'Be A Man': Modernists and Traditionalists Debate Masculinity | VICE Debates 

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How are young boys and men with testosterone running through their veins, and being boys and men considered toxic. Why are the masculine women not considered toxic femininity? Being masculine has everything to do with testosterone, not how you feel, men grow some balls because women have been running isht for a while and society is falling apart because of it it goes against everything in the animal kingdom. Society has been civilized to the point of extreme comfort thanks to a man's masculinity/testosterone/strength and now women in particular want men to turn it off in the same fashion as they do their feelings and feminity when they are in the face of a man crying in front of them, when in fact they/women seem to be more interested/attracted to the masculine man. GTFOH If it were not for us we would all still be cave dwellers. Soft, sensitive, emotional men. That's funny! Show me a soft sensitive emotional lion and I'll show you a loin getting ran from his territory.

Bias Lieing Low Life Sh*t Stains 😡

vice this is why ur my favorite channel 🤲🏼

Excellent point. They (we) could have cleared up some confusion. I'm 70.

@@rparks623 dam. What’s it like being 70 if you don’t mind me asking

They don't have any testosterone left

right???? justice for hot daddys #dilfs

@@rparks623 what do you have to add to this conversation that hasn’t been said? Me as a youngin (19) like to assume that all older men are unconvinceable when it comes to changing their traditional views of masculinity.

these people are hand-selected. this conversation would be different if you took 12 random men. more soft left-wing comedy.

The non-binary individual, Griffin, was trying to prove that the notion of masculinity and gender roles are social constructs that ultimately uphold patriarchal systems and oppressive power dynamics. They challenged the idea that certain traits or behaviors should be exclusively attributed to men or women, arguing that these gender norms are arbitrary and limiting. One of the main disadvantages for the other men in understanding Griffin's perspective was their deeply ingrained beliefs and experiences surrounding traditional masculinity. Many of them grew up in environments where specific gender roles were enforced, and deviating from those norms was discouraged or even punished. As a result, they struggled to separate their personal identities and values from the societal expectations placed upon them as men. Additionally, some of the men seemed to conflate masculinity with biological differences between males and females. They viewed traits like physical strength, aggression, and logical thinking as inherently masculine, rather than recognizing that these characteristics can manifest across all genders and are often shaped by cultural factors rather than biology alone. The promotion of the gender binary and stereotypes about men stemmed from a desire for stability and predictability. By adhering to prescribed gender roles, these men believed they could more easily navigate social interactions and relationships. The idea of a "real man" provided a clear set of expectations and guidelines, even if those expectations were limiting or harmful. Furthermore, some of the men derived a sense of privilege and power from traditional masculine roles. The notion of being the provider, protector, and leader within a household or society appealed to their desire for control and status. Challenging these gender norms threatened to undermine their perceived superiority and the benefits they reaped from the patriarchal system. Griffin faced pressure from these men because their perspective fundamentally challenged the ideologies and beliefs that many of the men had built their identities around. By deconstructing gender roles and promoting a more fluid understanding of gender expression, Griffin posed a threat to the men's sense of self and the social order they had become accustomed to. The men's resistance to Griffin's perspective was evident in their defensive reactions and dismissive attitudes. Some accused Griffin of promoting an "agenda" or tried to discredit their experiences as a non-binary individual. Others clung to religious or biological justifications for traditional masculinity, unwilling to consider alternative viewpoints. Overall, the non-binary individual faced an uphill battle in trying to introduce new perspectives on gender and masculinity to a group of men who had been conditioned to uphold the very systems and beliefs that Griffin sought to dismantle. The pressure they faced stemmed from a deep-rooted fear of change and a reluctance to relinquish the perceived privileges and power associated with traditional masculine roles.

I don’t think a single conversation shouldn’t necessarily heal you, Gods word is true and read that

​@@anukaee8520😒😒 there is more to life

Try that with women, see how that works out! They’ll cry and start screaming right away. 😂

😂 exactly baby on the end needs therapy. Or knows that they can't use this "idea" to justify why they need sugar daddies. Like honey you making it too deep.

The guy was so touchy and definately got triggered by just hearing the word "freud"

It’s typical female behaviour. That’s why you like it.

But what he said was true tho ;-; don’t we all define our standards, wants and needs from a partner based on our life experiences and what we like and don’t like. Isn’t that why everyone is so diverse in the dating world. We all don’t like the same type of people for a reason. I can go out on a date with a guy and not like him at all and then set him up with a friend and she adores him. I wonder how & where griffins preference in a person came to be? It’s all subjective at the end of the day. Griffin seemed a little toxic and when it came to some men on the board he invalidated their experiences and feeling which when you listen carefully all of these men came to agree that part of toxic masculinity root is men not being able to be open or speak about their experiences or feelings.

@@gdroz1927possibly, but he wasn’t saying that having those preferences due to our past experiences is a wrong statement, he said it’s important to understand why we have those preferences. There is a reason the dating world is filled with people with baggage, because they haven’t done the work of understanding themselves, and it ends up hindering the relationship in the future which I believe is a huge contributor to cheating and also divorce.

Perfect take. I never thought about it like that before.

Nevertheless, every child needs a female and a male in their upbringing/life.

