I would love an update video on some of your older kids and what they are up to such as work, school, relationships, etc. if they are okay with details being shared of course. Especially Lizzie, Cynthia and Spencer!
I'm not a parent but the fact that all your kids are polite and have such loving hearts shows how well you are doing with raising them. None of them lash out or start fights just to be devious. You have amazing kids and your kids have amazing parents. Their outcome could have been so much different had you and Jared not stepped up and taken them in.
I think that as we grow as parents, we tend to re-evaluate the things that are important to us. Following a strict set of rules becomes less important than making sure our children are happy and healthy. As parents our job is to raise adults that can think and make decisions for themselves. They can support themselves and be productive adults. You’ve done that and so much more. Good job Shelley and Jared.
I‘m not a parent. But I‘ve always felt that the micro-managing parenting style, while it seems to be all about distrusting the kids (and probably feels like it to them, too), is more about parents distrusting their own parenting abilities. So it would be logical that with more experience the confidence in one‘s own ability to raise competent children grows, and the parenting gets more relaxed. I really feel like most helicopter parents are seriously unconfident about their own abilities to raise their child and/or keep them safe and so they feel like they have to micro-manage everything. The sad thing is, that the child will probably never know that side of the story, but only feel like it‘s them the parent doesn‘t trust.
Brinley really is the sweetest young lady. Very creative, intelligent and, most of all, kind. I blubbed when she said that she always loved her hair when Shelley did it. She probably loved the care and attention from her mum as much as the style❤ This family is the best. Love from England x
im a mom of 3 and a recovering addiction to drugs dcf or cps got involed i lost custody of all 3 of my children and i can get custody of my oldest back and i have vistion of my youngs twins and im almost 3 years sober from it and thankful i can stilll be in my childrens life because i always wanted to be a mom
So My Husband and I just got our foster license. We haven’t had our first placement yet, but I would like to know as a bio mom - what things could at your children’s foster parents have done differently to help you or to make you feel like they were more on your team? You didn’t directly say they went into foster Care so sorry if I am over stepping 😊
I so love and respect your transparency. I also parented my son openly, as I was a foster child and never heard. He was also allowed to say, a couple of curse words. He just retired in June as MST SGT in the Air Force. Damn😂 Shelly and Jared, we’re doing it right.❤❤❤🤗🤗
I love your family and Crystal's too. Thank you for addressing the 8 passengers situation, I wish you'd have uploaded that podcast! Shelley your happiness shows sweetie, you are calm and relaxed and enjoying your kids and life. Thank you for continuing to share with us you guys! Much love from Wilsonville Oregon
@@NoahSchnackybiggestfan They’re a family vlogging RU-vid channel but have been controversial over the years for their harsh rules and punishments. For example they took away their sons bed for months over something small and they refused to take their daughters lunch after she forgot it at school etc. There’s probably more (I’ve never actually watched them). But lately they’ve been in the news as the mom has recently been arrested after it was found that they’d duct taped a couple of the kids, locked them in a room, not given them food for days, etc. The kids escaped to neighbours and the police were called. I’m sure there are videos about it but that’s a summary.
Use an egg shell to remove egg shells that fall into the bowl. Such great questions followed with great answers. Enjoyed this video and thank you for sharing. Great job Mindy❤
Or break them into a small bowl first and then dump them into the large bowl. Easier to get the shell out or spot a questionable egg before you put it into big bowl.
The love and respect you all have for one and other is awesome. I agree rules change throughout the years and especially has the kids grow up. Loved the video. Blessings.
the way your kids act are so well taught and so well mannered, you guys parents are raising them so well. love the parenting!! im a kid and i wish i was raised like this
Thank you for your comment about the other youtube family (I don't even wanna name them here). You could tell on Brinleys face that that is a topic she knows you're having very strong opinions about.
I love watching and keeping up with your family stories. You have the best down to earth and loving family than a lot of blood related families that I have seen. Lots of love and hugs to all of you from the San Francisco Bay Area! 😊🙌🤗😁💜💜💜💜💜
I love Lacey's "no hold barred" style "Umm, no..." on her getting back together with Eli. Funny, but still said honestly and not begrudgingly. A lot of people can't go through that and not be bitter or otherwise. Kudos to Lacey.
I remember the getting ready part. Before I met my husband I rented a room inside the home of a family and I worked shifts. And when I had to work the morning shift throughout the week I always had to get into the bathroom quickly or else the dad would be in there. Sometimes I was up too late and one morning that meant that I didn't even get to go to the bathroom to pee before I had to leave.
Love watching your family. Just a wee hint about getting egg shell out of the eggs. Use the cracked shell to scoop out the piece in the bowl, so easy xxx
Shelly and Jared you are amazing parents and have created an amazing family. Your kids are all kind, caring, and smart and they are all so very well mannered.
Parenting is hard, every child is different, different age groups, backgrounds and past traumas all have to be considered when parenting! I was allowed to cuss but not in anger at my parents and NOT allowed to say the F 💣! I did the same with my children, they are going to stay it anyways but at least they are learning to watch what they say in front of the littles, in front of teachers and not at work!
