After watching all 3 videos I realized that I had met all the criteria stated for being transgender and after getting my courage up I spoke with my best friend of 20 years and told her that I was in fact transgender and since the age of 5 had been secretly dressing as a woman and had very strong feminine emotional feelings.She immediately made me feel comfortable and told me she would help me with my transition . After 54 years of hiding, an emotional burden was lifted and now I can become the woman I always knew I was . Thank you so much for helping me realize I am not alone in this world , You are truly remarkable in your understanding of my and others like me needs to be who we truly are.
When I watch her videos, I always seem to find that tears well up in my eyes or trickle down my cheeks. It is ultra powerful having her describe me and how I feel, and I am finding I cannot swim against the tide of who I really am for much longer. I have accepted that I am a transgender woman, and am almost ready to embrace it.
I question this for myself too, most days I have no issues being a man. It’s not like I have this constant feeling of “needing to be a woman” but I wonder how much is driven by my fear to transition. I’m from a family that is religious and conservative and even tho I’m sure they would support me it would be the most awkward and terrible conversation in the world and I’d lose all my friends. I just don’t really know if I’d be a girl tomorrow if given the choice or not… for me it’s a very sexualized feeling and I often feel like it’s more of a weird fetish in the bedroom, which is still hard to accept bc I’ve never told that to a woman who I’ve been with, and I feel I can’t perform as well, but idk how to tell them I wish they’d force me into wearing panties, makeup etc. this is really been weighing on me tho and I appreciate any insights.
felt the need to clarify that gender dysphoria does not always include physical pain or discomfort. Just because your body doesn't hurt or feel bad doesn't mean you're not Transgender.
I find this a very narrow-inded and dated view of transgenderism and am surprised it's just 3 years old and on a transition channe; Transgender is a spectrum and very few of the transgenders and transsexuals I know have that cliche 'trapped i the wrong body' sensation. Transgender is a spectrum - the majority of transvestites are transgender to some degree and many would transition if they didn't have partners, kids, bigoted parents. Many transgenders don't hate their natural body but just prefer the opposite sex and slide over to that side slowly and over time - maybe because they were hampered by denial; mabe because they just didn't realise their true self This video means well but it seriously risks doing more harm than good and deterring those who are right to consider transition.
Alyustheamazing An update would be appreciated. I consider myself a mostly-trans crossdresser. In other words, I do get aroused by crossdressing but I also would prefer to be an actual female. It isn't dysphoria, per-se; I just don't *like* my gender. But I probably won't ever fully transition because the loss of sexual feeling would be too great of a loss for me. The best I could hope for would be a semi-transition...or life as a shemale, which would actually suit me just fine. Anyway, as others mentioned, trans can be a spectrum.
Sissy luv you are not trans you simply have a fetish. You also don't know what you're talking about. For a start whilst most do experience a drop in sexual desire and function, most of fine with this because how can you miss what you don't desire anymore? Think about it, if certain medication suppressed your appetite but also make you feel full then you wouldn't miss eating because you no longer have the craving. Second, once testosterone has been suppressed enough it can be increased to bring back sex drive because that is how women are horny in the first place - via testosterone. There is a small chance that you may actually be transgender especially as you say you don't like your sex however my gut feeling is you're just saying that from a fantasy perspective. It is perfectly normal to be turned on when cross-dressing are thinking of cross-dressing as it is taboo, it is soft and sensual and it makes you feel sexy in a way that men's clothes do not.
Kathryn Love I would like to add gender dysphoria is a spectrum as well. Dysphoria doesn't always present itself as hating one own's body, which can manifest itself as crippling depression or suicidal thoughts. Dysphoria can also present itself as feeling apathetic one own's body, which is harder to diagnose. This can manifest itself as having no motivation to take care of one self, causing issues to build up slowly. Instead of suicidal thoughts, they're more likely to just float through life without much feeling, and don't care if they die (different from suicidal tendencies). It takes much longer to identify so people who experience this kind of dysphoria tend to transition at an older age.
Alexis has been so great with me. She has been my therapist for several months now. She helped me get on HRT and has given me so much support in my transition. Thanks to her, I am now living and presenting as a full time girl. I am on top of the world. I had no idea it would be this good. I love it. Ill never go back to being a boy. It is such an amazing feeling to have the world look at you and treat you like a girl. This was the hardest decision of my life, but also the best decision that I ever made. I finally feel like myself. At 48 years old, I am so happy, free, and peaceful. I'm living a dream. Thank you, Alexis !
Here's something else to think about. We are often looked down upon by society because they think we should just be happy with our "assigned" genders. I identify as female. So as a result, someone who wants to just be a cross-dresser may want to change they're gender because of the fear of being ridiculed and to try and better fit in while cross-dressing. They may not want to change genders but feel forced to do so. I like dresses and high heels. I'm in the beginning stages and have some work ahead of me to change. I want the hormones so dresses fit properly. I haven't quite decided if I want the surgery yet. Here's food for thought. In the distant past, it was the men who wore heels and who's job it was to attract the women. But somewhere along the way the rolls changed. One thing I really hate is how women can get away wearing most men's clothing. But men are frowned upon if they want to wear a dress and a pair of stilettos.
Yup, Cross dresser here, i LOVE, absolutely LOVE dressing as a lady!!, i love putting on dresses, specially red, i love red, i love putting on make up, and i just overall LOVE acting girly, but i am NOT transgender and i'm sure of it, sometimes i wake up wanting to dress up, sing barbie girl in my room, but i don't go all the way to take like hormones or something because i also LOVE being a dude!!, And it has nothing to do with me "being afraid of coming out the closet", no, i legit want to be BOTH, like i said, sometimes i wake up feeling very girly but others its like i swallowed a testosterone pill in my sleep and want to run to the forest and fucking wrestle a bear LOL. So i simply go with what i'm feeling and what my heart tells me, right now actually i'm writing this comment as my male self. Good luck to all of you in your decisions!!, and remember, the most important thing is to love yourself, screw what others think of you!