@@d.derreck_2191 As someone who had that, but who was raped and severely mentally and emotionally abused in childhood, I think what is even more important is to have safe and loving parental figures than what their gender is. Also, people who have a only one parent or two same gender parents, may still have male and female role models and strong inputs in their upbringing if they are very close to an aunt/uncle, much older sibling, grandparents, etc. There are so many different ways to grow up and different people around who can be a male or masculine and female or feminine guidance. The worst thing, is having people but who are absolutely abusive and downright dangerous as opposed to being positive role models at all. What we need most, is love and positive examples of safety and kindness and responsibility, whoever will show and give us that

My dad was absent and even though I know I always had his love, I still hurt for his actual prescence. It felt like there was a gap in our family.

Disagree... but I can see why you think like that. Statistics show that kids raised by Single moms... majority go downhill where as....kids raised by Single dads do way better. And kids do overwhelmingly better with mom and dads at home

I think he saw the best and worst in humanity he’s been to war he cherishes life probably more everyday bc some maybe a lot of his fellow marines will never have the ability to grow from the aggressive combat infantryman to a man away from war and being able to wake up to watch the sunrise instead of fighting to survive the next sunset

That's a soldier bro, rise to the occasion.

@Kevin O'Toole I respect the hell out of any man who can see combat and still learn to live in peacetime. It's a hard thing, making that transition is not a given. I think that's why tragically mental illness is extremely common amongst marines.

He also seems like the most traumatized. I feel like he’s holding back though.

He should sort out the "wife" issue, and then he will be fine.

I don't think they could've talked about sex as freely if a teenage boy was there. Dude with green eyes on the right was definitely the youngest and probably around his 20s, and fit the role of young men imo

I agree but not with the teen.

Men over 60s would be looking at the panel funny, because the conversation itself has elementa of emasculating men, and men over they're 60s wouldn't tolerate a good portion of this conversation

Teenage boys are not men

​@@blackflagdre6134 you still need an older man's opinion, because of his experience.

Opinions you would never expect reside in the hearts of many. For instance on my right winger that affirms transgender people even though I found the non-binary person on this panel insufferable personally. I really liked the cowboy he was charming and you can feel that he's doing his best to be a good man.

​@@TheEverFreeKingyeah I honestly don't see how men can't agree with the cowboy he seems very humble under God... Unless you are a non believer you won't understand where he's coming from 💯

​@@KadarOfficial-lg2zrI understand that he is coming from a place of delusion

@@JoeMama-gi1sowhat an inappropriate and immature response.

the cowboy guy is the only one not confused as to what a man is! I agree that God has given men and women a position and role in the family and the best way to iive in that role! The problem now is that we have left the better way and now we are left wondering what a man is?

Is empathy an ability or an action?

@@kapsaucy6590 I believe it's a choice. Even if science shows that empathy it's a developed ability, in my opinion this ability, as any other ability, requires thoughts and actions, hence, it's a choice.

Women favor men like Tahoe because he has learned to say the things women like to hear. He's attuned to this, especially because he's momma raised. Look at the time where he said "especially us who grew up in a super masculine house". He just made that up because previously he said he grew up without a father in the house. Then later he talked about feeling like he has to perform for women. But the pink shirt guy and the Cowboy hat guy are the kind of men that are the foundations of society.

thank neoliberalism

Divide and conquer. Break up the traditional family. The US GOOBERMENT is responsible for this!!

you must be new.

@@jamesmitch9792 Thank the War on Drugs.

not just 20... times that by 40 million. All around the world, all missing from action. There are a lot of corners out there

You can definitely see he has thought about himself deeply

how can you tell, like what did he say?

The One with the cowboy hat is my favorite

@Caesar Muncada Watch the video response is so lame and overused. Can you try for once in your life to be original. I asked a simple question.

@@davidortiz2026 Tahoe, has in my opinion, such a healthy view of masculinity, simply because he is secure in what he believes but is also willing to listen and empathize. It's his ability to use perspective that makes him seem like a great person.

Absolutely!!

Chill Buttplug😂😂

With all due respect, the video isn't about women, it's about men and their feelings on the world. I understand that you may want to be there to explain, but the conversation isn't about the state of women in society it's about men. Tbh, Griffin did a terrible job at that and shut down some of the men's feeling and invalidated them due to the struggle women have. Which do exist. However, using them to invalidate someone's feeling in a conversation about them is wrong and the reason why men don't share their feelings. Just toxic.

@@Astro-vl5fe This!!!

Why?

Krishna is awesome !!! Very perceptive member of Vice and knows how to talk to people well. Always happy to see that fella on the Vice New. :)

@@thescribe3184 You got a paint. In the last video with the feminist panel the one person that seemed calm was the one that was born a guy.

He’s always great !

Of course Vice could not find 1 masculine man to show up to this clown show. Masculine men don't sit around like a bunch of women discussing masculinity.

@@MrCherryzz men try avoid that type confrontation of because when men fight it's not pretty. When women fight they most likely to just immediately start pulling hair

REALL

My dad actually taught me to always bring enough money to a first date to pay for myself, but he also taught me to look for someone respectful. He would laugh his ass off at that guys comment

Facts. He was like "this guy is not good"

I think it actually brought up a good point. Its not just other men dictating what traits are considered to be masculine amongst men. Women also play a role in shaping masculinity by choosing specific traits they are attracted to in men. Everything he named on that list that are expected out of men on the first date are considered masculine traits. Women also play a role in shaping what it means to be masculine.

