Ask Steve: Men don't give a damn how long it takes! || STEVE HARVEY 

how does that work: ? every time he is making a move , she rejects him and after... 10 times...he askes her: you don´t find me attractive? You don´t want to sleep with me at all ? Than you tell him somehow, if you just say: " not now".... the guy thinks: ok, she is playing games with me to get free stuff... I am leaving.

Sounds like Fuckery too me....

True just be like it will have to flow naturally 😂

@@colasalz2 She could just say I am not ready for this!

omg i was thinking the same thing

Yeah I rather you keep that to yourself. I don’t need to be told by a woman that I’m getting a 90 day test. I would look at you like you’re crazy and I might be gone by the 90 days.

@@SpecialKRNB there is so much wrong in that comment 🤣🤣🤣 you gonna be single for a long time cause you think it's all about you, good luck with that mentality.

Exactly

He's just going to leave after you reject his advances 90 days in a row

Steve Harvey is WRONG.We should be equal.Afterall,we want and need the same things.To use sex or anything else as a power struggle is just WRONG.As a man here.I would rather focus on a true friendship in my relationship without sexual tension.Or,competition for power. I want sex yes...I admit it! But,I also want friendship(best friend),lover and companion all rolled into one. One more thing.Each person should never ever reject someone sexual or emotionally needs UNLESS you are sick. Rejecting someone hurts right to the core of your soul.And might never be repaired. If anyone is in this type of relationship.They should get out as soon as they can.

agree! what happened if men do that? what happens if we held off marriage or financial support? Or sex? similarly, what happens if a man says I won't protect you until you passed the 90-day mark?

100% correct

That 90 days rule is for the ladies to know, not to tell the man. Just for ladies to come up to the man all kind of excuses and see if the man is still there after 90 days.

​@@NoName-bb2pu LOL I love it when people lie for RU-vid. no one respects you because of this comment.

@@marijar.6612 You're welcome, Marija. unfortunately for you, I don't take anything personally, I either tap it, or forget it.

I was thinking the same bro

Why do we always assume everyones values or lack is like ours? There are those who give themselves away in matter of hours and there are those that want more.

I really like your first line.

el_Principe right

I agree. I think making any weird rules like this is a huge mistake. This is why women are so fearful of sex because they keep getting told by society that it's about rewarding their man. Sex is supposed to be something equally for both parties and is out of love for each other. We need to stop telling women it's something you give a man. It not something you give its something you both share with one another.

Exactly! stupid

Its only because she wants it just as badly as any man. She wants sex and she forced herself to hold back by using that rule. Its not about the man, its the only way she can show self control which is pathetic because there's nothing wrong with enjoying sex regardless of gender or sexuality

Uh YES there IS something wrong with enjoying sex. It's called unplanned pregnancy, sexually transmitted disease, and date rape... It's not different than driving a CAR.. yes it CAN be fun but you need to have the MATURITY to MANAGE yourself with intelligence and care. THIS girl just outright TELLS the dude in Ninety days she will have sex with him which demonstrates shes NOT got a good head on her shoulders for this business yet. There is fun with sex, but there is ALSO something called good JUDGEMENT... one without the other is a SERIOUS problem.

aah no the guy would be stupid if he does that if he got to wait 90 days for a one night stand he might as well go for another chick

If a fool wait 90 days to just hit and quit a chick hes a whole goofy

Fr 😂😂😂

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Exactly!!

I think everyone's figured this out except her. You don't TELL the guy you are following a 90 day rule. That's just dumb. For all she knows he has four women out there all using a 90 day rule and each of them at different days. He could have 90 women out there for goodness sakes. I can't believe she discussed the 90 day rule with the guy. That is just so naive of her. If she can't even figure out that you keep the 90 rule strategy to yourself she should NOT be having sex with anyone.

90 day rule doesn't work when there is a hoe down the street that gives it up in 90 minutes

Yes, it actually does work in that scenario. He goes down the street and she dumps him. Having a hoe down the street helps weed out the garbage.

Sorry to burst your bubble, but a MATURE guy will wait 90 days for a female he thinks is WORTH it. IF few men will wait 90 days then there are few men out there worth a woman's time. So in that you are correct. Most men won't show the maturity to wait 90 days for a female. Which is the whole point of SH's strategy.

shan681. As we all see, hers is not that prized!

This woman is dumb 🙄 why come on tv to tell this to the world?

I know 😂🤣.

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Her cookie stinks

Very good point!!!!!! I felt the same way.

So True sis🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽

Exactly

Should we blame uncle steve? Hell no.

