Appalachian Woman interview-Ashlyn 

My mom is still abusive and she has my son . Omg 😳

When you don't know better, you don't know better. I've never met anyone like her around here.

That poor girl is just messed up unfortunately she brought children into this world.

It's very common for people to be clueless about how abusive their childhood was

I agree and the the abused don't know any better. There was a news story here in Detroit. I guy took his dog to a vacant lot and set it on fire because he just didn't want the dog anymore. The poor dog survived and followed the guy home because it didn't know any better, it had no where else to go. Abused people are the same as that dog. I know from experience. When I was a kid I thought I had it pretty good. But when I look back now at my mean alcoholic father and mentally ill mother I feel lucky that I survived okay. My siblings didn't. I think about that dog a lot these days.

Yes they made it out alive. Many don't.

They don’t know any different 😔

You tell yourself it was better than it actually was, for multiple reasons, emotional survival..ect

Because look at the horrendous examples they have to compare to. When you only get slapped & kicked you think you're not abused because you don't get hit with a closed fist. The kid or woman who only gets black eyes when their parent or spouse is drunk doesn't think they're abused because they know lots of people who get black eyes with no alcohol is involved.

I guess I haven’t heard the same interviews you’ve listened to. The one’s I heard have had very good lives.

They grow up in similar circumstances

If you richly think, you become rich, if poorly think poor, you become poor, therefore, your thoughts is the master of your own life.”--Lord Robin

We all are one in the same and alot alike once the barrier gets broken and people just talk to eachother and hear the next person out

THANK YOU for acknowledging this! No disrespect intended but I worked in the inner city and the urban poor...city people don't know what poor is. Poor without all the resources...poor without clean city water, poor without wealthy churches, food banks, jobs.... you are very kind to see this.

@Donte821 I respectfully disagree. There are similar experiences due to what they are subjected to (drugs) but no...poor city people can't imagine the poverty...

I also had a very strong grounded father. I wouldn't be the man i am today without him

yes, I was thinking the same thing.

Absolutely!

*Yes*

I would also like to see that.

He did interview a few native americans

@@dlesliejones Thanks, buddy.

Heck yes! Bless you and that interesting, fascinating culture of American people

These videos provide such a unique view of those who live in Appalachia.

@@thedildozer6775 My family is from the same area on my daddy's side! You kno anyone with the last name of "Fee"???

Sounds like it would be a great interview Mr. Dildozer!

Aren't there HIPPA laws?

Way to break her anonymity

@@hopskotchsquirrel9504 this..

She doesn't say her name so how is it hippa

Thank you for caring for the broken people. ❤

Good catch.... well, I mean.. Bah!

Yeah, not good.

Yeah that caught me too....I was like wait, your mother pimped you out when you were a F'ing child, and you left your child with your pimp abusive mother claiming "they're well taken care of"?? 🙄

That's exactly right. One thing I noticed is she speaks out of both sides of her mouth. However, I'm not sure if her mother is as questionable as she once was.

My instant thought

Nice catch...I found that a very compelling statement.

She’s right

All unwanted children are sacrifices on the altar of irresponsibility.

I hate to see her repeat the same thing with her kids. I hope she can clean up her act.

@@Kerrviii unfortunately she can't 😔😥 so sad

I couldn’t agree more!! I hope she knows she’s lovely!

Yesssssss

I totally agree with you shes gorgeous she has natural beauty . Dosent need makeup .

Beautiful 💕 young lady with natural strength

I was thinking the same thing.

"I'm too young to you know look after my kids" what a load of shit. Not too young to make kids or sell your body though. And you're saying how great she is....how many women have you paid for in your time?.......

She literally said she's too young to look after the children she was old enough to make. She's fing 30yrs old ffs. Not some 16yr old anymore.

She’s mentally ill and a drug addict. How could she be a good mother? She was prostituted by her own mother just before she reached puberty. I admire her for knowing she can’t raise her children yet. She has no support system. She was once intelligent enough to graduate high a school at 15, and become an LPN. Drug addiction took all that away from her. Where are all the treatment centers for people like her that were supposed to be built with the drug lawsuit settlements????