@@yeti2turnt435 those things are not expected on a first date unless the woman is a very shallow and materialistic type of person. Some women are like that but most women are not like that. It is not hard to choose how we want to be and not go out of our way to play into stereotypes. He is making it hard for himself. It's just the same as women who do not play into stereotypes by not buying boob jobs or lip fillers. Some women will say or believe it is expected by men to look like that but most women don't care one bit about any of that and live life their own way, define their femininity their own way, and do not bend backwards only to find validation from the wrong type of men. It's pretty simple. You actually have to go out of your way to play into shallow expectations. Being yourself is easier, unless you actively WANT to be fake and wear a mask or to seek to impress over finding a genuine connection. He could easily suggest a date of a romantic picnic by the sunset instead of dine at some glamorous pompous restaurant without thought put into it. Women hope to meet a romantic and thoughtful man. It is a matter of whether he wants to put his feet on the grass and take off his polished shoes and show his authentic self or not and whether he chooses to find a more meaningful connection or not. Some men seek power or sex or validation or what not, while many men just want to meet a compatible match with substance and someone they could really love. The latter comes with confidence and maturity

Exactly

Agreed. He was my favorite.

HE IS KUKING TO FEMINISTS. BLACK BETA STATUS: KUKKKKKKKKKKKKKED OUT!

His name is Tahoe. Tahoe Brah, Stay Up Ma Bruh.

Yes, him and the girl dad in the pink shirt were my faves

Amen!

it’s crazy how much different it was to the all women panel they had

@@rickyy5129what are you trying to insinuate? Just because they had a bad panel of women doesn’t mean it reflects the whole gender 🤦🏽‍♀️

@@rickyy5129 stfu immediately shut up this is affecting women more than it will EVER affect men. We have a right to be angry.

@@iren5792 no just the women one was too peesonal yk

It's so considerate to dismiss sexual assault, ye😬😬😬

How’s Griffin considerate? He was self absorbed and egotistical. The upside down cross is crazy as well. Bring back traditionalism

That Griffin dude did nothing but give people dirty looks and implemented an “idc about your personal experience” attitude. He was probably the lease considerate. Even more inconsiderate then the cowboy Christian who cared about nothing else besides his religion. I’d say Griffen was one of the least understanding and most inconsiderate person up there. He couldn’t agree with anyone, not even the Gay guy😂😂.

@@yeti2turnt435yeah he just wanted to be right and from his perspective he was. But couldn’t try to hear out someone else’s perspective

The non-binary individual, Griffin, was trying to prove that the notion of masculinity and gender roles are social constructs that ultimately uphold patriarchal systems and oppressive power dynamics. They challenged the idea that certain traits or behaviors should be exclusively attributed to men or women, arguing that these gender norms are arbitrary and limiting. One of the main disadvantages for the other men in understanding Griffin's perspective was their deeply ingrained beliefs and experiences surrounding traditional masculinity. Many of them grew up in environments where specific gender roles were enforced, and deviating from those norms was discouraged or even punished. As a result, they struggled to separate their personal identities and values from the societal expectations placed upon them as men. Additionally, some of the men seemed to conflate masculinity with biological differences between males and females. They viewed traits like physical strength, aggression, and logical thinking as inherently masculine, rather than recognizing that these characteristics can manifest across all genders and are often shaped by cultural factors rather than biology alone. The promotion of the gender binary and stereotypes about men stemmed from a desire for stability and predictability. By adhering to prescribed gender roles, these men believed they could more easily navigate social interactions and relationships. The idea of a "real man" provided a clear set of expectations and guidelines, even if those expectations were limiting or harmful. Furthermore, some of the men derived a sense of privilege and power from traditional masculine roles. The notion of being the provider, protector, and leader within a household or society appealed to their desire for control and status. Challenging these gender norms threatened to undermine their perceived superiority and the benefits they reaped from the patriarchal system. Griffin faced pressure from these men because their perspective fundamentally challenged the ideologies and beliefs that many of the men had built their identities around. By deconstructing gender roles and promoting a more fluid understanding of gender expression, Griffin posed a threat to the men's sense of self and the social order they had become accustomed to. The men's resistance to Griffin's perspective was evident in their defensive reactions and dismissive attitudes. Some accused Griffin of promoting an "agenda" or tried to discredit their experiences as a non-binary individual. Others clung to religious or biological justifications for traditional masculinity, unwilling to consider alternative viewpoints. Overall, the non-binary individual faced an uphill battle in trying to introduce new perspectives on gender and masculinity to a group of men who had been conditioned to uphold the very systems and beliefs that Griffin sought to dismantle. The pressure they faced stemmed from a deep-rooted fear of change and a reluctance to relinquish the perceived privileges and power associated with traditional masculine roles.

Yeah, it's so cool to dismiss liter sexual assault😍

Why are self righteous, egotistical and “woke” personalities always praised nowadays? That guy needed to humble himself, should’ve got someone else instead of him.

Really? Cause it triggered me. Everything they disagreed with was rarely discussed and was always disrespected. It’s exactly how women act when men try to tell them how we are feeling. “I was sexually assaulted at work”. “Well women have to deal with it so much more, soooooo”. It really bothered me they continued to disregard what the other men said. The gay man? He has daddy issues…. Very rude imo.

@@Mr.LevelUp. cuz being woke means not beeing a creepy misogynist, no wonder women praise them, what a shocker.

