ANSWERING GAY QUESTIONS STRAIGHT PEOPLE ARE TOO AFRAID TO ASK 

Tysm for submitting questions! 🤍 Please lemme know if you want a part 2? Feels like we had a good convo. I had a good time. 😎 P.S. it’s not too late to order merch for xmas! cut off dates are 10th for USA & CAN, 11th for Aus, 12th for UK, so order soon! shop.laurenelloise.com/

I'm a guy and I'm straight and I follow you because my 2 younger twin sisters are lesbians and I like to try and learn as much as I can so I don't accidentally hurt them or say the wrong thing and make them uncomfortable or sad so thank you for helping me navigate the area even though I follow other lesbian channels to

I am a straight man. I follow you because my daughter is lesbian. Your videos have helped me tremendously. Thank you!!

I fell for my best friend, thought it would never work out. She slept over at my house, confessed her feelings for me, we made out. The other week was our eight month anniversary

Lauren’s face when saying butts over boobs was the greatest thing ever

As a gender fluid bi dude, I can confidently say, I do find the other gender attractive, and I often do live as the other gender😂

As a closeted teenage lesbian, i love your content, it has helped me learn so much about the community and makes me feel safe and i laugh so much until my chest hurts. You are smart, funny and beautiful, you go girl❤

Funny story: I'm dating my "ex" best friend (she's my ✨girlfriend✨ now). When i came out to her she reminded me of this one time when we were like eleven. We were walking together, she asked me to hold hands, and i wanted to but then i was like "what if people think we're lesbians?" I knew i was gay before i could even realise i was gay.

About dating, if you like someone, ask them out. They may say "no" or the date might not go well. You can get over that. What's harder to get over is wondering later "I wish I would have asked her..." or "I wonder what would have happened if..." Go for it! Besides, if the date doesn't become a lover, they might become a friend.

Straight CIS guy here, I follow a lot of lesbians on RU-vid and Instagram, I do not interact/comment a lot, I just found out that lesbians are generally fun and nice to have around. The few I comment/Interact with are about other things then their sexuality, like their hobby or whatever they are doing on RU-vid, lots of vanlifers and tech channels.

i'm a guy, but i'm also gay. Your videos have helped me come out in ways i never thought I would. Even though I don't think i'm your intended audience, thank you :)

I'm aroace. I follow a lot of queer people on youtube and other social media. I like learning about the whole community and have found that even if I have different labels to people there are a lot of common issues and feelings

I'm a straight woman and honestly follow you and other LGBTQ+ RU-vidrs more to educate myself because I have friends in that community.

currently going through my first wlw heartbreak who also happened to be my best friend 😪. you’re videos are really helping me get my mind off of her, thank you lauren

“How do you ask someone if they are gay?” Is such a real question. I worked a job as a teenager with other teenagers. Worked with all kinds of people. I was fairly convinced a coworker of mine was likely gay but didn’t want to just come out and ask, it didn’t feel appropriate and we only saw each other at work. So I sort of just filed it away as “I think he’s gay, okay moving on to working”. Well one day, he asks me if I want to go to the movies with him. I’m in work mode so I don’t pick up on a lot of things. I think he just wants to hang out and take our blossoming friendship to a place outside of work. I agree and we set a date and time for over the weekend. After his shift is over I’m hounded by two of my coworkers. “I can’t believe he asked you out.” “I didn’t think he’d actually do that! I thought he wasn’t over his ex.” Me: “Uh… what?? This isn’t a date… we’re just friends.” “He doesn’t think that. He asked you out.” Me: “Is… is he not… gay? Did I read that wrong?” To summarize the ending: Went home and panicked, decided I’d stick to my commitment and go, didn’t let him buy me anything but a ticket, kept my eyes on the screen and my hands in my lap under my legs the entire time so he couldn’t reach for my hand. I also told him beforehand that I’d drive myself to the theater. So yeah… don’t always make assumptions 😂

I don't comment often, but I follow you because I'm a closeted bisexual young adult woman who has never been in a relationship before (with either gender), and just trying to feel connected to the community

Hi I'm a straight older male. When I was younger, my elder sister was obviously gay . I think it was so sad she was over fifty before she came out. Things are so much better now . Susciety is not there yet but with understanding and videos like yours there is a good chance it will be

You answered these questions actually really well. It’s my fist time stumbling on to this channel and I love your vibe. You’re well spoken and very considerate to all possible perspectives, and I respect that. As a fellow gay I think I’ll stick around your channel for a while :)

Straight man here. This is the first video I watched from the channel, I watched because I like to consume videos that will teach me something and nothing teaches better then diversity

I've been a straight subscriber for a few years now. One's sexual orientation doesn't mean a thing to me. I judge by character and actions and Lauren checks both boxes. I enjoyed her Q&A here as I've had the same questions myself. Merry X-mas Lauren.