Wow I literally just commented like the same thing before I saw this! It’s really sad but she does speak with knowledge which blows my mind especially compared to addicts in the hood

Bad parents is a common theme of these videos. The real privilege anyone is born with his the privilege of having loving parents. Not their skin color, not where they came from.

Same. Sad to see.

It's that awful cycle of what they know. Its heartbreaking.

yes!

I don’t believe a word out of the mouth of any person who claims how bad the mother or father was, and then turn around and hand their kids over to those same people. It doesn’t add up, at all.

So true. We don't realize what we have.

Literally i will never comaplain anymore

I appreciate your willingness to rethink gratitude and perspective, but at the same time life does suck! For everyone- because we have no choice to exist, then suddenly we're thrown into this crazy thing called life and left to figure it out. Sometimes it sucks, sometimes it's beautiful. No sense in discounting those feelings. We're all just doing the best we can. :)

I so totally agree with you!

I suppose the milkshake is always taller on the other side.

Keep up the good work and may your future be peaceful and happy

Keep striving great job

Congratulations on your sobriety!

I've been around the rooms, have a few 24s, and if I may, it get's easer. As the years go by, I miss it less and less, and then one day, something will happen to bring me right back! I'm fortunate, I live in a part of the country where there are meetings like every hour, in like every free building! So keep coming back. Trying to figure out if I can throw in one more cliche'!

You're doing great ! Keep your head up!

Only through Christ, can anyone be changed permanently. Pray that she would turn to Him. 🙏🧡

​@@pattihawks353you both need to see a psychiatrist and keep your blood cult joke to yourselves

Yep

That's the culture of the region though. The best thing to do is to bring these children out of the region for a better life. There's nothing there left.

@@blackcitroenlove that's not true for all or even most of southern Appalachia! I LOVE living in the mountains of Western North Carolina. There are plenty of hard working and successful people here. Quite a few very wealthy and well known people have huge, expensive vacation homes here and people from urban cities are buying up all the available (which is not much) real estate as soon as it's available because it's safe and quiet here and most people are polite and courteous.

@@smidgeonofagangsta doesn't work for everyone. Everyone is not included

People wouldn't listen if she wasnt wearing a mask. PRIORITIES

Yes, you said that so well and I agree that!! I also hope and Pray that she becomes someone that she herself can be very proud of!

@larry williams

@Larry Williams - Dream on ;)

When people I have never met act like they care about me I get suspicious, Larry. I wonder what they want from me. People I know will listen. Her first big step would to stop using. A lot of people view drug abusers as something to use, not something to love and trust.

That's so fucking Beautiful! I hope she does too!!

Be blessed

Yes don’t do drugs kids

More like middle school. Kids are on drugs by high school.

I agree

@@Calverts399 Yes, I agree middle school would be better...

Would not be effective.

I agree... She looks like she could be a doctor or in a similar career, if she had grown up in a very different setting. Bless her heart!

I couldn't agree more. You are a product of your environment.

@@kakel536 Looks like a doctor? Lmfaoo. You think doctors have certain features? You trying to say that she doesn't look totally inbred, like most Appalachians?

College doesn't make you smart. Life makes you smart!

@@kaylacarpenter272 I was thinking the same thing; be realistic!

She graduated early from high school, she has opportunities to better her life . She is still young

she really is

Why lie?

that hair

Just like rosie o'donnell

She’s average.

That was my thought as well! That woman does not need another child to ruin.

I had the same thought. There is a market for young boys. If a mother has no issues pimping out her own daughter, I fear she has little reservations about doing the same to her grandson. I hope I'm wrong. There is so much going on here. Abuse, addiction, neglect.

@@dluelmo it's all intergenerational abuse - I think this girl is trying hard to break the cycle with the limited resources she has. She's not dumb - she has insight and I think she has moments of clarity but the clarity must seem like the wall of a tidal wave. It's tragic.

It's a way of describing a human personality at any age. I really don't think she meant that he was financially independent or was living on his own!

