ASIAN MOM STRAIGHTENS NATURAL HAIR FOR BIRACIAL KIDS 

exactly lmao this vid bogus

but they don't?

straightened*

Ummmm majority of what she's doing is bcuz she doesn't know what to do with their hair...FACTS....

Straightened*

That statement was so cute oml I wanna cry

I would have very curly hair and my mom would always complain to me that I have a witch hair and how im not trying to make it look buetiful but the truth is that after brushing my hair there will be a knot. So I love this quote bc im asian mistaken for being Mexican and I have curly hair so yeah sorry if it doesn't make sense im in the car rn

Facts! She’s a great mother for that❤️‍🔥❤️‍🔥❤️‍🔥

Awww

You usually aren't supposed to straighten a child's hair just to for no reason...

It’s sad because this is the second video of this type I’ve seen about her. She seems like a nice lady and really consistently teaches them to love themselves and their blackness, yet somehow people keep getting the wrong idea.

Exactly idk why people always like to spread such negativity.

@@amandaa7708 exactly, it’s incredibly sad

@Jess Red i really don’t think anyone can have micro aggressions towards there children, especially when they are POC themself. teaching them internalized racism is one thing but it isn’t always a micro aggression. i don’t know if that’s what she was getting at though 🤷🏽‍♀️

@@amandaa7708 this video was a reaction from a black point of view. no one ever bashed that woman. she was just expressing how instead of just trying it out and risking heat damage and breakage it would have been a better idea to search it up. she touched on how she clearly cared for her kid but should have searched things up prior to the video for better results.

YESS I AGREE

Agreed as a Wasian child myself

Waisan=waliuigi

''I take this TRIPLE vitamin c serum to lighten my skin'' and ''I love how she reaffirms her child on her Blackness...'' Which one is it? Beautiful, lovely mum wanting to gift her beloved girls the exciting experiences and milestones all little girls desire. Only this time it was straightening their hair (which she herself grew and cared for since their birth). Asians NEVER came to Black's videos to shame and ridicule your methods, and that respect should be reciprocated. There's no BLACK HAIR POLICE, so leave non-Black moms alone! It's THEIR children and they do a bloody good job at raising and caring for them!

Tbh koreans prefer wasians over blasians since they fit the beauty standards more lol, lets not lie now. Moving on where or when did chizi try to make her seem like a bad mom? all she said was that the mom should’ve really done some research first straightening curly hair before doing it. which is valid.

right

@@ShizukaAoki you know every woman in Japan?

@@ShizukaAoki they never said that they didn’t straighten it, they just said there’s no reason to straighten it on a daily, or even as excessively as you would need to for curly hair, that was their point

@@ShizukaAoki did i ever say that she doesn’t straighten her hair?? your repeating the point i just diminished as if it changes my opinion, it doesn’t, there’s no NEED to straighten their hair everyday, so it’s a POSSIBILITY that maybe SHE hasn’t done it HERSELF before, or that maybe she hasn’t done it EVER in the same way that it needs to be done on KINKY/ COILY hair like ours! what are you not getting ??

@@ShizukaAoki im gonna leave this here, it’s obvious your not getting what i’m saying because i literally just agreed with you in saying that straight people can straighten their hair. but you made it seem like Kalee said that when your hair is straight you don’t ever straighten it or you can’t straighten it, when instead they just said that it’s not a NEED to straighten it, which it isn’t.

We love to hear it ❤️❤️

@@SamanthaMacariola What if she said something bad?

The question isn’t about her being a bad mother though, she is an awesome mother, but the father is not as present as he should be, and I don’t mean physically because I know there have been trials with his residency and work before. He doesn’t teach them about their African side. These girls go to all white school, living in an all white neighborhood, then they go home to an Asian mother who is teaching them her ideals of beauty and her culture and language, and a father that refuses to teach them his culture and language! Where is the father? The in-laws? Someone who shares their blackness to affirm that their black is valid and beautiful?

@@nycgirllauren you make it sound like she's forcing her ideals and language on them when she's not. As 90% of the comments have agreed upon, she tries. I've been watching them for the longest time and even I can't confidently make the statement you just did. We don't know what's going on offline, and it's none of our business. For us to assume the father isn't doing anything is out of line. And for us to claim that she is forcing her perceptions of beauty on her kids, is also out of line. We only know as much as they show us, and that's where it should end. Doesn't Mean everything we see on the internet is true.

