Answering TMI girl talk questions you're too afraid to ask your friends *tipsy* 

To all the ladies who havent been with a guy: please don't worry or rush into it. Most men arent good at *it* and having a partner who loves and cherishes you is WAY more important. Stay safe and happy girlies

I'm a guy, but when I wasn't ready to have sex I literally told my boyfriend straight on "Hey I'm not ready" and he just said it was okay. That's the ONLY acceptable answer. Do NOT let anyone pressure you :(

I’m 19 turning 20 in a month and I have never done anything with a guy. I feel so behind in everything and seeing people younger than me opening up about what they’ve done makes me feel so behind. I just don’t see why a guy would ever want me in that way. I think I’m not good enough for any guy. I don’t have any friends to go out with and when I do go out I just feel so alone. I don’t really know what to do. I really feel like I’m missing out and running out of time. I just feel like I’ve past the age of having fun and not worrying about making mistakes. I feel like I’m not allowed to make mistakes anymore. Edit: Hello everyone it’s been four months since I posted this comment and things haven’t really changed much as far as not having a boyfriend. But I just wanted to say that this comment section has been such a huge help. I really thought I was alone in this but seeing how this is the most liked comment and how others also relate has helped me so much. You guys have no idea how often I come back to this comment section and read all your kind words. It really helps me . Thank you so much guys ❤

The trick to shaving without getting razor bumps is to shave WITH the grain!! Shave downwards, if you are starting from the top (towards your belly button) shave downwards towards your lips, then shave from your inner thigh towards your labia. I NEVER get razor bumps when shaving like this. If I were to do it the way she explained she does I’d probably have loads of scars from ingrown hairs!!

it feels like everyone knows exactly what they need to do to take perfect care of their face and private parts and it’s honestly overwhelming to me i feel v lost

it’s so crazy to hear that some people don’t have a bad first time. y’all who had a good first time are so lucky. i’m jealous

As a girl, I was with a guy who was pressuring me to go on birth control so he could take my v card. Now, im with a guy who constantly asks to binge shows with me and prefers that over sex. Upgrades girlies!

As a 17 year old, hearing all the girls talking about the things they have done already makes me feel so horrible. I'm genuinely dont know how to do anything because my parents never forced me to do a lot of things and they never educated me. I'm so left behind on pratically everything honestly. Its to the point i rely on other people to teach me these things but i dont have anyone. I am all alone. This video helped me sooo much thank youuu 💖😊

Y’all I didn’t do the deed till I was 23!! Don’t ever feel rushed queens, take your time you’re a dime and worth it

Girls who like girls, the 'boy' advice here goes for us too! Just cause it's directed towards men doesn't mean the same rules around consent, trust, communication, drive, ect, ect goes for women too.

to anyone feeling like they are running out of time: i promise u aren't. wait for the right person who you have a deep connection with. it is so crucial for the first time to be really comfortable with that person.

Girls who never been with a man, from a man: A lot of men don’t know what to do nor are good at it. If you’re not someone who just goes around but wants to settle and have something actually good, here are some factors that show if he’s a keeper. He does aftercare! He makes sure that everything’s okay during and after. He won’t force anything or talk you into stuff. He likes your down Stairs ;) and he’s probably obsessed with it trust me. He appreciates your body and loves it

When I was young I shaved 🐱 I trimmed I did it all. Then when I met my husband at 22 & was getting married at 24 he told me he likes it all natural 🌳 😂 so I just trim it now & shave the bikini line. Marriage is so stress free, you feel so confident in lingerie, naked etc. All those fears from when your young worrying about what guys will think goes away.

If your sex drive is down, it’s not always “depression”. Sometimes, you’re literally busy, and it’s the last thing on your mind, and that’s okay. Relationships and life are more than sex.

My 30 year old self realizing how dumb i was when i was younger. Melissa you’re an amazing role model, Love these videos🥰

I love how much you have been more open on ur channel. as the years have gone by you have changed so much and I'm loving it ❤❤❤ your amazing keep being you beautiful 😘

Its so weird that i got into a relationship with my bf over 2 and a half years ago not even knowing these were "expectations." He never brought a thing up to me about any of the things in this vid and he never made me feel like i needed to be rushed for anything. Tbh he never once made me feel uncomfortable with these topics. Im glad i got a good one! ~MD stay safe girlies ❤

my first time was not w my boyfriend but w someone i trusted not to make fun of my or judge me for it being my first time. we dont talk anymore for good reasons but im eternally grateful that he made me feel safe at that point and time and listened to me.

