Thank you as always for your love and support. As we’ve been trying to upload more frequently, we’ve been playing around with video styles. Do you like this sit down style or would you prefer more of a vlog style (example: day in the life)? ❤
I enjoy both video styles; i feel like each style has its place perhaps? I came out four years ago and my wife and I have been through some of the same things. Thank you for your sharing your experiences, as it really helps working through ours too.
Love both also. I love the podcast style a little bit more. It just feels like your talking with friends. Thank you for sharing your beautiful life story. You both are making such a difference for different styles of families. Our family is so appreciative of your family❤️
My intersex sexual development made me sort of male and female. We made our sexual lives work for us. It is a wonderful thing to have a wife who actually understands and accepts me. This has been 50 years for us, so we must be doing something right. ❤ I’m proud of both of you for living your life and love. ❤️
@@rescuegirl Oh that is awesome 😎 I see us as being the normal ones in the world. I would be perfect if it wasn’t for all the surgeries and related cancer. The doctors are trying to figure a way to allow me to take some form of estrogen that will not cause the cancer to return or spread again.
@@rescuegirl I never heard of that particular form of intersex, very interesting. My intersex is from the earliest weeks of gestation the period when germ cell sexual development takes place. These germ cells failed to fully reach my embryonic gonads. As a result my right gonad/testis remained as a fetal gonad and the left gonad did develop as a testis but remained small. The right one remained undescended and it had to be surgically brought down as a ten year old child. In addition many other germ cells were deposited in various areas of my abdomen. Several were removed as a child other were not found until I was 45 when one became malignant. These were huge as they grew to between 10 and 17.5 cm. As you would expect my gonads are on the small size. I did live as a male but find doing so hard and out of place for me on a phycological level. Hope you are doing well.
Thank you for your continued willingness to put this content out publicly. No easy task. It will be an incredible day when labels and sexual intimacy is not where everybody's mind goes to first.
Sim, ela estava explicando sobre conexões da alma, e como ela se sentia mais próxima agora. Como uma pessoa bissexual (que saiu do armário tarde), eu entendo completamente ela. Fazer sex0 com homem sempre pareceu puramente carnal, e com mulher mais profundo, com muito mais conexão, carinho e afeto. Eu imagino o nó que não deve ser vivenciar esse tipo de coisa com a MESMA pessoa.
Idk, I genuinely think maybe she's just sick because before they even started talking about it, she sounded a little congested lol I think of course there's hard parts to talk about certain things but I also think, unless she was doing some crying prior to getting on screen and managing to stop long enough to do her makeup and not cry it off, this might be a "she has a cold" thing
It doesn't matter what package you come in. It's the heart and soul you fall in love with. Lets face it looks fade. Your love is absolutely heartwarming ❤
You are both ROCK STARS, seriously. 😂💜 People are SO CONCERNED with how queer people get intimate, it's so bizarre isn't it? When my son came out to me as a Trans man when he was a teenager, everyone always asked me whether he was attracted to men or women and I always had to educate them that sexuality is separate from gender identity! People who have never been exposed to it have a hard time understanding it at first, but it's an important message; I love that you guys are spreading it in such a fun loving way. 🤩🤩
Yea. When I learned that there are transwomen who become lesbians, it was a real mind bender. Fortunately, I learned about it pretty young, so I had plenty of time to learn more and figure it out.
You can still love a person and lose physical attraction for them if they transition. That's not a sign you don't love them but that you are simply not anything but straight.
I must say this is entirely different from any content I'd normally watch. First I saw a few of your short clips then I took the time to watch any of your videos that popped up. I'm in awe of your love story. With so many failed relationships out there, all of mine included, Lol it's awesome to see the love you two beautiful souls have for each other. I'm rooting for you and subscribing now.
You both are so beautiful but idk how anyone couldn't be attracted to Shaye. She is just so sweet and gentle and beautiful to look at. I love how soft she is. The way you guys explain your attraction to each other just makes perfect sense to me. I feel the exact same way when I'm in love with someone. The attraction is just to the person and how they make me feel.
I love that you guys are talking about this! Sexuality is so sacred between both parties but having you share just a tad but about your story hopefully will bring awarness to others! Even though you didn’t have to, thank you for sharing! I hope this touches lives and opens peoples eyes!