@@lilib4729 I’ve been watching them for years also, I’m not speaking on what I haven’t seen because I can’t and I’m aware of that. What I’m talking about is what I see in the videos, comments the father makes and things that he shares that raise a red flag. I don’t necessarily think she’s FORCING her beauty standards on them but its happening because she’s seemingly all they have to gauge for beauty being that they are in all white areas. I’m not making this up, if you see their Instagram posts the older girl almost only wears her hair straight since that video, their perceptions of beauty are already warped it’s obvious what’s happening to them

Exactly lmao, it’s like asking a black person with curly hair why they don’t know how to use a curling iron. What a stupid question lmao😂

I’m Asian but I have slight waves in my hair

Fr

@@angelship4687 i wish I had some wave to my hair 😩 I’m half Asian & I have thick straight hair but sometimes I still use a flat iron to make it more sleek. I should have said SOME Asians have straight hair so some don’t have to use a flat iron. Maybe she meant she never straightened NATURAL hair before.. it’s much easier to quickly run a flat iron over our type of hair as opposed to natural hair. My daughter is also biracial and it takes a lot more patience.

Asians have wavy, curly and frizzy hair too

Ik but like chizi has 4c hair, we know for a fact, if u watched the entire video, she praised the woman for encouraging her children to be confident in whatever kind of hair they have, from curly to straight, but chizi mentioned things she could do better at and positive advice is rlly good 😊

She never even was reaching, if you actually watched the whole video you would’ve literally seen chizi praise lily for instill self love for their curly hair…. like yall are getting mad for no reason.

what are you talking about Chizi complimented the mom for teaching the kids to love their natural self and for trying her best

Right! Exactly my thoughts. Like black ppl like to stay mad at anything. While is it anyone’s business what a woman chooses to do with her children’s hair? My grandmother was against us perming our hair but was okay with pressing because it helps with the texture of our coil hair. Ain’t no shame in saying tht. Out hair are hard to deal with so why not admit it. This helps

@@MegaLadylove2012 It's anyones business because she posted a public video about it. That asks for feedback, positive or negative. You don't have to agree with Chizi's comments, but don't act like she grabbed some random child off the street while she was walking to school or something.

@@MegaLadylove2012 Hard isn’t the word I would use. Rather it takes a lot of work if you want your hair to be healthy. That goes for any hair texture. Black hair is pretty fragile so you have to be extremely patient and careful with it.

Elder_Cryptid Chile bye 👋🏿

Stop making excuses for people not knowing the basic ways to take care of their child's appearance. Studies show that parents who don't take care of their child's physical appearance have kids with lower self-esteem and self-hate issues just like Yuri does. She's a RU-vidr but couldn't look up how to properly flat iron 3c-4c hair when there are loads of Natural Hair videos on this website.!?!.. She a whole FOOL! She DIDN'T USE ANY HEAT PROTECTANT, NO HAIR LOTION, SILICONE SERUMS OR HAIR SPRAYS, I ain't see NOT ONE product was used in this video, that's why Dasomi was crying when she did her hair. I watched the girls' Tik-Tok, their hair is definitely DAMAGED AND IT'S A SHAME. Their hair is now heat damage, like why would she use the flat iron on the hottest level while doing multiple passes on each small section. I feel bad because the dad has been braiding their hair for years to grow it out and now their hair is completely damaged because their mother decided she was gonna flat iron their hair WITHOUT DOING ANY RESEARCH🙄🤦🏾‍♀️🙅🏾‍♀️

I had my grandmother straighten my hair before but it was so long ago i don’t remember it. As long as the kids are happy and the hair isn’t damaged, does it really matter? What she did doesn’t seem all that different than how my grandmother used to do it

@@laoaidan2400 ezactly!

Well it depends, straighting hair to much is bad for well for me realy bad I have c4 hair so it's probably more maintenance and I always have to have a heat protection for my hair so idk if it's the same for others. I'm sure everyone should use heat protection though since it's hair.

@@bituinl true my mom has me shower then she brushes and blow dries it straight

@@FruitBatJIA for me I wash my hair my mom blows dry it then adds heat protection then uses and whatever it’s called. Sometimes she curls it into big curls

The ‘micro-aggression’ comments she keeps making is why I don’t want to follow her... That and her saying “If you’re going to have black or biracial kids I’M gonna need you to know how to do their hair!” Really? The entitled behavior is such a turn off.

@@wilhelminawelbie4578 ??? Would you rather they ruin their hair? What do you mean??

@@brijo9299 there's a big difference between giving advice helpful advice like: *"you should put some sort of oil to protect her hair so it doesn't break off"* and arrogantly demanding other races research things that most Black people don't even know/wont bother to research. Can't tell you how many times I've seen Black Mom's and Grandma's grab the comb and start yanking out their daughters hair *DRY* because they thought it was normal. Then to add things like "micro-aggression" which has negative connotations that imply racism. Honestly feels like she's playing up for her audience. There's a VAST difference in the implications and connotations between the two.

