They ask parents to leave the room because parents are often the cause of mental health distress. My parents contributed to increasing my anxiety and depression. My parents were neglectful. Parents do not OWN their children. Children are not extensions of the parent. Children are individuals. I am a parent myself. I found thar respecting and trusting my children did wonders to help them grow to independence.
I mostly agree with you. With one exception. The reality is that a parent does actually own their child. You write them off as a tax deduction each year just like a home, or a piece of land, and just like a large breed dog, a parent is financially responsible for the things a child does. Technically a child is property. However, the right thing to do is to raise a child as if they are not property.
If I’m the one that’s going to be held liable for the actions of my children then, yeah, I own them. When they become fully liable for their own actions then they’re on their own.
Parents own children who are minors actually so🙄 ya not when they're adults. Obviously they have a responsibility to treat their kids decently that not all parents live up to. One could only trust their kids if they taught and loved them well first.
A lot of obvious issuess but in modern, bizarre world even obvious things can become controversial for some people. I like courageous authors therefore I am going to read the book.
In high school we had several bomb threats and we milked every instance of it crying to the teachers about how scared we were, anything to keep classes from resuming and as long as the teachers were eating the bs we fed it to them. This was mid 90s so I can only imagine how kids are able to coordinate crying wolf in the cell phone era...Tom Sawyer on steroids 😂
the "asking about suicide doesnt increase the chance" is actually for clinicians, for psychologists and psychiatrists when someone is talking about suicide or has already done something, its for enabling that conversation in that context, it was not meant for widespread suicide questioning via forms
I was a Nanny for years and what I noticed is that in the 6th grade all the kids would get a stupid phone to practice on and then by the eight grade the kids were all nagging their parents for smartphones. Parents collapse under the pressure.
@@gustavus0013they have long term dangers of permanent damage (.e.g ADHD drugs), they can also make a lot of mental health problems worse the warnings are even in the side effects, they can also be deadly (yes anti-depressants)
what she's saying is music to the ears of obstinate bullies, abusers, rigidly and emotionally blind people who seek to strengthen enablement endorsement from society to to continue to victimize the vulnerable. it's great to say kids need to grow up, people need to grow out of it and move on, when it's someone else. when it's something she is struggling with and would like support on, i guess that's different. that's the problem with this line of thinking, it's not honest imo
It is necessary to grow up to defend yourself against abuse. The only other alternative is to remain in a permanently childish and vulnerable state. Being angry over a fact doesn't make it not a fact.
@@dharmaqueen7877 saying there are only two options is absolutist thinking imo. you want to be vulnerable, that's how you connect with people in a healthy way. but obviously it's a balance
Survival instincts can be one hell of a sum bitch. Got kicked out at 17 and instantly had to lock in even if my brain didnt want to. Its the access to having a way out of any situation (living with parents, not growing up) My grandmother treated me like a flightless baby bird. Either you make it or you don't when thrown out the house and there isnt a single day that goes by that im not grateful for the tough love she gave me. It sucked but atleast I can take care of myself now and handle more stress than I would have before.
It’s not brave, or courageous to tell the truth. It’s just the truth. At the same time it is cowardly and almost traitorous to know the truth and not speak it.
Really? That's pathetic. You know, people used to have to go off to war and watch their comrades get blown to bits or have survived some horrific event to end up with PTSD. Now we, humans that is, are so mentally weak and emotionally imature that experiencing normal childhood bullying is enough to do it.😑🙄😑🙄
@@Andrea-zm1nl Or maybe you don't know jack shit and school is genuinely worse than having somebody standing next to you bisected or turned into chunky salsa, since I would actually know.
@Andrea-zm1nl there are many factors that go into why some people develop ptsd due to certain things..we really can't judge other people's experiences. There are people tortured by years for bullies at home. If they didn't get support, maybe also abused at home or something, that can be scarring. That is not what Abigail meant, she is a reasonable person..she clearly meant like normal stress or distress in school or in life and then it being exaggerated or overhauled overvalidated by therapists etc. so that people feel like any bad memories is "ptsd" etc. PTSD is real and can be caused by many things not just war.
@@FunkyMunky-w2m I am aware of that. I was making a point about the mental and emotional fragility of young people in today's world versus any other time in human history. The young people today are snowflakes compared to all of human history. And my humble opinion is that this reality is pathetic.
@@Andrea-zm1nl your general point has truth in it but you can't undiscerningly apply that to like all people and all situations. PTSD is a phenomenon that someone cannot help, they can't help where it came from, and nightmares can be a most insidious feature of it. So that is so ridiculous you're shaming someone for something like that that they can't help. You cannot lump all people and their experiences together e.g. with school. I had a horrible experience in middle school but it didn't leave me Ptsd. A lot of times kids who get bullied and stuff are very severely abused at home which both makes them more vulnerable to it and compounds it. There is a wide spectrum of bullying just like everything else. For some people, school was a little akin to a warzone. There is a wide spectrum of ptsd as well. It might not be as bad as a war veteran, that doesn't mean it's not real, damaging, an insidious. I'm sure people got ptsd sometimes from things like bullying in the old days too they just didn't know about ptsd back then..or there wasn't as severe a bullying going on, because people weren't so heartless and wicked as so many are now
I’m getting a little tired of seeing someone push a book like this who isn’t a trained clinician. She makes valid points, but I just can’t take her seriously when she isn’t a professional clinician.
