Are our kids BLACK? WHITE? OTHER? How we teach our kids about their skin color 

Eleanor Roosevelt said, “What other people think of me is none of my business.” May God use us for His glory.

Solo’s perspective on how he raises his kids is wise.

I’m looking forward to heaven where the only box will be [Child Of God].

I am white my husband is Zambian. Our children were all born in America but we have spent the last 7 years in Africa. It's amazing to me how much more emphasis is put on race in America than it is here. Our 15 yr old daughter just experienced the "choosing a race" form and said she filled in half the white circle and half the black.

I am a 70 year old white woman who was raised in a large Midwestern city. I don’t need to repeat how I was raised. But, my husband and I were in the military and lived all over the US. I love your family. You have wonderful kids. I giggled at Belle and Judah’s conversation about the DMV. Angry people of any race will always be angry. Let them be angry and live your life with joy. Your family is so blessed. Love watching and look forward to your channel posts!! God bless you all!

I am white so I feel like I am learning a lot from your family's experiences. Thank you for being brave and sharing ❤. No matter our color we should never raise our kids with a chip on their shoulder.

God I ❤️ Solo! He is so level headed and this world needs more people like him. They are both great parents!

I want to share a little story with you guys. My mother and aunt were both teachers. I was born and raised in a small town in KY. When I started 1st grade, my teacher was black. However, I had never been “taught” about different races. People were people to me. Mom was worried one of the other kids might say something to me about Ms. West, so after the first day of school, she was asking me all the usual questions. She said I told her I loved my teacher! I said her smile was so pretty and she was a little tan. “Through the eyes of a child here”. Ms. West was a beautiful black lady and she had a GOLD tooth. The cherry on top though...her house was painted a light pink. ☺️ I’m 56 now, and before we moved a few years ago they tore her house down. I stopped and my hubby got me a small piece of the pink siding from her house. 💕 I pray more people learn to see “through the loving eyes of a child”.

On forms, everyone should mark "other" and then write in "human".

I have a mixed race son, when he was born I got that question a lot, "what colour is he" to which I used to reply "green" stops them asking again 😅

“Everyone is gonna have hardships.”- this comment from Solo and Sarah’s agreement reminded me instantly of the Bible verse my kids worked on last week: “You will have suffering in this world. Be courageous. I have conquered the world.” John 16:33.

I’m a white American and my husband is a black Kenyan. Our first daughter was born in Kenya and for the first 17 months she was labeled a white “mzungu” baby and then we moved to the States where she was viewed as black. She’s now 9 and proudly identifies herself as a black Kenyan-American! 🇰🇪 + 🇺🇸 =💕

I’m a 75 year old “white” woman. I always write “human race”.when asked that question. That’s all anyone needs to know. If that doesn’t work ,write in Child of God!!!

"I am not prepared to have their confidence determined by outsiders" Amen! I love this approach and message for our kids👍

I’m really glad you touched on this, as a biracial child I wasn’t “black” enough for the African American kids, however because my skin is brown I wasn’t “white” enough for the Caucasian kids. Thus I’ve always been a loner, didn’t really fit in, stuck by myself didn’t make friends. Not too mention being bullied altogether just because my skin is different hair different than Caucasian kids. It was terrible I didn’t goto public high school because of the torment I endured in elementary and junior high. I now at 37, always check African American & Caucasian if they don’t offer both I don’t answer! The crazy part is defining ppl like they are a piece of paper there black no there white guess what if we all dig into our family history and tree we would find that everyone is mixed with different cultures and races. I’m not black I’m not white... I AM German, Norwegian and African American thank you!! And that’s what I say and answer when o hear assumptions or ignorant comments. There always will be racism unfortunately that sadness hurts my heart that Ignorant ppl can hate others based on the color of their skin, Sexual orientation, Religion etc. Sarah, Solo you are both right in how you teach your children that we are all Gods children and too love each other. Keep doing what your doing it shows in your amazing, beautiful, intelligent blessings (your children!) We all bleed the same blood we breathe the same air we are all more alike than we know and think. Be kind too others stop judging and start loving. Love has no color we are all human beings respect one another. Much love too all 💙🙏🏽✌🏽

I've raised my black dominican-jamaican-american children about their history and how they are perceived worldly. Then I tell them don't allow IT to curtail your growth.✌🏿

I have always felt like Belle....my father is black and my mother is Native American...I never want to pick one or the other because I am proud of all aspects of my heritage black and native american...this was a good video!

