Yeah and also responsible for prostution and global poverty ppl who die hungry can't go to heaven 😝 in end she get her self pregnant without man and have baby to die hungry and after that they they female female teachers who kids and teach their students bhow do we survive by making babies no details and how easy is it not bring thses those ppl in world who can't go to heaven don't do anything 😝 no one will born die hungry huh?
really appreciate that Dawoud prefaced that answer about why men have sex before marriage with saying that people think guys being curious and is normalized while women get shamed. The amount of times I’ve heard that men masturbating is “natural” and “human nature” yet will call women sluts if they even ask about it is disgusting. We can control ourselves, men and women.
@@DismissDull yea I agree that both women and men need to control themselves the same way, no doubt. But men do have a higher sex drive than women on average so they are different. Equally accountable for their actions but different
I got married at 18 so my husband was 19 going on 20. Alhumdulillah my husband and I have been married for 5 years, best decision I made. We both didn’t know how to cook and now Alhumdulillah, we both cook. Everything takes time ❤️ Subḥān Allāh ❤️, I didn’t think so many people would my comment. Lol. May Allah make us all better. Ameen
MashAllah but some parents don’t let their kids get married early yk my parents always say after I finish school and start working that would literally be in my 30’s
I’ve been married 13 years and my husband and I got married at 19 years old and 20 years old. We went through everything together and can’t believe it’s been 13 years! I personally loved being married young. Not for everyone but if you’re ready you’re ready. May Allah swt bless you and up your husband always with love and happiness!
@@Reem-dw8bz it is so much better to marry before the age of 30 , believe me, I dont understand why parents and people think that you need to stop going school just because you are married, just make a deal with your husband that both of you can still study , you can help each other with home work and stuff , dont get it,
@@miram4583 similar situation subhan Allah. We've been married 12 years. Lots of ups and downs but definately learn alot and the best decision alhamdolilah. Ameen to Ur dua. We would encourage our kids to get married young if they are mentally mature. Finances is not a concern for us.
Or how about men just start holding themselves and other men accountable that this is a sin and should not be normalized. They need to start looking out for eachother and break the cycle. It is not a flex to be passed around as a man.
@Dan Ras “Women impure are for men impure and men impure are for women impure and women of purity are for men of purity and men of purity are for women of purity”24:26. These are the words of Allah. There isn’t any different between a women whom is “passed around”( weird phrasing but ok) and a men whom is the same… so purity should b a main concern for both genders. And are considered the same before Allah. So no need to lesser the latter to suit your narrative .Understand.
I think there is hadith in which it is said either young should marry early to satisfy their or they should "do fasting" if they couldn't marry ( not financially independent). Love from India.
This is my favorite q&A that you guys have done, it's the most mature and relevant in terms of the questions being asked and the answers given :) also "who ya flinging with" HAHA
Dawoud said as a guy we get horny. I'm a girl and I get horny too, why they think like only guys have that desire? we all get horny, not a guy girl thing but the thing that matters is how we act when we're horny and we should try to get closer to God and stay modest. and obviously may us girls struggle with those kinda stuff (masturbation, porn ect) too and it's not ONLY guys. great video btw, thanks
Guys are naturally more susceptible to hormones just cause a penis vs a vagina. For many reasons guys are more independently easily triggered than women. The most simple example is boners. Girls don’t deal with that
Thank you for uploading this, recently I found out a dear friend of mine passed away and I've been distraught and a mess since then, this really will help cheer me up so Jazakallah love you both so much.
What he said about girls and boys friendship is really true because all my male friends end up falling inlove with me,u can see from their reactions when that happens
12:02 “O young men, whoever among you can afford it, let him get married, for it is more effective in lowering the gaze and guarding one’s chastity. And whoever cannot afford it should fast, for it will be a shield for him.” al-Bukhaari (5066) and Muslim (1400)
Intermitted fasting helps a lot. You have to be really ambitious, keep making dua to Allah, be consistent in reducing the habit a little every day, getting rid of a bad habit takes a very long time, but eventually one day you get rid of it. Be hopeful and resilient.
Instead of getting them married early, why not give your kid sex education. Curiosity is really dangerous, give them the opportunity to come talk to you when they get curious. Educate them more on the dangers of such sins and more on Islam.