I am just starting to explore cross dressing myself, but I think I am exactly like you. I love being a man but I want to some times just join in on the fun with beauty. I just adore women's clothing. I use to do make up in highschool on stage crew cause it was a very gothic look and no one questioned. Now I want to get back into is but I am having the hardest time doing make up lol. Lucky my wife helps. But do you have any simple tips for cross dressing for clothing sizes? Men to women. Don't know how to buy lol
I just want to crossdress and get laid. Lol Like, I guess it's only really a fetish for me, and I feel kind of bad because people think transgender is just a fetish or something. So it feels like I'm intruding on a space that I shouldn't be in. But I've felt like this since I was 18 so... idk.
@@EmmaDilemma039 you aren’t intruding on anything. You can do it for sexual reasons, just to look pretty when you go out to your local drag brunch, or anything in between. Anyone who says different is just gatekeeping. You don’t have to explain yourself to anyone
@@lovianiadventure8219 if you haven’t yet, learn conversion charts. Like pants. If you are a 32” as a male, you would Substract 21 from that giving you 11 which is your female pants waist size
So you love everything about being female and want to live as one and at the same time love everything about being a male and want to live as one? Maybe that just means your genderfluid, considering your mood determines how you gonna act and present.
1 How do I feel about my body and my gender? ITS SHITE BEING MALE 2 Does my dress-up time increase? No, I wear High Heels and tights all the time 3 Are my actions driven by my gender or by wearing the cloths itself? partially, yes I wouldn't have mentioned Student loans
This video gave me a lot of clarity about my own situation. After watching it I was moved to contact Alexis, because I realized that what I have been struggling with is not a fetish, as I had persuaded myself, but an essential component of my being.
Im sorry for my ignorance but I have to say I feel like a female inside when I'm with a man but I painted my nails, dress like a woman and didn't feel like a woman, I felt like I look like a woman but I feel inside I will never be a woman but I don't see myself when I look at the mirror, is like a soul of a woman in the body of a man but I don't think if I have surgery it will be better, I don't want to be slave of hormons, I feel like I have to be a woman to be with the men that I want but my body is the body of a man so I'm a mess. I like your videos, your work is honest.
Nope. Just sounds like you are a woman but you don't want to undergo medical transition and that's valid! Clothes ars just stereotypes, a girl don't have to dress a certain way. Your gender makes you a woman and if you feel it deeply, you are. Your brain can actually be different from what people define as a "feminine body" or "feminine parts". You are valid. There is a difference between gender expression and gender and it's okay to wear more masculine clothes while being a woman. Good luck on your journey!
I felt the same way (female soul inside) until I realized that maybe it's simply that, if there is indeed a soul, that this soul has no gender. Only the body does and then society programs us how to drive it. There are obvious differences in the bodies but, while I don't have a link to provide, I'd read about a theory that's gaining popularity as new evidence arrives. This theory says that any non-baby producing sexual orientation might be evolutions way of controlling and maintaining population. Might be proven to be totally wrong in the end but considering that sexual behaviors and practices have not changed since the beginning of all humans, I find it a reasonable idea.
I crossdressed in women's clothes, but that was because I felt like a girl/woman. Yeah, as much as I would like to change my sex, the big issue with that kind of thing is you need over tens of thousands of dollars. When I did cross-dress, it wasn't just a sense of joy and arousal, it was a heartfelt feeling. I also went to a doctor at one point to prescribe me for hormones, but gave me some papers to read instead.
This makes me feel better about cross dressing. I don't like my body and I feel more comfortable in girls clothing and if people got to know about my interests and about how I feel, I would probably come across as a female. So, thank you for clearing this up for me
My interactions with cross-dressers is that they differ from transgender in that they only desire a temporary escape from the male role. They are visiting the female life, they wouldn't want to lie there. However, the temproary relief fealt can be just as non-eroticc as what the transgender experience when getting to function consistent with their internal gender identity. There are some crossdressers who are mostly fetishinizing woman's clothing, but I found at least with the group I associated with (which was self-avowedly neutral on cross-dressing versus transgender) favored the 'visiting' versus 'ful-life' distinction more than the arousal versus relief.
I agree with so much of what is echoed and said in this thread. I feel bad calling myself just a cross dresser or guilty bc I’m a bio man but I love getting all dressed up, girly and honestly slutty if I can say that. I fantasize about women “forcing me” to dress like a girl, but I don’t think I’m trans bc on a day to day I’m fine with being a man and am attracted to women. I just have had a hard time accepting this weird “fetish” bc yes it feels like I’m intruding on trans people, but more selfishly it has really impacted my romantic life where I don’t feel comfortable at all sharing that weird side of me/feminine fetish with any girl I’ve been with, but it impacts my.. performance ya know. Idk if anyone can help me I’d really appreciate it, Ik this comment thread is years old but I’m too scared to talk about this with anyone that I know so im just trying to ask in communities like this.
So you present also as female, totally outside a fetishistic context, and does not feel discomfort with your body? That would certainly fit under the transgender umbrella term.
@@coded8527 I'd say It would, if it includes at least some of the time embrasing the social role conneted with being feminine. Or like in my case, being a more or less non-macho man in some social situations, in some circles of my social life, and totally being in the female role in other social situations and in other circles of my social life. VP, who first used the word also included intersex persons under the umbrella term.
@@Octopussyist Being a feminine boy isn't always transgender. Transgender is when your assigned gender at birth doesn't match with your gender. A feminine boy that has been assigned male at birth is cis, therefore not transgender. There is a difference and being a feminine/masculine person has nothing to do with your gender.
I think the line separating cross-dresses and Transgenders is a little too clear for me. I think that there are two kinds of cross-dresses: those who do it for gratification and those who are Transgender but are not sure how far they should take things. Not everyone who identifies as different from what they were born as will necessarily take further steps. They may choose to lead the lives already established, either out of necessity or fear perhaps.
