Is He Dateable? | JD Rodgers 

Lol when he said that I said “say it louder for the guys in the back.” 😂👀😆

The worst is when he ghosts you but is super involved in church ...

@@TheJessicagardner Just weird and very childish. 😅 I have experienced it ONCE and I seriously lost my respect for this behavior. As brother in Christ, may God bless him. Without me in his life. 😊

​@@TheJessicagardner Give thanks to God that He showed you his true colors by showing that boy's character, that he isn't a godly man but a boy playing games. Hugs

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I was just thinking the same thing! I’m proud of us for taking this step in the right direction for a new destination, the one God intended us to have all along.

@@jendryalpizar4370 I feel so safe knowing that other girls have gone through the same thing

My name is Miranda Joy!! What a coincidence!!

I agree

At the age of 37 this was a wonderful sermon I absolutely loved it! This guy knows his stuff!

Wisdom right here.

Find a chruch that has a strong faithful marriage and offers all sorts of Bible study groups and volunteer events. There out there!

I am praying for you and your future spouse.

🤯🤯🤯🤯Help!

Is what you said at the front foolish speaking or godly edifying?

What happens to us...when we don't keep the love spark burning?!🔥🔥🔥🔥

They're around just very hard to find. Get into community that is passionate about running towards God and start serving vigorously in the church. When you're out on projects, missionary trips, serving days etc you will start to see the same people running along side you and there you will find such men. Dont lower your standards, lengthen your patience. Pray persistently. After 4 years of praying for a spouse and 2 years of dating I just proposed and we will marry next year. Dont give up hope :)

@@dapperdan1017 totally agree. When you are around people in ministry, you meet higher caliber of men and women. That's how God opened my eyes to the fact that there are some really godly men (brothers) out there.

When I saw the title is He dateable, that tipped me off that I should watch this to know “hey am I dateable as a dude?” Whether it is “is he dateable” or “is she dateable”, they both are very applicable advice to both genders. For example, as a man, in this one I go into it thinking “do I meet these requirements?” Or if it’s “is she dateable?” Then I’m thinking “is this what I’m genuinely looking for” and if the answer is no to anything then check yourself. You have the wrong mindset going in.

@@bgaanpwns15 I don’t have the wrong mindset. Sorry. I listen to these as well to see if I fit the categories to hold myself accountable. I have just found that it’s harder to find Christian content discussing what to look for in a wife.

There’s a video called “Is She Dateable” by JD!! God bless & remember if He put you to it He’ll get you thru it :)

Refer to the Word of God, it is the best ressource to understand what to look for in a Godly partner (Proverbs 31, 1 Peter 3, Proverbs 12:4, Proverbs 14, 1 Corinthians 7). Some parts of this video were quite unbiblical and you have to have discernment when listening to preachers nowadays ! Hope this helped :3

Also search “ how to find a godly spouse or what to look for in a Christian spouse “ also check to see if your church has a ministry for marriage or pre-marriage. You can be single and still go to those. Also check out the men’s small groups or mentorship .

It's never too late to get back up and walk in God's will. If I were you I'd give myself some time to go to church for myself and grow in my personal relationship with God. That way, if God wants you to pursue that girl, you'll have a firmer foundation to be the leader of that relationship😊 I'm praying for you two young people🙏🏾

So happy to hear that you encountered Jesus! The blood of Jesus covers that sexual sin you have committed. He broke those chains. It's ok if you haven't been a good leader in the past because if you are in Jesus Christ, then you are made into a new creation. I encourage you to take everything you have commented to God. Talk to Him about all your relationship with her, your doubts and confess all your sins. Ask that He renews you in Jesus Christ and that He gives you clarity on if you should continue pursuing a relationship with that girl. God bless you both!

It’s never too late❤️

That’s really messed up if someone does that.

Dating is a sin...I believe!!🤰🤰🍅🍅

@@melaniemartin4319 I don't believe it's a sin, BUT I do believe only people who are READY to get married should date. I have heard so many married couples say that, that if they had to do it all over again, they would only date when they were ready to settle down and get married. Makes sense to me, and saves a lot of time and misunderstanding.

Point proven.

This made me laugh so hard. It’s true! So sad but neurotic is the right word. :/

Tell him to ask your father, your father God 😉

Then to ask your care takers or legal guardian I’m assuming

Hi Jill I believe I am one of these men (boys) and I am realizing it now that I’ve become a Christian. Do you have any advice on how I can stop this? Should I seek help? I’m afraid because when I was in the world and sought therapy it messed me up further.

As a woman, I can say that most of the time, the guy comes across as really nice or someone that you'd be interested in pursuing, but then they start doing something manipulative or showing signs of abusive behavior and even after you tell them you're not interested anymore, they start doing more of that manipulation. This can be seen when a girl says "hey, i noticed that you're doing XYZ and it's not something I'm comfortable with" and the guy says "no one ever likes me. I'm always a failure. I'll never be good enough. Oh yeah, well you do ABC..." I have began talking to several guys and it goes like this sometimes. I will then try to talk about it and explain why that right there immediately told me everything I needed to know. Guys that do this usually let their emotions control them instead of God. There's nothing I can do from there except pray and move on. If they continue reaching out with negativity and manipulation, I block them. Then they say "I was ghosted..." 😂 That's just from my experience. I'm not sure y'all's perspectives.