I LOVE that you said “you have a choice whether you make race a big deal IN YOUR LIFE or not”. I echo the same things to my children and try to reflect that in our life. Yes, racism in America is a hot topic, but our home refuses to let it dictate our lives, feelings and thoughts. Our identity is first found in Christ for those who are in Christ. Everything else is secondary. Thank you for addressing this!

I wish we could just get rid of those “boxes”.

When Solo speaks, it’s wisdom to listen.🙏🏾❤️🙏🏾

This reminds me of an interview I watched several years ago with Morgan Freeman. He was asked how he would end racism and he said “you just stop talking about it!” The interviewer was kind of surprised by his answer and Morgan asked him if wanted a “Jewish History Month” and the interviewer said no. Morgan then asked if he wanted one and again, the interviewer said no....Morgan then said “I don’t want one either.” Then he said that the way you end racism was to stop referring to people as a black man or a white man....they’re just men. I love that and it makes so much sense. For me, I recognize, respect, and acknowledge our differences but people are people to me. I don’t judge anyone based on the color of their skin nor do I define people by the color of their skin. We are all human beings....children of God.

"why live your life and shape your life around what other people think about you" i'm 44 years old and i wish i had figured this out when i was younger. life is so much easier when we aren't so worried about what other people think.

I’m a white older lady and you have given me a lot to think about , in a positive way . Love your family .

As a mother of 2 biracial adult sons, this video truly spoke to everything I have always tried to impart to them. The only way the world can truly change is by changing the lens. Thank you so much for sharing this.

Crazy world we live in 🤪 looking forward to the day we’re all called “beautiful children of God”, plain and simple.

My son is the same and he encounter this on a standardized test in elementary school. He choose the same as Bell did and was told he could not choose both as well that he would need to choose other. As an opinionated 10year he ask what exactly was an other then stated that he was not an other and left it blank. Today he is almost 35 and proudly serves in AF reserve and a County sheriff deputy who will be a daddy himself in a few short weeks. We chuckle about it now, but it definitely impacted him at the time. Today he is of the mind set that race/skin color doesn't define who you are as individual. Love your channel & your family. 🤗

My children are mixed Hispanic and White, but present as white. I raised them to be proud of their Hispanic heritage so that their culture is not lost to them. Their children are mixed also, one is darker and is always asked about her heritage and she says she is mixed. The other grandchild presents as white and is proud of his Hispanic heritage. My other grandchildren are half white and 1/4 Chinese and 1/4 Hispanic and they are being raised to be proud of their mixed heritage. We raised them to be proud of "who" they are.

I LOVE Solos views on this . EVERYONE needs to hear this.You both are amazing people.

We are not blind so to say " we don't see color" would be an ignorant statement. HOWEVER, we do see the character of a fellow human being, and that is the true identity of a person!!! We have to STOP letting the media, and politicians pin us against each other, and realize they win if we choose to believe them. WE ALL JUST NEED TO LOVE, AND EMBRACE EACH OTHER!!! I love that you two chose to have this conversation, and I just love your personalities!!!

I could listen to Solo’s wise words on any topic all day long.

It is so great to hear others that have the same mindset! I am white and my husband is Hispanic (we also have 10 kids and homeschool Lol) and we have had the same box checking issues! We have also had some horrible things said to us over the years in regards to our children's race and our interracial marriage. And while it is hurtful, and in the beginning it made me angry at the unfair assumptions and hateful remarks, we have had so many opportunities to grow personally , to talk to our children about their identities, their uniqueness as God's creation, to teach them God's forgiveness, and to even try to have an understanding perspective towards people's response to us, because many that are saying these hurtful things were, sadly, raised to think that way, just like we are raising our children to think the way we are. I know people personally that have had to overcome racial thinking from being raised that way, and they have done so beautifully! ❤ So we have striven to teach our children that our character, our walk with God and obedience to His Word, and the way we love our neighbor as ourselves is what defines us, and Christ is who unites us all in salvation as brothers and sisters in Him through His death and resurrection! That this should be our greatest distinction 😊

I totally agree with you, Solo… if our country is to ever move on from this issue, we have to stop with the labels. We are all people- just people! To be equal, the labels have to end.

My children are also "black" and "white." I would want them to do exactly as Belle did.

As a parent I get that, building "Resilient" children especially in a world where the messages are loud, confusing and relentless. Loved this 👌.

I loved the comment that Solo made about people being known more by the content of their character. He is so wise.

I love Solo's take on life. He is so right. Define your own box and don't let perceived limitations get in your way. Peace and love to all your family ❤️

This Grandma (abiga they call me) sees Belle as a beautiful, diligent student, loving sister and daughter, helpful, kind, young lady. Blessings. Oh, and have fun driving!