We go to the same place for waxing! But honestly I LOVE these talks, you’re so good at explaining things and make it such a comfortable conversation. Definitely should be a series or something you do often🤍

Love these girl talks … they make us feel more connected and it’s just so awesome to be real and know that even you go through the same things as us … thanks for opening up to us girly much love ❤️

this feels like real sister talk omfg 😭 i love itt

hopping into this comment section super late to add: used to shave, mostly because i was really insecure about what men would think. stopped shaving (just trimming) when i got to uni and lo and behold! not a single man cares even one tiny bit. tbh not shaving has been the most liberating decision i’ve made for my s*x life so far. do what makes YOU comfortable, like she said the men do not care !! and if they do, they are not worth your time (seriously). Edit: just finished the vid and don’t worry about things like smell/taste etc. just make sure you’re drinking water/eating fruit and a healthy diet and that’s all you need! also on orgasms: most women cannot finish from penetrative s*x, so the key is head, cl*toral stimulation with their hands, and toys :) good luck all

Can we all just appreciate the amount of effect Melissa puts into these videos I love watching ur videos love you Melissa your my comfort RU-vidr

I just wanna applaud you for being so cool and being there for girls who have questions! When I was younger and needed advice on something with a boy, I talked to someone I thought was my friend, and she gave me advice but then she ended up telling everyone in class and she started avoiding me. She told people I was weird or coming onto her lol when I wasn't. Looking back, I know she was the weirdo lol. Talking to friends about intimate things should be normalized. I just wanna thank you for setting a healthy example!

Ladies if your bottom region smells “off” but you don’t have anything obvious going on like (yeast infection, STI, etc.) look into boric acid suppositories. I’m older, almost 40 haha but after having babies, a hysterectomy and being with the same partner for years and years. I didn’t understand why I couldn’t get things “under control” in that area. I thought it was just age and related to having sex with my SO but I found out that it was BV which I am sure many of us have and are already familiar with. However, we are never told about this and we are also not told u can order a cheap bottle of boric acid suppositories online and have this problem fixed PERMANENTLY. They seriously saved my self confidence and sex life. My partner didn’t go “down” on me for years bc I am sure he never knew when I would be “off” but I also wouldn’t let him bc I was so self conscious about it. Now he always wants to haha sooo if this is something ur not aware of. Look into it!!! I’m telling u it is life changing.

I’m 23 and I’ve never been in any relationships or had much romantic experiences. This video makes me feel more prepared for a future relationship if it happens, and people here in the comments make me feel less alone about being a late bloomer. 💖💕

If a guy ignores your feelings/concerns about him watching p-rn just tell him “Okay, I guess I’ll start an OnlyFans since it’s not cheating.” And see how he responds. 😂 You’re a Queen , if he continues to watch it he does not respect you. Know your boundaries. ❤

The end where you got on your feet 😭😭 AHHHH, one of my favorite videos everrr literally loved how real u were, it’s nice to see we all think and go thru a lot of the same things!💘😭 You should def make a part 2!!❤️

This is actually my first time watching Melissa and i already feel comfortable 😭😭

I have an older sister but she’s also inexperienced and we don’t talk about things like this. I don’t talk with my mom about it either. This is so so comforting to have as a resource so thank you for putting some of my fears to rest😅

OMG you answered my question!!!! I didn't think you would notice my question. I have been fangirling 🤗for like 30 mins lol. I appreciate the answer and I will take it into consideration !!! Thank you Melissa 💛

I think this has to be my most favorite hygiene video I’m 15 soon 16 and it’s not that I’m growing up fast or nothin, but I like knowing how to carry myself and what to expect if I do feel like I wanna do something, AND I’m watching this video because I’m very picky about my hygiene so I like knowing everything and what’s normal and what’s not and how to carry myself.

