Asking Strangers How to Approach a Girl 

Bro I got the course and it’s 💎

"By hot men, yes" Thats the key!

It's honestly easy for women to say we should be the ones approaching. At the end of the day they aren't the ones who have the fear of being rejected or being called weird.

“Did you know that over 100% of MEN wish that they were approached more?” That should be the fucking quote for the ladies!

I always do the whole: "Hey I think you're cute I was wondering if you'd wanna.." *throws a net over them* ..works nearly every time

Don't approach "if she's busy on the phone", meaning, all the time. Then, they wonder why they don't get approached.

Step 1: be attractive Step 2: don’t be unattractive Remember it’s not harassment if you’re attractive

Tldr if your attractive they want you to approach if your average they don't, and if you're below average it's harassment.

Because of the Dating apps guys have all the options 😅 yeah right! He doesn’t approach you in a cafe cause he doesn’t wanna look like a fool if you reject him. Girls these days.. they just don’t live in reality

They want to be approached by "hot men"...otherwise, break out the grape whistles and call the " ugly police."

I’ve respectfully gone up to girls, being a perfect gentleman and on one or two occasions in my college days I literally had a girl look at me with disgust and say “ewwww you’re gross” and walk away. I’ll never forget how that made me feel, she was super mean to me for no reason when I had put myself in a vulnerable place and tried to approach her. I don’t fear getting rejected, but it’s horrible to be treated like dirt for no reason. If she had just said no thanks, or I have a boyfriend or anything else it wouldn’t have been something I’ll remember forever. Every time I think of approaching a girl I always wonder if she’s going to say “ewww you’re gross”.

"By hot men yes." Which disqualifies most men since women think we're ugly.

The videos just keep getting better genuinely 🌪️

Summary. If you want to approach a girl. First make an eye contact. Then smile. When you receive a smile back, only then make the first move. Tip to not loose your confidence.

Lowkey, i agree with the % of how much women want to be approached. Yesterday, i was at the mall, and i was giving small compliments . im 5'3 , but the Compliments were welcomed, and some even wanted to chat a little more. Now im starting to realise that yes, as a guy, i need to approach. If yall are wondering how im able to go up and talk, i tell myself this "either you approach her or you'll die alone"

Its only creepy till you get good at it. Once you pass that line, it wont matter that much if you met the same girl through mutuals or by approaching.

Sorry if she thinks you’re not good looking enough you’re definitely gonna get rejected no matter how confident you’re.

Cool video man! I’m 6’1 as well. Whenever I’m in NYC I definitely do cold approaches with friends of mine. For me I definitely get the weird nervous feels but after a few approaches you kinda just get the “oh I didn’t die and nothing bad happened” feels. Highly encourage people to try and do approaches especially with a buddy or someone who can try and push you when you don’t feel like doing it

I love this! I’ve been approaching women in person this past week and I’ve enjoyed how fun it is to talk to someone. I do admire how you seek the ones of your type rather any random girl. I’ll put this into practice the next I go out. I know what I like 😌

noticed the confidence part is true, because you could kind of hear a not so confident approach at first and as he gained confidence it started working. I watched this because i want to start trying this soon since i am now off social media and dating apps :)

ay bro, really digging the different types of videos. Very fun to watch. Keep it up playa

bros doing gods work

Bro you are the best, it feels much more organic way of doing, no tactics or physiological tricks. Excellent 👏🏿💯

Great work on the street. It was funny because at first you were rushed due to the timer and the girls didn't know why you were so rushed. I like when you improvised that 1 line on the spot in the open. Having a pimped out IG is really a cheat code because other guys still have to put in work after that. Fair play if you have it, use it. I personally don't want a woman whose on IG regularly. This is why bars are superior for approaching volume