Some people decide to have sex on the first day or date and then the person that we thought was the one ends up leaving us. I think the 90 day rule is very important. It's something I definitely wish I had implemented more because I've had guys sweet talk me for a month then gave it up because I felt something and he bounced out of my life. But it's each to their own. Every person has the right to decide what they want to do with their bodies.

SuperPhdiva true! some people will lie for a lifetime if you allow them to lead the relationship and let your emotions rule your decisions.

SuperPunch76 yeah that's true also.

SuperPhdiva good point!! Thanks for this.

This advice is so real.

+YourHomieHenry Right?

+Jeannette Marie And be gone after the 91st day!

+Jeannette Marie Guys, be logical about this. What "hit it and quit it" guy is going to wait 90 days for this? Sex isn't so rare and precious that he has to put up with some girl making him "earn" a natural, loving, bonding act. The whole thing is messed up. She shouldn't treat sex like some amazing incredible award she has to give. His "true colours" can come out 10 years from now. Sex isn't the issue. And personally, I'd respect a woman less who thinks that's the main thing she has to offer me. And after the "gift" is given? What then? It's just messed up. You guys are wayyyy too concerned about sex and its implications. You need to be worried about how you treat the man and how the man treats you, regardless of sex.

Well if he doesn't treat me with the love and respect I require, then he will get no sex. Sex should not be so damn special but to a woman it is.

+Vana Phill That's my point, actually. If you want to hold on to a man and be treated with love and respect, it's not going to be about sex. He will do that based on his personality and your actions, whether you give sex on the 3rd date or the 3rd month. Sex is special. There's no point in trying to deprive everyone from it when it's not even what actually matters most.

The point of the 90 day rule is to get women to stop giving it up so quickly. Steve knows there are higher priorities than sex. This rule is there to point out that very fact. The 90 day rule is there to weed out sleazebags and to make women wait longer. There is nothing wrong with advising women to wait longer in order to weed out sleazebags. He is NOT suggesting you HAVE to have sex on day 90. He's just saying wait til at LEAST day 90. He is just not very good at explaining this reasoning. I DO get what he's getting at, but this girl has no idea. The fact that she disclosed her 90 day strategy to the guy proves just how naive and NOT ready she is for sex with anyone yet. She needs to keep her pants on until she wises up a bit more.

Amen

mtnmann72 exactly

It is special because shes not giving it to out to every dude. That's a special woman right there

@@taylorc9212 Lol cmon gurl. This must be a simple normal behave. If u go out with all guys around, it is another word to call it ! Cmon !!!

Lol I agree. Girls sometimes have a bad habit of putting their own pussies on a pedestal as if that’s the best thing they have to offer 🙄

Preach.

I wonder if he gets a chocolate advent calendar? Then on the 90th day he opens it and a durex falls out with a time and place printed on the door? 😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣

B K hu

True.

Amen somebody!!!

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Lol usery will happen because of these type of silly woman.

😂😂😂 thats wat I du to thm

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Girl tell me ALL about it. Yes, agreed. 🥰👏🏾💃🏾

You are stupid. Simple.

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heyyyy same here girl! saving it for marriage!

Or was he saving himself from you till marriage?

Yeah

They're dense. It's pathetically comical!

She acts and sounds like she's at her limit of celibacy. She's probably addicted to regular sex and she'll go crazy if he turns her down. This 90 day rule is pointless. Will I think shes not a 304 if she makes me wait? Esp if I know she did other guys sooner? Sounds like this relationship is costing him more than its worth. At 26 and presumably little experience, he probably doesn't realize it yet.

Baller shot I find it amazing she found a guy willing to go along with her 90 day rule and then goes on TV questioning her man's ability to hold an errection right before the times up. Hope her fella takes this as a warning sign.

Me either hell no lol

Um obviously everyone know that she’s going to sleep with men she dates.

Lack of moral compass.

Cringed as soon as she started talking about it. So uncomfortable.

@@AlexanderWebster_ Yes very much so, Lord have mercy 🙄🙄😱

I think it's the Godly thing to do to refrain from having sex until after you're married, but the reward shouldn't be just for him, it should be for her too, if they love & respect each other & want to please God!

She's like a lot of these women - trying to figure.out how to manipulate men into marriage. Like it's the 1800s. Problem is, the world has changed since then. Women sleep around, men are not as pressured by social convention or law. While almost anyone might be manipulated into some sort of activity that violates their moral code, if any, it usually only works for a matter of hours or days. This is how men can bed women fairly easily, but women can't get those guys to marry them. In the 1800s, men would marry a woman if he got caught with her or she got pregnant, to avoid scandal or even jail. Breach of promise suits were invented to force men to marry women they slept with. These things no longer exist or are greatly diminished. You can't guilt or sue a man into marrying anymore. And any court punishment will be less trouble than marriage.