As a girl I felt so safe watching this video ♥️ I have been subscribed for years and I love the growth Melissa 💕

To all the girlies out there. Don't rush yourself into a relationship even if your ready you have to know that your really ready. You don't need to rush and get yourself into stuff you may not like. If your partner is pressuring you they are a red flag because you need to know when your ready to do stuff with your partner. You need to get to know that person very well don't go at it in the first few days. (If there is anymore you want add on please do!)

Love how confident you are, very encouraging (I am a lesbian so there is a language barrier so to speak but I'm still very glad that I get to hear all this info because it's good knowledge in general)

I was fully ready for this vid to be like all the others just mentioning a period and then talking about guys but this was real asf and I felt like I was right there talking to u. love this vid

we need more of these i feel like we’re on ft and drinking together 💗💗

Melissa you need to try laser! I used to get waxed at EWC for YEARS and I loved it, but I switched to laser & I’ll never go back. It’s about the same price and I’ve gotten amazing results. I barely grow any hair after 10 sessions & haven’t had ingrowns since the beginning sessions. My skin has never been more soft and light. Loved your video btw 💖 been watching you for years

It was incredibly painful for me my first time I was about to cry and almost passed out it was like that the first few times after I think it depends on the person and your partner

I’m 31 and still heavily benefitted from this video as a single lady with some crazy anxiety 😂🎉

I wish I had videos like this from someone like you when I was younger oh my goodness, but I’m so so happy I have this now, you’re so helpful in lessening stigma and most importantly teaching so many of us really important things about our own bodys thank you so much

Megan knees 😂😂😂😂 I am dying. Lmao this video was so good! Thank you for being honest about these things esp because I’m sure so many women, including myself agree with you! We gotta be more open about this topic 🙌🏽

I needed that reassurance from this video so much because recently a guy ghosted me after he realized I wasn’t going to be the easy type on the first date. He dropped me off early too :( I really liked him but true colors are showing now

This might be one of my favorite videos yet! I’ve been watching you for years and I see so much growth 😭💛 keep doing you boo!! 😘

I love the energy you give girl 🫶🏻 you definitely are a whole vibe! I love how comfortable you are and open! You definitely know what your speaking about ❤️ love watching your videos 🥰🥰

I think the biggest thing to having a good first time is to communicate with your partner. Tell them if it hurts, if you want something else, or if you want to stop. If you don't communicate these things, you probably are going to have a bad time. If you don't feel comfortable communicating these things, you shouldn't be having sex. The person you have sex with should make you feel comfortable enough to have those talks, both before, during, and after.

you being tipsy just made it funny while being highly informational lmao

something embarrassing i have to admit is that when i saw the summer's eve feminine wash, it reminded me of when i used it as a body wash because nobody taught me what it was and what it's used for. especially being physically active and seeing the "Active" on the bottle omg 😭😭

I told my partner I was too afraid to kiss and he waited till I was ready to finally kiss him. Very sweet. Although when it comes to sexual gestures or affectionate ones, I definitely cherish the affectionate ones, I laughed incredibly with him yesterday and it's all I think of, hand on my waist and hugging me tightly, he asks me which of his gestures I liked, and I told him it's funny because it's not the sexual things that are on top, but that one about the waist. It makes me roll in my bed at night with butterflies.

I definitely agree with going out by yourself sometimes. And stay off the phone. Doing this every now and again gives me a sense of pride. Even though I don't want to go out by myself a lot lol

Girl honestly love your videos !!!!! The amount of times you make me actually laugh is insane because when I watch others “acting” I just watch like 😑 but you legit make me LOL 😂 I Appreciate your videos & your personality because I can relate a lot to you! Your video took me on an emotional rollercoaster 😂🥹🥺

honestly girls, just learn to wax your private parts yourself. I swearrr it hurts less the second time you do it, you just prepare mentally for it. Also it saves you lots of money and you don't have to shave each day.

This is the first video I’ve ever seen of yours but I love how open you are, you seem like you have such a great personality! Def subscribing ❤️❤️❤️

I love how open-minded you are with the audience. 🤩🤩💗💗💗 Definitely following you now!