The way Sarah looks at Solo when he's talking is Mood!!!

Sarah and Solo you both are so very wise. The way you raise your kiddos about life is amazing. Take care!

I wish everyone was as wise and kind as Solo.

I'm so glad your kids are free thinkers. Kids nowadays are taught in schools to memorize what is taught and not question the teacher at all!!

I couldn’t love this video more! I think I need to find Solo’s sermon on Sunday because I have a feeling he can PREACH!! 🙌

Solo nailed it!! I 100% agree. The more you discuss it and bring it up the more it causes division , but the most important thing is character and who you are in Christ. We are all unique. I love the values you have snd teach your children.

Solo is a wise man ! Very good leader! I am proud to say I watch your channel!

i love how proud sarahs face looks while solo is talking she like yeah thats my man 🥰 they will be in love forever

Solo and Sarah, you owe no explanations to no one! With that being said you are 100% correct on this issue. It’s doesn’t become an issue unless you allow it to become an issue. Solo, you could not have explained this any better. You just gave us a great history lesson ❤️

This subject is one that is near and dear to my heart. Prejudice is rampant. When my 20 year old daughter tried to tell her dad that she was pregnant he cut ties with her. We had been divorced for years and their relationship wasn't great at that point. We are white and the young man that she got pregnant by was 1/2 black and 1/2 white. I'm sorry to say that as she approaches her 8th birthday she has never met her own grandfather. He just doesn't know what light and love he could have in his life. This child is the light of my life. She is my reason for keeping on in this crazy messed up world. There have been days that I just didn't want to keep trudging on. She knows she is mixed and hopefully by the time she gets her learners permit she will be able to check black and white! Until I will keep praying that this world will improve and grow up.

Sarah and Solo, you are doing beautifully in training your children. Thanks for sharing your gifts and life with us. You are inspiring and I admire each of you. Belle! You are wise beyond your years! You will look back at yourself and be very proud! Clearly, there are many adults who still have yet to catch up with you! Blessings and Love!

I love Solo's perspective. I think he can look at it different because he was not raised in America. Which goes to show that maybe "we" as Americans might just have it wrong.

I understand Belle’s confusion. I am biracial - Am Indian/Caucasian but growing up (I am old) I often got told to use the “colored” facilities. As a college student, I had to complete a standardized National teaching exam which asked for race. I put other and wrote in American. My mother was convinced my test would be thrown out. Instead, when I got my scores (I passed!), there was a comment - “About the race - good for you!” Ever since, I always mark Other! Love this post! Bravo for your parenting (and I have taught parenting for 30+ years)! Hugs, love, and prayers. From a homeschooling mom of 20 years to you - ❤️ Bravo to Solo - maybe sometimes we need to identify ethnicity but certainly not always!

You are so right about there being different adversity that we all face. I was glad to hear you speak on that. You are both so very wise. Great job mom and dad! 🙏❤

@ 7:56 THIS THIS THIS!!! THANK YOU SOLO for making this point that so many other people need to hear. Love how bold you guys are with your beliefs

My children are mixed and they learn about all their heritages. Living in the South I do have to prepare my babies to watch out for those who would be profile them and treat them as less bc racism is very real here. We don't let it define them but they do learn how to handle the ugly when it tries to come for them. Balance is key

I believe racism is a problem because people make it a problem. I am 1/2 white 1/2 Indian. I grew up in a family with a lot of adopted siblings. I have siblings who are black, Chinese, vietnamese, white,..... growing up I NEVER noticed race and that we were different. And now as an adult I try to teach my children the same way. Color, Disabilities, whatever it may be we are all different.... but we are all also very much the same. .. great video.

Thanks, Sara, Solo and family for your discussion and beliefs about who we are as a people of faith and truth. I celebrate and honor you as family and tribe. We are one in The One. Blessings and love.

Great valid points with a caring and positive attitude! I have never heard anyone speak so well on this subject. Thank you!

I love how you both allow each other to speak and don’t talk over each other. Y’all allow each other to get your whole point out before the other speaks. Your relationship and family is so beautiful ❤️

Solo was on fire! I loved hearing Belle's point of view in that situation. I would love to hear how you instill confidence in your kids. My middle child seems to need more confidence as he is quick to give up on many things.

I may have found this video 2 years after it was published but I loved this discussion today, so interesting and such a sensible way to see the world and it’s people. We’re all part something!