Nice. It's great to have a venue where the straight folks can ask the awkward questions and know they have permission, and I really appreciate the sensible boundaries you suggest around questions in the work place etc.

Hi! Straight viewer here. Why am I here? Tbh it’s because I enjoy your personality and I often find that I am drawn to your content because we both have very different experiences, so I’m always curious to see what it’s like for someone experiencing the opposite attraction. My older sister is gay and she is open to talking about it, but it’s a bit of a taboo thing in our house due to our super religious parents. They aren’t… unaccepting? They just aren’t “woohoo!” About it either, so we don’t really chat about that side of her life when she’s over. So I learn a lot from the internet. My sister and I do text a lot and I have met her girlfriend before and she’s very lovely! :)

Thanks so much for answering my question Lauren. I don't really have any gay friends I can ask so thanks for being my honorary one. i'm an empath so I try to educate myself and at least imagine what it's like to walk in your shoes as well as to be more accepting and respectful. The more you know. Thanks for continually educating me 🙂

12:51 it's not just the letters, the flags are really hard to remember too. The first four ones are easier, but it gets harder to remember for tye rest of them. And people usually don't tell you what does it mean or what do they call it.

I follow you because all the my thoughts I thought were just me you've been there, done that, thought that...makes me feel included and normal. I live in small communities and you are my community and support. You do more to make us lesbians feel apart of a community, seen, included, belong than any queer organizations where I've lived.

a lot of great questions. I would hope that most of straight people subscribed to your channel are here to educate themselves. You're doing a great job at educating people on the LGBTQIA+ community, which is also very important for people who are questioning their sexuality. Also now, as a self-secure pan person, I like to educate myself on experiences from the community, which I don't get to have myself. This is also important to fight against all unnecessary hate within our community.

I just found your video in my feed. I watched the entire video. I think you're a great RU-vidr and your video was very helpful to this 68-year-old straight married (for 34 years) man in the US. Keep up the good work! You are helping us all to learn to be accepting of the LGBTQI+ community! Thanks!

Thank you for this video, Lauren! We need more of these 🤩

I’m a straight man, and I’d say there’s more than you’d think who fit into the curious and educating category 😊. I think my Spotify wrapped has told something about me I didn’t clock until now haha. So 4 of my top 5 artists turn out to be gay / queer: The Japanese House, Boygenius, Aurora and Clairo. And what I believe that’s saying is that I tend to connect to songs with the subject matter being falling for women, but from a woman’s perspective rather than a man’s, because with the female songwriters I idolise, their lyrics describe the modern complexities of being attracted to someone, but often without relying on being stereotypically forward as men have known to be in songs when they’re attracted to someone. To me, these queer artists often offer more detailed lyrics on introspection in attraction, and I feel that connects me more to an artist, by understanding them more, which helps me to enjoy a song more than surface level generic lyrics on loving someone.

Ahh this is such a good idea for a video! Might show this to my straight friends :) feel like it will start good conversations! Ty Lauren 💕💕

I subscribed to your channel because I want to know about female love relationships in english. I'm bisexual girl and in my motherlanguage people rarely spoke about it. And your speech very clear to me. Thank you, Lauren ❤

Heyyy Lauren, this video helps me out so much to figure out what Ive always been wanting to ask but have been afraid

I applaud you for doing this Lauren. I've never seen you or your channel before, but I knew from the title this was something I wanted to watch. I agree with all of your answers, which let's me know you're someone I would like to get to know better. Your girlfriend is quite lucky! I'm sure things learned from this video will be helpful to people who are on the fence or just curious, so thanks for this. I'm a new fan. 😊

This is the first video of yours i've watched. I'm straight and male, I watched it as one of my best friends came out to me many years ago and i said some silly stuff to him at the time. we talked about it for a while and we had a laugh about it all after the event. I was interested to see what questions people are afraid to ask as my relationship with my mate got better as he could be honest with me. no conversations have been taboo between us.