We definitely need more of these girl talks!!! 🤍

I love watching your videos you can be talking about nothing & I’ll still watch! keep doing you sis, I hope you’re doing swell ❤️‍🔥

I'm 14, and I am always asked whether or not I've lost my v card yet or not- which to me is crazy- but at my school theres ppl doing it in bathrooms so i guess it doesn't surprise me. Everybody always sees me as the literal outcast cause i dont have no boyfriend, i havent lost my v card, and i dont look as pretty as everyone else. Like- there is no reason to judge a book by its cover. I'm a fun person with some good friends regardless if ive lost my v card or if i got a boyfriend. Don't change yourself for others! Don't get pressured into it if you dont want to! Go according to your own pace.

Love your videos and thank you for sharing your life with us! You definitely don’t need to but I think I can speak for a lot of us when I say we feel like your besties lol you’re so real with us and it’s so refreshing! So thank you:)!

Idc what gender is reading this; please don't rush into sex, cause you have so much time and find a person you trust. I lost it with my best friend at the time and honestly im glad i lost it with him. This vid is so helpful!! Thank youu, im also a little tipsy btw lol

Hahaha I LIVE for this Melissa!! More drunk 2am girl talks & q&a’s 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 HERE FOR IT! FAVE VIDEO EVER

This video is great for anyone who is struggling with anxiety when it comes to dating. The relatable anecdotes and tips make it a helpful and entertaining watch.

We love an honest Queen🤗❤❤❤❤❤!!!!! I wish you had a podcast with just you. I love hearing you talk and you're so real I could listen to you on a range of topics all day. You feel like a bestie🤗!

THE SHAVNG PART IS SO TRUE, I GET COMPLETELY CLEAN AND THE NEXT DAY I ALR GOT SUM GROWING

sneaking into girl talk 😈‼️ love the vibes in this vid, would love to see more of ur advice ✌🏾

You gave me alot of good advice!! Thank you so much Melissa I’m sharing this with my younger sisters 🥰💗

I’m SO late to this video, so no one will probably see this comment. But I just had to pause the video to agree with you about the lingerie thing. You are SO right! When you step out in sexy lingerie in front of your man, he is NOT seeing that cellulite you think you have on your thighs, or some stretch marks on your belly or boobs (I have a TON of boob stretch marks bc mine grew son fast… I’ve made comments about them to past BF’s, and they legit only ever noticed it when I pointed it out. But they still didn’t care), they are not noticing if one boob is slightly bigger than the other -like we ALL have, or noticing a mole you don’t like, or whatever you are self-conscious about. I promise that all they see is the hot woman they are already attracted to highlighting her body with some sexy lingerie, and then all the blood leaves their head and goes somewhere lower! 😂 I have learned this through experience, bc there are a lot of things I used to be super self conscious about. But ladies, I promise that guys are not analyzing you, looking for any “problem areas”. They are trying to figure out how quickly they can get that lingerie on to the floor… 😉

I love how she ended the video with a demonstration 🤣🤣🤣🤣

Dude I loveee these videos, it makes me feel safe tbh 😭💕

I never grew up with a mom or older sister and you have helped me so much, thank you love you

Am I the only one who feels horrible after shaving? I’ve only tried that once and it was the worst experience ever. I only shaved my legs but just looking at them without any hair on them filled me with dread, and nearly made me cry. I’ve never seen anyone talk about this, and I’m starting to think I’m just a freak. Cause all over the internet I see girls talking about how amazing not having hair on their legs, arms, armpits, ect makes them feel. I’ve never seen someone with the same struggle, and on top of that I’m a lesbian so I rarely ever see girls talking about liking other girls too. And this video honestly hurt. No hate to her, but if anyone knows a lesbian exclusive tips video on stuff like this, please give it to me. Cause media is honestly making me feel like I just don’t exist atm, and I’d love to have a video making me feel heard.

This taught me a lot and made me very comfortable, thank you

I’m currently in my very first relationship and I’ve been dating my boyfriend for over a year now so sometimes I do get anxiety every now and then. Thanks Melissa! this really helped me wit a few questions I had especially riding lol ;)

I love how she’s casually drinking wine out of a Mason jar.