The side eyes were pretty dismissive and wreak of arrogance. He was well-spoken and certainly educated, but too progressive for his own good to the point where he thought he was just there to educate everyone else.

Sounds like he got his balls chopped off, frankly.

Yo same. Like I came from what I saw on tiktok but a lot of these men are pretty even keeled

Him, the black dude from the hood, the gay black dude, cowboy hat to a degree. They all have some past experiences, we could say trama that they are actively working through and trying their best to be good people. Not making excuses for themselves, just really trying to be a good person. I love to see that. It’s like an underlying evidence that we can overcome.

@@AcidicJO cowboy guy? The zealot spend all his time talking about God.

No tree, it is said, can grow to heaven unless its roots reach down to hell - Carl Jung

I agree,name of the interviewer

They want you to hate being a women so you must change, and then hate you for being a man so you must now be non binary

There were a lot of jump cuts

Krishna is decent.

Heavily edited but I do think they were pretty chill for the most part

Men literally will make jokes about other men being sexually assaulted. Y’all don’t really care

@@Dolphinboithat’s my point, no one cares.

and the lack of empathy that men shows To things like that is Concerning

@@AlkiraArtcorrect, the lack of empathy that everyone shows is concerning

It's not just men who don't care about female on male SA. Try getting a feminist to admit it's equally wrong and hurtful, 70%+ will deny it. @@AlkiraArt

Men usually are better at having conversations it’s women who interrupt constantly ?? 😂

THANK YOU VICE FOR BEING INCLUSIVE OF ALL RCES AND GENDERS AND BEING FAIR ABOUT HOW YOU REPRESENT EVERYBODY....THIS SHOULD HAVE BEEN THE CASE WITH THE US MEDIA FROM 1995-2017....(2 DECADES OF MEDIA SELECTIVE RCSM.)

@@CB13212 *Insert offensive generalization here*

This is obviously very much edited, you can tell they were taking over each other the whole time

@@matthewmunoz1859 What are you talking about. No you can absolutely NOT tell they were talking over each other, like at all. That's either the best editing I've ever seen, or these folks were just normal, chill and respectful towards each other. Try watching it again, friend.

That’s so sweet

Same here, my dad used to do the exact same also learned how to curl my hair when I was younger, but also dealt with a lot of "manly l" stuff around teh house. Amd my mom recently got diagnosed with cancer and he basically takes care of her 24/7 and I help around the house. So yeah my dad has been the best role model for me and I look for someone like him in a relationship and fortunately I have found my bf who my dad is really proud of.

That’s less than the bare minimum

@@laurayt3then why do men have such a hard time doing what’s LESS than the bare minimum??

@@laurayt3 sadly a lot of men can't even do that

Nah, providing and responsability are terms often used for men.

@@TheStepmonkey They're the same values just done differently by both men and women, depending on the situation.

​@@cattleyaentrolezo2276men are provider. They provide not just for kids, the entire family under that house.

Nah those terms been used describing men since civilizations started

Interesting that you think that. The ideals of service, sacrifice, duty and providing have long been the manly ideals along with leadership and strength.

there was some sassiness though.

Yea watching some of the female panels and then coming to this one theres a clear difference in how they engage their differences in views. Felt way more respectful around opposing viewpoints

Agree 100 % but there was one fly in the soup who was acting as if this was a debate about men and women... they just through that person in to piss people off

Yeah I just watched the feminist panel, and wow!!!!!!! Huge difference!

The female version of this was wild. Men just know how to communicate respectfully.

He’s literally the radical feminist right there. Radical, radical. I mean, maybe even misandrist.

@@alfonsomendez9787 Wasn't that top left corner? 😅

Yeah him and the dude with the glasses near the top left and the bearded top row dude without the cowboy hat aswell

Ig but I thought they were spitting fax tbh

No he thought his way was right

He tried 😂❤

It's white Christians with his mindset that created Western Civilization and it's thus the best we have thus far.....

Men don't argue usually they discuss and then come to conclusions!! I am thinking if there was beer or something they all would be best buddies 😅

Lol you watched the same thing, man the women were all over the place it shows who can actually have a sit down and talk. No disrespect to you as a woman.

@@kassiebattle8279 So what? Both are heavy topics and the format is a discussion. If anything, the women's debate was more biased towards the feminist side by sheer numbers, yet most comments I see from women claim that the panel was unfairly picked to serve some malicious agenda conspired to paint feminism in a bad light. Your reasoning sounds like a cop out. We need to hold ourselves to higher standards of debate, otherwise we'll continue to feed in to harmful gender stereotypes.

men aren't fighting for what they believe to be equal rights (outside of stuff like BLM, but that's not based on gender) the way women are, and the fact that the viewpoint of feminism is so divided, of course their debate would turn into a huge fight, because when you are so passionate about something, fights are going to break out during debates.

@Cu I agree the women’s debate was not much of a debate, but you can’t watch this video and say that the women should have acted the same way when the topics are very different. Masculinity isn’t political - men are not fighting for rights to their body or constantly in fear of being raped. Sure, the idea masculinity effects every man, but it is no secret that VICE literally couldn’t find an equal topic for men because there isn’t one - there aren’t any political advances that are directly attacking them.

Thats like saying that they are barbarians normally. Men feel more comfortable talking with other men because women can get closed off from what they are saying by the simplest of things

It’s because men are logical, not emotional lol. We can agree to disagree without the need to announce it.