Hello Jasmine and Dawoud, I always love your content and I am your follower for many years now. I just wanted to comment and add some clarifications regarding the question answered. Getting married young is not the solution from avoiding sex before marriage. Abstinence or keeping yourself busy is not a solution either. Sometimes, marriage at an early age can bring more sins, complications, guilt, and can turn into a very bad divorce in front of the eyes of children. Every man/ woman grows and changes also with time. If you get married at 18, guess what, you will not be the same person at 30. I just pray for any community to stay away from all kind of sins and stay always connected to God. It can be sex, alcohol, lies, addiction, crimes etc etc. Again, it is normal to be curious about sex, I would definitely add sex education at school, talk openly with children to avoid getting the wrong information and bad influences from the wrong ressources or people. Also, inform girls and boys about contraception, STD's, the emotions and bond that MUST exist between a man and a woman before getting into a physical relation, because yes it should not be only physical or a routine. Let's not forget that today, any type of movie or serie even animation movies do not help, everything is so sexualised, girls and boys tend to live their puberty so much earlier than 30 years ago. Thanks to the extra hormones in the food. There is a massive influence on how to look beautiful / handsome putting on less clothes or showing more skin and curves to feel self-confident and be liked and validated by the society. Guys also want to feel attractive and strong so they focus on the physical aspect as well. Living also abroad, in an occidental country, away from a muslim country, muslim culture and family is also a challenge for many households. I just pray for all communities either Jewish, Christian or Muslim to stay on the right way, and in case they experience something sinful, may god take them back to his mercy and love, and may god keep them away from any bad path.
Adding to your point about emotions, I’ve noticed that people focus a lot on physical repercussions of sex (pregnancy, STD’s, etc.) and not at all on the emotional repercussions. Sex complicates a lot. It’s a lot on the mind and it can tie somebody in very emotionally. It can also cause a lot of hurt as well.
Only if they deserve to be treated like queens I.E doing your part some women seem to think a husband is another daddy no it’s not you need to pull your weight in a marriage
Husbands need to be treated with respect as well. Imagine a husband doing everything for his wife only for her to not give him a simple compliment. Our Prophet SAW used to treat his wife like a queen. He used to do all the work for her including household work just so she can do the least amt of work. But on the hand, His wives used to treat him with respect and love.
I love your video! But saying that the solution is to get married young is not a solution for me. Especially not if it is the only reason to get married young. That would not be fair to the partner. In addition, you always have to say that you should only marry the right partner and not just the next best, because you want to avoid zina. Some meet the right partner at a young age and should ideally get married at a young age. But most of us don't. I'm 23 and I still haven't found the right person. My sister is 26 and the same goes for her. Keeping yourself busy is a good place to start so as not to think about 'the deed'. But you're not busy 24/7. Therefore, one should strive to have a stable relationship with Allah and keep the Iman strong. Otherwise, one should remove triggers from one's life that make one think of 'the deed' (e.g. certain TV shows, etc.)
Yes. Yoru right. I disagree with that too. I'm 24. My parents have been looking for me from since I was 19, I was in total shock when she told me shoudl found the right mind for me exactly the way I wanted when I was 20/21 I'm like what..!?? When where and when did I ever tell you what type of man I want or I even wnat to get married in first place. Instead of hearing me out she yelled at me and said what do you mean your not ready for marriage. She ranted about Islamic stuff... its too much to write here.. But even till this day I cnat fix my head around to say yes to a complete stranger. I'm not ready to give my life to anyone. I want to sort my own life out first, but I don't want to sort my life our for marriage. I want to it for myself, I want to sort it out the way that I'd be happy, my parents don't agree with that, they want me to sort it out for marriage. And that's what's made me soo mad, it made me feel completey down taht I no longer want to get married, especially with an arranged marriage it freaks me out, I think marriage is a danger zone for me, I have to go through something that I'm not willing to accept. I've stood up for myslef soo many times but nothing has worked for me. All my sisters are now married. They got married between 20 and 23. That's why my mums even more mad at me. But she and my father are just leading me astray each time they keep ranting about all this.