I am also proud of Belle and I think that you are raising incredible, respectful, well rounded, beautiful children!

Bravo, you are both inspirations! I watched the video where Belle passed her learner's permit and I must admit my heart did squeeze a little for Belle when she spoke of her experience.

It's definitely up to you making it a big deal or not. I wasn't raised to make it a big deal. And yes I'm aware that I'm black but my parents didn't make that the only way I identify myself. I believe that this has helped me have beautiful relationships with people of all ethnic background. Solo made excellent points!!!!!! We are all diverse!!!!! It saddens me that as black people we force each other to think the same and feel the same about everything, especially how we view ourselves. Again your family makes me smile❤

Solo, I appreciated your comments today. You are so insightful and wise!

Thank you for introducing us to the Miller Family. I am really enjoying their channel. They are such a beautiful family 💗

So wise!! Thank you for always sharing what's on your hearts!!

Solo is black and of direct African decent. He has made a choice to raise his bi-racial children in America. So many people with far less ability to compare have strong opinions. He and Sarah are acutely aware. She has traveled extensively. A very smart man said, "Rhetoric can never replace reality". Keep doing what you're doing. Your children are bright. Very, very bright.

Thank you for this wonderful conversation on such an important topic. I refuse to let media or any other influence define me in my personal life. My motto is Be Better and Do Better. I want to treat every person, that I come in contact with on a daily basis, with kindness and love. It's amazing how much joy we can receive and give if we do that.❤

First, I love both or your perspectives. The biggest take away for me was Solo's reiteration that we need to encourage our children and not put them in a box. I feel like, as a parent of little ones, I get very caught up in "the right choice". It's very difficult to let go of the control when I can foresee a negative outcome. I do recognize the need to let a situation play out (if safe) and this was a great reminder of that. Second, I'm so thankful to have grown up in a place where race/ethnicity/nationality differences were encouraged and praised! I've never checked one box on documents. I was married and in my twenties before anyone said "you can only pick one" or "you have to pick one of your names". It was at this time a co-worker and I got into it over whether or not I was a P.O.C. I had no clue what the acronym stood for. When I chose not to identify with the term because it didn't feel right for me, we had a "colorful exchange of views". It's unfortunate. I don't like things that divide us as people. At the end of the day, we're all people.

Star Jones once said" I am the author of the dictionary that defines me", I live by that philosophy

BRILLIANT. Solo you put the words to my feelings and could never find THANK YOU GOD BLESS ❤️

You will raise amazing children. My daughter ran into a situation early in life where her "group " of friends told another girl she couldnt hang around them because she wasnt the same skin color..my daughter quickly took a stand and told them she was a human and a good person and she would be a total asset to their friendship group and upon this they all accepted her and became best friends.. Solo you are so right it's what we as parents teach our kids and mine was taught to love everyone..

Thanks for taking the time and addressing this. I totally agree with you. I especially love what you said towards the beginning, something like: "Some people have strong opinions,.. And that's ok." :) We need that attitude a lot more and people need to take a "chill pill" (in the words of my teenage son). Different opinions are ok. We need to learn to discuss things again - in a good way, with manners and respect. "Mmh? You see that differently. Interesting. Tell me more." Then we can learn from another. So many people are personally offended lately when somebody doesn't agree with them. Instead it's so important to learn to see the other perspective. Like you said, Sarah, that is what you teach your kids at home. So important.

Solo has so much wisdom. I love where he gets his wisdom from and he shares it. Thanks! Love the way you are teaching your children.

Solo is so inspirational, always represents positivity, love listening to him speak. Does your church have a website that allows viewings of his preaching? You are definitely raising well adjusted, strong, beautiful and confident children of God. Such a beautiful family! I have a prayer request, had a large cyst removed from my back, awaiting the biopsy results. Please say a little prayer for me, extremely nervous. Would surely appreciate it!

I love y’all. I expected y’all to get comments when you all chose to share Belle and Judah’s comments. Kudos to the two of them and to the two of you! From: #retired teacher #have lived in America more than half of my life #naturalized citizen #West African #still talk with an accent #well traveled #have been one and only #proud wife and mom

I absolutely love Solo. He is so wonderful to listen to. I wish he was my pastor and money management man....

My mom was very ignorant, leading to her answer about race to be absolutely brilliant. We are Gods ice cream and he makes us all in different flavors. But we are all delicious to somebody.

Thank you so much for this discussion as it has given me significant insight how to approach my children. You gave me the words!