Being transsexual has nothing to do with clothing or make-up, It's purely about a disconnect over ones body, i can't imagine anyone who is really a guy having srs being transsexual is not something you can play at it's not something I would wish on my worst enemy, It certainly would be easier to be male, least that's my experience.
this hit me really fkng hard cross dressing makes me feel complete but I didn't think I had a problem with my gender but cross dressing heals me and feels like I finally have dignity?
Prior to beginning transition I wondered if maybe I was just a cross-dresser. But now it’s clear that the desire to LIVE day to day as a woman no doubts makes it abundantly clear to me 🙏🏻😜👍
I've been asking this exact question to myself for some time now. I watched this video and then most of your videos on this channel and I'm beginning to see that I might be transgender. It's scary but I'm glad I'm at least getting to understand myself better. I'm nervous as well as grateful to you. Such a helpful video!
Can I ask you to help comment on my situation I agree with so much of what is echoed and said in this thread. I feel bad calling myself just a cross dresser or guilty bc I’m a bio man but I love getting all dressed up, girly and honestly slutty if I can say that. I fantasize about women “forcing me” to dress like a girl, but I don’t think I’m trans bc on a day to day I’m fine with being a man and am attracted to women. I just have had a hard time accepting this weird “fetish” bc yes it feels like I’m intruding on trans people, but more selfishly it has really impacted my romantic life where I don’t feel comfortable at all sharing that weird side of me/feminine fetish with any girl I’ve been with, but it impacts my.. performance ya know. Idk if anyone can help me I’d really appreciate it, Ik this comment thread is years old but I’m too scared to talk about this with anyone that I know so im just trying to ask in communities like this.
Wow, I have so much more self confidence after watching your videos. I have a therapist who has never explained much to me in a way that I understand the way you do.
I would partially argue with, or at least clarify the description/definition of crossdressers - crossdressers do not only dress because they get turned on and find it erotic, they often crossdress because some days they feel more feminine than other days, and/or some days men's clothes just seem boring, drab, unfulfilling and don't feel like they reflect what they are feeling on the inside. This is not to say that crossdressers also feel dysphoria, because as a general rule they don't. And yes, sometimes it is because it's a turn-on, but as time goes on, the turn-on is less and less a reason why, and an increased comfort level in women's clothes merely as an expression of an internal state, becomes more and more the main reason why. In short, I think it's a mistake to imply that ALL crossdressers ONLY dress because it's some kind of fetish - that is an erroneous position, and doesn't help people understand and empathize with them.
I have been seeing a therapist about this very issue. I just want to say (Thank you) this has been more helpful and more productive than all (EAP) therapist visits. Thank you again.
I am so happy I went through with coming out and working with Alexis, she is kind, supportive and understanding as well as knowledgeable. I highly recommend her.
I’m a fan of these videos as a Transgender Christian Woman who is still trapped inside a man’s body unfortunately :( I was just curious, these first few videos of the Transition Channel and the newer ones look like 2 different women. Is this woman Alexis Ungerer just like the newer videos from about a year ago? Thanks! God Bless! Only curious is all as they look different!
I agree with so much of what is echoed and said in this thread. I feel bad calling myself just a cross dresser or guilty bc I’m a bio man but I love getting all dressed up, girly and honestly slutty if I can say that. I fantasize about women “forcing me” to dress like a girl, but I don’t think I’m trans bc on a day to day I’m fine with being a man and am attracted to women. I just have had a hard time accepting this weird “fetish” bc yes it feels like I’m intruding on trans people, but more selfishly it has really impacted my romantic life where I don’t feel comfortable at all sharing that weird side of me/feminine fetish with any girl I’ve been with, but it impacts my.. performance ya know. Idk if anyone can help me I’d really appreciate it, Ik this comment thread is years old but I’m too scared to talk about this with anyone that I know so im just trying to ask in communities like this. I’m 25 y/o and just scared of how this will continue to impact me if I don’t address the root.
I love these videos I have cross dressed as long as I can remember. I've known for years that I am transgender I just haven't accepted it fully. I fault with myself for a lot of years by lifting weights. The end result always with me cross dressing and dreaming of being female. It has been the hardest thing to deal with in life. I don't talk to anyone about it and even be times I thought about taking my life over it. Whenever I see sexy woman I look at her. Not to be with but wish that I could be her.
Sometimes I cross dress. I just want to step out of being me and all the everyday problems I deal with, into being someone else, who doesn't really exist, so mentally none of my daily problems exist for that short time period while I am dressed. It is a mental change from the normal Male to something more softer and feminine. I occasionally get tired of wearing the usual male colours in clothing, such as Black, brown, green , blue, etc and also tired of wearing everything that is basically made of cotton in its various forms from my socks,underwear, t-shirts and jeans. I want sometimes to step out of myself as it were, into bright colours for example a Red dress, satin type underwear, stockings. Just the total opposite of what I normally am. I get up in the morning and as a Man, it is the usual socks, jeans, boxer shorts and t-shirt or shirt. Where as my lady friend (who is also fully supportive of me dressing when the mood takes me) gets up in the morning and she has a whole choice of under wear from Bra and Panties, Body suits in bright colours and materials, then she decides whether to wear pants, a dress or blouse and skirt, all in vibrant colours and also several choices in her footwear from flats and boots through to heels and all different designs and heights. For me, it is also a chance to feel "sexy" once in a while with the different sensations of the different materials of Satin, Lace, etc instead of everyday boring Cotton, that as a Man I normally wouldn't get. I suppose sometimes, it is also a little jealousy on my part with my lady friend. In Summer, for example I can be sweating doing jobs around the house , with a t-shirt wringing wet with sweat and other places on my body feeling sweaty, then I see my lady friend come out of the house with a light summer dress on and she is fine as the material is so light and airy. Society is strange. My lady friend can steal my T-shirts, socks, Jumpers even my Jeans and go out wearing them and nothing said by anyone. Yet, if I was outside sweating my backside off and decided to put on one of her Summer dresses in an effort to keep cool, my neighbours would think I am some sort of weirdo and mentally want to shoot me (as firearms are mostly banned in the UK), so I keep my cross dressing strictly within the walls of my house, with doors locked and curtains closed. To all intents and purposes I am or rather we ( my lady friend and I) are not home.