I fall under the girl who followed for the rats then figured out I like girls 😂😅

I came out to one of my friends as a lesbian and now she’s not talking to me as much and always seems to be really uncomfortable if we’re alone together. I’m not romantically attracted to her and I’ve told her that I like someone else but she still acts strange. What should I do?

I'm an older (age 60) bisexual man. My RU-vid subscriptions cover many different interests, including LGBTQ content. It is encouraging to see how much support and information is available to young queer people today. Your videos are positive, constructive, and fun to watch. I imagine your content is tremendously helpful for so many young women out there. Thumbs up from me.

Lauren ur my fav youtuber - 1. We have the same first name 2. i am obsessed with ur videos as I am apart of the lgbtq community. I feel so hapoy when watching your videos, definitely vheer me up becuase most of the time I feel like I'm depressed in a way. Thank you so much ❤ 🏳️‍🌈

Honestly, it is because folks with opened and kind heart like you Lauren then we can accept more more our own queerness. i can only accept my queerness via your and so many other queer related medias. You are part of my journey with your intrinsic contribution and i'm very greatly appreciative to you personally. i am very sincere to say that the many years now that i follow your channel that i progressed a lot in my own acceptance as a queer gay late bloomer. i find your evolution and approach to life extremely comforting and inspirational. With gal pal, its even more obvious that if we let love speak, therefore a positive and growing relationship is possible. Again, thank you, thank you 🗣 💕🦋🇨🇦

You know, every time I watch your videos, it's always so refreshing, and it always makes me smile! So thank you!

I already found your channel when I was straight and I always new I was apart of the LGBTQ+ but I found out how I am and where I fit in in the community so thank you for that ❤❤ Also I found your channel when I was 9 or 10 and now I'm 13

Some great questions and equally good, thorough answers delivered in a fun way.

This video is very relatable sometimes I tell myself to not like my best friend thank you for making it clear that it’s ok! Thx :)

1:50 You are a precious human being! You are appreciated!

I just came across your post, and find you very interesting. I subscribed and look forward to future posts! ❤

There was a fellow LGBT person working for my healthcare that for years tried to get the company to join pride and FINALLY this year she managed to get them to do it.

I had this video in my recommendations and don't know why. But I did enjoy watching it. :-) It only freaked me out that you were using the Discord notification sound whenever a new question came up. The first four or five times I hectially checked Discord, wondering why I didn't see anything. :-D I'm a straight guy in his 50s, always accepting anyone for the person they are. Fun fact about me, I am also a long time gamer, and when it comes to character creation and (if available) romance options, I always play a female who falls for another woman. Not because I have any particular fantasies about lesbians, it's just that it feels "natural" in the fantasy world of a game. It takes concious effort for me to play as a male. I never felt uncomfortable in my body or had a problem with being a guy, I was married and am a dad, trying to pass on this open-mindedness to my son. I have long given up thinking about what that says about me, I now simply enjoy that in those game worlds, the inner lesbian in me seems to have an outlet.

I have an edit account where i edit lesbians & sapphics. When men follow me it feels weird. My account is not abt educating, it's just edits.

Loved this! you should do another. And for the record, I am the straight guy here to educate himself so I can be a safe place and considerate friend to my Alphabet mafia friends.

This video just popped up in my YT algorithm. Find you very interesting. Going back to the beginning to learn your story.

Thanks Lauren for producing amazing content❤

On the falling for your best friend thing, yeah, that's happened to me too. Again, not every friend, not even every best friend, but some yeah. And it's not always a bad thing. My best friend and I were on a road trip and started talking about how we'd never dated... and so we decided to go on a date. Best date either of us had ever had. We're still together over 20 years later.

Love your eye shadow. Love your openess and honesty. Love you as a person Lauren, no labels necessary.

Cis guy here, and a little bit of "all of the above". I try to learn more, and try to be an ally. But to be honest I do perv as well, but not on YT. I would never comment that way on YT or irl with my lesbian friends. I mostly understand lesbians because I share their point of view. I just wish more men understood that it's not "about them" and it's not a competition.

As long as you treat everyone as human beings your will be fine. Love is Love.

Every year these videos brighten my December.

I’m a straight conservative Christian male and I am here to …….learn! To broaden my understanding.