@@dawnatilla John has put in words is 100% right, your comment is just ridiculous , as is the next . I feel for mark that must be so hard to hear being there , SAD 😞

So sad

Kids aren’t independent, they learn to be independent before they should, and carry that with them throughout their entire life, with most never understanding why they are the way they are, or why when they are in their 20s and 30s and act like children. I’ve seen both; children who were taken care of their entire childhood and become amazing adults, and children who were born and let wild, and hit their teens and then into their 20s and 30s and go buck wild, making up for lost childhood

@@the_koo3151 you started off saying what I was getting at but then got off track. Every child and their upbringing and situation is different. Everyone’s path is different but at 6 years old not one person on this earth is independent in any way, shape, or form. If you think otherwise then you are a guilty enabler.

That is what they say the day you first engage in alcohol or drugs is the age you stop maturing, add trauma to that and she is trapped in that age.

Please ! Well that would make me the most successful 12 yr old in the world . With businesses , employees , military , college degree, kids .....

@@mrbee145 I've seen it myself many times. A few successes don't make up for 1000s of failures.

Well shit, guess i really am 14 and that’s why my therapist refers to my behavior as “normal in children” 🤷🏻‍♀️ Lol sucks

This video is more a video of someone who had a horrible upbringing than an Appalachian woman.

Yeah her mom is down below commenting and talking shit! Shonda Gibson 👇🏼👇🏼👇🏼

@@sayrahmarie501 wow; disgusting. That just makes me worry about her son even more.

@@sayrahmarie501 Is her mom the lady Shonda that he interviewed? I haven’t watched it but it’s coming up in the recommended

@@jeanakatherine9369 yes, that’s her

That’s exactly what I just said to myself!!!!

Best comment ever

This is a very good point because that’s usually the last thing one wants to admit. She is trying not to repeat the cycle of abuse that she realizes is the only thing she knows.

I would agree, except for that she lets her 6 year old live with the parent that abused her for her entire life. She needs to step up and protect them from the same life that she had.

I’m not talking about this woman but really it takes a strong parent to be what their kids need

@@onecraftybadger3847 Exactly my thoughts!

She's Had child services come to the house, no drug test and they live in filth. Social services is a joke and let them keep the kids in danger

@@user-dn3yv8ig5e do you know them? just curious

@@user-dn3yv8ig5e do you know them? just curious

@@user-dn3yv8ig5e do you know them? just curious

Nobody protected her. Nobody’s protecting them. It’s a vicious cycle of abuse. I’m not sure who you think is going to protect them? Not social services... They’re a joke... Everyone there is walking around with unprocessed trauma so it’s definitely not gonna be friends or family.

Me too!

Gotta love it LOL

But there’s those who would have u believe that every white personal in America is privileged. Just not so. There are rich. Poor. Middle class all races. Poverty is the problem not race

How can you tell? Do you know her? Has she done anything of note?

@@patrickfleming253 The junkie shuffle she is doing all interview is a good indication she is a good person...

This was her Mom 30 years ago.

@@ronniebababooe7584 Damn dude, you're cold. Having a hard time with drugs doesn't make someone a bad person. I hope you never have to experience such judgement in your life.

There is absolutely no valid was to tell if a person is a good or bad person from a few minutes of seeing them on a screen, saying a couple of things they choose to want you to hear, in an edited video. You know absolutely nothing about this person except that is she currently high at this taping. You have no idea her morals, intentions, personality, etc. from the information to which you have access.

You didn't hear her wrong.

That caught my attention, too. Disgusting and sad.

The I left my babies to their nanny, my mother, to discipline them.

😭

Agreed😢 I thought exactly the same....💔

product of her environment,,,

Aren't we all? Some move past it, others don't.

@@linsioux217 exactly, either people realize there dilemma & fix it or they don't,,, can't help those that drown hanging on to a 100 block of cement because they saw it on tv or its the law,,,

Very sad

This girl basically got shit on starting out in life. I wish her well and I hope she can get it all figured out.

