ANTICIPATORY GRIEF - HOW TO PREPARE FOR THE LOSS OF THE LOVED ONE 

My Father is dying of cancer, and my emotions have been so intense. I've been very angry lately, and was wondering where those emotions were coming from. This explains it perfectly. Thank you. ❤️

My mom is battleing Lung cancer, We are trying to remain positive. but it's hard to maintain at times, For me. She is having low dose radiation and low dose chemo ,this is her second round of radiation the first time did not kill it. We have all are eggs in one basket. If this does not work. I WILL BE LOSING MY ONE AND ONLY FRIEND. Any prayer warriors out there. please say a prayer for her.

Thank you for this video. My grandmother might leave us soon and I am preparing the best I can. I love her very much and this is hard.

Thank you so much for making this video. I am going through anticipatory grief. My Grandfather has Cancer but is refusing to get help for it and I can completely understand why he does not want to do Chemotherapy because he wants to die naturally and not have the last amount of his time sick in a hospital depressed. So I am making sure that I offer all of my time to run errands for him, do his laundry down the street, grocery shop for him and make sure that I can get to him in case of any emergency. The doctor told him that he might only have 2 weeks to a month to live but I am praying to God to give my Grandpa some extra time to enjoy the last bit of his life as he wants and for him to not be in pain and not to feel too afraid. My grandmother died of a horrible long stretch of cancer and my Mother has Cancer I don't have any other family, but I do have my very beautiful loving Dog named Binky to lay with me as I cry at night. I have been so depressed these past few years and rolling with so many emotions. What I am afraid of is my mental health state getting worse. I am so scared that when my Grandfather passes away I could end up suicidal. I don't want to end my life but I can't imagine not having my grandpa or my mother anymore, I will be beyond broken and shattered inside. I will just keep praying to The Creator that he can take the wheel for me so that I can Grieve properly.

I never want my granny to die. Every day is painful as I wait to hear the call. I wish mortality didn't exist.

Death was and will be always a difficult topic to talk about for majority of society. Of course death will come for each of us sooner or later, that's why we shouldn't be afraid of this. Thanatophobia is the name of this fear. It's completely different type of fear then usuall (like fear of dogs). You feel completely powerless against the inevitable. We need to be ready but we shouldn't be worried about this. It's good for example to talk about it with children but it's important not to scare them or make them feel depressed. They need to know that one day their parents will die, but they cannot think about it non stop. We need to find this golden mean. For sure it cannot be taboo topic.

I'm 21yo, helping my mother cope with cancer.. I always knew I'd say goodbye earlier than my friends since my mother is way older than their mothers, but I never prepared myself for it. I just denied, pretending I had all the time in the world. Now it's late...

I just wanted to take a moment and thank you for the time, effort and genuineness you put into this video. As my father begins his journey into the after life, this was incredibly helpful for me.

Me crying immediately

I am a carer for my 83 year old mother who I know in my heart hasn't much time, thank you for your advice. God bless you.

With the covid pandemic we’re not allowed to be with our dying loved one. This is a travesty.

Seba, You raised a very interesting topic. Little is said about it on a daily basis. Our fast-paced life often does not give us room for such reflections. Death is considered something sick and pathological and yet it is a common element of our existence. It's nice that you brought it closer. Something to think about. Thanks.

That’s very comforting, thank you very much for your support in this difficult time. This is exactly what I needed

My great aunt has cancer throughput her entire body. She's been fighting since 2012 so she has earned her rest. Yet, I dont want to let go. All the things she'll miss, my niece won't remember her, and I'll live on without her for decades. My family is trying to prepare me but I physically cant handle it. This feels like my soul, all reason to live and be happy, has been taken. Tomorrow might be the last time I ever see her face, or maybe saturday will. I mean, she might pass before the sun rises. I can't make it through another.

