It’s so weird seeing this after listening to “her last words” To hear the same beat but with a different lyric.. The good thing is that they both share something in common..PAIN
I didn't stay... I finally got away after 3 years & started a new life. My scars will forever remain, but will also remind me to never go back to that shit. To all the women or men who are suffering the same thing, get away. You ARE good enough. I wish peace to you, & much love.
this song is so much more haunting when you realize that he's not just talking about his parents, but also about his own experiences with domestic violence. The music and the lyrics are just so wrought with guilt, emptiness, and frustration. i really like how the music video never shifts focus away from the kitchen and the kitchen table, though. Whoever designed the background obviously had a very specific vision in mind. It just looks so dark, neglected, empty, frustrated, and lifeless. It's an obvious reflection of how the characters portrayed in the video feel inside. it's fits so perfectly when you think about the role that the kitchen is meant to play in a family, since a kitchen should be a place bursting with life. It's a place where a family meets to care for each other and connect with each other. I also like how the stage darkens right before the last verse starts, but then light starts to pour in right as slug says step into that warm weather. The last verse shifts from really dark subject matter to a more hopeful sentiment with slug suggesting that they should just remove themselves from their situation entirely. I feel like the light pouring in really emphasizes that change and offers a little glimmer of hope.
+Ryder Velasquez thanks for that mention..I just listened to that perfect couple 1 an 2 that shit is too intense..intense emotion..I'm gonna give that second song a whirl, thank you
+Ryder Velasquez they both blew me away..I don't think I could actually go back an listen to them...they're very dark...I only fear listening to them again because those songs bring back emotions that I've left in the past..but very very intense, an thank you again for mentioning those songs...what else you listen to??
I had an abusive childhood, every day at school I was beaten until I was bleeding and bruised. I remember every night the pain and details. My fear is that I become something like the father because of the anger I had built up through the years of my childhood. It is this fear why I don't trust myself to connect with others.
try to find a good therapist wholl help u find ways to think right and perceive things the correct way when life gets in your face. dont take anything personal. people are the way they are because of life experience not you.
win win situation!! we see this and we put ourselves in their places.. kinda hard thou, not beautiful.. its kinda painfull but sure is a win for us to realize that there are so many different people in the planet.
Baby girl! I did it three months ago and moved to the other side of the country. It's tough, but it is so worth it. If I can do it, you can do it. If it seems impossible and too difficult, trust me...it isn't. Not compared to what you would go through. Love your SELF lady. There isn't a damn thing wrong with that.
There's nothing anyone could tell you to change your mind, it's all you and your life. But please, it only gets worse. Leave with a black eye before a body bag. People are crazy enough nowadays to kill children to harm their significant other. Please be safe and realize it's not a good environment for you. Message me if you want, I'm finishing off my victims advocacy certification this semester, I can help you.
"Please don't stay" love gives no pain ....love yourself and live. Ppl will treat you as you allow them to. Flee Pain , run. Your not a coward your a survivor. Put up that base! Hear the beat. ...break free. love your seed.
This is such a great message and all... But it was difficult when I realized I was relating to the son. I've never hit someone or anything, but I have a lot of anger in me. When I think about how abusive my parents were towards each other, I realize that one of my greatest fears is loosing control and becoming that sort of a monster.
I feel you homie. My parent's only got married because i was born, and it's been an self-destructive and abusive relationship with me as the bystander for 20 year's now. And i agree one of my biggest fear's is turning into the sort of monster i've despised my entire life. You just have to remember, it's not how you grew up. It's how you choose to accommodate the good/the bad from your life into making yourself the better person.
Thank you for posting this, I never could figure out why this got to me so much, my parents got into a lot of fights when I was a little kid, now that I think about it, thats what i remember most about my early childhood.
Rancherokee No. I'm just talking about my own fears personally. Sometimes I can't help but see the errors my parents made repeating themselves in me. But you're rage is your own. I'm speaking for no one but myself.
"You can't hold hands when they make fists, and I ain't the first to say this." Even though your not going through a situation such as exclaimed in this video, it still really does touch the heart because of the passion slug puts behind his vocals. Moving really.
I remember when I was 11 and going out on my back porch and saw my aunt and step dad drinking together. My aunt tackled me to the ground and I couldn’t breath under her because she was so big. I begged and yelled for her to let me up and I finally punched her in the face. As I was taking that breath in my step father held is foot on my neck and everything went black. I woke up in the kitchen to my mother shaking me and crying with blood all over my chin and mouth and shirt. He held his foot on my neck for so long he busted the all capillaries in my nose. I had nose bleeds so bad for years after that. Some people just get dealt shitty hands from the start of life. Prayers and love for all those out there who’ve been abused.