This is what a survivor looks like 🌹

I was thinking the same thing. She just needs to get off the prescription pills, but I think that's harder than any illegal drug, they just don't talk about it

Agreed. Such a kind hearted soul she is.. even through all she's been through! I pray for her healing and love that was never properly given to her. Shame on this world flooding our areas with drugs to tear apart the family unit. These stories break my heart into a million pieces.. every single one! God Bless you Mark Laita for shining the light on this epidemic the way you do. So people can see the consequences and hopefully do better within their own families.. that's where the repairing begins.. at home.. with love❣️💕

Yet she is damning her kids to her life by leaving them with her mother who was more a pimp than parent. Nothing beautiful or profound just visiting her bad parenting skills on her kids. I gave up a child because I couldn’t be the mother he needed or wanted. And that killed me but his successes makes me know I did what was necessary with what I had

"It ain't the life you choose,it's the life you live"....What You Give-Tesla

She's certainly intelligent

@@007nadineL lol no one ever knows for sure if someone is telling lies or not ... but why say so many horrible things that paint you in such a negative light if they aren’t the truth ? Doubt she just made that story up .... but there’s always gonna be a skeptic

@@daniellecarmell2046 I'd be willing to bet you that even despite her seeming to be telling the truth here that even this version of her and her life is through her own rosey red glasses. I don't say this because I want you to think badly of her. But I've known damaged girls like her, and the fact that they have that little bit of charm(or a lot of charm in other cases) that's their hook into people lives where they can wreak havoc with absolutely no sense of responsibility. They can do things that are hard to call anything but evil, and it's never their fault because they're a victim.

There is only TRUTH not hers or yours or mine

@@laurendeaves376 what does that mean ? No one is capable of truth or honesty ?

@@daniellecarmell2046 it means truth is universal, we don’t have seperate truths, different perceptions but not your truth or mine, there is only truth

That’s not a nervous disorder, that’s the drugs she is currently taking.

"Nervous disorder"? You can't be that naive.

Classic crystal meth movements

Crystal Meth is a hell of drug.

@@pm2886 Lots of people are naive because they've never known people who did drugs. Or even worse, they have known those people but weren't able to tell they did drugs which is a far more dangerous place to be lol.

She’s way too jacked up on drugs man!

I think mothers in the US can pick the families they send their children to through adoption agencies? I know some do that which seems like a great idea.

Thank you for speaking up! I have more respect for the mother and father who allow their child to be adopted, then those who put their child through hell or disadvantage them from the start by trying to raise them in a bad situation.

I was adopted along with my two brothers at 6 months old, and was a crack baby and sold for drug money as a baby. My real mother knew she wasn't cut out for motherhood and set us up for adoption. And it was the best thing she could have done for me. It didn't stop me from being abused again as a child and from turning to drugs as a teen and young adult, but I've been clean for over 12 years and have been to therapy and know in my heart that it would be a lot worse if I didn't get adopted. I probably wouldn't be alive. We were left alone for days and starving, at under 6 months, 18 months, and 4. My oldest brother was found in a dark alley in the middle of the night searching the garbage cans for food, and they came in and found us. There were police reports of my real mother trying to sell me for drug money outside of a CVS twice but left before the cops could find her. My adopted mother is amazing and she is the reason I'm alive and not addicted to something wasting away. She does everything she can for me and loves me like I'm her own, so much so that we forget that we're adopted sometimes. I didn't have a perfect childhood, but I had a mother who tried to protect me from the things that were dangerous and I appreciate her more and more as I get older. I'm 36 now and she's my best friend. I had knee surgeries from ballet hurting my knees and I got addicted to pain pills and then heroin, and took suboxone for years. I was abused by my adoptive father until I was 12 but I got away from him with my mom and siblings when they divorced, but I didn't tell her until he passed away because she would have killed him. But I've been in therapy since I was 24 and this is the best I've ever felt, all because of my adoptive mother. She made it possible for me to have my own life with no shame and help me work through all this childhood abuse and is the best. I just straight up went in 😂 I'm from eastern Kentucky so this girl talking about her abusive mom and then sending her child to that same mom upset me a bit. I'd never send my child to my dad's when I know what he did. Absolutely not.