I have been cross-dressing for years but now I find myself dressing more as a woman and feeling better about it I felt that way all my life thanks for the advice
Those are interesting points, but I always thought crossdressers is like an umbrella term since some do it for different reasons. It's confusing because I've read that trans also gets turned on when they dress up. I know I do when I get dolled up and seeing how feminine I look, but I don't know if I am a CD or TG.
I feel that I am transgender, I cross dress and feel it's not enough. I have been told I am just a cross dresser from my mom recently and what you said on this video that the loved one may not want the person to change. How do I deal with that?
Lexi Lipper, youneed to talk to some other than your mom. an outside opinion is better, in the end it's YOUR life. Learn about IT. as much as possible, it takes time
That realisation when you identify as transgender..... it all becomes very clear......... all those years of not understanding what it was and why I was the way I am.......... that eureka moment......... my epiphany. ^0 years of fighting me and finally accepting me....... I don''t have a problem now....... it's those sound me. Thanks for explaining the difference so clearly and eloquently. x
I cry as I watch your videos. I have been on hrt for 2 months now. As a child I never understood Why I used to find myself drawing women's naked torsos and hips. As a child I once grabbed a pen and jot down the number of a Doctor who treated trans. It was a TV show I was about 7 maybe. Trying to fit in is what comes next as one grows up. It is never too late though. I look like an attractive male. I am not sure if I am female. Let's see where my transition takes me. Thank you 🙏🏻💛
I'm just starting my transition, two weeks publically so, in terms of clothing, 3 socially (making 5 total) coming out as a woman to family and friends. I feel happiest when I'm referred to as a woman, sister, or just my new name. So tell me, as a qualified person, which presumably you are by now. Given I spent 30 years hating my life, the last 5 wishing I would not wake up in the morning, and it took the fear of a near death experience in 2020 the week before christmas, that i would die with no-one knowing the real me, even myself at the time. Which do you consider me? The clothes are nice, but I find them flawed, sometimes; pockets aren't big enough, need a handbag to carry stuff, have a nice one. I know which I consider myself, but interested in your assessment, won't change my mind, nowhere near 'passable' imo, but its early and work in progress,. :)
I thank you very much for this video. It is very important to have good understanding of vocabulary because it helps to explain and also to be sure of what we are going through. As I've accepted (or welcomed) my transidentity quite recently (about 3 mouths now) I often have doubts and fears. And one thing you insist on is the internal feeling. And this is true: what I feel is guiding me along this process of "liberating" my true nature. So thank you again for your help. Kisses from France.
I have no trouble defining myself...I'm a crossdresser oriented toward Fetish Dressing. I was taught to dress with and for 3 of my 17 aunts beginning as a wee child, and discovered fetish dressing when, via the military route, was in Amsterdam and four those fascinating "Girls of the Red Zone"...and their specialties. I have combined the two into what I love to do these days. I have been married twice (both deceased) but only the second, who had been in show business, loved costumes and makeup would dress with and for me in the bedroom...
thank you 4 all ur videos.u have helped me more than u could ever imagine.i am on hrt and going thru therapy.both r great and r helping me transisition...i only wish i could afford to help u with a donation at this but have many other pressing needs.
Idk, I'm still confused about myself. I do like the idea of dressing as a male and passing, but not for feeling a "rush" or anything, just as a sort of way to express myself I guess, though honestly when I'm mistaken for a boy it makes me happy. Sometimes I feel kind of dysphoric about my breasts, but not all the time. I wish they were much smaller and sometimes I just wish they were gone completely, like wtf are these things on my chest lmao. I don't know if I'm just very tomboyish and just don't like my boobs or if I'm something else??
I've always been jealous of what girls wore when I was in 4th grade and Im starting to feel more like maybe I was born in the wrong body these videos help a lot!
thank you, In the beginning we have to try out the clothes etc it takes courage. some Cis women don't feel at ease in public. It takes a lot of learning before deciding to transition,
I'm a 17-year-old girl, and I've been questioning my gender for a while now. This question in particular has been bothering me. Sometimes I absolutely hate my chest and want it perfectly flat, and I want my hair short. But other times I don't care about either. I don't know who I am, and I would appreciate any advice or observations
Melissa Dawn, Be patient, please your confusion is totally 'normal' for YOUR age, please don't call it Chest, a chest is your "ribcage" commont to men and women. Your "boobies" are on top of IT . I hope you soon start to appreciate your titties, they're what makes you a woman. Most women are dissatisfied with their shape and size. talk to other girls and women. . .
Try wearing a sports bra and keep a short but cute cut. I have body dysmorphia and it affect my gender identity. I have a large amount of sadness and rage I feel at my body particularly what's between my legs. The hair on my arms, legs, and face including my bone structure of my jaw and brow. Even my chest and hips. When you are trying to change your look you will naturally feel better but keep going for a few months until that feeling has past and then see how you feel about your body after you have taken some measures to see how you feel about it. That should help clear things up. These are things for me that has help me figure out if I was trans or not or if it was body image issues.
What if you feel like you're in the wrong body to the point where knowing you would never have the right body or pass for female with surgery (and in any case, surgery won't help because it's essentially cosmetic although it would definitely help a lot), makes you want to end your life. But you're generally happy with your "male brain," whatever that means since you like "girl things" like clothes, makeup, hair, decorations, pink, caring but like "male things" like loud Hip Hop, hard Rock, etc, beer, fast cars, engineering, etc. Does that means you're a cross dresser or transgender, but a bit of a tomboy?