When my trans son first "came out" he came out as "lesbian" then eventually he felt more comfortable to be his true self and realized he was trans. I was already a trans advocate and supporter before he came out so I was able to be understanding and be supportive. I have to admit I was confused overall because he never seemed lesbian, He always loved women "as a man" if that makes any sense, he was a male in his essence and so that (being lesbian) confused me. turns out he was actually trans just had not accepted it yet. When I understood the difference between gender and sexuality I understood why he was trans and not lesbian. He is happy and in a great relationship now and I couldn't be happier for him. May we all be happy and well.
What you said about him liking women yet never “seeming lesbian,” and like he liked women “as a man” makes total sense!!! I transitioned ftm, too, and while I’m bisexual, I didn’t even realize I’m attracted to women until after I transitioned - because before I realized I was trans, I intuitively knew “lesbian” didn’t fit me at all, so I didn’t explore my attractions to women. After transitioning, it made a lot more sense.
I heard an alternative definition of bisexual as being attracted to people of my same gender and people of a different gender. I liked how that was put.
Love the sit down style, and love love the vulnerability and (dare I say) intimacy of the revelation of the psychological / emotional landscape of your relationship. This is what courage and value looks like in people and a progressive channel like this one. Thank you Amanda and Shaye, you give so much to the world through your sharing. Cheers. :)
As a retired psychotherapist, I would say that many, if not most relationships, are transactional. You two are working on something that seems richer and deeper than that. I appreciate your courage and willingness to give others a window into your process.
I have been with my husband for 31 years. As our bodies have changed, so has our intimacy. We look different now. Our hormone levels have changed. Our intimacy is still present, in fact I would say closer than when we first met. Based on your explanation it sounds similar. You still have intimacy with one another even with the changes you have under gone. Thanks for sharing! 😊
I love you both so much. I'm going to tell you you guys are maybe responsible for me being alive. 3 weeks ago I was breaking mentally and I don't know where I would have went. I was dressed up and I had nowhere left to turn. And I just thought I could never be who I wanted to be because it would ruin my girlfriend's life. She had been struggling with the thought of me transitioning before I ever even mentioned it. But she saw a different side of it through your surprise surprise TikTok that Amanda had rediscovered her sexuality after Shaye's transition. She expressed something to me and that just broke the dam in my brain and cracked my egg fully. I've been able to reach out to support groups, get closer to my girlfriend, start figuring this out together, and I've made another friend in the same situation as me through discord today. The inspiration yall have given me is immeasurable. Thank you both for being you. I love yall so much
Thank your for continuing to share so much of yourselves with us! It’s really beautiful watching this aspect of your lives continue to blossom ❤ My heart just glows listening to you both. Your unconditional love for each other is palatable and simply amazing.
Y’all’s respect and love for one another is palpable. We are so lucky to hear from y’all about your specific journey. Amanda your perspective on loving Shaye in her truest form is so refreshing. I do relate to you so much when you say, you grew up with male attraction but thought women were beautiful. Two things: I’ve never thought of having sexual relations with women and in all things I champion for every human to be their truest self, so if my husband were to ever present to me that he felt more like another gender I too would hope *they’d* let me venture into that unknown with them. Because my partners soul and happiness is one of the greatest joys of my life. ❤
Both are tremendous and I so appreciate you addressing these questions with open heartedness and kindness rather than defensiveness (which would be warranted given it’s truly none of our business). BUT I think you do so much good for others who don’t have to feel alone because of you two beautiful humans using your platform to speak openly and honestly. Assuming the best of people - that they are curious - that they are confused - that they are interested - that they too have been shaped by our culture of projection. Every couple has the right and joy of expressing intimacy in the ways that feel organic and loving to them. Thank you so so much for your channel and your hearts.
I am SO impressed by all the learning and self exploration you've embraced. So smart and empowering and enriching to do this for yourselves, and so generous to share! The sit-down style is a perfect way to convey what you are learning and to model this awesome and fulfilling way to approach life.