@@lordtbootyclappn1621 well said 👏

@@wilhelminawelbie4578 agree, that pissed me off. I'm biracial myself. Lily is the mother. Just because she looks more like us then her children in some ways does not give us any right or authority to make those kind of possessive comments. She is learning and will figure it out.

Yes, and there’s a RIGHT and a WRONG way to do their type of hair. How do you find yourself commenting on something you clearly know nothing about???

@@autumnjade815 what

@@autumnjade815 it’s THEIR choice not YOURS everyone has their own way of doing things. Like they said in the comment the daughter has every right to what she wants and doesn’t want shouldn’t be a concern for you 😭

Aren't you defending whyte people all the time and attacking black people in every conceivable capacity? Weird that you're seemingly trying to identify with blackness here when you seem to think it's a horrible thing to acknowledge or embrace in media....

@@Scoring57 you know that Asian people aren’t white.. right?

What is her channel?

@@jamiajones1087 Lily Petals world ❤️

Damn Alteori, here you are again😂😂😂 Why I keep finding out😂😂😂.

The kids hair did not look healthy sheet just had alot of hair. But she does try but she isn't trying smart. She doesn't use natural hair products doesn't research. But I get that her daughter's hair is completely different from hers so it's a learning process.

@@eltina21 all “natural hair products” do not work for every one. Their hair is very healthy if you watch other videos. So she is doing what works for her and her kids.

You are so sweet!! God bless you for not judging!

@@eltina21 their hair isn’t healthy??

@@briana8404 her daughter has alot of hair naturally but you can tell from her ends that it's not healthy

Was thinking the same. I mean I’m black with a black daughter and some of the things I didn’t even know. Dang give her some grace. What did we do before RU-vid? Trial and error and we figured it out. Ijs

👏👏👏👏 FR

Right girl

it could still be damaged

@@Deex338 if u over use it and do it all the time in yes but in this case its the kids first time she'll live

She wasn’t hating on her for straightening their hair. She was pointing out that the mother clearly did no research. Ignorance of the hair texture really isn’t a good excuse.

@@autumnjade815 she clearly did no research because the mom did nothing wrong straightening her kids hair. Her kids are biracial not black & even if they were wtf is she to tell someone how to do their kids hair

i love ur pfp

@@autumnjade815 the texture chart that my people love to go by is texturist so it doesn't matter what matters is how thin her hair is a the porosity of it lol.

Thank you. Frequently, the black community wants to restrict what individuals want to do with their hair. It is a person's choice to do want they want to do.

Then why do you want to straighten your hair Ha? Do you hate black features that much?

@@AnythingLounge don’t project your insecurities

she didn’t even put heat protection in the hair... i understand it is out of love, but the end product isn’t going to last long.. the process was very interesting. how would you know about black hair damage as a nonblack person?

@@AnythingLounge she never said she wants to straighten her hair you good ? 😭 💀

@@cheydesu241 umm why r u so heated this is just a mom learning news ways to do her daughters hair and of course she doesn’t know about hair damage it’s her first time straightening there hair and when you said “How would you know about black hair damage as a nonblack person” really I feel like ur saying black ppl are the only ppl that get hair damage ik it’s different for all races but cmon as a black person myself I don’t see anything wrong with this video at least she’s uplifting her daughters instead of putting them down and she’s taking the time to learn how to do there hair and if I offended you I’m sorry I was just stating my opinion on ur comment why I feel like I’m having a debate rn lmao 😂🤣 anyways hope you have a nice day 😊😁

REALLY why talk to them in korean and not their father's langage?. Just a question

@@emorebelle so they can understand both languages instead of one? Lol. I'm Cambodian/Laos, my Husband is African American/French/Indian, English & Cambodian is used when we speak to our Daughter lol

@@AsianBeauty23 good for you, but you know you are not the centre of the world. Who cartes about your husband and everything. It's about her. But of course you can't understand you are Asian not black... I kinda pity your Daughter then bye

@@emorebelle cares* lol

@@emorebelle That is the best way to raise bilingual kids. The dad talks in the his own language, the mom talks in her own language and the children can grow up with constant influence from different languages/cultures. When you expose them to one language, guess what will happen, they’ll only speak that language lol

Yah I watch some of her video she doesn’t seem strict and harsh. Im not Asian I can’t really say Asian are strict I cant speak on that

The Asian parent tiktoks are hilarious. I tell my kids im an Asian mom..."you got 95 ... what happened to other 5 points. You disgrace." 😆

Asian women are beautiful

@@tayshunsmith6327 I agree :)

Yeah there is a lot of internalized racism that people in my own community show (not all Asian people) and it disgusts me I was born here and so that internalized racism is something I hate. I love everyone no matter their color or anything and especially after facing racism directly myself I got empathize better. However Asia is a large continent and everyone has different stories and ethnicities so people from the “motherland” aren’t always racist.