Not all people feel like their genitalia are "wrong". People can have an identity and not feel the need to validate it to others through a painful operation that can reduce sexual function.
I think there's more inbetween those two. I only present as female on rare occasions, but it feels less like a costume than wearing a (male) suit. I am not dysphoric, yet I do not identify with stereotypical masculinity at all.
I have questioned myself about this all my life. When I was about 6 (that's when I was in 1st grade and I remember it that far back) I would sneak into my sister's panties and wear them. I didn't know anything other than I felt right in panties. I knew I was supposed to be a girl but didn't know or understand. My mom caught me wearing my sisters panties and didn't say anything. She let me wear them and even bought me my own panties. She started raising me feminine and as a girl and that was what I needed. My true self was shining. After a couple years though, because of where we lived I was forced to live as a boy because of my genitals. It was a hard blow but I coped. I have thought about this many many times, because I very frequently had thoughts that I should have been a girl. I still love to wear panties and I just feel right wearing them. I don't dress though I really want to. I want to go out in public dressed to see how I feel but I have not got the nerve yet.
I been wearing women’s clothes for a long time and I love them and I feel very good when I I’m dressed and I’m good at it I’m so tired of doing it all by myself and also I’m very masculine and when I’m dressed as a woman I feel very good I love it any suggestions?
What if I started real young dressing up without understanding why... Became comfortable being a man then went in drag and have been in drag more and more to the point of not seeing myself dressed as a guy only in Rae instance when I remember the Afton looks I did. Maybe it was me always wanting to be more fem
I dressed at Halloween as a beautiful blonde walked in 6in heels. I impressed many because my mannerisms were spot on effeminate. I couldn't wait to do this . My makeup artist was simply fabulous. I was also told I seemed too comfortable in the role. I couldn't stop crossing my legs wore my heels at will. My landlord tried to stomp me but this girly man showed him up. I think I'm in good shape should I start to transition. Nobody wants to mess with a 6'8" woman with heels. Lol. I love your channel
Having watched this video and; Common excuses to avoid transitioning Are you transgender? Male to Female/MtF Parts 1 & 2 Optional steps before coming out as transgenger MtF I wish that I had found you sooner as everything that you have said in these videos hits the nail on the head, as I can identify with them all. Thank you so much.
Hi, sorry, but am I the only confused? Transgender is an umbrella term and Cross Dresser falls under it. So if I understand you correctly you are describing the difference between Transsexual and Cross Dresser
Just to add there IS a big difference between the two and the way the word transgender is used currently has caused considerable confusion.Umbrella terms do not help.Indeed as a result there seems to be a considerable hate directed towards transsexuals as it is seen as a rejection of the Patriarchy and the male.it implies that there is a choice.TS dont choose I feel most are actually born TS and indeed recent brain studies and evidence reports that many actually have similar brain anatomical make up as cis gender women.This is a FACT.TS do not fetish over clothes whereas alot of cross dressers DO.
I don't know, that's a touchy topic.... Crossdressers are still under the transgender umbrella. And I am technically transgender because I am bigender, but I still go by my birth pronouns and gender identity. I am not comfortable calling myself transgender. Although, I was on HRT, primarily, for the mental effects, but now for both mental and physical effects. And I never thought I was in the wrong body. I just prefer not having testosterone flowing in my body.
HELP! - pretty sure I lean more towards the crossdresser category in terms of wanting it as a fun thing or a rush, not a full time thing. That said, when I am in that state of mind that I want to look good as a woman I can't help but judge my anatomically male body from the lens of a female standards of beauty and it makes me want to change things about myself. So what do you do about those temporary feelings that you might want things like hormones or other surgeries to look good for the moments where you are crossdressing but otherwise be happy as a male?
So, I am transgender. I feel very uncomfortable with my body typically and wish to proceed with medical procedures. But I cross dress for fun or for cosplay purposes and it doesn't necessarily cause of discomfort because to me it's like a play or a ruse or a joke of some sort. So, I'm a bit confused still.
By these criteria, in many ways, I was a crossdresser in my late 20s and trans in my late 40s. Some things which were signs of being trans rather than a crossdresser IN RETROSPECT: * Taking real life steps to reduce dysphoria reduced the amount of dressing up (Like growing out hair or getting laser) It was actually just a sign of an effective dysphoria amelioration - the amount of dressing up only increased when I had nothing else to try) * Taking real life steps in the first place or wanting to (what crossdresser bothers with permanent laser??) * Changing out of women's clothing was saddening (At the time, I thought it might be because of the effort it required; it wasn't just that) * Hating photos of myself in guy attire (That's a big dysphoria right there) There were a lot more but those are the big ones.
Perfect definition! I was born in 1960 and was wearing women clothes since 5 years old! As everyone can imagine pretending be a woman in the 60’ was a criminal offence! These days I am wearing full time as a woman 24/7 sensation of freedom when you feel woman…
So here’s the thing with me, 85% of the time I feel male (my biological gender) and I’m perfectly happy being male, some days (fairly rarely) I wake up and almost immediately feel feminine through and through. Over the last year I’ve been trying to embrace it by experimenting with crossdressing (which I do enjoy), as I’ve said I don’t feel uncomfortable being male at all but I’m curious if this makes me non-binary to some degree. I’ve been deliberately trying not to pigeonhole myself and just go with the flow of whatever I’m feeling but it honestly would be great if I could get a handle on what’s going on with me 😂 Thoughts?
I think the hardest thing about this topic is that when it comes down to "feeling" it's hard to verify anything. I know some people that sound like your description who would call themselves NB but also a few who think of themselves as cis with no question. So at the end of the day, I think it just comes down to how you identify given your truths?