I have deep respect for your determination to keep healthy boundaries and answer only the questions you want. The rest is nobody's business, as you said. I also loved the treatment you gave to labels which seem to be so necessary for many people. I guess it helps them nail down what is actually a mysterious/confusing realm. What comes through loud and clear is your sophistication, articulation, and deep love for each other. That's gold!
I love you guys so much dude- ur openness is so refreshing. Hope you both dont ever feel presure to overshare. I feel like talking about this on ur channel is so rock and roll. Yall r the best.
You 2 humans drew me in with your story. ❤ I haven’t viewed all your videos…..yet. so my apologies if this was already addressed~~I’m curious if Amanda has talked about if she was blindsided by Shaye’s decision to transition or if she had moments in their marriage where she wondered if something was going on with Shaye. I’m assuming Amanda went thru the grief process in some aspect as her world changed too. And with my nosey comments I just posted for all to see, I will say Shaye’s aura is just super brilliant. It’s so obvious just how at peace she is. I love her constant smile! You have a fascinating story and I’m really glad your family popped up on my recommendations. Amanda, you are the coolest human (and I’m envious you are a badass behind the sewing machine) Without a doubt, you 2 are the perfect sample of a deep soul connection ❤ good for you!!! Thank you for sharing your story. ✌️
Thank you for another great video. I like both styles of vlogs. As for what I see from the outside in compatibility, I see a new spark in the relationship. You both seem happier. Love you two!💖💖
The love you have for each other is apparent. The tenderness and respect you show each other warms my heart. It’s delightful how Shay’s eyes sparkle when she talks about you, Amanda. It’s obvious there is an intimate connection between you. Intimate, of course, does not necessarily mean sexual. It is generous of you both to answer the curious.
Thank you both for being so brave, so authentic, in sharing your story. As the mom of a transgender daughter, I am grateful for anyone who helps educate the public in getting to know that transgender people are just like everyone else in so many ways.
Like I said before, you two are soul mates! Amanda you are so thoughtful and able to express what you are feeling in away that we can all understand. Shaye has a way of making us smile about the discomfort of the subject at hand,lol, but certainly can articulate her inner thoughts as well. I can't think of two better people to help all of us understand that love is love.❤️👍 Thank you!
Over the course of watching these videos, your connection with each other has always been easy - & beautiful - to see. I hope you've had a lovely weekend, & best wishes to all the family.
The most important thing is that you’re wonderful parents and happy! God bless the positivity and happiness in your household. That is what’s important .
I’m so beyond happy I found you both on instagram, I love to see the journey you’re both on it’s truly so beautiful and intense, I commend you both on being the strong diva’s you are!! Sending so much love x
Thank you both for continuing to share and educate. You are both beautiful people and so brave to share your amazing story and family. Only good can come from talking about your situation. Hello and love from Australia.💕🇦🇺
I think that these questions are important for those who have no guides that are struggling with the same issue. We should all strive for peace and unity. I do think of you are heroic persons and hope that you continue on your journey as well as freeing other people from their religious indoctrinitions too.
thanks for being willing to share these very personal aspects! while some may say "its none of their business!", and certainly if a person or couple doesnt want to share, their privacy should be respected... but when people ARE able to share, it helps others to understand. and in a perfect world, everyone can be accepting of others differences without understanding the details... but for many people it really does help to make things more comfortable. a person who is accepting and respectful but doesnt understand, will be more likely to maintain a bit of distance, maybe be less relaxed in a social setting, because they dont know whats ok to say, standard social norms and jokes may not "hit right", not wanting to say something offensive... but the more you know and understand, the more natural those things can be. *especially* to anyone who is neurodivergent and already struggles with social interactions!
the statement “I felt like I was attracted to you, but not in the male way” made so much sense! I have been trying to figure out why I felt so different once I started processing and deconstructing my gender
You guys are so cool!!! I love how cool and collected Shaye is and I love how animated Amanda is (for example, you move your head around a lot when you speak, which is AWESOME!). I love this couple!
It's cool to watch the two of you talking so openly and vulnerably about your marriage and how this has changed, yet revealed, how strong your love was in the first place. Obviously it makes a lot of people uncomfortable. Fascinating how binary our culture has been.