@@yessicastro7236 i'm not even going to try to unpack that statement lmfao

@@anotherday-anotherslay because you cant.

@@anotherday-anotherslayyea don’t

Yea, it's so amazing to dismiss sexual assault when men experience it😍😍😍

Are you crazy? That's certainly not okay @@i_love_musique333

​@@i_love_musique333 griffin wasn't dismissing the sa cowboy hat experienced, they were just pointing out that it isn't a unique experience for men, especially because cowboy hat had been arguing in a way as if to say "women have it better". anyone can be a victim and survivor of sa and men/masculine, and other vulnerable people need to be taken mire seriously, but not even women (including trans women) are taken seriously yet. Toxic masculinity is the cause of both those issues because people (not just men) invalidate men based one the standards *men* have decided they must meet to be viewed as men, one of which is the idea that men should be hypersexual. Do I think Griffin could've explained that better? Yes, but the format of the show makes it difficult to give long answers and explanations. Griffin was speaking facts the entire time and I wish they'd had more time to give a full, detailed explanation of their views especially because most of the othere men there kept low-key brushing them off. Once again, men deserve to have their stories heard and treated with respect but we mustn't forget that discussions around sa can't be had without acknowledging that toxic masculinity is the larger issue surrounding it and that the conversation needs to include the way sa victimises all genders if we're to break down the issues altogether.

@@Gxylord Also, which "men" were responsible for those standards ??? Me ? You ? Which ones ?

@@GxylordYour view on the standards of masculinity are skewed to begin with, so arguing on the basis of which gender has set those standards will also be skewed. Hyper-sexuality isn’t a standard for masculinity. Often argued by many men that it’s weak to let emotions control your actions. Hyper-sexuality is a prime example of that. Cheating is a result of hyper sexuality and I don’t think anyone with a brain is in support of breaking up relationships or families for sexual pleasure. You think standards for masculine behavior haven’t been influenced by what attracts heterosexual Females to men? Why do a good majority of heterosexual females enjoy masculine gender roles that protect and support them? Why aren’t the majority of heterosexual females dating men in high heels, makeup and dresses? Maybe because they aren’t attracted to themselves aka feminine features. Like the point about dating in NYC being an absolute nightmare because so many women have big list that need to be checked off. Would you consider those traits listed to be masculine of feminine? There are many masculine qualities that heterosexual females look for in men. I can agree that men have also influenced what it means to be masculine, but to say females have had no influence is absurd.

when was that did i miss it 😞

Around 36:42 😭

REALLLL IT WAS SO FUNNY

Like nobody told you that Sir! Lol

😂@15:50 He complains about basic manners like opening door, walking on the road side of side walk, making sure she's homed safe etc. Ain't no way anyone is saying this dude has BDE 💀

Right!

This!! My bf (now husband) felt bad that we couldn’t afford our first date. I was like “Then don’t spend money.” So we watched the Big Bang theory and ate grilled cheeses at his apartment. We’ve been married for seven years now.❤

Especially taking someone on a first date to a fancy place is gonna build high unrealistic expectations and if you don’t deliver on those of course the woman is gonna ghost you

Exactly! In fact I think coffee dates take the pressure off both parties tbh. It’s cheap, it’s public, it’s casual. My ex felt so pressured to impress me with fine dining that it just became a chore to go out. I would tell him I didn’t need that nor did I want that but still it went in one ear and out the other. I felt so bad every time we’d go out and I’d even insist on paying and that just offended him. It just didn’t work out between us eventually. So I plan to only have coffee dates in the beginning and even throughout my future relationship.

This is exactly what I was thinking. Aside from sugar relationships or other financial arrangement relationships i think anyone expecting someone to spend 150 on a first date is pretty incredulous. Ive seen the argument that girls who don't want this aren't as valuable as girls who do expect it. Or that how much money a guys spends = his interest and effort. I think both of these ideas are hurtful to everyone, men included, and cause a lot of issues in dating and building meaningful relationships with people. Most of the women I know are absolutely fine with a simple first date, because really you are just meeting up with someone to feel it out.

Not you spilling

Those three really carried this for me. There were a few times when some of the others were speaking that I almost turned it off because it was cringey and frustrating.

they carried frl

I feel like because of the experience Tahoe has and how fresh and young Griffin is, is what makes them so good together. Tahoe understands from his own experiences what he did wrong and he can explain it to the rest of the men in an easier explanation. I feel Griffin is sort of having a tougher time trying to explain themselves, probably because of who they are (the others thinking they have less of an opinion because of their identity, which i feel keeps happening..) but again that’s why i think they’re a great team. It seems whatever the group gets confused about what Griffin is saying Tahoes there to help and explain or “dumb it down,” for them.

@@Breegan yes exactly lol.

they were almost entirely all the same type of guy

@@blank4227 they were very diverse…

@@Ballum4114 I suppose they all wore different shirts and shoes yeah

​@@blank4227We have a christian cowboy, asian fitness coach, a non-binary person - a homosexual black guy, a retired US marine, someone who grew up in the hood, an asian new yorker, and an ghenian american. This is a very diverse lineup in my opinion

@@spurdosparde1355 It's really cool that they all wear fun little costumes but they never ended up seriously disagreeing on any topic. Only one of the Asian guys (the one on front) had anything interesting to say and they barely let him speak.