Hi lauren. I'm from the UK and have just discovered your videos. This one was useful, especially your views on Pride. Tom

About the falling for your best friend thing-- I think that subconsciously girls tend to befriend girls whose vibes or looks they appreciate, and especially in (closeted?) lesbian/bi/pan girls, they might sort of just be attracted to a girl that they somewhat like, and therefore become their friend, and as they get to know them more and spend more time with them, they might later realize that they do indeed like their friend.

Losing man points for noticing, but you’re rocking the eye shadow. Thanks for being open to helping us supporting straight people.

Hi! Tysm for all the cool content!

What a trip! Found you by doing rat research and went down the rabbit hole lol. Love the channel! Cheers from New York USA:)

when the identity or attraction question came up. i screamed. because ive always wished that i could live as a guy, and then went on to list like 20 things that would be better if i was a man, from the top of my head, i could probably find more if i gave it some thought though.

This is so off topic but I couldn't help but notice your copy of TBOSAS on the bottom shelf. It's such a beautiful book. I love thg

I’m dating my best friend right now, and we agreed that if we break up (unless there’s complications) we’d remain friends 😅

Can you do a video on how to tell if they like you? I think that would be a cool video to do. Also, love the video Lauren!!! Keep it up with the 12 Days Of Christmas!! 🎉🌈🏳️‍🌈

always love your make-up, and your videos to.

This is the first time I see a video of yours, so I'm not a follower (yet) but I am curious and want to educate myself :D I losely follow a few other queer creators because of that.

You made me smile all through the vid. My face muscles are tired

God finaly someone like me! I always thought i cannot be a lesbian if i can tell which guy is cute, pretty, hot or ugly. But im not actually atracted to them. Thanks Lauren❤

I’m a gay guy and I never really wondered about this stuff but this was very fun and interesting lol!

You have a way of talking that kinda reminds me of Hozier. I don’t know if it’s just me lol. Btw love you and your videos ❤❤❤

Straight guy here. You're smart, funny, and this was a really interesting video. I've enjoyed having some lesbian friends over the years

As a straight male, I just want to say how fantastic your videos are. I learn something new with each one. I hope you don't mind my watching. My brother is gay so I'm totally accepting, more sympathetic to anyone who learns they are LGBQ+.I hope one day we won't need labels or reasons to be afraid. Like my father said to us when my brother came out to our family 'So what, what you do in your bedroom is none of my business, and you're still my son.'

I am mostly straight, but I tend to watch more lesbian and couples content on on line not for sexual reasons I just find lesbians more interesting than men. I think it has more to do with my not liking stereotypical make gender things like cars, sport and I am not obsessed with sex, the three thing most of my male friends go on constantly about. Today is my first day seeing any of you videos. (I have watched 6 in the last couple of hours) So I think your subscribe button is in my future.

Hi Lauren, great video! I'm a straight cis guy, and I have a couple of questions if you ever do a part 2. 1. How do you react if you find out a straight guy is into you or finds you attractive? Or tries to pick you up? 2. What is it like being in a situation like a women's locker room? I've wondered what it'd be like to be in that kind of situation if I were potentially attracted to the other people there, and it seems like it could be awkward. And, since you asked...I checked out the vid because I thought it might be interesting to get gay peoples' perspectives on straight people, if that makes sense.

As a gay myself, your answer are spot on. I love your energy

I'm a straight guy and one of my dear friends, and actually a colleague at work as well, is a lesbian. We have a great time together and it's very fun to go out with her because with her, I can talk about women the same way I do when I'm with my male friends, and that is fun! :) But also interesting because anyway I found the perspective of a lesbian girl towards other girls is different from the perspective we males have - and it's refreshing! One thing though makes me uncomfortable with lesbians, and it's that I perceive some disdain, if not plain contempt, towards me, just because I'm a man. Now, this does NOT happen with my friend, because like I said, we're dear friends, almost like siblings, but it happens with her female friends. I don't know, for all my life i've always been very open and accepting, I'm far from being homophobic, for me all humans are the same, but I don't feel this sentiment to be reciprocated by lesbians towards me. I understand it may not be easy for them because probably lesbians are used to be discriminated by conformists... but it makes me sad. I'd like to know if you see this happening with your acquaintances as well.