Exactly

Are you the real Elon Musk?!

@@sabeena011 yes obviously

For real.

Exactly when I did curls for the first time I was super excited with my new look. I think changes make us excited

I hate when I see ppl making racist content and comments like this and acting like it’s ok because they aren’t white?? I literally have no idea how it’s ok or that they can’t see it! I’m white and I have long think curly hair, I straighten it all the time because it’s easier to manage! It has NOTHING to do with race! FFS I’m so over that agenda being pushed. It is what creates hate and a big part of the problem. This mum and her daughters are perfect in every way 😍

Ok, but the dad, who is the black person in the relationship is really who should teach them about their brown skin and beauty IMO... better yet, his black female family members. Yet I have never seen any of them on their channel. I just CANNOT watch that channel because of the father. The wife is so cute and her heart is in the right place. But that man and those poor disconnected daughters SMH

Plus she really does take care of her daughters natural hair very well.Their hair is so healthy and beautiful. She teaches them to love themselves the way they are naturally. So I feel like people are being too hard on her for this video

@@ekg891 I see what you’re saying, but IMO girls need to see images of themselves to admire... it’s human. Someone else can tell you you’re beautiful all day long, but if they can’t relate to your image, it’s hard to believe. The mom knows that too, so she showed them images of black celebrities to show them that black is beautiful. That will not work of course because the woman they admire the most, their mother is not black, she’s fighting a losing battle. They needed examples in their personal lives in order for it to stick. That’s where the dad dropped the ball

@@LetThereBeLight1111 Nope. It's not the black women in his family job. The father has to do the work.

@@LetThereBeLight1111 given that it’s *her* channel, she tends to focus everything on her interactions with her kids.

yea especially since the mom isnt a black woman

@@okaylol5608 why does she have to be black ? What is black?

@@maiw9714 never said she did

@@maiw9714 black is a color

@@steph_ND black is a shade

Her best would have included doing even a little bit of research. She didn’t do that so it’s not like she tried anything close to her best.

What you're saying is like me traveling to Korea or Japan or PRC without watching the hundreds of thousands of videos online about using chopsticks or basic phrases & customs. There is literally thousands of videos on using a flat iron, even on various hair textures

@@volitionspark2686 not a fair comparison dude, even when you start using chopsticks you stink at it at first, you have TO TRY AND LEARN the same goes with this mother, who is trying and learning to become better at it. too much negativity here

@Trinity M some are even insulting her, that's not fair criticism at all, and calling it a "micro agression" is not very nice too. And honesty, there's black people who doesn't even know some of the things that people here are demanding her to know, let her learn, it's the first time she does it, her kids were asking for it and she just did it the way she knows how to do it. And "i expect better from the mother of black children"... i didn't know that mothers of black children were unable of making mistakes, you guys are so toxic

It was a joke/exaggeration.

@@kmj2000 doesn’t matter it was offensive

This wasn’t even about lack of empathy, it was lack of respect. Racially motivated lack of respect. She’s on about "affirming" the kid’s blackness, as though the kid weren’t also Asian. When is she supposed to "affirm" the kid’s asianness? The kid already looks essentially black, so if any "affirmation" were needed, it would be on the Asian side. More importantly, why would a kid, who is oblivious to race, need her race "affirmed?" A healthy identity is not based on genetics, it’s based on culture and values. The best way to raise racists is to raise a kid’s awareness to their own and other people’s race.

Ugh

Seriously. What in the world

@@Gomba13 right and people out here thinking they’re solving racism or helping by raising more awareness between the differences in race idek how to describe it (I mean like the last bit you wrote about)it’s like everyone is on edge and ready to strike/hate on you for every little thing so complicated but it makes me so frustrated how people think that it’s progressive

@@SC-pg7jr Delete that comment.

THANK YOU!! IT HAD TO BE SAID

God! Thank you!

Chizi was saying its a microaggression in the way that Lily didn't do any research on how to straighten black hair when info on that is so readily available. As Yuri said, she was asking to get her hair straightened for 2 weeks, she could have done research in those 2 weeks and it could have told her that she shouldn't drag that straightener through their hair so much times! I've watched them both and Lily really could have done better here. She's not black yeah, but she can still do her research and try to do better or take the girls to get their hair done by someone who actually knows what to do.

Must be a liberal....

@@leahquispe4569 I’m not even american 💀 so what does this even mean as an insult when this is the norm for the rest of the world 😭😭😭NEXT

Excellent points, you summed up my feelings on this video nicely. Add to it the thumbnails with reaction face that looks like something terrible is happening (I'm talking about a few of the other videos) and it's starting to feel a bit clickbaiting.

@@reysquadron7820 yes!! I feel the same way.