I never thought I'd be the one this song is about. I called the hotline today after listening to this for the first time in years. If you need help, don't hide. Us men especially.. we hide it so often. Reach out!
Slug, you changed my life. Period. I worked for Welfare Clothing in Detroit, we brought you guys up as a sponsor for a show at the Blind Pig in Ann Arbor right after Overcast came out. Since that day your music and lyrics changed my life. Got me through the death of my best friend, Breakups, Fear, Hardship. This one hits close to home again Thank You. Amazing video.
Not everything is dumb shit, just 99,99%. But that's mainly because the mainstream shit gets all the money and that's the only thing most people in the business want. That's why I mainly listen to rock / metal and everything in that direction. It's written with passion for music, not with the intention of money(, but then again, not everything in that genre is that way either).
Ten days ago I split with "the love of my life" a broken man who this song fits almost perfectly, his parents were like this, mine were too. I stayed 7 years. I hate him in some ways, but mostly I hate myself for staying too long. I finally ended it when he lost his temper with our 14 month old son. It wasn't bad, but it was enough. That was were I drew the line. I cannot allow my son to go through the same. The cycle has to be broken somewhere. We both need psychiatric therapy. I love him, it hurts, but it hurts less to leave than to stay and risk my son becoming his father...or mine. Yeah...please don't stay.
It's basically a warning to those in an abusive relationship. The video shows an example of an abusive relationship where even after the wife and husband die, the anger lives on through their son. The chorus is pleading to those in an abusive relationship to break the cycle.
Although I was not physically abused this song resonates deeply. I use to listen to atmosphere all the time in my early teens and I re-discovered this song at the age of 23 and still knew every word. “A childhood of watching ma and pa get raw” hits the hardest. I had a lonely childhood and was left behind by both my mother and father due to a nasty divorce that took their focus away from what is important. “The anger lives on through their son.” I’m now 23 depressed and angry as hell. I’ve never been in a romantic relationship even though I’m told I’m a handsome guy. The fact that I was never loved makes it extremely difficult for me to sympathize and love others. The reason I thought of this song was because there was a verbal altercation between my neighbors and I thought it could get violent. I train mma and boxing so I decided to walk over and let the woman know if anything happened I would be there. Although I do the right thing in a physical sense I cannot escape the scars from my childhood and it is killing me on the inside. It’s hard to measure how much emotional damage we carry, be kind and love others how you would want to be loved
This video is just so amazing. Moving, actually. I'm lucky enough to have a mom and a dad who never fight. It makes me feel sad, though. Physical I abuse happens every single day. I'm lucky I've never had to deal with it, but God Bless everyone who had to. My prayers are with you.
The day they posted this song was the day i left my abusive relationship. After 15 months. Thank you for posting this. It still helps me stay away from it.
Been abused since 2012 I finally stood up and got out of it. It was slowly killing me, every scar on me i see everyday. I felt myself slowing dying from the physical, mental, verbal, sexual abuse I've endured throu those years
Song hits my feels so hard. I swore I wasn't going to listen to it today because it actually brings me to tears, but I actually can't resist the genius behind this whole song.
Atmosphere did it first.. he made this song & it was deep. Touched hearts, helped people have the strength to get out of situations like this. Of course someone copied it & people like hers better & talk shit on his. People like that, that don't appreciate the art are the reason the world is the way it is.
My friend made me listen to this song to get me out of an abusive relationship...It still gives me goose bumps listening to this song cause it takes me back to that time...but i found someone so much better who treats me right.
Go get yourself a more better forever....Cuz if you don't kill him, he's gonna kill you....You can't hold hands when they make fists. I fkn love you Slug.
This song hits too close to home for me. My father abused my Mom and brother. We finally got out when I was six and a half. My Mom was afraid to leave because she was scared he would kill her. She told me that she stayed because she thought that we, my three siblings and myself, needed a father in our lives. My aunt told me that the real truth was that my Mom was scared that my father would kill her and my siblings and me. My youngest sibling was only two years old, and that's my little brother. My little sister was only three. My older brother was only nine at the time we left. I am so grateful that we got out of the situation we lived in. My older brother took most of the beatings for me. He always got in the way of my father's rage and took the hits for me. I am so grateful for my older brother. He lived with my father from the age of two until he was nine. My father adopted him when our parents got married. I will forever be grateful for what my brother did for me. My younger two siblings only remember our father as a somewhat caring man. I remember the abuse even though I was younger. I remember my father making me kneel in dry rice when I got into trouble. I still bear the scars from the rice to this day. As of December 19th of this year, we will have been out of that house just outside of New Orleans, Louisiana for 10 years. I thank God that we got out when we did or else who knows where we'd be. I'm sorry that this is so long. ~Audrey Amitola Silver Shadow. (AKA James)
Atmosphere's albums have chronicled my life since I was 14 years old. Even this last album, I listened to this and it gave me the strength to stay gone from an abusive marriage.Thank you from the bottom of my heart.