I share the same experience as you. When did you start experiencing your feelings? For me the feelings started about 5 years ago. Not sure why this late in my life, but now I can't get rid of the thoughts. As with you I feel comfortable enough being male but there are instances when I feel the urge to try on female things and act female. I do this privately and has remained a secret so far. I know the feelings are legitimate because I would definitely at least try hormones for a few months to see how I feel as suggested in another video on this same channel. I wonder how to go about doing that? Also, learning that hormones redistributes your body fat to acquire a more female look sounds very appealing and exciting to me. Especially, if some of the fat fills out my hips and my buttocks. What are your feeling regarding the hormones? Take care.
@@luism8757 I don’t know if I’m personally interested in hormones, but if you’re interested in it just chat to your doctor about it. My feelings have honestly almost always been there, I’ve just never really acknowledged them until the last 2 years or so (I’m nearly 30 now).
Gender expression has no connection to your sex, if anything more so your personality, I don't think you have anything to worry about you seem to know yourself well, just a dude who sometimes feels more feminine, think of it as an emotion or state of mind more than an alter ego or identity, if that makes sense , you can be a male and be as masculine or feminine as you want, I find alot of people now think there non binary because they feel they have to be a certain way to be male, nups just like the female equivalent would be tomboy, I think it's perfectly natural and alot or the time you see men who are overacting or obsessing with being alpha and they consider human emotion or vulnerability as strictly female loll I personally think that's what's unnatural lol
For a long time i thought i was crossdressing. But as she states, it just isnt about the clothes. Its about the gender. Ive never felt like a guy. Never even considered being one of the guys or the alpha males. The very idea that i can be 100%comfortable after transition is a truth i want.
I'm 32 and I'm getting ready to transition I know iam transgender and have alway felt I was in the wrong body I'm excited about my transition I'm pre t but I can't wait to evolve from this state
Wrong body???? How so? I have never felt I was in the wrong body but I did feel as though my body was deformed. It was not what my brain was telling me it should look like. I'm just wondering because I have heard people say wrong body but in truth it was that they wanted to be someone else. I'm just curious about you and I'm not saying you are not trans. I just want you to expound on that feeling.
A lot of people in these comments are assuming every man who dresses as a woman is attracted to women. Very much not the case. This is why I find these conversations frustrating. Can't discuss my gender as a gay man who wants to live as a woman, without someone online telling me it's a fetish.
Love this video, so glad that I found it. Straight, married hetero male here with a strong fem side as far back as I can remember. I started crossdressing about 10 years ago and I love it, so affirming and relaxing. No desire to become a woman, but I do love dressing as one. Will ask wifey to see this video, hopefully she will take a look, maybe it will help her understand her crossdressing husband. Smile....
Me personally, I've always been on a roller coaster of sorts... I'm in high school, and I'm 15. No biggie I suppose. I've only been to one dance p, which was in the the 5th grade, well because my mom sort of wanted me to go. And when I found out that you had to wear a dress...my cried in advance to this, I hated it. We've always chalked it off as me being a tomboy, cause I hate girl stuff.... Makeup? No thank you. Barbies? You mean Ninja Turtles right? Well present date speaking of, I started "exploring" my options more or less.... I've always felt off, for no one I'd slump over and I do everything to make sure you couldn't see my boobs or my butt too good. I wear my dads shirts most of the time. And they're baggy so you can't tell to much. But I would stay up and cry for no reason, and I eventually came out and said "hey, I love y'all but I'm not feeling right. I've been feeling trapped in a cage. The cage being my body more or less. I hate it. I think I'm most likely trans." Did it go well? Nope. Went to hell in a hand basket that was broken... My cousin drove me around our mountains until like 2 in the morning on a school night... Explaining how "I'm too young." And "I don't know what I'm talking about really. I'll grow into it in high school." My dad was like whatever, if you really feel this way then okay, but I just don't understand it... And my grandmother.... She broke me more or less... She brought my mother up, (who, present date, has been dead for a year and a couple of months from Skin Cancer) and she said "your mother wouldn't want you to do this! It's stupid! You'll realize you were being senile later one. You'll want kids in the future when you get to high school. She left me with her Daughter. Not a Son!" Well that broke me so bad, that after I cut my hair, I gave up... I hid it, and didn't mention it... Present date I'm in high school. And, just like she'd said with make up and all that. I don't like it. I won't wear it, it's not for me. Instead of saying "I'm a female" I say "I'm a dinosaur". It makes it easier I guess.... I've watched the surgeries (yes I wanted this so bad, and I still kind of do.... I'm just scared....) I have my closest friends supporting me... But since I haven't talked about it in a while, I don't know how to bring it up, and talk about it to anyone family or whatever... I've cried myself to sleep, I'd daydream about females transitioning and I'd cry wondering why couldn't I do that... I was almost forced into a dress... I cried and broke down. When people go "you should let your hair grow out! It was so pretty I love it!" Or they beg me not to cut it.... But I end up pulling at it and tears stream telling them no I hate it.... I try not to let people see my body... I hate it so much anymore.... I hate shopping for anything female related.... Bras & panties? (I call them underwear originally) I end up clutching my arms to almost bruising point. And I put my head down and fight back tears of hating everything. When periods come up? I hate my life 100000x more. I was thinking about talking to my counselor about some stuff, and seeing a therapist possibly from some problems, or I was going to ask my doctor about it (my doctor is my cousin which is the sort of suck part). In a nutshell, I'm confused. And I'm legit hating my life. I try to hide away the best I can anymore. Like I want to play sports but I don't. I hate my voice and my laugh and everything anymore.... I was going to try Test. just to sort of see if I'm happier, or getting a binder, but I don't know anyone that would buy me one... I tried getting one myself but I was cussed at and eventually hit over it.... So I'd like to buy one behind their back sort of... But I also don't know how to buy one. And if a friend did it for me, I'd bring them money in hand just for it.... Does anyone have any helpful tips for fellow trans?