Critical thinking is so important for our young ones. I am Navajo and apache and appreciate the conversations you had with your children about what is taught in many school books as “facts.” Your kids are going to contribute such goodness to this world as adults! Love your channel

Amen!!! You speak the truth. For me it’s all about teaching the Golden rule, “Treat others the way you want to be treated” & “Never say you can’t always say I’ll try”. Your life is what you make of it, only you are in control of your destiny.

I respect your thoughts, I think that it’s an individual experience and why many prepare their children to accept their blackness. And to be cautious when interacting with others.

Poor kids. They really can get shamed and/or confused for just asking “why?” God bless you for the wisdom you give your kids.

Thank you Sarah and Solo for sharing your personal view points. We all go through life with different experiences, and those experiences help shape our views. You obviously do not necessarily share the same viewpoint as all of the people commenting- but it is your viewpoint, and it is valid. Thank you!

First of all, just love you guys. Second, Sarah, I was watching you while Solo was speaking and the admiration in your eyes towards him was remarkable. Warmed my heart. Solo, thank you for mentioning Hispanics, I am of Central American descent and we are a DIVERSE group of people and thank you for mentioning that. Our history has much violence as well, I have no control over what my ancestors did but I do have control of how I treat people and how I respect them when I'm in their presence. Bottom line, everything comes down to LOVE. God is LOVE. That's how I choose to live my life.

Your children know who they are and from watching them for so long I can see how confident and intelligent they are. They are going do some great things in this world. I pray for all of you daily.

Way to go Belle!!! I am happy she chose what she felt she needed to choose!! I think we should be able to check the boxes we want...I’m also mixed...I tend to be told I look white only but I identify as black I would love to be able to check both boxes....maybe that will happen in the future❤️

I would love to hear Solo preach a sermon! He is a very passionate speaker....

Finally got around to watching this one today. Our kids are not yet old enough to have to pick any boxes, but when I have had to do it for them I have been frustrated with the options as well. It sucks when people make assumptions about your family because of what you all look like. Many people, unless they know us personally, will often assume that we think a certain way about this issue and will sometimes get very pushy about how they think we should talk about this topic with our children. We also homeschool so I am very thankful for the unique opportunity we have to shape our children’s worldview on this subject. It’s nice to see that we aren’t the only Mixed-ethnicity family out there with this sort of view.

Solo is gifted and wise.

LOVE this! You’ve shown me some new perspectives, and I appreciate that very much. I am a white woman raising white/Mexican/Filipino children. I’ve struggled sometimes, with how to discuss some current race issues with them since they do not fit into the black or white box. Raising confident, caring, kind humans is the goal! Thanks for sharing your thoughts. ❤️

I love what Solo said "we keep bringing up the white or black issue". Thank you.

Yes! I really like how Solo articulated this. I feel a similar way.

I love this, my daughters are Mexican and Irish so we decided to raise them as both. They will be given claddagh rings at their quinceañeras.

The things I think are important is not color of one's skin, but we teach, love, forgiveness and respect and tolerance for we are one race human and we all feel and cry and love and we all have the same color of blood so it's time we see less of one and more love for We are all God's children.

AMEN! AMEN! AMEN Solo & Sarah! You both are an awesome example of being led by the Holy Spirit! Hearing you both share your answers/opinions is a breath of fresh air b/c God has given you both wisdom!

I just joined your channel.. I absolutely loved what you both had to say about being black white or other. I have African American and white, Hispanic and white and white grandkids and great grandkids.. I have always encouraged them to be proud of both their cultures !! I tell them they are the best of two races of people !! take care !

Corruption of the mind that is it! When my children was younger in school (especially middle and high) they always come home tell me stories that I couldn't believe. It wasn't about their skin tone it was about how they spoke and act. It wasn't black enough or you acting white.. you're talking too proper.. "what really I said to my self". But I told my children (and still till this day) do not let others define you..you are who you are and be proud of it because in the long run it will pay off. There's always going to be a box that people will put you in but it do not mean you have to check the box that says..."this is what people see me as so I will check this". Thanks for sharing...

I love how you can see how proud Sarah is of how Solo is explaining all of this.. so sweet.. they are clearly on the same page with these topics and it's greatness ❤

Each week the topics get better and better . This one really hits house . It really makes a person think about how do I feel about race ... your guys have make me look at race deeper than I had before.. I see myself coming up short :: in understand, being narrowed minded about race . Sarah you Solo are doing a great job bring this subject out. . By just being yourselves . Please, please keep up the good work . I love it !!!

Solo - from one minister to another- you are very wise. I love your words. God bless you all.