I adore each & every one of you all! I was thrilled to see Lacey. I worry about her sometimes. Now, lets get back to the biscuits & gravy...do you guys have a certain recipe or just from the package? My saliva glands are working overtime right now. HAA HAA
i LOVE that you let the teens swear around you/each other! thank you for realizing teens do that anyway lol, and again that makes it not seem "forbidden" which probably results in them doing it more rarely, like they mentioned. yall are so smart
Hello crazy middle's thank you so much for sharing another amazing video you are amazing wonderful people and I love watching your videos your family makes my heart happy ❤❤❤
Thank you for this vlog filled with detailed answers, updates and explanations. I'm in particular happy about your distancing from the 8 passengers channel. I do want to emphasise how important these Q&A/assumption vlogs are in comparison with live chats or streaming. You have fans and followers abroad, living in different timezones. The dynamics and interactions of your family, but also society, evolve. But I'm happy to see that you still stand for the same values. Keep doing what you do, stay WHO and HOW you are. 🥰
I'm a mother of 5 children and I have 5 grandchildren and we always had my many nieces and nephews and my children's friends and my grandchildren's friends at the house and I always say I couldn't handle having a empty house. I love the noise the laughter. So I understand what the young man was talking about
I know each member of the family has a night to cook but it seems like they try to get out of it and have someone else do it for them or as you are doing today working together to get a meal together for the family. I like and hear this from Jared that many hands make the work go fast. Love how you all work together.
You and Crystal should make it a point to have a girls/sister night at least once a month. My sister and I used to be glued at the hip but life gets busy so we go out to dinner just the two of us at least once a month and do something after like the movies, bowling, axe bar, pedicures ect❤ EDIT: And NO kids or hubby's just us sister time.
The theme of my last retreat was "Conflict Breads Intimacy." We grow when we make amends! We must do for others as we would want them to do for ourselves
I was meant to comment a while back when there was egg cracking going on but I was sure someone else would tell you.... not sure anyone has so - learnt this from a top chef, the best way to get egg shells out is to use the other part of the egg shell to scoop it - it sticks to the shell :) Love your vlogs, been watching for quite some time now, all the way from New Zealand :) Thanks!!
In my family my nieces and nephews don’t really call us aunt or uncle. I was only 13 1/2 when my oldest nephew was born. I think we just didn’t want to feel old but we are introduced as “Aunt” when there’s people we haven’t met yet
I think alot of people are naive about swearing, kids are going to do it when out with their friends whether parents say yes or no. I have heard eldests friends swear but their parent says they don't swear. Loved Brinley reaction when talking about hair x
I wasn’t allowed to swear infront of my parents but my parents didn’t care if I swore when I’m out with friends because I’d probably do it whether they said yes or no
Shelley, I am with you on letting the kids curse. My oldest son (now 36) used to curse a lot on the bus etc.... one of his friends told on him, and I told my kiddo, hey I curse, so it is assumed you will too and I am good with it, but if you ever curse at me (not around me, I am good with that) I will take you down even if I have to stand on a table to do so (he is 6'4), it took the fun out of it for him and his friend told me Bryan never curses anymore. I do also let my 2 youngest (19 and 16) curse as well. They are all very respectful in the world. The times have changed and there is nowhere that kids are not going to hear cursing, to me it is just a word, there is no difference in saying dog poo or dog sh^t, it is the same thing. The F word I heard all my life as my dad was a cop in their lingo it stands for Found Using Carnal Knowledge, so it was never a forbidden word in my house. You are great parents and have amazing kiddos! PS Love how Bishop is family not just an employee. How does he like his balcony oasis :)
To get egg shells out, use the half broken egg shell - it picks it up so much easier and doesn't slide away. I have an aunt, we have always called her by her name only. I was also adamant in my nieces and nephews to call me only by my first name. I don't feel that title is necessary to be honest.
My sister is fostering a child and she calls me aunt and my mom granny. She hears my sister's grandchildren call me that and she started calling me that too. Good thing cos her adoption day is December 11th. We're so excited. 😊
Love love every single answer you gave to these assumptions!! Love your parenting style too, and all your kindness and warmth. All my grandkids, have been in great foster homes as well, and have been adopted by their super lovely foster parents. So I appreaciate everything you are doing! ❤❤❤
We call breakfast for dinner, ‘brinner’ here, also, top tip, use a big egg shell to scoop out broken egg bits, it kinda sticks to it. Spoons just push it away x
I am actually so glad to hear that you let your teen kids swear! I do too, and sometimes I wonder if i should. They aren't doing it in inappropriate circumstances and they are not disrespectful with it, so I figure it's not a huge deal.
Do any of your kids want to try van life to travel? This was a question that popped into my head since your kids like to be out in nature and do activities like hiking.
When my children swore in front the first time, I just let it go and did not react to it. Afterwards they did it rarely. Now I hardly ever hear them swear.
A great tip for no shells in your eggs, give each child that will be cracking eggs a separate small bowl. They crack the egg into the little bowl, if there is a shell, use a piece of the egg shell to remove the shell in the bowl . Then put that egg into the big bowl you will be whisking up the eggs in. Do the same thing when baking. Crack them into a small bowl before adding to batter . Much easier to remove the shells.
Want to say these and your explanation of things you’ve shared like crazy pieces on your parenting styles and I totally agree with if my teen who is going to be 16 in six months and I told him I would rather him do it at home but not in front of adult’s in the family and also I have told him ask me as I would rather him do something that teens sometimes do in front of me or talk about it
You can tell shelly putting in work & working on her healing journey that she's growing and seeing life in a new lense helps make ur job easier with the kids and it shows, love this for yall!🙏🏽🤍
Pro tip next time a piece of eggshell gets in your eggs use a big piece of eggshell it will attached to the little piece so you can get it out it works for me every time every time no joke 😊