Yes I feel the same way....she's trying. My daughter is Black/Mexican and she wanted her hair straight (its naturally very curly). Anyhow, I flat ironed her hair after spraying some heat protectant. It looks beautiful. It's a once in a while hairstyle as I want to encourage her to love her natural curls too.

Exactly!!! I’ve tried to teach my mom how to do her hair. But she just ends up making me do it all the time lmao 😂 Curly hair is hard. And it’s even harder cause one screw up and your curls can be gone. This mama tried her best. And I applaud her for at least trying.

@@artualpseu3691 I’m 😊😊

I know right?? Maybe the kids just want straight hair like their mother. And besides that mother knows how to braid and style hair. I dont know why she has to be the one to judge.

They're biracial. We really need to get out of the bad habit of calling biracial people (with a black parent) black. It does nothing for us, especially black women and girls. Other than that, I agree with you about Lily.

@@metalbabee seriously!!!!

@ʕっ•ᴥ•ʔっZhi🦋✨ʕっ•ᴥ•ʔっ not all mixed people are mixed with white lmao

@ʕっ•ᴥ•ʔっZhi🦋✨ʕっ•ᴥ•ʔっ the people in the video are blasian though, im confused

they’re not black….

ok

She's a RU-vidr but couldn't look up how to properly flat iron 3c-4c hair when there are loads of Natural Hair videos on this website!?!.. she’s FOOLISH! She DIDN'T USE ANY HEAT PROTECTANT, NO HAIR LOTION, SILICONE SERUMS OR HAIR SPRAYS, I ain't see NOT ONE product was used in this video, that's why Dasomi was crying when she did her hair. I watched the girls' Tik-Tok, their hair is definitely DAMAGED AND IT'S A SHAME. Their hair is now heat damage, like why would she use the flat iron on the hottest level while doing multiple passes on each small section. I feel bad because the dad has been braiding their hair for years to grow it out and now their hair is completely damaged because their mother decided she was gonna flat iron their hair WITHOUT DOING ANY RESEARCH🙄🤦🏾‍♀️🙅🏾‍♀️

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@@Chels4hair it ain’t that deep

@@Chels4hair just stfu at this point. My African mother straightens my hair sometimes with no lotion at first and my hair is fucking fine. Mistakes happen and she’s learning from then clearly.

@@ogbobbyjohnson2456 for real man, the little girl begged to get her hair straightened. So what if the mum doesn’t know what to do, she clearly loves her kids. It’s really sad people on here are judging other people !!! Most black parents used to relax their children’s hair before the natural hair movement, it’s not as if they don’t care about their kids. Get a life man

Oof you should probably cut it shorter and let it regrow while using a new hair routine.

... But she wasn't critical of the mother straightening her hair. She even praised the mom for giving her children a positive view on their hair and beauty. hair.She was critical of the mother straightening her hair _poorly_ and not doing research on something she hasn't done before with her child's hair. Which is fair. The mom is understandstably inexperienced with handling natural hair, _which is all the more reason_ she shouldve researched how to do this. heat damage is especially hard to repair especially for curly hair. She even praised the mom for giving her children a positive view on their hair and beauty. Did you even watch the full vid.

@@observantwonderer7401 right, why is everyone so mad.

I'm so so sorry. I would say cut it off and then start your natural hair care journey by growing it out.

FIRST OFF THIS LADY HAS A NAME. Her Name is Chizi! Tschew ewu

Umm its not just this video .. you must not realize the racism & colorism that happens in Asian countrys ... I used to watch Lilly back in the day ... Black is considered bad which is why they need to learn to love the African in them

@@hotlonnie78 yeah but she literally takes care of their Afro-hair and she teaches them to embrace their black side. Yeah there’s colorisim there but this video is genuine. I don’t see anything colorist in her videos and she teaches them to embrace it

@@hotlonnie78 what about his black father ? Where is it to learn that ? Why did you except a Asian women to learn how to love your African side. Stop being delusional

@@wildearth3992 he works overseas and he is a hard worker he doesnt have time to teach them about...."hair"

@@TheDevourerOfUniverses so he shouldn’t have kids if he can’t take care of them. I’m tired of this scheme of absent black father. This cycle need to stop

Her hair is hardly even kinky

@@sea-of-skies_ The youngest daughter has 4a-4c hair it was just blow-dried that's why it looked looser. The oldest daughter has 3b,3c,4a hair she has much looser curls.

@@Chels4hair the video was clearly focused on the older who definitely does not have type 4 hair. It's not really thick or kinky enough to really say it's so hard to straighten. It was not that hard. Had the mom done a little research beforehand it would've been even easier and better results.

That hair not kinky. But I do agree she does try to some degree. I think the dad attitude towards his daughters beauty sucks a bit tho....