She includes research and interviews by clinicians..I'm sure a lot of what she's sharing is from that. A lot of what she is saying is common sense wisdom from reviewing things..free country, people can share their opinions. You're failing to grasp the point that there is pervasive corruption from within therapy/psychologym.so who is going to critique it? Their education/training is partly corrupted, that's part of the root problem. I have read a lot of psychologists..some have offered critique but most don't much. These matters are partly the role of journalists
Since the no child left behind act made it impossible for a child to fail a subject or a grade. Since we started handing out participation trophies to everyone on a child's sports team. What we have done for almost thirty years now is teach children that all they have to do to succeed is just show up. The young people I am forced to work with can't cope with the reality that you have to actually work to get paid. I see this crap every day.
As an adult, therapy has really helped me. It's hard to imagine this book being anything more than propaganda for a very specific ideology. The kids saying they have "ptsd" aren't getting diagnosed by a phychiatrist, they are hearing some BS on the playground or probably Tik Tok. This book is really bordering on irresponsible because it's based on correlation and assumptions. This book isn't science based yet tries to critique science. You really can't do that and the only people that will take this seriously are folks who just have no idea and would be swayed by any kind of propaganda. You can't effectively critique 100 years of science by writing a pop science book and not doing any of you r own science, everything the author brings up in this interview is based on anecdote and assumption.
you saying kids who claim to have ptsd are being diagnosed online is a correlation based on assumptions. while i agree with you about most of your comment, its extremely reductive to have such a valid point and tarnish it with that weird bias. there are a lot of children diagnosed with mental health disorders. i have been accused of "making it up" since i first started being treated for my issues, way before the prime era of social media. one thing always remains when kids say they need help - adults come in and say they dont and their kids mirror them until its an echo chamber of "shut up" until its "why didnt they ask for help before?" anyway
I use to do therapy a lot and it was great. Back in the 90s and even 2000s everywhere you went it was always a psychiatrist or PHD level psychologist. Now it’s impossible to find therapy that isn’t done by a girl who is a few years out of college. You have to ask…why? They can’t possibly be providing the same level of care with half of the training.
Your comment shows how very little you know about the creation of therapeutic practice (it is all experimentation and quite new/young compared to other ways of “helping and healing” that are time tested over thousands of years…)…just like the rest of the medical field
Hows the Swedish model that was touted as the way, turning out ? Thanks to the Author for giving this talk. As an employer employing schoolies... this is bang on. Not all kids, but knowing the family backgrounds. The difference is like night and day. ❤
The unemployment numbers only appear so low. It took my 20 year old son 5 months to find a part time low paying job. Politicians and academics are not in touch with what is really going on.
today you need qualifications, certificates, or anything that shows you have experience or knowledge. It is very competitive in todays economy. Thus if he wants to make it I recommend looking into trade schools (consistently always needed and fairly cheap to get your foot into school compared to an actual degree). It sucks being told at 20 that you dont have any qualifications but its true as an employeer I will take the man with experience and age over a young buck needing to learn. Plus people are more likely to hire full time rather than part time. I understand what you mean and it sucks im not saying that its not hard to find a job. Its just that it requires more effort than it used to where you could just walk up and apply for the job and get on the spot. Times are changing.
The intro woman is very creepy (before the interview), I almost didn't watch. Abigail is very brave, I admire her very much❤ But it is so dangerous to have kids go out on their own like out of the neighborhood etc. these days, we are literally under an invasion of illegals and skyrocketing sex trafficking ALL over the country, it's in the news =/
Similarly, children are 'helped' by introducing them to the subject of 'cutting', it was normalized as a coping strategy by introducing it to children otherwise unaware of the topic.
It's society at large that is to blame... All markers have been rising for generations their just coming off the rails now... Our society is broken one of the reasons their intentionally collapsing it haha
@@FunkyMunky-w2m I agree with your point about kids but what about kids who aren't allowed to have phones? Not a way kids want to stand out. Thanks for the reply
I am in the mental health field, and I agree with the concerns expressed here. I would discourage any parent from taking their child or teen to a therapist. Most therapists are poorly trained (it's very easy to become a therapist) and are very biased to the very far Left. The issue also is that many states do not allow therapists to say, "You're not transgendered. Middle school is hard," as the author suggests. They can get a Board complaint and even lose their licenses for saying so. Another reason to stay far away from therapists.
1000000000% doubt you are in the "mental health field" if anything you are probably a preacher's wife who turns the other cheek while he diddles kids....thats your "mental health" background. Very "easy" you say..well at least in my red-neck wasteland of a state here is what you need to be a therapist. 1. Acquire a bachelor’s degree 2. Earn a master's degree 3. Complete post-graduate supervision hours 4. Pass the licensing exam SoOoOoOoOoOoOoOoOoOoOoOoOoOoOoOoOoOoOoOoO easy, right ,Karen?