I think that understanding and reading Quran and also surrounding yourself with good people will make it easier for you not to fall in sins and get away from them
Jasmine habibti not all men are like Dawoud. And not all girls are like you. If get in a relationship like yours that would make me want to get in one today. Allah humma barik ❤️
It narrated by al-Bukhaari (5066) and Muslim (1400) from Ibn Mas‘ood, who said: We were with the Prophet (pbuh), young men who had nothing of wealth. The Messenger of Allah (pbuh) said to us: “O young men, whoever among you can afford it, let him get married, for it is more effective in lowering the gaze and guarding one’s chastity. And whoever cannot afford it should fast, for it will be a shield for him.”
Hey Jasmine. Im from China and Ive got an Arabic husband so Im really in to your video and I love them a lot😍 They are really fun to me. Ive got a question and I really want to see you guys answer it: Do Arabic young people date for getting to know each other before marrige? What do they usually do and where do they go? (I heard that in some Arabic countries there is not so many cinema or coffee that young unmarried couples can go for chat or share some videos together and also they can not even hold each others hands before marrige. So I wonder how they can make sure that the one they are getting married with is the one they like?)
Muslims are not allowed to date. We have this 'meeting with a potential spouse'. That means you get to talk with to a person, with the intention of marrying, same applies to that person. BUT the rule here is, not to be alone. In Islam it is prohibited from being alone with the opposite genger. So a man and a woman shouldn't, can't be alone. So the woman who wants to marry, takes a mahram (someone you are not allowed to marry, like mother, father, siblings, uncle and aunts) with with her to that meeting. So for example you go to a Cafe with your sister and sit together with your potential husband and talk with him. You get to know each other. You ask each other about jobs, what you expect from the marriage, from each other etc.. You ask and answer each other. How many times you meet up (with a mahram) depends on you. Obviously you can't get to know the person in one day. But you shouldn't marry the person after a week of talking. Let some good amount of weeks pass and think about it. If you both think you are what the other and you want then you inform your families and the wedding plans are starting.
MarshAllah u r such a cute couple and can tell how much chemistry you have. Love to know how u met and got married, ur story, if u haven’t already done a video on that
I have a question: I(non-muslim) dated a Muslim guy before. He always wants to be a religious person. after we separated in a peaceful way I think, he met his wife and did the nikkah. Then he became very polite and sort of cold when responding to my messages, don’t want to meet in person or pick up calls . I was a friend with him at the beginning before we got into relationship. But his reaction after his marriage gave me a feeling that he doesn’t even want to be friends anymore. Is it in Islam that males are not ok to have female friends? I’m that familiar with Islamic culture so it’s sad for me to know that I lost a lover as well as a good friend 😢
I believe Dawoud is the cook because of the restaurant, but I could be wrong. I’ve also heard that because someone is cooking in a restaurant all day they don’t want to come home and do the same.
woah this was an amazing video, mashallah. Loved the honest responses and I loved how Jasmine brough the future into play. I def find life in america or canada rather than the blad to have much more temptations. I can't speak for the blad itself since i never lived there, but i can def see how friends (esp non-muslim friends) indirectly pressure you into doing things you know is haram. love your videos, may Allah bless you guys inshallah :)
Ooooff this is so true guys literally cant stick to being friends and we girls dont even think any thing else. Like theres this guy in my class and he used to help me out in physics and then later i came to know from someone else that he has a crush on me and then i had to distance myself from him. and it was not juse this guy om ive had so many encounters like this in my life and then i would just get myself as far as possible from them🙄 WHY DO GUYS HAVE TO RUIN FRIENDSHIPS UGH
To answer Jasmine's question about the solution to how one can prevent a boy from having temptations of having sex before marriage: I think the best solution is to raise the kid in a good environment. By environment, I mean country, an Islamic country where these thoughts don't come into your head very easily. I was astonished by Dawoud's answer as I felt it is a very big red line, as that is what we are taught in schools in Islamic studies. To sum up, it is better to raise a kid in that 'environment' and lay a strong foundation of Islam into their heads before settling in a western country, if that was an objective. This way, having the deed before marriage will never come across your head, from my perspective.
An Islamic country isn't equal to a good one. And just because someone is born in an Islamic country doesn't mean that the individuals live in an islamic way.
I live in Pakistan and its muslim country and believe me men here are more horny than the westerners. So just simply living in Islamic country doesn't make your desires fly away. You are a human and you have certain desires. The self control comes by one's own self