I’m late to see this video, but I must comment on the answer about the 70’s. Being as I remember the 70’s, I can tell you that at least in my area it was very much free love back then. Everyone was having relations with everyone. No one had any worries or judgements about these matters.

On "GSD", there's also "GSRM", which I prefer as it includes the R. "Gender - Sexual - Romantic - Minorities

13:01 / 13:07 - oh, interesting. I've heard GSRM (Gender, Sex, and Relationship Minorities was how I remember having heard it, though wikipedia says Romantic Minorities instead of Relationship Minorities, and also says that «it is SGM ("Sexual and Gender Minority") that has gained the most advancement in the United States since 2014»... I'd not heard GSD before, but also, that's not where I thought you were going to go with this. I thought you were going to say "QUILT BAG" -- which I like just for being so easy to say. :)

I love your shirts but I’m still closeted and my school is so messed up I would probably get dress coded

I play basketball in an all girls team and I did not tell them about me being gay yet cuz idk how they will react its been a year and a half as well so idk

2:07 i relate to this part sooo much especially since i am a gymnast and dating someone pn the team

Scouring the internet trying to see if anyone is going through what I’m going through. I’m attracted physically to both men and women but being with women makes me feel more like my authentic self so I see myself as gay. Has anyone else experienced their sexuality in this way?

so with your last question "what's the right way to ask if someone is gay?" my sister about 5 years ago told me my niece had a girl friend and i said ok (thinking why do i care) so she repeated it at least 3 times then she got upset because i didnt have a reaction and told me she was gay. i said ya i got that why does it matter. do you think i handled it right because i dont care but she seemed like i should have done something different

Thank you so much for all the advice and also making us laugh by accident 😅

this is great. thanks for dong this. I am a guy, not gay. however My brother is, and he has the most wonderful husbang of over 20 years now, and they have 2 kids who are my neice and nephew. they rasie them so amazingly well. I also used to go to PLFAG meetings. actaully do they still do those? i don't even know, as it has been awhile. i have been so busy just dong other things. but hey. anyway. i hope you have a great day!

I'm a straight guy and years ago I worked with this woman who identified as. Gay but I was immediately attracted to her! I think she is actually Bi because there was always a vibe between us! TBH I think I could still be attracted to her! Yes! On the Pride Parade! I attended one in my Hometown a few years ago! It was an awesome vibe! Yes On a Part 2 of this series!

0:09 You have a beautiful smile!

I followed you when I was 14 as my best friend just had come out and now I'm gay as well

My feeling as a straight man in his late 50s who's been friendly with LGBT people, is that to me, the only thing that matters is "is the person kind?". That said, I was in a relationship with a woman for 9 years who might have been bisexual, but the question never came up. I was attracted to her because she was kind, had a weird sense of humor like mine, and we could usually talk easily. I found out later that ahe was hiding things from me and had started to lie, so we split up.

Idk how 'bout you, but if someone is a close friend of mine, it means I can ask them anything without any disclaimers at the beginning. Ofc if they're uncomfortable talking about it, they can just tell me too. I just find it a bit weird to tiptoe around asking your close friend about their sexuality. I mean, me and my best friends talked about our sexualities and attitudes to gender a whole lot, maybe it's not that common in other friendships.

I know your more then this, but Lauren your hot, thats just a fact 🤷‍♀. honestly your girlfriend is too, so your just winning in general lol. But also having followed you for a long time always appreciate the thought and time you take on your responses for videos like this.❤

RU-vid algorithm brought me here. Two things about one’s sexuality: 1) it matters. 2) it doesn’t matter at all. For me, both are true. As a kid in the 60’s we had two “brothers” next door on one side, and Mrs Shank on the other. She divorced and in a little while a woman gym teacher moved in. Neither was a big deal. My parents simply told me it is what it is.

GSD is awesome however I'm a dog person and my instant go to when hearing GSD is "German Shephard Dog" hahaha

I wanna tell a girl that I like her but I'm scared she will say no and that she only likes me as a friend, can you give me some tips?? Edit: I told her I liked her and she friend zoned me(I cried in the shower...)

I have had lesbian friends for many years. I'd look at you as a friend.

As a straight CIS guy, the one question I always want to ask - how can I actively help the LGBT+ community? Waving a flag once a year doesnt seem like I am doing enough

Just stumbled on this and liked it because the questions In my mind were asked and addressed well. Straight retired man with no support/empathy for the LBGTQ community