I don’t understand how the whole world isn’t listening to this. If everyone just took a moment, to let Atmospheres songs penetrate the brain, imagine that..
my god its like my past... it really hits home, I was in the same sutuation but my father took it out on all of us and I hope to god I dont end up like him
Its now your chance to change it. There are alot of people with the same situation sadly, but there are also alot of people who are willing to help you. Get over your anger, if you cant handle it alone. But I wish you like to get out of the whole circle alone.. we all can make a change in this world..
you are absolutely right. I do it on my own and even though its hard I get through it. Music is pretty much the only thing curing it, but my girl has helped me as well and grateful i have her in my life.... WannabeLynx out of every comment i've read you are the only one i've read that has actually been great.
Holy crap. That about covers my mom and dad when I was growin' up. In fact, that covers roughly all the hell I went through living with my old man. Christ, abusive parents are awful. Thanking my mom for not letting me turn out like him. Too bad no one ever called that hotline for me back then.
My life revolved around chaos I miss the days when there was smiles and happiness I miss seeing my mother smile and my dad being proud i miss when sunshine would shine brighter then anything,and we had nothing to worry about I wish my family could be togeather and most of all I wish we could be all happy...
My mother's used to take it all from my dad to protect me. Shed take the blame for every mistake ot every accident and cop the abuse for it to protect me, and I was to weak to do anything about it. As i got older, i tried my best to jave a relationship with my dad, i tried being a good daughters, to talk and hang with him, but it was all in vain and i was left with a gaping hole in my heart - girls need their fathers, but my mom had to be both.. Watching my friends have loving fathers and seeing them talk, hug, and laugh together would make me so sad deep inside, but I could never say a word, keep it all private is what I was told. I am an adult now, and im no longer a powerless little girl, and i will make sure to always protect my mother and those I love - even it means copping the punch. Im so thankful for a mother that loved and protected me... Even though she herself was struggling to stay alive.
A century was is enough! I thank God and family. The mind and soul are the hardest to recognize when being abused. If you are hurting let me tell you this. It hurts your children and loved in your life. It’s worth the fear to leave! It will be ok. Your children need to see you happy.
This is what I love about Atmosphere, they put out some of the intelligent and well written, thoughtful rap out in the world today, and a track like this hits hard, not just for wives or girlfriends, but for anyone who's watched abuse happen and been too afraid or weak to stop it, for me this hits hard, it reminds me of the friends I loved and couldn't save, but maybe that's just me, this track is amazing, and the albums a masterpiece.
I almost got back into a relationship with a narcissist.. until a really good friend showed me this song... made me cry.. but I put my shoes on ...N I promise my lil boy we will never go back... thank you for opening my eyes....
I find it beautiful that even after someone leaves your life for whatever reason it may be, music is that very distinctive thing that sticks with you that you shared with them and they shared with you. Something that you heard while they were in your life. And not even those you miss but even those you don't and are happy are gone. But they showed you some bad ass music and there's something empowering about listening to it even though they pretty much don't exist anymore. Shit feels great
This is literally so good! I had to face this my parents were always fighting it was terrible... Who ever is facing this its ok their is help out there.
I appreciate this song. Im shaking, never has a song been as real on portraying this subject matter. Ugh, definitely a brief trigger the first time hearing it. Thank you though for real music
This song helped me leave my abusive relationship. After the beatings, forcing me to use drugs..... God u can't even imagine everything I went thru.... I heard this song and it felt like he was singing it to me. I love atmosphere so much!!! His music had helped me in so many situations!!!
My parents split when i was like 9 years old. I remember my dad hammering the point home that i'd never seen him and my mom fight ever. It makes me wonder what mustve been happening behind the scenes for him to drive that point home, to be so worried about it that he needed to tell me so many times. Relationships are confusing but even more so once you have kids and start bringing a little person with a brain the consistency of jello into the mix. My heart goes out to anyone dealing with stuff that this video depicts.
Please Do not a afraid of the future there are still good people out there. They may be harder to find with the world today but you will find someone. Good luck. No matter how hard it is you can do it.
I didn't mean in terms of relationships so much, just in general. You never know for sure how anything is going to turn out. Fear is natural as long as it doesn't hinder you. Thanks for the kind words, though.
Ashley Dufault Once a month I volunteer to socialize with seniors at nursing home and one lady told me today is the future worry about this exact moment and make the list and everything else will fall in play ay"
This is Slug's message to all of the men, women, and kids who are the victims of domestic abuse. Such an amazing artist who actually does care and can portray so many emotions through words.
I may have died being three months prego if i didn't hear this. So this song very well has saved my sons life too. The physical and emotional sltress caused my plecenta to break 5 months later leading us to be lucky to be alive as well.