You have one side that feigns a level of compassion that neglects to mention their responsibility - saying they should be taken care of by the government, etc. You also have one side that has zero compassion and thinks they're helpless. But they are human, and while both of those concepts have elements of truth, people aren't very good at speaking on the nuance of these situations. I think we should have compassion for these people in a way that allows us to understand how they got caught up, and we should teach ourselves (and them if we're able to) how to NOT be in a realistic sense and not a judgemental one, so we don't end up like them (and to help them if possible).

@@depletable "how they got caught up" and "so we don't end up like them"... Some of these people haven't made bad choices in life that put them in crappy situations. Some are born into rough environments and live a rough life because it's all that they know. Then their are individuals that were born into rough environments but we're able to figure out that what they are experiencing in life isn't right so they seek help or guidance from anyone or any institution that will listen or give a damn but their cries for help go unnoticed until it's too late. In short, living a rough life wasn't a choice or bad decision! It's what was dealt to them at the earliest stage of life!

@@GaiusCaesarAugustusGermanicus. We easily delve into a philosophical conservation about responsibility and existentialism. You may even get into a conversation about genetics or IQ. I have heard plenty of stories of people in the most horrible beginnings making choices that pull them from that place. Other than that, you learn the ethical and moral responsibility their parents had, and learn from that. Even if someone was born in that situation, and never made a good choice because of it (which is what you are suggesting - that they are and were totally incapable, so they somehow have no responsibility) you can still learn from their literal actions, so that you can understand the domino effects, and help yourself and others with that information.

@@depletable dude shut up

@@pinkpugginz Whatever you say, Stupid.

Emotionally intelligent people don't give their kids away to their abusive mother 😢

What is grandmom doing with her child ?

Right ? I lost a ton of respect for her when she said she loves her kids that's why she left them where they at. Like what??? That's probably the worst place for them

There's no rhyme or reason when you're using. She THINKS it's for the best, but it's the last thing she should've done.

She's probably like many people who don't realize that boys are as likely to be sexually abused, as girls.

P

I agree. I love his videos. He treats everyone with respect and he has such a talent with getting people to open up. Love it!

@@goughaway52 Your screen name is clever. At first I thought it was Gouge Away like the Pixies song, but maybe it's a play on Vincent Van Gough? Either way, great artists.

I know all about sabotaging myself. I did use my 16 months in prison as a tool though and have 10 years clean now after 20 years of riding a rollercoaster I could never get off.

I would say that her childhood conditioned her to be a failure, as to be a success goes against their rules.

She definitely self sabatoged... the question is around the relative level of consciousness she had of it happening... to what degree did she see pills sitting and have that survival switch of stealing something valuable and snatching it vs she got scared of this new path and decided it was too much to bear.

It blows me away that she was a lvn. I'm 43 and just graduated a BSN program and it was one of the hardest things I've ever done in my life academically. I'm blown away she was able to achieve that through the childhood trauma she experienced.

@@KindredGh0st she doesn't even know what a LPN is, do you honestly believe she was one?

Its possible, hard, but possible.

True. People don't realize how bad it can be for some ppl.

@@joefox9765 easy to do when it is all you know

It’s the same in urban environments.

What's her onlyfan?

I think meth has a part.

She's high as hell no disrespect... that's y the story is all over the place sad 2 watch

@@CaleCoast I agree. She was high during this interview. As evidenced by her incoherent and confusing thoughts.

Wow! I thought she was younger. Obviously, I'm a bit distracted BUT she is HIGH. Mind and words going 10 miles a minute.

Why do you think Netflix, HBO . Msm don’t show these videos,addicts etc -you think they want to show what most democrat run cities look like -skid row -San Francisco-go watch what’s happening In Kensington in Phillie - sickening- it’s all about climate change and white supremacy- sadly nobody cares about addicts - don’t forget this women has white privilege -

Not sure why they put a line in the part that says how horrible democrat run cities are

Lol this is “democratic” censoring at its finest

This interview is literally in a conservative county in Kentucky lmao

@@kham6006 This is trailer trash territory. This is all in the south, those states cant even pay their fucking bills without those "democrat run" cities taxes.

What was that? Was she shooing someone/something away?

@@myheadfelloffff Yes

Git

G’YIT!

@@loravipperman3061 exactly. GIT.

Yeah she's wanting to ditch her kids and run away, very special...