@@josephfaraday5003 Put it this way, if she ghosts you then she needs the Holy Ghost. Women need to be communicative as well, that communication part isn’t one sided, that’s why the last R is responding to what was said. This is why when you say something, how she responds is just as important. No response is a response. She’s lost interest. If she can’t communicate that, then she’s not a woman. Just as women cannot be lead by boys, you cannot lead a girl. You cannot mix maturity with immaturity because the latter always taints the mixture. I’m sorry that your experiences haven’t been the best, but I hope this sheds a better perspective for you. You cannot read her mind, and sometimes you’ll never know why. Job never knew why he was tested, but at the end of the day it didn’t matter. How you got there doesn’t negate the fact that you’re there. It’s what you do now that determines whether you’ll stay there or push forward.

Thank you for this comment because I think this is me, as I am on fire for Jesus so I tried online dating, only to realize I’m reverting back to my worldly ways when it comes to relationships, although I truly have been saved by God and I know he is real.

And it makes me feel worse when I hear sermons like this because then I think: okay, I can do all of this, but it turns out I’m just doing steps I’ve heard, I haven’t fully changed my behavior patterns yet. So then when things don’t work for me, I feel as if I am defunct or helplessly broken. I am a narcissist. It’s so hard to admit that. I come from a narcissist background. When I see people raised by Christians in the church, I just can’t relate to it. I also envy it to an extent, because they are just so… healthy (I know they’re not perfect and I don’t know what they are like in the em secret place), but it’s like this: I’m a born and bred narcissist. It’s what I do and what I do best (I even type that with pride, how sad). It’s how I survived up until now. So when trying to relate with people at the church who come from healthy families (not perfect, but healthy), I find myself trying to keep up with them/ undo a lifetime of training and it’s so exhausting and then I feel as if I don’t belong there among then. And then I feel as if I need special treatment by the people there, because that’s what I’ve received in my life up until now (to an extent- I have good and bad in me like the rest of us). What’s worse, is then I feel more spiritual than the people there, because they haven’t ‘been though what I’ve been through.’ I notice all the things I do to people in church… give them a glimpse of some amazing part of me… and then hide it away, or never reveal my true self… keep people intrigued but never let them see my full self… a normal human like the rest of us.. I never let myself get to that point of vulnerability… because I fear I cannot handle the rejection of my true self… I wait for people to come to me exclusively, and if they do, I feel no need to make the same effort. I truly need help and I thank the Lord every day that he found me and at this point I’m rambling, so.

Be connected to God in prayer, if you feel anything off with any guy you are dating, that's the holy spirit trying to save from heartache. Ask God to show a person's character, He will because guess what, the mask can only be there for so long. You can know someone based on the fruits of the spirit. The people around him, the elders in the church, etc. What is his conduct, character, what are his actions saying not the words? God said there will be wolves among the sheep but we must stay vigilant.

@@teemushy7685 Well said. This is a perfect example of dating and I had no idea till I saw this post.

No that’s not what he’s saying! Property is replaceable and people are not! He’s talking about having reverence for her parents relationship not just that of the dad! He asked her parents for permission to date their daughter and used the dad as an example of how he wouldn’t just let anyone date her since he raise her/cared for her all his life. When he talks about leading he talks about following Christ in a way that steers their relationship in a godly direction! The same applies to women! She can lead her husband in godly direction or not! Def not talking about women as property of a man, had you watched the whole video you might know that!

@@amandapanda9231 If you look into gender complementarian theology that is exactly what he is talking about. If the daughter didn't belong to the father, then why did he need to ask permission in the first place? It's basically a transference of power over the woman. "Leading" a woman may sound nice, but it's just fluffy language for subordinating her. I'd suggest reading The Making of Biblical Womanhood and Jesus and John Wayne as an introduction to the ideology he's talking about. Also, he made a direct analogy between asking to use a lawn mower and asking to use a daughter - and he said the analogy broke down at the machine part - not the property part.

@@ellens5109 what does an ideal marriage look like to you? Does the woman lead, then? Or do both ‘lead’? And how does that work?

@@michaellemmen it’s a relationship of equal partners and friends. When you’re with your friends nobody has to be the “leader” or have the final say. You figure it out together. Otherwise it’s not a very good friendship - it’s more like boss and employee.

You have it all wrong. This is about showing the woman respect. It’s about earning her trust by being honest and transparent with her family. I have nothing but respect for this kind of communication. My dad never cared who I dated or went around with. I dated losers who ended up using me for sex and I was also date raped. My dad didn’t teach me about men or care about how they treated me. And it hurt me.

@@teemushy7685 yes absolutely agree. Our culture has gotten so dysfunctional that many fathers don’t love and protect their daughters as they should. They let their daughters navigate the dating scene with no guidance or support which is why many women end up giving in to hook up culture. They will have sex with a guy just because it’s the only male attention and validation they’ve ever gotten. When a father is absent from his daughters dating life it really hurts the daughter.

^^ This is what it looks like to miss the point. It’s not about permission, it’s about respect.

Notice how you all missed the point, this is mysogyny. Did the woman do the same for the man and his parents? No, she didn't.

@@JokeSwag lol that’s not misogyny! In relationships, specifically traditional ones, men and women are equal but not the same. What a man looks for in a women is not entirely the same as what a women looks for in a man. When a man approaches a father about his daughter there is an understanding between them - man to man: can you provide for my daughter? Do you have the characteristics to lead the family in the right direction etc.. the family of the man will also will vet his potential partner but perhaps not as openly.