Nicole Hagerman, If that's You in the picture then you need to talk to a professional. your picture says you're very pretty. you have to realize this. . .good luck.
hey I remember this video! anyways 4 years latter and im a transwoman whos getting her first like gender conforming surgery soon. its nostalgic seeing this video, really helped reasure me during a time of panic and confusion.
Its not that I'm in the wrong body. Its like I see parts of my body as not being mine. For my facial features I would avoid social interactions because of my manly features.
My genitalia is a big one for me, I have avoided sexual contact for 27 years if it has to do with my genitalia. When I did try to do anything I can be aroused but I can't stay hard as I have a massive disconnect between myself and my genitals, When it comes to sex. I'm naturally attracted to men and I do it looking for a mate instead of a sexual partner. I have to constantly remind myself I can't have children the way I think I should. I dont know why I feel like this but since transitioning socially I have felt more at ease in participating in society. While I still can't hold intimate relations because of my dysphoria I do seem to be doing much better after 4 months. I plan on talking to a therapist to see what options may be open to me. If you are dealing with things like this dont be afraid to talk to someone because I almost took my own life because I did not feel like I properly fit in anywhere.
I also find my chest feels wrong, in high school I use to try and work out my chest to make it seem like I had breast growth. It did not happen because I'm a tiny person anyway. By the end of my time in high school I would only wear large shirts that completely hid my frame because I was embarrassed that I was not developing the way my brain is telling me I should. Now days I dont leave the house without being dressed and my make up done. I tuck because I makes me feel more natural. Its all just a pain.
I have naturally kept my weight at a steady 120 to 125 as a 6 foot tall person. I have done this because of my frame, I'm scared that I won't look feminine enough. So I eat like a bird. Lots of liquids to supplement my diet so I'm still healthy.
I told my wife recently that I would transition, but only if it was cheap, easy and temporary. (-which it isn't, isn't and isn't!). I'm happy as a guy and would miss myself if it became permanent! A couple of weeks on vacation in some resort or in another country would be nice, though. I think someone who could offer weekend or week long complete gender transitions as round trips would became very wealthy, very quickly. I think it could be very therapeutic for young people learning to deal with the opposite sex to walk a mile in their shoes...and clothes...and hair...and lives!
Vestite in Latin means clothing. OHH That makes sense. Cross - dresser Trans - vestite Trans - gender Cross clothing, and cross gender. Seperating the words and knowing the exact definition and meaning and origin of the word really helped me to understand this here. Thanks! 👍❤️💜 But I feel like there's even more nuance to this. What about a person that is a little bit more than just a cross dresser but less than a full on transgender person. Like in between cross dresser and transgender. What would you call that person? Gender fluid? Gender Dysphoric? Bisexual?
I’m trans and I’m so nervous to come out (I watched the other video) to my parents and school friends as they are the people who will take the mick out the most
Somebody please help or respond with advice... I think I may be trans but my boyfriend says if I am that he'll break up with me since he's not gay/bisexual, and is a straight male. He's really upset and says I should make up my mind so he doesn't have to worry about our future. I live with him and if I come out I feel like he'll kick me out of the house, and I don't know where I would go since my family is very religious and wouldn't accept me. I don't have any other friends either other than my brother, who thinks me acting and dressing like a guy is weird. I live in a small conservative town as well so there are literally no resources such as gender therapists. I'm scared and alone. I love my boyfriend and I want a future with him but I'm so hurt and confused by his reactions to me expressing myself. He says I never used to be boyish and I don't act like other trans people he knows, and that I wouldn't look good as a guy. Maybe it's just a phase and I hate how this is stressing him out, but I don't know what to do. I often feel so much more comfortable in guy clothes and I often dream of being a guy, with facial hair, the parts, no boobs, short hair, muscles... I don't know what to do... I told him I'd give him an answer by Thursday but I hate being rushed since I don't even know who I am. I wanted to be that pretty girl everybody wants me to be, but I feel different. Please help
well i cross dress as a male and and seriously considering to try and transition into one ( early stages therapist blah blah) do i hate my va ga ga or my brest ?? of course not i wish they would drop off most days, but im starting to see alot lately that unless seriously depressed or near suicidal you wont be taken seriously!! im not depressed and im far from suicidal. im just not happy and i was brought up that only i am incharge of my happiness and only i can stop or change that, so thats what im trying to do
An observation. People who are crossdressers, those who may live as a man at work, but change into female clothing at night and persona, have a female name for their female persona? Wonder why, apart from the obvious if you go out as a woman and introduce yourself as 'Fred'??!! :-)
Namaste What's the difference between a cross dresser and transgender? 5 years. Life long secret cross dresser here.. And energy sensitive. What I thought was merely a simple fetish might be something deeper. As I try to figure out what causes these urges, and where they come from. Since I have learned to accept this part of me, I have also come to a cross roads. Chronic pressure and back pains goes away whenever I dress, and get those lumps and a bra placed on the areas of pressure and pain. When I walk among humans in my normal male clothes, pains comes back again. Cross dreaming is a daily occurrence unless I am focused on something else. What does this mean?
+The Transition Channel I wish I could come out to my parents as a transgender male, and do gender therapy with you! Your videos have helped me a lot and I think you would be able to help me even more. But, there are MAJOR issues. 1.) - TRANSPHOBIA - My parents are transphobic. Very transphobic. I remember being in the car one day and the radio person was talking about how trans people could now use their restrooms, and the person was being offensive....and she laughed along with him and said transgender people are mental.2.) - COST- I've looked up the costs and it's so expensive!!!!! My parents could never afford that. But I know I'll never be happy unless I can fully transition.3.) - CROSSDRESSING - My moms really the problem with this one. She gets really uncomfortable when I wear guy clothing and she had a tantrum when I wore male jeans one time. And she won't let me get a binder either. I feel really dysphoric all the time and there's nothing I can do!!! :( I can't see a therapist because they don't know, but I know when I come out that they'll have a negative reaction.... HELPP PLEASE?????? :( :( (P.S. I know I've already said this but your videos are amazing. Please don't quit making them.)
