AvPD & ADHD - an honest chat about how I'm feeling

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Today I take a break from my regularly scheduled topics to have an honest chat about feeling overwhelmed and paralyzed. I'm not sure which of these feelings are to blame on AvPD or ADHD (or depression, anxiety, etc) but I thought I owed it to you all to let you know that I've been having a hard time keeping up with all the things I have to and want to do. If you're also feeling stuck, you're not alone. Thank you for watching.
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@Ali-20244 9 месяцев назад

Even random chat like that it helps some of us to feel that we're not alone in those thoughts . Thanks ❤

@anxious_and_avoidant 9 месяцев назад

Thank you Ali ❤️ I appreciate you

@Ali-20244 9 месяцев назад

@@anxious_and_avoidant I appreciate you too ❤️

@Ali-20244 9 месяцев назад

@basedbutgay0 hello friend 👋✌️

@catmando4448 9 месяцев назад

It does help to know that others are going through experiences that are similar to my own. Thank you for posting this. I have been feeling quite overwhelmed myself. It’s all I can do to tackle basic tasks of life right now.

@anxious_and_avoidant 9 месяцев назад

😞❤️‍🩹🫂

@MakeDemocracyMagnificientAgain 9 месяцев назад

That's what AvPD is doing... it gives you A LOT of feeling under pressure

@GG-mu4wg 9 месяцев назад

No shame sitting out Xmas & that's exactly what I'm doing this year 🥳 You, your finances & your dogs' health come before some silly tradition. Wishing the best to you and your family for the holidays

@anxious_and_avoidant 9 месяцев назад

❤️❤️❤️

@Oliver_Bryan 9 месяцев назад

How dare you, saying humbug to people at Christmas is a very important tradition that should always be kept :) In all seriousness you do not need to follow the traditions, I mean, Jesus never put up a tree and decorations and stuff + he was probably born Sept to Oct time anyway.

@markaoslo5653 9 месяцев назад

1:21 - Yes, Maxine - there is always _"value",_ in your sharing! 1.6k Subscribers, agree! ♥☮🕯

@anxious_and_avoidant 9 месяцев назад

Much appreciated as always Marka 🥹❤️

@markaoslo5653 9 месяцев назад

@@anxious_and_avoidant - ❤

@Oliver_Bryan 9 месяцев назад

*Big Hug* Never feel pressure to post a video for us. I am sure like me we would not want to cause you stress or make things harder. I hate getting gifts for people, so what I do is get everyone chocolate, even if they do not want it they can give it to someone else. So sorry for all the pressure of the stuff around the vets, not fun! I had the same with my wisdom tooth, but mine was impacted (on it's side) and only partially erupted so they had to cut open my gum and stuff, I was given 5 days of very strong painkillers, which worked well. It took little time for them to do the procedure as well, about 15 to 20 mins all in. I think this time of the year is difficult for most people, so do not stress too much, I am sure it will all go well, I say that even though for me it does not help at all when someone says something will go well, but hey-ho you might get a little comfort for it :)

@anxious_and_avoidant 9 месяцев назад

I do feel like I should have been clearer - I genuinely did want to post something, not from pressure to “keep up” but because being able to connect with you guys over these experiences is like… my driving force in life rn and I genuinely love it. I just didn’t have it in me to do the video I was going to do. I might let the schedule/type of videos go a little more casual through the holidays and my recovery from my tooth thing, but I definitely feel like I’d just get more depressed if I took a break lol. I hope that makes sense. ❤️

@Oliver_Bryan 9 месяцев назад

@@anxious_and_avoidant Yeah, makes total sense.

@CajunCraft24 9 месяцев назад

I know this paralysis you speak of. When you just CANNOT. It’s impossible to explain to people and it’s like a vicious cycle

@anxious_and_avoidant 9 месяцев назад

I’ve struggled with this for so long and yes I genuinely wish I could explain it to people beyond “I can’t” 😅👌🏻 I know I’m not the only one though now, and at least there are resources on things like executive dysfunction, so it’s **starting** to make more sense.

@jenniferwaller45 9 месяцев назад

This is an especially challenging time of year. I like to think of it as time for cocoon mode. And preparation for new beginnings. Other animals are allowed to slow down and turn inward now, and we should be allowed to do the same without guilt. I hope things have gotten easier now that the holidays are mostly over. I'm excited to hear about your challenge!

@anxious_and_avoidant 9 месяцев назад

That’s actually an excellent point 👌🏻 I’m officially taking the philosophy with me through the rest of the winter. 😅 I’ll be back tomorrow to talk about the challenge and my other goals for 2024. 😊❤️

@49ilovemusic 9 месяцев назад

I have a list a stuff I need to get done before Christmas. I feel your struggle. I haven't done a single thing yet.

@anxious_and_avoidant 9 месяцев назад

😩 It’s so frustrating that it’s supposed to be fun but our brains will not let us chill enough to enjoy it lol ❤️‍🩹

@philc.5569 9 месяцев назад

A song you may like. "Carry On" by Fortunate Ones. It touched me. I first heard it while watching an episode of Heartland.