The obvious prerequisite for approaching women, or dating women in general, is that you should have some drip on, looking fresh, got a stylish haircut, beard neatly trimmed, smelling good, and be fit. Have your looks maximized first. Otherwise, you may have bad experiences and you’ll forever use that one time as a reason to never approach again. The second thing is touched on in this video and it’s using your damn brain. Use your social skills and emotional intelligence to discern when it’s the right time. This is extremely important to women for so many reasons. Such as: Knowing when it’s the right time to be vulnerable. Knowing when it’s the optimal time to go for the physical escalation. Knowing how to read her moods/energy(even through text) to tell when your connection with her is building momentum, so that way you can discern when it’s appropriate to move things forward or to just let it flow a bit more first. It also allows you to be more sensual with her, having that ability to pull her into your frame, to bring her out of her head, and into the moment with you. This results in time seeming to slow down, every time you touch her, it heightens her senses to the absolute max. Idk what you call that, I guess just sensuality? Being connected with your own emotions as well, because if you aren’t, you couldn’t do this. So, with all of that in mind, if you show her that you don’t have that feel for the subtle energies/vibes of a room or situation, she will be turned off and react accordingly. I kind of understand why women sort of expect me. To just “read their minds”, because if you’re connected with your own feelings and you’re highly self aware, you almost can read their minds, at least, read their subtle energies and feelings, which is essentially the same as reading their mind. Women operate on an emotional wavelength, rather than a logical one. This is something I have a hard time articulating to people, but it’s definitely a thing. Maybe Ben can explain it, idk. But I’m fairly certain when women say they want a man who’s vulnerable and is in touch with his femininity and emotions, that’s what they’re talking about. Side note: Watch Ben. That’s how you handle rejection, with humor. Brush that shit off and keep going. Can’t get all butthurt and let it ruin your day or even the rest of your life, holding onto that one moment forever.

y'all already know this, it's all about confidence and the energy you bring to the interaction. Build confidence, not techniques.

Benjamin doing what it takes to get the win!

hahaha bro dayyyymm!! Definitly giving us hope!!! thanks!!!

The affectation in the Chanel girl's voice tells you everything you need to know she has a fold app shovel that she breaks out whenever she's ready to dig for gold

Man, that girl with the brown coat with the sheepskin collar is a complete knockout

I like how authentic the video is 👍

This is incredible content! Thank you Benjamin! The commentary from 9:35 onward about the process and looking at the journey as being fun is really great! Appreciate the encouragement from women here to approach and show confidence! I think next question is: what exactly shows confidence in an approach?

a handsome guy who's 6 ft tall, got also rejected and it took him almost 1 hour to get 2 succesful approaches! Could you imagine what happened to an average guy?

"Do girls like ego boosts?" Yes. Will they be nice about it? Results may vary.

One of the first videos I've seen in a while of someone doing pickup where you can tell it's actually real.

The girl commenting men don't approach because we have 'options' online has it backwards. Thats like saying a poor person has lots of options at a luxury car dealership. Most average men don't have options on online dating women however do, even if they are just average. The reality is most recognize the effort necessary to get women has little return compared to any other risk a man can take. Unless you are a Chad and looking to just do 1 nightstands; trying to know modern women on a deeper level is not worth it. Unless there is a change in cultural norms it will continue to be this way.(and no I'm not saying 1950s strict gender roles, but the hyper-feminist anti-male bias of today is an extreme overcorrection for past injustices.)

We speak each other's unspoken language. You know what I'm going to say without me having to say it. I love you.😂

"you wanna chanel bag?" had me lol'in . Great video man, your content is really solid and helpful for all the non-whiners that follow you

A couple weeks ago I smiled at this cute girl in the grocery store. She smiled back so I decided to take a shot and approach her. I asked her what she thought about all the girls on tik tok complaining about guys never approaching them in public and she was like "I don't know" I then asked her if she would be upset if I told her I liked her and wanted to get to know her and she nodded her head and said "extremely". Girls (American Girls I mean) DON'T want more average guys approaching them, they want more rich guys who look like you and Henry Caville to approach them more. I think your methods are like singing. Anyone can sing but only a select few have the talent to actually be successful with them.

8:42 this woman first says she wouldn't date under 6'0 and then says a guy should be confident, even if he's 5'7. Wouldn't she reject him anyway?

cool video bro! You missed the intro tho!

This was a great video!

That's the thing with cold approach. You just need that 1 good experience to gain momentum.

1:51: I feel it’s the other way around with girls (at least on the apps) having too many options because there are so many guys in their feed and the competition is massive but that’s my situation. I can never make a dent on the dating apps. I got professional photos with a photographer on the apps, I have a decent bio introducing who I am. I’m using multiple apps. Nothing but cold silence, Snapchat premium girls or sex bots. I don’t act creepy or text creepy things…. 🤷🏻‍♂️ I’ve literally stopped doing dating apps and instead just do cold approaches in public

Appreciate you visiting where alot of women live

This was really dope

Man I saw you filming this, I was taking off my headphones just about to talk to the girl at 0:52 after seeing her at chipotle. Crazy

They want to be approach not because they want to find love and partner , they just want validation

The only valid answer here is „by hot guys, yes“ cause after all that’s all it matters in a realistic viewpoint.

They say they want to be approached then call you a creep for asking them to dinner after having a small talk conversation.

Hi Ben You talk to random women or you first have eyes contact?