She missed the whole point of the rule...and it seems harvey did too here 😅

He obviously liked her, you stay with someone for 90 days that you hate just to bang them.

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She is talking to him on the phone all the time, didn’t you hear her? That’s getting to know one another.

Lmao if she waited 90 days and she gonna leave him for “performance issues” then she wasted her own damn time! 😂😂

Congrats girl.

90 days, not 90 hours... Congrats!

Exactly how it should be done. Forget these rules that will leave people forever single.

The thing is that you did it and showed what type of person your husband is. The number of days doesn't matter

It lasted 2 weeks because he passed the test. Good for you

Science has found a food that destroys a woman's libido. It is called wedding cake. In today's world bedroom fun is happening less and less on the wedding night, let alone afterward.

LMAO Um most women obviously aren’t virgins until they’re married and you’re not a virgin so what are you talking about??? 90 days is a long time to make a guy wait for sex.

@@michellepaul8514 First of all we have to change the expectations.

Exactly!!!!!!

ikr!!

Lol 😂😂😂 Men Always Find A Way To Get The Cookie Else Where Trust Me💯💯💯💯

She so stupid!!

Absolutely! The 90 day rule is for you women. A N#*%@ aint gone wait no 90 days just cause some female iz....

@@bgrod3205 for real 😁

Or maybe he's lost interest

Hes supposed to be giddy over some sex or he’s cheating? Damn, it’s a lose lose situation for men out here

Or that she’s just killed the excitement by testing him with a 90 day wait in the first place.

MsSamStudent exactly

Yeah from his hands 😂 mafuckas beating themselves to death.

+Leondra Fair The End. She's all by her lonesome on that 90 day nonsense.

maybe but don't always think that

Leondra Fair yeah, we're gonna get ours regardless. I think this a bad way to start. Test, games, resentment, maturity.

Leondra Fair agreed☝️

Ismael Ausua I haven't had it in my 19 yrs of life and you caint even wait 90 days? Shame

He is using the 90 day rule as a guideline. But too many people just don't seem to get it. This chick in particular. She FOOLISHLY DISCLOSES her 90 day strategy to the guy! I think Steve suggests the 90 day rule just to have something out there in place that's specific for women. I honestly think 90 days is too soon for most women. THIS girl in particular. If you are as naive as THIS girl you need to be waiting ten years. lol

+Steve D yea I agree

+Steve D lol

I agree and get you. You're saying it's anecdotal. "90 days" is just saying get to know the person

😂😂😂 45 more sleeps till freak in the sheets time. 🤣🤣🤣 Hell no I would be moving on from her for having such a stupid rule. I rather have sex when we are both 100% ready and happy with each other.

Truth.

Exactly this!!!

what is this all about: sex is not " the ultimate prize" .... you are not " together" just because you both had sex.

what kind of beta male is he if she just waits 90 days and calls you every day and invest so much time into the relationship if he just wants sex? You don´t want that kind of guy as your partner...that would be your dog. The rule is about your decision: if you sleep with somebody, you are never sure what the otherone is thinking.: thats part of live.for you sex seems to be a " currency"... for good bahaviour? I feel really sorry for you that you don´t enjoy sex for your own. :) be a "sinner"....sleep with him at day 88.....be a bad girl :)

ButterFlyy Gyrl’s World Exactly!!

Someone gets it! The lady is back at square one now of not knowing dudes intentions. 90 days is just a minimum amount of time to wait, not the deadline!

A true gentleman (AKA a high value male) will only wait for a high value female....everything about going on this show and talking about your "cookie" screams low value female.

Love the last sentence. It's so dignified

@@MkNasty911 facts!!!

@Majidah Smith, M.A Yeah sounds like loser talk to me

These women are the types who have nothing else to offer but a vagina.

You don’t know that.

Lol omg cookies in the ass tray lmao

Bruce Mj 😂😂 I wonder how the cookie day went now

cookies on the tablecloth 😂😂😂

Lmao im weak

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I wonder what test she is talking about? 😒🤐😒

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@@thebotfather9508 🤣

@@UnitedPacci 😂

@Jordan Brendmoen Wtf are you responding to me for? What buzzwords did I used to shut somebody up? Privilege? You don't even know anything about my lifestory and what I've been through. What are you even talking about?

I was gone laugh at initial comment until i seen this stupid argument ☝️ and got thrown off

Gross, eh? She's doing it because she got bad advice, but I guess she'll have to learn the hard way. Actually really boils my blood.