“I’ve done it in a pool, I’ve done it in a hot tub, I feel like that’s not too crazy.” Me: honey wHaT “I’ve done it in a playground” Me: * dead*

‘Don’t expect it to taste like a rainbow- it’s not fucking skittles it’s a Virgina’😂😂icon

This girl is soo funny, interesting, and pretty!!! I love this video and her attitude!

Definitely loving how open you have become 💖 loving the girl talk thank you 💕💕

I’ve had guys ask me for my snap before (I’m 15), but I’m not sure how to actually snap them? A couple problems: 1. They usually text first but most of them just ask for me to send a snap of myself because they “forgot what I look like”. I don’t generally take photos of myself and they stop texting when I tell them that. 2. In my experience, any guy who uses Snapchat is so dry. This is probably just a me thing because I’m not someone who texts or calls people, not even my best friends. This is since I prefer talking to people in real life, but how am I supposed to get to know the friendly side of boring but attractive guys over text? 3. My preference for getting a boyfriend is to know them in person, usually just because we might have a lot of classes together in school. But the problem with this is that I’m in an extension program (smart kid class) so I’m stuck with one class of kids for my whole timetable. I know all these people since I’ve been around them for almost 3 years and there are people I’m attracted to physically and I get along with them but I’m not romantically interested in any of them. I know the first advice people would give here is to join extracurricular activities but that is not an option for me. How else can I get into the dating scene?

As a middle eastren girl, i have hair EVERYWHERE and they grow so fast that shaving it clean is just impossible for me. Its still good for when i need it done quickly tho.

Today for the first time ever i wink wink ykyk to myself 😅 and it it has been hard coming to terms with growing up and having those feelings but it is getting easier a tiny I think. It’s hard when you are in the middle of child and adult. These types of videos help me a lot, I love having open conversation about it in a world where not a lot of people do, thanks ❤

Argan oil is really helpful with razor burn/bumps down there and under your armpits. It also help with making hair softer for shaving

This my first time seeing your channel and I love how blunt u are, your advice seems good and I’m gonna try it out

Honestly love videos like this. Would love to see a video with some of your favorite hairstyles or Instagram hairstyles that you have done. ❤️❤❤

I love these girl talks 😭🤍

I get so excited when I get the notification of a new video from you. I just love watching your videos

Omg one time I had a guy get hard on the ride back to drop me off at my house after seeing a movie. I literally only had on jeans and a blouse. Wasn't saying anything provocative. And he said it was my fault for getting him hard and I had to take care of it. Like boooyyy... I did NOTHING. And I'm not taking care of anything. Ladies, you do not need to do anything you don't want to do. It was honestly a lil scary cuz he seemed very annoyed & frustrated. And this girl has never had to physically protect herself. Lol maybe go take a self-defense class.

18:20 the dog listening to her like he understands everything😭

Please do more of these types of videos! I really enjoyed watching it ☺️

lol " You shouldn't be doing that bitch" I love Melissa and her advice!!!🤣🤣❤

Watching this as an aroace girlie because I like the color of your lighting and your makeup 😭

i’m tipsy too watching this. i just found you from this video and i love your energy sm.

Love the vid girl , so real and ur hilarious 💖

Thank you for answering these questions I don't even know that I need it lol is nice to know that someone else have the same problems or thoughts

Im 13 and this is one of the best video a teenager could ever watch so thanks ((:

Ok SIS!! Love the maturity and tips! Also i love your nails 😍

I'm saving myself for marriage. I'm super religious but it's not about that. I believe the wedding ring is the best protection one can have . ❤

The red wine on the white bed your nerving me out😭

I have been dating my bf for a year now and I lost my card at 15 and I waited 4 months to do the deed with my boyfriend. He knew I had never done anything with any guy I had ever dated before and he made me feel so comfortable, we talked about doing it before we did anything, and I told him I was ready and we talked about it and made sure I wanted todo it w him and he made it so memorable because it was just a few days till valentines day and he was so gentle and made sure I was ok right after and after that we went to the park and played catch and watched movies for the rest of the day.

"i think drinking wine might have been a bad idea" **drinks more wine" 🍷

This is cool I grew up with a mom who never really showed me any of these things so thank you.