Thanks for raising this hard but essential topic,as I have impression that death become taboo nowadays. in general this world does everything to focus our attention on hedonism not to think about eternity the sense of our life . In the past memento mori was present on daily basis,so reflecting them had huge impact on choices and relationships . At the moment we should learn new how to handle in anticipatory grief and acknowledge that we can help the dying person to pass away in peace and support them. The provided hints are really helpful and all of us should reflect them and appreciate our closest family and friends,as according to Leonardo da Vinci, paraphrasing his words;treat your day as every next would be your last one.

My mother is at stage 4 breast cancer, I feel so empty and depressed, And no one knows when my mother is finally give up and leave this world. I love you mom...

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Timestamps: 1:10 Let yourself feel many different emotions 2:25 Spend time with the dying person 3:00 Tell the dying person what you feel to them, if appropriate 3:41 Listen to what the dying person would like to tell you 4:28 Expect and accept unusual behaviour of the dying person 5:39 Inform friends and family 6:16 Take turns visiting the dying person 7:34 Be present and be comforting 8:06 Let the dying person go 8:36 Look after yourself 9:14 Consult a specialist For more information about anticipatory grief, check out this video: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-yovD1wtqd2g.html

My grandfather is in his final stage of life... I still can't overcome the feeling he might leave us anyday

My father is in the coma he only has few days to live 🥺, I wish I can talk to him for one last time, it’s tearing me apart 😭

This was so helpful, thank you!!!

My dad has been battling cancer for 5 years they canceled his treatments and hospice is involved they said maybe a week to a month and these videos have really been helping me come to terms with everything

Hi. thanks for this video. A close friend of mine is currently battling cancer, and unfortunately she might finish her fight quite soon. I have experienced major depression before, but i have never quite felt this kind of sadness i feel in these last weeks. I feel like my chest really is heavy, and my heart is a little more sunken than usual. I have realised that what im feeling is anticipatory grief. She is wonderful and a tru ray of sunshine to mine and many other's lives, and i really hope that she will be able to make a recovery in that small chance, but i am becoming prepared for will probably happened. I appreciate your tips and explanations of this.

Brilliant and helpful. Thank you so much for this video.

Just wanted to thank your for this video, especially the discussion about feeling disconnected from death. It articulated perfectly some feelings I’ve had about recent bereavements, but couldn’t put into words.

My grandma is 96 we a preparing she says she is tired and for us to take care of each other. Lord knows it hurt but something in me will not be selfish by baby was the most perfect person to me and I am glad she is my Qwanka. We will be ok and live thru her memory.

Thank you very helpful 🙏

Thank you

Damn so your gonna be the next big informational youtube channel huh

Help me please. My mother died of Covid on April 7th 2020 when it all first started. Now her mother my 90 year old grandmother is currently hospitalized battling Covid. She can’t have visitors so I can only call her on the phone. I got a call from the nurse tonight that my grandmother wanted to talk to me. When they connected me to her room with the nurse holding the phone to her mouth my grandma was yelling my name, “Tony, come now save me. Come save me I can’t breathe. I can t breathe. Please god please god I’m drowning” And all I could do was yell at her on the phone “breathe grandma breathe grandma. Please breathe. Don’t talk grandma don’t talk. Just breathe” And she’s continuing to yell at me come save me. And I can’t. I can’t do anything. I’m going crazy here, I lost my mom and now I’m loosing my grandmother too. And I’m in so much emotional pain. I’m going insane, I don’t want to live either now with these memories. I don’t want this I don’t I don’t I don’t. Please someone help me.

yup...let it happen.....process everything..talk...pray,scream,laugh,remember,settle any past arguments..tell them you love them, thank them for everything they have given u.......god bless you sir

I never anticaipated my sister would have cancer. Why does.bad things happen to good people???😣😣😢😭

So I was enjoying this video until 5:30 where he says the dying doesn’t get sufficient amount of oxygen in the brain and will start hallucinating dead loved ones. How it’s not real. This guy is obviously not a Christian.

Thank you