LordHollow ongggg

True true true

Game rules 101 here

It's what I would do. Can't put a time limit on something like that. It's all based on attraction, chemistry, etc.

Danielle, I was saying the same thing.

Yup... I'd do the exact same

Okay and ?!!!! Ur crusty

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From her demeanor, I inferred that she was a typically sex addicted modern woman. I also assumed from the same that she was actually celibate during this dating process. If I can see this just from watching her online, most guys prob can in person. If this man she's dating can't see it, he's likely very inexperienced, maybe a virgin. That might be the only kind of man who will play this kind of game with this kind of woman. The thing is, 90 days is not long enough to get to know each other and once sex starts, any effort to get to know each other gets hampered by that. Just adds to the confusion, especially with an inexperienced person

Agreed. The 90-day rule is a joke.

Agreed. The 90-day rule is a joke.

Agreed. The 90-day rule is a joke.

+Rick Rijuana Beats But will men wait till marriage?

+Vana Phill Some men will or a woman will definitely find out who really wants her over just sex.......

Can you blame him? I mean this chick plays a game and tests with a grown man... and let him wait for 90 days... sorry but every person will lose interests period.

Well said!

its not the 1950's. men not doing that anymore.

@@thebotfather9508 Some do.

@Psalms121 its always new christians that try to shove their religion down people's throats. i bet you've been a christian for no more than 6 months 😂

@@thebotfather9508 Not every man is a prime misogynist looking to abuse and misuse women -- even in 2020, your view is NOT representative

Olgales Men just want sex Like Steve said. They will wait for awhile, Then boom. 😇💜🐬😇

@Ruben Ruvalcaba ... when a "man" is looking for just sex, he can easily find it.....red light district.

Lisa Do you mean Prostitutes. 😇💜🐬😇

Or she's bad at it. Possible. Just saying...

We men say the same thing about marriage.

Hello dear , how are you doing?

*some men too

Sex isn’t something you should give to a man unless he is treating you right. And if a man doesn’t think a woman is special then you definitely shouldn’t give them sex. 🤦🏻‍♀️ LMAO

@@michellepaul8514 you are not giving him anything You are both having sex together, its not like women don't like having sex and it's something they do just for men, if thats how you view sex with him then you shouldn't be with him, , its not a gift. Yes you shouldn't have sex with someone who treats you horribly But both men and women deserves feel special to their partners that's not really the issue here

Clap everyone clap this man is a hero among men

Amen, you tell these nut cases. I’m watching this whole thing like it’s an alternate reality. Honestly, people are delusional.

Wait till marriage. Did she make the other guys do that?

Candy xoxo 91st day??? Try the 1ST day with this feminist b.s. MGTOW

and who is testing who than? just because you have a vagina doen´st make you a teacher.

Best answer.

Yes that's the true test. Only the strong survive

Hello dear , how are you doing?

lmbo ...that was so bad yet so funny.

Fabrice Faho lol

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Fabrice Faho--You wish you could get that cookie, huh?

Ouuuuu lmao

If she gave it so fast to you, what makes you think she isn't giving it to somebody else behind your back? Because you are special? Hahaha, bless your soul.

@@antonijajuric2249 but what about the guy? If he slept with her after only one day thn what will stop him from cheating on her?

Antonija Jurić that doesn’t make her a cheater.

This is so beautiful. May your marriage continue to be as special for you and your wife. 🙂

This is very beautiful, you are good grown up men with the right values!

Jason Chicoine yes 😂

Golden rule !!! Haah... I am from another Continent, but the rules still the same !!! Haha ☝️👏👏

Facts

That's real talk

It makes sense though

The "right time," is the "wrong time," bc it's just hormones talking. The infatuation phase needs to pass before making that decision. Edit: Sorry, I didn't realize your post was 2 years old.

Well said. Just go with the flow. If there is something great. If there isn’t, move on. There isn’t any toolkit to dating. And just because you’re married, it doesn’t mean you achieved anything. That’s why it’s wrong to say congratulations. Best wishes is a more accurate response as I would say that to single dating and married people.

Everyone is saying that. You aren't supposed to disclose your 90 rule strategy. This girl is just dumb. If she doesn't even understand why you keep the 90 day strategy a secret then she is NOT smart enough to be having sex with anyone yet. Women this naive should NOT be having sex. They are just going to get USED.

Sandra Jefferson My thoughts exactly.

Sandra Jefferson exactly!

Kapsproductions not true

no man is sitting around for 90 days with 1 women, simply to have sex. If they want to simply have sex, they could of done it many more time with many different women within that 90days.