I love you both! You two are so wonderful and I'm so happy for you. A topic that didn't need to be addressed to please some, but bravo! As a trans woman I'm so grateful for you both sharing your journey and intimate lives. I know it helps all of us. You make us all human. Thank you.
My message is don't lock yourself into categories or labels other people made up which is limiting your own growth. However don't mistaken this as meaning making up many new labels and then being mad or penalize other people who aren't up to date with it, it just mean being authentically yourself.
I enjoy some sit down style, and some day in the life! Whatever snippets you feel comfortable sharing! It was very generous of you both to share this video regarding intimacy in your marriage! I mean really, why wouldn’t there be? Much love to you both and your beautiful family ❤
Do you ever miss your "husband"? Do you ever feel like he died? I would miss all of the masculine attributes of my husband and would feel an intense loss. Even though I would be supportive of his wants, I would feel the loss. Is that why you weemed to be on the verge of tears?
@@littlebitmckee8234 Even when presenting as male, she was still a trans woman. Adapt the terms you use for her past self to be in line with her current identity. It's not like they're different people.
I just found y'all's channel today. This was my first video of y'all I watched. You 2 are amazing people and I absolutely love every one of y'all's videos. 2 beautiful ladies living their best life.
Thank you for doing this video and I like the style. I have another question about hormones. As a cis female, I am going through menopause. So far, not so bad but I suspect that might change. Do doctors put Shaye into a menopause on estrogen after a certain age or will she be on estrogen for the rest of her life? When Amanda starts menopause, will she have the SAME or similar hormone options to reduce menopause issues, such as osteoporosis? I was curious if doctors can work in synchronizing hormone levels in partners like the two of you to allow your bio ages to closer aligned.
It's interesting because you guys came from a seemingly straight relationship (straight male and female), but then there was a transition. I just want to say that I have noticed more couples who come from a straight relationship do not last and are not compatible because the other partner is actually still straight. So the trans person is queer, but the other person is still straight. With a situation like this, no matter how you say society has constructed your sexuality, if you are truly straight--it will still not be compatible. And many trans partners force their old partners to be queer just to make sure the relationship and compatibility works. They force their partners to be lesbian or bisexual by saying that they are actually bi, they've just been brainwashed to be straight. This will obviously not work out. I just want to say, if you are a partner of a trans and you find yourself to be really straight, then it's going to be really impossible to stay with your now transitioned partner. If you are bisexual or queer, it is easier bec you are already into that. A lot of misconceptions about the trans and wives/husbands is that the transition MAKES the straight partner queer. You hear comments like, "Oh, so I guess you're a lesbian now" to the straight partner. This is not the case. Sexuality is very hard to deconstruct or change. Yes, there can be scale but again if your scale doesn't go towards queerness, it's going to be hard to stay. Most of the time the partners that stay are already in the Queer spectrum and have just accidentally found out when their partner transitions. Much love for you guys though, I don't mean to disrespect.
that emotion coming from her must be amazing, it's a glowing kind ... two people taking steps together against the world's normal notion, still finding that love and security even deeper.
The two of you are just so incredible. I think I say the same almost every video now. But it’s true. You are incredible and amazing and brave and just so solid!!! I love your relationship. I pray that one day I will be able to have a relationship as fulfilling and open as yours.
When you are in love with someone, it doesn't turn off. The body changed, the love didn't. I love ya's and truly could care less about your sex life. At the same time, I do understand why people ask. Anyone going through transition as a couple, I'm sure, have concerns. It's so great you speak so honestly.
You said "more beautiful" towards the end of the vlog and it made me think of a movie i watched and a saying from it. ~ You're more beautiful for having been broken ~ But don't misconstrue that as a negative connotation because some of the best things and most positive people in life have broken before they've blossomed. With love to you both! ♥️
I love to learn about people all the time. Thank you. I’m a vegetarian and people ask how I get my protein. What? I don’t understand why people ask about people’s intimate details. Or what their protein intake is!
It’s just a guess from my experience coming from a very religious background but talking about anything to do with sex is still very difficult and sometimes traumatic. Even well after a decade of marriage and being free of religion, having conversations with my husband about our intimate life will make me squeamish, tearful, or make my voice shake. I don’t have control of it. Religion can mess you up.