@porokiin9134 9 месяцев назад

Thank you for sharing, even though it doesn't seem easy. It's kind of scary how fast shame can catch up with us when our attention or motivation is gone. And then that vicious cycle of shame and paralysis... 😅 It always helps to know we're not alone in our struggles, and I hope your sharing helps ease the burden a little. Best of luck to you and Archie, and speedy recoveries! Also, I vote we cancel Christmas: Mac & Cheese and video games sounds way better.

@anxious_and_avoidant 9 месяцев назад

🙌🏻 December 25th is officially mac and cheese and video game day 📣 spread the word hahahahah But yes, it actually did help me, honestly. A lot of people were suggesting I take a break, but I think that would have made me feel worse. I just wanted to connect with other people feeling a little down, and we rallied. 😊❤️ I’m so thankful for all you guys.

@TheStockwell 9 месяцев назад

I've been making cyanotypes for years. Your video turned up in my daily search for cyanotype videos. I'm now subscribed. Not to sound goofy, but discovering your channel is a kind of Christmas present I wasn't expecting. Best wishes from Vermont 🍁

@anxious_and_avoidant 9 месяцев назад

How cool! It’s definitely not a cyanotype channel haha 😅 but I’m happy you’re here! (What artists aren’t also mentally ill, am I right?) ❤️ I haven’t posted on there in ages but if you’re on Instagram, @maxine.art has my archive of cyanotype work 😊

@TheStockwell 9 месяцев назад

@@anxious_and_avoidant Thank you for your lightning-fast reply. I hope you get through the year end pressures and fly into a great 2024. Creativity is an odd thing. On one hand, the common and accepted perception is all Artists suffer one form of mental health issue or another. On the other hand, when people are having an emotional crisis, they always suggest Art Therapy to help them through it! I can imagine someone in the 1880s saying, "Mr. van Gogh, you obviously have serious problems. Have you ever considered taking up a hobby? I hear painting is very relaxing and enjoyable." No Instagram for me. I have a Tumblr account - because that platform isn't good for chatting or interacting with people. It's quiet while most social media is so darn noisy! But, I will look at YOUR Instagram account. Maybe it'll change my mind. 🤔 Take care of yourself. Stay warm and busy, wherever you are this year. ❤️

@joolslorien3936 9 месяцев назад

Hugs ❤

@HollyMaysHarshAwakening2024 9 месяцев назад

💜💜💜💜💜

@bookworm_of_heaven 9 месяцев назад

thing is, "easy" tasks for people like us arent easy. theyre tasks, but you cant assume that theyre gonna be easy. we spend so much time just surviving that theres barely any room left for stuff like cleaning your house or washing the dishes (calling out myself here 👀), even if there used to be. you have to keep reminding yourself to see it like having a broken arm or having the flu, cuz even if it doesnt feel the same, it is. i think youre doing quite alright :)

@anxious_and_avoidant 9 месяцев назад

Good points 😮‍💨❤️‍🩹

@jej3451 9 месяцев назад

For someone with AvPD, you are terrible at avoiding. You're always on RU-vid broadcasting your feelings. You have a stable long-term relationship. You're on Christmas gift-giving terms with numerous people. Etc. Just because you procrastinate doesn't mean you have AvPD. Who diagnosed you? I don't mean to come across as "more avoidant than thou", haha... but correct diagnosis is usually essential to solving problems. Sabotage your LTR and isolate yourself from everyone you know, then we'll talk. With regard to your actual problems: You need to make a list of everything you need to do. That's the only way to stop it from constantly whirring around inside your brain. Once it's on paper, your subconscious mind doesn't need to keep reminding itself "don't forget, you have to do this and this and this". Then you can begin to eat the elephant, one bite at a time.

@anxious_and_avoidant 9 месяцев назад

lol

@jej3451 9 месяцев назад

@@anxious_and_avoidant If you need tips on ways to push people away, let me know.

@anxious_and_avoidant 9 месяцев назад

No thanks, you’ve given more than enough unwarranted advice and opinions. Have the day you deserve.

@jej3451 9 месяцев назад

@@anxious_and_avoidant I hope you don't ignore my second paragraph, which was a sincere attempt at advice. Just pretend someone who isn't a douche said it. Bye.

@anxious_and_avoidant 9 месяцев назад

Don’t invalidate my diagnosis because you’re assuming you know anything about my relationship that I purposely don’t speak about publicly, and don’t conveniently ignore the part in the title, intro, and end where I talk about my ADHD (which is where the procrastination comes from… not the AvPD obviously) and then act like you’re being generous for giving advice. My whole channel is a wealth of information about how my AvPD affects my life… it’s all there if you’re interested (which you aren’t). Obviously you’re projecting your hurt and loneliness by lashing out at someone you perceive to be doing better than you (very much coming across as “more avoidant than thou” and you know it lol) and invalidating them because of it, but if you actually want to feel better, gatekeeping isn’t the way to do that. Maybe you should try posting a video about your experience or getting someone a gift and see if that helps. Just because we’re avoidant doesn’t mean we can’t try to get better or do better. I sincerely encourage you to try. Be well.