If dudes going after women that expect $150 dates, then he need to either switch his standards or nut up lol

exactly, why spend 150 on someone when you dont have the means anyway.

The dude was bullshiting like crazy. No way you are spending that much money unless you are going to some high-end restaurant. Also, if a person has all those expectations in the first place, then they have other agendas as well. Don't date people like that, and don't have an expectation that you will be laid that night.

Right. & even then, coffee is expensive enough as it it.

I agree it is his choices to spend $150 on the 1st date, you can have a perfectly fine 1st day for under $100

I absolutely loved his perspective. I enjoy every single second that he was talking.

Lmao thats not what you call masculinity sissy. Pride, passion and stoicism make a man

I think it actually taught you about femininity

@@blank4227people avoid the troll

@@ilovewarw2you gotta be a huge troll if you think kindness, empathy, and crying are not masculine as F*CK bro... heh, wow

So what is your opinion of the cowboy hat?

My opinion is this: I come from a religious family with a dad with most of the same views as this guy. I see what type of person he is, and it's not somebody with malicious intent. He's somebody who derives masculinity from god, which I have no issue with. Being a stereotypically godly-masculine man is not wrong at all. I just hope that he's also the type of person to potentially be understanding if a man or woman does not fit his definition of womanly or manly and afford them the same attention and compassion as someone else. Considering he knows what toxic behavior is like, I feel like he has the capacity for that. @@Jeremy-wp4yh

​@@Jeremy-wp4yhNegative I'm assuming 😂. In my opinion cowboy hat was based

@@jamesmccloud7535 actually he wasn't bad. He is basing his idea of masculinity on his religion but he didnt say other people should follow his religion or that men who are feminine shouldn't be expressing themselves in the way they want. I usually don't like Christians because a lot of them are judgemental and push their religion on other people but those who aren't are alright.

what about christian? (the one with a black shirt) i personally think he was one at the best at doing that

i loved watching them cuz i was making those same faces💀

Me too.

Why was a non-binary person there in a discussion for men?

​@@aspebb i can see how it can be weird, but as an afab non binary person i feel the need to be included in conversations about being a woman because i was most of my life socialized like that and i can see the situation from outside and from inside. Some people still think i'm a woman so i still can have those experiences. I think it's the same

@@aspebbI appreciated the non binary person SO MUCH. They made some very very important points where it’s about being a morally decent person not just because you’re a man.

A first date is not a relationship, just saying. Paying for each is fine

Same

Griffin is a rock star

What did u take from it

@@MrTrigz check on your man and other men that you know. I had no idea they thought this way, and that’s sad bc I should have known the men in my life better. Check on your guys mental well being, not just your man but every man you know. ❤️

I'm curious to know your perspective. What are masculine traits that masculine man would have? Both personality and physicality wise.

Totally agree. As I guy who comes from post Soviet state and last 14 years living in Denmark where I met different guys from different countries, I can say, there are big differences between attitudes, beliefs and ways, man expreses them selves.

@@ingmarsjansons3665 I don’t think Slavic men for example would have preferred to not pay on the first date😂

@@Lisa-zi6hb yeah, in Latvia 🇱🇻 where I come from its normal when man pays for dates and so on, also usually man is the one who invites girl out, so to ask to pay would be very weird. But in Denmark 🇩🇰 when I've been on dates with local girls, they offer to share half and some of them even don't want to accept situation where I pay all the bill and it feels awkward for me...

@@Lisa-zi6hb not all post Soviet countries are slavic majority-

Totally agree!

A therapist is a puppet of Satan

Hmmmmm......lmfao

It's people like you who destroyed western culture

The non-binary individual, Griffin, was trying to prove that the notion of masculinity and gender roles are social constructs that ultimately uphold patriarchal systems and oppressive power dynamics. They challenged the idea that certain traits or behaviors should be exclusively attributed to men or women, arguing that these gender norms are arbitrary and limiting. One of the main disadvantages for the other men in understanding Griffin's perspective was their deeply ingrained beliefs and experiences surrounding traditional masculinity. Many of them grew up in environments where specific gender roles were enforced, and deviating from those norms was discouraged or even punished. As a result, they struggled to separate their personal identities and values from the societal expectations placed upon them as men. Additionally, some of the men seemed to conflate masculinity with biological differences between males and females. They viewed traits like physical strength, aggression, and logical thinking as inherently masculine, rather than recognizing that these characteristics can manifest across all genders and are often shaped by cultural factors rather than biology alone. The promotion of the gender binary and stereotypes about men stemmed from a desire for stability and predictability. By adhering to prescribed gender roles, these men believed they could more easily navigate social interactions and relationships. The idea of a "real man" provided a clear set of expectations and guidelines, even if those expectations were limiting or harmful. Furthermore, some of the men derived a sense of privilege and power from traditional masculine roles. The notion of being the provider, protector, and leader within a household or society appealed to their desire for control and status. Challenging these gender norms threatened to undermine their perceived superiority and the benefits they reaped from the patriarchal system. Griffin faced pressure from these men because their perspective fundamentally challenged the ideologies and beliefs that many of the men had built their identities around. By deconstructing gender roles and promoting a more fluid understanding of gender expression, Griffin posed a threat to the men's sense of self and the social order they had become accustomed to. The men's resistance to Griffin's perspective was evident in their defensive reactions and dismissive attitudes. Some accused Griffin of promoting an "agenda" or tried to discredit their experiences as a non-binary individual. Others clung to religious or biological justifications for traditional masculinity, unwilling to consider alternative viewpoints. Overall, the non-binary individual faced an uphill battle in trying to introduce new perspectives on gender and masculinity to a group of men who had been conditioned to uphold the very systems and beliefs that Griffin sought to dismantle. The pressure they faced stemmed from a deep-rooted fear of change and a reluctance to relinquish the perceived privileges and power associated with traditional masculine roles.