The part that hits me the hardest is from 3:30 to 3:39. Seeing the kid and mother bonding over something his father caused in anger is simultaneously hopeful and yet more crushing when you realize that the kid turns out just like him.
I've had many friends to hear this, not seeing the video. It shook em. They changed. This is one on of the most important songs in my life because I've been able to use it to change other lives for the better. Slug... Ant... thank you.
I grew up with my Grandparents, when I was young my Grandpa was an abusive drunk. I witnessed a lot of shit back then that scared me. That's what drives me to this day to not hurt my wife or kids. I avoid the bottle so I don't become like he was back then. Motivation comes in all shapes and sizes, be it bad or good.
you won't. I grew up in a similar household man, and I wouldn't trade it for the world, because just physically being present in the situations I've been through makes you realize the damage it causes. I feel if anything, it has shown me how not to act towards the people we love. You'll be fine my man.
My dad use to be like this and he regret it and now he changed, he's a good dad and a kind person now , if i have to look at the past like 5 years ago , i still renember when my mum protected me , then my sister came down to help me to , i think that his friend help him through that rage , and now we are an happay and awesome family now. If u make dis far , gud fir u
My mom and dad never got in fights physically but they were always verbally fighting. Which was kinda heartbreaking for a young girl (6 years old) to see. It all started when I was 6 and it never stops. I’m 21. I have 3 younger siblings to take care of, how the hell am I, being the oldest, supposed to protect them from seeing it all happen?
Ancient post but go to concerts. In small venues they hang out at the bar after sometimes! Got to "meet" Ant that way. Didn't chat him up much but had the opportunity to try and get talking.
My father was the type of person that rules his family like a dictator reigns his country. he used harsh words, threats, made me and my mom tools of his own goals, and manipulated every situation or bond for his own good. effectively cutting of most of my family. In his rage I had fled the house every now and then..running in the middle of the street waiting for the end. We finally ran away but I crashed from all the built up pain and anxiety. I've been in therapy for a year and I've only sratched the surface of healing of those festering wounds. My mom is still a puppet for his ends, but she's doing efforts to break out of it too. We're looking for an end to this nightmare and we'll get there, even if it takes processing our past and cutting painful ties. Whoever you are out there. be the loving person others might never have had in their life. And show the world you're a strong happy human being that takes pride in having a loving, healthy social circle. Thanks for reading this, peace
Hey.There's some some scars that will probably never disappear, but there's effort to make them heal nicely. My mother finally had the courage to start an official divorce. We ended up having to call a police intervention in our own house to make him leave, including a physical fight with me...which he claims now to be "an effort to hug" - cursing the word hug for me. My own energy is incredibly sensitive to anything that's even far related to him, like thinking someone's silence means anger. Mental abuse is about as difficult as pain can be, there's no bruises or marks except the blue around my eyes from lack of rest. There's no official records of the severity of his deeds, and he will never even accept the idea he's at fault. Even now he blames the divorce on me. Right now I try to see my father as the example of a person I shouldn't become, the example of inhumanity. Thoughts and melancholia rise in a matter of seconds. But I did manage to trust a few others, even though those bonds are fragile. I do try to keep my own motivation together to build on the dream I have to create art and games allowing others to escape their poor condition even for a few minutes. Right now, I just wait for people to express their happy lives, good virtues, attitude and a will to live the best they can for themselves, others and the world. Thanks for your reply, others recognizing my effort to prevent things happening to others like they happened to me means a lot to me
Canny Thank you so much for replying. I’m so thankful to hear that you and your mom and doing a little better, and I want you to keep thinking about that light at the end of the tunnel. Keep fighting, you will get through this. Your dad will never deserve a child as great as you, and a wife as great as your mom.
Canny wow... just... wow ... you are a truly wonderful person... (': it makes me feel a lill bit brightier wen i know that someone somewere is like that... thanks you
My dad was like this and thankfully she got me and her out before i grew up living like that. I consider myself lucky but i have endured verbal, mental and somewhat physical abuse in past relationships. Thankfully they ended and i’m with someone who will never lay a hand on me and never has.❤️
This song messed with my heart. This is what I grew up with my mom had enough of the hurting and left. Even though she left my brother and I I'm happy for her. My father started to take it out on me and my younger brother, I'm 17 and put my father in his place when I was 16
HALO4246 dude not all juggalos are bad, thats the new age they don't know shit.. I own my own garage and have a family.. my best friend he is also a juggalo went through college and all... the new age juggalos give the old school juggalos a bad name and juggalos aren't a gang, theres just some that are in gangs but not juggalo gangs and I am on juggaloloverse side they are idiots and even tho they call them juggalos I don't respect them, same as everyone else you gotta give respect to get respect