​@@sea-of-skies_ Regardless Lily should know how to do Natural hair by now she lives in America and has access to RU-vid where there are thousands of videos on how to safely Straighten Natural hair. Their are no excuses for not knowing how to do your child's natural hair in the 21st century. Heck their is a woman named Christy Gior on RU-vid she adopted her 5 kids and can do better natural hair than Lily whose been with her Kenyan husband for over 10 years. Lily has had enough time to make friends with Black women who could have taught her about Black hair way before she had kids, but NO! She decided she didn't care and never take the initiative to learn until her kids were born. She still hasn't taken the kids to a Natural Hair salon to do their hair or learn how to do it herself. Instead, she leaves it up to James to braid their hair and he tries his best that's why their hair is growing. But she had to go and flat iron it and cause even more damage since she tried to wash it last time(she sometimes helps to moisturize the girls' hair). Heck, she even made a video saying she didn't know what she was doing to her daughter's hair(ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-uQRrhdWyfkM.html). Lily is clueless and she needs to put away her pride and receive help from professional Black women that specializes in natural hair.

period with no pad.

@@jooney_cookies4589 I'm- 💀

@@jooney_cookies4589 HELP

@@jooney_cookies4589 purrrrrrrrrrrrrr you said that🤩🤩🤩

@@trickie72 yes gurl I did😌

It’s important that she learns how to care for her kids hair properly. The way she is doing it will cause it to break and fall out, guaranteed.

@@autumnjade815 stfu She WAS LEARNING

Some of these people are kids why would they have kids

🤣🤣 She don't even do her own hair. I'm crying in laughter.

Yeah I saw a person shame her for using her native language in KOREA, where most of the population speaks Korean. And then the person pitied another person’s daughter because the mother wasn’t black…

She literally did no research. That is not trying your best. Not even close.

@@autumnjade815 OH, excuse me, did you want a full on silk press for an 8-year-old that just wanted to have fun with her hair?! Let her have a moment with her OWN mom. It's not like Lilly is the babysitter. She birthed the child. Mind your business.

I agree

Strongly agree with you

@@SANDOSMT and so? Lol, its not an invitation to judge.

She posting their lives on social media they made it everyone's business.. if Lily wanted it private she shouldn't have posted it period ... thats just facts not matter how you feel about the comments

exactly people find ANYTHING to hate on and will judge their life from what they post

Right? I’m white and my mom straight up up shat on my curly hair type growing up. Still tryna unlearn that shit. These children are blessed.

@@stepmothercity try having a black mom who hates her own 4b/c hair and forced her beliefs on me. I’m just now learning I have three different hair textures. None of them are really in the 4 category. But I’m learning now what works for me. Like rice water works best on my loose curl hair. While my hair in the crown is a bit more tightly curled and doesn’t like rice water as much. I need gel to clump my curls together and get them to get along. I want my mom to go natural cause I find her hair beautiful but I don’t think it’ll ever happen. But I’ve embraced my hair and my blackness. I’m black, proud, and weird.

Stop hating on her it's her opinion

@@natalieparker5251 There is a difference between forming an opinion versus creating a false monologue on the internet against a mother who had no ill intent.

Agree. I think its important for people to work through their traumas and triggers… speaking from experience. Personal development and accountability plays a huge role in dismantling racism, hate, and bigotry in the world.

Right

Ikr 😂

I think she's reaching and being a sjw but seriously, some people don't have pilot's licenses either but when they see a helicopter in a tree, they know someone screwed up... 🤷‍♀️

@@killakay7618 you got that from a comedian. forgot his name.

I'm white and I see a lot of blackwomen get angry at black guys dating some else race but be happy when they see black women dating outside their race it just seems like black women are hypocrites🤷🏻‍♀️

But my issue was when the husband was giving suggestions she was dismissing him and ignoring him which I found disrespectful

@@bryceburger_ bc she didnt know what that was

@@bryceburger_ because she’s right you don’t put oil in your hair after straightening it especially a heavy oil like coconut oil if you did use oil it would have to be really light like Argan oil

@@briana8404 No she said “You know nothing”. It sounded rude

@@bryceburger_ I kind of agree especially because their dad has been styling the girls hair for years but this was the first time ever straightening their hair and the dad wasn’t too happy about it. At least he tired to suggest moisturizing their hair with the oil just so it doesn’t get dry and brittle

If you just watch her videos, you will know how Lily lets her daughters embrace their roots/race. I love her for that.

This is thee comment !!!!

or because you just want to try a different style... there are many reasons, it was a really dumb and negative question honestly

Idk what's wrong with being excited to straighten your hair, it doesn't make u white washed or anything, it night just be the excitement of having a different hairstyle

@@somerealthotgirlshii7075 Exactly! Like what,straight hair is white culture now? No,you can do anything you want with your hair if it makes you happy go for it!