@torihuerta7039 no one in western culture is insisiting that certain behaviors or representations be exclusively attributed to men or women. This is what woketarda do - they base their entire paradigm on unfalsifiable assertions . And not only that - the lgbtqxyz world actually reinforces the so-called oppressive social constructs that it claims to dislike.

Because they put work in who they are now, they all experiences "self crises" and they learned the right thing out of it. It's take a lot of strength to move on, from the person you was build because of environmental pressure, to become the person you finally able love in yourself.

They also have the biggest propensity for mental health disorders 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 You’re also a “🙊🙊🙊🙊🙊🙊”

@@mindkiller5720 All of this. Particularly for the two men I listed, it appears to me that they have let go of this idea that to be masculine is to have dominion over others and that they are more interested in being good people and positive assets to their communities and society at large. There is also nothing more attractive to me (and I do not mean romantically or sexually) than a person who can be open and transparent about their growth and move to be a better person by releasing their egos, but also without self-flagellating and or being overly apologetic. I saw that in those two men, and I love that for them and their loved ones. That's how you heal and break generational curses.

I was thinking the exact same thing!! Especially considering the hyper-masculine environments they grew up in. I was especially impressed by blue shirt’s empathy and intelligence. It’s so clear that he’s put in a great deal of effort to understand himself and the world around him. So great to see.

@@justsayin7416 Agreed! And I hate to say I’m “impressed” because it sounds patronizing, but I really mean that I’m impressed because I understand what a feat it is to overcome his conditioning to talk like that. It’s one thing to question and maybe know something isn’t right. It takes a whole other level of bravery and love for the self to actually buck that conditioning and move differently. Despite myself, they’ve given me some hope that things will be better for future humans.

The arguments being complete dismissal and snarkiness, including shitting o a male sexual assault victims

He's annoying

abe then the girl should pay for her own food..

Correct. You could cook for her or do a Picknick in the park. Also if you take me to a super expensive restaurant I’m not paying YOU CHOSE THE RESTAURANT NOT ME.

@@susannehuber3996 Of course. The one choosing the date pays. I don't understand these people spending more than they can afford just to impress, it does not make sense, and is actually a turn off for me because if you bring me to a place which is not on your budget just to impress me, actually I will think that you are financially irresponsible, which is not cool.

It just goes to show that men think throwing money at women equals an obligation on the women’s part to give them what they want. The point of taking someone on a date is the spend time and see if there is a connection. If she doesn’t feel it then she has the right to move on, no matter how much the guy chooses to spend

Always the guy's fault...

The non binary was passive aggressive af with some of they're responses and body language

​@MuhammadHassan-hi6fc your proof toxic masculinity is still so prevalent and harmful

​@@pankyrangfulI don't think they were necessarily passive aggressive they stated every time they disagreed in a respectable manner

Watch the female. Cats & comments are turned off 😂

The trans dude was ready to fight whenever "woman" was mentioned. He wasn't listening, just waiting for them to stop talking so he could disagree.

Except the gender bender! He had most conflicts with everyone else! The gay guy, the Asian dude with the business and the Christian cowboy. He took everything out of context and threw shade. Ironically the hood guy and the military guy were the most sensitive. Probably a combination of trauma situations and having daughters.

Because there are no women.

​@@marrokraff998I think the commie shouldn't have been there since they don't wanna be a man

Oh. look the incel brigade.

@@jasonfuentz4282 aww sad femcel.

Very different than the debate about femininity

​@@brucethedawg bruh, was about to say that 😂😂😂😂

For sure!

​@@brucethedawgYessssss I totally agree!

I absolutely loved the takes of the hood guy. And I loved even more to see the synergy between him and non-binary person. I admire and applaud the fact that he took the time and dedication to learn more and be respectful. He was leagues away from the person he started out being.

Definitely. Strong father. That muppet with the bleached hair rolling his eyes every five seconds had me laughing tho hahaha

100%, at first I totally thought he was going to give off "I need the skyman to be a man" vibes like the cowboy, but he was actually quite a stand up individual and is probably a great father.

Fitness guy exudes incredible posture

@@yikes710 I personally am an atheist but your response in demeaning a persons viewpoint into a pathetic straw man means you should probably rewatch the video .

@@yikes710 Why did you think that at first?

Tahoe is confused. He’s not a Tahoe, he’s more like a Dotson B210

I appreciate you not naming Griffin and Christian specifically.

@@Pistolita221 lol but u did

@@quelmix9902 I'm not that big of a person.

@@Pistolita221 LMAO exactly

That's America for you,none of this group have a single man in ,all gay lords

Because it IS

If men were vulnerable like you girls are saying "is okay", humanity wouldn't have reached these heights. We need support, not help.

It's normal to be vulnerable sometimes, just don't stay that way

@@aguyinlove okay... sorry, may I ask what is the difference between support and help? Because usually they go hand in hand and yes, women need to facilitate that being vulnerable is human and is just fine coming from a man. But please this was an interesting statement and I want to know more... how do I be a better support to those in my life or those that may enter my life?