Thanks to the video ! I feel like I am the only one who tries to this.

nice video man! you gave me a little confidence boost given you did all this for a video!! You’re bold it inspired me

Believe me, they get approached to a whole lot, you have no idea. Who approaches them is the key. And yes, your attitude counts, not just to make them get interested in you but to go out there and prove yourself you can do it no matter the result.

THE FUTURE UNFOLDS BENJAMIN YES

Comment to 1:30 she assumes the 3 guys were single, maybe actually they were married, so how would that turn out to be?

Benjamin , where is your jacket and sweater from

I’d agree that most women want to be approached in person, I was just talking to a friend about this yesterday. I would recommend asking for their number vs their IG. Asking for their IG comes off a little like asking for their snap.

Content is great. Love the mentality of approaching women and how genuine this is.

Whats that outfit you are wearing from sweater to coat to pants and shoes please..

The woman at 4:15 said to have genuine conversation with them and then make a approach (in a sense ask for number). I don't think that matters a lot, if she decides that you aren't attractive enough, nothing you say will matter.. that's just the truth.

Approach from the sides, know what to say, positive body language, being fun, feedback / sh1t test, fly or fight, continue conversation, get her instagram if not move again, an so on... And people say that the term "hunting" is sexist....

Good job 👍

Hey Ben, I just have to say that your outfit is spectacular. Like wow. I need to buy myself a new turtleneck. And some gloves.

The guy at 7:20 completely missed his opportunity as she even opened up and held the metaphorical door for the guy and he still didn't walk in, and she's a nice looking girl with a down to earth personality.

Hey Zeus where did you get your coat?

Guys I’m in the course it’s epic

i go to college parties,18+ clubs & parks,bus stops its easier than n person where baddies r out n about but i will practice those places more

Great video

Epic work bro 🎉🎉

who is that girl with the big yellow glasses? i wanna know asap 0:03

The John wick but when his wife still lives fit is amazing 😂

I grew up primarily around women and have a decent amount of friends that are women and it’s constant “I hate when guys approach like this..” or “that made me uncomfortable and now I don’t wanna be here” So it instilled a fear in me that I would be the reason someone isn’t enjoying their night, but at the same time I’m beginning to recognize there are normal ways to approach women and ways that are gross. So I’ll definitely put myself out there more, I’ve also grown more confident in myself than I’ve ever been. 🤙 wish me luck

Cold approaches are not that good to avoid being turned down.. Try the Hot approach. Which means you only move when the girl does some kind of a choosing signal. Then you go like a Pro! 🎉

Very good video

The girl at 5:28 is a keeper. I hope you got a number or Ig my guy.

I got a plane ticket to NYC fro mSouth Korea right after watching this video😂

In which country are you at?

BY HOT GUYS YES make sure you replay that and get your market value up

well obviously they do , if its a good approach by a guy who isn't awkward or he is their type or both , you should do it anyway though because volume is king

I wonder what did you do with the girls that gave you the instagram. You just said "nvm now. Was just making a video"

That girl with the yellow glasses is a vibe

I did day game and night game for 1.5 years, 0 results. Then I used dating apps, i got below average dates, I dont wanna settle with anything average. Don’t know what to do

keep it up

Would this work if your 5'3.

2:44 the girl in the back 😂

Super interesting, but I'd watch RSD Owen, RSD Julien, Todd Valentine over anything these beautiful women are saying. You can't take what she says literally here is the translation: *approaching a woman on the street* 1. Be disarming and respectful at first because you're intimidating to small women 2. Say a witty line that you came up with in that moment (or comment on her style choice) to show her your personality 3. Have good eye contact 4. Give her a chance to invest (or leave) 5. If she's not doing anything now, you can get coffee/smoothie GL fellas.

No, I'm good. Thanks.

2:43 my fav part in this video

I feel like people on dating apps have some sort of insecurity or like in some complicated situation, or they have no intentions so they dont respond. They’re on the app just because. It’s weird

Must be hard getting successful approaches with an AP on.

Hey bro I love the new vid, where did you get your coat from?

I knew those answers would be all over the place from the women. A woman can "look" at you and not be labeled as creepy, but if a guy does it, it's considered creepy.

You should really go into what you talk about in the conversation after the initial approach

Great video but i think you made one mistake about challenge at the end of videos. I think you needed to be clear about wanting to hang out later/some other day in romantic way. Like mentioning date or something because they might simply see you as just instagram folower or even forget to mention boyfriend. But overall great video

"By hot men, yes" my confidence just got shattered

Lol that girl said say your sorry before talking to a girl

Hey I saw you and come to say hi 😂😂😂 this is sound very not authentic. This is no specific method but actually it is all about how much you are authentic to express your intentions

you got the balls bro

Ok and what if you're 5'5