolved pain and causing us to react in ways we later regret. This type of anger, often associated with PTSD or CPTSD, can override our cognitive control, leading to actions we may not intend. While I'm not a religious fanatic, I find wisdom in Jesus' teaching to 'love your enemy as yourself' as a means of prevention. It doesn't mean condoning abuse, but rather understanding that these triggers are reflections of our own unhealed wounds. Sometimes, when people insult us, they're projecting their own insecurities onto us. I wish you all the best and send virtual hugs. 💖✌

@@PixiGags Thanks man, keep up the animations. Remember me when you get popular.

Hello Zip, what answer would you have given? :D

@@PixiGags i never understood these questions: why do we..? What is...? Then they answer to their own questions

@@PixiGags id give the answer: is a bad feeling, starting from the head, going to feet then to chest, causing head ache, or really serious tummy-pain diseases.

@@ZipZap9 Dear ZipZap, thanks for sharing!! In general how anger manifests can be subjective. The idea that is an internal conflict projected outwards really helped me to calm down, I hope it can help others as well.

It's not exactly that. It's just not good for yourself to stay angry at something because it stresses your body out. Which can cause issues with your health. It's not easy to simply forget about the things that affect you, but if you work on it slowly and you focus more on the good things you have or the things that bring you joy, ultimately, it will be better for you in the long run. Obviously, don't try and rush it and don't give up easily either. You have to go through difficult situations in order to learn and to gain experiences. And even if it's hard to do, try to hold your tongue when someone says something maliciously. It's not worth your time and energy to fight with someone, especially if they're the kind who probably won't put an effort to change for the better.

Thank you so much OC, I am glad you find it helpful!