Amen!

True player Big L lol

True and I know better then that! But I won't be mad, as long he don't make it known or pressure me about it. I consider when I give him the cookie he's officially my men in my eyes. I want to do it on my time.

gabrielle lawrence your cookie is crumbs by the time he waits. Timing is everything trust you gut feeling not your pride

BIG- L i don't believe in the 90 day rule. But I do believe in getting to know that person. It really depends on the attraction and chemistry frfr. But I fall into the 6-8 month mark DONT JUDGE ME BIG L! Goodnight

if it takes 6 to 8 months to touch that you must be a lonely chic ain't no man waiting on you for 6/8 months you fooling yourself. He may say hello in January n come back in August 😂😂

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She's gorgeous, may not be the best wig out there but she looks good.

Lmfao I couldn't help but look at it every time they showed her I'm like "omg girl remove the wig" 🤦‍♀️

Yea,, it’s aging her

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A real man will never be with a dumb ass woman who lives her life based on a stupid book

@@aarvin1 You say that but still yet, you are here commenting, about what she said. So obviously you all will be with a woman who follows a "stupid book."

@@JM-yf5rt lol that logic doesn't follow at all!

I tell any girl I talk to we're not really together until we have sex. Women know that too. They don't consider you a real bf until they have sex with you. Vagina isn't rare. 50% of the population has one.

@@aarvin1 bars

So embarrassing.

true now everyone knows her business dam man

maybe she's the type doesn't / won't really care what people / the world really thinks of her u know?

that's pretty obvious

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Excuse me when beas was that and where

Right she through me off saying that! Like trick forreal you think be being waiting for that ass faithfully?

If she told him that there was a 90-day wait then thats not a test, it's just probation. As they say this isn't the 1950s anymore. A man doesn't necessarily have to cheat as there are many other options such as *free* pornography to supplement his sexual desires.

True, happened to me. Waited with me til after the wedding, meanwhile carried on an affair with a married woman.

@@luanntexascitizen4345 did you divorce?

Most women can get it almost anywhere anytime and often are .

This.

Or maybe he’s a good guy.

it is not really a "poor thing" . it seems to me that she really is into this guy and enjoys his company... :) and many women like beeing" putty in a guys hand"...:) That is a risk, yeah...but with out risk, there is no reward in live...he can bounce of at any time... after 1 year he can bounce off... from a male perspective: if a women is not telling me why she wants to wait with sex and is just rejecting me when I want to touch her, after 8-9 times... I will ask: ok, what is it... ? You don´t like sex at all ? oR what is the deal here? No sex before marriage? What is you agenada? Tell me. If she refuses to answer: I will leave. If I don´t enjoy your company, would you really think that I called you again and again, and made you breakfast or stuff like that...just to get some "normal cookie"? Surprise: half of menkind has a cookie...yours is not that special.... if I want just " sex"... I wouldn´t wait 90 days... and def wouln´t call you....

@Unicorn Bunny There's a big difference between getting involved with someone for relationship/love reasons vs just getting some sex. It's not about waiting for sex. It's about considering who you are with any why are you even involved with the person.

+SunKissNicole All over her face

+Jermaine Williams lol

+Jermaine Williams lmao

The big mistake was TELLING the guy he only has to wait 90 days. That is just STUPID on her part. Everyone here is complaining about that dumb ass move. This girl is gonna get used.

Latosha Lester i think 6 months atleast would show true colors but don't tell someone about it or else whats the point? people can just play the game until the 90th day and hit and quit. it would be nicer if people waited till marriage but things have changed.... nobody, not even the girl in this video want to wait 90 days. lol. its very few to none with that mentality now and days.

Six months of good detective work maybe. THIS chick is just a dumbass who shows her cards. Hell she probably told the guy on day one!!! This chick does not know what good detective work looks like.

Redd Queen. Yes We're out here.

Redd Queen, I still believe in waiting till marriage and I'm 23.

John W. Dyson, Jr 💚💜💙💛💕🌻🌻 👍

John W. Dyson, Jr exactly. Ppl take sex for granted nowadays. I've decided to stop masturbating at 18 going 19, and to wait before marriage at my age. Ppl nowadays just wanna bang anything in sight

Favored One then again, because of feminism and how women control, marriage is overrated. But it must happen if you want sex from ur partner and kids

John W. Dyson, Jr ME❤️❤️❤️

Mr Scowl Face feminism is just gender equality, I agree that your marriage is the best option but don’t bring feminism into this people are very ignorant about it

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A lot of guys lie to chicks to make them think that they're great in bed.

What makes the cookie good to men?