Change that midnset. Some of y'all are mentally ill and murderous simply from rejection. That's not okay.

For sure.

I know it’s happened for me. Growing up in the 80s in the USA I know I had been taught what people call toxic masculinity by society & now that I live outside the country I’ve been able to shed a lot of that. It’s refreshing to hear other men being able to reflect on their upbringing & learned behaviours that we can mature out of.

THEY ARE BOOMER CUCKS. THEY ARE: KUKKKKKKKKKKKKKED OUT!

They should harden up. The world is and forever will be cruel and unforgiving.

Most Definitely. Before I saw this one I watched the one on Feminism. And it wasn’t anywhere close to how well this conversation went

You were the only one the panel who seemed to be combative. I have to say you weren't very open minded and shifted blame on toxic masculinity only to men. I would encourage you to be more receptive and accepting of others if you want the same treatment.

@LTM i agree to accept someone for who they are but this person also encourage the individual to become open minded. But I must disagree with accepting someone’s closed mindset and disregarding any possible negative influence they will have onto society.

I sure as hell hope u wasnt the thing in the back with the dress on🤦🏾‍♂️ i wouldnt have been able to take anything it said serious

@@boutwhatever7520 things like you make me sad. the fact that you don't have the mental capacity or emotional intelligence to look at a person presenting differently than the box you've created for yourself makes me incredibly sad for you. we can't take you seriously if you are not willing to grow out of your own learned dangerous beliefs. i sure hope you are not that type of person.

you were one of the people on this panel who give me hope that some men are willing to learn and grow and i thank you for that.

And as a man I want a feminine woman who, when I come home from a bad day is there to pick me back up and make sure I can be a good man so that I can be that protector and provider. I know it’s not everyone’s cup of tea and that’s fine.

True, I think we all noticed that. Another thing I noticed was the fact that on the other panel with women, discussing about feminism and femininity, there was a lot of hate and insults, head nodding and eyes rolling, complaining about plenty of things and blaming anything but themselves, and mostly the incapability to have a respectful conversation, showing respect to other people’s experiences and points of views. Apart of that, the comment section was turned off for that one, so I can see why they decided to do that. It’s obvious to me from what I learned in these two conversations, that most women can’t control their emotions and they have a hard time dealing with tough situations. I’m not saying this in a hateful way, I love women and I respect them, so I’m just sharing my opinion.

The only issue with that, is that they keep these guys in a room all day long and only snip the best parts. So you'd be watching each one for like 6-8 hours maybe lol

@@dropssergian Exactly. Women and men are equipped with different tools and lenses to navigate the world. Men with the physical and logic, women with the emotional and manipulation. Both with the potential for good or ill.

Super common for men, in all situations.

Typically toxic feminized men who were raised to put women foremost. They aren’t there as representing manhood they are there to represent women as an “ally”. They always speak to undermine men as well in their language.

Yes! That upset me because that was the point he was trying to make.

That's sick.. What happened to him matters!

Yup they straight up proved his point right then and there without realizing it.

I agree with you. This trio was the best.

You resonate with dismissing sexual assault😬

@@i_love_musique333Timestamp please

​@@i_love_musique333no one was dismissing SA

@@-naomi-1084 Responding with "now you know how women feel" after a guy tells you his story of being sexually assaulted is dismissive, disrespectful and nasty.

Yes, he doesn't seem to have a sense of identity, to be honest

Yes wth

Right! I was so confused by his complaining 🎻

He gotta get outta be York

No it isn’t.

You’re awesome

Thank you

The “hood” guy talked on and on about “the patriarchy” and how men had all of this power……….then he revealed that he and all of his friends grew up without fathers. Whatever toxic behavior he learned and misconceptions about what masculinity and manhood was, came about as a result of growing up in a pseudo matriarchy where single mother female led homes are the norm. He’s just been brainwashed to think that only men have power and are toxic

The Marine has a great perspective and has really taken a lot from his life experiences. Great contribution to the conversation.

Fellow crayon eater here with three words The Great Santini Best movie ever made about these issues

Imagine calling people living in a village in a random village, driven to self defence because a global superpower decided they wanted some oil from your garden, beasts.

Good luck with your work on yourself!

I think that's because as a gender non conforming person you already need to have so many conversations and reflections about the meaning and place of gender and masculinity, they're basically lightyears ahead of the men in the room. Trans people are experts.

@@monkieri2 In my experience, most of the trans community takes the radfem perspective on men/masculinity which many, many men find so reductive and generalized it's absolutely useless. They talk around issues but never approach them from a masculine persons perspective. So while they may understand femininity better, they definitely don't understand masculinity.

Their thoughts being dismissal of anything that men said, including literal sex assault

​@@monkieri2They're so "lightyears ahead" they just casually dismissed anything that men said, including literal sexual assault Typical progressive😍

@@i_love_musique333 I did not hear them speaking against or unsupportively towards sexual assault experienced by men. Where?

Yahayayay hi fellow christian, I hardly see anyone who is commenting so

Doesn't believe in god but wears an upside down cross.....i can't i just can't, i'm not very religious but if the devil exist god also exist

​@@songrogu7801 the upside down cross is Saint Peter's cross tho

@@songrogu7801 What’s wrong with accessories lol

@@songrogu7801 satanists don’t believe in the devil