@@Moony-m13 Exactly, as long as ur not hurting anyone or yourself, go for it!!

You didn’t watch the whole video

It's her daughter but the hair belongs to the daughter not her.

@@nicoleavery7238 and she's her mother. She can do whatever she wants with her kids (As long as it isn't @bu$ive) You have no right to tell her what to do Stop putting your American parenting ways on people . Shut up The world doesn't revolve around America

I mean, it was her first time straightening hair, so obviously she would not know how to straight it 🙄 🤷🏽‍♀️

@@ohitsarcangel2182 but she did a good job 🙄🤷‍♀️

@@nicoleavery7238 ok but her daughter wanted her hair straightened....

Exactly

Am I bugging or is everybody coming at the RU-vidr making the video ?😭

Maybe that’s “offensive” but there are right and wrong ways to do Black hair. You can comb it from root to tip, it has to start at the ends. What is offensive is these non Black women having biracial babies (that takes 9 months) and never doing a five minute google search on how to take care of that textured hair. I am a mother of a biracial child too. When I was pregnant I searched for examples of people who were mixed with the same backgrounds as my daughter. It’s called effort.

@@autumnjade815 and that is you not everybody is the same not because you did that makes you mother of the year df

@@toniquechance85 No. When you become a parent it’s your JOB to try and do the most you can for your child. A simple Google search does dent your wallet or take a lot of time. Girl bye!

Thats so sad

Tbh I lost it when James said the kids are American not African like wth

@@chocoalmondfudge That makes sense. Nationality is about where you're born. They are American. Its just a fact. Now whether he meant it as an insult, who knows 🤷‍♀️

So why have kids with a Korean woman? He could have married a Kenyan woman for that. Lily tries her best to teach her kids about being Korean and being Kenyan when she’s not even Kenyan. James should be ashamed of himself.

@@chocoalmondfudge 🤦🏽they were born in America that makes them Americans. Wtf is wrong with you???!

She shouldve explaine show her fair skin and their dads dark skin MIXED together from their love or sum and thats why their skin is a mixture. Did she explain why

Exactlyyyyy, agree with you, this sounds so hypocrite...

@@JulieKasprik as a naturally straight haired person who has never used a hair straightener for anything but pressing dabs, yeah, that was pretty discordant

@@voluntaryismistheanswer yesss

Such a classy response. Love it. 🙌🏼

Exactly. You can tell by the comments that people are so bothered by the fact that it’s a black woman criticizing her.

I have noticed a lot of other people commenting on the father not helping with these girls hair... My father never helped with my hair (though considering how awful my mother was with my hair, he couldn't have done any worse lol)... I can't think of any of my friends growing up whose father's ever did their hair... I've been married to a wonderful man for over 25 years, who was/is an amazing father, we have a (now grown) daughter and I can't think of a single time he did her hair when she was growing up... When did this expectation of dad's doing hair start to become a thing? I'm sure there are dads out there that do that kind of stuff (beyond the obvious single dad) but it has never been my personal experience that dad's do their daughter's hair. ..

He did but she didn't listen watch the whole video

Wtf the father gotta do with anything???? Her responsibility as a mom , a mother is to look The shit up there tons of videos that could’ve helped her

@@melpineda4563 true but parenting isn't just one sideded if you need help in an area that what a partner is supposed to do y'all just can't get out your mind of stertypical gender roles .

@@merosepearl6325 but do black fathers in black household (meaning both parents being black) do their daughter’s hair ?? No I rarely see that

That's really bad. Heat damaged hair can't be restored. It has to be cut off.

@@sancraft1 I don't think she straightened their hair on freshly washed hair though, so whatever hair products she used on their hair from the previous style it was in should've provided enough of a film barrier to keep most of the potential heat damage at bay. Also, I've watched her wash day videos with the girls before and I'm pretty sure the products she uses have silicones in them as well.

You should never flat iron hair that isn't freshly washed and prepped.

I’m sure she has product in well hopefully ..,

@@sancraft1 she probably knows that now and as a person who didn't use heat protection on my first time straightening my hair it's not heat damaged and it said it was her first time and everyone hair is not the same but people make mistakes and she looks like she's trying her best

I only belive this because of the comment section

It was how she combed it most people know you don’t comb from the roots first not only is it painful and it can pull your hair out

Actually Asian hair isn't naturally straight

i know what you mean by "Asian hair is typically very straight naturally" but i'd appreciate it if more people specify that they mean east asians. i have east asian hair and its just ever so slightly way. but in the eyes of random people on the streets, i have "curly hair". they act like i have ringlets in my hair or smth just bc its not bone straight. and w hair straighteners, i've never used one my entire life. you're most likely right in saying that she's never used one b/c that my default hair texture.