These are not the only options. Just because one expresses femininity it doesn’t not mean they hate their body. Gender identity is independent of biological sex and orientation.
Hello thank you for that work :) In this video you seems not to know very well what a crossdresser is. Crossdressing is often the first step of your gender awakening, and it can also be the only solution people make when they decide not to transition, because of many reasons (money, homophobic nation you are in, family and/or friend's oppression, fear, lack of informations, homophobic healthcare practicians, medical condition in conflict with HRT...). And your illustrations are only male to female examples. Ftm transgenders and female crossdressers exists :/
I'm a transgender man who always had dysphoria about my female body until I transitioned, but I still love to crossdress as a "girl" because it's fun and I enjoy it at times. However when I do crossdress I still fully am a man. I see myself crossdressing as more of a character I put on sort of like drag. I just love getting pretty and dressing up it is exciting 🌟
i have been Crossdressing for 53yrs and i have never wanted to change my gender. I have on the other hand wanted Breast. As far as crossdressing i do love doing it everyday. I love the feeling. I have been out a time or two where i was dressed as a woman and loved it. I used to be B
Damn. Like every transgender question I was like yes, with a capital Y. Literally, my cross dressing became longer and longer, then not enough. Now I just want to wear girls clothes all the time. I want to transition so bad it’s unbearable.
cross dressing was fine at first, but that doesn't satisfy my strong desire to be female. I don't think I'll ever be happy until I can disrobe in front of a gentleman and show off my feminine form in the nude.
That's the same question I'm asking myself - "What are you really?" - Who knows this feeling? 💕 I grew up in a very conservative house, which did not have the stories of "I asked my mother for a dress, and the next day we went shopping" ... And from a young age, age 10 or so, I would secretly take my mom and sister's clothes and wear them in secret. The fear of being caught was so great that I remember almost nothing. 25-30 years later, minus 60 pounds, in a stunning body I designed for myself in the shape of a female hourglass, hairless But still looks like a man of course. A really handsome man, (sometimes compred to Ronaldo 😊 ) who undoubtedly draws the line between a man and a woman and plays with him, As long as my loving wife and mother my children and the love of my life accept it with a smile: Little by little I'm doing it: I arrange my eyebrows, occasionally applying makeup to work gently, and putting on lipstick and mascara. My entire wardrobe is actually divided into 2 classes: Women's clothes that are very feminine that I wear every night at home when I have free time But outside? Women's clothing that is "in the middle" such as jeans and a t-shirt, tights, boots and more. I go for a feminine walk, which in my eyes is the right one and the most impressive, (but I would like it with heels, a skirt and beautiful legs (and I have beautiful legs)) I think feminine thoughts and work at a job that in my eyes is feminine - graphic designer :) Gentle black on the nails, but I would like it to be bright red sometimes. The Dressing Vs Gender Question: If it was simpler, I would like to live like a woman, But that's not the case, at least for now. So for the peace of my life and heart, and as much as my wife accepts my transitionS with a hug and a smile, I taking it slow. Maybe to slow? Who knows? what do you think?
Im a.crossdress .I feel that she's.wrong when she.saids.If u crossdress. alot and do more then crossdress.ur a tran .well i do .i crossdress and wear make-up the hole 9 yards.Iv done this for years and 💘 it .I also get really depressed whe n i can't crossdress.I wish i could go out side .but im really scared to .can someone please help. ?
@@tracydouglas6820 I think she's wrong, too.. I only cross in the house for my daughter cause she sees me as her mother (she put up with a ton of abuse from my ex).. so me dressing up makes her feel better.. but I'm still a male no matter what and have no desire to become an actual woman..
Listen .I really love crossdressering I do it at much.as I can .it's a part of my life .In feminine and I love it ok I wish I had someone to help me cause I. Scared of going out .but yes it would be nice to have a friend who is like this .Or know about this .how can help .It's like I'm on this earth by my self and yes it hurts
Tracy Douglas I love it too..!! The wig and makeup went on in the house when wife and kids were gone, I have liked girls/ladies clothing for as long as I can remember, in high school I wanted in the worst way to wear the Jordash jeans etc but it was way taboo in the 80's (yeah I'm in my 50's..) now married with 4kids I still feel the need to wear short tight skirts and dresses etc... I do get bummed out when I know I won't be able to slip into the stockings, little black dress and high heel boots.... I have gone out several times on Halloween,first time before kids with my then fiancé as lesbian hookers..😂 then I decided I really liked how my smooth shaved legs felt in bed with my wife and always keep them clean, later on Halloween I have been out with wife and kids as Lita Ford😋, poison ivy , a female hunter and as a Hooker.. man it was fun,I wish the wife was more accepting of it the rest of the year... I don't hide my dresses and stuff anymore and usually have nail polish and makeup laying around in shop.. had eyeliner on once and she asked about it and all I could come up with was that it comes with all the rest of the girly stuff.. I wish I was able to talk to her more about it and/or had someone to talk about it with more often... guess that's why I talk to strangers on you tube about it...🤔
Tracy Douglas I started going outside and letting the neighbors see glimpses of me.. then doing chores and getting mail or taking out garbage etc. when I felt I could really pass I started going out in public just driving around.. then a quickstore trip.. and the absolute best is going into stores and trying on dresses etc!!❤️... I have even been dressed as a man and went to try on dresses as well... have really only been able to talk in real life with one person I bought some dresses from on FB marketplace.. she was very accepting and positive and complimented on how well I looked..
At the beginning it was a bit confusing, with time I realized that I was a Crossdresser, even if still in men's clothes, someone thought I was "Eccentric"!
My ex wife thought I was a crossdresser but my feeling has always been since childhood. I'm now 49 and can't handle living two lives. I would love to talk with you please.