No. They just use keratin treatments. There's a lot more wavy hair than ppl think

Not all blackmen know about black hair just saying

@@SC-pg7jr Exactly, most of them keep it cut low so how would they?

I agree that we shouldn't blame her after all Most Asians have straight hair and have never dealed with this type of hair. But after all most black man have their hair in curls and prob doesn't know how to style hair. In fact she prob hasn't done anything wrong bc most people iron their hairs with no heat protection but idk

Because she's the one physically doing it? How do you even know if the dad is around

@@SC-pg7jr ok he's the still black one and he should! Why fault the non black mom for what she is unfamiliar with her whole life??

@Baby Baby what😑did u not even read what i said. if so u must not be black cause i legit said nun wrong.

Because it’s her child’s hair, and she should know how to take care of Afro-centric hair if she has a Black or multi-racial child. I’m not saying anything on whether or not she did a good job, heads up, I’m just answering your specific question. 😅 I love how she continued to say hey, yes we are straightening it, and yes it looks great and is fun, but remember your natural hair is gorgeous too. That’s all I can ever ask for from someone straightening a Black child’s hair. ❤️

Same

@@Josie-6 yea you have a biracial child and you automatically know how to deal with their hair. Superpowers right

@@Josie-6 girl shut the hell up, I’m A black girl myself and struggle to do my own damn hair , stop being so negative

@@Josie-6 bro fr….. my mum didn’t know how to do my hair for SHIT and me and my mum have the exact same hair texture and we are the same race. Not everybody is a beauty guru and not everybody has to be. Her children clearly have healthy hair who who cares if she’s “straightening it correctly” she’s like 8 why does it matter?

Actually James does do their hair. He’s usually the one who braids or puts the hair in traditional African styles. They both just aren’t used to STRAIGHT hair on black women. There’s a reason the girl’s hair is so long. Give them the benefit of the doubt. They definitely should have researched first lol

You can’t base the whole families dynamic off of this one reaction video because now you’re assuming. The dad and mom both do their kids hair that’s why it’s long and healthy. She didn’t do the best job here because she never straightens their hair admittedly she should have watched a RU-vid video before hand to do a better job but we move

I'm not assuming anything about their family, my comment is because of the stuff people commented about the mom; that she doesn't know how to take care of her kids' hair and she should have learn since she married a black man blahblahblah...

There’s a reason why these girls hair are so healthy and long, it’s exactly because their mom and dad are trying their best. Lily explained in on of her videos that because her hair is straight and the dads hair is 4C, they didn’t know what to do with their daughters mixed hair. But their dad stepped up and did his best at styling the girls hair for years. People in the comments don’t take time to really get to know this family’s journey and just want to talk sh*t

@@anadacosta4043 What that family do or don't do is non of your business.

Well spoken. This is my first time watching Chizi and I am disappointed. I am black and Nigerian.

​@@Lykaah1 yes, I'm not black and have no clue how your culture does their hair, I know the time and the effort that gets put into it and it is phenomenal, but I am appalled at how this woman acted as if the asian woman was committing some outrageous crime. Very disappointed.

Me too. I dont understand why everyone is acting like there are rules.

Yea it was obvious I’m suprised she didn’t know

Honestly, this just shows how little she exposes herself to other cultures (yet judges others for not doing so either). Anyone who's ever looked at Korean for 5 seconds will be able to distinguish it for the rest of their life. The plethora of circles is a DEAD giveaway...

koeean most distinguishable

She’s busy being so preoccupied by the girls being half black that she doesn’t even try to find out which Asian country their mother is from.

Right?? I noticed that she talks American until it’s time for laughs

Hmmm...this comment really made me think. My family members and I do this accent switch thing at home all the time. We switch to our Naija accent and, yes, it does get a laugh. But, I don't think we're doing it because we're saying a Naija accent is funny/worthy of ridicule. I think we switch when the joke is something from our cultural heritage or something our 'aunties/uncles' would say. So, I don't think it's really shucking and jiving. But, it is something to think about when we're creating content that will be consumed by non-Naija/African audiences.

@@jrdn48 he's literally asian?? wdym

Fr

Bro she's obviously so Americanized and a pick me It's Nigerians like herself and Jackie Aina I will NEVER support Awon oloshi

My thoughts exactly 😫

IKR I WAS WAITING FOR HER TO SAY SOMETHING. 😔😔😩😩😩

My thoughts exactly! Really worried these kids got heat damage from this 😣

All those passes omg it would be a miracle if they didn't have heat damage! Unless they did the heat protectant without showing us 🤷🏾‍♀️🤞🏾

@@misslady5100 I doubt it